Why do i dislike someone for no reason psychology

Why do I instinctively dislike someone?

It makes sense to dislike someone when they’ve done something wrong to you. But why would you dislike someone who hasn’t wronged you in any way? You know you have no reason to hate them, but still do.

What’s going on?

The first thing to know about this phenomenon is that there’s no such thing as hating someone for no reason. That’s just not how the mind works.

To generate the feeling of disliking someone, the mind needs some input, some stimuli. When you dislike someone instinctively, it may seem that you dislike them for no reason. But the reality is there’s always a reason, no matter how subtle.

Disliking someone instinctively happens on a subconscious level. So, it appears that there’s no reason behind it. If you were to dig deeper, however, you’d certainly unearth a reason.

Why do we instantly dislike someone?

Imagine you’re driving on a highway, listening to music. You see an obstacle on the road and quickly steer your car to the side. It all happens in the blink of an eye. Your conscious mind tries to process what happened after the event.

Later, you find out that there was an oil spill on the road that made it look like a giant pothole.

Based on what your subconscious mind registered (‘Danger! Pothole ahead!’), you made a snap judgment and decision.

If it were indeed a giant pothole, you’d be in serious trouble.

Our mind doesn’t want to take any chances with potentially life-threatening events. The same applies to threatening people.

Almost always, when we instinctively dislike someone, they’re a perceived pothole we’re quickly trying to avoid. They represent a threat to us.

Hatred is a defense mechanism of the mind to protect us from perceived or actual threats.

When you instantly dislike someone, you’ve made a snap decision that they’re threatening based on minimal information.

Reasons we instinctively dislike someone

In this section, we’ll explore why we arrive at snap judgments about the people we’ve just met:

1.

They’re different

Humans are prone to outgroup bias. We perceive those who’re different from us in any way as outgroups. The differences can be large or small. Doesn’t matter.

The moment you give another human being the slightest indication that you’re different than them is the moment they dislike you.

Humans are wired to like and bond with their own tribe. In ancestral times, foreign tribes posed a threat to human tribes. So, we carry psychological mechanisms that make us suspicious of other, different tribes.

Of course, the easiest way to spot a difference between you and them is appearance. If someone looks different, you feel like they belong to a different, hostile tribe. This is the basis of nationalism, racism, racial supremacy, prejudice, and discrimination.

But it doesn’t stop at appearance.

Ancestral tribes also shared common values and beliefs. They had a cultural identity that separated them from other tribes. So, even today, when people come across people with different views than their own, they dislike them.

It’s also why polite disagreement is so hard and a rarity in public debates and discussions. When you disagree with someone, you’re effectively saying:

“I disagree with your beliefs. I am not of your tribe.”

Of course, using your conscious mind, you can overcome this bias. This is why education is so valuable.

2. They’re competing with you

Humans in ancestral times faced threats not only from foreign tribes but also from their own tribe members. In any tribe, individuals competed with each other to raise their social status.

Higher status meant more access to resources and better chances of survival and reproduction.

When you come across someone competing with you for what you want, you instinctively dislike them.

It could be:

A smarter coworker who could outsmart you and perform better
A hard-working coworker who could outwork you
A sycophantic coworker trying to win your boss’s favors
An attractive person courting your crush

We’re all threatened by competition, and this feeling of being threatened easily morphs into dislike or hatred. While the above examples are obvious, this can also happen in subtle ways.

For instance, if you have a friend you’re close to, and they suddenly enter a relationship, then their relationship partner is competing with you for your friend’s attention.

You might find yourself disliking their new partner for no reason.

Jealousy is often a big reason for disliking someone for no apparent reason. Jealousy results from upward social comparison. You see someone who’s better than you or has what you want, and you feel jealous.

Jealous people are motivated to put down those they’re jealous of. Since jealous people know they can’t compete directly, they indirectly try to bring people who’re better than them down by criticizing or trolling them.

3. They remind you of something threatening

Our minds are association machines. Our memories are essentially a web of associations.

When you get that bad ‘vibe’ from someone without knowing why, it could be that they reminded you of a previous negative experience.

For example, their nose may have reminded you of an uncle who abused you as a kid.

Any signal they give off that reminds you of a prior, negative experience could trigger your dislike, such as their:

Talking style
Accent
Walking style
Appearance
Mannerisms
Habits

4. They’ve previously threatened you

We don’t have access to all our memories all the time. It’d be so overwhelming if we could do that.

If someone hurt you a long time ago, you might have forgotten it. You may have even cut off that person from your life.

