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  1. How to Communicate Effectively as a Couple 
  2. Conversation Starters for Couples
  3. Deep Conversation Starters for Couples
  4. Conversation Starters for Married Couples
  5. Fun Conversation Starters for Couples
  6. Conversation Starters for Couples Texting
  7. Conversations Starters for DM’s 
  8. Late Night Conversation Starters for Couples
  9. Intimate Conversation Starters for Couples
  10. Conversation Starters for New Couples
  11. Random Conversation Starters for Couples 
  12. Dinner Conversation Starters for Couples

Conversations are essential in any relationship. Not sure what questions to ask? Use these conversation starters for couples to learn more about the person you care about. 

How to Communicate Effectively as a Couple 

According to research by Chicago University, the degree of closeness to a person does not guarantee how effective your communication is.  

It could be the opposite. 

You may be a victim of the closeness-communication bias, which states that when you feel close to another person, you’re prone to omitting vital information and making ambiguous statements. Also, the person listening is prone to taking an egocentric approach to what is being said. In other words, they aren’t listening, and you aren’t communicating. At least not as effectively as you both think. 

Asking good questions (and listening!) can help. 

Use these conversation starters for couples, whether you’re just starting your relationship or you’ve been together for years. 

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Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. What do you listen to when you’re driving? 
  2. What do you sing in the shower? 
  3. Where do you feel most at home?  
  4. Do you think happiness is overrated? 
  5. Who makes you feel the happiest? 
  6. Which skill would you instead learn: oil painting outdoors, barefoot waterskiing, coding, or opera singing? 
  7. Who in your life do you feel safest with?
  8. Is it better to share your emotions or keep them to yourself? 
  9. Which State would you visit if you could? 
  10. Who is the most generous person you know? 
  11. Is it essential for you to fit in? 
  12. Are you an optimist or a pessimist? 
  13. What makes you feel nostalgic? 
  14. Is there a place or a time in your life you wish you could return to? 
  15. What was the most significant trouble you got into in school? 
  16. What do you like to listen to or watch when you’re cleaning? 
  17. Do you prefer to be the driver or the passenger?

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Deep Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. Do I make you a better person, or do you feel like I sometimes hold you back from reaching your potential? 
  2. Do you feel I take too much control in our relationship, or do you wish I would be more assertive? 
  3. Do you plan to care for your parents in their old age? Would you be willing for us to do the same for my parents if they need it? 
  4. If/when we get married, what expectations do you have for our finances? Separate bank accounts? Or a combination of individual and shared accounts? 
  5. What kind of wedding do you want? Big or small? How are we going to pay for it? 
  6. Where would you want to go on our honeymoon? 
  7. How does your family express love? 
  8. Have you ever used recreational drugs? 
  9. What things make you worry? 
  10. What do you do for self-care? 
  11. Do you have any physical limitations or health concerns? 
  12. How do you think countries should respond to refugees? 
  13. What spiritual practice from another religion than yours do you admire? 
  14. If you had to be silent for 3 days, what would you do, and how do you think you would feel? 
  15. What family members do you admire the most? Why?  
  16. Are you comfortable talking about your feelings? Why or why not? 
  17. How do you think others would describe you? How would you describe yourself? 

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Conversation Starters for Married Couples

Some of these questions may feel heavy or morbid. Still, as a married couple, it’s essential to take care of medical and financial questions before an emergency. 

  1.  Is there anyone you don’t talk to anymore that you wish you still did? Would you like to invite them over for dinner or plan an outing with them? 
  2. What’s your favorite thing about being married? 
  3. What goals should we have as a couple?  
  4. Do we need to reassess our spending habits? 
  5. How do you feel about being an organ donor? 
  6. Would you want to be resuscitated, or do you want to have a DNR (do not resuscitate)? 
  7. If a relative needs financial help, how would we handle that? Are there situations where we would or wouldn’t help? What stipulations would we make? 
  8. Do we both have our wills sorted out? 
  9. What kind of health insurance or other insurance should we have? 
  10. What do we want to save for? 
  11. How can we be better parents? 
  12. Are we drifting apart? What can we do to change that? 
  13. Are there any topics you feel uncomfortable talking about to me? Is that because of how I’ve responded in the past? 
  14. Is there anyone at work that you feel offers you more support than you get from me? How can I make you feel more supported? 
  15. Do you feel like both of our dreams and feelings are important, or do you think one of us gets the priority of time and finances for their dream? If so, is that OK for this season, or does something need to change? 
  16. Do you feel we balance our time well between your parents and my parents? 
  17. How can we give back to our community? Would you like to volunteer together? 
  18. Are we spending enough time together? What can we reassess or change so that we can be together more? 

