Test to see if you really love someone

You are obsessed

It's hard not to think about who you love.

The quality of your work or attention to other people (family and friends) may suffer.

If you really love the person, the continuous "home movies" are usually more interesting than the day-to-day tasks you have to do - usually more about how to make your loved one's life more interesting and better at something.

You realize your number one goal is to make that person happier, and that takes your attention away from everything unrelated to it.

You are blind to everything that is ugly

It's true that when you love someone, you focus on the positive - so much so that it becomes difficult or even impossible to see and understand any of his negative qualities.

You are able to justify the rude behavior of your significant other, even when he (she) is really wrong.

Your attention will be focused on the bouquet of roses he bought for you, or on her smile, which every time you see her, something starts to happen in your stomach.

Chemistry again. That's why we say, "Love is blind."

In the end, when the flames of passion die down, it is easier to see character flaws for what they are and make a rational decision about whether to end the relationship or not.

Your emotional state is unstable

This has a lot to do with the chemicals in the brain, but that's not all.

Yes, you may be playing a love-dislike game with flower petals, casual glances, and mixed body language.

You are mostly attuned to your loved one's emotional state and looking for ways to lighten their burden and compensate for the day's negativity.

If you want to know if you are in love, pay attention to the fact that the ups and downs of your emotional state largely depend on the behavior of the loved one towards you.

Also, one day you may catch yourself thinking "I think I love you" only to ask yourself if it's true the next day.

Confusion and uncertainty are not abnormal, especially if you are not sure what love really is.

You want to involve him (her) in everything that happens

Whenever something wonderful or terrible happens to you, the first thing you want to do is let your loved one know about it.

This is one of the signs to understand that you really love this person. You want to hear his/her voice before everyone else.

Not only do you want to involve this person in all the ups and downs of your life, but you also want to see evidence that those ups and downs matter to the person you are in love with.

You want to celebrate all the good things together, and understand that this person will be there for you and support you when something goes wrong.

You want to be for your beloved (oh) everything that you expect from him (her).

Do you like to give gifts

Whenever the opportunity arises, you want to give a gift to your loved one. You put extra effort into these gifts because each one is an expression of your love and romantic interest. Each gift is an extension of you.

Sometimes the gift you give can be your time and all your attention; in other cases, it may be a trinket that you think your lover will like. However, each gift carries a hope for the beginning of something common.

You put more effort into your appearance

When you're in love, you tend to put in more effort to look good (and smell good).

You want to be more noticed. It may also be due to the fact that your loved one has already shown you special attention, which made you feel more attractive.

In any case, falling in love has a rejuvenating effect, and you'll likely want your wardrobe and personal hygiene to reflect this.

If your lover notices this and shows some appreciation, then you can understand that your efforts have paid off many times over.

Now you like what you used to avoid

To understand whether you love or not, remember how it was before you fell in love, no one could make you dance (or get into a boat, or try oysters, etc.).

But if your loved one is into something you've avoided before, suddenly it sounds like it's worth a try, especially if it brings a smile to his/her face.

Before you know it, "I'm not dancing" gives way to "What should we try next?"

You see the future together

If you can imagine a future with this person - and you often do - then it becomes clear that you love this person. Do you imagine that the two of you start a family or just grow old together, you like the idea that you will be in each other's company for a long time.

You may have always liked apartment life, but you started looking at private houses.

Or you will start to pay more attention to the little children living and playing nearby, because now it really seems possible that you can have your own.

You crave connection

If you are in love with this person, physical intimacy is certainly attractive, but this is not enough.

To know if you are in love, you will feel that you will also need an emotional connection that will make being in the company of this person easy and enjoyable, even if physical intimacy is not an option.

This connection brings with it empathy for your loved one.

You are more in tune with that person's mood and emotions, so you pick up on his or her anxiety, anger, or agitation.

And you are looking for ways to meet the emotional needs of a loved one.

You make changes

Just as you can develop an interest in things you previously avoided, you can make other changes to better accommodate your loved one's daily routine, habits, likes and dislikes.

You can take a different route to work to buy coffee for yourself and him/her, or you can start wearing his/her favorite color.

If you become more of a lark (or night owl) to synchronize your sleep schedule with the other person's, it also shows that you love him/her.

When you are in love, you are more than happy to make sacrifices to please your loved one.

As soon as the passion cools down a bit, you can return to old, abandoned habits, but now it seems to you that you would do a lot more in order to please your loved one.

Do you feel possessive

When you are in love, you experience a fit of jealousy every time your loved one smiles his destructive smile at anyone other than you.

If he (she) smiles back, it is quite possible that you will prepare for battle :). Only one person can win the heart of your lover, and you will do your best to become that person.

