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I Hate My Husband - What To Do If You Resent Your Partner
In one of your not-so-finest moments, you’ve probably yelled something like “I hate you!” at someone you love. (You're only human.) But what if you honestly felt that way? What if some part of you—a small fraction or even a really substantial one—actually hates your husband or partner?
As it turns out, hating your spouse isn't as uncommon as you might think. Practically everyone has times when they feel something like hate toward their partner, says Jane Greer, PhD, a marriage and family therapist in New York City. In her book, What About Me? Stop Selfishness from Ruining Your Relationship, Greer calls these “Hate You, Mean It” moments. It’s basically impossible to live with someone without occasionally feeling annoyed by their behavior, she says—but what you need for a relationship to be successful is for those moments to be balanced out with “Love You, Mean It” ones.
"It’s basically impossible to live with someone without occasionally feeling annoyed by their behavior."
“That’s when you look at your partner and recognize why you love them, whether it’s because they’re being thoughtful, they’re so attractive to you, they did something caring, they said something funny, they were supportive and helped you, or you saw them with your children and you thought, 'What a great mother or father they are,'” says Greer. Without those moments, your relationship is like a sunburn with no aloe, she says.
If you feel the opposite way—that your feelings are falling more on the “Hate You, Mean It” side of the spectrum—you're likely dealing with a real and heavy dose of resentment. Read on for Greer’s advice about exactly what to do.
1. Figure out where your needs aren’t being met.
Maybe you’re very clear that your hatred stems from how your partner never picks up after his or herself or never follows through on things they said they'd do. Or maybe you’re feeling these negative feelings, but you’re not exactly sure why.
If it’s the latter, Greer suggests paying close attention to your partner’s behavior and reflecting back on how they've been acting. “Ask yourself, ‘Is there an unresolved issue? Is it something they did recently that's making me upset? Is it something they said? Am I not feeling listened to?’” she says. “Look at, ‘Where am I feeling unimportant, unconsidered, not cared about, controlled, or deprived?’ Where are your needs not being met? That's the real question.”
"Where are your needs not being met? That's the real question.”
Let’s say your husband doesn’t lift a finger around the house, or your wife constantly blares the TV when you’re trying to sleep. “If it’s a continued, chronic behavior,” says Greer, “it can become really problematic.”
Another possibility for hating or resenting your partner is that they're responsible for one action—but a biggie one.
Exhibit A: Your partner moved you across the country for their job. It’s one thing if you decided on the move together because it was in the best interest of your relationship and family; it’s another if you feel like your partner didn’t ask for your input.
There’s a difference between compromise and sacrifice, says Greer. “In order for you not to be resentful about the decisions that go on in your life, you have to feel that you're making a choice—not that you're sacrificing and going along,” she says. “Otherwise, there will be resentment and anger."
2. Don’t let your hatred get to the boiling point.
Now that you've pared down the reason (or reasons) you're feeling so anti toward your partner, you’ve got to discuss this hatred with them—and fast, according to Greer.
“If you're aware that you’re upset and angry, the sooner you can talk about, the less it festers, the less you dwell on it, and the less retaliatory you become,” she says.
So have a (healthy!) conversation. Greer recommends starting with empathy, thinking about why your partner might be behaving in this particular way. You might say, “I understand that you work long hours, feel exhausted when you get home, and therefore don’t want to do more work, like house chores.” Or, “I get that you felt like you had to move or your boss was going to fire you.”
Then go ahead and say how you feel—without blaming. Maybe you say something like, “With that being said, I’m really feeling resentful when we keep talking about the dishes and you still keep leaving them in the sink,” or, “I didn't feel like I had a lot of say in relocating, and I’m still upset about it.”
3. Suggest solutions.
Once you've initiated the "here's what's up" convo and your spouse has had a chance to voice their part, it's time to move on to the resolution bit.
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“You move to, how do we problem-solve in the future? How do we avoid this going forward?” explains Greer.
Perhaps you’ll always handle the dishes as long as your partner takes care taking out all the garbage, which you hate. And you’ll always talk to each other and develop a strategy before making any big family decisions.