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Fun Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. What’s the strangest thing you’ve ever eaten? 
  2. What food best depicts your personality? 
  3. What conspiracy theory do you secretly think is true? 
  4. If you could choose a new name, what would it be? Do you feel like your real name matches your personality? 
  5. What personality trait or quirk did you inherit from one of your parents? 
  6. What personality trait do you wish you could pass down to your kids? 
  7. When it comes to brownies, which do you choose? Center or corner? 
  8. What would you do if I ate the last piece of sushi? 
  9. In a bucket of fried chicken, which piece do you prefer? 
  10. What’s the strangest thing in your search history? 
  11. What’s your sing-along style? Whisper? Yell the chorus? Mouth the words? Hum? 
  12. Mild, Medium, or Spicy? 
  13. Imagine you suddenly meet a talking bear while walking in the forest. What does he say? 
  14. If you could make up a word to describe our relationship, what would it be? 
  15. Would you rather spend every Saturday morning with your boss or every Saturday morning running a 5K? 
  16. Would you rather direct a movie or be the lead actor/actress? 
  17. Would you rather lose your home and all your possessions or not be able to have contact with your family? 

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Conversation Starters for Couples Texting
  1. Would you rather be a millionaire and have to go back to high school or be a millionaire and have to give 90% of your income to charity?
  2. What’s one thing you wish you could change in your life? 
  3. Emoji movie game. Use emojis to describe a movie and have your partner guess the answer. Can you think of this one? 🐀🥘🧑‍🍳 Or this one? 👦🎄🏠
  4. What’s the most embarrassing thing you’ve done in front of someone you liked? 
  5. What are you reading right now? 
  6. I miss you. 😚 Tell me something to make me feel less lonely. 
  7. What weird smell do you like? 
  8. Best movie quote ever? 
  9. What was the worst text you accidentally sent? 

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Conversations Starters for DM’s 
  1. You look incredible in that pic. Where was it taken? 
  2. I had no idea we both loved ____ (insert shared interest)! How long have you been into that? 
  3. Are you watching ____ (insert name of series)? I need someone to talk to about the last episode!  
  4. I didn’t know you were friends with ___ too! Where do you know them from? 
  5. Did you see this ____ (insert a link to an interesting article)? What do you think about ____ (insert exciting question related to the article)?
  6. Where are you watching the game tomorrow? Fans should stick together.
  7. You have great taste in music. What’s your favorite song? 
  8. I was thinking about going to that restaurant. What do you recommend I get? 🤷🏽‍♀️ Better yet, want to go together? 

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Late Night Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. How do you feel about work tomorrow? 
  2. What did you think of me when you first met me? 
  3. What helps you fall asleep? 
  4. Did your mom or dad sing to you at night when you were little? 
  5. Is there a song that makes you think of me? If so, why?
  6. What is one thing you could never give up? 
  7. How did/would you describe me to your friends? 
  8. How was your day? 
  9. What are you looking forward to tomorrow? 
  10. What movie couple do you think we’re like? 
  11. Do you remember your first sleepover as a kid? Tell me about it.  
  12. What are your dreams like? 
  13. What would you put on your tombstone if you could write it?  
  14. What’s a family secret that not even your family talks about? 
  15. Does thinking about outer space make you feel small and afraid, or does it excite you? 
  16. What do you think is our responsibility to the earth? 
  17. Are there any friends or family you feel primarily responsible for? 

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Intimate Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. What do you feel if I still don’t understand about you? 
  2. What is something we have in common that you love? 
  3. What do we have in common that both of us need to change? 
  4. What is your favorite kind of physical touch? 
  5. What do I do that makes you feel invisible or unappreciated? 
  6. How can I best show my love for you in public? 
  7. What qualities make you attracted to me? 
  8. Are you happy with our relationship? 
  9. Do you feel connected when we have sex? 
  10. Are you satisfied with our physical intimacy? 
  11. What do you think could improve our communication? 
  12. Do you trust me? 
  13. What relationship do you admire most? 
  14. Is there anything worrying you about our relationship? 
  15. How do you feel about the person I am today compared to when we started dating? 
  16. How do you feel about who you are becoming? 
  17. What do I do that makes you angry? 

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Conversation Starters for New Couples
  1. If you have a need, will you tell me? Or do you usually imply or drop hints about what you need and want? 
  2. Are you comfortable with public displays of affection? 
  3. What’s your favorite thing to do when you’re alone? 
  4. Do you like to have space in a new relationship, or do you prefer to spend all your time together? 
  5. What did you learn from your last relationship? 
  6. What are you hoping for in our relationship? 
  7. Do you like to go on adventures, or prefer quieter activities like watching movies or visiting a museum? 
  8. What’s your favorite comfort food? 
  9. Do you prefer to eat out or eat in? 
  10. What’s a mistake you made that you wouldn’t change because of the lesson you learned from it? 
  11. How do you balance life and work? 
  12. What are you looking for in a partner? 
  13. What are your views on therapy? Have you ever been in therapy? How has that impacted your life and relationships? 
  14. What does open communication look like for you? 
  15. Tell me about one of your holiday memories.  
  16. What are your spiritual views? 
  17. How do you handle conflict in a relationship? 

