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Friday 10:30 AM WEB0677 ACA Trauma Meeting Friday 10 am UK
Zoom room info Meeting ID 418 125 471 Password 028589
The meeting is now at 09:30 GMT as a result of Group conscious 29 Nov 2021 Virtual Meeting Link
(English) ACAs Only (Closed) (online)
Meetings Local Time 09:30 am Europe/London
Last Update on 12-Dec-2022
Newly Updated
Friday 11:00 AM JPN012 ACoA Machida Serenity Group
6-8-1 Haramachida,Machida-City 194-0013 Tokyo
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(Japanese) Open to All (In Person)
Format: Book Study - Discussion - Fellowship Text - Speaker - Steps
Notes: Non Smoking -
Meetings Local Time 07:00 PM Asia/Tokyo
Last Update on 15-Apr-2021
Friday 11:30 AM WEB0834 クラウド
毎週金曜日19:30~21:00。21:00からはフェローをします。AC以外もご参加可能（オープンミーティング)。入退室自由。
第1週 ステップスタディ
第2週 BRBリーディング
第3週 伝統 (20:45~21:00までビジネス)
第4週 BRBリーディング
第5週 テーマ、ゲストスピーカー
☆ステップ1と4は長いため、他の週にもする可能性あり。
Zoomミーティング。音声のみ。はじめての方は事前に下記までご連絡ください。
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(Japanese) Open to All (online)
Format: 12 Step Study Group - Book Study - Discussion - Speaker - Steps
Meetings Local Time 07:30 pm Asia/Tokyo
Last Update on 3-May-2022
Friday 11:45 AM TEL046 Become Your Own Loving Parent
Meeting Time Is Eastern Time....712-432-3900; conference code 247125# Speaker for 15 minutes the last Sunday of the month
(English) Open to All (telephone)
Format: Discussion - Fellowship Text - Speaker
Meetings Local Time 05:45 am America/New_York
Last Update on 13-Dec-2021
Friday 11:45 AM TEL0515 Worthy of Unconditional Love & Respect
The meeting is 7 days a week, 365 days a year!
(English) Open to All (telephone)
Format: Book Study - Fellowship Text - Speaker
Focus: Beginners - Women Only
Meetings Local Time 05:45 am America/New_York
Last Update on 27-Aug-2022
Friday 12:00 PM SWE018
Sankt Paulsgatan 39 D,Stockholm
We don't know if this meeting may is active.
If we do not hear from anyone associated with it by February 5, 2023, this meeting will be removed from our meeting list. Please email us at [email protected]
Hartwickska Huset, Ingang Gaarden
(Swedish) Open to All (In Person)
Meetings Local Time 12:00 PM Europe/Stockholm
Last Update on 15-Sep-2015
Friday 12:00 PM WEB0209 Friday Lunch - Reparenting / Loving Parent
12pm (CET / CEST - Amsterdam) / 11am (GMT/BST - London)
Zoom Id: 858 7140 2091
Password 711 English speaking, Audio only. By Group Conscience, this is a raised voice (not raised hand) meeting. Please do not use your video.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Discussion - Fellowship Text
Focus: Beginners
Meetings Local Time 12:00 pm Europe/Amsterdam
Last Update on 12-Jun-2021
Friday 12:00 PM WEB0482 Womens Meeting 11a.m. London
Meeting ID: 817 0621 2663
Password: 385009
The meeting is locked at 11.20 GMT when we split into break out rooms for sharing.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Book Study - Discussion
Focus: Women Only
Meetings Local Time 11:00 am Europe/London
Last Update on 16-Aug-2021
Friday 12:00 PM TEL0425 meet12aca
This is a telephone and online meeting in German.
We meet at 12pm - noon Europe Central time..
Das ist ein Telefon- und online-Meeting in deutsch. Wir treffen uns um 12 Uhr mittags.
Die Einwahl/Dial-in number (DE): 030-52014350
Access code: 814478#
International dial-in numbers: https://fccdl.in/i/meet12aca
Online meeting ID: meet12aca
Join the online meeting: https://join.freeconferencecall.com/meet12aca
Das Meeting ist offen für alle Interessierten
email: [email protected] It s at noon 12o'clock CET (6am ET).We read the daily mediatation before sharing.
(Other German / deutsch) Open to All (telephone)
Format: Book Study - Discussion
Meetings Local Time 12:00 pm Europe/Berlin
Last Update on 15-Sep-2022
Friday 12:00 PM WEB0709 Limerick ACA .
