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The word is not a sparrow.

I always assume that all people are nice and kind. And with the majority (what luck!) expectations are justified. However, there is a separate category of people who also seem to be nice and kind - at least from afar and at first it seems that way. But upon closer examination, the hair begins to slowly but surely stand on end, and the eye twitch rhythmically.

They are called sociopaths (although they are not alone in their behavior - there are, for example, narcissists). They are very similar to the "normal" because they masterfully mastered the art of pretense. But you can recognize them - in particular, by what is very difficult to control, that is, by speech. Psychologists have identified several speech markers, the main purpose of which is to unbalance others, which brings incredible pleasure to the sociopath. So, what are these "calls"? nine0003

You… (stupid, inexperienced, jealous, obsessed, sloppy, irresponsible, and much, much more)

Sociopaths are masters of "You-messages". Although psychologists unanimously shout that in order to avoid conflict, the focus should shift to “I-messages”. But why would a sociopath need them if conflict is exactly what he needs?

"You" is always followed by non-constructive criticism. This may be an incorrect remark, a mockery, even an insult, a transition to the individual. nine0003

By the way, “you-messages” in a fit of anger, resentment, disappointment, we all sin (but not all of us are sociopaths!). However, for most people, these are isolated manifestations - sociopaths literally revel in "you". If your colleague, friend, partner, neighbor, acquaintance speaks with “you” and baseless criticism, it is better to stay away from him.

By the way, sociopaths still sin with the word "they". Such people easily comb entire teams with one comb - for example, their colleagues and relatives, clearly opposing themselves to them. They are so creepy, so evil, and I'm different - white and fluffy. So sociopathic. nine0003

Why does a sociopath need "you" and "they"? This is vital for belittling the dignity of another person, for lowering his self-esteem, in order to assert himself, to justify his toxic behavior.

Don't make a scene. I hate scenes

When saying this, sociopaths usually roll their eyes defiantly. In fact, they love the stage and love it even more when they are the protagonists on that stage.

Acting in public is another virtuoso skill of sociopaths, who seem to have learned best of all that "the world is a theater, and the people in it are actors." They play, by the way, talentedly. nine0003

First they woo their new "victim", sing her praises, pay compliments and notice everything in the world. But sooner or later, a peak situation occurs: the sociopath "misses" and lowers his mask of an adorer - the "victim" reacts naturally: he says that she is hurt, that it is not necessary with her, that she is offended. And even a tiny hint of discontent and disagreement is a wake-up call for a sociopath: that's it, my brilliant exit!

Instead of asking what he did wrong, what hurt, he will start attacking. And immediately incredibly pathetic and large-scale. So you just said that you were hurt, for example, by words, and he already flew up to you, defiantly waving his arms, and babbling something about the fact that he hates scenes, he does not need drama. nine0003

Why? Sociopaths have such a lifestyle: make the “victim” feel guilty, look for the problem in themselves, even apologize for the “scene”. Manipulations of pure water, in general.

You got it all wrong. It's not what you think

Yes, "misunderstandings" happen between people, but sociopaths create them on purpose. This is called gaslighting, in which one person literally drives the other crazy, assuring that white is black and black is white.

If during a conversation with a person you have a suspicion that something is not understood or understood incorrectly, it is better to ask again. "Not sociopaths" will simply explain their position (and, most likely, you will come to a consensus together). But sociopaths will continue to “bend their line”, confusing you further and more. If there are suspicions that the interlocutor is “sociopathic”, do not doubt your adequacy: you heard and understood everything correctly, but your opponent is trying his best to dissuade and undermine you. nine0003

You will be lost without me. You are nothing without me

It seems that every person has ever heard such a phrase. By the way, it is pronounced not only by parting partners, ex-wives and husbands. All sociopaths do not disdain her - both parents and children, and even friends and acquaintances.

There is no care in this phrase, no desire to warn against a rash step, to protect against a wrong decision. But here there are tons of dominance, tons of total control and kilograms of the desire to subdue at all costs. nine0003

You definitely do not need this: You will definitely live and not be lost without such a friend nearby. But he will disappear: in order to satisfy his toxicity, he needs a listener, an object of his actions. Without you, you will have to look for a new “victim”, and today, when people are so passionate about mental health and read and study a lot, it is not so easy anymore. The sociopath will be sad.

How vulnerable we are!

Sociopaths are, of course, the most virtuoso of actors, but they get bored of playing their role for a long time. Therefore, do not be surprised that the person who showered you with compliments, walked on your heels and constantly admired, suddenly got hooked on some trifle in the conversation (not even a word - half a tone, half an emotion) - and he was somehow replaced. Of course, he will inflate “not a conflict” to the level of a tragedy. You don’t even have to try to make excuses: any of your words will be turned upside down, turned upside down - and as a result of this somersault, something completely different will come out. The purpose of this is one - to subdue you, to make you doubt yourself, to unsettle you. It is not surprising that even healthy, strong people, after talking to a toxic sociopath for only a week, turn into a complete neurosis. nine0003

Why? This is how sociopaths look for their “victims”. If you survived, did not succumb to manipulation, you are not on your way - you will have to invest too much effort. And if you succumbed - write wasted. But it's gone for you. But the sociopath will sincerely rejoice.

