How to let go of negative energy
9 Steps to Letting Go of Negativity
by Dominique Antiglio | Blog
Letting go of negativity can be extremely difficult at the best of times, but especially when we’re stressed. We’ve all experienced being unable to let go: when our mind, body and emotions go around in a closed loop, preventing us from clarity, peace, enjoyment of our daily experiences or restful sleep.
The ultimate benefit of being able to let go is to be able to bask in the flow of life, to enjoy life. Letting go of negative thoughts and energy opens up new possibilities, a new space within ourselves and new opportunities in the world.
In this article, I am going to explore 9 ways to learn to let go.
1 Acknowledge how you feel
Notice how you think and feel, acknowledge where you are in this moment within yourself. To be able to let go, we first need to be able to connect with ourselves and be an observer of what’s happening to us. Especially if it’s uncomfortable because this is when letting go will become useful.
2 Accepting positive and negative experiences
Although this can be difficult at times, we must try to be less absorbed in the positive and negative aspects of every single experience and instead see life as a multitude of different experiences. Stopping to identify each of them can be really useful and helpful in taking a step back and moving on.
3 Stop wanting to control it all
As human beings, it’s only natural to feel happier when we feel in control, but unfortunately, life does not always make it so. Accepting this enables us to see that the most empowering moments of our personal journeys are when we are not in control. It’s about acquiring a new belief that being in the flow of things isn’t about control, it’s about being centred and adaptable.
4 Saying ‘yes’ to your true self
As a Sophrologist, I support people as they find their purpose and values. It is an important part of the Sophrology method and enables us to define ourselves, be comfortable with who we are, know what we stand for, and what we contribute.
Knowing who we are, our boundaries and limits will help us deal with the outside world more constructively.
Some experiences are just not for you and you don’t need to be everything to everybody or aim to do everything in your life in order to be happy. Knowing yourself is also about being able to set better boundaries and just say ‘no’. When you let go of the pressure to be everything to everyone, you start to say ‘yes’ to your true self.
5 Use your body and your breath
In Sophrology we learn to use the awareness of our body to transform the way we feel, think and process our reality. The body is a fantastic place to start learning to let go, especially for people who are constantly stuck in this never-ending mind loop.
Every practice we do includes body awareness, using our body in movement followed by a time of pause and integration. Taking pauses are a way to start learning to let go. Real letting go comes from learning to be comfortable in these pauses.
They teach us to observe and accept the experience that presents itself.
6 Living in the here and now
Learning to be more present through our body but also in the present moment is key in being able to let go and be in the flow of life. Recognising that all we have is in the present moment and that everything we’ve experienced, even a few seconds ago, is already a dream and what we are going to experience in the future is also a dream. There are simple ways to help us be in the present moment with Sophrology. One is connecting to sensations and the breath which brings our awareness back to the present moment, listening to the sounds around us, listening to the breath, suspending our judgement but also making a conscious effort in the practice to let go of what has already passed.
You could also write down what has happened in your day and then consciously let it go. Just remembering how your day was before you sleep, perhaps being thankful for this day and then saying goodbye to it so you can freely move forward.
All the experiences we’ve had today, this year, or in our entire life, are only a dream and we don’t need to hang on to them.
7 Work on your sleep
Sleep is the ultimate letting go if we sleep well and we are going into deep sleep that means we are already very able to let go! Bad sleep is often just a reflection of all the experiences we can’t fully process during the day. We take them with us at night. Sophrology offers many ways to help us let go and positively reset our sleep. For more information on this, refer to my book “The Life Changing Power of Sophrology” or the free webinar on my website.
8 Non-judgement, looking at things like it’s the first time
Especially in situations where we feel completely trapped or in relationships where things seem to be stagnant and painful, seeing moments through the eyes of a child can open up new possibilities. Meeting someone like it is the first time and suspending all judgement at this moment will be eye-opening.
This is something we practice during Sophrology with our own sensation and thought so that it becomes easier to apply in daily life.
9 Everything is constantly changing in life
It helps to know and accept that life itself is constantly changing. There are always new possibilities offered to us if we are open to the fluid nature of life. One door closes and another one opens.
