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Medically reviewed by Cydney Ortiz, PsyD — By Taneasha White — Updated on Feb 14, 2022

Your parenting style can affect how your child engages with the world and influence how they navigate their lives into adulthood. This can range from the partners and friends we seek out to our relationship with food and exercise.

There are three parenting styles.

Authoritative: This is a nurturing and supportive parenting style, with firm limits set for children. To try to control their child’s behavior, parents will often explain and discuss the rules and limits they’ve set. They will listen to their child’s point of view but may not consider it.

Permissive: Permissive parents are known to be loving and warm but don’t usually monitor their children closely or set hard boundaries with clear expectations of appropriate behavior. According to the American Psychological Association, children who grow up with permissive guardians tend to be impulsive, rebellious, aggressive and have challenges with self-reliance and self-control.

Uninvolved or flexible: Parents who are in the category of flexibility or uninvolved (sometimes called laissez-faire) have a style that may be seen as unavailable, neglectful or absent. Children of these parents may have challenges with self-esteem and seek out unhealthy substitutions for parents. According to a 2019 study, people with uninvolved parents often have trouble with social relationships and emotional regulation.

This brief, time-saving questionnaire is designed for anyone who may have questions about the parenting style they were raised under.

The quiz could also be helpful if you have questions about your own parenting style or about your child’s responses to your decision making.

This online screening is not a definitive tool. The quiz will not determine the reasoning behind your feelings and behaviors or your children’s.

Still, it can be useful if you’re thinking about where to begin conversations or determining whether you’d like to consider therapy for yourself, your child, or your family.

Instructions

For each item, indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. Take your time and answer truthfully for the most accurate results. (If both parents are available, it might be a good idea for both to take the quiz and then compare their parenting styles.)

This online screening is not a diagnostic tool. Only a trained medical professional, like a doctor or mental health professional, can help you determine the next best steps for you.

Ready to start therapy? Our Find a Therapist resource may help.

Last medically reviewed on February 13, 2022

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Parenting Quiz - Active Parenting

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Do you ever stop to think about your overall approach to parenting? How about your partner’s? Identifying your parenting styles can be very helpful in figuring out how to understand each other and in making positive changes. Here’s what Doc Pop has to say on the subject:

Differences in parenting styles are a problem for both parents and children. At the least, it invites kids to play one parent against the other in a smart attempt to get the answer that they want to hear. This is not the child’s fault. After all, a child is just using good common sense! However, it does create a situation in which rules are not clear or consistently enforced, which is bad for the child as well as for the parent.

At its extreme, a polarization of styles can occur in which one parent compensates for the perceived weaknesses of the other. For example, if the father is too strict, the mother may overcompensate by becoming more lenient. That may prompt the father to become even stricter as he attempts to overcompensate for her leniency. The result can be a very confusing world for the child to navigate—one that can set the stage for mental health problems in some children.

While parents do not have to be identical in parenting styles, they should agree to discuss matters between them and come to an agreement about what to tell the child. This may require compromise between the adults, before even beginning to involve the child.

To help parents find a successful middle ground, or in the case of single parents, to understand where they may want to modify their own style, it is helpful for them both to take a parenting course, or to at least read and discuss the Parent’s Guide. Many parents have taken an Active Parenting course and then shared what they learned with their partners. Often, the partner then wants to take the course, too. The goal is not to parent identically, but to find common ground and to learn to support each other as well as the children.

-Michael H. Popkin, Ph.D.
Author: Active Parenting

Take this quiz to discover your parenting style!

Click here for a printable version of the test.

Please select the appropriate button for every question.

