Where do men masterbate
Questions About Male Masturbation - What to Know About Masturbating
It’s hard not to be at least a little curious about what goes on when guys masturbate. Whether it’s because it’s done in the privacy of their own spaces or because it just seems kinda foreign compared to the way women masturbate, the whole process leaves us with a lot of questions. Thankfully, this is a safe space, and we’ve got answers to ALL your pressing (and not-so-pressing) questions about male masturbation habits thisaway.
Do guys ever try to suck their own dick?
Some guys who can, do. But as one friend of mine (who can) pointed out, it’s less about masturbation for him and more like a circus trick to be performed in front of others. Contorting your whole body that way every single time you want to get off would get tiring (and the risk of injury is potentially too high to be worth it).
Do guys normally always jizz the same amount? Do they ever notice if their jizz is less or more that day?
Not usually, unless it’s an abnormally large amount like, say, if he hasn’t masturbated in a while. Think about the fluid you produce when you’re turned on. You don’t typically measure it, but if the quantity produced is so large that it shocks you, yeah, you’ll take note of it.
How common is it for guys to want to stick their finger up their ass while masturbating?
It really depends from person to person. Some guys just *know* they’re ass dudes and love it, others don’t really get into it on their own. Just like female masturbation, there’s no correct or incorrect technique of going about it, as long as it makes you feel good and gets you off.
How often do men masturbate? A day? A week?
Again, it depends on the person and their individual sex drive. That being said, most men masturbate by habit. Aka every night before going to sleep, on Saturday mornings when they can sleep in, or some other time that’s ritualistic and/or convenient for them.
Do guys ever talk about masturbation with their guy friends? Like how some female friends discuss sex toys?
Most guys don’t.
Whether this is due to stigma or cultural stuff or maybe just a lack of fun male sex toys on the market, it’s hard to say.
How often do guys do it purely out of boredom?
It happens, and it’s definitely easy for most guys to think, I’ve got some time to kill, and force themselves to be aroused. More likely, though, it happens when we’re clicking around online or doing whatever and the mood strikes. It’s more like, You know what, I feel like a bag of chips, like, 75 percent of the time and, Man, I guess I’ll see if something is on TV, only about 25 percent of the time.
Is using a sock actually a thing?
It is. To my knowledge, there hasn’t been a study on what percentage of guys actually use it. Most will just finish in a tissue or catch it with their hand. And most of the time, even guys who are coming in a sock or something are still washing them afterward.
But not always. I present to you Reddit’s infamous “cum box” (NSFWork/life, obviously).
Do guys ever use their other hand for extra stimulation? (Like that spot between the shaft and scrotum?)
Sure. There are no hard numbers on how guys masturbate. Surprisingly, no one is pouring funding and research into this topic. But while just using a hand and some lotion is probably the most typical, massaging the perineum and stimulating the prostate are definitely things some guys elect to do.
Speaking of hands, is the “ghost” hand real? Like, do guys ever sit on their hand until it goes numb in order to have it feel like another person?
Guys have probably tried just about everything when it comes to masturbation techniques, especially when puberty rolls up and drives them insane with hormones. So is it real in that guys have tried it? Definitely. Is it real in the sense that it’s a “go-to” technique for a sizable portion of the male population? I can answer this one less confidently, but probably not.
There are likely very few people who prefer to masturbate that way versus doing it the old-fashioned way.
Do guys do it in the shower when we’re in the other room?
Not all the time, but yeah. Guys can have healthy sex lives with you and still masturbate. It just means their sex drive is high.
How do you clean up?
This varies from guy to guy. Cleanup usually involves just washing our hands (with soap, hopefully). If we used lotion, it’ll pretty much be absorbed by the skin, but with lube, we might need to splash some water on our dick. Some will use a tissue, which usually makes cleanup pretty painless. And this is really, really rare, but some guys will even use a condom.
Do guys use anything besides their hand?
