Signs he is manipulating you

6 Signs of Manipulation in Relationships

Are you feeling confused or guilty and not sure why? You could be sensing manipulation. Identifying the signs can help.

Emotional manipulation in relationships can be difficult to recognize.

Some manipulation tactics can be so subtle that you may end up constantly examining your own behavior rather than the other person’s.

Being on the receiving end of manipulation tactics in a relationship can have an impact on your mental health. But by learning to identify the signs, you can protect yourself and act on the situation.

Psychological manipulation often refers to words, omissions, and actions that attempt to control how another person feels, thinks, and behaves. This may affect their perspective of themselves, the relationship, and the world in general.

Persistent manipulation in relationships can affect your self-esteem and may cause you to experience symptoms of anxiety or depression.

Manipulation isn’t exclusive to family and romantic relationships. It can also turn up in friendships and even work-related relationships.

Manipulation can also happen on a large scale through media coverage, advertising, or political campaigns.

There are several signs to look out for that may indicate you’re experiencing manipulation in your relationship.

1. You try to ignore your gut

The first red flag may be that gut feeling that something isn’t right or that you persistently end up doing things you don’t want to. You may ignore this feeling and try to convince yourself that everything’s OK.

The phrase “trust your gut” is particularly useful when you think you might be experiencing manipulation.

For example, say you’re upset because it seems that your partner is always on their phone during your dates. You bring it up with them, but you notice that they get really mad, really quick.

The conversation then turns to how you seem to have ruined your special date by causing an argument. So, you forget about what you wanted to say and try to appease them instead. Meanwhile, your partner checks their phone again.

“What just happened?” you ask yourself, but brush it off because you don’t want to create more friction.

2. You wonder: Is it you?

If you’re starting to doubt yourself and your own motives, you may be on the receiving end of a manipulation tactic.

Maybe you were once confident in your ability to handle a particular situation, and now you’re beginning to question your capabilities. You may even question whether you’re “the problem” in the relationship.

For example, you try telling your partner again how you feel about them spending so much time on their phone. But they say that you do it too and that you’re always trying to find a reason to fight.

You don’t feel this is actually the case, but after the third time you hear this argument, you wonder if the problem is you’re not letting go of the small things. Maybe you could just “chill” and enjoy the evening.

3. You feel guilty

A common sign that someone may be emotionally manipulating you may be that you’ve started to feel guilty or embarrassed for acting in certain ways in the relationship.

For example, you work two jobs and hardly have time for yourself. Then comes your first day off in months, and you decide to spend it at home, in your PJs, watching TV.

When you tell this to your mother, you notice she seems upset. When you ask her what’s wrong, she tells you she can’t believe you’re not coming to visit her on your day off. You suddenly feel so guilty that you end up spending your day helping her around her home.

Although this scenario can play this way for many different reasons, it’s a red flag if you persistently feel guilty for not saying or doing what you want to.

The manipulator is expressing displeasure about something you say or do, particularly when you attempt to establish boundaries. Then, you end up giving in to make the other person happy and relieve your guilt.

4. Your sense of self is blurred

A common sign of manipulation in relationships is when you start losing a sense of who you are after following someone else’s overt or covert demands to give up your opinions and interests.

In some romantic couples, one partner may adopt the other person’s lifestyle and interests to avoid conflict, for example.

It may be that your partner persistently avoids spending time with your friends and family or doing things that you enjoy. If you want to spend time with them, you seem to have to do what they want.

In family relationships, it may be that you don’t feel you can fully express who you are as a person as well as your life choices, and you may act differently when you’re around them.

5. You walk on eggshells

Perhaps you think of fear as an intense emotion or reaction to a threat. But fear can also manifest as a hesitation to act or say certain things in order to avoid conflict or friction.

You may not even be aware of how you feel — you just automatically avoid certain topics or actions.

Some people may use anger as a manipulation tactic. Their outbursts can get other people to back off or change their behavior to avoid the reaction.

You may see this dynamic when a parent warns their child not to do something or else the other parent may get mad.

As an adult, you may also become hyperaware of your behaviors or experience signs of anxiety without a clear trigger. You could think about every decision in terms of, “What will the other person do?”

For example, you may want to go to your friend’s birthday party, but you know your partner doesn’t like them. Last time you spent time with your friend, your partner didn’t speak to you for hours.

This time, you think about it twice before accepting the invitation, anticipating that you may have to deal with your partner’s displeasure if you do.

6. You begin to question your mental health

Not only can manipulation cause stress and anxiety, but it can also make you feel confused and insecure about your behaviors and emotions.

