Why do relationships fall apart

The 33 Most Common Reasons Why Relationships Fall Apart — Best Life

While the last thing couples want to think about is breaking up, the sad reality is that it happens—a lot. In fact, according to recent data from the American Psychological Association, as many as 50 percent of marriages in the United States eventually end in divorce. But how can you tell whether your relationship will survive? Well, there are surefire predictive tells like your bedroom habits, the way you argue, and how often you communicate. Even the way you carry your day-to-day conversations can shed light on your relationship's longevity. Keep reading to discover some of the most common reasons why relationships fall apart. And for more things you should stop doing with your spouse, check out the 50 Relationship Tips That Are Actually Terrible Advice.


In his 2015 research published in the journal Psychological Assessment, Keith Sanford, PhD, a psychology professor at Baylor University, found that partners who admitted that they withdrew often during arguments reported being unhappier and more apathetic about the relationship overall.

"Withdrawal is the most problematic for relationships," Sanford said in a statement. "It's a defense tactic that people use when they feel they are being attacked, and there's a direct association between withdrawal and lower satisfaction overall with the relationship." And for more relationship warning signs, learn the 17 Subtle Signs of Divorce Most People Don't See Coming.


When Virgil wrote that "love conquers all," he had clearly never been in a serious relationship. Yes, love can overcome many things, but if there's one thing that it can't overcome, it's not being on the same page. At the end of the day, you and your partner need to be clear about fundamental decisions like where to live, when and if to have kids, and how to save and spend money—otherwise, the relationship will fall apart.

According to Lesli Doares, a certified relationship coach in Cary, North Carolina, "67 percent of disagreements in a relationship never get resolved and they don't need to, but the other 33 percent, if not resolved, can lead to the end of the relationship. " Doares notes that these so-called "dealbreakers" are often "desires of one partner for the relationship to get more serious, personal beliefs and values, the kind of lifestyle each person wants to live, and wanting to have children."


Your partner is likely doing the best they can—but like any human, they're going to mess up and make mistakes sometimes. And while a supportive spouse handles these slip-ups like an adult, an unsupportive one will treat their partner like they should be perfect 100 percent of the time, leading to frustration on both ends.

"When your partner doesn't measure up to something they didn't even sign up for, there is a tendency to try to change them, with no understanding that your own behavior plays a huge role," says Doares. "By focusing on your partner, it allows for justification as to why they are the problem."


Many people will avoid conflict and pretend that issues in their relationship don't exist simply because they live in fear of being alone. However, this strategy backfires, as all conflicts will rear their ugly heads eventually—and by then, it's usually too late to solve them.

"Being afraid of being alone, and thus willing to accept any relationship no matter how unhealthy, is another common pattern that keeps relationships from working," says Doares. "Appropriate boundaries need to be identified and enforced."


At the beginning of a relationship,  couples tend to be honest and open about their feelings and emotions. But as things progress, many people doom their relationships by assuming that their significant other can—and should be able to—read their body language and just know what's on their mind.

"Where a conversation once existed, now there is silence, an eye roll, or edgy energy emitting that becomes divisive if not ultimately crushing," explain relationship experts Greg Behrendt and Amiira Ruotola, authors of It's Called a Breakup Because It's Broken. "Over time we get too comfortable in our partnership, too lazy, or sometimes even become apprehensive and we stop communicating thoughtfully with each other." And if your marriage feels off, try these 65 Ways to Be a Better Spouse After 40, According to Experts.


The worse things are in your own relationship, the better everyone else's is going to look. But by comparing yourself, you are only going to feel worse. You're ultimately sabotaging whatever of your relationship there is left to salvage.

"Comparison is the thief of joy," note Behrendt and Ruotola. "Focus on your own relationship rather than coveting someone else's. The grass is greener where you water it and no relationship is as flawless as it looks on Instagram."


Compromising isn't just about letting your spouse choose which restaurant you go to every once in a while. In a healthy, committed relationship, to compromise is to make "the conscious choice to accept each other for exactly who you are," writes Laura Schlessinger, a relationship expert and the host of the Sirius XM radio show The Dr. Laura Program. "If you want your relationship to last, you need to give up your need to be right and in control all of the time."