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Random Conversation Starters for Couples 
  1. What did you do for fun as a kid? 
  2. Who was your best friend when you were 10? Are you still friends? 
  3. How is your workout program going? Do you need an exercise buddy?
  4. Kayaking or stand-up paddle boarding? 
  5. Summer or winter? 
  6. Worst gift you ever got? 
  7. What were you like in high school? 
  8. What teacher most impacted you (positively or negatively)? Why? 
  9. How much say should grandparents have in the life of their grandkids? 
  10. Where/when was the most beautiful night sky you’ve ever seen? 
  11. Tell me about a travel disaster you’ve had. 
  12. Which is worse, the middle seat on an airplane or the front row seat at a movie theater? 
  13. Do you panic when you get lost or find it exciting? 
  14. How do you feel about change? 
  15. What’s your favorite winter meal? 
  16. What’s your favorite summer drink? 
  17. What’s your most valuable possession? (Not including your phone!)

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Dinner Conversation Starters for Couples
  1. Do you like to dance? What kind of dancing do you prefer? 
  2. What do you think about neighborhood gardens? 
  3. What was your hometown like? 
  4. Do you have a pet? 
  5. Do you think it’s possible to have an excellent work-life balance? 
  6. What problem do you wish you could solve in the world? 
  7. How do you think romcoms and action movies impact our view of relationships? 
  8. What movie best depicts modern life? 
  9. What period in history do you find the most interesting? 
  10. How do you think technology will change the world in the next 10 years? 
  11. What did you study at college? What was your favorite thing about your field of study? 
  12. Are your dreams more of a compass or a wishing well? 
  13. Is there one moment in your life that has become a cornerstone to everything else? For example, do you think of things in your life as being “before X” or “after X”? 
  14. Do you ever experience imposter syndrome? What do you do? 
  15. Do you have a habit that you do every day? 
  16. Talk shows are overrated. True or false? 
  17. Do you have a 5-year plan, or do you prefer to take each moment as it comes? 

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Last updated on August 22, 2022

Whether it's been a few weeks or a few years, every couple can use some new fodder for date-night table talk.

Below are a bunch of questions to ask your partner, from deep conversation starters to sexy questions to turn each other on.

