What makes a narcissist want you back
How To Make a Narcissist Come Crawling Back?
Have you broken up with your narcissistic partner, and now you want them back? But you don’t just want them back; you want them to come crawling, begging, and pleading in the most desperate and undignified manner? But how to make a Narcissist come crawling back at you?
It might seem impossible, but you can achieve this if you know what to do. Here’s a secret you probably didn’t know, narcissists will break down if they see their ex-partner happy or when their ex-partner ignores them.
For one, they hate seeing their former victims partners happy, and two, they need constant attention.
When you ignore a narcissist, they’ll go to great lengths to get your attention because they can’t live without it.
How to Make a Narcissist Come Crawling Back?
How to make the narcissist come crawling back to you?
One way is to post amazing pictures on social media and make it look like you’re living your best life. Another way is to ignore the narcissist completely and give them no attention whatsoever.
Although narcissists are stubborn and rarely chase when in relationships, you can get them to come crawling back.
Act as if you don’t care you’ve been dumped and you’re better off without them. It won’t be long before the narcissist comes crawling back, wondering why you’re living your best life and not knocking on their door begging to take them back.
Here are some tips on how to make a narcissist come back:
Narcissists can’t stand seeing their victims happy; it completely enrages them. The narcissist kept you miserable when you were together, and they’re damn sure not going to accept you being happy now they’ve discarded you.
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The narcissist dumped you in such a cruel way because they thought they had bled you dry and you had nothing left to give.
As far as the narcissist was concerned, you were completely useless. So if the narcissist sees you living your best life shortly after they’ve dumped you, it’s going to infuriate them. Here’s the plan…
Shortly after the breakup, have a wild girls’ night out on the town; if you can, go on vacation. Take loads of pictures of you having the time of your life; make sure you look AMAZING! Get some guys in the photos and post them to your social media.
Your ex will be furious when he sees them, and will immediately want to knock you off your high horse. You barely cracked a smile when you were together because you were so scared.
Now you’ve broke up, you’re sporting a smile as wide as the Atlantic, and you’re with other men! ABSOLUTELY NOT!
As soon as the narcissist sees those pictures, they’ll have a burning desire to want to put a stop to your happiness, and the only way they can do that is if they’re back in your life. So expect your ex to come knocking.
Ignore the Narcissist When They Call.
Now you’ve set the stage for your narcissist to come back, they will reach out to you. After they see the picture, they’ll give it a couple of weeks before contacting you so as not to appear too eager.
When they do, don’t respond. Ignoring the narcissist will madden them to no end. You’re having the time of your life, and you’re shutting them out! The narcissist will declare an all-out cold war on you.
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They’ll come at you with their guns blazing but disguise it as love. The narcissist will go back to what they know works. It won’t be long before the love-bombing begins.
You’ll start receiving flowers, gifts, invitations to dinner, and anything else that comes with their strategy. Their ultimate mission is to bring you back down to the peasant level, so when you ignore the narcissist, expect them to go hard trying to win you over.
Block The Narcissist on All Platforms.
Now it’s time to take this plan to the next level.
The ball is in your court since the narcissist has reached out to you.
The narcissist knows this, but they did not intend for it to stay this way—the narcissists plans on snatching that ball right back as soon as they get into your life.
Go ahead and block the narcissist on all platforms; make sure they can’t reach you on social media, email, or phone.
Aim for complete no contact. The narcissist will know you’ve blocked them because they don’t have access to you anymore, and they’ll have a panic attack. The narcissist will go insane and will do everything in their power to reach you.
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They’ll turn up at your job, your house, your parent’s house. They will run around like a headless chicken trying to contact you. Let this go on for a few weeks, and when you think the time is right, give the narcissist an inch by letting them contact you by phone. Once they finally get hold of you, their level of desperation will shock you.
Start Working on Yourself.
The narcissist wants you to remain a scared, insecure person who believes they’ve got nothing going for them.
That’s how you felt when you were together, and that’s how the narcissist expects you to remain. The minute they see you’ve broken free from their chains, they will want to take you down off your high horse.
Start something like a 30 day get your body right challenge and post your updates on social media. In between that, post about personal development, loving yourself, and spiritual growth.
The narcissist won’t like this new positive mindset you’ve developed, and they’ll need to infiltrate your life to drag you back down to their level.
