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Lack of Empathy: What it Means and How to Deal

Empathy is a fundamental part of building meaningful social connections. For some people, though, developing it may be a challenge.

Understanding another person’s feelings and experiences, even if opposite to ours, may allow us to respond in a supportive way and regulate our own emotions.

What happens when you don’t feel it? Is it possible to lack empathy altogether? And if so, is this a sign of a mental health condition? There are many possible answers to these questions, even though this is still an evolving area of research.

In general, empathy is the ability to understand or sense another person’s perspective, feelings, needs, or intentions, even when you don’t share the same circumstances. It can sometimes involve acting on that understanding, including offering help.

But empathy doesn’t always lead to action. It may depend on the type of empathy you’ve developed.

According to psychologists and researchers Paul Ekman and Daniel Goleman, there are three main types of empathy:

1.

Cognitive empathy

This type of empathy is an intellectual understanding of someone else’s feelings. It’s the ability to consider other perspectives without sensing or experiencing them yourself.

For example, if a colleague loses their job, you may recognize what emotions they could be feeling. You could also understand how their emotions might affect their behavior. This doesn’t mean you experience distress yourself.

2. Affective or ‘emotional’ empathy

People who have emotional empathy tend to feel another person’s emotions. Although not always the case, this may also include physical sensations consistent with such emotion.

For example, if you see someone under great distress after losing a loved one, you feel sad yourself and could experience chest or stomach pain while sensing that emotion in the other person.

3. Compassionate empathy or ‘empathetic concern’

Compassionate empathy is a combination of cognitive and emotional empathy. You recognize and understand another person’s emotions and also feel them.

Taking on another person’s challenges and hurt may end up taking a toll on you. This is why some people may not develop this type of empathy.

However, relating to other people’s suffering may also lead you to consider helping. And research suggests that when you do help, your body produces more dopamine — a “feel-good” hormone. This then leads and motivates you to continue acting on your cognitive and emotional empathy.

Examples of compassionate empathy include stopping your car to help if you see someone fall or donating to a cause after a natural disaster.

Can you have one type of empathy only?

Not everyone develops compassionate empathy, and there are also different levels of emotional or cognitive empathy.

For example, you could feel sad that your partner is experiencing a challenge (emotional empathy). It hurts you to see them hurt.

Yet, you may not really understand why they feel this way. Or you may even feel that their reason for feeling sad isn’t serious enough to warrant these emotions. You may have difficulty seeing the situation from their perspective (cognitive empathy).

Because of this, you may not experience compassionate empathy.

Empathy exists on a spectrum, and in most cases, it isn’t entirely absent — it’s just diminished.

Because empathy is an ability, most people can develop it. Having low empathy doesn’t mean you’ll feel this way forever.

In some cases, due to illness or trauma, some people may have extremely low empathy and a diminished capacity to develop it. However, they still have the capacity.

Because everyone is different, and empathy is a spectrum, low empathy or lack of empathy can be challenging to spot.

In general, some of the signs someone may lack empathy include:

1. Being critical and judgmental

People who have low empathy may excessively criticize other people for experiencing or expressing emotions in certain scenarios.

Someone with a lack of empathy may also blame the person for what they’re experiencing. For example, they may say things like, “If you didn’t do those things, you wouldn’t be in trouble now.”

Someone who isn’t empathetic may also label people or behaviors without considering the context. For example, they may criticize a colleague for being late, without realizing or appreciating that they have a sick child at home.

2. Thinking it wouldn’t happen to them

Someone with low empathy may have trouble connecting to other people’s circumstances.

They may believe that a certain event would never happen to them, or that they could handle the situation “much better.” Because they feel this is the case, they won’t be able to understand or feel the other person’s distress.

3. Calling other people ‘too sensitive’

Because they have difficulty understanding another person’s perspective and sensing their emotions, a person that lacks empathy will sometimes think emotional reactions are not valid, or they may act in dismissive ways.

They may think people’s feelings are optional or come from what they may perceive as an emotional deficit. “You’re feeling that way because you want to or because you’re too sensitive, not because it’s really that bad.”

4. Responding in inappropriate ways

Someone with low empathy may joke about someone’s emotions or circumstances. They may also have a difficult time actively listen to you. They could also act chirpy or indifferent after you just expressed feeling sad or stressed.

