I feel so much better
7 things I do to instantly feel so much better!
Today I wanted to write about the things I absolutely LOVE to do when I feel crappy.
Because yep, i am human. No matter how much positive you might think I am on insta & youtube, I also have crappy days and days where my self-esteem is down under ground.
When I do these things (I might not do all at once, but 3-4 from the list!), I just feel SO MUCH better right away, yet nothing drastic changed!
I am hoping this might help you or inspire you. Save this blog post so you can go back to it whenever you need!
Alrighty let's start!
Whether you live on your own, with your parents, family or flatmates. Whether you have a bed, a room, or an entire apartment to yourself. Clean
YOUR space. Consider your space as this little bubble you can come back to whenever you feel drained, where you can recharge & be inspired. This bubble can't be messy. The mess around you will make you feel messy on the inside. And then you'll have trouble focus and feel like there is too much going on that you can't control.
I like to clean it ALL, but when I don't have much time, I at least : arrange my desk (pile, files, pens..), clean out dining table/TV table, make it cute - maybe add flowers in a vase. Do my bed & couch (pillows, throws), clean dirty dishes & dry them and vacuum all floors.
'Ok yea, she's a clean freak I get it' LOL, I know that's what you think. But I had to put this in a different point, as to me, cleaning windows has a different impact. First, if the windows are dirty, it will darken your space because of the dust (often polluted) that lets less light in. And we all know that light & sunshine: increase vitamin D : increase serotonin : increase mood : increase happiness.
Second, you actually will enjoy looking through the windows more, and if you are lucky, you may have a nice view of the outdoors & nature - which are another source of happiness & freedom. Third, It's better for your health as all those nanoparticules you leave on the windows will eventually make their way in.. which you don't want obviously !
Lastly, open the windows to freshen air up for at least 10 minutes everyday! I do this even in winter!
For this, I like to pick ONE space to organize at a time. So let's say it might be the cabinet in my bathroom, the cupboards of my kitchen, my closet, my admin files, or even my computer (my fav to do!). Just, whatever I feel like doing this day. This is a task we all dread to do but is actually one of the easiest thing you could do.
There is no drastic thinking involved. All you need is some good vibes energetic music and get started!
It can appear super overwhelming, so here's how I like to structure this task : 1. I always start by clearing things making 3 piles : keep, throw and give/sell. 2. From what is left, I organise by section either in my head or I make actual piles (for clothing it could be pants, tops, dresses or summer/winter, or colors; for the bathroom it might be skin/hair/nail etc). 3. I CLEAN the space before putting things back (the actual cupboard), I wipe of dust from my stuff, I clean the jars if needed, I fold my clothes properly.. and 4. finally put them back and admire the work done!
This is really an easy thing to do for such an empowering sense of accomplishment !
🛏 Man, again, I needed to put this separately from the rest because, to me, this is SO DARN EFFICIENT and if I have absolute no time to do any of the other things, I will do this as top priority. Like most of you, I do not wash my bed sheets everyday. I shower each night and don't eat or live in my bed whatsoever, so I can pretty much do a washing load every 2 weeks without feeling like I sleep in a nest of bacteria (I do wash my pillowcase more often).
But this thing of having about 2 weeks worth of the same sheet can have a bigger impact on our life we might not notice - at least it does for me:
I'm going to try articulate my thoughts, bear with me. LOL
Most of the time when we feel bad, we say 'tomorrow is another day', right? And most of the time, yea, tomorrow is another day, yet we still feel the same. I think that is because the time frame is super short & we are on the same cycle in our head.
I think, naturally (without forcing ourselves to change things) our mindset can't really change drastically within a day, but it can from weeks to weeks. What changing sheets does to me, is it helps me get onto another cycle. It brings a new touch, a clean atmosphere, a fresh start. So, maybe that is just really personal and maybe you think I'm crazy comparing changing sheets to changing mindset, but that is truly how I feel !
PS : once again, you will think I'm crazy BUT, if you can, IRON your sheets! it looks so much better and feels like a hotel!
20 minutes moving or a hard 15 minutes is, for me, the minimum to actually feel like I've done something. Maybe for you it's more, maybe it's less. So, I do a 20 minutes workout at home (usually I write something down quickly, or do one from my youtube - is this weird ? lol), followed by 20 minutes yoga ! I get BONUS FEEL GOOD POINTS if I light up candles (even during the day) or incense during yoga: it creates a really nice 'self-care' atmosphere ! Other option I like instead or additionally to yoga would be meditation or take a nice bath with candles !
NOW, let's not forget what you wear.
Wear something that makes you feel empowered. Clean clothes that make u feel sexy or just super comfy, or maybe you want to be bare ;) !! This really does impact your mindset, if you stay in the same clothe you've been sad in all day.. then you'll keep those bad energy with u !
