Work spouse affair
Is Having A Work Wife Cheating?
In a world where you spend about 34.5 hours a week in the office, it makes sense that you would develop relationships with the people around you. It’s human nature to form bonds with the people you spend a lot of time with. You may even find yourself with a work spouse cheering you up throughout the day. Yet, what happens when that relationship is deeper than a friendship? Is having a work wife or husband cheating?
What Is A Work Spouse?
Similar to having a regular spouse, the work spouse—or work wife or husband—is a relationship built from trust and communication. Generally, these relationships form between two people who work well together and have some things in common. In the end, having a work wife or husband can make the office seem a lot more friendly, especially when you can talk to this person as openly as you do with your real spouse.
Is Having A Work Spouse A Bad Thing?
While the term “work wife” or “work husband” can be misleading and intimate, it is not always a bad thing. Finding camaraderie at work shouldn’t be frowned upon, especially when you are spending so much time there. Going throughout life without making connections at work is going to make waking up each day challenging, regardless of how healthy your home life happens to be.
People with stressful jobs benefit all the more from a work spouse. Having someone in your corner, rooting for you throughout the day, increases productivity and efficiency. Plus, it keeps you feeling motivated to go to work with a smile on your face.
So when you are calling your female coworker your work wife merely out of loving but platonic friendship, that is perfectly fine.
When Is Having A Work Spouse Considered Cheating?
Now, the work-spouse relationship tends to get tricky. Calling someone your “spouse” is elevating them to a place of intimacy. Should your actual marriage not be going well, there may be a chance that your work spouse becomes someone more than just a colleague. You may be tempted to start discussing problems at home with your work spouse rather than your
real spouse, and that can lead to an emotionally-charged relationship between you both.
This could transform into an emotional affair or even a physical one. With an emotional affair, you and your work spouse form an intense bond. You may start to distance yourself from your wife or husband because your emotional affair is the idealized romance that you crave. Plus, after having spent so long with your work spouse, you feel like they know the real you.
Having a work spouse can also be considered cheating when your wife at home finds out and feels you have crossed the line. Keep in mind that people have their own ideas about the nature of cheating or infidelity. What you may feel is normal could prompt anger and upset in your spouse.
How To Have A Healthy Work-Spouse Relationship
The best way to have a work-spouse relationship is to not call it that at all. Instead, focus on friendship and avoid forming attachments based on attraction. Your colleagues should be people who you trust. There should be no sense of competition or pettiness. Avoid establishing negative communication patterns.
If you are married, be open about that, and lay some ground rules if your colleague is of the opposite sex.
Remember, the success of your work partner is also your success. Working together for the betterment of the business should be your main goal. Also, keep in mind that moving the friendship beyond work can be risky, since it may complicate the overall relationship.
What If I’m Having An Emotional Affair?
Does it seem like dealing with your work wife and real wife is a slippery slope? Are you scared of what your spouse will do when they find out about your work friend? Do you crave time with your work spouse over the company of your husband? These are signs that you might be emotionally entwined with someone outside of the relationship. In other words, you are having an emotional affair.
At this point, your relationship with your work wife is no longer healthy. Your marriage may even be at risk. The best thing to do is to end the relationship with your work spouse as soon as possible.
Tell your spouse the truth of what happened. It is going to hurt, and they may lose trust in you, but it is better to end a relationship with your co-worker than lose your whole marriage.
Since the emotional affair was most likely caused by problems at home, promise to attend couples therapy together. There you can learn how to address certain problems and become more receptive to each other’s needs. Then, you may find you don’t need a work spouse at all.
Conclusion
While having a work wife or husband is not necessarily cheating, the connection involved does increase the risk of both emotional and physical affairs. Yes, you can be friends with the opposite sex at work, but you shouldn’t let it develop into anything intimate.
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How Having A Work Husband Ruined My Marriage
$106,400 + tax
…and counting. That’s the price my less-than-one-year affair from 2019-2020 cost me and is still costing me.
I know it’s uncommon to “give it all away” at the beginning of a story, but if you think the money I lost is the climax to this confession, you’re sadly mistaken. It may be a hook but it’s far from the worst part. And to be honest, a year later, I’m still paying for it.