You may begin to wonder if your reactions are symptoms of mental health conditions.

Manipulation tactics like gaslighting are most often the cause of these feelings.

For example, you’re discussing your next vacation with your partner, and they ask why you’re not considering Cancun.

You remind them that when they visited last time, they say they had a terrible time. They reply, “I never said such a thing! You imagined it.”

You’re convinced they did complain several times and said they wouldn’t return to this place. But maybe you did imagine it? After all, according to your partner, it seems to happen to you often.

When someone constantly gaslights you, you start to question your memory and well-being to the point that you’re not sure whether certain things happened at all. “Curiously” enough, it only seems to happen to you around this person.

There are different types of manipulation. Three of the most common ones are:

Guilt induction. The person manipulating you may imply something negative has happened to you because of someone else, or or they may play on your insecurities to make you feel guilty. This includes playing the victim.
Ingratiation. They may deliberately establish themselves in your good graces to get something from you or to get ahead.
Deceit. They may be dishonest by misrepresenting or hiding the truth.

But manipulation in relationships can also come in other packages that may not be as straightforward or easy to identify.

Other manipulation techniques may include:

Love-bombing. They may give you intense and persistent attention and affection to quickly create emotional interest and dependency.
Gaslighting. They may dismiss you to make you doubt and question yourself.
Passive-aggressive behavior. They might make sarcastic comments or jokes that can be later dismissed with “I was just joking” or “You take everything too personally.”
Triangulation. They might bring another person into the mix to justify an opinion or make you feel insecure.
Covert or overt threats. They may want to instill fear in you with certain comments or behaviors.
Silent treatment. They may ignore you or cease talking to you as a form of emotional punishment.

Not everyone who manipulates is actually aware they do. They may think that’s how relationships work or even believe you manipulate them too and they need to respond.

In some instances, they may be aware of their actions but not of how they affect you.

Then, there are those who play manipulation games, knowing full well what they’re doing and what impact these actions have on others.

This doesn’t necessarily make them the “bad guy.” Instead, it may indicate that they’re living with a mental health condition that could require professional support.

Although research suggests that most people engage in some form of manipulation from time to time, people who use manipulative tactics regularly may have complex reasons for their need for control.

These reasons may include:

having a cluster B personality disorder, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or histrionic personality disorder
having been raised in a household where manipulation tactics were typically used
fearing losing control or being judged
having poor communication skills that hamper the ability to communicate needs effectively
engaging in defense mechanisms
having an anxious attachment style

Identifying the signs of manipulation in relationships is the first step to protecting yourself. Here are some other precautions you can take:

Be aware of your emotions as you interact with someone

Try to pay attention to how you feel around this person.

If you experience uncomfortable emotions like self-doubt, fear, or guilt, consider taking some time away from them to think clearly about what’s happening.

Keep the conversation on topic

People who use manipulation tactics often divert conversations off subject. This could be to either distract you from the real issue or to further their goal of leading the interaction.

Remaining laser-focused on the topic can help prevent the conversation from going in the direction they desire.

Establish boundaries

Unclear boundaries in relationships can make it easier for manipulation to occur. It can be helpful to identify the boundaries you’d like to establish in this relationship and work towards implementing them.

Although it’s easier to establish boundaries early in a relationship, it’s never too late to consider gently yet firmly communicating what you will or won’t tolerate.

Most people can change when they decide to do so and get the support they require for this. However, when someone’s not aware of their behaviors or they don’t have the desire to change, this transition is less likely.

This is why it’s important to focus on yourself and what you want out of the relationship. The rest may not be up to you.

Although everyone occasionally uses manipulation tactics, some people use them persistently in relationships.

Some manipulation techniques may be harder to spot, but identifying them may help you stay protected and make decisions about your relationship.

Staying in a relationship where manipulation tactics are constantly used may have a great impact on your confidence and mental health.

Change is possible, but it’s up to the other person to initiate it. This is why it’s important to focus on yourself first and come up with ways to establish clear boundaries.

6 Signs of Manipulation in Relationships

Are you feeling confused or guilty and not sure why? You could be sensing manipulation. Identifying the signs can help.

Emotional manipulation in relationships can be difficult to recognize.

Some manipulation tactics can be so subtle that you may end up constantly examining your own behavior rather than the other person’s.

Persistent manipulation in relationships can affect your self-esteem and may cause you to experience symptoms of anxiety or depression.