Have you ever found yourself crying in a fit of rage while your partner hasn't so much as shed a tear? This may be a sign that your relationship is on the rocks. A couple's meta-emotions—that is, how they feel about emotion—need to be on the same page. As marriage researcher John Gottman, PhD, discovered, meta-emotion mismatches were 80 percent accurate in predicting divorce. Basically, it's not about the conflict itself—it's about handling it in a complementary way to how your partner handles it.


Having contempt for your partner is one of the four behaviors that Gottman says is a telltale indicator of an impending divorce. In his research, he polled couples on how often they behaved with contempt, criticism, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Then, he measured perceived relationship satisfaction and found that the behaviors were over 90 percent successful in predicting divorce.

According to Gottman, seeing your partner as inferior in particular is the "kiss of death" for any relationship. And this makes sense, given that another 2010 study published in the Journal of Marriage and Family found that couples who showed contempt for each other within their first year of marriage were more likely to divorce before their 16th wedding anniversary. Feel like things are past the point of no return? These are the 15 Signs You Should Go to Couples Therapy.


In a 2014 study published in the journal Current Directions in Psychological Science, researchers determined that the people you love most are also the people you're most likely to take your anger out on, given that you interact with them more than anyone. But unfortunately, what they also found is that "aggression is harmful to individuals and to relationships," meaning that the more you hurt the people you love, the more you risk pushing them away.


It's hard to focus on the present when you're busy living in the past. And this is especially true in a romantic relationship, as your complete and undivided emotional and physical presence are required in order to make things work. If you want your current relationship to last, leave the past in the past and let go of the things that are holding you back.


Trust is not an easy thing to build with someone (especially if you've been betrayed in the past), but you should have faith in the person with whom you intend to spend the rest of your life. Should you build a partnership on a foundation of mistrust, you risk lacking both physical and emotional intimacy. Plus, you can almost guarantee that eventually your partner will get fed up and walk away.


If you love a good nightcap before heading to bed, then you should be sure that your life partner enjoys one as well. One 2013 study from the University of Buffalo found that around 50 percent of married couples with differing alcohol habits got divorced before they hit the 10-year mark. On the other hand, partners who had similar drinking habits—whether they indulged, abstained, or consumed alcohol moderately—only had a divorce rate of about 30 percent.


Secrets are no fun, especially in a long-term relationship. And what's even worse is lying about them, like when "your partner keeps secrets from you and blames you when you call them out on their secrecy," says Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, a relationship expert and therapist in Massachusetts and Rhode Island.

"They will say things like, 'You just couldn't handle it if I was open and honest with you, which is why I had to lie,'" Gaspard explains. If you notice your partner lying to your face and then holding you responsible for their loathsome actions, it might be time to sit down with them and address the problem directly before things escalate further.


Every couple fights, but healthy ones end them with both parties apologizing and taking partial blame for what has transpired. But in a relationship that's reaching its breaking point, you might find that either you or your partner refuse to accept any of the blame, with one of you painting themselves entirely as the victim.

"We are all taught a language of blame when we feel powerful emotions," says Carey Davidson, CEO of integrative healthcare company Tournesol Wellness. "It's so much easier to become a victim than it is to think about our emotions as our body's way of telling us [that] our core needs for growth aren't being met." And for more up-to-date information, sign up for our daily newsletter.


A healthy and happy relationship should revolve around how each person is feeling. "In times of conflict … we shift our mindset toward recognizing core needs for ourselves and our partners," explains Davidson. "[We try] empathizing with our own unmet needs, empathizing with our partner's unmet needs, and then coming up with a plan for meeting them both."

However, partners in unstable relationships often find themselves fighting with their significant other, with little to no regard for how the other person feels.


A couple will never understand each other when there is a lack of reverence in the relationship. And if one partner has a blatant disrespect for the other's life choices, neither partner will ever feel comfortable talking about their day, let alone their feelings or beliefs.

"The biggest reason that I see on why a relationship does not work out is that one partner does not respect the other," says Alexis Dent, owner of wedding vow company XO Juliet. "That is a formula for disaster, as they will never be on the same page and things will fall apart."