Ireland
Our meeting runs for 90 minutes. Zoom number 2513535828 This Group doesn’t have “Spiritual Time keepers “
(English) ACAs Only (Closed) (online)
Format: Discussion
Focus: Beginners
Meetings Local Time 11:00 am Europe/London
Last Update on 23-Oct-2022
Friday 12:30 PM CZE001 Adult Children (ACA) Friday meeting in English
Na Porici 16,Prague . Czechia
Directions: If the main double doors on the street are closed, ring the ”AA” buzzer and wait for the door to open. Then walk straight to the courtyard and enter the main building. If those doors are closed, ring the ”AA” buzzer at this door in the courtyard. When you enter this main building in the courtyard go downstairs.
Our meeting room is the first door on the right in the basement. All 12 Step People Welcome
(English) Open to All (In Person)
Format: Discussion - Fellowship Text
Notes: Non Smoking -
Meetings Local Time 12:30 pm Europe/Prague
Last Update on 4-Mar-2022
Friday 12:30 PM SGP0002 ACA Singapore Friday Group
9 Kelantan Lane, #05-01,Singapore 208628 Singapore ~
Action for AIDS Hybrid with Zoom: Meeting ID: 836 1632 1847 Passcode: 196482
(English) Open to All (Hybrid - In Person and Online)
Format: Book Study
Meetings Local Time 07:30 pm Asia/Singapore
Last Update on 14-Oct-2022
Friday 01:00 PM TEL023 Friday Morning Rotating Topic
667-770-1523 Pin 871076#
Wk1-Step, Wk2 Solution,wk3 Basic 5 Needs, Wk4: Promises of the Month, Wk5: Speaker with 15 Minute Share
(English) Open to All (telephone)
Format: Book Study - Discussion - Fellowship Text - Steps
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 18-Nov-2021
Friday 01:00 PM WEB0701 WeAgnostics Coffee with the Stoics
This group takes full advantage of the ACA open literature policy.
According to this policy Literature policy, “It has always been accepted that ACA groups should remain open in choosing literature. That is, ACA meetings may draw from various sources.”
In this meeting, we read from historical writings by Stoic philosophers. We believe that Stoicism has many teachings that support recovery. We do not promote or recommend any book, or wording, over those in ACA literature; instead, we use these writings to support our secular perspective of building healthy experiences in adulthood after growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional families.
The Zoom information is the SAME for ALL WeAgnostics meetings. All information on how to access the meeting is below the meeting description.
WeAgnostics is open to everyone in ACA. If you are atheist, agnostic, a freethinker, humanist, uncomfortable with the religious language in ACA literature, questioning what Higher Power means to you, or simply looking for a new meeting, then this group might be for you.
We are not angry atheists or against a Higher Power. We believe in personal accountability and that ACA recovery can be successful with or without “god.” We acknowledge a Judeo/Christian Higher Power does not work for everyone. If you’d like a secular approach to the 12-steps, we invite you to join us.
WeAgnostics supports the following meetings. Note that ALL times are USA Eastern Time
Monday 7:00 AM
Tuesday 7:00 AM
Wednesday 7:00 AM (Starts May 4th 2022)
Wednesday 6:00 PM (Beginner’s Meeting - 1st & 3rd Wednesday of the month)
Thursday 6:00 PM
Friday 7:00 AM
Friday 7:30 PM (2nd & 4th Friday of the month)
Sunday 6:00 PM
There is only one requirement for ACA membership: the desire to recover from the effects of family dysfunction.
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(Other English / Close Captioning available upon request) Open to All (online)
Format: Book Study - Discussion
Focus: Secular/Agnostic/Atheist
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 30-Sep-2022
Friday 01:00 PM WEB0766 Closed BIPOC Rainbow
This is a CLOSED, CAMERA ON MEETING, only open to BIPOC (Black, Indigenous and POC) who are LGBTQIA+.
Zoom Meeting ID: 861 814 9594
Password: Hvtar0
Duration: 1h 15m
The meeting is locked around the 25 minute mark.
In keeping with Tradition 1, we have a closed meeting in order to create a safe space to share our experiences, made unique by our membership in this community.
BIPOC means people who are descendants of: Africa, Asia, Indigenous/First Nations, Latinx people of colour, people of colour from the middle east, or anyone of mixed racial or ethnic heritage including one or more of the above.
LGBTQIA+ means Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, Intersex, Asexual. We have decided to signify this with the word Rainbow.
We also welcome those who are questioning their gender and sexuality.