Part 1: Beliefs
1. It is better to give a little ground and protect the peace than to stand firm and provoke a fight.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
2. Children need discipline that hurts a little so that they will remember the lesson later.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
3. Children shouldn’t always get their way, but usually we ought to learn to listen to what they have to say. *
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
4. The parent-child relationship is like a war in which if the parent wins, both sides win; but if the parent loses, both sides lose.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
5. If parents provide a good environment, children will pretty much raise themselves.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
6. The parent’s role is like that of a teacher who is preparing the child for a final exam called life.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
7. Childhood is so short that parents should do everything to make it a happy time.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
8. “Spare the rod and spoil the child” is still the best policy. *
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
9. Children need to learn what they may or may not do, but we don’t have to use punishment to teach.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
10. Whether we like it or not, children have the last word about what they will or won’t do.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
11. If you let children have pretty free rein, they will eventually learn from the consequences of their behavior what is appropriate.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
12. Children first have to learn that the parent is boss.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
13. Too many children today talk back to their parents when they should just quietly obey them. *
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
14. If we want children to respect us, we must first treat them with respect.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
15. You can never do too much for your child if it comes from genuine love.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
Part 2: Actions
16. I often have to call my child more than once to get her or him out of bed in the morning.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
17. I have to constantly stay on top of my child to get things done.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
18. When my child misbehaves, he or she usually knows what the consequences will be. *
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
19. I often get angry and yell at my child.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
20. I often feel that my child is taking advantage of my good nature.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
21. We have discussed chores at our home and everybody takes part.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
22. My child gets a spanking at least once a month.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
23. My child has no regular chores around the home, but will occasionally pitch in when asked.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
24. I usually give my child clear instructions as to how I want something done.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
25. My child is finicky eater, so I have to try various combinations to make sure he or she gets the proper nutrition.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
26. I don’t call my child names, and I don’t expect to be called names by my child.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
27. I usually give my child choices between two appropriate alternatives rather than telling my child what to do.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
28. I have to threaten my child with punishment at least once a week.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
29. I wish my child wouldn’t interrupt my conversations so often.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree
30. My child usually gets up and ready without my help in the morning.*
- Strongly Disagree
- Disagree
- Neutral
- Agree
- Strongly Agree

Click on the SUBMIT button above to see your results!

What is your parenting style? — Online test

Punish for eating chocolate on the sly or shoot a story with a little sweet tooth for Instagram? Buy comics or still a series of encyclopedias "I know the world"? Parents' answers to these questions vary depending on their own ideas about parenting.

We invite you to try on yourself 7 situations with children of different ages and determine which category of parents you belong to. Stock up on humor and self-irony: this is not a serious psychological test.

Question 1 of 7

It's late and your child can't sleep because he's afraid there's a monster in the closet. Your actions?

I’ll just turn off the light and close the room — already an adult, to be afraid of monsters not there

I'll take you to bed with us - why make the child nervous again

Question 2 of 7

Your child is a very picky eater. This week is Cheese Sandwich Week. How will you solve the problem?

I'll try different types of cheese, add lettuce or tomato. This will soon pass, but for now I will adjust

I will calmly explain the consequences of such a “diet” and offer to cook something tasty for the child’s choice instead of it

Are sandwiches really food? Will eat right and as usual, I don’t know anything

Sandwiches are great, I don’t have to cook

Question 3 of 7

Your child has an incredible mess in the room, and in a couple of hours his friends are waiting for him at the cinema. How do you do?

No way, if he wants to, he will clean up. He should sleep in a mess, not me

I'll put things in order in the room. I don't have any other plans anyway, but he's going to the movies

He won't go to the movies until he cleans up the room

In general, I'll forbid going to the movies. Let him first learn to take care of himself, then he will have fun

Question 4 of 7

Your child took third place in the English Olympiad. What is your reaction?

I will praise and say that I am proud of him. It's obvious

I'll buy him a worthwhile gift for this occasion. Although it couldn't have been otherwise - we prepared together for a whole month

Does my child know English so well? Unexpectedly

Nothing much to be happy about. It is necessary to understand why only the third place is where there are gaps in knowledge

Question 5 of 7

Unplanned day off due to heavy snow at school. How will you spend it with your child?

I have business. And the child will find something to do with himself: play a console, watch YouTube, run around with friends on the street

An excellent opportunity to take an additional English lesson. I'm already contacting the teacher

Let him spend the day as he wants. The main thing is not to go out, otherwise your feet will get wet, you will catch a cold

Let's think of a joint activity - watch a movie in English, put together a puzzle or play board games

Question 6 of 7

A school teacher is calling - your child got into a fight at recess. What will you do?

I'll go to school to sort things out. Surely my child has nothing to do with it, he was just defending himself

First, I'll find out from him what really happened. Then together we will try to understand how it would be possible to do without a fight. I will deprive my phone for a month as a punishment

The children will figure it out themselves, I will not interfere

Question 7 of 7

You have heard rumors that your child is dating someone at school. How will you react to such news?