You can really go too far by saying out loud, “Don't smile at her; she might think the wrong thing!” or “Something going on between you and this guy? I don't like the way he looks at you. "

It's hard not to feel a little possessive when you realize you love and already see you both as a separate couple.

You see him/her everywhere you go

If thousands of things throughout the day remind you of this person, most likely you are in love.

It's one thing to be distracted by someone who is right in front of you; It's another thing to see that person being reflected in all directions, even when he or she is out of sight.

To understand what you love, you begin to realize that you want to see your loved one on every corner. And so you do.

It's hard not to include your loved one's name (or something about him or her) in every conversation.

When you keep these thoughts to yourself, they linger for a while. And when you finally get back to something, another reminder comes along that pleasantly takes you downstream.

You can say whatever you want

Your loved one can talk about the price of grenades or the weather in Greenland, and you hang on his every word.

Minutes pass too quickly when you are together and too slowly when you are apart. If you are in love, you can't wait to talk to that person again, and it's hard to imagine that someday you won't look forward to it.

Your lover is definitely your favorite conversationalist, even if most of what you say to each other has subtext.

You can even say "I'm falling in love with you" because you feel safe enough to express the depth of your emotions.

Your passion goes from spark to smolder

Perhaps your romance began as a spark that surprised you with its sudden brightness, warmth and energy, but now the spark has given way to a deep and constant smoldering.

You still feel warm and energetic and it doesn't take long to start a fire, but you realize that you're comfortable just spending time with this person.

You tempered your passion with a sincere interest in the welfare and happiness of your loved one. Maybe your slow, steady fire isn't as bright as it started out, but being around him or her becomes more enjoyable.

Absence makes your heart fall in love even more

When your loved one is not around, you realize that you miss him. You do not wither, but you sharply feel the absence.

You feel a strong inclination to reread everything that this person has written to you (postcard, note, message), or you can always keep a small gift or souvenir of this person at hand - perhaps in your pocket, or on your desktop.

You want something to remind you of your loved one, even if it hurts. You know you love because you find your imagination wandering through the moments you shared and the conversations you had, even the brief ones.

Are you ready to be vulnerable

When you love, you are ready to open up to your partner. You share your inner feelings - your fears, dreams, insecurities, and even past experiences that aren't entirely flattering.

You feel safe with your lover, so safe that you can be vulnerable knowing that he or she will treat your revelations with tender love and understanding.

And you want to offer the same security to your lover(s). You understand that you want to be the person with whom your loved one can freely take off a heavy burden.

Differences are not considered the end of a relationship

New relationships are often fraught with quarrels and misunderstandings between lovers. It's okay to worry about it if you're not sure about the relationship.

Does the quarrel mean that he wants to leave? Is she cold towards me because she's attracted to someone else? These are the questions you can ask yourself when the relationship and your feelings are not entirely solid.

But when you're both in love, you feel secure enough in your relationship to overcome these rifts and problems. You have the motivation to work on them because you can't imagine losing the good things you have with each other.

You find it difficult to concentrate

Feelings of love are so strong that they consume you. It seems almost titanic to spend a working day - another sign that you love this person.

How can you concentrate on your work if you know that at the end of the day you will be in his arms again? How can you finish this project if you keep seeing her face on your phone screensaver?

Constantly focusing on something other than your loved one feels like the last day of school before summer break. You will eventually come down from the clouds you are in and regain your peace of mind, but right now your lover is a constant distraction.

You want to introduce your loved one to your family

What?! Are you taking her to meet mom and dad? Did you invite your sister and her husband to dinner to introduce him?

If your family finds out about this wonderful new person in your life, it may be a sign that this is true love. In the past, you've been burned when you bring someone home to meet your parents, but the next week your relationship deteriorated.

You don't want to risk having your family fully involved in your relationship if you can't understand and aren't sure you love him/her. But if you and your loved one are eating a casserole with mom and dad, then love is in the air.

You look into each other's eyes

Looking into each other's eyes does not cause discomfort - it is natural and inevitable. If you want to understand if you love, you will feel that you are starting to sincerely look into his (her) eyes, expressing longing and care.

It's not because you just like looking at your loved one. According to research, maintaining eye contact releases the feel-good hormone oxytocin, which enhances calmness and feelings of connection.

In addition, a deep look into each other's eyes shows a willingness to be recognized, and your desire to know the other person.

You are not tempted or anxious

You don't think about what it would be like to meet that handsome guy you run into all the time at work. You appreciate his appearance, but you are not even tempted to flirt or even think about flirting.

