Things wanted in a relationship

15 things people want from relationships

People want to be loved and valued. They want to feel that they matter.

People also want their relationship to be a source of support, protection, and understanding.

But what do people actually look for in relationships?

In this article, we’ll explore the 15 most common things people want from relationships.

1) A partner to go through life with

Do you ever find yourself experiencing something amazing, like gazing at the ceiling of the Sistine chapel or reaching to the top of the mountain, wishing there was someone next to you to share that experience with?


We are social creatures. We are made to be together.

One of the things people want from relationships is a partner to go through life with.

Someone to share experiences with, both good and bad. Someone to laugh and cry with. A person who will be there for them through thick and thin, who will support them no matter what.

People who want to be in a relationship are looking for someone to share their life with, someone to grow old and gray with.

A best friend, a lover, and a life companion all in one.

2) Love, romance, and sex

Another thing that people look for in a relationship is love, intimacy, romance, and sex.

Love is one of the most important things that people want from relationships.

It is what we are all looking for in our lives.

Love is a connection, a bond. It’s the feeling you get when you see your partner, or your children come home after a long day of work.

Love is the feeling you get when you do something nice for someone else, or they do something nice for you. Love is the feeling of caring deeply about another person and wanting to be there for them through thick and thin.

People want that deep love to be shared with their significant other in a committed relationship.

Romance can be described as an expression of love through words or actions. It is the excitement you feel as your partner surprises you with a bouquet of flowers or a weekend getaway.

Love and romance mean that you and your partner can’t keep your hands off each other. It is the butterflies in the stomach that only they can give you. You feel giddy and happy just because they are around.

Sex is a physiological need. Technically, you don’t have to be in a relationship to have sex but the intimacy and love found in a relationship can make sex an even more enjoyable experience.

3) Emotional intimacy

Emotional intimacy is another thing people look for in a relationship.

It’s all about sharing your innermost thoughts and feelings with each other and being vulnerable enough to share your weaknesses and fears.

It is about having the freedom to be yourself, knowing that the other person will love you no matter what.

Emotional intimacy is about being able to let your guard down, knowing you won’t be judged.

There are no secrets between you two. It is about knowing someone so well that you can finish their sentences. It is a deep connection of your souls.

It’s about being able to share your emotions with each other and feeling safe enough to do that.

In my own experience, emotional intimacy is about trusting one another. It’s a feeling of complete acceptance, unconditional love, and security in a relationship.

However, it’s not easy to achieve emotional intimacy if you don’t understand the dynamics of your relationship.

This is something I realized after speaking to a professional relationship coach at Relationship Hero.

I was facing some issues in my relationship so I decided to ask for help. But surprisingly, instead of just helping me find ways to overcome my problems, the coach I spoke to explained how romantic relationships work and why emotional intimacy matters so much. 

That’s why I’m sure that emotional intimacy is something everyone desires in a relationship.

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4) To have a family

You see, one of the oldest and most common reasons for someone to want to be in a relationship is to start a family.

Most people want to wake up every morning next to the person they love and spend the rest of their lives with them.

They want to grow old together, and share the joys of life with each other. They want someone they can trust, someone who will be there for them through thick and thin, someone who will love them unconditionally no matter what happens.

They want to raise children together who will grow up to be kind, compassionate, and loving adults.

It’s about being able to share your life with someone who will always be there for you, whether it’s a hard day at work or a bad day with your children.

Turns out that for many people, having a family is what gives their lives purpose. It means having the love of another person and the chance to create something beautiful together.

It is about creating memories to last a lifetime. It is knowing that you will always have someone who loves you and wants to be by your side.

It’s about growing together, learning new things, and being better as a couple. The most important thing is that both people are willing to do the work necessary to make their relationship successful.

5) Sharing life goals and dreams

People want to be in a relationship with someone so that they can share their life goals and dreams with them.

One of the most important things that a couple can do is to set goals together, whether it’s buying a house, traveling the world, or starting a family.

It’s about having someone there to support you in your goals and being able to support them in theirs. It’s about knowing that you will always have someone by your side, who wants the same things in life as you do.

It’s about creating a life with someone who understands your hopes and dreams, and is willing to work hard to make them come true.

It’s about having someone there with you when the going gets tough.

People want someone to share their experiences with. They want to know that there is someone in their life who will be there for them no matter what happens.

6) Affection

What many people look for in a relationship is really quite simply: affection.

They want to be able to give and receive affection freely. They want to be able to feel that they are loved and cared for.

They want someone who will treat them with respect and dignity. They want someone who will take the time to show them how important they are in their life.

They want someone who will give them a hug when they need it, or even just a quick kiss on the cheek before work in the morning.

It’s about having someone there for you when you need a shoulder to cry on, or just a warm embrace when you are feeling lonely and down.

It’s about having an intimate relationship with someone who wants nothing more than to make you happy.

7) Respect

In order to have a good, well functioning, and long-lasting relationship, there needs to be mutual respect.

There is no room for disrespect in a relationship.

A healthy relationship is about treating each other as equals.

It’s about having a partner who respects your opinions and decisions, even if they don’t necessarily agree with them.