Someone who is empathetic might try to cheer you up if they see you down. But someone who isn’t may ignore how you feel altogether.

5. Having trouble understanding how their behavior affects others

Often, low empathy may result in a person not realizing that their actions can affect others. Other times, they may understand that their behavior impacts other people, but they may not feel remorseful about it.

This means that someone may act in selfish or vindictive ways without realizing or caring if that hurts you.

6. Difficulty maintaining relationships

Low empathy may lead to constant friction in relationships or a lack of meaningful bonds.

When someone has a difficult time understanding other people’s feelings or acting in helpful ways, they may end up with few or no meaningful connections. Sometimes, they’re not even aware this is happening.

Everyone may experience low empathy at times. For example, it may be natural to have difficulty feeling and expressing empathy toward someone who has harmed us.

There is some debate on whether a person is born with low empathy or if upbringing, social factors, or life experiences may hinder their ability to develop it, or even limit it. Genetics may also play a role.

Other possible factors associated with low empathy include:

Personality and developmental disorders

narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
Machiavellianism
sociopathy or antisocial personality disorder
borderline personality disorder (BPD)
alexithymia
autism

Among these conditions, levels of empathy can vary. Among individuals, levels can vary even more so.

For example, research suggests that some people with BPD may have difficulty developing emotional empathy but may display cognitive empathy.

Machiavellianism (a personality trait) and NPD (a mental health condition) have long been associated with a lack of empathy. However, one study suggests that people with these traits and disorders actually have a certain degree of empathy — they just may lack the motivation to show or act on it.

Additionally, autistic people can sometimes have difficulties with cognitive empathy. However, they may develop emotional empathy but face challenges with expressing it. A 2018 study suggests that possible low empathy among autistic people is not related directly to the causes of autism but rather to the co-occurrence of alexithymia.

Modeling

Because empathy is partly a learned behavior, you may not be as empathetic if you didn’t experience much empathy while growing up.

Also, if you were alone much of the time, you may not have had the opportunity to practice empathy. This, too, can lead to a reduction of empathetic expression.

Low emotional intelligence, burnout, and stress

Emotional intelligence may be linked to empathy. If you haven’t developed this type of intelligence, you may also have low empathy.

Being under prolonged stress may also lead someone to be less tolerant of other people’s behavior and have lower cognitive empathy.

In some cases, emotional avoidance may also be a reason why someone may not develop or practice empathy. If someone is emotionally burned out, they may avoid all additional sources of distress, including relating to someone else’s difficulties.

In general, research also shows that some people may not develop compassionate empathy because of its perceived costs, like mental effort, time, and emotional weight.

Empathy can be developed. Here are a few tips for working on it:

Building cognitive empathy

Consider asking questions whenever you feel you don’t understand what the other person feels:

“How do you feel about this?”
“What were you hoping for?”
“Is there anything else going on in your life you may want to talk about?”

You could also work on being more observant of body language. You may be able to tap into someone else’s emotions if you notice a change in their expressions. This may also include focusing on nonverbal cues like tone of voice and change in habits.

Learning more about what’s important to those around you may also help you notice when their mood changes, even if you don’t feel the same way they do.

For example, if you know this person cares a lot about their pet — even if you don’t like animals — you may understand why the loss of their companion is devastating to them.

Increasing emotional empathy

Working on recognizing your own emotions may help you connect with other people. Not everyone will recognize how they feel at all times or why they act in a certain way.

For example, you may act irritable and impatient today without realizing it’s because you’ve been sad about an argument you had yesterday.

Learning to connect your emotions with your actions may help you connect with other people’s emotions, too.

You could also practice listening more attentively and resisting the desire to tell the other person about your personal experience when they’re talking about themselves.

When you do, consider focusing on how they feel and why they may be feeling this way.

Enhancing compassionate empathy

As you develop both cognitive and emotional empathy, you’ll be more likely to have compassionate empathy and step into action when you see someone having a difficult time.

There are many types and levels of empathy. How much empathy you have depends on many factors, and may vary according to the situation.

Empathy may help you exhibit more helping behaviors and could also improve your relationships.

If you feel you could be more empathetic, you’ve taken the first step. Empathy is something you can develop, and it starts with awareness.

If you feel you’re having a challenging time developing empathy, you may want to seek the support of a mental health professional who can work with you in practicing a few techniques that may help.