Or you don't feel that familiar uneasiness when a pretty girl's attention to you starts to fade and you don't know what to do next to fix it. In fact, you don't care about such things.

When you love, your feelings for your loved one are so strong that you don't want to jeopardize your connection by being distracted by other possible connections.

You cannot quarrel with him/her

You realize that because you are two different people, you will not always see things in the same way. Sometimes you don't always agree with each other. And these disagreements do not necessarily mean the end of the relationship.

Regardless... you hate it when you fight over anything, whatever it is. You want to be on the same wavelength as often as possible, so it hurts when you're not.

Because of this strong desire for harmony between you, you are more likely to submit to your loved one, something that you would not do with other people. And if submission is just a small sacrifice, you are ready to make it.

Are you ready to make a compromise that you would not make for anyone else

Small sacrifices are one thing, but when you and someone you love disagree on something, you start to wonder if your loved one is right after all.

And in some cases, you may find yourself willing to make compromises that you would not make with anyone else, all in order to make the path between you smooth again.

When you fall in love with someone, you don't think ahead about the cost of compromising your beliefs. More than anything, you want to be with him/her.

You talk about him/her all the time

Because everything reminds you of who you fell in love with, you talk about that person all the time. Be prepared for someone to ask why.

Of course, you understand that not everyone will want to talk about this person who dominates your thoughts. Regardless, sometimes you just can't help but mention something amazing he/she said or something you noticed about him/her.

People who love you will notice that you keep talking about someone all the time, especially if they think you two make a great couple.

You do your best to get along with his/her friends and family

You can't wait to meet his/her friends and then his/her family, and the more you fall in love, the more you want to get along with the people in his/her inner circle.

If the person you love loves spending time with these friends and family members, you'll want to love their company too. Maybe not all of them will love you, but at least some of them will see in you what you hope this person sees in you.

It's worth it to be your best.

You have been experiencing unusual stress lately and it shows

You are in a panic right now. You wonder if you have ever felt such emotional instability. Everything turns you on. You heard someone else's phone ring and felt a familiar jolt through your body.

Maybe you're just waiting for your phone to ring or for this person to answer your message. You just don't understand what's happened to you lately. Perhaps other people have also noticed this and will tell you something about it.

When you love, you experience not only joy, but also stress. It is much easier to relax when you understand why feel so tense or restless. Do something good for yourself.

You overlook gross things

Double food, burping loudly, using a handkerchief to blow your nose - all of this is not against the law, but it can definitely piss you off. And when you first noticed this person's gross habit, it made you look at the other side of him. Because it's gross!

Then, the more you got to know this person, the less this habit bothered you.

Now, though you might not call it a cute fad, you don't automatically say no and reach for hand sanitizer. You can relax and just have a good time with him.

Ignoring the habits that made you leave the room is a sure sign that you are beginning to love this person.

You have a higher pain tolerance

According to an interesting study, falling in love gives a higher tolerance for pain. It does this by activating reward processing centers, which are also associated with pain management.

In the study, subjects felt less pain when they were able to look at pictures of people they were in love with.

Imagine that you are now experiencing something painful. If the person you want to be around comes to mind, it's most likely because you can resist anything when they're around.

Love is the most powerful painkiller, which is ironic as it can also cause the worst pain imaginable.

Do you like his/her quirks (even if no one else likes it)

Just the thought of his/her quirks makes me smile. Of course, this person is attractive, but so are many others. You are more attracted to what distinguishes him (her) from others, even if no one appreciates these things.

When you are together, you realize that you are looking for evidence of these quirks. And when you find them, you begin to feel warmth and energy that surprise you.

If this person you love treats you differently, you are likely to look for these quirks in the next person you like. And if you don't find them, you will feel like you missed your chance to be happy.

You feel nauseous and sweaty

Write it off as anxiety, but feeling physically sick and sweating more when you fall in love with someone is natural. It will stop when you feel more comfortable around him (her).

In the meantime, you probably feel sick at the prospect of being around him/her, at least until you know if he/she feels the same way. The question of "likes or dislikes" is enough to rage from the inside.

And until you know for sure if he/she loves you back, it doesn't hurt to keep deodorant and wet wipes handy.

You will do everything to make him/her smile

To understand if you love, watch your behavior - you are trying to find ways to cheer him (her) up and make him feel cared for. You do random thoughtful things. You learn his love language and speak it every day. You can send him/her a romantic message or a compliment.

If you realize that your gestures like this have made a favorable impression on him/her, you will do your best to repeat, if only to let him/her know that he/she is worth it.

And when you're together, you look for ways to make him/her smile, especially if your loved one seems depressed. And if necessary, you will not be ashamed to make fun of yourself.