Format: Alternates between BRB readings and QTIBIPOC in recovery questions. This is a VIDEO ON meeting. This meeting lasts an 1 hour and 15 minutes.
(English) ACAs Only (Closed) (online)
Format: Book Study
Focus: BIPOC - LGBTQ+
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 13-Jul-2022
Friday 01:00 PM RI0014 ACA AM Meeting
201Pittman Street,Providence 02906 RHODE ISLAND Providence
Freedom Hall
(English) Open to All (In Person)
Format: Book Study - Discussion - Fellowship Text - Speaker - Steps
Focus: Beginners - Young Adult (Ages 18 to 26)
Notes: Non Smoking -
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 3-Feb-2022
Friday 01:00 PM WEB0575 ACA Inner Peace Room Groep
This is a Pop-up Skype meeting.
All ACA members who are members from this Skype channel can start a meeting on this channel twice a day at 13:00 P.M. and 19:00 P.M. EXCEPTION: there is no meeting on Tuesdays at 19:00 P.M.
To become a member of the Inner Peace Group meeting, newcomers need to contact (register) [email protected]
(Other Nederlands) ACAs Only (Closed) (online)
Format: Book Study - Fellowship Text
Meetings Local Time 01:00 pm Europe/Amsterdam
Last Update on 30-Oct-2022
Friday 01:00 PM WEB0931 ACAncún Mi verdadero ser
Online meeting held in Spanish/Español 7 days of the week. We will be reading Mondays: Big Red Book (BRB), Tuesdays: Yellow book 12 Steps, Wednesdays:The Laundry List Workbook, Thursdays: Sponsor, Sharing Partner and Servers Workshop, Fridays: Reparenting/Loving Parent Guidebook Workshop/ Connecting with inner child, Saturdays: 12 Steps workshop (47 weeks) Sundays: Strengthening My Recovery Book/Daily Meditations.
Virtual Meeting Link
(Spanish Español) ACAs Only (Closed) (online)
Format: 12 Step Study Group - Book Study - Discussion - Fellowship Text - Laundry Lists Workbook - Loving Parent Guidebook - Speaker - Steps - Traditions
Focus: Beginners
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/Cancun
Last Update on 13-Dec-2022
Newly Updated
Friday 01:00 PM WEB1002 RI Area Morning
Meeting ID: 494757467 Email [email protected] for the password (please allow for a delayed response) More RI Area Meeting info can be found at: https://www.riareaaca.org/meeting-info.html This meeting meets: Daily at 7am. Eastern time; We read Strengthening My Recovery and BRB -Fridays at 7am Eastern time - we read The Inner Loving Parent Guidebook Link to book: https://shop.
adultchildren.org/products/loving-parent-guidebook (Link to script: https://img1.wsimg.com/blobby/go/5468031c-55d9-4d4f-8729-53d5679f4d75/sample-literature-meeting-script-for-the-lovin.pdf ) Virtual Meeting Link
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Book Study - Discussion - Fellowship Text - Loving Parent Guidebook
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Region 5 Last Update on 20-Dec-2022
Newly Updated
Friday 01:00 PM WEB0793 Strengthening My Recovery FKA: RI Area Morning
Meeting ID: 818 8099 0843
Passcode: 123123 This meeting meets:
-Monday thru Thursday at 7am. Eastern time;
-Saturday at 8am. Eastern time;
-Sunday at 8:30am. Eastern time.
We read Strengthening My Recovery and BRB
-Fridays at 7am Eastern time - we read The Inner Loving Parent Guidebook Link to book
-Business Meetings are on the 15th of every month after the regular meeting.
Virtual Meeting Link
(English English, US) Open to All (online)
Format: Book Study - Fellowship Text
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/New_York
Region 5 Last Update on 16-Dec-2022
Newly Updated
Friday 01:30 PM WEB0985 Womens ACA 12 Steps Recovery, Stretching, Affirmations and Meditations
To help work through Stress and Trama Challenges Physically Emotionally and Spiritually that no longer serves. This Meeting is on our 1st line Calendar #1 For ID and Passcode please text/call Lisa in CA 818.445.9901 or email [email protected] thank you and Come join us.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Discussion
Focus: Women Only
Meetings Local Time 04:30 am America/Los_Angeles
Last Update on 10-Nov-2022
Friday 01:30 PM KY0027 Bright and Early
Strengthening My Recovery Literature.
2020: ONLINE Meeting Only. Email Group Contact for meeting link.