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  1. What's your relationship with your parents like?
  2. Do you want to be more like or less like your parents?
  3. Have you ever been in love before?
  4. Tell me the story of your first love.
  5. If you could make money doing anything in the world, what would you do?
  6. What are five things you couldn't live without?
  7. What's one article of clothing you could never part with?
  8. Who's someone in your life that you really look up to?
  9. What's one of your most cherished memories?
  10. Have you ever hurt someone and deeply regretted it? Did you ever make amends?
  11. What's the meaning of life?
  12. What's your purpose in life?
  13. Do you believe in an afterlife?
  14. Do you like your life right now? If not, what's keeping you from changing it?
  15. What people have made you who you are today?
  16. What experiences have made you who you are today? 
  17. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  18. Have you ever felt very strongly about something and then eventually changed your mind about it?
  19. What do you think is your best quality?
  20. What do you think is my best quality?
  21. What quality do you want to nurture more of in yourself?
  22. Do you have a good relationship with your body?
  23. Do you find it easier to give or to receive?
  24. What's one dish or meal that reminds you of home?
  25. Have you ever broken up with a friend?
  26. What makes you anxious?
  27. What does happiness mean to you?
  28. If you no longer had to work to live comfortably, what would you be doing with your life?
  29. What's one thing in your life that you're struggling with right now?
  30. What's one thing in your life that you're grateful for?
  1. What initially made you interested in me?
  2. How did you know you were in love with me?
  3. Is there anything about our relationship that feels totally unique to us?
  4. Where do you see our relationship going?
  5. What does marriage mean to you?
  6. How do you feel about big proposals?
  7. How do you think our relationship will change if we get married?
  8. What does it mean to be a good partner?
  9. What's your love language?
  10. What's the most romantic movie you've ever seen?
  11. What's a song that reminds you of our relationship?
  12. Do you believe in love at first sight?
  13. Do you believe in soul mates? (What about twin flames?)
  14. When we're apart, what do you miss most about me?
  15. What's your most precious memory of me?
  16. What do you love most about our daily life together?
  17. What kinds of things will we be doing 10 years from now? Twenty years from now? In retirement?
  18. What would we do in retirement together?
  1. What's your favorite part of my body?
  2. What part of my body do you want to explore more?
  3. What part of your body do you want me to explore more?
  4. What's the hottest memory you have of us?
  5. If you could relive one of our sexual experiences, which would you choose?
  6. Which is better: morning sex or sex at night?
  7. What does it mean to be good in bed?
  8. Fast and hard, or slow and gentle?
  9. Hottest sex position?
  10. Sex position that's most likely to make you orgasm?
  11. Where is the wildest place you've ever had sex?
  12. What would be a really hot place for us to have sex?
  13. How would you feel about people watching us have sex?
  14. What's your go-to masturbation routine?
  15. What kind of porn turns you on?
  16. What's your dirtiest sexual fantasy?
  17. What's a very ordinary thing that just really turns you on?
  18. How do you feel about being tied up (or tying me up)?
  19. Do you like to be spanked? (Or the idea of spanking me?)
  20. What would you like to see me dressed in on a special sexual occasion?
  1. What reality TV show would you be on?
  2. What's the worst or weirdest date you've ever been on?
  3. What's the weirdest thing that's ever happened to you while having sex with someone?
  4. If you were an animal, what kind would you be?
  5. Who is your celebrity crush?
  6. Who was your celebrity crush as a teenager?
  7. What celebrity would play you in a movie about your life?
  8. What would be the title of your autobiography?
  9. What is your soul age?
  10. Have you ever dated someone who was a bad kisser?
  11. Do you have any "moves" when it comes to flirting or dates?
  12. What was your first email address?
  13. Do you believe in ghosts?
  14. Have you ever had any unexplainable or supernatural experiences?
  15. If you were a social media influencer, what would you be known for?
  16. When and how did you first discover masturbation?
  17. What's something you were weirdly into for a very long period of time?
  18. Would you survive a zombie apocalypse?
  1. Do you want to have kids? Why or why not?
  2. What kind of parent do you want to be?
  3. How do you feel about religion?
  4. What was it like to grow out of your religion?
  5. What's your best habit?
  6. Worst habit?
  7. What does a perfect marriage look like to you?
  8. What would you like your life to be like five years from now? Ten years from now?
  9. What do you want to do when you're retired?
  10. Tell me about your best friend. What are they like, and why are you best friends?
  11. How important is sex to you?
  12. What do you need when you're angry? Stressed? Sad?
  13. Could you date some who doesn't share your political views?
  14. What do you hate?
  15. What's your deepest insecurity?
  16. Are you a jealous person?
  17. Is jealousy healthy in a relationship?
  18. What types of activities did you enjoy as a kid? Do you still do them now?
  19. What would you consider a perfect day?
  20. Tell me your life story.
  21. Do you believe in unconditional love?
  22. What are your dating deal-breakers?
  23. What's the No. 1 thing you look for in a partner?
  24. Why do you think your past relationships haven't worked out?
  25. What kind of gifts do you like?
  26. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
  27. What do you know about your family's history?
  28. What's something that you wish people would ask you about more often?

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Kelly Gonsalves

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Kelly Gonsalves is a multi-certified sex educator and relationship coach helping people figure out how to create dating and sex lives that actually feel good — more open, more optimistic, and more pleasurable. In addition to working with individuals in her private practice, Kelly serves as the Sex & Relationships Editor at mindbodygreen. She has a degree in journalism from Northwestern University, and she’s been trained and certified by leading sex and relationship institutions such as The Gottman Institute and Everyone Deserves Sex Ed, among others. Her work has been featured at The Cut, Vice, Teen Vogue, Cosmopolitan, and elsewhere.

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115 best topics for communication with a partner

Author Olga Stepanova Reading 13 min Published

Do you want to have deep, meaningful conversations with your partner, but don't know where to start?

It is said that the ability to talk to your partner is one of the keys to a successful relationship. In fact, talking to anyone strengthens and develops all types of relationships.

But from time to time we all run out of words or topics to talk about and feel like we are missing out on having intimate moments with our partners.

In this article, we will share with you a list of the best conversation topics for couples who want to connect with each other. With their help, you can learn more about each other and understand what you both want in life.

But before moving on to the list, we would like to share some thoughts on the importance and benefits of talking.

Content

  1. Importance of conversations
  2. 21 topics to talk to a girl
  3. 22 topics to talk to a guy
  4. 72 conversation questions for couples
  5. Conclusion

The importance of conversations

They build confidence and self-esteem. Experts say that one of the most effective ways to increase self-confidence and self-esteem is to communicate with other people. This allows you to practice your communication skills and language skills, making it easier for you to feel less stressed when interacting with other people.