A big and unexpected life event, like the death of a parent or a sudden job layoff, can shake a relationship to its core. And, oftentimes, these life-changing moments will result in other major changes that many relationships struggle to survive.

"Sometimes due to a death in the family, development of an illness, or simply a desire to change careers, a person may want to move to a different area, work less, or they pick up bad habits, like drinking, drugs, [or] sex addiction," says Regina DeMeo, a matrimonial attorney in Bethesda, Maryland. "If your partner doesn't agree with these changes, then you no longer have a shared vision of where you need to be or where you are heading, which leads to irreconcilable differences."


It's not necessarily how each partner spends money that causes problems in a marriage, it's how one partner thinks their significant other is spending that does. When Ashley LeBaron, a graduate student at Brigham Young University (BYU), and her fellow researchers studied couples and their spending habits in 2017, they found that husbands who viewed their wives as big spenders had the greatest financial conflicts, regardless of actual spending habits. "When it comes to the impact of finances on relationships, perceptions may be just as important, if not more important, than reality," LeBaron said in a statement.ae0fcc31ae342fd3a1346ebb1f342fcb


Relationships are all about give and take—and if you take more than you give, then the balance will be thrown off and your partner will likely seek comfort in other places and people. In fact, this is such a well-known phenomenon that experts have even given it a name: It's called the Social Exchange Theory. According to Mark V. Redmond of Iowa State University, the theory outlines how "we are disturbed when there is no equity in an exchange or where others are rewarded more for the same costs we incurred."


When your significant other spends the entire day slaving away on a home-cooked meal, don't forget to thank them for all that hard work. Otherwise, your partner will feel like all their efforts have gone unnoticed, or that you feel like your time is more valuable than theirs.

"Taking a partner for granted undermines all relationships," explains Poppy Spencer, MS, CPC, a certified counselor and relationship expert in Florida. "Whether people acknowledge it or not, being a value to a significant other is essential. When gratitude is not expressed, emotional, and sometimes physical, health is compromised. " You might think that your gratitude is implied, but it helps your partner to hear that they're appreciated.


Insecure folks use their partners as a crutch in order to feel better about their many perceived shortcomings. And when the relationship is less than satisfactory, they see this as a slight against who they are as a person, which can lead to anger, frustration, and ultimately, the end of the relationship. Unfortunately, it can be difficult to reason with someone who pins their self-worth to the status of their relationship.


One of the most important parts of being in a relationship is loving your partner for who they are without trying to change them. People who secretly wish that their partner was just a little bit more fashionable or athletic will find that they love an unrealistic version of their partner and not the actual person with whom they're coupled. It always helps to remember that love is unconditional—and if yours isn't, then it might not be love after all.


You can pretend to settle an argument with your spouse just to make it go away, but that is only going to make things worse. Why? "Holding resentment is the quickest way to destroy love," says California-based psychotherapist Tina Tessina, PhD. "Resentment is like the rust that eats away at the bonds of your relationship." If you don't resolve the underlying issues that are causing your resentment and anger, then your relationship will inevitably be worn down to the point of no return.


After getting married, it takes work to maintain the spark that once existed in your relationship. If you don't work on keeping it alive, you risk falling into the same old routines. "From the moment you begin to live together, romantic moments are no longer automatic," says Tessina. "Instead, much of your time together is spent on more mundane things: doing laundry, washing dishes, paying bills, or going to work. As soon as the initial newness of living together wears off, such everyday things cease to feel exciting and romantic, and you may find yourself feeling worried that your partner no longer cares as much or is as excited to be with you. "


Every person in a relationship just wants their voice to be heard—but in return, you need to give your partner that same respect and actually listen to what they're saying. If your partner thinks that you're ignoring them, they will feel like their opinions and emotions aren't important to you—and consequently, neither is the relationship.


If you got married straight out of high school or college, you might start to reconsider your relationship later on. According to a 2015 study from Nicholas Wolfinger, a professor at the University of Utah, couples who marry younger are at a greater risk of divorce compared to couples who wed in their late 20s and early 30s. Unfortunately, if you get hitched when you're under the age of 20, Wolfinger estimates that your divorce risk is 32 percent, based on age alone.