Can You Get a Narcissist to Come Back?
You can get the narcissist to come back by clarifying the relationship is over and by dating again. After you break up with the narcissist, they will act like they don’t want anything more to do with you. But in most cases, they leave the door open just in case they need you for anything.
Make it Clear the Relationship is Over
Whether the narcissist dumped you or you dumped them, let the narcissist know the relationship is officially over.
You are NEVER coming back, and they shouldn’t bother trying to get back with you either. Don’t phone; they won’t answer, do it by text or email. Putting a stamp on the end of the relationship will aggravate the narcissist.
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To the narcissist, it will look like the shoe is on the other foot; even if they discarded you, you banging the final nail in the coffin will make them feel as if you dumped them.
The narcissist will wonder whether you were planning on ending the relationship, but they beat you to it.
These thoughts will drive the narcissist crazy, and to make sure it’s all in their imagination, they will start working on getting you back so that they can have the last laugh.
Start Dating Again
After letting the narcissist know the relationship is officially over, get yourself a new partner.
Please make sure they are a thousand times hotter than the narcissist, take a bunch of photos and post them to your social media.
The narcissist will see them because they don’t block their exes; they want to monitor their lives and ensure they’re not doing well.
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The moment your ex sees you’ve got a new partner and you look happy, they will fly into a rage and start planning to take you down. It won’t be long before the narcissist starts worming their way back into your life.
What Makes the Narcissist Want You Back?
To make the narcissist want you back, remind them of what they’re missing by showing them you’ve got plenty of new supply to give.
The narcissist thrives on external validation. Because of their deep-rooted insecurities, they cannot love themselves, and they seek affirmation from outside sources.
Once you start telling the narcissist how great they are, you become a source of supply, and they won’t be able to resist you.
Remind the Narcissist of What They Are Missing
The narcissist discarded you because they assumed you had run out of supply.
You can get the narcissist to come crawling back by letting them know there’s plenty more available. Play the narcissist at their own game by love-bombing them.
Start sending your ex text messages and emails telling them how great they are. How much you love and miss them because they are so awesome.
Please go over the top with it; once the narcissist realizes what they’re missing, they will come crawling back.
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How do You Get a Narcissist to Talk to You Again?
You can get the narcissist to talk to you again by accepting responsibility for the breakup and removing all obstacles preventing them from contacting you.
The narcissist will jump at the chance to destroy your life again. You can expect them to come running back with open arms once you use this strategy.
Let the Narcissist Know You Accept Responsibility
Narcissists like seeing their victims beg; it gives them the utmost pleasure to know they’ve control over a person.
When you contact the narcissist and tell them you fully accept it was your fault the relationship didn’t work. You can hook them by referring to yourself as everything they said you were.
Admit you’re stupid and incapable of living without them. Your confession will feed the narcissist’s ego, and they’ll want to hear you say it again and again. The narcissist will start calling to listen to you beg.
Get Rid of All Obstacles
After you broke up, did you block your partner on all platforms? Perhaps you felt threatened and took a restraining order out against them?
Doing stuff like this will infuriate the narcissist because although they discarded you, they need to know they’ve got access to you at all times.
The last thing you want is to have an angry narcissist on your tail.
You can slowly start getting things back on track by letting them know you’ve removed the restrictions and they have access to you. You might want to start by liking one of their social media posts.
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If that doesn’t work, move on to giving the narcissist a missed call. If you got a new partner or a restraining order, send the narcissist a text message or email letting them know how sorry you are, you’ve lifted the restraining order, and the new partner is no longer in your life.
You may even want to go as far as saying your new partner was controlling you because your breakup left you so vulnerable. It was them that made you put a block on and get the restraining order.
It’s important to mention the narcissist will not get back to you straight away. They’ll be rubbing their hands together in glee because you’ve made contact, but the narcissist will want you to suffer.
I can’t tell you how long they’ll make you wait, but there will be a delay in contacting you because the narcissist wants you to know that they are in control now. During this time, they’ll be planning exactly how they’re going to ensure they break you down completely once you’re back.
Final Thought
If you want the narcissist to come crawling back, the methods mentioned will work. Nevertheless, you need to understand that when you get back with the narcissist, you will be in a warzone.
If you thought things were bad when you first got together, it’s going to be a hell of a lot worse, especially if you were the one who walked out on the narcissist.