Toys like the Fleshlight definitely sell, but most guys won’t admit to using them.
However, I can pretty much guarantee that any kid who grew up with the internet tried to make one of these warm-water-bag-glove-lotion hybrids. Because 15-year-old boys will literally fuck a bag. Most guys just use their hand though. Most convenient.
Do guys ever accidentally ejaculate on themselves?
Yeah, even the most careful and prudent of masturbators will occasionally have to deal with errant semen. Either you don’t ready yourself in time or you don’t quite cover the head of the penis and the semen goes flying. Honestly, if it lands on us, we’re lucky. Otherwise, we’ve got to set up one of those CSI ballistics kits to figure out where it might have landed.
Do guys think about their girlfriend/wife/boyfriend/partner when they masturbate?
Some guys do, but for most guys, this would be a hard no. It really depends on whether or not masturbating to people they know feels weird to them.
Some guys have a tough time using their imaginations and need to rely on porn. Others might just want something different during their “special alone time.” Although the term is kind of antiquated, “myspaceterbating” is the act of jerking off to someone’s social media page, so now you know that can happen.
What is the preferred lotion of masturbators everywhere?
I don’t want to call out a specific brand, but really any good hand cream works. A substantial amount of guys go dry though, believe it or not. Some men find it uncomfortable, depending on whether they’re circumcised and how much skin they have around their penis. It’s easier for guys with extra (fore)skin to masturbate dry without uncomfortable friction.
Where do guys masturbate when they want to be stealthy?
Bathroom. This is hopefully the only answer. I don’t want to think about men shamefully masturbating while crouching in their attic or standing there jerking off in a dark garage.
Do guys like to take their time or do they just hit an orgasm as fast as possible?
This is another case where every guy is different, but most men can either feel their orgasm creep up on them and follow through or pace themselves. It’s all about speed versus distance and what we’re feeling in the moment. Some men will hunt around until they find a video they like and commit. Others will click around until they find one they think they can finish to.
Do guys masturbate to porn because that’s what they want their sex lives to be like?
I really hope not. Everyone’s been there once or twice (or 90 times), where you’re just like, What the hell did I just masturbate to? Arousal lowers our inhibitions, and what turns us on also doesn’t mean it’s necessarily what we want to experience personally. Plus, don’t forget that most porn is still directed with the viewer in mind, not the pleasure of both participants.
Do guys ever smell/taste their own jizz?
I was going to say this is hard to answer, but fuck it. The answer is yes. At some point, a guy has thought, How do girls do this? and gently touched their tongue to it. There are two kinds of guys: guys who tried it once and liars.
Can guys get off without being fully hard?
Not really, no. You don’t always need to have the biggest and best boner you’ve ever had, but you’re not going to be able to rub one out flaccid.
When watching porn and masturbating, do guys have to try not to orgasm immediately?
Typically, no, unless they have a condition that would cause them to be prone to premature ejaculation. But beyond a literal immediate orgasm, every guy is going to run out his masturbation clock differently. Some might try to crank it out as quickly as possible with whatever is on the front page of some porn site.
Some might take their time with a series of preselected videos. Others might take it as a personal challenge to see exactly how long they can last. But just like with sex, it’s not as if being sexually stimulated automatically means he needs to fight the urge to orgasm.
Have most guys tried sticking their dick in food?
This is another purely anecdotal answer, but I’d be very surprised if a considerable number of guys hadn’t at least tried to use something other than their hands to masturbate, with varying degrees of success. If it can be penetrated in some way, some horny pioneer has made an attempt. There are people out there who have sex with couches and plenty of other things that weren’t intended to have someone inside them and/or be inside someone. Plus, when American Pie came out, I’m pretty sure a lot of warm pastries got thrown in the trash, smashed up and uneaten. But to be clear, “tried it once” and having half their monthly grocery bill consist of fuck-able foods are two different things.
This post was originally published in 2016 and has been updated.