Back in 2019, I worked at a highly recognizable media company for years. At the time, I was the director of my department. At this particular company, we have a ton of events and “happy hours” and to be honest, I can honestly say that I can see how functioning alcoholism can develop in the entertainment and fashion industries, but that’s not the point of this story.
What is, however, is the fact that I developed somewhat of a “work husband” by year three at my job.
He worked in another department but still within the same umbrella of work and we’d often collaborate on certain projects. Now, to be clear, at the time I was 29, married for two years, and never once had an affair, let alone a work affair or anything remotely close to a work husband. It’s not uncommon for hookups to take place in my line of work and especially at my job, considering we have so many posh industry parties from New York to LA, make pretty good money as young adults and again, we’re always in a lax and fun atmosphere.
Anyway, I met this guy *Calvin who was recently hired in the music department. I’d see him in passing in the hallways since we had an open-floorplan at my former gig. While he and I both had actual private offices, we found ourselves more on the floor either speaking with fellow coworkers, having lunch in one of the many common areas at the job. etc. So it didn’t take long before “flirty eyes” became “Hi’s” and “Hi’s” became full-blown conversations.
I found out Calvin was single.
Clearly, I was not. I’d been married since 27 and my marriage was great! Out of respect for my household, I refuse to give this false narrative that I had some disastrous relationship and was desperately seeking attention elsewhere. Nope. I’m just human, somewhat young and enjoyed the feeling of flirting with a new friend.
It didn’t take long before our lunch dates went from coincidental to intentional. Before when Cal and I met for lunch, it was just a run-in. Now, we were actually planning them. We had a Microsoft Teams chat and would sometimes DM one another a casual “Going to lunch?” or “Let me know when you plan on taking your break,” so that we could sync our time away. I also found myself putting a little more effort into my appearance before we met. Meaning, while I didn’t fully dress to impress Cal, at minimum, I would make sure my makeup was to par minutes before we’d meet.
It started off so casual. I’ll admit, for the most part, I knew what I was doing — I was flirting with my co-worker and flirting with the idea of it being something more.
But I had zero intentions of having sex. I always grew up wanting to be the girl who takes more risks but not at the expense of feeling like a piece of sh*t after. The reality is, I feel guilty about every single thing and I can’t do anything casual without overthinking it to death. But for some reason, flirting with Calvin and having a work husband didn’t feel bad; so long as we kept it at that level and that level only.
“I’ll admit, for the most part, I knew what I was doing — I was flirting with my co-worker and flirting with the idea of it being something more. But I had zero intentions of having sex.”
Not to call out my peer group, but I’ve had both guy and girl friends who’ve had affairs and not thought twice about it. Sh*t would only hit the fan if or when they got caught, but as far as their conscience went, it was pretty clear. They didn’t feel any less in love with their partner when they did the deed and they simply viewed sex (and giving into sexual urges) as natural.
At my job, I’ve seen both men and women coworkers do the walk of shame everywhere from the bathroom stall at an event venue or holiday party to actual hotel rooms on shared floors. This is mainly because our company would often rent out blocks of rooms for us to stay in for our out-of-town events. This also made elevator rides to the lobby pretty awkward.
So when it came down to me and my work colleague flirting, I guess you can say I didn’t feel guilty because I knew how bad it could be, and I’d convinced myself that I would never let it go there. I actually applauded myself for knowing how to “teeter the line” but not cross it. I didn’t feel like Cal replaced my husband’s love. I didn’t even feel like he filled a void in my marriage or love life. It was none of those cliché movie things.
However, I did feel he added a bit of spice to my overall life that I liked. It felt scandalous and safe. I could flirt with him and have lunch and still go back home to my husband, guilt-free.
I didn’t even think about Calvin outside of work hour; he didn’t “spill” his way into my marriage at all. It was two separate entities — my life with my husband at home and my life with Cal at work. And I enjoyed that.
Until I didn’t. In the fall of 2019, my company held the biggest event of the year. This took place in LA (I live in New York). This event is riddled with pre-parties and after-parties and we’re allowed to invite one guest, so I invited a friend who already lived in LA.
“I didn’t even think about Calvin outside of work hour; he didn’t “spill” his way into my marriage at all. It was two separate entities — my life with my husband at home and my life with Cal at work. And I enjoyed that.”