As mentioned, before the narcissist comes back, they will devise a military-style strategic plan to ensure they obliterate you.
You will need to prepare for this, are you strong enough for the onslaught that’s coming? If not, I suggest you ditch your plan to get the narcissist to come crawling back.
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Last Updated on July 4, 2022 by Alexander Burgemeester
Why does the narcissist want you back? | by narsistsiz | Psychology & Self healing
Photo by lalesh aldarwish from PexelsNarcissists and other manipulators can try to win you back even after you cut them out of your life.
In fact, they can do that even if they were the one who ended the relationship.
So, why does the narcissist return? Is it because they love you or miss you? Neither. Narcissistic people return because they’re suffering from malnutrition. What do I mean by nutrition? Attention, affection, sex, money… Perhaps they were able to fill the hole you left behind with new relationships, new friends and places for a while. But the hole inside their heart is so large that they can never truly fill it. So they feel the need to include you once again. After all, you were once a resource that offered them whatever they needed to a certain extent.
On the other hand, perhaps the narcissist doesn’t even want you back. They may be pretending like they want you back just to get a reaction out of you, just to see if they still have some power over you, if they can still control you. Seeing that they’re still able to control your emotions will make them feel powerful.
And when it comes to getting you back, they have dozens of methods. Here are some of them:
· Begging and crying: They can tell you that they’ve been crying all the time ever since you left them, they couldn’t enjoy life without you and that they didn’t know what to do with themselves anymore.
· Apologizing: As I mentioned in my previous article, narcissistic people don’t like to apologize and some of them never do it. But ‘covert narcissists’ can apologize if it serves them well in the long run, so they can apologize to win you back and guarantee that the same things will not happen again if you accept them back into your life.
· Using your need for intimacy: They can tell you how much they missed holding you, sleeping with you.
· Telling you that they need help: They can tell you that they’re unwell and that they need you by their side or they’re in trouble and you’re the only person who can help them.
Whatever they’re supposedly going through, they make sure to highlight that only you can help them with it. For example; I had a huge fight with my family and you’re the only person I can talk to about this because only you could understand.
· Telling you that they’re worried about you: They try to make it look like they’re concerned about your well-being and not their own. You can hear things like I’m so worried about you, I have a bad feeling inside me as if something bad is going to happen to you, I want to be there for you and protect you.
· Saying that they wish to remain friends: Even if this is a genuine request -which probably isn’t- why would you want to be friends with a narcissist?
· Dragging your friends, your family and even your children into it: They can try to reach you by using someone who could side with them.
Even if that person is your child.
· Pretending like the relationship isn’t over: I know this one sounds absurd but this really is something narcissists do in order to win people back. If they were the one who ended the relationship, they can claim that they actually didn’t leave you for good, you’re exaggerating things, they just thought giving each other some space might be a good idea and that’s why they left. If you were the one who ended it, they can completely ignore your decision and continue texting and calling you like nothing happened. When you try to explain that you’re serious about this, they can tell you that this is just a phase, there’s no need to break up and that they think you just want to take a break. A narcissist is very good at ignoring the word ‘no’.
· Sending random texts and calling you ‘accidentally’: The main purpose is to remind you of themselves every once in a while. They can send you texts on special occasions like the Valentine’s, birthdays, religious festivals and so on in an attempt to stay in touch.
It’s also possible for them to send you texts just to try and make you jealous. For example, you can receive a text message saying something like ‘we’re meeting tonight, right?’ followed by ‘sorry, that was meant for someone else’. Their purpose is to get a reaction from you, either positive or negative. For a narcissist, there’s no difference at all. Both possibilities show that they’re not completely forgotten and that they can still make you feel something.
· Making promises: They can make so many promises and tell you things like this time, everything will be different and so much better. They can do this in a theatrical and exaggerated manner. If the narcissist is a man, this promise can also be a marriage proposal.
· Giving presents: As I mentioned in my article about the idealization phase, sometimes a narcissist chooses to spoil you with gifts. They can do the same thing while trying to win you back.
After all, all those gifts and sweet talk were enough to sweep you off your feet once. Why wouldn’t it work now? In fact, perhaps they’re waiting for the Valentine’s to do just that.
