How to tell if you re in love

15 Things About Being in Love vs. Loving Someone

Romantic love is a key goal for many people. Whether you’ve been in love before or have yet to fall in love for the first time, you might think of this love as the pinnacle of romantic experiences — perhaps even the pinnacle of life experiences.

Falling in love with someone can feel exciting, even exhilarating. But over time, these feelings may settle into something that feels a little different. This love might seem mellow or calm. You might find yourself thinking “I love them” instead of “I’m in love with them.”

This transformation doesn’t necessarily mean there’s anything wrong with your relationship.

Loving someone instead of feeling “in love” with them simply illustrates how feelings of love evolve over the course of a relationship, especially a long-term relationship.

Being in love generally refers to those intense feelings that take over at the start of a relationship.

These include:

  • infatuation
  • happiness
  • excitement and nervousness
  • sexual attraction and lust

Here’s what these feelings might look like in action.

You feel charged and euphoric around them

It may not seem like it, but being in love is a somewhat scientific process. Falling in love involves a lot of hormones, which can supercharge your feelings and make them wildly fluctuate.

When you’re around the person you love, increases in dopamine and norepinephrine lead to feelings of:

  • pleasure
  • giddiness
  • nervous excitement
  • euphoria

Decreases in serotonin can fuel feelings of infatuation.

Sex hormones, such as testosterone and estrogen, also play a part by boosting libido and leading to feelings of lust.

Other key hormones, such as oxytocin and vasopressin, help cement your attraction by promoting trust, empathy, and other factors of long-term attachment.

You can’t wait to see them again — even when they’ve just left

Even after spending all day with your partner, you still feel lonesome when they leave. You wonder what they’re doing and whether they’re thinking about you. Maybe you already have plans to meet the next day, but you still wonder how you’ll manage until you see them again.

This is common when you’re in love. And while it’s certainly healthy to spend some time away from each other, that doesn’t mean you enjoy doing so.

If you can’t stop thinking about them even when you’re apart, you’re most likely enjoying that agonizing bliss of being in love.

Everything feels exciting and new

Being in love can change the way you see things. Even everyday activities like going to the grocery store can become more enjoyable.

You might also look at other things with new eyes. Many people in love feel more willing to try new things, or things they previously didn’t care for, simply because their partner enjoys them.

There’s nothing wrong with trying new things. In fact, openness to new experiences is a great trait to have. But it’s pretty common to feel swayed by a partner’s interests, so make sure you don’t feel pressured to go along with things you really don’t want to do.

You always make time for them

Typically, being in love with someone means you want to spend as much time with them as possible. Even if you’re busy, you probably find yourself arranging your schedule to see your partner.

This might also involve a desire to get to know more about them by exploring their interests. When love is mutual, they’ll probably feel the same way about you and want to spend just as much time getting to know your interests.

This is all pretty normal. It’s also common, however, for people in love to briefly “forget” about their friends.

Try to remember to spend time with your friends, too, instead of letting love completely sweep you away.

You don’t mind making sacrifices for them

In the first rush of being in love, you might feel completely dedicated to your partner, ready to do anything and everything to help them through a tough spot or even just make their lives a little easier.

Empathy and your fast-growing attachment can fuel your desire to be there for them and help them however possible. But the hormones involved in love can sometimes affect how you make decisions.

If you feel the urge to do something that would completely uproot or significantly change your life, take some time and think it through.

After some reflection, you may still want to quit your job and travel with your partner to a different country. But make sure you really want to do it for yourself, too.

Sacrifices can be part of any kind of love. In fact, partners who work to accommodate each other’s needs may have a stronger bond. But people in love have a tendency to charge forward and offer help without thinking twice.

You have fantastic sex

Sex doesn’t have to be part of a romantic relationship. But when it is, it can play a big part in falling in love with someone.

The intensity of the hormones involved can affect your sex drive, increasing your desire for your partner and the passion you experience during sex.

When you first fall in love, sex can also help increase closeness to your partner. Great sexual chemistry can make you feel good about sex and increase your desire to keep having it. Wanting to explore each other’s sexual interests usually doesn’t hurt, either.

You idealize them

Being in love can make it easy to idealize your partner’s best traits (great listening abilities, musical talent, warm smile) and gloss over the less than positive ones (doesn’t return texts right away, flirts with your friends).

It’s normal to focus on someone’s best side when in love. But it’s also important to watch for red flags or relationship incompatibilities.