If we make mistakes or make the wrong decisions, there is always room for change. Accepting we can’t succeed or master everything, that we are not perfect, leads us towards evolution.
Therefore we always have a choice: either we resist it all and we hang on to everything or we accept that the only real constant in our lives is that we can choose to be this non-judging observing awareness throughout our experiences – that’s the ultimate way of letting go. It’s knowing that all our experiences are not us and therefore we can let go of them. It’s a journey to get to that place and that’s the journey of consciousness that Sophrology supports us with.
How to Let Go of Negative Thoughts and Learn to Forgive
Earlier this week, I was driving home while mentally replaying a tense conversation I’d had with a friend that had been bugging me all day. You know, the kind that you keep turning over and over in your mind and can’t quite seem to move past. Suddenly, Taylor Swift came on the radio reminding me to “shake it off,” and I realized that the hurtful words I’d had on repeat in my mind we’re getting in the way of me showing up for everyone else in my life the rest of the day. The truth is, we’ve all been hurt by others and situations—it’s part of life—and while the pain is often out of our control, I think it’s helpful to remember that we can control our response to it.
Do we dwell and ruminate on the past… or do we learn what we can and then get back to the more important task of living our lives?
I’m obviously a big fan of the latter, but sometimes it’s easier said than done.
Since conflict and hurt are inevitable, I’ve been reading up on the topic of resiliency: why do some of us seem to have an easier time bouncing back and moving on? Turns out that the experts have a lot to say on the topic of how to let go of negative thoughts. So, keep scrolling for 12 ways to learn to let things go and forgive yourself and others. And remember, Taylor’s got your back.
The first step is to remember that we do have a choice in letting go. We can consciously decide to stop replaying incidents in our heads, and when we think of an embarrassing situation or person who wronged us, simply remind ourselves to “let it go.”
2 of 122 – Write it down.When I find myself dwelling on negative thoughts, I have trouble letting them go until I pull out my journal and write about it. The simple act of putting pen to paper (more effective than typing) forces me to slow down my thoughts and articulate what’s really bothering me.
It can be easy to fall into the role of the victim, but remember that most stories have two sides. If you can take any responsibility for the situation, acknowledge that to yourself—and to the other person, when appropriate. Focusing on how you could have handled the situation differently (and how you plan to next time) brings a sense of empowerment.
4 of 124 – Live in the present.When you’re completely wrapped up in the here and now, there’s little time or energy to ponder past wrongs. Doesn’t it sound like more fun to embrace the present with a spirit of joy and abundance? For me, taking time each morning to meditate and pray helps me bring a more focused presence to my days.
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You know those times when we keep replaying past mistakes or shameful moments over and over in our heads? It’s a dangerous cycle that can rob our happiness and cause stress levels that can become serious health problems.
Next time you find yourself replaying incidents over and over, choose to treat yourself with the same kindness you’d show a loved one. Breathe deeply and imagine the thoughts just melting away.
Before you can let go of a negative situation, you have to feel it fully, and crying can be a soothing way to purge sad feelings and actually make yourself feel better. Did you know that studies have shown that tears actually rid the body of chemicals that raise cortisol, the stress hormone?
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Transform a painful memory or situation by using it as a catalyst to help others. Volunteer in the community, shower love on a family member that needs it, adopt a pet who needs a home. There’s always a way to use your negative experience as a launching pad to help someone else.
8 of 128 – Release the endorphins.For me, there’s no better way to get out of a funk than to work up a sweat.
I’ll go for a run or take a spin class, and the endorphin release almost always brings a sense of hope and clarity to my thoughts. Plus, I walk away feeling mentally strong so I can focus on the right things.
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9 – Make a list of the things you can control about the situation.Maybe you can’t change another person’s thoughts, but you can control your attitude, you can control the effort you put into resolving a conflict, and you can control whether you view the situation as an opportunity to learn something important.
10 of 1210 – Be empathetic.Put yourself in the shoes of another person, and try to see the situation from their perspective. Remember that we all make mistakes, and nothing conquers anger or pain quite like a spirit of compassion.
11 of 1211 – Forecast into the future.Sometimes I imagine my life five years from now, then ask myself if I’ll care about or even remember what I’m stewing over.