Before you tie the knot, make sure you figure out finances, living arrangements, future career paths—anything that could potentially get in the way of your happiness and relationship down the line. If you fail to do so, your relationship might be doomed from the start. In a 2001 survey of more than 2,000 married and divorced people in Oklahoma, researchers found that "little or no helpful premarital preparation" was a top reason cited by divorcees for why their marriages didn't last.


Starting a family is a big decision that shouldn't be rushed into—and if you do jump the gun on that choice, it could kill your marriage. A 2009 study published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology found that "parents showed sudden deterioration following birth on observed and self-reported measures … of relationship functioning."


Sometimes relationships fall apart not because of incompatibility, but because of issues in the bedroom. In her list of some of the common reasons for divorce, U.K.-based relationship therapist Elly Prior noted on her blog that "problems with love-making" and "loss of libido" are both commonly cited issues in failing or failed relationships.


All newlyweds should express some level of affection—but too much of any good thing can be a problem too. According to an oft-cited 2001 study published in the journal Interpersonal Relationships and Group Processes, couples who displayed overly intense amounts of affection at the onset of the marriage were more likely to get divorced in the long-run compared to couples who were less overtly affectionate. A fire that strong takes a lot of effort to keep alive—so naturally, it will burn out faster than one that starts as a manageable spark.


Sure, opposites might attract at first, but at the end of the day, they're not always compatible, and they can't always figure out how to make a long-lasting relationship work. Little things like messiness and movie preferences are negligible, but it's the bigger things like political views, senses of humor, and spending habits that can be the straws that break the camel's back.


Unsurprisingly, infidelity is one of the most common reasons why relationships fall apart. In fact, in that 2001 survey in Oklahoma, among those who were divorced, one of the most popular reasons given for the split was "infidelity or extramarital affairs." And for more things you should never say to your significant other, check out the 65 Things No Spouse Ever Wants to Hear, According to Relationship Pros.

Reasons Relationships Fail | Couples Therapy at Delray Beach Psychiatrist

Most of us want to meet and settle down with the right person, and want that relationship to be healthy, happy, and lasting. At the same time, approximately 40-50% of marriages in America ultimately end in divorce. To help avoid the common pitfalls that dissolves marriages and relationships, here are some of the most prevalent reasons relationships fail.

1.    Trust Issues

The lack or loss of trust is one of the most harmful impediments to a couple’s long-term success. Without trust, a relationship misses two of the key anchors for forging and maintaining a strong bond: safety and security. Trust issues can manifest in a number of ways, such as jealousy, possessiveness, unreasonable rigidity, emotional infidelity, physical/sexual infidelity, relational game playing, lack of reliability or dependability, and lack of emotional support. The specific reasons why people come to couples therapy are often symptoms of a greater underlying mistrust within the relationship, and is a major reason relationships fail.

2.    Different Expectations

It’s not easy for a couple to be on the same wavelength for an extended period of time. The elements that frequently draw two people together at the beginning of a relationship – physical attraction, common interests, similar socio-economic backgrounds – often become less central as the realities and demands of day-to-day life set in. Over time, a couple’s expectations in the relationship may diverge. This is evident when couples begin to distinguish between “what I want” versus “what we want” when talking about their goals and aspirations. Divergence in expectations over time is another reason relationships fail.

3.    Moving Through Life at Different Speeds

When one partner is learning and growing at a rapid pace, while the other is staying static, this may be a source of relational divergence. One example of this would be a partner advancing quickly in her career, while the other stays in an unfulfilling job. The professional and social circles of the couple begin to diverge, and soon the couple themselves begin to diverge. They have physically, intellectually, and socially grown apart. To avoid this reason relationships fail, it is important to share with each other your respective value systems.

4.    Communication Issues

This is a big one. Numerous studies have identified communication (or a lack thereof) as one of the top reasons for couples seek therapy, as well as one of the top reasons for break-ups and divorces. The single, best predictor of divorce is when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship. Contempt, the opposite of respect, is often expressed via negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of an individual. In communication studies, this is known as being “tough on the person, soft on the issue.”