When you suddenly encounter that person again, years later, you find that you can’t help but dislike them. You can’t think of a good reason why you don’t like them.

This is likely to happen when your relationship with them has been good overall. Or when they meet you now, they’re super nice to you. You don’t understand what went wrong with this super nice person.

If you keep exploring, it’ll eventually hit you. You’ll remember that they did something that hurt you, even if it was just one small thing. You had long forgotten the reason, but it was alive and kicking in your subconscious.

5. You want to hide from yourself

People tend to hide their flaws and ignore the qualities they need to develop. So, when they come across someone having the same flaws as them or having the qualities they want, they hide again.

People who remind us of our flaws or desired qualities are threatening because they force us to self-reflect. By pushing them away, we push parts of ourselves away from ourselves.

For example:

As an impolite person, you dislike polite people.
You lack confidence, and confident people put you off.
You lack self-discipline, and you see disciplined people as strange or boring.

6. Their nonverbals are off

Since most interpersonal communication is nonverbal, getting it wrong can heavily influence the judgment of others.

When we meet people, we’re constantly making snap judgments about them. If they display welcoming and open body language, we feel good. If they show closed body language, we feel off.

We’re quick to put people in the ‘friend’ or ‘foe’ category because, again, the mind doesn’t want to take any chances. It makes these critical decisions based on minimal information gleaned from body language, facial expressions, and voice tone.

After all, if you mistake a foe for a friend or a pothole for an oil spill, you could be in serious trouble.

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What happens in the brain when we dislike somebody

Indeed, dislike is a necessary survival mechanism that humans have been using to get by for centuries, way before the jungle of social media took over. Here’s how the mind-body connection involved in disliking someone works. In order to understand what happens in your body when you dislike someone, you can start by trying to understand fear. As Robert Sapolsky writes in “Why Your Brain Hates Other People,” when we see someone who even looks different from us, “there is preferential activation of the amygdala,” which means the brain region associated with fear and aggression flares up. This visceral, emotional reaction can spark a long-term pattern of dislike when it’s validated by action: if you perceive that someone has hurt you, your fear of them becomes rational. Our negative feelings toward someone get stronger as bad experiences with them pile up, and these negative thoughts trigger the fight-or-flight response in our bodies. As AJ Marsden, assistant professor of Psychology at Beacon College in Leesburg, Florida, puts it, “our fight-or-flight response is our bodies way of dealing with a stressor.”

Stressors that trigger fight-or-flight need not be life or death, though, says Marsden: “Sadly, our body cannot tell the difference between an actual stressor (being chased by someone with a knife) and a perceived stressor (having work with someone you hate). ” This is why seeing posts from your high school bully can make you feel the anxiety of being bullied all over again: your fearful associations with disliking the person trigger your own need to protect yourself. Over time, this response puts stress on our bodies, conditioning us to be more skeptical of a person’s actions than we would be if we felt neutral about them. “In the mind, the neural connections become stronger and cause us to dwell more on the negative aspects of that person,” says Marsden. “Even if they were to do something positive, we’d pay more attention to the negative because that’s what we’ve trained our brain to do.” This explains why we have a seemingly endless list of negative facts about people we dislike, even if our rational brain would tell us there has to be something redeeming about them. This heightened arousal of our fearful instincts causes us to dread future interactions with people we dislike. In turn, this conditions us into even further dislike of that person, which just validates our negative feelings. In this way, our distaste for another person becomes like a snake eating its tail: we dislike them because they make us feel bad, and we feel bad because we dislike them.

But since there’s no “Black Mirror”-style real life-muting feature, we have to learn how to overcome dislike in order to get on with our daily lives. As Marsden points out, our dislike has a tendency to negatively impact our own behavior with co-workers and mutual friends: “If we don’t like a person, we may be short with them or interrupt them without realizing it. They notice our rudeness toward them and often respond with rudeness, confirming our negative thoughts about that person.” The key to breaking this vicious cycle, Marsden says, is mindfulness; when you’re aware of how your dislike influences your body (and your behavior), you can start to condition yourself to respond rationally. When it comes to dislike, maybe “out of sight, out of mind, out of control” is a better-amended motto. Since dislike is rooted in a fear of the unknown, perhaps understanding more about where our dislike comes from can help us overcome its influence on our behavior. And when all else fails, there’s always the ‘block’ feature.

I'm in a relationship, but I don't love my partner. The psychologist explains why this is (not) normal and what to do

This is sad, of course, but it can happen to you too. Read the opinion of a psychologist about why we tolerate dislike for ourselves, marry by convenience, and whether we will regret it after forty.