Cosmo Frank I am a human male that enjoys consuming meals consisting of all five food groups and fulfilling every level of Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs.
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Where Do People Masturbate Most? 9 Things To Know About Masturbation, Because May Is National Masturbation Month And It's Time To Celebrate
Masturbation is safest sex you can have. You don’t have to worry about condoms, STIs, awkward sexual mishaps, and you’re always guaranteed to have an orgasm. It's so good for you, physically and mentally, that it only makes sense that it would be given a whole month of celebration: National Masturbation Month.
What's also great about masturbating is you can literally do it anywhere. It's just about being creative.
"Get your brain on board with masturbation and your body will thank you," Dr. Emily Morse, a doctor of human sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast, tells Bustle. "Remember that arousal starts in your head and works its way down. If your mind is good and turned on, it won’t be long until the rest of your body follows suit."
Because masturbation is so healthy and accessible, sex toy company, We-Vibe, just released their first annual We-Vibe Masturbation Report. The report researched men and women across the United States, ages 20 to 70, of all relationship statuses, to see who's masturbating, how often, where they're doing it, and, of course, what they’re using to get themselves off. Of the 600 respondents, the overall consensus is that masturbation definitely isn’t as taboo as it used to be. People are finally catching on to just how important it is and how fun it is, too.
Here are nine things to know about masturbation in honor of National Masturbation Month, thanks to We-Vibe’s report.
1. People Are Talking About Masturbation More Than Ever
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Of the respondents, 85% said they were comfortable more than ever before to talk about masturbation thanks to things like TV and movies that are making the subject less taboo. Which is definitely great news; it needs to be talked about and talked about regularly in positive ways.
"The more we talk about [masturbation]," Dr. Nikki Goldstein, a sexologist and author, tells Bustle. "The more we start to understand that everyone does it or at least has the desire to. The other is swapping secret and tips. Masturbation shouldn't just be straightforward. There are so many ways to do it and to make it feel good."
According to the research, 69% have talked about masturbation with their friends, 32% had done so a lot, and 63% had only discussed it a few times.
At 34% versus 29%, men are still more comfortable than women when it comes to talking about masturbation.
2. Millennials Are The Most Comfortable With The Topic Of Masturbation
Although this shouldn’t be totally surprising, it’s nice to know that millennials are far more open to masturbation than past generations. While 85% of millennials have talked about masturbation with their friends, only 65% of Gen-Xers had indulged in masturbation chatter with their buddies. Let's hope this trend continues for the generations to come.
3. Most People Start Masturbating In Their Teens
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According to the research, 45% of respondents reported that they had started touching themselves for the first time between ages 13 to 19. However, 20% of women said they didn’t start exploring that part of their bodies until they were in the 20s... all those lost years of orgasms. We can, mostly likely, blame our culture for that.
"While for boys, masturbation is framed to them as natural, unavoidable, and even healthy — girls experience a very different narrative," Polly Rodriguez, co-founder and CEO of sex toy company Unbound, tells Bustle.
"Told from the get-go that their sexuality is to be controlled and contained, girls aren't taught about masturbation, so many view it as unnatural or even shameful. They're also rarely taught about their own pleasure when it comes to sex. This means that not only are they unaware about sources of pleasure, they're often too embarrassed or scared to explore them. If we were to teach young girls about their bodies, about pleasure, about the clitoris, and about their sexuality (beyond how to defend against male sexuality), I think we might see more equivalent masturbation rates."
4. The Majority Of People Masturbate When They're Horny
Although 38% of people masturbate to reduce any stress or anxiety they might be feeling, and 26% do so out of the boredom, at 87%, most masturbate when they’re feeling, well, sexy.
But no matter one's reason for masturbating, the research found that 76% felt satisfied after doing so, 59% felt less stressed, and, one to five percent, a very minimal amount, felt shame or lonely because of it.