Manipulation isn’t exclusive to family and romantic relationships. It can also turn up in friendships and even work-related relationships.

Manipulation can also happen on a large scale through media coverage, advertising, or political campaigns.

There are several signs to look out for that may indicate you’re experiencing manipulation in your relationship.

1. You try to ignore your gut

The phrase “trust your gut” is particularly useful when you think you might be experiencing manipulation.

For example, say you’re upset because it seems that your partner is always on their phone during your dates. You bring it up with them, but you notice that they get really mad, really quick.

“What just happened?” you ask yourself, but brush it off because you don’t want to create more friction.

2. You wonder: Is it you?

If you’re starting to doubt yourself and your own motives, you may be on the receiving end of a manipulation tactic.

3. You feel guilty

A common sign that someone may be emotionally manipulating you may be that you’ve started to feel guilty or embarrassed for acting in certain ways in the relationship.

For example, you work two jobs and hardly have time for yourself. Then comes your first day off in months, and you decide to spend it at home, in your PJs, watching TV.

Although this scenario can play this way for many different reasons, it’s a red flag if you persistently feel guilty for not saying or doing what you want to.

4. Your sense of self is blurred

A common sign of manipulation in relationships is when you start losing a sense of who you are after following someone else’s overt or covert demands to give up your opinions and interests.

In some romantic couples, one partner may adopt the other person’s lifestyle and interests to avoid conflict, for example.

In family relationships, it may be that you don’t feel you can fully express who you are as a person as well as your life choices, and you may act differently when you’re around them.

5. You walk on eggshells

Perhaps you think of fear as an intense emotion or reaction to a threat. But fear can also manifest as a hesitation to act or say certain things in order to avoid conflict or friction.

You may not even be aware of how you feel — you just automatically avoid certain topics or actions.

Some people may use anger as a manipulation tactic. Their outbursts can get other people to back off or change their behavior to avoid the reaction.

You may see this dynamic when a parent warns their child not to do something or else the other parent may get mad.

This time, you think about it twice before accepting the invitation, anticipating that you may have to deal with your partner’s displeasure if you do.

6. You begin to question your mental health

Not only can manipulation cause stress and anxiety, but it can also make you feel confused and insecure about your behaviors and emotions.

You may begin to wonder if your reactions are symptoms of mental health conditions.

Manipulation tactics like gaslighting are most often the cause of these feelings.

For example, you’re discussing your next vacation with your partner, and they ask why you’re not considering Cancun.

You remind them that when they visited last time, they say they had a terrible time. They reply, “I never said such a thing! You imagined it.”

You’re convinced they did complain several times and said they wouldn’t return to this place. But maybe you did imagine it? After all, according to your partner, it seems to happen to you often.

There are different types of manipulation. Three of the most common ones are:

Guilt induction. The person manipulating you may imply something negative has happened to you because of someone else, or or they may play on your insecurities to make you feel guilty. This includes playing the victim.
Ingratiation. They may deliberately establish themselves in your good graces to get something from you or to get ahead.
Deceit. They may be dishonest by misrepresenting or hiding the truth.

But manipulation in relationships can also come in other packages that may not be as straightforward or easy to identify.

Other manipulation techniques may include:

Love-bombing. They may give you intense and persistent attention and affection to quickly create emotional interest and dependency.
Gaslighting. They may dismiss you to make you doubt and question yourself.
Passive-aggressive behavior. They might make sarcastic comments or jokes that can be later dismissed with “I was just joking” or “You take everything too personally.”
Triangulation. They might bring another person into the mix to justify an opinion or make you feel insecure.
Covert or overt threats. They may want to instill fear in you with certain comments or behaviors.
Silent treatment. They may ignore you or cease talking to you as a form of emotional punishment.

Not everyone who manipulates is actually aware they do. They may think that’s how relationships work or even believe you manipulate them too and they need to respond.

In some instances, they may be aware of their actions but not of how they affect you.

Then, there are those who play manipulation games, knowing full well what they’re doing and what impact these actions have on others.

This doesn’t necessarily make them the “bad guy.” Instead, it may indicate that they’re living with a mental health condition that could require professional support.

Although research suggests that most people engage in some form of manipulation from time to time, people who use manipulative tactics regularly may have complex reasons for their need for control.

These reasons may include:

having a cluster B personality disorder, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) or histrionic personality disorder
having been raised in a household where manipulation tactics were typically used
fearing losing control or being judged
having poor communication skills that hamper the ability to communicate needs effectively
engaging in defense mechanisms
having an anxious attachment style

Identifying the signs of manipulation in relationships is the first step to protecting yourself. Here are some other precautions you can take:

Be aware of your emotions as you interact with someone

Try to pay attention to how you feel around this person.