If your friends point things out, consider what they have to say. They aren’t in love with your partner, so they have a clearer perspective and may notice things you miss.

Love takes a lot of forms, and it can change over time. These are some of the ways your feelings may change when you love your partner but don’t necessarily feel in love with them.

You’re secure in their affection

When you first fall in love, you might not only idealize your partner but also want to present an idealized version of yourself.

You might, for example, always try to look your best. Or maybe you try to hide what you believe are flaws that might turn off your partner.

But over time, as your relationship strengthens, you may feel more at ease being yourself. You don’t worry they’ll dump you if you leave dishes in the sink or forget to take out the trash. You accept that both of you will always wake up with morning breath.

This doesn’t mean you don’t make an effort to maintain this affection and help it flourish. It just means you’ve switched over to a realistic view instead of idealized versions of each other.

You don’t feel the need to hold back your opinions

If you’re in love with someone, it’s easy to take on their opinions as your own. Sometimes you may not be completely conscious of this.

You may find it easier to openly share your feelings with a partner you love and feel comfortable with. Love often conveys a sense of security, so you may not feel like you need to hide your feelings or opinions to protect the relationship.

Even when you have a small disagreement, you know you can talk through it.

You see (and accept) the good with the less than good

Your partner, like you, is an imperfect human. They have good traits, of course, which probably helped you fall in love with them. But they most likely have some aspects of personality or habits you don’t find so great.

Even the things that seemed endearing when you first fall in love, such as the way they brush their teeth at the kitchen sink, may become something you sigh and roll your eyes over.

Loving someone requires you to see them wholly and accept all their parts, just as they see and accept all of you. Minor flaws often don’t really matter over the long term.

But when something does bother you, you’ll probably feel comfortable enough to speak up about it and work to encourage and support each other through personal growth.

This doesn’t include serious red flags or signs of abuse. Always reach out to a professional if abuse is present.

Intimacy might require more effort

When you fell wildly in love with your partner, you probably had sex all the time. As your relationship stabilizes, you certainly still have sex, but maybe less often or with less intensity.

The first time you fall asleep without having sex, or spend a night alone, it might seem like you’ve lost something. You might even worry the relationship is failing.

But often this only means the demands of life have made it necessary to plan time with your partner. Sexual activity might happen less often, but the effort you put into connecting intimately can make those moments even better.

The relationship takes more work

It’s easy to give a relationship your all when you’re head over heels in love. The relationship might seem to progress smoothly, even flawlessly, and the two of you seem to be on the same page about absolutely everything.

This isn’t sustainable over time. Eventually you may need to prioritize your partner slightly less to take care of daily life.

Spending time together may seem less natural and easy, especially when you’re both busy or tired. But love means you keep trying and make an effort to show you care.

You feel deeply connected

Loving someone can involve a sense of strong connection and trust. You know your partner well enough to rattle off their likes and dislikes, values, and strengths without a second thought.

They’re probably the first person you turn to when feeling down and the first person you want to share your successes and aspirations with. You’re a team. Sometimes you might even feel like a single unit.

So, you know you love your partner, but you think you may not be in love with them any longer.

That’s perfectly all right. In fact, you might even feel a bit relieved to know your hormones have settled down a little.

Some people prefer the excitement of being in love. Others prefer the intimate, deep connection associated with long-term love. Many people work toward long-term relationships for this very reason.

What you want out of a relationship may make one seem better than the other, but healthy relationships are possible with either.

Research does suggest many people seek divorce after falling out of love. But no longer feeling in love doesn’t mean you have to leave your partner or that your relationship is doomed to end. It just means you may need to put in a little extra effort to recharge things.

You might feel sadness or regret if you feel your relationship has lost the “spark” associated with being in love. Maybe you want sex to be more spontaneous, or feel excited about seeing your partner instead of comfortable.

Talking to a relationship counselor can help you rekindle the feeling of being in love, but these tips can also help:

  • Maintain an interest in their thoughts and feelings. Don’t forget about everyday check-ins. Ask how their day’s going, making sure you really listen to their response.
  • Prioritize time together, including intimacy. This might mean dipping out of a work event early or taking a rain check on those movie plans with your friend.
  • Don’t forget maintenance tasks. Think of your relationship as a car you depend on to get to and from work. To keep it going, you’ve got to get regular oil changes, rotate the tires, and so on. Give your relationship regular tune-ups by making a conscious effort to communicate openly and offer affection. These don’t have to be big, over-the-top displays. A kiss to welcome them home can go a long way.