Monday meeting is hybrid, in person at Gratz Park. 2020: ONLINE Meeting Only. Email Group Contact for meeting link.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Discussion - Fellowship Text
Notes: Non Smoking - Wheelchair Access -
Meetings Local Time 07:30 am America/New_York
Region 5 Last Update on 15-Sep-2022
Friday 01:30 PM WEB0120 Strengthening my Recovery Meditation Meeting
ZOOM MEETING ID: 886 8839 0978 [NO PASSWORD NEEDED] |:| Meeting opens daily by 7:15 AM ET. The room closes at 7:35 AM ET |:| Dial in: +1 646 558 8656 US (New York) |:| Zoom Link: https://us04web.
zoom.us/j/88688390978 ******* Other Dial-in numbers: +1 301 715 8592 US (Germantown) +1 312 626 6799 US (Chicago) +1 253 215 8782 US (Tacoma) +1 346 248 7799 US (Houston) +1 669 900 9128 US (San Jose) | To Find your dial-in number: https://us02web.zoom.us/u/kcEsR2PF1V ******* [For more information, email us at [email protected]] Daily reader, 2min meditation, popcorn shares, closing reading and second round of shares.
(english) Open to All (online)
Format: Fellowship Text
Meetings Local Time 07:30 am America/New_York
Last Update on 14-Jan-2022
Friday 02:00 PM TN0102 Early Risers
This is a zoom meeting. Please contact the group at [email protected] or 901-258-2066 for the zoom room number. Thank you! Monday - Daily Reader, Strengthening My RecoveryWednesday - Step Study BRBFriday - Book Study BRB
Meeting Format for Chairperson https://docs.
google.com/document/d/1h5YjGN8pc1aOJoHBlfQOkZMsFNhB0eE4
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: 12 Step Study Group - Book Study
Notes: Non Smoking -
Meetings Local Time 07:00 am America/Chicago
Last Update on 30-Nov-2022
Friday 02:00 PM TEL0395 ACAs, Food Addiction, and Emotions
605-313-4822, 589425# After a brief reading about relating to our emotions and our relationship with food, we journal in silence about our current emotions for 10 minutes. We share afterward. Remain muted until journal silence ends around 8:25. *6 to mute and unmute. We meet 7 days a week.
(English) Open to All (telephone)
Format: Book Study - Discussion - Workshop
Meetings Local Time 08:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 6-Feb-2022
Friday 02:30 PM WEB0486 Malvern Friday ACAD meeting
ZOOM Meeting ID 2501195700.
Please join, no password required, the host will let you in.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Book Study - Fellowship Text - Steps
Meetings Local Time 01:30 pm Europe/London
Last Update on 22-Feb-2022
Friday 02:30 PM WEB0860 ACA Vishwas Hindi Group
Hindi Language meeting
Meeting ID: 862 7132 2097
Passcode: 123456
(Hindi Hindi preferred. English may be used.) Open to All (online)
Format: Discussion
Meetings Local Time 07:00 pm Asia/Kolkata
Last Update on 7-Jun-2022
Friday 02:30 PM WEB0301 Easy Morning Meditation
Zoom meeting ID #:84649267470
Passcode 202020
NOTE: Meeting closes at capacity of 25 ppl.
plus Trusted Servants. We ask the participants not log in before 8:15am EST.
We read from the Strengthening My Recovery Daily Reader, followed by the cited excerpt from the Big Red Book. This meeting has a capacity of 25 members.
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Fellowship Text
Meetings Local Time 08:30 am America/New_York
Last Update on 30-Sep-2022
Friday 03:00 PM RUS004
Saint-Petersburg, Vasilievsky ostrov, 13 line h.2 fl.46.,Saint-Petersburg 190000
We don't know if this meeting may is active. If we do not hear from anyone associated with it by March 26, 2023, this meeting will be removed from our meeting list. Please email us at [email protected]
Saint-Petersburg, Vasilievsky ostrov, 13 line h.
2 Non Smoking
(Russian) ACAs Only (Closed) (In Person)
Format: Discussion
Meetings Local Time 05:00 PM Europe/Moscow
Last Update on 11-Aug-2015
Friday 03:00 PM WEB0633 In The Solution
Zoom: 939 616 5830
P: sunlight
ACA Literature Reading
(English) Open to All (online)
Format: Discussion
Meetings Local Time 09:00 am America/New_York
Last Update on 13-Nov-2021
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Laundry List - Adult Children of Alcoholics & Dysfunctional Families
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic- We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
- We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
- We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
- We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
- We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
- We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
- We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
- We became addicted to excitement.
- We confuse love and pity and tend to “love” people we can “pity” and “rescue.”