I will unobtrusively offer to bring a guy / girl to visit to get acquainted

I will try to find out from teachers and parents of classmates what kind of guy / girl this is

I will rejoice, but I will not embarrass with unnecessary talk

I will conduct an educational conversation. Entering a prestigious university is at stake, you can’t waste your time on such frivolous things

0 out of 7

Your parenting style is closer to jellyfish parents. It is more important for you to be your children first of all a friend, not an authority. There are no strict rules in your house, and therefore no punishments for breaking them. In general, you give children a lot of freedom (sometimes, perhaps even too much).

Sign up for a free newsletter for parents. Once a week you will receive letters with tips on how to instill in your child a love of the English language.

Your parenting style is closer to dolphin parents. There are rules in your house and you make certain demands on the children, but at the same time you always try to take into account their opinions and interests. Virtually no decisions in the family are made without joint discussion.

Sign up for a free newsletter for parents. Once a week you will receive letters with tips on how to instill in your child a love of the English language.

You are like a lawn mower: you “clear” the road for your child, solving all the problems for him if possible. He will still have the opportunity to cope with difficulties himself, but for now there is you for this. Your child is always surrounded by love and care, sometimes even a little excessive.

Sign up for a free newsletter for parents. Once a week you will receive letters with tips on how to instill in your child a love of the English language.

Your parenting style is similar to tiger parents. You like everything in order and raise children in strict discipline. The main priority for you (and therefore for your child, this is not discussed) is studying. Therefore, your child most likely has very little free time: the whole day is scheduled with circles and additional activities.

Sign up for a free newsletter for parents. Once a week you will receive letters with tips on how to instill in your child a love of the English language, and in general, raise a smart, happy and self-confident child.

Take the test again

Tests for parents | Test on the topic:

CARD FILE:

"QUESTIONNAIRE AND TESTS FOR PARENTS".

Test: "What kind of parent are you?"

Please mark the phrases that you often use when communicating with children.

Questions	Points
1. How many times do you have to repeat?	2
2. Please advise me.	1
3. I don't know what I would do without you.	1
	2
5. What wonderful friends you have!	1
6. Who do you look like?	2
7. When I was your age...	2
8. You are my support and helper.	1
9. What kind of friends do you have?	2
10. What are you thinking about?!	2
	1
12. What do you think, son (daughter)?	1
. All children, like children, and you ...	2
14. What kind of intensive (Aya) I have!	1

Test key. Now calculate the total points.

5 to 7 points. You live soul to soul with a child. You respect the child, and he sincerely loves and respects you. Your relationship contributes to the formation of his personality.

8 to 10 points. There are some difficulties in the relationship with the child, misunderstanding of his problems, attempts to transfer the blame for the shortcomings in his development to the child himself.

11 points or more. You are inconsistent in communicating with your child. He respects you, although he is not always frank with you. Its development is subject to the influence of random circumstances.

Of course, you understand that this is only a hint at the actual state of affairs, because no one knows better than you yourself what kind of parent you are.

Child Anxiety Test .

Read these statements carefully and rate how relevant they are to your child. If this manifestation is pronounced, put 2 points; if it occurs periodically - 1 point; if absent - 0 points.

Easily upset, worries a lot.
Often cries, whines, cannot calm down for a long time.
Capricious and irritated over trifles.
Often offended, pouting, unable to bear any remarks.
There are fits of anger.
Stutters.
Bites nails.
Thumb sucking.
Has a poor appetite.
Picky eaters.
Difficulty falling asleep.
Sleeps restlessly.
Gets up reluctantly.
Blinks fast.

15. Pulls his arm, shoulder, pulls clothes.

16. Cannot concentrate, quickly distracted.

17. Tries to be quiet.

18. Afraid of the dark.

19. Afraid of loneliness.

20. Afraid of failure, unsure of himself, indecisive.

21. Feels inferior.

Results processing

28-42 points – neurosis, high degree of psycho-emotional stress.

20-27 points - neurosis was or will be in the near future.

14-19 points - nervous breakdown, average degree of psycho-emotional stress.

7-13 points - a high degree of psycho-emotional stress, the child needs attention.

Less than 7 points - deviations are insignificant and are an expression of age characteristics.

Questionnaire for parents

1. How does your daughter (son) go to kindergarten?

- joyfully;

- sometimes does not want to;

- often refused;

- naughty;

- your own version (write).

2. What do you see as the reason for the child's reluctance to go to kindergarten?

- difficulties in relations with a teacher;

- difficulties in relationships with peers;

- attachment to mother;

- falling asleep late in the evening;

- your own version.

