Will he ask me out again

Will he ask me on a second date? 14 surprising signs to look for

When you go out with a guy you like it’s a refreshing and romantic experience.

It’s hard to make meaningful connections these days, and finding somebody you click with is a great thing.

But what if he didn’t feel what you did?

That’s when you’re left asking yourself: will he ask me on a second date or not? Here are the signs that he will…

Will he ask me on a second date? 14 surprising signs to look for

1) He’s shy about asking you out the first time

Will he ask me on a second date?

It’s something you may be wondering about if the first date wasn’t that bad but wasn’t a home run either.

One of the best ways to tell is if he was shy about asking you out the first time.

The reason this can be a surprising signal that he’s interested in more than one date is that guys who are very smooth about asking you out may turn out to be players.

Confidence is great and all, but a guy who flawlessly asks you out could have more of a physical encounter in mind.

That’s why sometimes it’s actually a good sign if he’s a bit flustered when first asking you out.

It means he’s genuine in wanting to go out with you and likely interested in more than just sex.

2) He’ll tell you his schedule in advance

Guys aren’t always the most subtle creatures, and sometimes he’ll just blurt out his schedule with you while on your date.

This is basically the man equivalent of telling you he wants to see you again.

Is it a little over-eager in some cases? Honestly, yes.

But it can also be heartfelt and sweet.

By cluing you in to what he has coming up, he’s setting the stage for more to happen in the future and basically giving you a preview of his commitments.

As dating coach Ronnie Ryan writes:

“The right man for you will want to get to know you. He’ll be excited to spend time with you and will do what it takes to make that time.

“You’d never even wonder how long to wait for a second date as he will be the one to make the move. He’ll stay in touch every couple of days.

“He’ll text and call. He’ll ask in advance, even if he’s going out of town, so he knows he can see you when he gets back.

“His consistency is a true signal of his intent.”

3) He was nervous and awkward on the first date

In addition to paying attention to his behavior when he asked you out, look at how he behaved on the first date.

Was he Mr. Cool, slipping his arm around you and going for a kiss at just the right time?

Or was he a bit more of a Mr. Bumble and tripped over his own shoelaces while trying to open the door for you on the way in the restaurant for dinner?

There’s nothing wrong if he was pretty confident, that can be attractive after all.

But one of the top signs that he’s more of a romantic is that he’s not completely put together.

He has some loose ends and is taking things as they come and still finding his feet.

On the other hand, if the first date was basically one-sided, don’t wait around for a second.

As Ni’Kesia Pannell puts it:

“If you’ve met your date with a welcoming sense of anxiousness and anticipation only to have them supply you with disinterest, you might want to prepare yourself for this being your one-and-only date with them.”

4) He’ll be a gentleman about money

Guys who are looking for a quick fling or some cheap entertainment often turn out to be pretty stingy.

One of my female friends ended up out with a guy who refused to pay $5 for her drink and a piece of pizza after her date.

Needless to say, she did not go home with him that night.

This despicable behavior is more common than many people realize, and I know that as a guy I was also shocked.

Even if he was only after something short-term, why wouldn’t this fairly well-off, middle-aged guy cough up $5 after a night out?

Well, in addition to being a sign of a selfish guy you want to avoid, failure to pay up usually means that he basically doesn’t value you.

If you’re looking for a sign that he’ll ask you out again, look at his behavior around money and being a gentleman.

Does he at least offer to pay for your date, or does he shirk the topic?

This can tell you a lot about whether a date two is on the horizon.

5) He’ll compliment you, but not in a sleazy way

Another one of the good signs that there will be a second date is that he actually says nice things to you which aren’t only sexual or leading to sex.

It’s perfectly fine if some of these compliments relate to you being attractive, fascinating or sexy.

It’s all about how he delivers them and the kind of response he’s hoping for.

If he’s pushy and classless about it then you have a good sign that he’s looking for a one-nighter.

But if his compliments are thought out and sincere then it’s more likely he’s hoping to get to know you better and date you again in the future.

“You may be sure that he will tell you how beautiful you are.

“But the manner will be admiring rather than the slightly horny, end-of-the-date kind of compliment which gets triggered off when you accidentally touch his hand,” explains Vasundara R.

Sharp observation.

6) The first date doesn’t end in sex or physical intimacy

If you have sex on your first date that’s your business.

I’m not here to police your personal life.

But what I will say is that having sex too quickly can be one of the biggest things that leads to having only one date.