They strengthen the physical and emotional bond between partners. Communication is the key. No matter how cliché it is, it always is. One of the most important aspects of a strong and healthy relationship is communication, and this is facilitated by regular conversations.

They give a sense of social support and belonging. Conversations with a partner open the way to mindful communication - the ability to listen without judgment and speak without fear of humiliation. When this happens, you and your partner experience a greater sense of security in your relationship.

They help you set boundaries in your relationship. A strong and healthy relationship is a relationship that knows its limits. When you have regular conversations with your partner, you both learn to set your own parameters.

They build the trust and respect that both parties should have for each other. Trust and respect are vital to a successful relationship, and one way to give and receive the trust and respect you both deserve is through meaningful conversations.

Since the conversation is so important, let's start it. Here is our list of conversation topics that can break the ice between you and your partner.

21 things to talk about with a girl

Women are complex and it can be difficult for men to understand them. But what better way to begin to understand a woman than to strike up a conversation with her?

If you are looking for ways to start a conversation with your wife or girlfriend, then the topics and questions below may be just what you need.

Allow yourself to accept what you may not yet know about her. By knowing the answers to these questions, you will be able to appreciate her and what she does like never before.

  1. What is the best advice you have ever received from someone?
  2. If you were given the opportunity to change your name, what would you do?
  3. What is the best present you have ever given to someone?
  4. What do people automatically assume when they look at you?
  5. If there was a fire in your house, what would be the first thing you would grab and take away with you?
  6. Where is your dream place and how would you like to spend your holiday?
  7. What did you want to be when you grew up, and do you want it now?
  8. What life lessons did your previous relationship teach you?
  9. What are three important things guys should know and understand about girls?
  10. What's the worst thing about relationships?
  11. What would you like people to stop asking you about?
  12. What is the best and worst thing about being a girl?
  13. If you could be a guy for one day, who would you be?
  14. What is the most embarrassing thing you have done for a friend?
  15. Do you believe that we all have kindred spirits?
  16. What are some signs that a guy is starting to act creepy?
  17. Are you determined or indecisive, and to what extent?
  18. What's the weird smell that everyone hates but you really like?
  19. What do you like to do that is traditionally considered masculine?
  20. Do you like meeting new people?
  21. What are the things you love about yourself?

22 topics for a conversation with a guy

If you are a woman and want to start a conversation with your man, but don't know where to start, then this section is for you.

It can be difficult for men to open up and be vulnerable, so you may need to read between the lines and ask relevant follow-up questions.

Here are some questions you can use when talking to your man.

  1. What things make you insecure?
  2. What factors help you decide whether to trust a person?
  3. What are your expectations of a romantic relationship?
  4. What are the things that make you truly happy?
  5. Do you want to have children in the future? (For couples with children: Do you want to have more children in the future?)
  6. What is the craziest thing you have ever done to impress a girl?
  7. What do you consider the most attractive in a woman?
  8. What thing completely repels you? What turns you on completely?
  9. What are your life and professional goals?
  10. Have you ever had a broken heart?
  11. What would you do if you had a million dollars?
  12. What is the scariest thing you have ever done?
  13. When was the last time you cried and why?
  14. If you were forced to move to the countryside, what are the top three things you would take with you?
  15. What would you change if you were given the chance to rewrite the past?
  16. How would you set up a first date with someone you just met?
  17. What would you like to change about yourself?
  18. Who or what is the most important person or activity to you when you feel down?
  19. What random hobby have you always wanted to try but couldn't?
  20. What do you think are your greatest strengths and weaknesses?
  21. What is the best and worst thing about being a guy?
  22. What three events in your past have had the greatest impact on your life?

72 Conversation Questions for Couples

Of course, the conversations you have with your partner need to be balanced. It is not always only about him or only about her - the concept of “we” and “we” should also be present in your relationship.

When you are on a date or when you are alone, take the opportunity to ask your partner about his or her views on your relationship. Build a stronger bond by revealing your thoughts about what binds you.

There is no guarantee that you and your partner will get the same answers, but that's okay. The main thing is that both of you are open to hearing what the other is thinking and feeling. Sometimes different opinions and different views provide more opportunities for development. Here are a few topics that can be discussed together as partners.