3. How is your daughter's (son's) relationship with adults?

Safe:

- with caregivers;

- with an assistant teacher;

- with a music director;

- with other specialists;

Unfavorable:

- sometimes there are conflicts;

- takes offense at adults for being punished and not allowed to take toys;

- your own version.

4. With which of the children in the group does your child communicate most often?

5. Does he talk about his relationship with his children at home?

- yes;

- no;

- sometimes.

6. Does he complain about his peers?

- yes;

- no;

- sometimes.

7. Complains about what?

- children do not take in the game;

- offended;

- do not want to be friends;

- take away toys;

- make noise;

- your own version.

8. What would you like to change in your daughter's (son's) relationship with peers?

9. Does your child have self-esteem? How does it manifest itself?

10. How does your child usually react to aggression from other children, adults (when they shout at him, take away toys, threaten, etc.)?

11. How does your child interact with other children?

- balanced;

patient;

- sensitive;

- compliant;

friendly or quick-tempered;

- more likely to command than to obey;

- your own version.

12. In your opinion, how do relationships between children and parents influence the child's communication with peers and adults in kindergarten?

- no direct influence?

- the well-being of family relationships is the psychological protection, emotional support of the child, which makes his life easier in kindergarten;

- the essence of family relations is still not clear enough for a child, therefore. ..

QUESTIONNAIRE

"WHAT DO YOU EXPECT FROM KINDERGARTEN THIS YEAR?"

Dear mothers and fathers, grandparents!

So you have crossed the threshold of our kindergarten. Welcome! We hope that our acquaintance will turn into true friendship, and your baby will be comfortable and interesting with us. It is very important for us to know your mood, feelings and expectations from your child's stay in kindergarten. Please answer the following questions:

1. What attracts you most about our kindergarten (check one)

Proximity to home;

Good condition of the territory and material and technical equipment of the groups;

Availability of a creative, professional teaching staff;

good reviews from other parents;

interesting programs for the education and development of the child;

Availability of additional services;

good food;

high level of preparation for school;

Your answers?

2. What, in your opinion, is the most important thing for the successful adaptation of a child in kindergarten

Kind attitude of educators towards the child;

large number of toys per group;

good health of the child;

observance of the daily routine in kindergarten and at home;

A unified approach to the issues of adaptation of the child by parents and educators;

Your answer?

3. What do you think is important for a caregiver to know about your child

4. What do you think your child should learn this year?

5. As a parent, what would you like to learn from caregivers?

6. What experience of family education would you like to share?

7. Do you often draw, play, read with your child at home?

8. What kind of advice on the upbringing and development of the child would you like to receive?

specialist advice;

Questioning on various issues;

participation in tenders;

participation in the preparation of children's holidays and entertainment;

participation in sports competitions;

Watching open activities with children;

Your answer?

Thank you for your cooperation!

QUESTIONNAIRE

"BY THE RESULTS OF THE YEAR"

Dear mothers, fathers, grandparents!

The school year has ended. It's time to take stock and make plans for the future It is very important for us to know your opinion about the work of the kindergarten team with the family in the past year.

1. Are you satisfied with the work of the kindergarten in general?

2. Do the group teachers treat your child well?

3. How does your child attend kindergarten (check one):

· With pleasure;

visits, but not very willingly;

dislikes going to kindergarten;

· He often gets sick, so he doesn't attend kindergarten much.

4. Did you receive detailed information about your child's life in kindergarten?

5. What activities do you remember most in kindergarten?

6. What reasons prevented you from attending all events?

7. What topics of interest to you have remained untouched by kindergarten teachers this year?

8. What forms of work with the family seemed most interesting to you (check the one that applies):

parent-teacher meetings;

specialist advice;

questioning;

open classes;

contests;

Exhibitions;

visual information;

public events;

Other ____________________________?

9. What would you wish the kindergarten staff to improve their work in the future?

Thank you for your answers and we look forward to working with you in the new academic year!