Oftentimes, hating your partner is really just about feeling like whatever they're doing or not doing is never going to change. But there can't be change if you don't communicate.
4. Think about counseling.
If things still don't change for the better after you've talked out your grievances, you might want to seek out professional guidance.
“If you're reaching a point of resigning yourself to, ‘This is the way it is’ and you're just angry, it’s time for counseling,” Greer says. A couples therapist can help you both voice concerns that might be making each of you less motivated to do your part, plus give you tools for improved communication and understanding, as well as managing expectations.
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To get your partner on board, try saying, "I’d really like for us to get along better and be happier together, like we used to be. I think it would really help us a lot if we could get some objective support, with a counselor who is skilled in helping couples make their relationship stronger," Greer suggests.
Now, if your partner shuts down the idea (some men, and women, too, don't "believe" in therapy), try this approach, from Greer. Tell them: "I still feel the need for some outside help, so I’m going to go talk to somebody and see if that can make anything better just on my part." Typically when one person seeks help and starts to make changes, Greer says, their partner starts to feel a little anxious and wants to come in to see what's going on.
P.S. Couples counseling, which is on the rise, btw, doesn't necessarily mean that your marriage is failing or you should get a divorce. For a lot of people, it's just a proactive way to ensure that you're both giving your bond your all.
5. Have more fun together.
Marriage (and relationships in general) take work. But when things become all work and no play, of course you're going to start to hate on the person who's making you put in all that effort.
And once you've started to hate your husband (or wife, or boyfriend/girlfriend), you might start spending less leisure time with him, which perpetuates the cycle. Your fix? Start having more fun together, stat.
Break out the old collection of "Date Night Ideas" from your bridal shower, text a friend for a breakdown of her best date ever, or throw it back to one of the first and most fun outings you and your partner had when you first got together. The idea is to do something either totally out-of-the-box or nostalgic—as long as it's something you'll both enjoy (like hitting up a cool new brewery over, say, apple picking), it'll do.
A quick day or weekend trip away can help, too, says Greer. Sometimes you need a short escape from daily life, where you're in your typical husband/wife-dad/mom roles, to rekindle your flame.
Otherwise, you’ll only have those “Hate You, Mean It” moments left. And that becomes much harder to come back from.
Alison Goldman
Alison Goldman is a writer and editor based in Chicago. She previously served as the lifestyle editor at Boston Globe Media's Boston.com and has also worked at WomensHealthMag.com and Glamour. Read more of her work at alisonmgoldman.com or follow her @alisongoldman on Twitter and @alisonmgoldman on Insta.
I Hate My Husband | Top 4 Ways To Reverse It! – Dr. Wyatt Fisher
When a woman says “I hate my husband” it’s usually because there’s a lack of emotional intimacy in their marriage and she feels resentful about it. Therefore, this post will cover practical steps to increase emotional intimacy in your relationship.
What should I do if I hate my husband?
Begin by discussing how important emotional connection is for you. Next, explore resentments either of you may have toward one another because they need to be thoroughly addressed. Then, discuss how you could begin building emotional connection to feel closer moving forward.
1-Develop A Head/Heart Check Routine
If you are feeling like you hate your husband and it’s from a lack of emotional intimacy, the first step is to have a daily Head/Heart Check. Ask your partner what is on their head and heart at least once a day. The head is the agenda items, which is what most couples have to talk about to coordinate their schedules. The agenda includes everything you did during the day. The heart is mad, sad, glad, or fear and why. Those are the four main emotional categories so anything you feel will probably fall underneath one of those four. Your emotions may be connected to your agenda items from the day or they may have nothing to do with what you did. If you don’t know what you’ve been feeling and why, don’t make stuff up! Instead, spend a few minutes reflecting on if you felt mad, sad, glad, or fear from the day and the possible reasons. Getting in touch with our feelings is a muscle. The more you intentionally practice it, the stronger you’ll be at it. It’s important to identify what your possible feelings from the day were and why because emotional intimacy is not just listening to your partner’s head and heart but it’s being able to share yours too. See the sample below.