If you want some inspiration for your workout, you could try some from my youtube channel - I'm doing it all with you! I'll link a few below but feel free to have a look directly on the channel for heaps more!
6 - REPAIR / SET-UP SOMETHINGBrace yourself, you totally are going to feel like the new Bob the Builder ! LOL.
Ok, well, maybe don't get into repairing something you know you actually don't have the skills for (like something so complicated there's an actual job/qualification for it lolol). I'm more talking about smaller things like : repairing that broken ikea table, re-screw your chairs, hang that frame or shelf, bleed your heater, care for your plants and repot them, unclog the pipes from your sink, change oil from your car or recharge the battery.
. you know it ! that thing that's been on your 'i'll do it later' list for so long ! Yep, yep, do it now, you will feel FANTASTIC & bad ass. Plus, if you unclog the toilets or bathtub of your shared apartment, your flatmates will have lifelong admiration to you : TALK ABOUT FEELING VALUED & ESSENTIAL ;)
Last but not least, this is another feel good & empowering activity!
Because, even if your life is a total mess at the moment (hopefully, if you've done the previous things, it's getting better ;)), at least there is one thing you have under control : food. And that is re-assuring - not having to worry about what you're going to cook or eat during the week so you can focus on other things.
Of course don't go OCD (unless you know it works for you) by trying to plan every single meal ahead, because that can actually cause anxiety.
When I say meal prep, I'm talking about : cooking a big batch of grain like rice, quinoa, buckwheat.
Maybe doing a giant soup or curry. Cooking a lot of roasted veggies to add to salads or meals during the week. Making banana bread or healthy muffins for the week. Milk almonds (lol ;)) ! Anything that can save time but also super versatile to change up meals depending on your hunger level and mood!
If you need some inspo, you will find my favourite recipes in my ebook 'The Mindful Life' - on my youtube channel or instagram!
I hope this blog post inspired you to get your sh*t together.
Or maybe it will just inspire me whenever I need it. haaa.
Let me know if you've enjoyed reading this, I would ABSOLUTELY love to know what YOU do to feel better ? hope we can chat soon !
Lots of love,
Amélie
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0 Likes6 ways to Deal with “I Should Be Better” Syndrome
“When you realize there is nothing lacking, the whole world belongs to you.
” ~Lao Tzu
Pretty much everyone I know thinks they should be doing better in some way, at least sometimes.
Are you totally and completely satisfied with what you’ve done so far in life? No little part of you thinks, maybe I should have more money in the bank? Or maybe I should have a more professional wardrobe, or a book contract, or a dog that’s housebroken?
The word “should” isn’t exactly enlightened or peaceful, nor is the practice of judging yourself or believing that you’re not exactly where you’re meant to be. But we’re human, so our thoughts inevitably go there from time to time.
We judge ourselves. We hold ourselves to standards that someone else made up—standards that may not even make sense for our current life.
I often hear people say things like:
- “I can’t believe I’m in my forties and still don’t have matching luggage.”
- “Shouldn’t my child be reading by now?”
- “I always assumed I’d exercise regularly after I finished college.
” - “I can’t believe I don’t have better health insurance at this stage in my career.”
I have to wonder, whose beliefs are those? Whose standards are they, really? It’s not like we wake up at forty and suddenly crave matching luggage. Someone fed us that expectation somewhere along the way, and we forgot it wasn’t our own.
Would the mother feel genuine concern for her child’s reading skills if they lived on a deserted island? Or is the pressure external, based on what others say, think, and read, and she simply doesn’t realize those thoughts aren’t hers?
And I, too, have thoughts like these all the time. Not those exactly, but ones like them.
Like how I should be famous by now. Really. The ship has sailed for being on Oprah, but isn’t someone going to beg me to come on their show? And how I always thought that by age thirty-four I’d own a home with a yard, not a small condo in the city. Or how I still buy all my clothes on sale and I don’t have a decent wardrobe.
And how I still say “like” and “awesome” way too much for an adult.
So it’s starting to look like we’re all in the same boat with this I-should-be-doing -better stuff.
Since it’s such a universal human issue, maybe we can make a collective pact to just stop with the shoulds? Can we collectively agree to be just a little kinder to ourselves? Can we set aside the judgments and be proud of ourselves, right this minute, not when we achieve something we haven’t yet achieved?
Here are some ways you can work on dropping “I should be better” syndrome and decide you’re okay, right now.
1. Understand your own personal flavor of I-should-be-better.
How does this syndrome show up in your life? Are there particular times you’re more likely to compare yourself to others? Are there certain skills or habits or traits you’re always requiring of yourself?