I felt amazing. Not only had I received a promotion a month prior to the event, I felt like I really had life figured out. Young, successful, great husband, awesome hair and makeup for the night and backstage passes and VIP access to shows and events, to show my best friend in LA how much I’m killing it at my job.
Calvin was also there, of course, and it was fun and flirty vibes as always.
Around 3 am the night of the big LA event, we all went back to our hotel rooms and you guessed it, he was booked at my hotel under the same block of rooms the company expensed. He was just a floor below me. I offered my friend to stay at my hotel since I had a huge suite and she pretty much went straight to sleep considering all the open bars we hit up that night. Calvin and I texted one another throughout the night and I let him know when I got in safely. He asked if I wanted to come to his room and I’ll admit, I did. Again, whether you choose to believe it or not, at this point, I still didn’t think anything would happen. I thought I had total mind and body control over myself and just wanted a flirtatious nightcap to put me to sleep and make my “play-it-safe” lifestyle feel that much more glamorous and semi-scandalous.
Well, it was a little more than that. I take full responsibility since nothing was forced or coerced.
To be honest, I came in for the kiss first. A part of me decided that a “kiss” is still nothing to phone home about but just enough to make me feel like I’m a badass in the group chat. When we kissed, I felt everything *but* guilty. It felt good and PG-13 enough. I even said, “No, I should go,” in true bad rom-com fashion. He complied and eased off of me but I came back in again. It felt fun, it felt innocent and I couldn’t wait to tell my friend that I “actually did that!”
But then kissing turned into making out which turned into full-blown sex. What sucks is that the instant we hooked up, guilt riddled my mind and emotions so bad, I couldn’t enjoy myself. I could’ve stopped at any time but by then, I felt I already f*cked up and crossed the line and may as well try to finish.
But I couldn’t. I hated myself in the moment and I felt like a piece of crap after. What was supposed to be a fun brunch by the poolside on the rooftop with my girlfriend in the morning turned into me crying, confessing what I’d done, asking what I should do and having zero room to even stomach a fruit cocktail.
What made matters worse is that the 5 1/2 hour flight back home to New York was hell. I felt bad because I had no plans to tell my husband. I tried to file it as a one-off but I knew that going back to bed with with my partner would feel awful. Plus I had to fake enthusiasm for my post-work event recap for him, which I always told him after my trips.
“But then kissing turned into making out which turned into full-blown sex. What sucks is that the instant we hooked up, guilt riddled my mind and emotions so bad, I couldn’t enjoy myself. I could’ve stopped at any time but by then, I felt I already f*cked up and crossed the line and may as well try to finish.”
So what happened after? Well, nothing at first. From the moment I left Calvin’s hotel room, I texted and called to say I felt like the lowest of human beings. And while he did try to extend some level of sympathy, he simply couldn’t. He wasn’t entirely emotionally unavailable and he did respond to my texts and calls.
He just failed to care as much as I did about the situation. I realized this wasn’t his fault; I was married. He wasn’t. And again, casual sex is so regular in this industry and at this age, right? (insert sarcasm).
Without a formal announcement, we both knew to scale back from one another when we got back to the New York offices. For me, it was the guilt. For him, I think the thrill was gone. We still smiled and said ‘Hey’ in passing but our lunch dates were done for.
I didn’t tell my husband for months. I thought it was okay. I even convinced myself that my affair with my work husband made me appreciate my husband and marriage more. I lied to myself to pacify my guilt. When I watched Sex And The City 2, I saw a scene where Miranda told Carrie that after the pain of Steve’s confession of cheating with a coworker (once), that she often wishes she never found out because all that pain wasn’t worth it for one slip up. In my own delusion, I took that as a sign to not tell my husband.
However, months later and the guilt still lived in me. In February 2020, I decided to tell my husband everything. It was hurtful for him. A part of me even hoped he would tell me that he cheated too. I’m embarrassed and ashamed to admit that out loud but yes, I hoped that if my husband cheated or had a slip anytime during our relationship or marriage and confessed to it, it would even the playing field. That we could forgive one another and chalk it up to our “last hoorah” as 20-somethings since we both turned 30 that year.