Questionnaire “Peculiarities of raising a child in a family,

his inclinations, interests”

At what age does a child attend kindergarten?
What toys, games, materials does the child have?
Who is more likely to bring up a child?____________________
Does the older generation interfere in upbringing? How do you feel about this?_________________________________________________
Does the child have difficulties (underline) in dressing, falling asleep, washing, eating, cleaning toys, self-service in the toilet? ________
walks, sleep) _________
Are the adult members of the family unanimous in their approach to the child, in what is allowed or prohibited? (unanimously, not always, no), __________________________________________________
What measures of influence are applied to the child? (encouragement, punishment, suggestion, reprimand, explanation, reasoning)? ____________________________________________________
Whom does the child obey in the family? (mom, dad, everyone, no one) ___________________________________________________________
Does the child help around the house? _______________________________
What are the child's favorite games and toys, favorite fairy tales and books, favorite food ____________________________________
What qualities of a child do you especially value? (kindness, sociability, industriousness, perseverance, obedience)_________________
Does the child have the following problems: wets the bed (at night or during the day), bites his nails, sucks his thumb, etc. ? _________________________________________________________
Is religion an important part of family traditions? What religion do you follow? ____________________________________________

Revealing the pedagogical culture of parents

Dear ___________________________________________________________

Your sincere answers will help plan work with parents and establish a system of cooperation. Please tick the option that you think is correct.

Based on what knowledge do you raise your child?

a) listen to your teacher on radio and television;

b) on the basis of teachers' recommendations;

c) use life experience.

What methods of education do you consider the most effective?

a) promotion;

b) punishment;

c) requirement;

d) coercion.

What types of incentives do you use most often?

a) verbal praise;

b) gifts;

c) caresses.

What types of punishments are the most effective in education?

a) verbal threat;

b) physical punishment;

c) deprivation of entertainment;

d) your display of resentment.

Thank you for your cooperation!

Diagnosis of the child's emotional development

Describe the child's usual state.
Does he often cry?
How long does he stay upset?
What is the child afraid of?
Is he often angry, aggressive?
Does he get tired quickly?
Does the child have the following problems: wets the bed at night, bites his nails, sucks his thumb?
How does the child treat unfamiliar adults?
How does he feel about children?
How do you feel about animals?
Who in the family does the child obey?
Does he help around the house?
What qualities of a child do you especially value?
Are adult family members unanimous in relation to the child (what is allowed and what is prohibited)?

Test: "What kind of parent are you?"

It is no secret that the nature of the relationship between parents and a child has a significant impact on its development. Evaluate the features of your communication. How often do you use the following expressions?

What a fine fellow you are!
You are capable, you will succeed!
You are unbearable!
All children are like children, but I….
You are my assistant.
Everything is always wrong with you.
How many times do I tell you?
How smart you are!
So that I don't see your friends again!
What do you think?
You have fully blossomed!
Introduce me to your friends.
I will definitely help you, don't worry.
I'm not interested in what you want.

Processing of results. If you use the expressions 1, 2, 5, 8, 10, 12, 13, then give yourself 1 point. If you use expressions 3, 4, 6, 7, 9, 11, 14, then you count yourself 2 points. Calculate your total points.

7-8 points - there is complete mutual understanding between you and your child. You do not abuse excessive severity.

9-10 points - Your mood in communication with the child is inconsistent and depends more on random circumstances.

11-12 points - You are not attentive enough to the child, you may often suppress his freedom.

13-14 points - You are too authoritarian. Annoyance often arises between you and the child. Be more flexible with your child.

Tests for preschoolers
"What do I know about school?"

1. How do you address a teacher?
2. How to attract attention to yourself if you need to ask about something?
3. What do they say if you need to go to the toilet?
4. What is a lesson?
5. How do they know that it is time to start the lesson?
6. What is change?
7. What is the change for?
8. What is the name of the table at which children write at school?
9. Where does the teacher write when explaining the assignment?
10. What is a mark?
11. Which marks are good and which are bad?
12. What is a school diary?
13. Are there children of the same age or different in the class?
14. What are vacations?

Answers:

1. By name and patronymic and by you.
2. Silently raise your hand so that it can be seen.
3. Raise your hand and say: "Excuse me, you can go out."
4. This is the time during which children learn something new: listen to the teacher's explanations and students' answers, do exercises and do not leave the classroom. Sometimes the word "lesson" is simply called tasks.
5. A bell or a bell rings, the corridors are empty, the children go to classes.
6. A break is a break between lessons.
7. A change is needed so that the children can leave the classroom and rest.
8. Children write at their desks.
9. The teacher writes on the blackboard.
10. The mark is the number by which progress is evaluated - right or wrong, good or bad, the teaching has completed the task.
11. A diary is such a notebook where there is a lesson schedule, children write down homework, and the teacher puts marks.

"Do I want to go to school?"