Does it tend to show up primarily in your career, family life, weight, or finances? Or is it a theme across the board for you?
Is it triggered by particular people (i.
e.: that “cool girl” from high school who is now your Facebook friend, or an older sister to whom you were constantly compared?)
Understanding how this tendency looks in your life—and being on the lookout for it—is the first step to dropping the habit.
2. Notice. Stop. Breathe.
When you find yourself in the middle of I-should-be-better, stop. Drop what you’re doing and take a deep breath.
I-should-be-better is cerebral and ego-based. It’s your mind spinning stories that aren’t real in any factual way.
So when you notice those mental stories spinning, stop and consciously shift from being in your mind to being in your body. The fastest and most effective way I know to do that is to breathe deeply and consciously. Notice, stop, and breathe.
3. Remember that you created the rules.
Remind yourself that the standards to which you’re holding yourself aren’t objective or real. You invented them and you’re the only one holding yourself to them.
Buying into the standards is simply a habit.
With a little intention and awareness, change is not only possible, but within your reach.
4. Remind yourself that this is a universal issue.
Pretty much everyone feels this way at one time or another. It’s not just you.
And we can’t all be right. By definition, we can’t all be not good enough. If 99 percent of the population should be doing better, isn’t it time to change our definition of “good enough”?
5. Are you telling the truth?
How does it feel when you focus on what you should be doing?
If what you’re telling yourself doesn’t feel good, it’s probably not the truth. Don’t worry—that doesn’t make you a liar, it just makes you a perfectly normal human who believes too many painful and unnecessary thoughts.
Think about the rules you’re setting for yourself. “I should have more money saved” or “I should be further up the corporate ladder.” Can you absolutely know for sure that you should? What if you’re wrong? What if you’re exactly where you should be right now?
6.
Look for the lessons.Look for the lessons in the supposed “mistakes” you’ve made. Why is it that your kid isn’t reading as well as the neighbor kid? Ask this with an open mind, considering all possibilities. Is the neighbor kid extraordinarily gifted? Could your kid simply use a little more practice?
This is not an invitation to blame or judge, but an opportunity to look honestly at the situation and your role in it. If there was something you could do differently, what might it be?
What can you learn from this nagging sense of I-should-be-better?Because if you insist on being dissatisfied, you might as well learn something from it.
As hard as the “I should be better” syndrome can be, I actually see it as a sign of deep self-love to believe you deserve good stuff. You care enough to shame yourself over not having what you know you’re capable of.
Now maybe we can come together in the name of all that self-love and do it without the conditions. Without needing to prove our worth through arbitrary accomplishments.
And without the shame.
About Amy Johnson
Dr. Amy Johnson is the author of several books, including The Little Book of Big Change: The No-Willpower Approach to Breaking Any Habit. She is also the creator of The Little School of Big Change, an online school that helps people find lasting freedom from habits and anxiety. Please go here to get a free sneak preview of the school.
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Kuznetsova: I feel much better, I make fewer mistakes
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MOSCOW, August 18 - RIA Novosti. Russian tennis player Svetlana Kuznetsova said that she now feels much better than before and makes fewer mistakes in her game. Kuznetsova on Saturday in the semifinals at the tournament in Cincinnati defeated the second racket of the world Australian Ashleigh Barty with a score of 6:2, 6: 4. In the final, Kuznetsova will play with Madison Keys. The score of personal meetings of rivals is 3-0 in favor of the American. “Madison is a very difficult opponent. When she is on fire, it is very difficult to play against her,” said the Russian. nine0003
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MOSCOW, August 18 - RIA Novosti. Russian tennis player Svetlana Kuznetsova said that she now feels much better than before and makes fewer mistakes in her game. nine0003
Kuznetsova on Saturday in the semi-final at the tournament in Cincinnati defeated the second racket of the world Australian Ashleigh Barty with a score of 6:2, 6:4.
"I'm really happy. I feel much better, I don't make most of my previous mistakes. I just play smarter and wiser now. At 34, I started again," the WTA official website quotes Kuznetsova.
Kuznetsova will play Madison Keys in the final. The account of personal meetings of rivals is 3-0 in favor of the American.
"Madison is a very difficult opponent. When she's on fire, it's very hard to play against her," said the Russian. nine0003
Martin Fourcade: "Now I feel much better" - Biathlon
French biathlete Martin Fourcade announced that he has started training according to the usual program.
“Now I feel much better. Tests show the return of normal indicators, my health is becoming good.
Started to train seriously. I did not stop training, but now I can add a lot. I kept in shape during my recovery, ”Fourcade is quoted by Ski-Nordique with reference to RMC radio broadcast. nine0003
We remind you that earlier a Frenchman was diagnosed with mononucleosis.
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