  1. What would you like to have written on your/our headstone when you/we die?
  2. What do you think makes us unique and different from other couples?
  3. What parts or attributes of our relationship are you most and least proud of?
  4. What adventures would you like to go on with me?
  5. What was your most memorable experience with me?
  6. What gift did I give you the most?
  7. What three things should we put on our wish list?
  8. How would you feel if I made more money than you?
  9. What do you think our life will be like in 10 years?
  10. If we were a duo of superheroes, who would we be and what superpowers would we have?
  11. What are the most important questions partners should ask each other before getting married?
  12. When was the last time you laughed so hard that you cried?
  13. What do I do that makes you truly happy?
  14. What is your favorite story about the curiosity who killed the cat?
  15. How much space or time do you think people in a relationship should give each other for loneliness?
  16. What is the biggest lie someone has told you? What is the biggest lie you have told someone?
  17. What new hobbies or activities would you like to try together as a couple?
  18. What one decision changed the course of your life?
  19. If you had to choose between a career you love for little money and a career you don't like for high pay, which would you choose?
  20. What will be the title of the book about our love story?
  21. When I/family do not approve of a decision you have made, how do you deal with it?
  22. If you could switch lives with someone, who would it be?
  23. If we had a child, what is your biggest wish for him?
  24. If we knew that our child would be disabled or sick, would you still want to have him?
  25. If we had children, would it be more important for you to be their friend than their teacher?
  26. Are there any physical traits of you or me that you would not like to see in our child?
  27. If we knew we couldn't have children naturally, would you consider parenting or adoption?
  28. If only one of us could not have children, would you consider surrogacy or donor motherhood so that the child is biologically ours?
  29. What can I do to you that you will never forgive me for?
  30. What made you realize that you fell in love with me?
  31. If one of us were sick or disabled, would you support each other?
  32. What do the words “for better or for worse” mean to you?
  33. Should we get a pet? What?
  34. Do you think it's OK to sometimes tell "white lies" when talking about your spouse or partner?
  35. Do you sometimes feel attracted to other people? Is it physical attraction or something else?
  36. What is missing in our relationship? What could we improve?
  37. How do you feel about pornography? Does it disgust you or is it something you are willing to watch together?
  38. What secret sexual fantasy were you afraid to share with me?
  39. If you caught me enjoying myself, how would you react?
  40. Would you ever consider a threesome? Or "swinging" with close friends for one night?
  41. If someone offered one of us $1,000,000 to have sex with him just once, would we accept?
  42. What do you most envy in our relationship?
  43. If my best friend was of the opposite sex and unmarried, would you be okay with me spending time alone with him or her?
  44. If our parents insisted on naming a child after a family member and you hated the name, would you do it for them?
  45. Would you ever tell our children that in our youth we behaved imprudently, for example, we used drugs or alcohol?
  46. Have you ever been arrested? For what?
  47. Have you ever been married or close to it? If you were married before me, would you tell our children about it?
  48. If our child turned out to be gay, would you accept it?
  49. Do you believe in God?
  50. How important is organized religion to you? Do you regularly attend worship services?
  51. Do you expect me to change religion after marriage? Would you consider changing religion?
  52. Do you support the tradition that the bride's family must pay for the wedding?
  53. Do you want a big wedding or a small one? Where is your dream wedding location?
  54. How concerned are you with aging? Are you worried about feeling less attractive?
  55. If one of us couldn't take care of ourselves when we got older, would you pay attention to nursing homes? Or hire helpers to take care of the house?
  56. Some people live together for many years without ever getting married. Do you think that marriage is the only way to prove that you are committed to each other for life?
  57. If one of us dies, would you consider remarrying? Will having children influence your decision?
  58. If one of our parents got sick and asked to move in with us, would you agree?
  59. If I told you that I wanted to quit my high-paying job and go away with you for a year or two, would you join me? Even if it meant working a casual job and living very modestly?
  60. Have you ever thought about your past relationships?
  61. Are you friends with anyone from the former in social networks?
  62. When we fight, do you ever think about stopping everything?
  63. Do you believe that couples counseling can help solve serious relationship problems? Would you agree to this if we ever came to this?
  64. Do you think there is information that should not be available to family members when it comes to our relationship?
  65. Do you think it's okay to have separate bank accounts when you're married?
  66. Do you believe in marriage contracts?
  67. Do you think that raising children at home is a job, and it brings financial income in its own way?
  68. Do I have a habit or personality trait that bothers you? Or which, in your opinion, may worsen over time?
  69. How many drinks per day do you consider too much without fear that you might have problems?
  70. Now that marijuana is legal in most countries, would you consider smoking it openly?
  71. Would you consider taking a week's vacation alone with friends when we get married?
  72. If we could go back in time and find each other as teenagers, do you think we would still find our way here?

Conclusion

Even if you and your partner have been together for many years, there are probably still things you may not know about each other. Consider having an evening of fun and meaningful conversations with your partner once or twice a week. Remember that communication is a very powerful tool and skill that can make or break a relationship.

Did any of the questions/topics mentioned above draw you in?

If yes, we would like to know which one! Send us your thoughts via the comment box below and let's discuss how you and your partner can use this list to build stronger relationships.