5.    Life Habit Abuse

Life habit abuses are traits which, although may or may not directly involve the partner (such as a secret gambling addiction), may ultimately affect the relationship in a destructive way. Examples of life habit abuse include problem drinking, drug use, gambling, excessive shopping or spending. Habits or addictions such as these put tremendous strain on relationships and feed into other problem areas, like lack of trust or poor communication.

6.    Sense of Growing Apart

If any of the previously mentioned four problems resonates with you, there are a couple of factors to consider: If you have been in a relationship for two years or less, and you and your partner have “grown apart,” it could be due to a lack of commitment, different expectations, lack of compatibility, or the natural process of trial-and-error in finding the right partner. If you are in a long-term relationship, it is possible that life obligations (such as school, work, and especially child-rearing) got in the way of your connectedness and mutual evolvement.

7.    Financial Issues

The longer a couple has been together in a committed relationship, the greater the possibility of financial incompatibility. According to research, differences over money is one of the top reasons for marital dissolution. But a couple also doesn’t need to be married to have money challenges. Money issues tap into some of our deepest psychological needs and fears, including and not limited to trust, safety, security, power, control, and survival.

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21 signs that your relationship is going to hell

September 21, 2021 Relationship

No one promised that relationships are easy. But this does not mean that meeting or living with another person should resemble an endless hell.

Iya Zorina

Author of Lifehacker, athlete, CCM

Knowing when to quit and when to move on is the key to emotional survival.

Until we are 200% sure that the relationship is over, we continue to believe in it. This is understandable, because in a few years (or months) we become so attached to a person, we can say “grow into” him, that it is very painful to part. It is clear that you are trying to save the relationship: there is always hope that they will change for the better.

Not everyone has the courage to break up a relationship the moment it really ends. Here are 21 signs that "finita la comedy" if it has not yet arrived, then it is already very, very close. If at least four points out of all you say: “This is about us,” think about parting more seriously than usual.

1. Resentment

You are constantly offended by your partner, but do not say anything. You think that this is how you save your relationship, but in fact you only delay that unpleasant moment when all the accumulated negativity breaks out and your relationship ends in a painful break.

Resentment does not go away, especially if the factors that cause it do not disappear. If it does not splash out, then it accumulates inside, and this causes stress and illness. And, of course, destroys relationships - slowly but surely.

2. Disrespect

If you and your partner have reached the point where you show mutual disrespect, it's time to destroy your illusions. There is nothing easier than to stop being attached to someone who shows you disrespect.

People can continue to live together without respect and awareness of the value of each other, which leads to absolute indifference about the needs and desires of a partner. Well, what kind of continuation can we talk about?

3. Contempt

It doesn't matter what motives caused contempt, be it a failed career, a change in appearance or something else. Partners should support each other in any situation, because isn't this warmth we need so much under any circumstances, and especially during some personal problems.

If you start treating each other with contempt, you no longer get warmth from relationships and you live not with a friend who understands, but with a cold being who condemns you, why continue this?

4. Lies

I'm talking about that lie when you tell a person "I love you" without experiencing any feelings. You are afraid of hurting him, but you are not really protecting him, but only making it worse. The truth will come out: you cannot lie all your life and at the same time not spoil it for yourself and your partner.

Well, if you say to yourself: “We are happy, I am happy, everything is fine with us”, when you feel that everything has already ended for you, this is also an escape from reality.

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5. Distrust

If you do not trust your partner, then there are reasons for this. If they are so serious that trust cannot be restored, why stay with this person? All my life to check, worry and waste my nerves?

6. Swearing in public

Anything good you can say about your partner can be said in public. And all the bad things are better left for personal conversations. To scold a person in public means to achieve only a negative response or hidden resentment.

In addition, if you scold your partner in public or even just allow yourself unpleasant jokes about him, it means that dissatisfaction is growing inside, which has already begun to spill out.

7. Withdrawal

If you often look for a way to be away from your partner and consciously try to avoid contact and intimacy, it's time to get rid of it.