What to do?

On this topic, you can write a separate huge article: there are indeed a lot of recommendations from psychologists. However, there is also universal advice - to ignore and run as fast as you can.

Ignore disarms the sociopath, because he expects you to get involved in his game, to be led by him, to admire his "theater". In general, you have to disappoint the sociopath. And to run... Psychologists recommend stopping all communication with such people. However, this is not always possible (for example, if parents, children, or a leader exhibit toxic behavior), so contact should be minimized as much as possible. And yes… don’t lose faith that there really are more truly good people (even if it seems naive for our unpredictable 21st century). nine0003

10 phrases that only sociopaths say: if you heard them from your boyfriend, be careful

Psychology of relationships Rules of conduct, norms of morality and ethics, as well as sympathy and empathy for him are an empty phrase. He is an excellent liar and manipulator, capable of anything to achieve his goals.

A guy with this disease can really be very bright and charming, and also have high intelligence. And this is where the main danger lies: his head works like a clock, only a cuckoo periodically flies out of them. nine0003

No one will ever love you the way I do

Reminds me of Beauty and the Beast. There, the negative hero sang: "No one will bite you like Gaston." A sociopath is trying to convince you of his indispensability and at the same time lower your self-esteem.

Although, if you look, what is so special about it? Your neuroses, complexes and regular lies? After such a relationship, there is a chance to wear not a wedding dress, but a straitjacket. You will sit in the corner and quietly carry on conversations with the bedside table. nine0003

You are the most amazing woman, I have never met anyone like her before

It sounds flattering, but delusional, it can only be true if he spent his whole life in the forest, ate toadstools and ate them with fly agarics. In all other cases, the man was somehow included in society and met many interesting girls on his way.

The purpose of these words is to make you feel exceptional, praise is also a way of controlling and helps to keep the victim on a short leash ( see also: Character traits that attract abusers into your life).

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You are too sensitive .

Such a partner never admits the blame and always shifts it to others. By the way, people with antisocial disorder are real vampires, they live according to the principle “Do something nasty - joy in my heart” and enjoy torturing others ( see also: 30 common phrases that only an abuser can say).

Only you understand me and make me better

Manipulators often put pressure on pity, their favorite song could sound like this: “No one loves me, no one cares, I’ll go to the garden, we hire worms.” Beware of compliments with a double bottom, in this case, you need to pay attention to the second part of the sentence.

It is as if you are being given responsibility for the improvement of your loved one and his personal growth. If he does something wrong, then you will be to blame again, because you could not guide the poor thing on the right path. nine0003

You got it all wrong.

Just a moment, ladies and gentlemen. Only we have a person with the logic level of "God", hurry to see! Just now you were the most understanding and smart in the world, and suddenly you suddenly turned into a charm, what kind of fool? An interesting metamorphosis, and most importantly, it can be used to justify any “perdimonocle” that this “genius” throws out.

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It didn't happen/I didn't say that

He's not a cretin with a memory like a fish, but a real gaslighter. Gaslighting is an attempt to drive you crazy, to make you doubt your own adequacy and perception of reality. nine0003

Give in - and you yourself will not notice how you stop trusting yourself. In response to any reproach, the scoundrel will make big, honest eyes and say: “I came up with it myself, I was offended by myself, are you sure that you didn’t dream it? I don't remember that."

Take everything easy

No, this impudent type has not known Zen and does not offer you to get rid of the hustle and bustle of everyday life with the help of uterine breathing. This is another escapist story, this time by blaming you for complicating your relationship. Don't believe? Tell him, "Hey princess, less stress!" and watch how the adept of harmony and tranquility hisses and bursts with anger. nine0003

I hate scenes

This is a very convenient line, when you refuse to tolerate narcissistic pens, the man will immediately say that this is a theater of one actress, and our "martyr" does not like scenes so much. Carefully! In fact, before you is a real "Drama queen", scandals and violent manifestations of emotions - the meaning of its existence. He just thinks that only he can hysteria and stomp his feet.

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You are mine. As long as you agree to play by the rules of your partner, he will pour sweet poison into your ears, as soon as you show even a hint of independence, you will immediately hear that you are callous, like a bun, round like a sleeve, and in general - fu, be like that. But in general, you belong to only one person - yourself. nine0003

Where would you be if it wasn't for me

A joke about a married couple immediately comes to mind:

– Honey, what is your main erotic fantasy?

– I am making love in a cowgirl position on an open-air beach.

– And me?

-And you stayed at home!

A sociopath wants to destroy your self-esteem and completely subjugate you, his best assistants in this dirty business are depreciation and humiliation.

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