· Guilt tripping you: The narcissist can say that they would never do this to you. They can accuse you of being selfish and only thinking about yourself. Narcissists are quite good at making you feel like the flaws in their characters are actually the flaws in yours.
· Emotional blackmail: “You hurt me so much.You broke my heart. You left me alone. I know I was wrong but you abandoned me. If you truly loved me, you would give me another chance.” By saying things like that, they can try to use your feelings against you to win you back.
· Accusing you of something you never did: For instance, they can accuse you of being unfaithful. If you try to clear your name by explaining the truth, they win.
Because they’ve already received the reaction they wanted.
· Yelling and threatening: If the other methods don’t work, the narcissist can lose control. They can yell at you, and even threaten you. Try to frighten you by saying things like if you don’t come back to me, there will be consequences. Don’t expect to see your children ever again. I’ll tell everyone what kind of person you are.
What happens once you accept them back?
It starts with the idealization phase again. You go back to the good old days. They tell you everything you ever wanted to hear. The arguments are over, the peaceful days have begun. By the time you feel like everything is finally perfect; they’ve already started getting bored and their dark side slowly returns.
And then while history is repeating itself, you find yourself trying to understand where you went wrong. Actually, nothing has to be wrong. You left and now you’re back, and you must be punished for that.
Especially if you were the one who ended the relationship the first time; now they have to end it themselves. They can’t let you have the upper hand. Even if you were not the one who ended it the first time, thing won’t be much different. After all, they can leave you anytime and then come back when they feel like it. Since you let it happen once, why wouldn’t you let it happen again? They know that they can win you back if they ever need you again. But there’s a third possibility. They never leave you. They keep you in an abusive cycle of idealization and then humiliation. That’s the worst thing to do.
Why would you return to them?
Now it’s time to be honest with ourselves because we may not like the answers.
· Maybe you didn’t want to be alone. So you chose an emotionally abusive relationship to loneliness.
· Maybe you were a victim of your own ego. You ignored their dark side by telling yourself things like, so they didn’t forget about me, they still love me.
· Maybe you genuinely believed that they have changed, and that you didn’t want everything you’ve done to save this relationship to go to waste.
· You’ve been hopelessly waiting for an apology from them or for them to admit that they were wrong.
· You can try to minimize your ordeal, try to justify the emotional abuse or deny it. Admitting that you’ve been used by a manipulator is quite hard; sometimes you can’t admit it even to yourself.
· You can feel responsible. You can try to save them and fix them. (Unfortunately, that’s not possible.)
· You could be worried about what other people might say. In a toxic relationship, majority of the abuse takes place within the house, away from prying eyes. So even your inner circle might be unable to see the problems in your relationship and accuse you of exaggerating things. You can choose to remain silent because you’re afraid of others’ reactions or because you don’t want to look like the bad guy.
Did you somehow convince yourself and decide to give them another chance? Then welcome back to the emotional and psychological abuse.
Happy Valentine’s Day.
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Quotes from the book “Fragile people. The Secret Door to the World of Narcissists” by Yulia Pirumova – LitRes
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The child forces himself not to want, not to wait and not to hope.
But how to make it so that you still don’t feel anything about it? Yes, and not to lose in their own value? There is only one answer. The child resorts to narcissistic defenses, the essence of which is not to want care, love and attention from loved ones, to feel independent of their needs for this. And to become in your own eyes a big, adult person who does not need others, who copes with difficult tasks. That is, a narcissist is a person who has “dealt with” his normal needs in relationships with loved ones and forced himself to believe that he is above all this.
“When our heart is broken, our soul groans in pain, and our sense of self-worth is crushed, there are only three scenarios. I constantly observe them both in my own life and in the answers of the participants in my research. First: continue to live in pain, suppress it for a while with various addictions and involve others in your suffering. The second is to deny pain, steal it away from others, pass it on to children by inheritance.
Third: find the courage to admit your pain and reach a new level of compassion and empathy, allowing you to empathize with yourself and others, to notice when someone else is also feeling bad. Brené Brown1
At its deepest core, narcissism is a defense against love and the wounds caused by unrequited love. The child, having met with dislike or having fallen into the fantasy of parents' dislike for him, forces himself to stop loving and stop wanting love. He forces himself to stop being attracted to those who he feels do not love him. It is like the cruel drying up of a riverbed that was flowing freely, and now it must stop ... What does the narcissist replace his need for love with? A desire for admiration and praise. That is why, when I hear “I do everything to be noticed, appreciated and praised”, I am looking for traces of love. More precisely, I feel that, having lost hope for love, the person agreed to a surrogate: “Fuck you! Let's get some admiration! So at least I can get my normalcy back.