99% of the time, the answer’s no. In the grand scheme of things, most of what we worry about will seem so unimportant later, so why waste time on it now?
Sometimes it helps to vent about our situation to friends or family members, but watch out that this doesn’t turn into yet another rehashing of negative thoughts. I often find that simply being in the presence of people I care about makes me happier. Laughing over something completely unrelated to my stress and being reminded of the people in my life who love me tends to put it all in perspective.
This post was originally published on February 17, 2019, and has since been updated.
Nothing superfluous: how to carry out energy cleansing and get rid of accumulated negativity
How to cleanse your life of everything unnecessary, and what daily rituals will help you achieve what you want, we figure it out together with the experts of the Mental Market educational application - psychologist Victoria Dmitrieva and astrologer Irina Eremina.
Energy and security
Have you ever felt like everyone turned their backs on you? Think about what period of your life you had such feelings? The fact is that the people around us on a subconscious level read negative energy and often intuitively avoid those who can be potentially dangerous in this regard - this is the nature's way. Safety and comfort are important to us, and negativity in any manifestation is perceived as a potential threat.
Constant dissatisfaction, criticism, negative perception of what is happening - all these are characteristics of the position of the victim. Such people are able to focus only on the bad, so they are often unsympathetic to others - they do not want to communicate and cooperate with them, since communication will not bring pleasure or benefit.
If you notice such behavior in yourself, take responsibility for what is happening. Why do you see only troubles and failures? What actions provoke these events? When it seems to you that everything around you is against you, most likely you are in an unstable emotional state - people avoid you unconsciously, they read your emotions and reduce communication to nothing in order to protect their own energy.
Energy from the point of view of astrology
Energy consists of our emotions, thoughts and feelings. Anxiety, bad mood, dissatisfaction with what is happening directly affect health and life in general.
The natal chart helps the astrologer determine the potential of a person, so he can foresee some events that will affect the energy level ( read also : Natal chart for dummies: how to “read” your destiny and destiny). It is easier for people with strong energy to withstand difficulties and trials, but it is impossible to foresee how a person will act in a particular case - the potential written in the card does not give any guarantees that the energy charge will always be with a plus sign.
The Universe and the stars are more favorable to people with clean energy
The Universe endows everyone with positive energy at the moment of birth, and we gradually attract negative energy into our lives ourselves, personifying our inner state and projecting it onto others.
Grateful, pure and "filled" people have charisma and always arouse interest, therefore success and opportunities are attracted to them. And if envy, greed, anger, jealousy, constant discontent and claims in relation to others prevail, the energy potential will be underestimated. Such people are filled with the energy of low vibrations, so their life will consist of negativity and destructive manifestations: anxieties, fears, illnesses and failures.
How do we destroy our energy?
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We see only negative moments in what is happening, we follow the mistakes of other people, we criticize them . Focusing on the negative, judging people, trying to prove you're right, and giving an unsolicited opinion takes a lot of energy. Such a life position only leads to the fact that a person becomes energetically devastated;
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We blame everyone except ourselves for failures and defeats . If we waste time looking for the culprits, we will never be able to draw the right conclusions about the current situation;
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We depreciate our work and the achievements of others .
Learn to be grateful - start with yourself first. Even if you are a mother on maternity leave and spend 24/7 at home with your child, stop denying your own importance. You are responsible for the lives of your children, and this requires a lot of energy costs. If you are a novice entrepreneur and do not see the desired results at the beginning of the journey, do not devalue your efforts: you have invested knowledge, effort and money in your own business - give yourself time; -
Holding back emotions . If we constantly hold back emotions, the nervous system is worn out, and the presence of toxic people in life is only destructive for energy.
What habits contribute to the purification of energy?
Having studied the destructive habits that negatively affect our energy, it is worth considering rituals, the regular performance of which will help rid the soul and body of everything superfluous and clear the mind of negative emotions.
Create a positive environment
Avoid associating with toxic people, even if one of them is your relative, childhood friend or colleague. Such people are often referred to as "energy vampires", but they are not really draining your energy - you are wasting your own energy by holding yourself back to avoid conflicts ( read also : How to recognize an energy vampire and not fall prey to him).