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As the name suggests, there are interesting conversations to start a conversation and keep them going. More precisely, a good conversation starter, in most cases, makes you think, which can lead to exciting discussions. Such questions are especially helpful for more reserved or shy people who find it difficult to connect with people. However, starting a conversation is suitable for those who want to have interesting conversations with strangers or friends.

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If your quality time consists only of watching Netflix together, it's time for a change. After a busy day at work, relaxing with a partner on the couch and watching your favorite series on Netflix is ​​not a bad thing. However, if this becomes your daily activity, the relationship may suffer.

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Relationship conversation goes without saying, right? In fact, being in a long-term relationship often means you have less and less to say to each other. Starting a conversation is the perfect way to avoid it or get some fresh air in a relationship.

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Here are the best couples starter questions that will lead to exciting conversations.

1. What behavior can someone do to immediately make them unattractive?

Not only looks can make someone unattractive. Sometimes certain personality traits can make the most beautiful person appear ugly.

2. What experience have you missed in your life because of the fear of failure?

Is it too late to catch up? Maybe your partner can help you overcome your fear.

3. What things are accepted now that might be considered unethical in the future?

This question will surely lead to a philosophical discussion.

4. If you could know the answer to one question about your future, what would it be?

Do you want to know what the future holds for you?

5. What are your top 5 values ​​in life and why?

This is a great question to learn more about your partner's core values.

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What is the best and worst thing about our relationship?

We recommend starting with the best things about your relationship. This question can help you improve your relationship.

7. Do you really miss your childhood?

Is it the frivolity of a child's life or a game with friends? I'm sure you can find at least three things that you miss from your childhood.

8. What do you think are your biases?

Everyone has prejudices, even if we sometimes don't even know it. There are prejudices in almost everything - appearance, clothing, nationality, status, gender and much more. Awareness of the existence of prejudices is the first step towards overcoming or controlling them.

9. What does "success in life" mean to you?

Money, Love or Family? Success has many facets.

10. What event in your life has had the greatest impact on your life and your personality?

Was it just one event, or were there more events that changed you?

11.

What have you learned from your previous relationships?

After each (unsuccessful) relationship, you learn more about yourself.

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12. What has made you laugh out loud lately?

Was it a strange interaction with a stranger or something you saw or heard? Share it with your partner and laugh together.

13. Do you think society is getting better, the same or worse in general?

How optimistic or pessimistic are you about the future of humanity? Explain why you think it's getting better, the same, or worse.

14. What do you think about a dispute in a relationship?

Do you avoid arguments with your partner or do you deal directly with your problems?

15. Which celebrity would you kiss, marry and kill?

This question is purely hypothetical. However, you may be offended if your partner wants to kill your favorite celebrity. 😅

16. If you were to fall into a coma from which there was little hope of escaping, how long would you like your family to wait until they turn off the power?

Weeks, months, years? How long would you like your family to stay alive?

17.

What is your favorite way to get love from me?

It's always nice to know what your partner likes. Maybe the two of you want to receive love and affection in different ways. If you know this, you can make each other even happier.

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18. If you could live anywhere in the world for the rest of your life, where would it be?

Is this where you used to be? What makes this place so special?

19. What is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to you?

Sharing your most awkward moments with your significant other will bring laughter and bring you closer.

20. What would an average day look like in your ideal life?

Everyone has their own idea of ​​an ideal life. What does yours look like?

21. What personality traits or behavior do you dislike the most?

This is a risky question. Does your partner have one of these personality traits?

22.

What did you believe for a long time only to find out later that it was wrong?

How did you know that what you believe was wrong?

23. If you could tame any animal in the world to be your pet, what would it be and why?

For me it would be a runner duck. If you haven't watched the runner duck video yet, do so now.

24. What is this thing that instantly captures your mood?

Duck Runner. Just kidding. But runner ducks brighten my day. What sets your mood?

25. What did you refuse but still love?

Is this what you did as a child? Why don't you do it anymore?

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1. Have you ever felt insecure about our relationship?

What did you feel insecure about? Was it before or after you got married?

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What else did you do as a child and what do you like to do to this day?

I like to watch my favorite TV show from my childhood from time to time. What else do you enjoy doing to this day? Can play Lego?

3. If I were an animal, what kind of animal would I be?

Would you like to be a pet or a wild animal?

4. What things have been bothering you lately?

Checking in regularly with your partner contributes to a happy and healthy relationship.

5. When you first saw me, what was the first thing that struck me as attractive?

Remember why you fell in love with your partner. What did you like about him/her so much? This will keep your passion.

6. What can I do to improve our relationship?

Take the initiative. This question shows your partner that you are ready to put some work into your relationship.

7. What do you like to do when you are alone?

What secret things do you do when no one is watching? Can you practice dancing or singing? 💃

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What am I doing that annoys you?