5. People Are Masturbating In Their Car
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While 80% prefer their bedroom for their self-love moments, 20% of men and 19% of women admitted to having masturbated in their car at some point. Which makes sense: have you ever sat in rush hour traffic and not considered killing time with some hot and heavy masturbation And, interestingly enough, of those masturbating in their car most often, 35% were from the Midwest. Apparently, those long, long roads with the tumbleweed do have a purpose after all.
As for the rest of the country, 8% of the East Coast respondents masturbate in the kitchen (because food, obviously), 25% of Southerners prefer the shower, and back to those Midwesterners, 41% masturbate in the bathroom... because easy clean up? On the West Coast, the couch is a happening masturbation spot for 19%.
6. People Masturbate More In The Winter
When it comes to seasons, winter sees the most action with 82% of respondents reporting that they masturbate more in the winter months than any other time of year.
As for the most ideal time of day, 51% reported preferring night over day for their self-love dalliances. Considering the benefits of masturbating before bed, preferring night to day can actually be a good thing — but day over night is also great in its own way.
7. Half Of Women Use A Vibrator To Get Off
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Not only do 55% of women masturbate at least once a week or more, but 50% of them use vibrators to do so. Half the women also reported to being able to climax easier during masturbation than with a partner, because of course.
"Women masturbate in a dazzling array of ways," Vanessa Marin, sex therapist and creator of Finishing School, an online orgasm course for women, tells Bustle. "Female masturbation doesn't get talked about very openly, but I think it's truly amazing to learn about all of the different ways that women can experience pleasure."
Not to mention all the different types of orgasms that can be experienced.
8. Most People Don’t Watch Porn During Masturbation
While porn makes for a great aid when masturbating for some people, more than half, at 53%, prefer their own imagination over visual stimulation when getting themselves off. But of those who did report to having watched porn while jerking off, 81% were male, because you know how much guys just love that visual stimulation.
In addition, 20% of respondents listen to music while masturbating, although there’s no say in the research as to what type of music people prefer. Although I'm willing to bet there's some Marvin Gaye action in there somewhere.
9. Women Are Just As Likely To Masturbate When They’re In A Relationship As When They're Single
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To further prove that masturbation is absolutely not something that only “lonely” women do, the report found that three in four women were just as likely to masturbate when they were in a relationship then if they were single.
"Masturbation is a healthy way to determine what is pleasurable," Rachel Hoffman, LCSW, M.Ed, a PhD candidate in human sexuality, tells Bustle. "It may also help relieve stress and promote sleep. Regardless of your relationship status, masturbation is a healthy form of sexual expression. Be open and honest with your partner about masturbation, as majority of individuals feel worse about their partner lying than about the behavior itself."
Takeaway? No matter where you are, you should be reaching for your vibrator right about now. (Assuming, of course, you're flying solo.)
This post was originally published on May 4, 2015. It was updated on September 6, 2019.
Men masturbate: hipster — LiveJournal
From time to time, a man, like Santa Claus, must empty his bags of gifts. A handmade orgasm breaks into our lives on the wave of puberty throwing and - here is the great secret - remains in it forever. Masturbation comes in those years when just looking at members of the opposite sex makes you blush.When a man masturbates, he thinks of one of two things. About the women he had - or the women he didn't have. The total number of both remains constant throughout life. Therefore, deep down, we are all masturbators.
Boys masturbate to satisfy their thirst. But the need is insatiable: at 85, as at 15, it remains a reality, albeit not physical, but psychological. This need accompanies us like the memory of an amputated limb: it itches even when it is no longer there. The biological instinct of a man - to reproduce, to mate, to ensure the survival of the species - is, ironically, indistinguishable from the banal urge to lock himself in the bathroom to drive the bald man.
We turn to Duna Kulakova to save the human race. Try explaining this to your wife.
Young males continue to masturbate for a thousand different reasons. They do this when they are bored, anxious or lonely.
When irritated or suffering from insomnia (training a one-eyed snake is the best sleeping pill of all times and peoples). They do it because reality is too far removed from the Kamasutra fireworks, leather underwear, and “Yes!” that their restless imagination throws at them.