1. When I go to school, I will make many new friends.
2. I wonder what lessons we will have.
3. I think that I will invite the whole class to my birthday party.
4. I would like the lesson to last longer than recess.
5. I wonder what the school offers for lunch?
6. When I go to school, I will study well.
7. The best thing about school life is the holidays.
8. It seems to me that there are more interesting things in school than in kindergarten.
9. I want to go to school, because many children from my house are already studying.
10. If I had been allowed, I would have gone to study already last year.

Ask the child: “If someone were to speak for you, would you agree or not?” - and record his answers. If he agrees with the statement, write down 1 point, if he does not agree - 0 points.

Calculation of results.
1-3 points - The child believes that he lives well without school.
4-8 points - I want to go to school. Let's just clarify. For what? If there are more points in the first five questions, the child mainly dreams of new games and friends. If there are more points in the second five questions, then he fully imagines the main purpose of the school, and it does not yet cause disgust.
9-10 points - great if your child maintains his/her attitude towards school for the next 10-11 years.

Tests for parents

“My style of raising a child in the family”

From the three answers for each question, choose the one that best matches your usual parenting behavior.

1. The child is naughty at the table, refuses to eat what he always ate. You:

a) give the child another meal;

b) let me leave the table;

c) do not leave the table until everyone has eaten.

2. Your child, having returned from a walk, burst into tears to find that he had lost his old favorite toy in the yard - a teddy bear. You:

a) go to the yard and look for a child's toy;

b) grieve with your child about his loss;

c) reassure the child with the words: “do not get upset over trifles.”

3. Your child is watching TV instead of doing his or her assignment in kindergarten. You:

a) turn off the TV without a word;

b) ask what the child needs to start doing the task;

c) shame the child for lack of concentration.

4. Your child left all the toys on the floor and didn't want to put them away. You:

a) put away some of the toys in a place inaccessible to the child: “let him get bored without them”;

b) offer your help with cleaning, such as: “I see that you are bored doing this alone…”, “I have no doubt that your toys obey you…”;

c) punish the child with deprivation of toys.

5. You came to the kindergarten to pick up your child, expecting that he would quickly get dressed, and you would have time to go to the post office, to the pharmacy. But under various pretexts, he is distracted from getting ready to go home, “pulling” time. You:

a) scold the child, showing your dissatisfaction with his behavior;

b) tell the child that when he behaves like this, you feel irritation and annoyance, perceiving this indifference on his part to your worries, tell him what you expect from him now;

c) you try to dress the child as soon as possible, somehow distracting them from pranks, while not forgetting to shame them so that their conscience is awakened.

Calculate which answers are more - a, b, c. Read the summary under each letter.

"A" - type of authoritarian parenting style, little trust in the child and consideration of his needs.

"B" - a style of education that recognizes the child's right to personal experience and mistakes, the emphasis is to teach him to be responsible for himself and his actions.

"B" - parenting style without any special attempts to understand the child, the main methods are censure and punishment.

Test for parents

Why does your child often get sick?