If you experience uncomfortable emotions like self-doubt, fear, or guilt, consider taking some time away from them to think clearly about what’s happening.

Keep the conversation on topic

People who use manipulation tactics often divert conversations off subject. This could be to either distract you from the real issue or to further their goal of leading the interaction.

Remaining laser-focused on the topic can help prevent the conversation from going in the direction they desire.

Establish boundaries

Although it’s easier to establish boundaries early in a relationship, it’s never too late to consider gently yet firmly communicating what you will or won’t tolerate.

This is why it’s important to focus on yourself and what you want out of the relationship. The rest may not be up to you.

Although everyone occasionally uses manipulation tactics, some people use them persistently in relationships.

Some manipulation techniques may be harder to spot, but identifying them may help you stay protected and make decisions about your relationship.

Staying in a relationship where manipulation tactics are constantly used may have a great impact on your confidence and mental health.

Change is possible, but it’s up to the other person to initiate it. This is why it’s important to focus on yourself first and come up with ways to establish clear boundaries.

How to understand that you are being manipulated

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"Manipulation is a kind of hidden, against the will of a person, psychological influence that has a myth, a goal and a scenario."

Nikita Nepryakhin "I manipulate you"

Manipulation is always a destructive play on feelings and emotions, contrary to the wishes of the victim. Any cry cannot be called manipulation, it has clear signs: it affects feelings and emotions, it is hidden and violent. Manipulative relationships are not healthy. We tell you how to recognize manipulation and prevent it in time.

Signs of manipulation

Manipulation causes only harm to the victim, it consists of three essential elements:

Psychological impact. Manipulators deftly determine the weak points of the victim, they skillfully play on feelings and emotions. Next to them, the victim feels anxious, insecure, depressed and oppressed. Due to the impact on emotions, the victim loses the ability to calmly analyze the situation.
Violent nature. The manipulator, like a puppeteer, controls his victim, always against his will. It is important for him that she herself takes the necessary action, or makes a decision in his favor. For example, the victim does not want to sign documents. The manipulator will put pressure on her "pain points" (suspiciousness, timidity, cowardice) and as a result, she herself will decide to sign the papers he needs.
Hidden character. This is a key property of the manipulation. The manipulator secretly influences the victim, works with his weak points, and does not share his motives, needs and feelings. Therefore, open insults cannot be called manipulation: name-calling is hard not to notice. The manipulator can torture his victim in many ways, such as not talking to him for a long time. When she clarifies the reason for the silence, the offender claims that everything is in order and does not give any explanation.

External signs of a manipulator

The manipulator operates in secret, so it is important for him not to arouse suspicion. As a rule, experienced manipulators are smiling and sociable. They know how to attract attention and win over a person. They have no difficulties in communication, so they can easily find out from the environment of the victim, or from herself about her weak points.

“He knows how to surprise and take advantage of any weakness of a counterpart. He always hides under a sheep's skin. He hides behind a mask. He is cunning and two-faced."

Nikita Nepryakhin gives four common types of manipulators:

"Despot" . Works with a sense of fear of the victim, it is important for him to demonstrate control and strength, shows aggression. He does his best to make those around him feel like victims.
“Victim of circumstances”. Plays on pity, deliberately shows that he is a victim in this situation. He loves when they do the work for him, so he focuses on his weakness, infantilism and incompetence.
"Prosecutor" . Tries to make the victim feel guilty. Criticizes and shames others, positions himself as an expert in all areas. Collects grievances and claims in order to present them in time.
"Your boyfriend" . Communicates with the victim as if they had known each other for many years. He wants the victim to not be able to refuse him, for this, for each of his small deeds, he demands much more from the victim.

Illustration from the book "I manipulate you"

Manipulator target

Manipulator plays on desires and needs, guilt, fear and envy, beliefs and stereotypes. The area of its influence is called the target of manipulation.

One of the most popular methods of manipulation: an appeal to feelings of guilt. It is based on fear of punishment and is often manipulated by people who are prone to blaming themselves. The scenario line of the manipulator is based on the victim's fear of offending him, so the victim needs to turn off this fear. To begin with, it is worth thinking about the origins of the feeling of guilt: did it appear by itself or was it imposed?

Such manipulation is dangerous for the victim's health: constant self-flagellation often causes apathy. Sometimes the best way to counter is to move away from the manipulator.