The average act of masturbation is not distinguished by sophistication. It rarely occurs under the influence of an overwhelming physical desire. "Psychological masturbation" is essentially no different from psychological gluttony, only instead of a bag of chips, you hold your own penis in your hands. Like pizza with delivery - no work, no memories. But does this mean that we should welcome masturbation as one of the innocent boyish pastimes on a par with Saturday football?
The main argument against onanism is that if a man satisfies himself, he does not realize his true potential. A seed that falls on rocky soil (or even on the bottom of a toilet bowl) will not bear fruit. Did Neil Armstrong touch himself while walking on the surface of the moon while wearing a spacesuit? Did Muhammad Ali polish his torpedo before the fight in Manila? Did Mark Antony strangle his goose before his date with Cleopatra? Did Jeff Hurst bend his horse before the World Cup final in 1966? Real men don't do stupid things.
They know when to keep their hands on top of the blanket.
We live in a world of loneliness and egocentrism. Few things fit into this world more logically than masturbation. It doesn't need anyone but yourself. But if you're in a long-term, serious relationship with a woman—or even a short-term, casual relationship with a woman—there's no place for masturbation in your life.
Of course, a man will always find an excuse for himself: “Honey, I missed you so much!” But if your ejaculation today is dedicated to hotteens.com, the woman you love will begin to guess that she is not enough for you.
“If you gather all the girls I knew and bring them together for one night, then, I know, they will not satisfy my sweet dreams,” Paul Simon once sang and was damn right. The woman you love is not enough for you, because all the women in the world are not enough for you. This is the truth, which is not customary to speak out loud.
The sin of masturbation is booming these days.
Is it strange that in an ultra-liberal and tolerant society, where a sexual partner is easier to find than an organic carrot, masturbation is more popular than ever? Part of the blame for this can be blamed on the Internet. Once upon a time, in order to see a photograph of a woman with a banana sticking out of a causal place, one had to rummage around the gloomy nooks and crannies of Soho at dusk. Today this charm will be yours with one click of the mouse. Hardcore pornography has become more accessible than gas and hot water, it has seized the masses and acquired destructive power. She turned secret and shameful perversions into a frivolous hobby. Pedophilia? Sadomasochism? Bestiality? We accept credit cards.
However, manuals on masturbation existed before. I remember with what indignation in the late 70s I looked at a familiar music critic who swept magazines with boobs and butts off the shelves at a gas station and said: “Hey, food for imagination and skillful hands!” I am still shocked by his shamelessness.
Buying "dirty magazines" as openly as breakfast cornflakes, confessing everything and stepping out of the shadows is against all my instincts. Same-sex marriage? No problem. Anal sex? At least every day. Gangbang? It happens to everyone. But masturbation is the only type of sex that bears the mark of a curse.
Late at night, instead of snoring peacefully under the matrimonial blanket, men keep their unblinking eyes on monitors. Behind locked bathroom doors, men close their eyes and think of Heidi Klum. Men declare war on their masturbation and capitulate in this war. And that's because all the men were boys.
We dream of ending her forever. But like an alcoholic who pours himself his last glass, we believe that once does not solve anything. But masturbation is like cocaine: once is not enough, and two is too much. We dream of taking control. But she's coming back, and it's starting to get on our nerves. We begin to realize how close chaos is prowling our orderly life, how close we are to destroying what we have been building for many years.
We hope to end masturbation by finding the woman of our dreams. But this does not bring peace, because sex is not the best, if not the worst, foundation of a life together.
One thing is certain: investing in masturbation pays the highest dividends. The Internet, striptease, peep shows, glossy magazines - all this is the industry of masturbation, and in this pool of sperm there is a gold mine. Masturbation comes to us to stay. Well, well, let only naughty boys do this (although for the sake of truth, we note that lesbian love is built on masturbation, although there is not a single penis in it). But even without regard to the rest of nature, boys do it and will always do it.