Lack of Empathy: What it Means and How to Deal

Empathy is a fundamental part of building meaningful social connections. For some people, though, developing it may be a challenge.

Understanding another person’s feelings and experiences, even if opposite to ours, may allow us to respond in a supportive way and regulate our own emotions.

But empathy doesn’t always lead to action. It may depend on the type of empathy you’ve developed.

According to psychologists and researchers Paul Ekman and Daniel Goleman, there are three main types of empathy:

1.

Cognitive empathy

This type of empathy is an intellectual understanding of someone else’s feelings. It’s the ability to consider other perspectives without sensing or experiencing them yourself.

2. Affective or ‘emotional’ empathy

People who have emotional empathy tend to feel another person’s emotions. Although not always the case, this may also include physical sensations consistent with such emotion.

For example, if you see someone under great distress after losing a loved one, you feel sad yourself and could experience chest or stomach pain while sensing that emotion in the other person.

3. Compassionate empathy or ‘empathetic concern’

Compassionate empathy is a combination of cognitive and emotional empathy. You recognize and understand another person’s emotions and also feel them.

Taking on another person’s challenges and hurt may end up taking a toll on you. This is why some people may not develop this type of empathy.

Examples of compassionate empathy include stopping your car to help if you see someone fall or donating to a cause after a natural disaster.

Can you have one type of empathy only?

Not everyone develops compassionate empathy, and there are also different levels of emotional or cognitive empathy.

For example, you could feel sad that your partner is experiencing a challenge (emotional empathy). It hurts you to see them hurt.

Because of this, you may not experience compassionate empathy.

Empathy exists on a spectrum, and in most cases, it isn’t entirely absent — it’s just diminished.

Because empathy is an ability, most people can develop it. Having low empathy doesn’t mean you’ll feel this way forever.

In some cases, due to illness or trauma, some people may have extremely low empathy and a diminished capacity to develop it. However, they still have the capacity.

Because everyone is different, and empathy is a spectrum, low empathy or lack of empathy can be challenging to spot.

In general, some of the signs someone may lack empathy include:

1. Being critical and judgmental

People who have low empathy may excessively criticize other people for experiencing or expressing emotions in certain scenarios.

2. Thinking it wouldn’t happen to them

Someone with low empathy may have trouble connecting to other people’s circumstances.

3. Calling other people ‘too sensitive’

4. Responding in inappropriate ways

Someone who is empathetic might try to cheer you up if they see you down. But someone who isn’t may ignore how you feel altogether.

5. Having trouble understanding how their behavior affects others

This means that someone may act in selfish or vindictive ways without realizing or caring if that hurts you.

6. Difficulty maintaining relationships

Low empathy may lead to constant friction in relationships or a lack of meaningful bonds.

Everyone may experience low empathy at times. For example, it may be natural to have difficulty feeling and expressing empathy toward someone who has harmed us.

Other possible factors associated with low empathy include:

Personality and developmental disorders

narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
Machiavellianism
sociopathy or antisocial personality disorder
borderline personality disorder (BPD)
alexithymia
autism

Among these conditions, levels of empathy can vary. Among individuals, levels can vary even more so.

For example, research suggests that some people with BPD may have difficulty developing emotional empathy but may display cognitive empathy.

Modeling

Because empathy is partly a learned behavior, you may not be as empathetic if you didn’t experience much empathy while growing up.

Also, if you were alone much of the time, you may not have had the opportunity to practice empathy. This, too, can lead to a reduction of empathetic expression.

Low emotional intelligence, burnout, and stress

Emotional intelligence may be linked to empathy. If you haven’t developed this type of intelligence, you may also have low empathy.

Being under prolonged stress may also lead someone to be less tolerant of other people’s behavior and have lower cognitive empathy.

In general, research also shows that some people may not develop compassionate empathy because of its perceived costs, like mental effort, time, and emotional weight.

Empathy can be developed. Here are a few tips for working on it:

Building cognitive empathy

Consider asking questions whenever you feel you don’t understand what the other person feels:

“How do you feel about this?”
“What were you hoping for?”
“Is there anything else going on in your life you may want to talk about?”

Learning more about what’s important to those around you may also help you notice when their mood changes, even if you don’t feel the same way they do.

For example, if you know this person cares a lot about their pet — even if you don’t like animals — you may understand why the loss of their companion is devastating to them.