At what age are relationships without reciprocity more typical

– And what does each of us put into the concept of “love” and who can accurately describe this feeling? It is important to understand that everyone will tell something different about love, but for someone it will remain an indescribable and inexplicable feeling. And where is the line between "like" and "love"? And what does "not love" mean? – says Natalya Alexandrovich , family counselor, crisis and trauma specialist, certified gestalt therapist.

- There are cases when, for example, a girl at the age of 16 meets a guy and does not love him. She just likes him, and this relationship is rather for the sake of interest and experience.

- I suppose that when a girl says that she liked a guy, but she did not love him, there was some kind of insufficiency in relation to him. Something was clearly missing. Interest in a person is already a lot on the way to a deep feeling.

But there seems to be an expectation that the feeling will burst into flames and burn for a long time. Yes, this happens, and then we talk about falling in love as the beginning of the path to love. As a rule, when falling in love ends, space opens up to explore what was built during this period. Someone already has a family, a child or a common cause. And definitely there is an experience, pleasant and not very.

At this moment, the couple is experiencing their first crisis: the person is faced with the fact that the partner is not as ideal as it seemed initially. This point is a transit point on the way to love. It allows a person to make a choice more consciously and involves working on oneself and relationships, involves patience and emotional costs - and definitely does not give any guarantees. If successful, all this forms a support for further movement and takes the pair to a higher level. And so on until maturity.

Yes, unfortunately, there are cases when, for some reason, a crisis becomes an insurmountable barrier for partners, and in this case the couple breaks up. Then the person returns to the starting point, but with another partner - this is provided that he dares to try again. And so on in a circle until a solution to the problem is found.

If the outbreak of love has passed, but the relationship still exists, then the question arises what need a person satisfies in this union. Perhaps this is a need for attention, security, sexual satisfaction, or the same need for love. And then, if you think about the questions “what do relationships give me?”, “What do I expect from a partner?”, Options will appear on how this can be done in another way, without getting stuck in a relationship that you want to end. Freedom appears.

I want to make a reservation right away that there are other love scenarios. I am now talking about those that are more common in practice.

And to the question about age, I will only say that at a young age we often observe falling in love, which is often filled with romanticism, sincerity and purity. And that's great. Love in the classical sense of the word still needs time and maturity of partners. Then everything in this gap is the very “dislike” that needs to be dealt with.

Why do we agree to a relationship out of pity?

- If pity is viewed from the side of compassion, sympathy, acceptance of weakness - this is one thing, and this is an important component of any relationship, which provides support to the partner in difficult times.

But, based on the wording of the question, most likely, it means something else - when a person experiences discomfort, but for some reason remains in a couple. The reasons may be different, but I would like to dwell on the following: if you look into the depth of the issue, you can see the disguised arrogance of the one who regrets, and a whole palette of feelings - guilt, shame, anger, fear and disgust, which a person often does not suspect.

Why arrogance? If you feel sorry for someone, then you mean that the other is weaker than you and he will not cope with something on his own, or maybe even disappear altogether. In this case, there is no need to talk about equality. There is a ground for this, which is formed by both partners. And often they are so strongly included in the game that from the outside it may seem that the pair is a complete idyll. He, for example, gets sick, and she takes care of him all day long, sacrificing her interests - what is not love.

Or another example that can often be found in Belarusian families: he drinks and beats her from time to time, and she consoles herself with the phrase “beating means she loves!” and every time he finds a new excuse for him, showing all the same pity. Perhaps she will even receive an apology for this or a gift as compensation, but everything will be back very soon - a classic of the genre.

Examples can be given indefinitely, and they will have different modifications and, perhaps, lighter forms than voiced, but in essence they will not differ in anything. Here we are talking about models of dependent behavior, and love has nothing to do with this, because it in itself at least includes the equality of partners, respect for each other and respect for the interests of everyone. This is the minimum that cannot be ignored.

It is clear that a person in a relationship loses the models that were learned in the parental family. If something similar to what was said above takes place today, then a parallel with personal history will always be found. And even if a person already knows a lot about himself, it is still difficult for him to stop the dependent scenario.

It often happens that a person begins to run away from a nightmare and tries to build the opposite model of interaction, and then we are talking about counter-dependent behavior. But this is definitely not yet freedom of choice, because the action comes from something. It turns out a vicious circle, from which it is very difficult to escape.