A grown man masturbating is sad, because there are many women in the world who would need their tool. But playing pocket billiards is personal time, and everyone needs a little personal time. According to Woody Allen, masturbation is sex with the person you love the most. You do not need to invite this person to dinner, tickle with a feather and ask about feelings, and he will not complain that everything happened too quickly.
Masturbation is more intimate than prayer. You will surely be able to read "Our Father" without any problems, lying in bed next to the chosen one. But it is unlikely that you will openly desecrate the marriage bed with masturbation. At least wait until she is in a deep sleep. Sleeping? We wish her sweet dreams.
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P. S. I have long wanted to write on this subject. And then I realized that no one would say better than old Parsons.
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You wake up in the morning and realize that your boyfriend, who is lying next to you in bed, is engaged in self-satisfaction. Do you want to tell him: “Baby, what about me”? And in general, how to behave in such a situation and why do men masturbate in general, even if they are in a relationship?
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According to statistics, about 80 percent of men and almost 50 percent of women masturbate.
In fact, the numbers are higher. Today we are not talking about women. But they are often concerned with the question: why do men like to masturbate? And when they notice their boyfriend masturbating, they begin to worry themselves: “My boyfriend is no longer interested in me, he doesn’t like sex with me!”
Why do men often masturbate? Yes, if only because men and women perceive sex differently. Men can do this to relieve stress. And women - to find harmony with their partner.
But why does he masturbate, instead of waking up a living, beloved and seemingly usually desired girl sleeping next to him?
Because ... wants to masturbate
"I confess that I have this sexual fantasy: the girl woke up, caught me and ... joined in!" Roman (25)
Why do guys masturbate? Because it's one of those erotic fantasies they don't dare to say out loud.
But if the girl herself is not averse to taking the initiative and starting first, such a process can diversify intimate life. And most importantly, it will allow us to be closer to each other, to show more trust.
“This happened to me during the preparation for the case - when I planned to wake the girl up with sex or cunnilingus. But in the process I got carried away, with whom it does not happen. Another possible reason is that the girl herself is a sexual fantasy. It's nice to look at her, it's nice to dream about her. In any case, such a situation is a manifestation of a man's trust in a woman. If I didn’t trust, I went to the bathroom. So not "Why didn't you wake me up?!" but "Do you mind if I join?"0069 Valeriy (28)
Masturbation as self-love
In Holland, for example, masturbation is considered extremely important. There is even a Rotterdam Center for Self-Satisfaction, where self-love is studied as a science.
Students are taught theory and applied disciplines, such as "Masturbation and aesthetic pleasure" or "Contemplation of natural landscapes during masturbation." Why do men masturbate? In this country, such a piquant topic became the subject of research by scientists who saw important psychological aspects in male self-satisfaction. There is no other country in the world with such concern for men's health.
Because ... cares
Why do men want to masturbate? As ironic as it may sound, sometimes they do it out of love and respect for their partner. And what if she has “those days” and she definitely doesn’t have time for sex, but a man needs a release? That's when they, too, can resort to self-satisfaction.
“If a wife runs so much during the day that she is unlikely to be able to fully indulge in sex at night, I won’t wake her up. But if it's not, I try to stir it up. Soft". Marat (29)
Male animals also masturbate.
Porcupines in a state of sexual arousal walk on three legs, and the fourth is kept on the genitals. An elephant stimulates a semi-erect penis with its trunk. Even if self-satisfaction is inherent in animals by nature, then what can we say about people. It is not always possible to find bad sides in this process. Sometimes a man, being in a relationship, satisfies himself for the sake of taking care of his beloved.
Because ... has the right to masturbate
“For men, masturbation is an expression of freedom: he wanted to have sex with his woman, he wanted to have sex with himself. If a girl often reproaches him for this (they say, you have me!), She may lose her beloved. Don't encroach on our rights!" Eugene (27)
Masturbation is a legal right
According to the definition of the World Health Organization, masturbation is "the legal right of a person to give himself pleasure and dispose of his own body.