Increasing emotional empathy

Working on recognizing your own emotions may help you connect with other people. Not everyone will recognize how they feel at all times or why they act in a certain way.

For example, you may act irritable and impatient today without realizing it’s because you’ve been sad about an argument you had yesterday.

Learning to connect your emotions with your actions may help you connect with other people’s emotions, too.

You could also practice listening more attentively and resisting the desire to tell the other person about your personal experience when they’re talking about themselves.

When you do, consider focusing on how they feel and why they may be feeling this way.

Enhancing compassionate empathy

As you develop both cognitive and emotional empathy, you’ll be more likely to have compassionate empathy and step into action when you see someone having a difficult time.

There are many types and levels of empathy. How much empathy you have depends on many factors, and may vary according to the situation.

Empathy may help you exhibit more helping behaviors and could also improve your relationships.

If you feel you could be more empathetic, you’ve taken the first step. Empathy is something you can develop, and it starts with awareness.

If you feel you’re having a challenging time developing empathy, you may want to seek the support of a mental health professional who can work with you in practicing a few techniques that may help.

lack of signs of empathy and how to develop it

In our modern world, we encounter different people from different cultures, languages and religions. One of the key elements in helping us live peacefully is understanding. In addition, the key to understanding is empathy, and this is a behavioral skill that every person needs. This article discusses empathy, lack of signs of empathy, actions to develop empathy. In addition, we will also look at ways to develop empathy, empathy versus empathy, and the importance of empathy.

Definition of empathy

We can define empathy as the ability to share or understand and care about how others feel. This is a behavioral skill that can be innate in a person or acquired as a result of certain actions.

Empathy versus sympathy

Sympathy usually refers to feelings or emotions. This is when one person shares the feelings of another. It is expressed when a person experiences sadness, when someone close is experiencing grief or loss.

Sympathy, , however, differs from sympathy in that it has a greater emotional distance. Generally, imagining the feelings of others helps to understand without necessarily sharing the feelings.

In addition, empathy and sympathy should not be used interchangeably in a text. However, we often encounter them in contexts where their distinction diminishes. The difference in meaning must be explained by some variation. Empathy is when you share the feelings of another, whereas empathy is when you understand the feelings of another. But, as with empathy, you don't necessarily share them.

Nouns have a common root: the Greek word pathos , which means "feelings, emotions or passion." Paphos itself refers to the display of pity or compassion in a work of art or literature.

Sympathy involves sharing

The general definition of sympathy in the dictionary is the act or ability to enter into or share the feelings or interests of another. ” When we hear about empathy, we tend to think of situations involving emotional pain. For example; when a friend is grieving the loss of a loved one, you will want to visit him and keep him company for a while. This should show that you feel the loss of the person.

Empathy involves understanding

You have empathy for a person when you can imagine how they might feel based on what you know about that person, even though you don't express those feelings directly. Empathy can also manifest itself in the familiar idiom of “putting oneself in the place of another.”

In addition, another major difference between empathy and empathy is how long one has been around. Therefore, compared to empathy , which first appeared in English in the 16th century, empathy is a relatively new word derived from already existing words.

Why is empathy important?

This quality is necessary for building and maintaining good relationships at work, in the family and in society in general. People who feel empathy enjoy more happiness and less stress. People who lack empathy are said to be selfish and evil. This may be the result of their inability to understand and accept other people's points of view. As a result, we have a lot of failed relationships.

Without empathy, people tend to go through life without thinking about how other people feel or what they might be thinking. Each of us has a different point of view. We all experience mood, pain and resentment, joy and sadness. Moreover, we are so limited when we see only our own perspective. Without wasting time evaluating the other, it is easy to make assumptions and jump to conclusions. Consequently, this often leads to bad feelings, conflicts, a deterioration in morale, and even divorce. People do not feel heard or understood. Therefore, empathy is important because it promotes mutual understanding and peaceful coexistence between us.

Empathic people are excellent listeners and often generous. They easily share their problems with people. In addition, they are emotional and often feel overwhelmed by tragic events.

However, a lack of empathy means that the person appears aloof, indifferent, and uninterested in the problems of others. This attitude often harms others. Also, we need to identify these signs of lack of empathy in people, as it will help us communicate better. Some of these signs of lack of empathy include;

#1. Usually they are unhappy with others.

No. 2. They cannot control their emotions.