What people want in a relationship is to be able to communicate with each other openly and honestly without fear of judgment or retribution.

It’s about not having to tiptoe around your partner because you are afraid of what they might say or do when they are angry.

It’s about having someone who loves and respects you for who you are.

8) Kind, constant, and honest communication

Kindness is a quality that many people look for in a relationship.

  • They want to be with someone who is nice and kind to them.
  • They want someone who will treat them with respect and dignity, even when things are difficult.
  • They want someone who will take the time to listen, and be understanding when they are upset or stressed.
  • They want a partner who can communicate openly and honestly, even if it means being vulnerable.

They don’t want someone who is constantly angry or negative about everything that happens in their life, no matter how big or small it might be.

Kind, constant, and open communication is key to a successful relationship.

9) Dedication

People want to be with someone who is dedicated and loyal to them. They want to know that their partner will always be there for them and that they can count on them for anything.

  • They want someone who will put in the effort to make their relationship work, even when things are difficult or stressful.
  • They want someone who will never cheat on them or lie about their feelings or actions.
  • They want someone who wants nothing more than to be with them, no matter how bad things might get in the future because they truly love and care about them.

People want to be with someone who will not take them for granted.

10) Honesty

Honesty is a quality that many people look for in a relationship.

They want to be with someone who is honest and open about their feelings and actions.

Nobody wants to be with a liar or a cheat.

People want to be able to trust and rely on their partner, otherwise what’s the point of being in a relationship with them?

11) Compromise

Compromise isn’t always easy, especially when someone has been alone for long. But it’s extremely important for a successful relationship.

People want to be with someone who is willing to discuss things and find the common ground.

  • Compromise means not only thinking and doing what you want. It’s about taking your partner’s opinions and feelings into consideration.
  • Compromise is important because it shows that both people in the relationship are willing to work together in order to make it work. It shows that they are willing to put the needs of the other person above their own, even when it might be hard.

12) Excitement

What some people look for in a relationship is excitement.

They want a partner who can bring fun and excitement into their lives. Someone who is willing to try new things with them and make the most of every moment they have together.

Some people just want to feel alive again and that’s what they look for in a relationship.

They don’t necessarily want to be with someone who is going to be their soulmate or best friend, but instead someone who can help them live in the moment and enjoy every second of life with them.

They want someone to go on adventures with.

13) Encouragement

Some people are looking for a partner who will encourage them in their plans and endeavors.

Maybe they have a hard time believing in themselves or starting a new project and they need someone to believe in them and give them that push that they need.

No wonder they want to be with someone who is supportive and positive about their future. Someone who believes in them and their dreams.

A person who can help them achieve the things they want to achieve.

A partner they can tell everything to, because they know that person will listen and help them find a solution to their problem.

Someone who can motivate and inspire them to be a better person overall.

You see, a good relationship is about being with someone who will help you grow as a person and not hinder your progress in life.

14) Compassion, acceptance, forgiveness

People want to be with someone who will accept them for who they are without trying to change them.

Simply put, they want someone who will hold their hand through any troubles that may come up, no matter no hard.

People want to be in a relationship with someone who is compassionate, who understands and accept that they are human and make mistakes. Someone who is forgiving and doesn’t hold a grudge.

15) Not to be lonely anymore

And finally, someone people simply want to be in a relationship to escape loneliness.

You see, it’s only natural for people to want to be part of a couple or a group. We are social creatures.

It’s more difficult for some people than others to be alone. Some do well alone, others feel lonely.

It’s only natural that they want a companion. They want someone to be there for them. They want to wake up next to someone, to have breakfast with them. They want someone to talk to. Someone to share their lives with.


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10 Things Your Relationship Needs to Thrive

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A relationship cannot survive on its own. It needs the care and nurturing of two adults, giving to each other in a way that creates a mutually beneficial connection. To foster a deep and loving relationship, there needs to be:

1. Kind, constant, and honest communication. Without talking, your relationship will not survive. The more you communicate, the closer you will be.

2. The willingness to work through difficulties and disagreements. Throwing in the towel, even if you don’t walk out the door, is not the path to happiness. You must face the discomfort that comes with differing opinions and ideas.

3. A sense of humor, some fun, and a bit of distraction from the rigors of daily life. Just as we need to breathe to survive, your love needs a breath of fresh air to flourish. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture. You can’t spend all your free time “working” on your relationship—don’t make it a hobby. Discuss what you like to do, where you’d like to go, and how you both like to have fun. Then go do it.

4. Sharing life lessons with the one you love. When you discover something about life, or you make a self-correcting move that is healthy for your relationship, let your partner know. You’ll be surprised by the positive response.

5. Emotional support, validation, and compliments. If you don’t feel that your partner likes and respects you, there will not be a strong connection. You have to lift each other up and let each other know the depth of your caring.

6. Love, intimacy, romance, and sex. These are the cornerstones of a loving relationship. Being great roommates just won’t cut it. There has to be the desire to be together as a couple. You may think the spark has gone, but there are too many ways to rekindle it. All you have to do is try.