" Therefore, before asking the question: "Why do men want to masturbate?", remember that everyone has the right to dispose of his body and his desires.
Because...wants to relieve stress quickly
“Masturbation is a way to relieve stress. And quite energy-intensive: no need to involve the girl, think about her pleasure, puff and move. It's just you, your hand, and here it is - detente. Igor (32)
Why do men masturbate? Yes, the representatives of the stronger sex have such a feature. They can relieve stress in two ways - sex or alcohol. Everyone chooses what he likes. In favor of self-satisfaction is the fact that he requires less various costs from a man. There is no need to persuade a woman to have intimacy, create a suitable atmosphere, waste time on foreplay. I just went to the toilet, took out my "unit", a few minutes and the discharge was received.
“It's faster and sometimes more enjoyable, especially if you're tired, than having sex.
He jerked the shutter and with a sense of satisfaction (including moral) - to sleep! But just “masturbating a girl” (waking her up for an erection) is much more disrespectful. Michael (31)
Millions of people masturbate
Don't be surprised when you wonder why a man masturbates. In fact, 50 million people masturbate every second in the world! And if you saw your boyfriend in the process of self-satisfaction, just mentally write in this list of perfectly normal people who needed a quick discharge at that moment.
Because ...likes and/or is lazy
“I often masturbate when my partner is asleep. Often after sex. Why? Yes, because I love doing it. For no particular reason." Gennady, (27)
Why do men masturbate even when in a relationship with the woman they love. Simply because they enjoy the process.
And they see no other reasons for masturbation.
“Do you want to be honest? Sometimes too lazy to strain. Sex is more than an hour, and then you still need to wash, smoke. And get up early for work. And not all women like being woken up.” Denis (32)
Men in relationships often masturbate
Men in stable relationships masturbate more often than women in relationships. Why do men masturbate? The answers are above. You should not make a big deal out of molehills when the partner's relationship is still strong and he talks about his love. He likes self-satisfaction, which means that he considers it necessary for his body.
Because... the girl refused
It happened to me when a girl refused sex. She lies all so beautiful, half asleep and absolutely uninterested in my erection. Well, what to do? Just masturbate! Kirill, (31)
Why do men want to masturbate? But this is the very case when the reason may be in the woman herself.
She showed no interest in her partner, turned out to be not interested in intimacy, rudely responded to his offer to have sex. And the guy has nothing left but self-satisfaction.
A woman rarely wants sex so-and-so, that she is ready to sacrifice sleep and a rested appearance in the morning, but a man - easily. Well, since she refused and is sleeping, then I will be alone with myself. Maxim, (27)
Masturbation as a threat to relationships
Why does a man masturbate? Because he lacks intimacy, tenderness, care, attention and corny - sex. Sexual dissatisfaction can be a serious threat to a relationship. Experts put this reason on a par with psychological incompatibility, which, according to statistics, most often leads to divorce.
"The reason is simple: I had an erection, but I didn't wake up the miracle that was sniffing next to me." Andrey (37 )
But if a partner often refuses offers of sex, a man may start thinking about what he can find himself and another woman.
Why does a man masturbate: what do women say
How do girls react when they find their beloved doing an interesting activity? They... are silent. Why a guy masturbates remains a mystery to her. She begins to imagine that he has another, he has taken a mistress. But the lack of knowledge of how to be in such a situation creates an awkward situation. And women are really just silent and don't know how to behave.
Women are silent
“When I realized that my husband lying next to me was masturbating, I wanted to... joke. But she resisted, remembering that laughter and sex are not always compatible. I waited for him to finish and fell asleep." Tatiana, (26)
I convinced myself that it seemed to me. After all, it can't be that he masturbates instead of waking me up! Especially since we just went to bed.” Ekaterina, (24)
When a guy masturbates, women get involved in the process
“I am absolutely calm about the fact that my man masturbates - it means that at the moment he has chosen this type of pleasure.