After making it past the early stages of infatuation, your feelings for your partner might become less intense. You may not long for their company in quite the same way. In fact, you might even enjoy time apart.

Don’t worry. This is pretty normal, and it doesn’t have to spell the end of things.

Long-term love involves commitment. If you and your partner devote effort to maintaining your bond, at the very least, you’ll probably have a strong relationship. And you just might keep that actively in love feeling alive, too.

Crystal Raypole has previously worked as a writer and editor for GoodTherapy. Her fields of interest include Asian languages and literature, Japanese translation, cooking, natural sciences, sex positivity, and mental health. In particular, she’s committed to helping decrease stigma around mental health issues.

18 Signs You're Falling in Love with Someone, According to Science

Wondering whether you're really, truly falling in love with someone? Chances are, you've probably already asked a close friend or family member for the telltale signs. And if they're like most people, they probably responded with "you just know," "it's hard to describe," or something equally vague—all of which, needless to say, are pretty unhelpful.

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But just as there is no hard-and-fast rule for how long it takes to fall in love, there's no set checklist for how to know if what you're feeling is the real deal. Some people know after a single moment; others develop the feelings after months or even years of small gestures.

That said, though, there are some common (and scientifically backed) signals that you're likely falling in love...and we're not talking about those all-encompassing "can't eat, can't sleep" feelings that let you know you're living a real-life version of your own rom-com. For instance, you feel the need to share even the smallest moments of your day with your person, and maybe you discover that their interests are suddenly becoming your interests, too. Or, perhaps you seamlessly start rearranging your schedule to make more time for your partner. And, of course, you might start wondering—perhaps even daydreaming—about the moment when your special someone will admit they love you, too.

Ahead, we ask therapists, researchers, and other relationship experts to share the classic indications that you are, indeed, falling in love. So now all you have to do is prepare to say those three big words.

You want to share your world with them.

Dawoon Kang, cofounder and co-CEO of online dating platform Coffee Meets Bagel, tells Oprah Daily, “Falling in love is different for everyone,” adding she believes in Robert J. Sternberg’s triangular theory of love, which identifies three main aspects: intimacy (the desire to feel closely connected), passion (physical and emotional stimulation), and decision/commitment (the resolve to stick together).

“You don’t need all three components to know that you’re falling in love, but they are strong indicators that you’re on the way,” she explains. “But don't conclude that someone isn't falling in love with you because they aren't showing the same exact signals as you do.”

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That said, the most telling sign, according to Kang, is if you find yourself wanting to divulge as much as you can to your love interest, from a small win at work to your relationship history.

“I knew I was falling in love with my now-husband Jack when I found myself calling him every night, wanting to share every little detail about my day and wanting to know about his,” she says.

They’re always in your thoughts.

Sure, it might be trite—but it’s true. You know you’re falling in love when your someone begins to take up major real estate in your thoughts. You might find yourself rehashing your conversations in the middle of work, thinking about your next date days in advance, or even envisioning your future together. For Kang, she remembers rereading her husband's text messages and viewing his photos over and over again when they first began dating because she thought about him so often.

And you’re dying to know if they love you, too.

If you find yourself considering whether this person feels similarly and you look for for signs that they're missing you, too, that's another signifier, Jacqueline Olds, MD, an associate professor of clinical psychiatry at Harvard Medical School, tells Oprah Daily.

“Your stomach and heart may take a leap every time they contact you or suggest spending time together,” adds Olds, who has completed extensive research on long-term marriage, alongside her husband of 41 years, Richard Schwartz, MD. (The couples therapists cowrote Marriage in Motion: The Natural Ebb and Flow of Lasting Relationships.)

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Along this same vein, if you’re falling in love, you tend to experience a warm feeling when you think about your significant other, according to Kang. That may mean you can't stop smiling, or you might notice that you generally feel more positive and hopeful.

You feel like a teenager again.

Falling in love has a way of making you feel like a wide-eyed, wild-hearted teenager again, and that's no coincidence, says Kelifern Pomeranz, PsyD, a California-based clinical psychologist and certified sex therapist. "When you fall in love, your body produces a cocktail of chemicals, including dopamine (for wanting more), noradrenaline (for excitement, focus, and attention), testosterone (for sexual interest and drive), and a drop in serotonin (which can cause that low-key obsessive feeling). These chemicals make us feel happy, giddy, energetic, euphoric, and youthful."

They become a priority.

“We make time for what–or who–we love,” says Rachel DeAlto, the chief dating expert for Match (formerly known as Match. com). “If you’re rearranging, reprioritizing, and reimagining your life, you may be falling in love,” she explains.