” False carrot, but they run to it in all legs,
As a child, the future narcissist does not have a relationship in which he can safely feel dependent. And this means that such a child is forced to understand and accept very early: there is no support, and it is useless to wait for it from those around him. He tries to cope with himself, others and the world, without having sufficient resources for this. He just has to do it. And this is the real drama of the narcissist: he has nothing to rely on inside, but he holds the world on his shoulders for himself and "for that guy." And as if he really does not need help, support and understanding. It doesn't have that option inside. He grows himself, forever leaving this knowledge inside himself: if I want to move somewhere and cope with something, then I must do it myself and without relying on others.
We attack ourselves for any mistakes and inconsistencies in the ideal that we can find in any of our actions and even thoughts.
We treat ourselves without pity and mercy, because we are afraid to relax and become “rags”. We try to be normal and pretend we don't need anyone. But we don't always succeed. We are just "fragile" people.
Even a slight deficiency in the narcissistic sphere can regularly plunge us into rather unpleasant states of inappropriateness, inferiority, unworthiness, our own "badness" against the background of other people. We may experience intense anxiety that life is passing us by, and we still “do not fit” or have not achieved anything. This is how the narcissistic neurosis, common for our time, begins, which does not allow us to live in peace, create, love
One day Little Narcissus decided that "life is pain" was not for her. Let others suffer, cry for loss, and struggle to find meaning in life's crises. She said to herself: “I am above all this. Suffering is a remnant of infantilism, and attachment is for those who are weak.” So the Narcissist knew the essence. And she began to write wise motivators on Instagram.
“At first you will be hurt, then it doesn’t matter, and then you will turn out to be the happiest person who has conquered attachment in himself.”
One day Little Narcissus wanted to become a photographer. She bought the best equipment and completed the most expensive courses. But she did not offer her services. First, she could not impose herself. And secondly, it was necessary to learn more. Complete five or six refresher courses. Otherwise, you could have screwed up.
Let's imagine that we managed to get into the inner world of a narcissist. I bet we'd see painfully familiar figures there. First, there lives a harsh and cruel critic. This is a very powerful and domineering figure. The power of its influence on the personality is colossal and lies in the fact that a person must obey the idealistic requirements for himself. They are absolutely unrealistic, grandiose and bordering on obsession. Let's take for example a woman who recently gave birth and wants to be a good mother.
If we are dealing with a mother narcissist, then her critic will demand from her that she conform to the image of the practically holy Great Martyr Virgin Mary.
other objects. Dependence on alcohol, drugs, games, work or sex is common for a narcissist. So he is in such a relationship with the object over which he has absolute power, thus filling his emptiness. Addiction helps him to be in a relationship with something that won't leave, run away or leave. And it gives at least some pleasure, being just a false substitute for the narcissist's need to depend on people.
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The feeling of love that we experience at the very beginning of a relationship with a narcissistic personality is experienced much more strongly than in a healthy relationship. The reason is that a narcissist (male or female) floods us with declarations of love almost from the first days, does not tire of admiring, seeking advice, assuring that we are perfection itself, he or she met the best person in his life and is ready for us to all.
This is called "love bombing". Then the tactics change - the narcissist seems to retreat a little, his love confessions become less frequent, calmer, and finally the stormy ocean turns into a meager stream. It is a form of manipulation, control, and conditioning that the narcissist uses to keep us in his power.
There is no doubt that we loved. The only problem is that narcissists cannot love us back.
When dealing with them, it is better to rely on your inner instinct, and not on the strength of your feelings. We tend to get so trapped in our feelings that we lose the ability to hear the alarm bells and red flags that come with a toxic relationship. Narcissists cannot keep a face for long - very soon their facade cracks. But they are masters of their craft and, if you are inexperienced, can easily put you on the hook.
1. Arm yourself with knowledge
The most important and first thing to do to get out of the trap is to learn as much as possible about what narcissistic personality disorder is, how narcissists work, their typical behavior and techniques.