No. 3. They overreact.

№ 4. They have superficial emotions.

# 5. They are not touched by emotional events.

№ 6. It is difficult for them to maintain relationships.

№ 7. They negate emotional outbursts.

What is your level of empathy?

To determine your level of empathy, ask yourself the following questions:

Do you have trouble identifying the emotions of the people around you?
It's hard to imagine how you would feel if you were in someone else's place?
Does it bother you when you see other people suffering?
Do you stop listening to others when you disagree with them?
Do you avoid helping those who are upset, offended or at a disadvantage?

If you answered yes to most of the following questions, you probably have trouble empathizing with others. While it can be difficult, there are steps you can take to become more empathetic.

The exact causes of lack of empathy are not known, but various factors are thought to play a role. It is believed that genetics and socialization have a significant impact on empathy.

The inherited characteristics of personality and temperament are influenced by genetics. As a result, some people are born with traits that make them more sensitive to others. However, life experience also has a significant impact.

Kindness, empathy, compassion and helping behavior are influenced by parents, teachers, peers, society and culture.

Some research also shows that men and women experience and express empathy differently. Women often outperform men in terms of empathy. 1

Some illnesses, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder, and borderline personality disorder, can contribute to lack of empathy (BPD).

The lack of signs of empathy can have a variety of consequences. Among them are the following:

No. 1. Relationship problems:

People who lack empathy are more likely to have problems in relationships with others. When other people feel that their feelings and needs are not being acknowledged, this can lead to arguments. It can also make it difficult to develop connections and make it less likely that people will receive effective help.

No. 2. Bad communication:

Not understanding where others are coming from can make conversation much more difficult. Lack of empathy can also lead people to misinterpret what others are trying to communicate, which can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and broken relationships.

#3. Lack of helping behavior:

When people lack empathy for others, they are less likely to engage in prosocial behavior that could help those in need. This can have an individual impact, but it can also have a wider systemic impact when groups, governments or cultures show no empathy for those in need.

In medical settings, lack of empathy can have serious consequences. According to research, medical training reduces the empathy of medical professionals. 2 This can lead to inattentive care, poor health outcomes and negative patient experiences.

How to show empathy

# 1. Be intentional.

No. 2. Remove distractions.

No. 3. Acknowledge your judgments.

No. 4. Don't always try to solve problems.

No. 5. Share your feelings and experiences.

No. 6. Be grateful that the person has opened up.

No. 7. Give encouragement and show support.

No. 8. Be open to other people's views.

No. 9. Encourage cooperation.

No. 10. Listen to your team.

No. 11. Put the health of your employees ahead of your goals.

No. 12 Always be grateful.

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Ways to develop empathy

Often life experience can help teach us to be more empathetic, as they say, experience is the best teacher. Stephanie Thoma, said career coach,

“Losing a job that I relied on and identified early in my career has given me more compassion and empathy for those who are out of work. I have experienced the depression, anxiety and insecurity that can come with losing a job. This experience gives my work, helping people come to their senses, much more resonance and meaning.
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However, we can also develop our empathy by learning from the experiences of those around us. In addition, there are various practices/activities that can help develop our empathy.

Empathy Training

Empathy, though it's a difficult skill to learn like anything else. It is well known that the learning process in children is faster than in adults. Therefore, it is important that children learn this skill while they are still young. It is critical that educators recognize that lack of empathy is a skill flaw, not a character problem.

According to Ross Green, "Children succeed when they can. " Therefore, this means that a person who lacks empathy can improve and become more empathic if properly trained. However, there are several ways to teach, emphasize and demonstrate empathy skills. That is, these skills can be learned.

It is also worth noting that some students will struggle with these skills more than others. Therefore, learning this skill will be a slow but constant process.

Empathy activities for children in the USA

#1. Replenishment of the vocabulary of emotions.

Here the tutor can give some examples of words that express emotions. Together they discuss the meaning of the words, associating them with empathy. In addition, the children will then give more examples and write them down.

№ 2. Identification and development of emotions.

It should be as much fun as possible. First, the tutor calls the students one by one and asks them to demonstrate different emotions. The rest of the students will now try to identify the expressed emotions. Thus, it will help students to understand and interpret facial gestures, thereby developing their empathy skills. Children should also try to identify signs of lack of empathy through play or drama.

#3. Practice active listening.