Structure of motivation

If the victim suspects his opponent of manipulation, she needs to determine his goals and restore the structure of influence:

Myth - this is how manipulation looks to the victim.
Target is what the manipulator wants from the victim. Upon completion of the manipulation, the victim does something, or makes an important decision for the aggressor. The questions “What does he want to achieve with his manipulation help to determine the goal?” or "Why is he saying this?"
Scenario - victim's behavior, reaction to manipulation. Reactions are passive and active: the victim may cry, or begin to actively resist. The manipulator is ready for any of these options, so the best reaction is to break his script.

This is how the structure of the manipulation “A bad person is a bad argument” from Nikita Nepryakhin’s book looks like:

Myth : “And this is what a person with a criminal record tells us” or “First you arrive on time for meetings, and then try to take the floor.” Most likely, the victim made an argument that jeopardizes the arguments of the manipulator, which is why he begins to aggressively attack and pay attention to things that are not related to the essence of the dispute.

Purpose : The aggressor's main purpose in this manipulation is to neutralize the victim's argument. She can understand the goal of the manipulator with the help of the question "What does he want to achieve by denigrating me?".

Scenario : The manipulator has thought through the victim's reaction in advance: he expects her to shut up or leave (passive reaction), or start actively protesting and justifying herself (active reaction), that is, moving away from the essence of her original argument. The best solution for the victim in this situation is to break the script of the manipulator with the question: "What does my punctuality have to do with our conversation."

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Manipulation in relationships. 7 signs that you are being manipulated - Psychologist Daria Bestuzheva on vc.ru

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· What you need to know about manipulation in a relationship?

Forms of manipulation

Common signs of manipulation

Methods of manipulation

In each of us there is a tendency to become manipulators or to become manipulators. Sometimes even a simple wink can be seen as manipulation. Demonstrating various examples of manipulation, some people become deceitful manipulators.

Manipulation by your partner can make you doubt your own point of view and negatively affect your self-esteem. That is why it is important to recognize in time when someone is trying to manipulate you.

What you need to know about manipulation in relationships?

Manipulation is a psychological technique that is used to get what you want without taking into account the interests of the partner. The essence of the reception is to push the other person to the result that you want to get by your actions, so that the person thinks that he is doing these actions solely of his own free will. You can learn how to manipulate people. Some people think that this is even simple enough, however, like any other skill, manipulation takes time and constant improvement.

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There are two forms of manipulation in relationships.

Positive

This type of control and manipulation in relationships includes influence based on mutual understanding and romantic feelings. With this type of influence, a person gently and slowly pushes the other to the result he needs. Sometimes this kind of manipulation can bring partners a lot of pleasure. For example, by such actions, men and women try to "please" each other in order to get something more.

Negative

It includes actions aimed at realizing the desires of a person without taking into account the desires and goals of the partner. This kind of manipulation in relationships can be called selfishness in its purest form. A person, in fact, is a tool that another person uses without giving anything in return. These actions do not imply the continuation of the relationship, since the victim can quickly realize that she is simply being used and end all relations with the egoist.

In fact, the relationship with the manipulator is a serious threat. Women are more likely to fall into the traps of manipulators, although sometimes the opposite is true. Let's look at this phenomenon using the example of a woman-manipulator and a male victim. Any man who has what a manipulative woman wants to take away can become her victim. Recognizing the true intentions of the manipulator is not easy. She carefully disguises them under exaggerated care and admiration. At the very beginning of the relationship, she will do everything to make the victim feel like a real man. Having lulled his vigilance, she will begin to destroy his social ties. Why does he need another if he has already met "the best of women"? The woman destroys his emotional state with her unexpected actions, convincing him that he absolutely cannot live without her. She justifies her actions with concern for his well-being. However, such care can lead to neurosis if a man does not recognize the intentions of the manipulator in time. You should not comfort yourself with the thought that you are strong and smart, and this will not happen to you. That's exactly what she needs. The manipulator is looking for a unique resource, that is, a partner who is full of vitality. Otherwise, she will simply have nothing to parasitize on.

How to recognize manipulation? Here are 7 of the most common signs.

1. The perfect beginning to the end

Everything is always great at first. The manipulator is pleasant and charming. He shows you that he or she is a warm and understanding person, and you can always discuss all your joys, sorrows and share your problems. After all, this person convinces you of this. And then he or she begins to use your openness, gullibility and turns on the mechanism of manipulation. The manipulator charms you, tempts you, and slowly tames you. This is one of the most obvious signs that you are being manipulated in a relationship.