But no. He had no admission of guilt. And as toxic as that sounds, I think that made me feel worse. So in what I thought was a noble act and dramatic gesture of loyalty, I quit my job that month. At the time, my salary was $104,000 / year and I was the only one with benefits (my husband has an equally sustainable job but no benefits). Well, COVID happened soon after and it was hell finding work for a while. This means I lost my well-paying job due to my rash mistake and even rasher actions, thereafter.
“A part of me even hoped he would tell me that he cheated too. I’m embarrassed and ashamed to admit that out loud but yes, I hoped that if my husband cheated or had a slip anytime during our relationship or marriage and confessed to it, it would even the playing field.”
My husband and I also signed up for couples counseling, which is about $400 a month and we attended for about six months ($2,400). We decided to quit in order to save money but also, because we felt we could work on the rest ourselves, considering we were both now at home.
It’s been over a year since my confession and since I’ve worked at my old job or spoke to my ex-work husband. I still torture myself with guilt and I also have horrible anxiety. My husband was hurt from the experience and I can tell he has taken steps to forgive and forget, but every time I feel he is acting any less than his kind self towards me, I convince myself that he hates me. I know this is all in my head.
And pre-affair, I seriously would’ve chalked up any indifferent attitude of his to him simply having a bad day. However, I am constantly on the edge and feeling at fault. To be honest, I’m punishing myself worse than anyone else could ever punish me.
As for where we stand now? Well, I’ve been working remotely for the past year. For months I lived off of unemployment. Luckily, in New York, unemployment was about $504 a week, and at the time, I received the additional $600 a week from emergency surplus, which meant about $1104 a week for about three months until I found work again. While still less than my previous salary, it was enough for my husband and me to live off, combined with his salary, considering we have no kids and decent money management.
However, the constant fear of what it will look and feel like when we do go back to the offices constantly hovers over me. While I no longer work at my old job, I still feel like I’m earning back my husband’s trust and I’m far from being able to forgive myself.
So I’m pretty paranoid about what the awkwardness in our home will be like when I go back to a workspace. I don’t know. Maybe we’ll consider resuming counseling again when the time comes. After all, it’s not healthy to only trust one another when we can monitor each other.
So for any of you wondering or playing with the idea of having an affair at work, please reconsider and dead the idea. I read somewhere on TFD one girl’s account of dating her coworker. They were both single and neither were in the wrong; they were actually dating openly. But she still had her doubts and “don’ts” about it.
Life isn’t like the movies. No, you won’t get hoisted onto a copy machine, have amazing sex, spill the gossip over cosmos to your girlfriends and go home guilt-free to your partner. There are emotions involved and at risk. There are consequences and there is a price to pay, and it’s more than money.
When I said that my affair with my work-husband cost me $106,400 and tax, I meant it’s been taxing on my mental and emotional health to deal with.
My advice – don’t bother.
*Names have been changed to protect the privacy of those mentioned above
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Can a wife spend her husband's salary without asking
The husband got a job on a shift and gave his wife's card details for salary crediting, as his card was blocked by bailiffs. His wife's card is in his hands.
The salary came, and the wife transferred it from the account to which the husband receives money to another. Then I withdrew money through my card. Now the husband is threatening: either return the money, or I will write a statement about the theft. What to do in such a situation?
Dmitry Sergeev
Retired Police Major
Author profile
Marriage property is considered common property, and each spouse has the right to dispose of it at their own discretion. It's not just about an apartment or a car. The salary of one of the spouses is also common property.
But in the situation you described, the wife can indeed be prosecuted for theft. That's why it works.
Is it possible to use the husband's salary without asking
Even if the wife receives her husband's money on her card, it is impossible to withdraw and spend it without his consent. There is an important condition: one spouse can dispose of the common property only if the other spouse agrees to it.
The law does not say in what form this consent must be given. Spouses can agree orally or in writing - or even prescribe the nuances in the marriage contract. For example, that they have the right to spend any money on any of each other's accounts without restrictions.
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Prenuptial agreement
But there is a gray area in this moment. By default, spouses are assumed to act by common consent. If the husband did not express clear disagreement, then the wife can withdraw his salary from the card and spend it on herself.
In your situation, the husband was against his wife spending his salary. But he did not voice this in advance, so the wife, not without reason, decided that she had the right to take the money for herself. When the husband demanded a paycheck, the default consent rule stopped working. The wife had to return the money to her husband.