Let's try to figure out why your child gets sick so often and who should be contacted for help in the first place. You are offered 5 groups of questions (A-D), in each group there are 10 questions. For each affirmative answer, put 1 point, for negative - 0 points.
A.
1. During pregnancy, my mother often had acute respiratory infections, she had exacerbations of chronic diseases (pyelonephritis, cystitis, adnexitis, etc.).
2. In the first year of life, the baby was plump, loose.
3. The child began to get sick often before the age of one and was under the supervision of a neurologist.
4. The child began to get sick often after he got into the children's team (nursery, kindergarten, school).
5. Lymph nodes often increase in size in a child.
6. A child has a prolonged fever (37-37.5°C) without signs of an acute infectious disease.
7. The child has herpetic eruptions.
8. A child has furunculosis.
9. ARI in a child is often complicated by otitis, adenoiditis, bronchitis.
10. The child has adenoids, tonsils are enlarged.
B.
eczema), signs of food and/or drug allergies.
2. Mom used honey, nuts, chocolate, oranges, milk and/or antibiotics frequently during pregnancy and breastfeeding.
3. In the first year of life, the baby suffered from exudative-catarrhal diathesis - the skin on the cheeks was red and flaky.
4. The child sometimes has rashes on the skin (or was before).
5. The child has episodes of difficult breathing, attacks of suffocation.
6. The child was repeatedly diagnosed with obstructive bronchitis.
7. The child has a prolonged dry paroxysmal cough at night (from 1 to several months).
8. The child is often pale, and black circles appear under the eyes.
9. The child often gets sick after holidays - birthdays, New Year, Easter, etc.
10. A child has been diagnosed with intestinal dysbacteriosis.
B.
1. The child has adenoids.
2. A child often has tonsillitis.
3. Acute respiratory infections are usually accompanied by prolonged nasal congestion and runny nose.
4. Acute respiratory infections are sometimes complicated by inflammation of the middle ear (otitis media).
5. The doctor often says that the child has a "loose" throat, tonsils are enlarged (even when he is healthy).
6. In the first year of life, the baby was plump, loose.
7. Lymph nodes often increase in size in a child.
8. A child has a prolonged fever (37-37.5°C) without signs of an acute infectious disease.
9. The child has a prolonged cough - coughing, mainly during daytime and nighttime sleep.
10. A child has been diagnosed with intestinal dysbacteriosis.
G.
1. My mother had a difficult pregnancy - toxicosis, hypoxia, threatened miscarriage, various diseases.
2. The mother had a difficult delivery - they were too fast or, on the contrary, protracted, obstetric assistance was used (forceps, "squeezing", etc. ).
3 The baby didn't cry right away at birth.
4. The child lags behind his peers in his development.
5. The child is too restless, does not sleep well.
6. The child has excessive sweating.
7. The child's skin often changes color - it turns red, turns pale, covered with red spots, blood vessels are clearly visible on it and it resembles marble.
8. His hands and feet are often cold and sometimes bluish.
9. He has high or low blood pressure.
10. A child has a prolonged fever (37-37.5°C) without signs of an acute infectious disease.
D.
1. You believe that strict discipline develops a strong character.
2. You often regret that the child grows and matures, you want him to stay small longer.
3. You consider it your duty to know everything your child thinks, and he should not have secrets from his parents.
4. Your child does not have any hobbies (attending clubs at the insistence of parents does not count).
5. You always try to help your child and keep away from everyday problems.
6. You think that in order to raise a child to be a decent person, he should be kept within strict limits.
7. When you are sick, you are especially attentive to the child, but the same cannot be said about the time when he is healthy.
8. You consider your child immature, not independent and not very capable.
9. Your child very rarely plays (with toys, peers), rarely draws not on the instructions of the teacher, but on his own. You are unhappy when he is idle.
10. You often say the phrase "You always get sick (cold)!"
Results.
If you scored from 3 to 10 points, answering questions from group A, your child's frequent illnesses are most likely the immune system. Therefore, you will need:

consultation with an immunologist
special examination of the immune system - immunogram
if necessary - immunocorrection

If you scored from 3 to 10 points in group B, your child is prone to allergic reactions. Often, allergic respiratory diseases pass under the guise of "frequent acute respiratory infections. " Your child needs:

consultation with an allergist, a special regimen and diet that limits contact with allergens
a planned step-by-step treatment of the underlying disease.

If you scored from 3 to 10 points, answering the questions of group B, the child's frequent respiratory diseases may be associated with chronic diseases of the ENT organs (tonsillitis, adenoiditis). This can be both an independent cause of frequent acute respiratory infections, and a consequence of immunological deficiency, therefore, it is necessary:

consultation with an ENT doctor,
consultation with an immunologist,
treatment of the underlying disease and, if necessary, immunocorrection.

If you scored between 3 and 10 points in Group D, your child cannot be ruled out having a nervous system disorder. He can often get sick, as the nervous and immune systems are very closely related. In addition, children with pathology of the autonomic nervous system are often characterized by excessive sweating, which leads to rapid hypothermia and, as a result, a cold. Required:

joint observation of a neurologist and an immunologist
rational clothing and daily routine
hardening

If you scored from 3 to 10 points, answering the questions of group D, your child most likely has serious psychological problems. Frequent acute respiratory infections can be "beneficial" to the child, for example, by giving the opportunity to receive parental attention, which he is deprived of. The illnesses of the baby may be "needed" by parents - if they allow them to unite, to get some advantages. Moreover, neither adults nor children most often do not realize what is happening. The tendency to respiratory diseases can be exacerbated by a model of upbringing in the family that is unfavorable for the development of the child. Required:

exclusion of diseases of the immune and nervous systems, ENT organs
psychologist's consultation.