In such situations, it is helpful to seek the support of a trained professional who knows all these pitfalls and can help you see them. Exploring your mechanisms of interaction with others gives a person new ways to build relationships, so the question of pity disappears by itself.

YOU DON'T LOVE ANY MORE - HOW TO BREAK RELATIONSHIPS

- When you realize that you no longer love a person, at what point should you break off a relationship and is it worth it?

- It is not easy to answer this question, because it is not clear by what criteria to judge that love has passed. In each situation, markers will be different, and sometimes you can even jump to conclusions. For example, take a strong offense or some misunderstanding between partners as the basis for such a decision.

Anger is what is most often forced out of a relationship. Therefore, the very repression threatens them. Then a lot of important things remain in the shadows, but not clarified. The threat of rupture grows with each similar situation. When people come to me with this question, I always suggest working on clarifying hidden feelings before making a decision. Anger, for example, will indicate unmet needs in a couple.

Finding out the reasons, you can better understand what a person needs and what are the expectations, which in turn helps to find ways to solve a painful issue. Very often, after such work, the idea of parting loses its relevance, because we are angry just at people who are really dear and important to us.

But this is just one example. There are other situations when, for example, a person is faced with serious crises in his life, which have nothing to do with love relationships, but definitely affect them. For example, dismissal, own illness or death of someone close. In this case, the person will not have an internal resource to support the relationship, and he needs time to recover. There is definitely no need to rush here. It is worth being patient and waiting for some time for the final decision.

And here is the moment that can become a landmark. As long as there are doubts and questions like “how to understand?” arise, you can be sure that you leave a chance to save a couple. When a relationship runs out of steam, these questions don't arise. Parting brings relief, and the person is left with a trace of gratitude for the experience. But this may not be the same for both partners.

SETTLEMENT RELATIONSHIPS - IS IT GOOD OR NOT?

- What can you say about the relationship of convenience? When, for example, you think in the future that this guy is smart and everything will be fine with him, but he is not very smart and I love him, but I still won’t get married.

- In our society, you can find a lot of condemnation and dissatisfaction when faced with this. But this is about human needs. Money is an opportunity and a resource. We are talking about physiological needs and the need for safety. And the fact that a person makes a choice in the direction of prospects when it comes to a future family can be quite justified.

Family is not only love. Money plays a very important role in this system. And here, as in a stable expression: "With a sweet paradise in a hut until the first rain." And if we talk about love, then here everyone chooses for himself.

In the question itself, there is an attitude that the man is the main breadwinner in the family. The scheme is clear, verified. But there is another option, when both partners occupy equal positions. Such relationships are built on mutual support and mutual assistance. This environment is more nutritious and safer for two, which, in turn, is a good condition for the development of each. Then the question of choice, in principle, is not worth it.

But often an equal partnership remains at the level of reasoning, because in life everything is a little more complicated, and such couples are very rare.

- What does it mean for a girl when she is in a relationship without love, and what does it mean for a guy when he does not love? Is there a gender difference in the perception of this?

- Yes, there is, but it's hard to say to what extent.

I keep repeating - everything is very individual. Although the fact that, for example, men are less susceptible to emotions, and for most women, the emotional sphere is the leading one, remains a fact. In addition, women are more likely than men to maintain relationships and work on them if the need arises. The presence of children and a small salary reinforces this trend.

Many modern women still try to relieve tension in this matter and actively invest in their development, which, in my opinion, is great. This avoids dependence on a man and has a good effect not only on all family members, but also on society as a whole.

What does it mean not to love in a relationship for a man and for a woman? I think it's equally sad for both. Regardless of gender, everyone has a need for love. Here, rather, the question is who and how is able to respond. From experience, we can say that men are more decisive in such matters.

I can only add that our society continues to maintain the attitude that "real men don't cry." And this often causes a blockage of feelings, which, if manifested, could become ground for growth in a relationship. And while this is the case, it is really easier for a man to get out of a relationship. This gives him relief, although it does not solve his underlying problems.

But there are men who know the other side of the issue, and this cannot but delight. This is the case when, by developing the emotional sphere, a man strengthens his male part.

what to do if you are afraid to leave an unloved person

- You often hear from people over 40, they say, I regret that in my youth I got married or married an unloved person.

- If a person, having reached a certain age, begins to look towards the fact that something does not suit him in a relationship, this is wonderful. Understanding the problem provides a chance to improve these relationships or take more drastic measures. Everyone will find their own solution.

And yes, it is possible that the realization of lost time or missed opportunities will cause great melancholy, but it is worse when a person resigns himself to the situation, does not want to notice anything else and feels powerless, having lost hope to change something in his life. This is real drama.