The teacher reads the text aloud to the students. Students listen carefully and summarize what they hear. In addition, students can also be asked questions in between reading exercises. This will increase their ability to listen, hence improve their empathic skills.

No. 4. Making a paper collage

This is especially important for shy students who cannot express themselves in front of the class. Students are given cards from which they will make a paper collage. After that, they will match images showing various facial gestures with the corresponding emotion shown. They should be able to identify the signs of empathy shown on the cards.

Creating Empathic Adults

However, the way adults develop empathy may differ from the way children develop empathy. It is not easy to develop, but with constant efforts we can achieve it.

#1. Building friendships

Empathy dissolves when we see the world from the perspective of "us and them" . However, it is restored when it returns to 'you and me' . In other words, enemies eventually become friends when we try to view the intentions of their actions as friendly.

No. 2. Being curious

It allows us to know someone's intentions or feelings, thereby understanding them and their way of life. We can achieve this by following people on social media with experiences other than you.
We can also go beyond small talk like "how are you" and ask about people's daily lives.

#3. Listen carefully

By removing your phone and other distractions, you can listen and notice facial expressions and gestures. So, these facial expressions and gestures go a long way when trying to understand someone.

No. 4. Reading books

This is another great way to learn about different lifestyles and cultures. This will help us understand people more easily.

It promotes positive interaction between people. This is necessary because this is where their thoughts and beliefs will be built. The result is an improved understanding of people's perceptions and actions.

No. 6. Participation in volunteer work in less privileged communities.

It helps the person to be more empathetic. This allows us to explore the privileges we have over others. Thus, it helps us make more informed decisions and develop our emotional response.

In conclusion, empathy is very important in our society and its importance cannot be overestimated. Compassion may come naturally to you. This means that the response to it may be part of our biological structure. However, we should improve this skill as much as possible, as it adds more value to relationships.

Frequently Asked Questions about Empathy

What is a good example of empathy?

Suppose your pet dog is terminally ill. You do everything you can to make her happy and comfortable for as long as possible, but there comes a point when she is too tormented to enjoy her existence. You will take her to the vet and euthanize her. This decision is based on empathy.

What is a person called who has no sympathy?

Lack of empathy and guilt, as well as superficial affect, glibness, manipulation and callousness characterize psychopathy.

What causes lack of empathy in adults?

Some illnesses, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder, and borderline personality disorder, can contribute to lack of empathy (BPD).

Is it bad to have no sympathy?

Lack of empathy can certainly have consequences, but that doesn't mean you're a bad person or that you can't learn to develop more empathy. People who lack or suffer from empathy may experience social isolation as well as other unwanted effects or consequences.

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Top 30 Customer Service Skills (full details) In today's world, we encounter different people from different cultures, languages and religions. One of the key elements in helping us live peacefully is understanding. In addition, the key to understanding is empathy, and this is a behavioral skill that every person needs. This article discusses empathy, lack of signs of empathy, actions to develop empathy. In addition, we will also look at ways to develop empathy, empathy versus empathy, and the importance of empathy.

Definition of empathy

We can define empathy as the ability to share or understand and care about how others feel. This is a behavioral skill that can be innate in a person or acquired as a result of certain actions.

Empathy versus sympathy

Sympathy usually refers to feelings or emotions. This is when one person shares the feelings of another. It is expressed when a person experiences sadness, when someone close is experiencing grief or loss.

Sympathy, , however, differs from sympathy in that it has a greater emotional distance. Generally, imagining the feelings of others helps to understand without necessarily sharing the feelings.

In addition, empathy and sympathy should not be used interchangeably in a text. However, we often encounter them in contexts where their distinction diminishes. The difference in meaning must be explained by some variation. Empathy is when you share the feelings of another, whereas empathy is when you understand the feelings of another. But, as with empathy, you don't necessarily share them.

Nouns have a common root: the Greek word pathos , which means "feelings, emotions or passion." Paphos itself refers to the display of pity or compassion in a work of art or literature.

Sympathy involves sharing

The general definition of sympathy in the dictionary is the act or ability to enter into or share the feelings or interests of another.” When we hear about empathy, we tend to think of situations involving emotional pain. For example; when a friend is grieving the loss of a loved one, you will want to visit him and keep him company for a while. This should show that you feel the loss of the person.