Or having future dates which…aren’t dates…but are actually booty calls.

If the first date goes a bit slower, it’s much more likely that it will have time to blossom into something that’s less about sex and more about getting to know each other better.

Could you have wild sex and also develop a deep connection that leads to date two?

Of course.

I’m just saying that overall it’s less likely that you’ll have a second date worth talking about if you jump into bed on the first.

7) He forgets about his phone on his first date with you

My dad once joked that in the future our phones would be hardwired into us or part of our biology.

I’m sure that day is not too far away or is already here with some biohacking tech, but the ironic thing is that it’s not necessary anyway.

Almost everyone I know under 60 doesn’t go anywhere without their phone.

It doesn’t need to be surgically implanted, they already are addicted anyway.

That’s why him putting his phone down and not glancing at it on the first date is really key.

“Putting your phone on silent during a date is a big deal. That means you are dedicating your full attention to this one person, with no interest to interrupt or take away from your time together.

“If a guy is out with you and isn’t itching to check the score of a sports game (or message back another girl), then feel lucky.

“Odds are, he’s into you and wants to see you again,” writes Sean Abrams.

8) The two of you can’t shut up on the first date

Another big sign that there will be a date two is when the two of you can’t shut up on the first date.

The conversation flows like a wild river on and on, and you find time flying by.

It doesn’t really matter what the topic is.

What matters is whether you truly have a desire to speak and find it interesting being around him.

Whatever the reason you want to talk, the important thing is that you do.

As Jillian Kramer observes:

“A flowing conversation sans awkward silences, one that focused on common interests and lively debate, is also a great indicator you’re cruising toward date No. 2.”

9) His eye contact with you is off the charts

Eyes are the window to the soul, and sometimes they’re a crystal ball to a second date.

If he’s locking eyes with you on a consistent basis, then chances are he’s feeling the connection you have.

This is his way of peering into your soul and sussing out the emotional connection as well.

He wants to get to know you better and feels attracted physically and in terms of personality to you.

Eye contact is one of those things which is really underestimated.

It can be the start of a love that lasts a lifetime, or it can be unsatisfying, weird, and wrong.

Look at the story his eyes are telling. It can tell you a lot.

10) He’s looking for something more serious

One of the biggest signs that you’ll be asked out on a second date is when he’s looking for something more serious.

Even if the sparks didn’t fly sky high on date one, his intentions have a lot to do with whether he’ll ask you out.

If he’s looking for something a bit more serious then he’s much more likely to ask you out on a second date in the near future and see if you have something between the two of you.

Carina Hsieh and Emily Johnson have a good article about this:

“According to data from Match.com’s 2015 survey of more than 5,500 people, single men and women who are actively looking for commitment are 74 percent more likely to give a date a second chance.

“Plus, a full half of men and women believe that someone from a just-okay first date can grow on them, and if you think about it, they’re right.

11) He wants to know your story – even the bad parts

Another sign that there will be a second date is if this guy is very curious on the first date.

Does he want to know every part of your story including the bad bits?

That’s a sign that he’s not just looking to get under your skirt, he also wants to get into your heart.

Like Marissa writes:

“Guys don’t dedicate themselves to getting to know these details for just anyone.

“When a guy isn’t committed to the date, he’s not going to waste so much time getting to know you better and he definitely won’t seem truly interested in what you have to say.

“You should be able to tell if he is exhibiting interest in your history.”

12) He tries to check if you’re interested in anyone else

Another sign that he’s going to want a second date is that he tries to take a peek into your own dating life.

If you’re a private person or find this needy it can be uncomfortable.

But you can be sure that he wouldn’t really care if you were seeing someone else if he wasn’t potentially interested.

It’s not what a guy asks who’s just cruising for some kicks.

It’s what a guy asks who feels a potential deeper level of interest and is already thinking about asking you out on a second date.

13) He opens up about past bad dates

Sometimes guys will open up about bad past dates as a way to contrast what they’re feeling with you.

They likely wouldn’t be telling you about it if they were also hating the date with you.

They’re sharing war stories as a way of relating to you.

And it’s a good sign that they’re enjoying the date and will try to ask you out for a second one.

14) Your sides are hurting after the first date

Last – and very importantly – a big sign that there will be a date two is if date one was full of laughs.

If your sides hurt from laughing after the first date then it’s a strong indicator that he’s also had an amazing time and will want to see you again.

There’s no way to laugh too much in this day and age, so if he’s cracking up and you are too, then it could definitely be the first stage of some real romance.