I also have different desires. And if I want, I can just join.” Ekaterina, (23)
"I think the best option in such a situation is to help my MCH, as much as I have enough vigor (I'm awake!) And fantasy." Lina, (24)
Fortunately, many women are able to understand their partner and avoid unnecessary questions: “Why does my boyfriend masturbate?”
Ask questions
“I was a bit taken aback when I found him masturbating. But she did not think of anything, but simply asked why. He honestly answered that he woke up from sexual arousal, began to pester me, but I refused through a dream, and he didn’t go to the bathroom, because it’s more pleasant to do this when there is a half-naked beloved nearby. After this frank conversation, we had great sex. And now, when he suddenly wakes up in the middle of the night, he always wakes me up.” Tatyana, (27)
And sometimes a right and timely question, as well as an honest answer to it, allows a couple to become closer.
Why a man masturbates - found out. Found the reasons. And got rid of them.
Everyone understands
“I don't mind. And I even admit that he, lying next to me, fantasizes about the other. The main thing is not to go to this other person in reality. His fantasies are part of his personal space, which cannot be deprived of. Evgenia, (30)
Why do men masturbate? Yes, sometimes in their fantasies they imagine another woman, for example, a famous actress. But that doesn't mean the guy is cheating.
Happy when a guy masturbates
Why does a guy masturbate? Because he cares about his partner and does not want to wake her up? And why does a woman, noticing him in the process of self-satisfaction, not ask questions? Because she understood without words and does not want to start explaining how terribly tired she was during the day, and that she has no time for sex?
“I was glad he didn't wake me up.
That day I was tired, I was exhausted. Well done for not bothering me." Lika, (30)
“I distinguish between making love for feelings and masturbation for stress relief. It would be unpleasant for me if he woke me not for the sake of love, but for the sake of his desire to "blow off steam." Alena, (29)
Resent when a guy masturbates
“I think it’s right to be indignant out loud, but not to offend: “Why didn’t you wake me up? You know, I always want you!” Marina, (22)
Such words are surely pleasant to every man. And to the question - why do men masturbate, there is one answer: because there is not always mutual understanding with their partner.
They answer the same
“We have the opposite. Sometimes it’s me who can’t sleep and pornographic thoughts come into my head.
It's a shame to wake up your husband. It would be better if three kingpins fall in love with me in fantasies than I disturb him.” Alina, (27)
Women are not alien to self-satisfaction. If you wonder why guys masturbate, it can be redirected to girls too, because women do it too.
Scientific causes of male masturbation
Why does a man masturbate? Sexologist Valery Saltykov believes that the absolute number of sexually mature men are prone to self-satisfaction, and they do it if possible, and not at will, as is commonly believed. And he adds that a man will begin to masturbate even if he has two permanent sexual partners. Either a low sexual need or religious taboos can make him neglect self-satisfaction.
Alena August, psychotherapist, VIP coach, says: “I can say one thing for sure: no one should worry, but it is possible and necessary to think about why this is happening.
Why does a man masturbate and when should you worry about it?
1. It should be remembered that masturbation for a man is an easy way to relieve stress. Why is he not doing this with his beloved? Because a girl needs kisses and caresses, assurances of feelings and gentle words, an aura and an atmosphere. Masturbation, on the other hand, guarantees an "ambulance" without candles, roses and champagne. That's why guys masturbate even when they have a regular partner.
1. Sex with a partner and other ways of satisfaction coexist perfectly in the mind and life of a man. And here, believe me, we are not talking about competition. Love is love, and the desire to experience an orgasm is a separate issue. Why does a man masturbate? Everything is simple - for the sake of orgasm.
3. A girl who finds herself in such a situation not for the first time should honestly answer the questions, how long ago did you have sex, is it varied, has it lost its sharpness.