Equally important: It doesn't feel like a sacrifice when you have to make changes to your calendar (say, brunch with your girlfriends) in order to ensure you're available to attend something important to them (like a family party or dinner with a sibling who's visiting from out of town).

You crave them.

Yes, you read that right. Similar to how you can crave a favorite food or even a seasonal cocktail (hello, frosé), you can crave a person, too.

Match’s chief scientific advisor, Helen Fisher, PhD, has studied these feelings and found that an area of our brain associated with focus and craving called the ventral tegmental area (VTA) causes increased levels of dopamine to be released when you’re falling in love.

As DeAlto notes, this yearning is usually coupled with feeling a rush when you think of them.

You even find their quirks attractive.

Perpetual apologizer? Neat freak? All (innocuous) traits of your beloved are fair game and welcomed when you’re falling in love. “You start to find everything about them irresistible," explains DeAlto. "That even includes their little quirks, their odd sense of style, and their particular way of doing things, which all become endearing.”

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There is one thing, though, that's more important than how they act or what they do: You’re mindful of the emotional climate within the other person, including what troubles them, what brings them joy, or what triggers anxiety. “You care about their happiness, as much as your own,” says DeAlto. “Empathy and compassion for your partner rises as you fall in love.”

They make you feel better about yourself.

People in the throes of falling in love often report feeling like they know more, or can do more, according to Theresa E. DiDonato, PhD, an associate professor of psychology at Loyola University Maryland. She describes how an experience of “self-expansion” often occurs as people fall in love, meaning their own sense of self grows through their relationship with this new person. For example, someone whose partner loves hiking might start to see themselves as a hiker too.

You’re ignoring other attractive people.

Gone are the days of swiping right on dating apps or DM'ing other potential partners. If you realize you’re not as inclined to investigate those other fish in the sea, that can be telling, DiDonato tells Oprah Daily.

“Falling in love may correspond with changes in attention–specifically people in loving, committed relationships show less attention to other viable partners,” she says.

You feel the love everywhere.

Finding yourself suddenly enjoying small chat with your less-than-pleasant coworker, or striking up conversations with your crabby neighbor? Your loved-up vibes could certainly be radiating beyond your partnership, notes Pomeranz. "Falling in love can knock us out of autopilot and allow us to see everything and everyone in a new light. Love can contribute to an increased sense of well-being and lead to a positive outlook, which can extend far beyond the person directly in front of us."

You’re kind of freaking out.
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Replaying interactions in your mind. Analyzing text messages. Mulling over what to wear. Haven’t we all been there? “Changes in stress or anxiety may correspond with the early stages of falling in love,” explains DiDonato. While exhilarating, the newness of a relationship, the uncertainty, and the intense experience of new romantic love can predict stress, as indicated by cortisol levels or self-reported anxiety, she says.

Their traits become your traits.

Whoever first coined the term “two become one” wasn’t kidding. As a romantic couple get to know each other, their own perceptions of self begin to merge, says DiDonato. “Because of this self-other overlap, individuals feel real pride for their partner’s achievements, see themselves more like their partner, and can mistake their partner’s characteristics for their own,” she says. On top of that, you may even start to dress or talk like your significant other.

You want to say those big three words.

You know it’s love and not just lust or a physical attraction because you’re curious and interested in what makes them tick, says Olds. “You want to hear their words and their thoughts, not only feel their body,” adds Schwartz.

But, as you expected, you find yourself wanting to take the courageous leap of saying “I love you,” according to Kang. (And, for the record, there are no rules surrounding the "right" time to tell someone that.)

Friends are noticing.

Are you always talking about your partner or asking if you can bring a plus-one along? Yeah, your friends see that. And they also might notice that you've been spending less time with them as you're devoting your attention to your romantic relationship. While your BFFs are likely to understand (hey, they probably did the same thing), don't forget to try to strike a balance, DiDonato urges.

You see a future with them in it.

You might notice that it doesn't feel weird to book your flights for that destination wedding six months from now or even to start talking about where you'll spend the holidays—because you know they'll be around to go with you.

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This is a strong sign and reveals commitment blossoming, according to Kang."You might also find yourself planning and taking more weekend getaways with them,” she says. Or perhaps what you envision goes even thinking about your engagement or playing around with the idea of relocating to another city together.

In addition to envisioning a future with him or her, you might also start to talk about what that would actually look like—from what you'd need to feel happy in your marriage to whether or not you want kids to how you'd handle any religious or political differences.