And if there is a willingness to look deep into the problem and deal with it, then age sometimes becomes a good support, as it brings invaluable experience.

Are you forty, fifty or sixty, what difference does it make? If there is a will, there is always a way. Sometimes you just need to take the first step.

Is it okay to be in a relationship without love? For me personally, no. And I immediately want to ask: “Who determines this norm? Who will tell you what is right and what is wrong?” Each person has the right to live his life according to the scenario that he writes himself. Another thing is how happy a person is in this. If there is no happiness, it may be worth taking a chance and starting to change something.

- It happens that a couple rents a house or has taken a loan, they have children and it is scary to leave, because it is not known what will happen next. How to act in such a situation?

– The unknown is really scary, and anxiety is inevitable here. This must be taken for granted. Another thing is if the anxiety is so strong that it paralyzes and prevents you from moving forward. Then you should contact a specialist. And to find out what will happen next, you need to start moving to that very point. In this movement, a person cannot avoid meeting the zone of discomfort, but there is no other way when it comes to experiencing a new experience.

– What can be recommended here?

- First of all, you should enlist the support of loved ones, and you should take care of this in advance. You can make a list of reliable people to whom you can turn for help in case of emergency.

Secondly, do not expect too much from yourself and allow yourself to move in small steps, thereby showing respect and care for yourself. And for self-work with anxiety, it will be good to write a list of everything that scares you and speculate about how real everything is.

Very often fears are far-fetched and do not have a solid foundation. It is best to do this with someone you trust. It will help you look at the situation from a different perspective.

And thirdly, the main thing is to believe that everything will work out.

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Why don't you like everything that everyone is crazy about? And not because you are in a bad mood, but this is how it works? Well, you don't like the sunset, black caviar and the actor, from whom everyone is crazy.

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"What's wrong with me?" you ask yourself. "There's something wrong with you!" - add fuel to the fire around.
Let's figure it out. How did it happen that you live without loving - and is there even a ray of hope in this leaden sky.

I don't like animals

My girlfriend drives me crazy by posting pictures of a cat on social media. “Lovely! Handsome!" - enthusiastic cat-lovers fire from all the cannons. And you quickly “flip through” photos of an impudent cat's muzzle. What is it about him, this Marquis? The eyes are stupid, the cheeks are thick, the mustache is like wire. And it meows disgustingly.

She took it and said what you think. Since then, relations with others, especially cat and dog owners, have become cooler. You are sad and offended, but sympathy for Murziks and Bobs is not increasing.

Doctor, what is this?

Psychologists say terrible things: people do not like animals because they cannot accept their sincerity, spontaneity and unconditional love. Let's make it clearer: perhaps some "dislikers" of cats in childhood simply did not communicate with purrs and, in general, with animals. They do not understand what kind of happiness it is to wag a dog behind the ear, treat a hamster with cabbage and cuddle with a cat. And what we do not know cannot be tempting - this is the first. Second: maybe once there was a sad experience. The tragic death of a pet dog, a serious illness of an affectionate cat - that left a heavy mark. And again, looking at mischievous purrs and watchdogs for the unfortunate means resurrecting those memories.

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There is a third possible reason: animals embody certain traits of character. Cats are independent, dogs are loyal - maybe it is with these qualities that the “unlover” has problems. He would like to gain independence, strengthen his character, but it doesn’t work, and here before his eyes is a living embodiment of pride ... Or vice versa: a person suffers because of his isolation, suffers from loneliness, but also cannot uproot. And seeing the same arrogant impregnability in a pet, he gnashes his teeth...

In general, animals are healthy. Think about what prevents you from being friends with them. Also, try to treat other people's pets through the prism of your attitude towards their owners: such wonderful friends have pets everywhere.

I don't like children

... You are a pariah or an outcast. Or "hello". Or... There are enough synonyms, the meaning is the same: obvious deep deviations in the psyche. About which others told, and you yourself guessed. The reason is serious - you don't like children.

... Become a mother? Yes you that, dismiss. These are sleepless nights, insomnia, diapers, torment from dawn to dusk. And for what, that is, for whom - a small creature with the disposition of a dictator and tyrant.

Older kids are annoying too. They scream loudly, climb everywhere, crackle incessantly - a nightmare. Unfortunately, your "fad" is known to others, so you are known as "a pretty girl, but a little crazy."

Doctor, what is this?