Sometimes strange situations arise because of the consent rule.
Here is a story from the court. Before the divorce, the husband quietly sold the common car for a symbolic sum so as not to share it with his wife. The wife could not cancel the deal through the court, because it was not the husband who had to prove that the wife allowed the car to be sold, but the wife did not. And she couldn't forbid it, because she didn't even know about the deal.
If the wife still managed to prove that she was against the sale of the car, the buyer would have to return it. For this reason, many buyers of cars or real estate, when making a deal, ask couples for the consent of both spouses to the deal.
In order to avoid situations like in your example, I still advise you to get the consent of your spouse in advance. It is clear that it is not worth calling before each purchase of milk in a supermarket. But when it comes to the entire salary, it's better to call and ask.
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Spouses' rights in marriage
How can a husband prove that his wife had money on his wife's card
When the husband got a job, he indicated the details of the card in the application. He does the work, he is paid a salary for this, and where the money goes is not so important.
Art. 136 of the Labor Code of the Russian Federation
The Labor Code does not prohibit receiving a salary on another person's card. Rostrud agrees with this position. The only clarification: it is necessary that there is no prohibition on such a decision in the labor or collective agreement.
Letter from Rostrud dated October 16, 2019 No.
ТЗ/5985-6-1
A wife may think that since the money has arrived on her card, she has the right to dispose of it. But in any case, the court will figure out what kind of money it is and who its actual recipient is. And then it will proceed from this.
Can a spouse be found guilty of theft
The position of the Supreme Court is unambiguous: if one person withdraws money from the card of another without his knowledge, then this is theft from a bank account. In the best case, they will be fined 100,000-500,000 rubles for this. In the worst case, they will be imprisoned for 6 years.
p. "d" part 3 of Art. 158 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation
There are no exceptions for relatives in the law. But often judges consider such thefts not dangerous for society, so they soften the punishment. If relatives forgive the culprit, the judge may even drop the prosecution.
Part 2 14 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation
The court verdict depends on the circumstances.
Here is another story. The father gave his son a bank card to buy groceries, and the son spent the money on himself instead. The case went to court, and as a result, the son, who already had a criminal record, was given two years in prison in a strict regime colony.
What is the result
If one spouse wants to use the other's money, it is best to agree on this issue in advance. It does not matter who owns the account with this money. If you take your spouse's money without permission, then this is theft.
Why the court can take the side of the wife
Anastasia Rymkevich
lawyer
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It is up to the court to figure out whether the wife is guilty or not. But I have an alternative view of this situation. I will give several arguments in favor of my wife.
The husband himself signed the documents with the details of his wife's card. The court may conclude that the husband entrusted his wife to manage the salary, indicating her details in the documents of the employer.
This can be quite interpreted as a written consent: he did not want to trust his wife with money, he would receive a salary to his account.
The husband did not have the right to manage the money on his wife's card. According to the rules of any bank, the card belongs not to the client, but to the bank itself. The bank, on the other hand, allows it to be used, but only on the condition that the client does not transfer this card to third parties, even to a spouse.
It turns out that in order to spend his salary, the husband would have to negotiate with his wife so that she either withdraws money from an ATM or transfers it somehow. The wife's lawyer can claim in court that by doing so, the husband has entrusted his wife with managing the money as she sees fit.
A wife is entitled to a share of her husband's income. If the wife keeps the household, cares for the children, or for other good reasons does not have an independent income, she is entitled to a part of the husband's salary.
Besides, we don't know the whole situation. Suppose, during the period when the husband is not on duty, the wife spends money from her salary on the general household, and the husband does not invest in everyday life. Then, in fact, the wife did not steal his money, but returned part of the money spent.
No one has ever been held accountable for this. At least, I have not found such court decisions. Even if a criminal case is opened against the wife and taken to court, the judge will have to figure out what she spent the money on. Most likely, it will turn out that the money went to the needs of the family and there is no corpus delicti in her spending.
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The main job, or How to live with a careerist?
Mendeleev was never able to explain to his wife that hydrogen should come first, and not she, home, family and children.
People's ideas about how much time and attention should be given to work and how much to family are very often the cause of marital discord. Up to the point that it leads to acute crises and divorces. How to build relationships with your soulmate, for whom work is the main thing in life, psychologists and coaches told mir24.tv correspondent in an interview.