As Tanya Harell says:

“Laughing with someone is a sure-fire way to tell if you are having a good time.

“Maybe it’s laughing over dad jokes or funny work stories. The content doesn’t matter.

“What matters is that you are at ease enough to let loose and laugh together.

“That’s why prompting laughter – even if his joke wasn’t the funniest this – is one of the subtle super fast ways to build attraction between the two of you.”

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When Will He Ask Me Out on a Second Date? Understanding Men

by Ronnie Ann Ryan

Interested in a man and looking for answers on, “When will he ask me out on a second date?”, ” How long to wait for second date?” Read on to find out what you need to know about understanding midlife single men.

When Will He Ask Me Out Again? That’s the Big Question

You met a guy online and your first date was great! You had a good time and you know he did too. He texted you after telling you so.

You’ve been texting for a few days which is fun. He’s witty and has a good sense of humor too.

But as the days tick by, you start to wonder when will he ask me out on a second date? It’s completely natural to be curious about this and even a bit anxious.

Especially when you had such a good time. You really can’t wait to see him again.

You wish there was a way to make the phone ring. But there isn’t. You think about texting him to see if he’s still interested.

Maybe that’s what you should do. But then you’re not sure and the last thing you want to do is ruin your chances.

Wondering when he will ask me out and waiting around stinks!

How Long to Wait for Second Date?

Not surprisingly, the length of time between a first and second date varies by the man and the situation. However, the amount of time it does take is telling.

The best-case scenario is when a man asks you for a second date while you are still on the first one. That’s always a good omen!

If he waits just a few days, like two to three, that’s also a positive sign. In fact, anytime within the first week is optimal. If he wants to see you again quickly, that means you are on his mind,

When the gap between first and second date is longer, like two or three weeks, that might indicate a number of things that aren’t so positive:

  • He’s too busy to date
  • He’s not really ready to date
  • He’s not serious about finding love
  • He’s dating a lot of women and you’re not high on the list
  • He’s not that into you

Yes, sometimes a man has to travel for work or has a lot on his plate. But these situations do not bode well for a blossoming relationship.

When a man takes weeks to ask for a second date, of course, you can go. But do not get attached or stop dating other men for him.

While it’s true anything is possible, I wouldn’t bet on a guy who is slow to request that second date.

How to Know When to Move On

When you’re objective about what is happening in your dating life, then you can face facts. Not being asked for a second date within a week indicates he might not be the right man.

The sooner you realize this and accept it, the less you’ll feel confused, hurt, disappointed or rejected by him.

The less time you’ll spend analyzing everything you said and did and feeling bad about yourself, the faster you can move on to find the right man!

There are plenty of men out there. Don’t set your hopes on a man you’ve just met. Stay objective as long as possible.

Date several men at once – just for the first few dates. Most will disappear anyway because they aren’t right for you and they know it.

Signs He’s Really Interested

See, the right man for you will WANT to get to know you. He’ll be EXCITED to spend time with you and will do what it takes to make that time.

You’d never even wonder how long to wait for second date as he will be the one to make the move.

He’ll stay in touch every couple of days. He’ll text AND call. He’ll ask in advance, even if he’s going out of town, so he knows he can see you when he gets back. His consistency is a true signal of his intent.

And that is exactly what you want. A man who knows what he wants and when he meets you, he knows you’re the one to pursue. Which is exactly what he does.

The right man for you doesn’t leave you feeling confused or wondering “when will he ask me out?”

Single for too long, Ronnie wanted to find love. She put her skills from personal development and her spiritual path to work, dating 30 men in 15 months to meet her adorable husband Paul. Discovering the keys to manifesting and midlife dating, she founded It’s Never Too Late to help smart, successful women find love or live an empowered and magical life. Ronnie Ann Ryan, MBA, CCC, is a Certified Coach who has helped 1,000s of midlife women with her Love & Magical Life Coach services. She’s the host of the Breathe Love & Magic podcast and has been featured on NBC, ABC, & Fox News, NPR, BBC, eHarmony, MSN.com, and Connecticut Magazine among others. Also, Ronnie is the author of 6 books which are available on Amazon.

11 things that will make a man ask you out on a date

A University of Salamanca study of more than 1,500 respondents aged 16-86 proved that women need at least five to six meetings to finally decide whether to start a relationship with a partner, while men are more likely to fall victim to lightning sympathy. One in five members of the stronger sex experienced love at first sight at least once in their life, and more than half after the first date. What can make him lose his head here and now?