2-Don’t Criticize Your Partner
To keep the Head/Heart Check constructive, it’s important to not share any negative feelings towards your partner, use proper conflict resolution in marriage methods for that like the Reunite Tool. Therefore, you’ll be discussing negative feelings you have outside of your marriage. This could include negative feelings you may have towards your family, friends, and coworkers or it could be more topical such as negative feelings about your career, finances, or health. If you share negative feelings towards your partner during the Head/Heart Check, they will start to avoid it because it will turn into daily time to get criticized.
3-Don’t Give Advice
An important rule to follow during the Head/Heart Check is don’t offer any advice unless asked. Offering unsolicited advice is a big no, no yet we do it all the time. Our partner will vent about something distressing to them and we immediately start fixing by offering solutions. That's not what they want. If they wanted solutions, they would ask for them. When your partner vents, they want your emotional support to feel closer to you. If you provide solutions it will make them feel more antagonistic and distant with you.
4-Give Empathy Every Time
Empathy is the best way to respond to your partner venting during the Head/Heart Check to promote emotional intimacy in marriage. Empathy is not if you agree with what your partner is feeling. If it were you would rarely be able to provide it because you are a different person from your partner and probably wouldn’t feel similarly. Instead, empathy is when you put yourself in your spouse's shoes and try to see the situation from their vantage point. That can only happen if you’re mindful of all the variables that make your partner who they are. The top variables include their childhood emotional wounds, their childhood values, their adulthood insecurities, their adulthood values, their top stressors, their top marital needs, and their temperament. If you don’t know the answers to these topics about your partner, set aside time to ask them about each category. Write down their responses. Then meditate on their responses regularly, especially before your Head/Heart Check. Doing so will help you understand what makes your partner tick, which will help you see why they are feeling certain things in life. For example, my wife was isolated often during her upbringing because she lived with a single parent who traveled a lot. Therefore, one of her childhood wounds is feeling alone. This has made her hungry for extra close friendships in adulthood. During our Head/Heart Check she’ll often share how upset she is that certain friends aren’t making enough time for her. I personally wouldn’t feel similarly if I were in her shoes because I don’t have the same emotional wound in my background. However, when I consider her emotional wound of feeling alone growing up, I can see how she would feel hurt when her friends don’t make enough time for her. That’s how I can empathize with her feelings even if I personally wouldn’t feel the same way. Is it my job to highlight her childhood wound is probably getting activated, no! It’s my job to empathize to make her feel supported.
Some ideal empathy statements include “I can see why you would feel …… because of……” or “that makes sense you would feel ….. because of …..” Some shorter empathy statements can include “that sucks” or “no wonder you feel that way” or “that sounds really stressful.” With the example above of my wife venting about her friends not spending enough time with her I could empathize with “I can see how you would feel sad and frustrated that your friends aren’t making enough time for you. It makes sense that would upset you.” In the beginning, providing empathy may feel artificial because you probably aren’t used to responding that way. But like any new skill, you first have to learn how to do it until eventually it becomes more authentic and natural. Therefore, wives have grace while your husband is learning how to become more empathetic.
Emotional intimacy is knowing your partner’s inner thoughts and feelings. The more both partners are privy to what the other is thinking and feeling the more emotional intimacy they have. You may be asking why care about emotional intimacy? Why is it even important? First, emotional intimacy tends to be a top need for most females. I would say 95% of all couples I work with the woman says emotional intimacy is her top need in the relationship. Most females need emotional closeness like they need air, it’s essential. Second, emotional intimacy cultivates a best friendship in marriage. Feeling like best friends with our partner is ideal for all of us. Third, emotional intimacy is important in marriage because it usually leads to better sex. Most women can't be physically bare until they are emotionally bare first. Another way to put it is if you touch a woman’s heart, she’ll probably let you touch her body. Men are you paying attention? This is vital information!