And the most prominent sign you’re falling in love? It feels


“I actually think for a majority of people it’s not a hard question and the answer is perfectly obvious to them,” says Schwartz. “And part of that is because one of the characteristics of being in love is this feeling of rightness and certainty and absence of doubt,” he adds. You might start to notice that you no longer worry whether you'll get ghosted or you don't even consider the possibility that they could be scared off by your collection of stuffed animals.

That's because, according to Schwartz, the parts of the brain responsible for social judgment and critical thinking go into a slower operation when we’re falling in love, and there isn’t the kind of scrutinizing, questioning, and assessing we may undergo in alternative circumstances. “Love is something we feel and, when we do, we say, ‘This is it.’”

Stephanie L. King

Stephanie L. King has had an obsession with words since she was seven and chronicled her life in a red and blue Bugs Bunny diary. She’s a poet who wrote for The Wall Street Journal and The Patriot News in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania, before transitioning careers to become an English Language Arts teacher to talented urban middle schoolers. She’s also the brand new mom to a baby girl named Ella Grace and considers the sweetest fruit of her life her husband, Lionel. The reason for the slob on her pants? Her English bulldog, Ice. She lives in New Jersey, where she’s grateful for parking—but she will always be a New Yorker at heart.

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How to understand that you are in love with a guy: signs

Signs of girlish love: Pixabay

Girls cannot always distinguish physical attraction and sympathy for a guy from real love. It is especially difficult to understand this for someone who has never experienced this feeling. Scientists and psychologists suggested the main signs of girlish love.

How to understand that you are in love? Each girl is a unique person, whose love experiences have unique facets and shades. But in psychology, there are signs that are characteristic of all ladies. Here are the main signs of girlish love: hyperemotionality, a feeling of fullness and joy of life, a state of euphoria, an aggravation of smell, hoax, love languor.


A girl in love becomes sentimental and sensitive. She constantly experiences emotional jumps, which are caused by a number of physiological processes in the body.

The body perceives the psycho-emotional swing as a strong stress. Timothy Jay Loving, Ph.D., Ph.D. in social psychology, and colleagues found that a girl in love increases the level of cortisol (a hormone that protects the body from stress). When a young lady has an exclusively sexual interest in a guy, the level of the hormone does not exceed the norm.

During the period of falling in love, the subconscious reacts to the production of cortisol — the body produces high doses of oxytocin — one of the hormones of happiness and pleasure. When lovers hug, kiss, oxytocin levels skyrocket. Psychological stress subsides, a girl in love feels trust in her lover, tenderness and care.

A feeling of fullness and joy of life

A girl in love feels a surge of energy and optimism, looks at the world around her more positively. As psychotherapists Harvill Hendrix and Helen Hunt explain in their book Love for Life, being in love makes life a joy, and you don’t need artificial means—alcohol, sweets, computer games, movies, etc.—to experience the fullness of life.0005

Hendrix and Hunt explain that when in love, a person is under the influence of natural stimulants produced by the body. Thanks to these substances:

  • pulse quickens;
  • perception is sharpened;
  • increased energy;
  • the world is seen exclusively in a positive way.

The feeling of falling in love includes a girl's positive emotions and a special attitude not only to the object of adoration, but also to other people, animals, plants. A young lady in love perceives herself and the world around her as one whole. She sees life as bright, attractive and feels like a particle of the universe.

How a girl understands that she is in love: Pixabay

The state of euphoria

During the period of inception and at the initial stages of the development of falling in love, a girl is in a state of euphoria. Scientist Vladimir Vek, in his monograph “Love and Love as Subjects of Scientific Research,” explains that in a state of love, the body produces dopamine.

In science, it is considered the most important substance in the "reward system", thanks to which a person experiences positive emotions. Active production of the substance contributes to the emergence of euphoria. Girl in love:

  • becomes distracted, inattentive;
  • confuses dates and events;
  • mixes facts;
  • loses its vigilance.

A lover is in a state of bliss, spiritual uplift, which is not always associated with external factors and circumstances. The girl feels a sudden, powerful feeling of delight and happiness filling her whole being.

All her attention is focused on the object of adoration, which she idealizes. For example, Jessica Parker was desperately in love with Robert Downey Jr. and did not notice his addictions, which later led to a break in their relationship.