The phrase “plaster fell down” is more often used by men in relation to a woman's make-up than a peeling wall. The more natural beauty looks, the more likely it is to spend this evening in a good restaurant in good company.


Naturalness captivates not only in appearance, but also in communication. Never try to pretend to be someone you are not. Standing men cannot stand the affectation and falsehood. Be yourself, no matter how naive and uninteresting it may sound: other people's gestures, words and habits, like oversized shoes, cause a lot of trouble and inconvenience.


Yes, brains are still sexy. Men love women who can support a conversation on any topic and calmly argue their own point of view. And if you can distinguish rugby from handball, a corner kick from a penalty kick, and Vasily Berezutsky from his brother Alexei, get ready for the fact that on the third date he will introduce you to his parents.


Your smile works like a magnet. And, apparently, they know this from a physics course. A woman who laughs at men's jokes and at the same time has a good sense of humor herself will never be alone.


There are fabrics and styles that compliment your figure better than an experienced plastic surgeon. No miniskirts and cleavage work as excitingly as a toned and contoured silhouette as a whole - this gives scope for his imagination.


The main love potion in the whole image is, of course, perfume. A weapon that will help him fall in love with you literally with his eyes closed. Fragrant cheat sheet: vanilla notes are associated with tenderness; jasmine is synonymous with seduction; patchouli helps to relax, and the tropical motif, like citruses, increases sexual desire in every fourth man. We take on board everything at once.


When you look your partner in the eyes, you verbally tell him that you have nothing to hide. You know, most of all men are afraid of a dirty trick.


In theory, men are looking for a woman who reminds them of their mother or, like Barbie, is fitted to some pattern. Standing beauty is incomparable. Do not be afraid to emphasize your individuality, and men will be drawn to you.


Men love beautiful shoulders - and this, in fact, is a medical fact that must be taken for granted and be able to emphasize. For example, a drop of perfume.


Those who do not agree with this paragraph, tell Cindy Crawford about how to win men. The rest can coquettishly mention the “happy mole” on the body - believe me, he will certainly want to find it. Men, like children, love to look at treasure maps.


All of the above (including clothing and perfume) is a natural extension of our personality and works on a subconscious level without your additional intervention. Behave as naturally as possible and if you really like a man, don't be afraid to show it to him.

According to ELLE.RU

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90,000 who will not be invited on a second date

It happens like this: you dressed beautifully, and made your eyes cute and in moderation, and asked questions, and listened to him attentively, and even did hair removal in those places that you swore not to show him that evening.

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It happens like this: you dressed beautifully, and made your eyes cute and in moderation, and asked questions, and listened to him attentively, and even did hair removal in those places that you swore not to show him that evening, and that's it, absolutely everything , did according to the rules of an ideal first date. And he doesn't call anymore.

As Miranda from Sex and the City said, "If he doesn't call, you haven't hooked him." That is, something about you impressed him much more than hair removal, peepholes, new jeans and touching listening. It's like if he came to a date in white socks, sandals and a neckerchief, invited you to McDonald's and sniffed a cheeseburger for a long time for its freshness. And then he would explain that his mother cooks sandwiches much better. It seems incredible, but men also have many stories about our strange actions on first dates.

Mikhail, 27
director of an insurance company

"In the restaurant, she asked four times to bring her another fresh pineapple juice! Then she called the manager and interrogated him passionately about where they get pineapples from. She sighed in disgust: "In Bali, pineapples have a completely different taste .. . You need choose suppliers better.”

That she made him feel like a complete idiot for taking her to a place with such poor quality pineapple juice. That a polite person would not drive and humiliate waiters like that, especially because of such nonsense. And finally, how can an ordinary secretary from an average office be so familiar with the pineapples of Bali, if only one flight to this country costs more than a thousand dollars?

This often happens when you are on a date with a person who is much wealthier than you. Perhaps you wanted to show him that you are not Cinderella either and that you need love from him, only love. Or impress him with your exquisite taste and high demands. And he didn’t even bother to think about whether you are telling the truth or composing! He simply considered your behavior as a demonstration of the type "you are not like that, you are three rubles more expensive. " During the first meeting, you can talk about how your brother Vasya broke his leg while skiing down the hills. And how you had to build a sled from improvised materials to drag him to the nearest emergency room. Where this heroic incident took place - in the French Alps or on the pond behind your house - is not worth mentioning. He will guess about your high status by your manner of holding a fork, knife and yourself, the ability to speak friendly with the attendants, correct speech and stylish appearance.