John Gottman talks about the concept of a love map as a way to think about emotional intimacy. Think about the city where you live and a map of that city a hundred years ago, 50 years ago, and today. As you can imagine, the map has changed drastically over time. New buildings have gone up, new highways have been built, and new bridges have been created. Just like the map of cities are continually changing, so are we. What is stressful to me now is different than it was a month ago or three months ago or a year ago. I'm constantly changing and so are you. If we don't have a method that continually updates us on our partner’s inner map, we’ll get outdated. You may think you know your partner, but you actually don’t. When we feel like our partner doesn’t really know us, we usually withdrawal. So, it's critical for couples to have a method to cultivate emotional intimacy on a regular basis, to keep their love map updated!
So, if you have been thinking "I hate my husband" and the cause is from a lack of emotional intimacy, be sure to read this article together and follow the four steps.
Here are some articles for further reading.
Article on how to be a better husband
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Article on how to be a better wife
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I Hate My Wife 20 Circumstances When It's Okay to Feel It / Sofa of Love
I'm just going to say that marriage is not easy. If you often feel like saying I hate my wife, take heart. We both hate each other sometimes.
This phrase breaks my heart. If I got a dime for every time I heard a guy say, “I hate my wife, I would have a jet… Yes, that's right; I don't. The sad reality is that any woman would be absolutely devastated to hear a man say he hates her..
If you are a guy and seriously feel that you hate your wife, you have two options. You are trying to make things better or you are leaving. It's never easy to walk away saying "I do" but if you can't find comfort in her presence then it's a bit more than an annoyance.
We all hate our significant ones from time to time. Some of us admit it, while others go our own way, burying our heads in the sand. It's okay to hate each other from time to time, but if it's a constant feeling associated with some critical things, then it's time to just say goodbye.
# 1 Your combat actions affect children . Anyone who grew up in a home where wrestling was the norm knows that it's not fun. If you hate your wife to the point where you can't even smile at each other or "behave properly", then it's time to move on and find new happy ones.
If you stay for the sake of the children, don't think it's good for them. Even if you exit fights to avoid them, the carnage will be there when you're not there. If you hate your wife, she probably suffers too. Let everyone off the hook and just walk away.
# 2 She doesn't want to take responsibility. If your wife makes you feel like it's always your fault and she has nothing to do with it, then there's nothing you can do about it. Finding a compromise involves two people working on a problem together.
If she thinks that the problem only lands on you, then it's time to let go and let her know how things are without you. Maybe good, maybe bad, but you finally found your happiness.
# 3 She cheated on you or cheated on you. If your wife has cheated on you, there is good reason to despise her. Trust is the cornerstone of not only marriage, but also love. If you can't trust someone, it's hard to let her into your life.
If forgiveness is not something you can really give and you hate her for what she did, you have a right. It's okay to feel like you can't be with her anymore if she betrayed your trust.
# 4 She wears yoga pants in the family and leaves no control . If she orders you around like a slave, or generally just doesn't respect you or your feelings, then she's not the kind of person you'll spend the rest of your life with.
Some women feel that their husband should be at their disposal. It's normal for a woman to want certain things or have a "honey deal" list from time to time, but if you're feeling like an employee or indentured servant, then it might be time to say goodbye.
# 5 She drains your bills. If she thinks your savings account is her petty cash drawer, then it's time to tell her to cut her out or cut her out. There is nothing worse than working full time to get ahead of yourself and find that you never have any money.
Like a bottomless pit, it's hard to love someone who keeps denying all your hard work, spending everything you have on yourself.
# 6 She's so controlling you can't breathe. If you can't urinate without her permission, then it's not a healthy way to live. Partnership means just that, partnership.
If you can't make half a decision about a relationship or about your own life, that's not how you can spend it. If you hate her for being yours, then it's time to move on.
# 7 She uses sex as a tool if you even want to have it with her more than . If sex has become nothing more than a tool to manipulate and control you, then it is not a very loving union. Sex should bring pleasure to each other. If she uses it to manipulate or punish you, then it makes any man hate his wife.
# 8 She puts you down . If she tells someone who will listen how much you fail, the stupid things you do in the privacy of your own home, or how you are just dumb as rocks, then you have a reason not to love her.
You deserve to be with someone who thinks you are something special and not only tells you but everyone else too. We all do stupid things, so the person you marry should accept your idiocy and keep it a secret..