“Dealing with your feelings about the fact that a husband (more often a husband) devotes almost all his time to work can be very difficult,” says coach Liya Khabadze . – On the one hand, a person develops, earns money and works for the benefit of the family, on the other hand, a woman can feel loneliness and understand that the relationship, as such, did not take place, since there is no emotional intimacy. All the forces of the husband go to development and work.
Work and career development are an integral part of most people's lives. “The world in which we live is material, and without concern for the creation of material wealth, life is impossible.
Especially professional self-realization is necessary for men, - comments family psychologist, sexologist, teacher of the online Smart Institute Ksenia Yuryeva . – If work is of great importance to your husband, then this is an excellent indicator of his maturity as a man. This shows his masculinity. However, if your relationship is suffering from your spouse's involvement in work and there is no space for personal communication, then it is worth discussing this problem with your spouse. We need to enter into a dialogue, but without accusations.”
According to Liya Khabadze, it is important not to make a claim, but to tell your husband about your feelings. For example, about how you miss him.
Determine your needs: what exactly would you like to receive from your husband, but you are deprived of this because of his affair with work. For example, help around the house or with children, joint rest. Find those needs that can be satisfied without a husband.
For example, to help around the house, you can hire a housekeeper, for children - a nanny. But for a joint pastime, you will have to look for and find free windows in your husband’s schedule.
There is another way: to accept the situation and change your attitude towards it. “It’s important to be honest with yourself here,” the coach explains. - Not to pretend that everything is fine, but to see the pluses in her husband's love for work. These pluses in the eyes of a woman should outweigh the costs: the fact that a woman is alone most of the time, and the child practically does not see dad.
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“In my practice, I often meet women who, while suffering from their husband's workaholism in words, actually tacitly approve and encourage his constant work,” says clinical psychologist, family consultant Daria Khudyashova . - They find many advantages in this: the husband makes good money, does not interfere in household chores and raising children, but at the same time there is always something to “saw” him for: they say, you don’t take care of children, I’m always alone, I sit at home, etc.
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“The only win-win scenario I see for a workaholic wife is to build her life separately and not around her husband's work. Your job, your hobbies, your plans, your daily routine. My husband joined a trip on vacation or, say, a trip to the cinema - good. I didn’t join - I’m going with my children, parents or friends, ”says the specialist.
Ideally, if the wife treats her husband's professional passion with understanding and acceptance. “If professional realization has an existential meaning for a person, that is, it is connected with the meaning of his life, which is to serve society, then such work becomes more important than building relationships in the family. Moreover, such a matter of life can be not only for a man, but also for a woman, ”says psychologist "Teledoktor24" Alexander Surdulyak-Serebrennikov .
Let's assume that the work has just such a meaning for the husband, for example, he is a scientist, physician, politician or artist, is engaged in the implementation of a responsible project and is inspired by this process.
“Relations in such a family can be harmonious if the wife supports her husband in this matter, understands its importance, is involved in it and is interested in what is happening with her husband at work. If the wife does not support what the husband does or does not show interest in his work, then the spouses gradually move away from each other, and their relationship becomes more and more formal, ”explains the expert.
According to the psychologist, it happens that a woman demands from her husband to stop paying so much attention to work and switch to the family. In this case, two outcomes are possible.
- The spouse may refuse this option, because he does not want to lose what is extremely important to him, and the marriage will fall apart.
- The husband will agree and, in order to save the family, will give up the work of his life, but without him he will feel unfulfilled and unhappy, which will lead to a deterioration in relations between spouses up to a break.
It is important to understand that when a wife forces her husband to put the family first, this is not only detrimental to relationships, but also inappropriate, because when a person is engaged in an important business for society, he feels fulfilled and full of energy, which has a beneficial effect and family relationships.
However, a workaholic is not always immersed in work out of love for it. According to the expert, there is often a situation when a person gets fixated on work, because there are problems in family relationships that spouses do not resolve and which accumulate.
“In this case, I would advise you to pay attention to what is happening in your relationship with your husband, what conflicts exist between you (perhaps hidden), and contact a psychologist to help you resolve the contradictions that have become so difficult for your partner. unbearable that he began to hide from them at work,” says Alexander Surdulyak-Serebrennikov.