You need to arm yourself with knowledge. Repeat and repeat over and over again. Until you study them properly, you won't be able to free yourself from their toxic hook - narcissists make us feel obligated by playing on our sense of duty, conscientiousness.
Feeling sorry for the narcissist when he or she has you trapped is pointless - they are just using your feelings against you. It is necessary to discard false pity in order to clearly see what you are dealing with.
2. Trust your intuition
Watch yourself - learn to separate feelings and deep inner instinct, intuition. Start trusting your intuition, not your feelings. Associating with a narcissist weakens physical, mental and emotional health because we are trying to understand a person whose behavior contradicts words.
Instead of listening to what they say, watch what they do. Words lie, actions reveal the truth. We really get to know people through their behavior. Words are just a breach of your trust.
You feel sick and exhausted because your mind and body tell you that you are in great danger, but everything seems to be fine (because he or she tells you so). Once again, trust your gut instinct. Become a cold-blooded explorer. Silently observe what is happening.
3. Don't put yourself in their shoes
Go back to where you belong. It's a matter of awareness. Mentally note how difficult it is to do this - these are the consequences of narcissistic processing.
Don't try to guess what they have in mind, imagine their next steps. Putting yourself in their place means trying to understand their motives, justify them, find a reasonable explanation for their behavior, and eventually get bogged down again in the poisonous swamp of their verbal manipulations.
When you catch yourself trying to "get into the narcissist's head," do your best to distract yourself. It's hard and it takes a lot of fortitude not to give in to the brainwashing they put on you to make sure they've taken over all the space inside your head.
4. Ignore messages
For the narcissist, information has no meaning, its only purpose is to suck you into the swamp of manipulation. The task is not to figure out whether to believe or not to believe the words of a narcissist. It is about breaking out of the vicious circle in which you think day and night only about what is connected with the narcissist.
Do not listen or pay attention to the content of the speeches that the narcissist makes. This is their way to take out your brain to draw you into their world and keep you where you always find yourself in the role of bad and guilty. They will keep pushing your boundaries and blowing the fuses that signal you are approaching the boundaries to constantly keep you on your toes, unbalance, disturb your peace.
Trying to find common sense in the speeches of a narcissist is to force your brain to work in a stressful mode, it gradually drives you crazy. Know that no matter what they say, narcissists are seeking some benefit for themselves, no matter how logical or beautiful their words sound.
Everything is only about them and for them, and the only desire of a narcissist is that you, too, be only about them and for them. They will do and say anything to keep you trapped in their little fantasy world. Once again: watch what they do (not say).
5. Protect your property and savings
If necessary, start saving money. Remember that they can completely bleed you. Protect everything that is of value to you. Acting from noble feelings and wanting to remain fair, you risk eventually being ruthlessly abandoned without a livelihood.
6. Silence is golden
When we love, we want to share our thoughts and feelings with the person we love — this is natural. But you do not have a loved one, you are dealing with a narcissist who pretends to be your soul mate.
Resist the temptation to tell them everything you think and feel
You can't move them.
They use your trust against you. The more open you are, the more guns and knives they have in your back. Narcissists love it when you share. If you have to say something, protect yourself as much as possible - don't tell the whole truth, be neutral, obscure or change the subject.
7. Who are you?
Deal with yourself, what do you believe in, what is dearest to you in this world, what do you want to live and die for. Otherwise, anyone can convince you of anything. Without knowing ourselves, we cannot set boundaries in a relationship - what we are ready to tolerate and what is categorically not. Strengthen your value system and protect what you hold dear. Then you will know what to do and how to behave, instead of hesitating and bending under the onslaught of someone else's will.
8. Be patient
Continue to observe and analyze. By learning the basic manipulative techniques of narcissists, you will be able to recognize them accurately.
This is a great help in the process of freeing yourself from the illusion of "great love to the grave", "faithful" friendship or family idyll that narcissists have played for you.
Liberation does not happen overnight. It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. Be kind and patient with yourself. You learn to act and live in a new way - rethink, clarify yourself and your life principles, move to a new level of relationships with others. Give yourself time to deal with everything that's going on.
9. Feed your soul
Help others, little by little, quietly and anonymously. Say something nice, even to a stranger. Fulfill one of your little wishes, just for yourself. Draw strength from religion if you are a believer. Breathe deeply and remind yourself that one day you will be free and the joy of life will return to you.
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