# 9 There is no appreciation in her body. If she doesn't appreciate what you do like anything, then maybe it's time to just let her have her own way. Being loved and appreciated is what everyone deserves.
If all you do is she just expects and never says thank you, that will never change. She clearly feels she has a right to you, which is not true..
# 10 She doesn't contribute anything other than household bills. If you work full time and she sits on her ass full time, it's not that hard to start feeling resentful. It's okay if you have an arrangement where she manages the household and you manage the money. But if you run and do everything, then what is the use for you?
Better or worse does not mean better for her, and you are worse.
# 11 She physically attacks you. If, on rare occasions, the heat of battle becomes so intense that it spills water on your head, that's one thing. But if she's swinging at you, throwing some really hard shit at your head, or kicking you weekly, it's time to get out.
Sooner or later someone will get hurt, and if it's her, you don't want to be on the hook to hit back to protect yourself.
# 12 Her relentless verbal abuse never stops. If she can't stop verbally punching you every time you walk through the door, then it's time to tell her that she should either start showing you some respect or you'll find someone else.
Sometimes verbal abuse can be much worse than anything physical. Cuts and bruises heal, emotional wounds tend to stay in the soul forever.
# 13 Nothing you do will ever be good enough . If nothing you ever do is good enough, then it's time to say goodbye. Of course, in any relationship there comes a point where the other person can't seem to be pleased.
But if you've consciously really tried to listen to her and change your ways, and you don't get a response or a change from her, then it's not worth it. Spending your whole life being wrong and punished is not fair and not good for anyone.
# 14 girls weekend does not end with . If she's spending all her time away from home while you're playing cute dad, you might want to make sure it's a "girls weekend" first. Secondly, you can just start getting distracted in order to gain freedom..
A marriage should consist of about two people having the same amount of time together and apart. No man can do what he wants, when he wants.
# 15 She has a vice more important than your family. If she's a drug addict, an alcoholic, or some other vice that's destroying your family, being with her just makes you dependent and keeps her. If you hate her but really love her, leave or she will never straighten up.
#16 She lies about everything or you just can't trust her. Lying is something that cannot be tolerated in a marriage. If you can't trust what she says, then you can't share her bed.
#17 You can't find a way to get along . Constant rollercoasters are no fun! If you can't seem to get past the same old argument that keeps resurfacing over and over again, then it's time to get out of the way and find some normality. You may find that you don't hate her as much when you're not constantly fighting.
# 18 You don't think she's a good person. If you don't think she is generally a nice person and you no longer see the woman you fell in love with, then it's time to get out of the marriage for both of you. .
# 19 The thought of her makes you anxious. If you'd rather have a workout through your teeth than spend another second with it, then you know what to do.
# 20 You are afraid of her. If you're afraid to be yourself, to take a step, or to do anything, I don't need to tell you that sooner or later you have to take a step. It won't be any less painful if you wait. You're only wasting time and making your life miserable for the sake of something inevitable.
If your love has turned into hate, there is very little hope that it will turn the other way. When you've tried everything you know to make a marriage happy and it's not, sometimes you have to rip off the bandage and let the healing begin.
If you're just experiencing the ebb and flow of marriage, it might be time to sit down and talk about what's going on. Perhaps if you told her about your needs, she would agree with them.
Maybe she has no idea that you feel the same way as you and will gladly change to meet you halfway. If the above doesn't apply to you, then dear, you're pretty good at it.
The phrase "I hate my wife" is something every guy probably says at some point in their marriage. Sometimes it's just at the moment when you're fed up. No marriage or relationship is perfect, but if you feel that way too often, it's time to move on.
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So your wife is also tired of you, most likely. She, perhaps, is already barely enduring and will be glad if you dump her. Rent an apartment for a month, live alone..
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So your wife is also tired of you, most likely. She, perhaps, is already barely enduring and will be glad if you dump her. Rent an apartment for yourself for a month, live alone. , and her only desire is to shut up, he climbs in bed, and she pretends to be asleep ... Moreover, there were no children either - she didn’t want to give birth to him. , he loved her ... Then she met another, fell in love - immediately packed up and left, divorced within a month. Now she regrets the wasted time.