You don't need to be "comfortable", you need to be free. We can't cut some people out of our lives, but we can shield ourselves from regular contact with them out of a sense of duty - meet on neutral territory where their toxic influence will be minimized, don't let them dictate terms, build reasonable boundaries.
Get rid of what you don't need
Unnecessary things are a burden. We give a piece of our energy to every object in the house, and the house is our place of power. If you have not worn something for more than a year, it is better to give it to someone who really needs it.
Do not store children's toys and books that are not suitable for age, get rid of broken dishes and other rubbish that you do not even remember the existence of.
Delegate
Think about what activities take all your energy? If, for example, you spend a lot of energy on cleaning, washing dishes, cooking, try to distribute responsibilities among family members, delegate unloved activities to free up time for what fills you with energy and inspires you.
Lead a healthy lifestyle
A banal but important rule. Watch your diet, get rid of bad habits, get enough sleep, spend more time outdoors, pay attention to physical activity. Movement is life, but it is important to remember that sport should bring joy, and not take all the strength.
Build the right communication
Minimize virtual communication, especially those that are optional and useless. Only live communications with positive people can charge our energy "battery".
Do what you love
Do what you love gives you a lot of energy - you can stay up all night and still be alert. At such moments, we remain in harmony: we lose strength, but we are recharged by the result.
Of course, it is impossible to completely protect yourself from all stress factors. Sometimes we are forced to do things that do not bring joy, but our task is to learn how to strike a balance. Give 20% to routine or difficult tasks, and leave 80% to your favorite ones. Such a scheme will maintain the energy at the proper level, make it clean and bright.
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What is "bad" energy and how to get rid of it properly
Bad energy can appear in every person, and it is most often associated with his everyday troubles or problems in the business sphere.
Fired from work, quarreled with the second half, annoyed by the behavior of the child - at this moment, sometimes without knowing it, the person begins to project the release of a negative reaction to the close environment (and sometimes not close at all). For example, for no reason at all, you were rude in a store, answered rudely on the phone, refused to help without explaining the reason. It would seem that ordinary actions, which in everyday life should not cause a negative reaction, momentarily ignited the flame of discord.
Moreover, we ourselves can often radiate such energy, provoked by gloomy events in our lives, and at this moment only we know the true reason for such behavior. Try to remember that your opponent may not be ready to attack at all, and meeting with a negative flow can unsettle him. In addition, the bad energy concentrated inside you will, first of all, poison your own life, and therefore try to throw it out, replacing it with good memories, positive emotions, dreams.
The following steps will also be helpful:
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Do some breathing techniques - this will calm your mind and give you the opportunity to think clearly
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Think about what is good in your life, displacing the accumulated negativity with these thoughts
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Learn to empathize with yourself, because it is - the main tool in the fight against bad energy (both with your own and with the energy of others)
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succumb to bad energy.
Nevertheless, in our environment there will always be toxic people, communication with which brings neither pleasure nor benefit, but the fear of changing the usual rhythm of life makes us live and communicate for years with people whose energy not only “presses” psychologically, but and adversely affects a person’s self-esteem, his sense of self, causing him to experience stress. As a rule, these are people who:0003
They like to make trouble
They look at life pessimistically
They violate your personal boundaries the consequences of negative situations caused by resentment, quarrel, conflict, bad news.
It is important to keep track of these flows directed at you, and, in the event that your opponent is in the first category, reduce communication with him to nothing. Understanding and timely recognition makes it possible to protect yourself from negative influences and destructive emotions.
However, it is not always possible to cut toxic people out of life, and therefore it is worth learning how to properly repel attacks of negative energy - empathy is the most powerful weapon. If you find yourself in the place of the victim, try to immediately "grab" the flow of negativity and put a block on the spread of emotions precisely by empathizing with the offender. This schema will keep you from getting upset or overreacting to negativity by creating a protective field. In addition, the development of one’s own “I” is very important in this matter - having a healthy self-esteem, someone else’s unsolicited opinion / boorish attitude / irrational criticism will not cause you resentment or frustration.