2. Guilt manipulation

These people always pretend to be victims. Usually they resort to the same technique, telling sad stories from their lives. This technique helps them make you feel at ease when you try to fulfill their demands or requests.

3. Switchmen

It's very simple. For example, the manipulator did something not very good or not very right, but he or she will always find a way to make you feel guilty for what happened. For example, if you find a person talking on social networks with an ex, then instead of apologizing or somehow explaining, the manipulator will try to turn the situation around. Such a person will accuse you of spying on him, that you do not respect his personality, and will be terribly angry because of this. Such people are sure to make you feel that you are to blame for the occurrence of such a situation and, most likely, will get out of it with impunity.

4. Worthless adviser

Being manipulated in a relationship, you will notice how the manipulators turn into your spiritual guides. They will always tell you how you should live, what to do and what to avoid. They will always try to take over your mind and give advice. But you must understand that the ideal person is not the one who constantly tells you what you should do, but the one who turns up next to you in time to lend a helping hand and support you when necessary.

5. The mocking critic

Sarcasm is the best weapon of manipulators. They will never criticize you directly, but will always do so through ridicule, exaggerating your sins, or downplaying your virtues. Manipulators want the other person to always feel miserable. Thus they are "recharged".

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6. Eloquent manipulation

Manipulators have an excellent ability to express their thoughts and, if necessary, instantly change the subject of conversation. They usually talk about everything. And if you start trying to object and give arguments, then, as a rule, the manipulator never enters into a discussion. He or she will simply change the subject. Moreover, the principle "the best defense is an attack" works great for a manipulator. Having understood the situation, try to refute the unfair accusations of the interlocutor.

7. Sophisticated threats

Threat is one of the tactics that every manipulator usually uses. This happens when they want to prevent an undesirable outcome of events that may occur as a result of your actions. The manipulator will simply threaten that this will have serious consequences for you.

If you are around a person who behaves in this way, you can be sure that you are meeting with a manipulator. You may think that he or she will change, but that is not the case. A manipulator will never do anything to change. You must understand that the manipulator will eventually completely subdue you. If you are sure that you are able to resist these manipulations, then, first of all, you must learn to recognize the tricks that the manipulators use.

Methods of manipulation in relationships

A loved one often simply does not notice manipulations and forgets about their own needs and desires. Disconnecting from the manipulator will not bring immediate relief. For a long time there will be a feeling of attachment, guilt, a desire to take care of a partner, support. Sometimes the connection is so strong that it requires the help of a specialist to completely break it. But if you notice these or other methods of emotional manipulation in a relationship in time, you will be ready for a possible development of events and have time to prepare for them. Let's look at the basic methods of manipulating relationships.

1. Humiliation

This type of manipulation is very insidious and mean in its essence. It consists in allusions to the unattractiveness of a person: comparison with others, emphasizing shortcomings. For example, the lack of such a sharp mind as the "smart and perfect" manipulator has, and so on. As a result of such manipulations, a person will begin to worry and be afraid that his partner will leave him.

2. Ignoring

One of the most common relationship manipulation tactics is ignoring your partner. It affects absolutely all people. However, the danger of this method lies in the possibility of "playing too much" - a person begins to constantly ignore a loved one, not seeing boundaries.

3. Intimacy

This manipulation tactic in a relationship is acceptable only in a couple that leads an active sex life, and partners constantly want each other. If intimacy is rare, then manipulating a partner by denying him sex will not work.

4. Motivation through fear

This is one of the most favorite types of manipulation in relationships. It consists in forcing a person to make a decision not in his favor and scaring him well. The victim will do everything to play it safe. "You will never see me if...", "I can part with you even now, so decide. ..".

5. Playing on low self-esteem

If a person has an inferiority complex, it is easy to manipulate his life, find weaknesses, and then reinforce the success achieved by exposing the victim in an awkward light right in front of everyone. The manipulator can even impose thoughts like: "Without me you are nobody", "You are not capable of anything" and so on. The main thing is to make a person believe in these thoughts.

6. Guilt

Men rarely use this method, such manipulations are typical for women, although there are guys who speculate on the pity of others. The best way to control the actions of another is to place all responsibility for what is happening on the other person. The main thing is not to give the victim time to come to his senses and come out in defense. When the manipulator wants to gain power over the situation, he simply takes offense and blames the person: "I tried so hard, but you ruined everything" and so on.

Manipulation in relationships rarely ends in something good, because one person obeys the will and desires of the other.

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