- We have “stuffed” our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
- We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
- We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
- Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
- Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
Tony A., 1978
Note: The Laundry List serves as the basis for The Problem statement.
To download a printable PDF of The Laundry List click here.
To access The Laundry List in different languages click here.
The Flip Side of The Laundry List-
- We move out of isolation and are not unrealistically afraid of other people, even authority figures.
- We do not depend on others to tell us who we are.
- We are not automatically frightened by angry people and no longer regard personal criticism as a threat.
- We do not have a compulsive need to recreate abandonment.
- We stop living life from the standpoint of victims and are not attracted by this trait in our important relationships.
- We do not use enabling as a way to avoid looking at our own shortcomings.
- We do not feel guilty when we stand up for ourselves.
- We avoid emotional intoxication and choose workable relationships instead of constant upset.
- We are able to distinguish love from pity, and do not think “rescuing” people we “pity” is an act of love.
- We come out of denial about our traumatic childhoods and regain the ability to feel and express our emotions.
- We stop judging and condemning ourselves and discover a sense of self-worth.
- We grow in independence and are no longer terrified of abandonment. We have interdependent relationships with healthy people, not dependent relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable.
- The characteristics of alcoholism and para-alcoholism we have internalized are identified, acknowledged, and removed.
- We are actors, not reactors.
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The Other Laundry List
- To cover our fear of people and our dread of isolation we tragically become the very authority figures who frighten others and cause them to withdraw.
- To avoid becoming enmeshed and entangled with other people and losing ourselves in the process, we become rigidly self-sufficient. We disdain the approval of others.
- We frighten people with our anger and threat of belittling criticism.
- We dominate others and abandon them before they can abandon us or we avoid relationships with dependent people altogether. To avoid being hurt, we isolate and dissociate and thereby abandon ourselves.
- We live life from the standpoint of a victimizer, and are attracted to people we can manipulate and control in our important relationships.
- We are irresponsible and self-centered. Our inflated sense of self-worth and self-importance prevents us from seeing our deficiencies and shortcomings.
- We make others feel guilty when they attempt to assert themselves.
- We inhibit our fear by staying deadened and numb.
- We hate people who “play” the victim and beg to be rescued.
- We deny that we’ve been hurt and are suppressing our emotions by the dramatic expression of “pseudo” feelings.
- To protect ourselves from self punishment for failing to “save” the family we project our self-hate onto others and punish them instead.
- We “manage” the massive amount of deprivation we feel, coming from abandonment within the home, by quickly letting go of relationships that threaten our “independence” (not too close).
- We refuse to admit we’ve been affected by family dysfunction or that there was dysfunction in the home or that we have internalized any of the family’s destructive attitudes and behaviors.
- We act as if we are nothing like the dependent people who raised us.
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The Flip Side of The Other Laundry List
- We face and resolve our fear of people and our dread of isolation and stop intimidating others with our power and position.
- We realize the sanctuary we have built to protect the frightened and injured child within has become a prison and we become willing to risk moving out of isolation.
- With our renewed sense of self-worth and self-esteem we realize it is no longer necessary to protect ourselves by intimidating others with contempt, ridicule and anger.
- We accept and comfort the isolated and hurt inner child we have abandoned and disavowed and thereby end the need to act out our fears of enmeshment and abandonment with other people.
- Because we are whole and complete we no longer try to control others through manipulation and force and bind them to us with fear in order to avoid feeling isolated and alone.
- Through our in-depth inventory we discover our true identity as capable, worthwhile people. By asking to have our shortcomings removed we are freed from the burden of inferiority and grandiosity.
- We support and encourage others in their efforts to be assertive.
- We uncover, acknowledge and express our childhood fears and withdraw from emotional intoxication.
- We have compassion for anyone who is trapped in the “drama triangle” and is desperately searching for a way out of insanity.
- We accept we were traumatized in childhood and lost the ability to feel. Using the 12 Steps as a program of recovery we regain the ability to feel and remember and become whole human beings who are happy, joyous and free.
- In accepting we were powerless as children to “save” our family we are able to release our self-hate and to stop punishing ourselves and others for not being enough.
- By accepting and reuniting with the inner child we are no longer threatened by intimacy, by the fear of being engulfed or made invisible.
- By acknowledging the reality of family dysfunction we no longer have to act as if nothing were wrong or keep denying that we are still unconsciously reacting to childhood harm and injury.
- We stop denying and do something about our post-traumatic dependency on substances, people, places and things to distort and avoid reality.
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