You have already severed the emotional connection with your partner and thus gently let him know that it's over. Maybe it's better to do it right away, and not to produce suffering and doubts?

8. Demanding evidence of love

“If you love me, you…” It is very tempting to manage a person's life in this way, and if you hear this phrase from time to time, then something has gone wrong.

The only person who can change his feelings is himself, and some of your actions have nothing to do with it.

Well, if you yourself say so, think about whether you really need this person, will he become loved if he does something? And is it possible to manipulate someone you really love?

9. Public humiliation

If your partner has humiliated you in public once, he will most likely do it again and again. And it does not matter that he drank a lot that evening or he was in a bad mood.

Public humiliation of a partner speaks only of deep self-hatred, and no matter how much love you give to this person, it will not fix the situation without his firm desire to change and work with his self-esteem. And this is difficult not only to correct, but even to admit.

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10. Obsession with another person

sooner or later it will lead to a break.

Of course, this does not mean that partners should completely immerse themselves in each other and give all their energy to only one person, but obsession with someone else is fraught with suspicion, jealousy and resentment.

Yes, your partner is obviously missing something in your relationship if he is so attracted to another person, but you can hardly give him that. And certainly you should not change yourself for the sake of another person.

11. Obsession with pornography

There is nothing strange or wrong with partners watching porn together. Some kind of voyeurism helps to get turned on and find something new to try later in bed with a partner.

But if one of the partners is obsessed with pornography, complete satisfaction will always elude him: in pursuit of the Grail of multiple orgasms, he may end up on the path of sexual perversion.

So, if you are not satisfied with such scenarios, think about both the root cause of this obsession and the possible consequences.

12. Emotional infidelity

Some people believe that monogamy is the only possible relationship, for others it is difficult and almost impossible.

If you cheated for the sake of a variety of sexual experiences, the relationship can still be saved, but if there is an emotional attachment to the person with whom you had an intimate relationship, it is time to end the relationship.

The first question people ask when they find out about their partner's infidelity is: "Do you love him/her?" Because it is the emotional, and not the physical connection, that is the core of the relationship, and if it is gone, then you have nothing more to do here.

13. Inability to end the conflict

It starts as an endless struggle without consensus, which gradually develops into "as you wish", when the partners no longer care about the results of their struggle.

There is a rule: never go to bed offended by each other. And there is definitely something in it.

If none of the partners can pacify their pride and desire to always be the winner in the dispute, cannot agree to a truce without achieving their goal, these relations have no continuation.

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14. Subconscious

If you unconsciously do things that harm your relationship, it is your psyche that tells you what you really need.

You can think whatever you want, but your actions speak of real desires better than all your assurances and hopes.

15. Obsession

If your partner has an obsession with, for example, alcohol or substances, he/she is a shopaholic, gambler, workaholic, or obsessed with sex, you will always be in second or even fifth place and will not get the emotional connection that I would like to.

If you don't have an obsession with something, your partner's addiction can ruin not only his life, but yours as well. Not a very pleasant prospect.

16. Painful attachment to former

If your partner is still more than close to a former lover or husband/wife, it destroys the relationship.

Former partners should be respected, especially if you have common children, but the first role is still assigned to the current partner. If this does not happen, it is easy to feel secondary and unnecessary, and this is a direct path to a breakup.

17. Threats and emotional blackmail

This is a clear sign of an unhealthy relationship. Emotional blackmail is often presented as intense love, but it is actually control. And control, in turn, is an abuse of feelings. You have to run as far away from it as you can see.

18. Constant comparison and ratings

Does your partner compare you to those who look more attractive, earn more, are smarter and more interesting than you? This is one form of humiliation. If someone thinks that the grass is greener in someone else's yard, let him go there.

People are unique beings, although they are similar in many ways. You shouldn't compare yourself, let alone listen to it from your partner.

19. Indifference

Why stay together if you don't care about each other?

20. Loss of attachment

There's nothing wrong with wanting a roommate, but if you want more from a relationship, don't stay with a partner who isn't your one and only. Don't just stay because it's convenient for you.

21. Physical violence

There are no excuses, no explanations, circumstances and promises do not matter. You just have to leave.