Sometimes the most annoying things your partner does are also the cutest. Do you agree?

9. What do you think is the most difficult and beautiful thing in marriage?

Those who believe that it is enough to love each other to maintain a marriage live in a world of dreams. Marriage also means constantly working on your relationship. In addition to obstacles, there are many positives in marriage.

10. What achievement are you most proud of?

Asking your partner what he/she is proud of shows that you care about your partner's life. Plus, it makes your partner feel good about themselves.

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Here are some intimate questions to ask your girlfriend/boyfriend that will bring you closer.

1. What do you like most about my personality?

Getting compliments about your appearance is good. However, getting compliments about your personality feels even better.

2. Has our relationship changed you?

I think every relationship changes us a little. How has your relationship changed you?

3. Do you believe in unconditional love? Why or why not?

Is unconditional love a romantic myth or fact? What do you think?

4. Do you have sexual fantasies that you would like to try with me?

Let's talk about sex. Don't be afraid to talk to your partner about your sexual preferences. When you are open about your sexuality, your sex life will get even better.

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5. What is your favorite part of my body?

What makes this body part so unique?

6. What do you think is the most sexual characteristic or trait of a person?

Not only looks can make you sexy, but also your personality. What personality traits can't you resist?

7. If you had three wishes from me, what would they be?

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8. What is your favorite memory of us?

It can be very beautiful to experience pleasant memories with your partner.

9. What was the strangest (good or bad) sexual experience you have ever had?

Have you ever tried some weird sex fetish and haven't told your partner yet? Tell your partner, maybe he/she will like it.

10. If your partner cheated on you, would you give him/her a second chance?

This is a difficult question. Do circumstances matter, or is this behavior simply unforgivable?

11. Would you put your career ahead of your personal life?

Career or love? What comes first in your life? Do you and your partner feel the same about this topic?

12. Do you regret your decisions?

Every decision you've ever made has led you to this moment. Therefore, it can be argued that people should not regret anything. I think we've all made choices in our lives that we're not proud of. The best thing we can do is learn from our mistakes and forgive ourselves.

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13. If you had to describe me in three words, which words would you choose?

Choose these three words wisely.

14. What do you think about Valentine's Day? Is it overrated?

Do you celebrate Valentine's Day as a couple, or do you think it's stupid? Why do you like or dislike?

15. If you could change something about yourself, what would it be?

Your partner probably wouldn't want to change something about you. However, would you?

16. What are your goals in this relationship?

It is advisable to talk about your ideas for relationships in a couple. If the goals of two partners differ too much, they should talk about it (for example, one wants to get married, and the other does not).

17. What are the biggest differences between us?

Opposites attract, don't they? In my experience, good mediocrity is the best recipe for a working relationship - not too similar, but not too different either.

18. What are three things you can never live with?

We all know that you love your partner and wouldn't want to live without him. However, think about the different things you don't want to live without.

19. Are we satisfied with our proximity?

Start talking honestly about how satisfied you are with your relationship. This will instantly improve your relationship.

20. What am I doing that turns you on?

I hope something you do turns her/him on - just kidding 😄. I'm sure your partner can come up with something.

21. If you could have one quality or ability at this moment, what would it be?

Is it a physical or cognitive ability? What would you do with your new skill?

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22. When you die, how do you want people to remember you?

A bit painful, but still a good question.

23. What place did you like as a child, and why did you like it so much?

What makes this place so special?

24.

Have I ever said or done something that made you feel uncomfortable?

This is a very thoughtful question. Sometimes we offend our loved ones without knowing it.

25. Do you miss something we used to do?

What was it and why did you stop doing it?

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As a little bonus, we've created a list of our favorite questions to ask your boyfriend/girlfriend.

1. How much alone time do you need in a relationship?

Everyone needs time for themselves, some more and some less. Therefore, it is important to discuss with your partner how much time you want to spend alone.

2. What do you think is our strongest and weakest side as a couple?

Honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship. It can strengthen relationships if you reflect on your strengths and weaknesses together.

3. What is your favorite way to express love?

Do you express your love with words or actions? My favorite way would be a combination of both.

4. What do you think our life will look like ten years from now?

This question indicates that you are planning to have a future with your partner.

5. What do you think is the key to a happy and healthy relationship?

Is it intimacy, communication, or just love? Maybe it's different for everyone.

6. Which member of my family do you like the most and which do you like the least?

Decide if you want to answer this question. I think there's nothing wrong with telling the truth about how you feel about your partner's family, as long as it's respectful.

7. Do you feel jealous if your partner is with a friend of the opposite sex?

If yes, why do you think you are jealous? Did something happen to you in the past that prevented you from trusting your partner?

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