Increased sense of smell

In the state of being in love, a girl is able to subconsciously react to the smell of her lover. In PubMed, psychologist Johan Lundström, Ph.D., explained that a couple's sense of smell is only heightened for the object of love and at the same time blocks the scents of other potential partners.

The smell of a loved one evokes pleasant emotions and memories in a girl. For example, if the object of love constantly uses some kind of perfume, then when a girl hears this aroma, tender feelings associated with a loved one appear.

In the process of accepting or not accepting a person as a potential partner, the brain does not analyze its aroma, but immediately gives an answer - is it suitable for the role of a lover or not. This is how a number of body mechanisms work that help a lady choose the best father for future offspring.

Smell on a subconscious level informs a person about the health and strength of a loved one, about his immunity, provides information about how good the compatibility of his and her microflora is, which is important for the birth of healthy children.


In a state of love, girls often mystify current events and look for a secret meaning in everything.

Signs of a girl's love: Pixabay

Mystification is a natural psychological reaction that, at the subconscious level, tries to explain the reason for such strong feelings for a person, to make them objective and rational.

It is difficult for a lady in a state of love to analyze and explain why exactly this person awakened feelings in her soul. She begins to look for a hidden meaning in everything, to mystify what is happening in order to prove to herself that the guy is her destiny.

Cases from life, significant and insignificant coincidences are perceived by a lover as a series of events that brought her and her loved one to the meeting point. For example, she learned that:

  • he went to the same school as her;
  • they have friends in common;
  • they live in the same area.

The girl draws mystical parallels between completely unrelated facts, in which she finds confirmation that he is intended for her.


It is difficult for a girl in love to be separated from the object of love. Candidate of Psychological Sciences Nadezhda Mayer explains that in the brain of a girl in love, processes similar to those that accompany the onset of addiction occur (the same areas are activated in the brain). When a girl is in love, she experiences the sensations that, for example, a drug addict experiences: when he has a drug, he feels good, and if he does not have it, withdrawal begins.

Near the object of love, she feels an emotional lift, a surge of strength, happiness. A girl can listen to the stories of her chosen one for hours. For example, Liv Taylor and Joaquin Phoenix, when they were in love, strove to spend every second together: in between filming, they took refuge in each other's trailers.

When the lover is not around, the girl:

  • feels a painful craving for her lover;
  • feels an irresistible desire to see him, to be near him, or simply to call him;
  • suffers from his absence, tormented by doubts and hopes;
  • is waiting for news from the object of adoration.

In separation, a girl in love is burdened by time, all her thoughts are focused on waiting for a new meeting.

Love is the main emotional need of people. Listen to yourself, analyze your own feelings and sensations. Internal signals, body reactions and psychological state will help the girl understand whether a bright feeling or excitement has settled in her heart - this is just a fleeting hobby.

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6 ways to understand if you are in love or you just like him -


Many girls, especially in adolescence, do not distinguish between sympathy, falling in love and love. That is why it happens that you throw yourself on his neck, you convince yourself that this is love before the wedding and the crowd of screaming and terribly beautiful kids in the future, and then you suffer when the fairy tale does not go according to the script. Here are 6 ways for you to understand whether the prince is your boyfriend or just passed by.

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You are in love if you accept all his shortcomings

Love differs from sympathy in that when someone sympathizes with us, we see good and bad sides in him, and we intend to correct the bad ones. But if we are in love, then we love absolutely everything in a guy, from his terrible passion for computer games to his inability to eat hamburgers neatly. If you notice his shortcomings, but are ready to put up with them, then you are definitely in love.

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You are in love if your feelings are constant

Sympathy is a very unstable feeling. Love is a little different. If your relationship has been going on for quite a long time, and there is no emotional swing like “I love” - “I don’t love”, then you can safely assume that you are in love. And your boyfriend probably too ;)0009

A person can be liked in different ways: emotionally, mentally and physically. And each level means something different. If you are comfortable with him on a mental level, this is most likely more friendship or admiration, on the physical level, an attraction that quickly passes, but the emotional level is the strongest. If you are emotionally comfortable with him, it is no longer just sympathy.

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You are in love if you experience strong tactile and emotional sensations

It's easy to fight sympathy - your brain never turns off and constantly tells you that something is wrong with this type: his friends are stupid, and he kisses badly, and some one is not reliable, and in general that guy over there it’s also very personal… If so, it’s better not to wind yourself up, you’re far from falling in love, but if every touch is like an explosion and reverberates throughout the body, it’s definitely falling in love.

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You are in love if you want something more

Sympathy begins with smiles, light touches, hugs and kisses.

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