In general, conflicts in relationships are a way to get rid of pain, but their causes may vary. It can be a way to open the boil of dissatisfaction and resentment that has arisen in a relationship in order to clean out the wound, remove what is in the way, and save the relationship.

But it also happens differently, when conflicts are a way to break off relationships, to tell the other person that they are over, that it is no longer worth tormenting each other.

And it is better to learn to distinguish one conflict from another, otherwise it will be painful and bad for both partners.

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    Even the strongest relationships invariably experience crises. There is simply no other way: you can be as restrained and tolerant as you like, but in order to fully get used to the habits, lifestyle and hobbies of your partner, you need a lot of time and mental strength. In other words, crises and difficulties are the norm. Moreover, most often this is the most important stage of your relationship, recognizing which in time, you will be able to build the strongest union in the world in the future (more on this: “5 stages of love (and why many break up already at the third)”).

    And yet, love also has diseases that cannot be cured. Relationships are certainly hard work, and yet they are not slavery that should take you or your partner 24 hours a day. Sooner or later, a healthy union still has to go offline, and if you have been fighting for more than one year just to keep your romance afloat, then perhaps a hole has formed in your love boat, which no longer makes sense to close. You have at least 5 reasons for this.

    You are hurting yourself (in everything)

    Compromise is a great achievement of mankind, and, of course, if you are ready to mutually sacrifice your own interests for your common good, then this is only worthy of respect. After all, none of us are under the illusion that every day we spend together is heaven on earth.

    Still, it is naive to think that compromise is the panacea for all problems. In the end, in any relationship there is a line when concessions no longer go to the benefit of your union. And here we are talking, first of all, about those situations when you have to infringe on yourself as a person and do what is disgusting to you, unusual and, from your point of view, immoral. This, it turns out, is no longer a compromise, but a silent and unquestioning submission.

    Love relationships should not become hell for one person. Again, periods of stress and difficulty are inevitable, but at such times it is always important to analyze whether these circumstances break you from the inside. And if you have been living in this mode from the very beginning of your romance, then perhaps you should either seek professional help, or simply admit that you are not a couple.

    You do not feel satisfied in relationships

    Relationships are impossible without mutual expectations. Entering into a love union, we are always waiting for something: happiness, mutual success, prosperity, comfort, in the end. But if you have not felt anything in your romance for a long time but total dissatisfaction, then this is a sign of an unhealthy relationship. Internal work in a couple, as well as the help of a psychologist, are very important here, but it often happens that partners at some point (especially when the candy-bouquet period is long behind) are simply not able to find common ground.

    It is important to understand the following. In healthy relationships, people can be angry at each other, but they should not feel fundamental resentment and dissatisfaction with everything that happens around them. Otherwise, all this will look more like an eternal bondage than a union of two loving hearts.

    You can’t stand each other’s company

    It’s definitely a paradox: in social networks or in words you are soul to soul, but as soon as you are alone, you are completely embarrassed, conflicts, or even completely disgusted. It’s as if an invisible line has been drawn between you, crossing which is like stepping into a minefield.

    Surprisingly, many divorced couples often, recalling their past relationships, are inclined to admit that there were much more joyful moments in their life together than unhappy ones. And in this case, what should those who a priori cannot be next to each other do? Your shared memories are illusory, and any effort to make them real leads to scandals and collapse. Like it or not, compatibility is important in a relationship, and if - millions of attempts later - it still doesn’t exist, then this is an occasion to seriously think about your future.

    You have exhausted your mental strength

    After another raid on psychologists and relationship coaches, your romance still continues to instill in you a feeling of total dissatisfaction and fatigue, and after so many practices to improve relationships, you still feel unloved and unnecessary . They say that nerve cells do not regenerate - and you know this for sure, because your limit was exhausted a few years ago.

    If you are familiar with this state, then perhaps you should remember what kind of person you were before you entered into this relationship. If earlier you were stronger, happier and felt more desirable and seductive, then most likely this romance is destroying you as a person (and as a woman as well). Being unhappy and oppressed is simply unnatural, and this certainly cannot be in a healthy and self-sufficient union of two adults.

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