Albert, 25

"We didn't have time to bring the menu, as she said that last year her husband left her because her ovaries were removed and now she will never have children. I also learned all the details of this operation: that she they left a piece of the left ovary so that it would somehow grow there and maintain the desired hormonal background. But this did not happen, and therefore she has not had menstruation for several years and she takes special pills so that her mustache does not grow. Of course, if serious treatment, it can still be corrected, but she will not do it herself, but only together with a man for whom this will be as important as for her ... By the end of this monologue, I simply did not know where to run away. I couldn't even look at the food."

That she is crazy. What if she tells such things to a practically stranger, then what will she tell when they become closer? That she has too many problems and he is not ready to start solving them right from the first date.

The first date is generally not a place for confessions. Almost every one of the men surveyed recalled how the most tender-looking girls talked about their recent abortions and abandoned drug addict boyfriends, alcoholic dads, sexually horny bosses, and sexual infections. That is, about such things that you should not mention even in a conversation with your closest friend. They do not run away because they are cruel, indifferent types, not ready to take responsibility. When the girl becomes a kindred person for them, they will, on their own initiative, beat the boss in the face, go to the doctors with her and take dad out of the binge. It’s just that on the first date, men still don’t love, but study. And they don’t really want to hang on themselves the burden of problems of a completely extraneous, albeit very pretty girl.

Timothy, 22

"Katya immediately put her mobile phone on the table, and thirty seconds later it rang. She happily grabbed the phone and discussed something with someone for a long time. I studied the menu. She ended the conversation and politely apologized, explaining that called Masha, with whom she studied at the institute and had not seen each other for a thousand years. At that moment, the phone rang again. This time it was Alsu from her previous job and she also could not be refused. The calls continued without interruption, and with each caller she was incredibly sweet and friendly. During this time I managed to learn the menu just by heart. Then she saw a familiar company entering the bar, jumped up and started waving her arms cheerfully. Then they all kissed and hugged for a long time. Then I had to leave such a familiar menu and go with them to some new, completely ferdipupel club. The most interesting thing is that I really liked Katya's cheerful disposition, and the club, and her friends - literally everything. But I no longer meet her will".

That he's just not interested in her. That he will always stand in the very last place for her after friends, colleagues and just acquaintances.

Ideally, put your phone on silent mode and not take it out of your purse. If you are waiting for an important call, warn your companion about it in advance. Tell other subscribers that you are busy and call back later. Friends accidentally met during a date just politely smile and nod. Dedicate the whole evening only to your communication with him. He will understand how much you are in demand and what a rich and interesting life you lead without any demonstrations on your part.

Leonid, 33
head of the transport department

"I was already driving Alexandra home and, to be honest, at that moment I was a little distracted - I was thinking about a new complex project at work. And suddenly she tells me that she basically does not invite men to her house after the first date And he doesn't even kiss. Automatically, I asked: "And after the second one?" She said that I was a worried boor."

That she is not very smart. That she put him in an extremely awkward situation: if he confirms that he wanted to ask her for a night, he will really make himself look rude preoccupied type. And if he says that he didn’t think about anything like that, he will offend her to the depths of her soul.0003

If you think it's necessary, refuse. But only after you've been offered it. A normal man will understand everything. However, if you tell him in advance that you are “never with anyone and for nothing”, then this will cause him a reaction from the series “I didn’t really want to!”. Why force a person to prove that he is not a camel, and suspect him in advance of lustful intentions?

Alexander, 26

"Alla told me that she broke up with her first young man, with whom they lived together for four years. That he was just an angel, and she was wrong in everything. That he, of course, was married for a long time and they haven't seen him for two years. But she realized all her mistakes and will never, ever be such a bitchy fool as she was before. That she wishes him every happiness and now understands that he did absolutely the right thing when left her.”

That this relationship is not even over for her. That he, perhaps, did not have enough strength to compete for her love with this holy man. That she lives with memories in which there is no place for any other man.

Don't say anything at all about your past men. Neither good nor bad. Perhaps you want to show him that now you will not repeat your past mistakes and that you have corrected yourself, or, on the contrary, that you will not allow anyone else to treat you the way your last bastard did. Just do not repeat and do not allow, but share the experience that taught you all this with less sophisticated girlfriends.

Kirill, 21

"When they brought the bill, Masha started to snatch it out of my hands and said that she would pay for herself, because, as she knows, I am now in a difficult financial situation.

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