7. Sharing goals and dreams that resonate with both of you. We are happier when we are working toward a goal than when we have achieved one. Make sure you always have something to look forward to and that you are pursuing it as a couple.

8. Compassion, acceptance, and forgiveness. These will show you the way through a difficult time. If you are together for a while, there will be losses, challenges, and some things that you just can’t fix. Weathering the storms together is a big part of what relationships are all about.

9. A mutual desire to step outside the box. The tried-and-true is good, but the never-attempted-before may be better. Couples who share new experiences together develop a stronger bond.

10. Being able to admit mistakes and to talk about them. We all screw up. Learning to understand and let go of mistakes that you or your partner make will turn your life around and give you more time for joy.

Just as you need to breathe to survive, your love needs a breath of fresh air to flourish. Giving your relationship what it needs to thrive is a truly loving gesture.

25 things a couple should do together at least once in their lives

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Stability is great. But in a relationship, habits can arise that are not far from routine and boredom. Here is a list of things that partners need to do together at least once in their lives to avoid them.

Psychologists have long been interested in the secrets of happy, long-lasting couples. Serious research has shown that four common features can be found in such relationships: 1) it is easy and pleasant for partners to communicate with each other; 2) they like the way they look together, that is, the couple has an attractive image; 3) they have great sex; 4) they make general plans for the future. Try to sort out for yourself a list of things that partners can benefit from doing together ... and feel free to add to it! nine0003

1. Look into each other's eyes for a long, long time. If it works out, then the whole evening is possible! Do not forget that a huge part of communication between people takes place non-verbally.

2. Dress up in strange clothes, such as Halloween costumes, and walk down the street as if nothing had happened. Unexpectedly, but this is very close.

3. Cook food together. And, of course, eat it afterwards. It's a great idea to accurately reproduce the recipe of the most favorite dish from childhood: the better you know each other's tastes, the better you feel for each other. nine0003

4. Long, passionate kiss in a crowded place. By the way, psychologists found that our body begins to produce the "happiness hormone" serotonin when we hug for at least 20 seconds. And if you want to increase the degree of emotions, first try loudly and temperamentally to find out the relationship - like in Italian films.

5. Send intimate photos and sms to each other. You want to say you already? OK, then everything is fine. nine0003

6. Travel or fly to places you have never been before. You can close your eyes and poke your finger at the globe; you can buy a ticket at the station for the first nearest train; you can just go "for reconnaissance" in the neighborhood. New experiences can give shared emotions and memories for life.

7. Write a love letter. More precisely, two: he is for you - and vice versa. Write as best as you can, most importantly - sincerely. If only just to make sure that you know how to express your feelings. By the way, leaving each other funny, cute notes on the fridge or in your coat pocket every day works great too. nine0003

8. Giving gifts to each other for no reason . Once again: for no reason. Just come up with a nice surprise.

9. Pillow fight. Not only because it's great, like in childhood. But also because emotions (any, for example, aggression) are very useful to express in a safe way.

10. Kissing underwater. If everything goes well, you can continue.

11. Rise in a hot air balloon. Option: jump together with a parachute (and an instructor). Or admire the starry sky from the roof of an ordinary city house. In general, something that allows you to “rise above the fuss” and experience strong feelings without extreme risk is welcomed. nine0003

12. Make a snowman. Conscientiously, full size, with a carrot nose. Psychologists say that “it provides an opportunity to practice collaborative skills and creative thinking,” as well as just laugh and have fun.

13. Perform a striptease in turn. By the way, here you are also allowed to laugh and even laugh out loud.

14. Try all the Kama Sutra poses. Well, maybe not every single one - but you will definitely expand your horizons and decide on your preferences. nine0003

15. Read erotic prose aloud to each other. With expression. After that, you can proceed to water procedures.

16. Take a bubble bath together. If it is small at home, you can find another option.

17. Spend the night in a hotel without leaving your own city. Why? First, it is a luxurious romantic gesture. Secondly, you can feel like “perfect strangers” again. And thirdly - take the notorious bubble bath! nine0003

18. Get a massage or couple yoga together. Both perfectly synchronize sensations and improve body contact.

19. Learn to dance the tango (if you don't already dance, which is a pity).

20. Write bucketlist . Let your imagination run wild and let it work on making a list of future goals, plans and common tasks.

21. Go to a luxury car dealership and choose the most luxurious car. nine0010 Discuss its strengths and weaknesses in detail; good to do a test drive. You can also buy it ... well, or a little later.

22. Stay in bed all day. Who said "there is nothing more to do"? Lazy day is a great compatibility training. Eat, sleep, watch TV shows and kiss. By the way, finding a series that captures both is a huge plus for any couple.

23. Swim at night in the sea without swimming trunks and swimwear. The contact of warm water with every cell of the skin gives a fantastic effect. nine0003

24. Organize a blind wine tasting. They don't argue about tastes, but it's good when they are given attention in a couple. By the way, psychologists have calculated: partners who like to meet from time to time for a glass of wine live together longer and feel happier.

25. Have a great photo session with a professional photographer. First of all, it's beautiful... Besides, photos are a memory that will stay with you for a lifetime.

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