It's no secret that we humans are not just a piece of meat, we have a soul. We are spiritual beings. If you conduct a small survey, surely everyone will have an experience when he saw his grandparents, or, say, an angel came and said something. Or, the simplest thing, intuition made me act in a special way, and everything worked out....
Yes, no doubt, such things always exist.
As for us, after the wedding, my grandfather came in a dream and said: "Look, we tried so hard here, don't let us down." With a hint that our wedding is their merit.
There were moments when my grandfather would dream at night and say: "Get down today..".
Or my grandmother came, in my hands I seem to be holding a bunch of grass. I know she's poisonous. Grandmother takes it and eats saying: "How long can I save you?"
Cool things.
That's what keeps everything on them. We are not on our own. Behind us is a bunch of our loved ones who are no longer there. And they have some expectation.
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Author, you are a lone wolf. You are better off living alone. Don't interfere with others.
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Author, you are a lone wolf. You are better off living alone. Don't interfere with others.
But that doesn't mean that my place is in the forest, does it?
We must first create something so that "there is my way" to be.
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1 - stop housekeeping, because this is a WOMEN'S business. Men's - only earn money.
2 - talk directly to your wife. You are already adults.
3 - work with children at least on weekends.
4 - in case of bad outcome of all three options above - get a mistress.
5 - if she turns out to be deaf to you and your needs at all, then it remains first to live separately. Maybe it will mature.
6 - if this does not help, then, alas, only a divorce. Apparently, she also burned out to you if there is neither affection nor gentleness towards you on her part. Or maybe her left front has been working perfectly for a long time, but you don’t have enough strength.
I've been doing this for about 5 months now.
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- There are people who, at least every year, give a new woman - any one will get bored, bored.
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Here, this is another argument in favor abrupt movements. There is everything and rejoice, they say. Others have no husband or wife at all ... For years. That's how they die.
A person usually does not appreciate what he has. And if we conduct an audit of our lives, we have a lot of things, and we are all unhappy and dissatisfied.
A family, it is for children. And after that, the selfish ambitions of the self-beloved))
In short, the author, don't fumes) Deal with what you have. You are smart, you can handle it)
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Helping your wife, huh? Take a break from home, from yourself, your child, life? She is also a person, count up, she gets tired after all!
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We are hold marriage.
They would have fled long ago. What is the meaning of it, it is difficult to show. But something is possible. It's no secret that we humans are not just a piece of meat, we have a soul. We are spiritual beings. If you conduct a small survey, surely everyone will have an experience when he saw his grandparents, or, say, an angel came and said something. Or, the simplest thing, intuition made me act in a special way, and everything worked out .... Yes, no doubt, there are always such things. As for us, after the wedding, my grandfather came in a dream and said: “Look, we tried so hard here, do not let me down". With a hint that our wedding is their merit. There were moments when my grandfather dreamed at night and said: "Today, bend down .." Or my grandmother came, in my hands I seem to be holding a bunch of grass. I know she's poisonous. Grandmother takes it and eats saying: "How long can I save you?" Cool things. That's all on them. We are not on our own. Behind us is a bunch of our loved ones who are no longer there.
And they have some expectation.
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What keeps us going is that we have a wedding. They would have fled long ago. What is the meaning of it, it is difficult to show. But something is possible. It's no secret that we humans are not just a piece of meat, we have a soul. We are spiritual beings. If you conduct a small survey, surely everyone will have an experience when he saw his grandparents, or, say, an angel came and said something. Or, the simplest thing, intuition made me act in a special way, and everything worked out .... Yes, no doubt, there are always such things. As for us, after the wedding, my grandfather came in a dream and said: “Look, we tried so hard here, do not let me down". With a hint that our wedding is their merit. There were moments when my grandfather dreamed at night and said: "Today, bend down .." Or my grandmother came, in my hands I seem to be holding a bunch of grass.
I know she's poisonous. Grandmother takes it and eats saying: "How long can I save you?" Cool things. That's all on them. We are not on our own. Behind us is a bunch of our loved ones who are no longer there. And they have some expectation.
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