Immediately and directly: adults hate children because they themselves are still children. Feeling strong emotions is possible only for those whom we consider equal. And this fear (it is known that aggression is the “wrong side” of fear) comes from childhood. Perhaps someone in childhood was harassed and offended by peers, child cruelty is a frequent and well-known fact. Adults "outgrow" past grievances, and eternal children project hatred onto the baby. The second possible reason is the extreme egoism inherent again in children. The appearance of heirs completely changes life, shifts the center of the universe to the baby, makes you give up interests, leisure - and this causes frustration ... A sign of a mature psyche is a conscious desire to take care of someone, pass on experience, give love. If it does not occur, we draw conclusions. Don't be upset, accept it in yourself. You will probably still grow up, and if not, it's okay, just don't express your opinion on every corner.

I don't like my birthday

Every year this nightmare: a table, fake congratulations, stupid toasts, a cake, you in a stupid cap on your smart hair. "Don't-na-see-zhu!" - you cover your head with your hands, take a day off or leave from work, turn off your phone and sit at home in confinement. Or you are leaving somewhere where no one has a dream or a breath about your "jam day".

Fortunately, you are not alone, there are many of us.

Doctor, what is this?

It could be anything. The saddest option is a deep rejection of yourself. Everything that is connected with one's own person, any manifestation of it causes annoyance. Accepting congratulations at the moment of a feast means becoming the epicenter of attention - it scares and angers.

Another version is resentment towards parents, especially mother. Everything connected with the birth is automatically attributed to the mother. And if the relationship is not cloudless, the birthday will reasonably become a "sad holiday."

Another obstacle is the fear of change. Each passing year is a symbol, newness, fresh successes, achievements and acquaintances sound in the wishes. But for some of us it is difficult to finish one thing and start a new one, hence the desire to drag out the old one and not celebrate the date.

Finally, a blockage of emotions prevents you from having a great time. A holiday is jokes, joy, fun. Not everyone can fully experience these strong feelings: alas, they themselves understand that "strangers are at the celebration of life. " Understanding makes you worry, nervous. And instead of a good feast, a person receives suffering and torment - in his own honor.

In a word, try to start celebrating with one or two closest friends. You look, you will get involved by the first anniversary.

I don't like men

Married friends are suicidal. How could you refuse your friendship, walks, etc. in favor of a gluttonous hairy barbarian? Moreover, bring him to your house. And in general - all men are terrible. We bend our fingers and toes: they are sloppy, boring, cruel, stupid, incomprehensible, tormentors and stranglers... They also love football and computer games.

So it turns out that you nip any attempts at flirting in the bud, you refuse male help, you don’t get married for any gingerbread.

Doctor, what is this?

This is an insult. For one or two men who hurt. Maybe it's the father who left. Probably a loved one who left an indelible wound. The resentment was so great that it grew to absurd proportions: if one person is bad, then everyone is like that. This is the voice of the unconscious, it is uncompromising, it recognizes only black and white. Meanwhile, the world is big, it is constantly changing, there are billions of men in it, including good and very good ones.

You won't change bad people, but you don't have to face them. While you hate them, the principle “if there are only bastards around you, then you are the center”, that is, you will attract negativity and potential offenders. But if you change the angle of view and attitude to at least a neutral one, the picture around you will also change.

I don't like people

Communication with others is seven circles of hell for you. They are slow, stupid, arrogant, greedy and envious. They also have bad manners, empty eyes, and primitive desires. You are a misanthrope - someone who hates humanity. How to live with it?

Doctor, what is this?

This is love tightly fused with hatred. There are finely organized personalities with a vulnerable soul, who initially saw the world as beautiful, and its inhabitants as worthy of the high title of Human. But time after time they were convinced that a person is weak, the Roman philosopher Seneca also warned about this. People continue to lie, to take someone else's, to be mean. There's nothing you can do about it, comrades shrug their shoulders, for whom it is easier to live in the world because of the "inoculation of cynicism." And for those who are vulnerable in soul and impeccable in thoughts, such a picture is unbearable. They try to change humanity, denounce, ridicule, call - and in response, a myriad of meaningless views and the verdict "you are a fool." So, in a nutshell: a misanthrope is a highly disillusioned romantic. He hates not people, but human vices. He cannot ignore them, on the contrary, he is "sharpened" for them: among the best qualities, he will see one wormhole - and become angry. In general, a sort of "nurse" and healer. And by the way: the most terrible people are not misanthropes, but indifferent. If you don't believe us, trust Julius Fucik, the author of the iconic "Report with a noose around his neck": "Fear the indifferent.

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