Perhaps you scored 3-10 points in several questionnaires at once. This is not surprising, because the majority of children who are often and long-term ill have problems with the immune system, and with the nervous, and ENT organs suffer, etc. Therefore, to begin with, choose the questionnaire that has the maximum number of points and start with the specialist who, in our opinion, is the "main" in this particular section. Solve problems gradually and do not try to do everything at once.
If you scored an equal number of points in several questionnaires - make an appointment with several specialists. Anyway, someone will accept you first, someone will like you more, and so on. In any case, choose the leading doctor, because folk wisdom is right: even seven nannies have a child without an eye. There must be a person who makes the most important decisions, directs all actions and directs them in the right direction. They, by the way, may be your local pediatrician.

Encouragement and punishment in the upbringing of children.

Dear parents! We ask you to answer questions about the use of incentives and punishments in the upbringing of children. Your sincere answers will help prepare a meaningful and interesting conversation.

1 Does your child obey you?

2 Is it necessary to use punishment in education?.

3How do you enforce the order?

4 Why and how do you punish your child?

5 Why and how do you reward?

6 What punishments and rewards have been applied to the child

in the last two weeks?

The following points enable you to answer with yes and no.

A) When a child is guilty, I talk to him alone, I don't sort things out

in front of strangers.

B) I empathize, I sympathize with my child, I forgive, I believe in him.

C) I have never yelled or punished a child.

D) I do not leave a single offense unpunished.

E) The only thing that affects my child is severe punishment.

E) If possible, I try not to punish.

G) I praise the child for every success alone and in front of strangers.

Z) If I am in a good mood, I can forgive what I would have punished for at other times

I) It often happens like this: I will punish, and the husband (wife) is reproached for excessive severity

and forgive and comfort.

J) I make a decision about punishment only after I calm down and

find out the position of the child.

Is your child ready to go to school?

As a rule, parents of future first-graders are concerned about many questions: will their child be able to study at school, is he developed enough, what should he be able to do on the eve of entering school.

With the help of this test you can fairly objectively assess the readiness of the child for school. Answer the questions "YES" or "NO".

1. Does your child often express his desire to go to school?

2. Is your child more attracted to school trappings (bag, books, new "adult" position) than the opportunity to learn more and learn a lot?

3. Do you think that your child is diligent and attentive enough when performing a task that is not too attractive for him?

4. Is your child sociable with both children and adults?

5. Are you not sure if your child is able to memorize and follow verbal instructions (for example, by phone)?

6. Is your child unable to be alone for a minute and do something on their own?

7. Your child's toys and personal belongings are always in a mess and are you tired of reminding him to put them away?

8. Can your child count to twenty and back?

9. Can your child compare numbers and objects?

10. Can your child add and subtract within twenty?

Is your child ready to write?

Teaching a child to write beautifully and correctly is not an easy task. Long before school, parents should develop and train the child's hand, make it dexterous and confident. The questions in this test will help you assess your child's ability to master writing skills.

1. Does your child have a good sense of left and right?

a) always;

b) from case to case;

c) can't remember.

2. How does your child feel about the offer to draw?

a) reluctantly, but having started, will get carried away;

b) with great pleasure;

c) with the statement: "I won't succeed" and categorically refuses.

3. Your child's drawings are distinguished by:

a) the presence of trembling, broken lines, negligence;

b) originality, some sweeping;

c) accuracy and clarity of lines.

4. When drawing with a ballpoint pen, you notice that the child:

a) holding it like an adult;

b) his hand is tense or trembling, the pen constantly slips out;

c) holds it in an unusual way, draws confidently.

Is your child ready to read?

The sooner a child masters the ability to read consciously at school, the more successfully he will learn. It is necessary to teach a child to read without coercion. The ability to read does not arise from scratch, it is preceded by a number of other abilities. It is this test that can assess your child's readiness to read.

1. Does your child like fairy tales and stories?

2. Is the child able to retell them?

3. Does the child have a desire to look at books on their own?

4. Is your child more interested in the content of a fairy tale than pictures

in a book?

5. Does your child know letters, does he ask you to teach him to read?

6. Does he imitate reading aloud like adults?

7. Are he interested in educational books (about animals, ships, countries)?

8. Is your child attentive when you read to him?

9. Does your child have a good vocabulary and use it quite successfully

11. Does he understand the meaning of most difficult words?

12. Does he enjoy reading for him?

13. Having mastered the letters and words, does he try to read on his own?

14. Does your child have speech therapy problems?

15. Is your baby good at distinguishing similar sounds?

16. In a conversation, does he operate with extended non-monosyllabic sentences? 17.

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