Empathy involves understanding

You have empathy for a person when you can imagine how they might feel based on what you know about that person, even though you don't express those feelings directly. Empathy can also manifest itself in the familiar idiom of “putting oneself in the place of another.”

In addition, another major difference between empathy and empathy is how long one has been around. Therefore, compared to empathy , which first appeared in English in the 16th century, empathy is a relatively new word derived from already existing words.

Why is empathy important?

This quality is necessary for building and maintaining good relationships at work, in the family and in society in general. People who feel empathy enjoy more happiness and less stress. People who lack empathy are said to be selfish and evil. This may be the result of their inability to understand and accept other people's points of view. As a result, we have a lot of failed relationships.

Without empathy, people tend to go through life without thinking about how other people feel or what they might be thinking. Each of us has a different point of view. We all experience mood, pain and resentment, joy and sadness. Moreover, we are so limited when we see only our own perspective. Without wasting time evaluating the other, it is easy to make assumptions and jump to conclusions. Consequently, this often leads to bad feelings, conflicts, a deterioration in morale, and even divorce. People do not feel heard or understood. Therefore, empathy is important because it promotes mutual understanding and peaceful coexistence between us.

Empathic people are excellent listeners and often generous. They easily share their problems with people. In addition, they are emotional and often feel overwhelmed by tragic events.

However, a lack of empathy means that the person appears aloof, indifferent, and uninterested in the problems of others. This attitude often harms others. Also, we need to identify these signs of lack of empathy in people, as it will help us communicate better. Some of these signs of lack of empathy include;

#1. Usually they are unhappy with others.

No. 2. They cannot control their emotions.

No. 3. They overreact.

№ 4. They have superficial emotions.

# 5. They are not touched by emotional events.

№ 6. It is difficult for them to maintain relationships.

№ 7. They negate emotional outbursts.

What is your level of empathy?

To determine your level of empathy, ask yourself the following questions:
- Do you have trouble identifying the emotions of the people around you?
- It's hard to imagine how you would feel if you were in someone else's place?
- Does it bother you when you see other people suffering?
- Do you stop listening to others when you disagree with them?
- Do you avoid helping those who are upset, offended or at a disadvantage?
If you answered yes to most of the following questions, you probably have trouble empathizing with others. While it can be difficult, there are steps you can take to become more empathetic.

The exact causes of lack of empathy are not known, but various factors are thought to play a role. It is believed that genetics and socialization have a significant impact on empathy.

The inherited characteristics of personality and temperament are influenced by genetics. As a result, some people are born with traits that make them more sensitive to others. However, life experience also has a significant impact.

Kindness, empathy, compassion and helping behavior are influenced by parents, teachers, peers, society and culture.

Some research also shows that men and women experience and express empathy differently. Women often outperform men in terms of empathy. 1

Some illnesses, such as narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), antisocial personality disorder, and borderline personality disorder, can contribute to lack of empathy (BPD).

The lack of signs of empathy can have a variety of consequences. Among them are the following:

No. 1. Relationship problems:

People who lack empathy are more likely to have problems in relationships with others. When other people feel that their feelings and needs are not being acknowledged, this can lead to arguments. It can also make it difficult to develop connections and make it less likely that people will receive effective help.

No. 2. Bad communication:

Not understanding where others are coming from can make conversation much more difficult. Lack of empathy can also lead people to misinterpret what others are trying to communicate, which can lead to misunderstandings, conflicts, and broken relationships.

#3. Lack of helping behavior:

When people lack empathy for others, they are less likely to engage in prosocial behavior that could help those in need. This can have an individual impact, but it can also have a wider systemic impact when groups, governments or cultures show no empathy for those in need.

In medical settings, lack of empathy can have serious consequences. According to research, medical training reduces the empathy of medical professionals. 2 This can lead to inattentive care, poor health outcomes and negative patient experiences.

How to show empathy

# 1. Be intentional.

No. 2. Remove distractions.

No. 3. Acknowledge your judgments.

No. 4. Don't always try to solve problems.

No. 5. Share your feelings and experiences.

No. 6. Be grateful that the person has opened up.

No. 7. Give encouragement and show support.

No. 8. Be open to other people's views.

No. 9. Encourage cooperation.

No. 10. Listen to your team.

No. 11. Put the health of your employees ahead of your goals.

No. 12 Always be grateful.

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Ways to develop empathy

Often life experience can help teach us to be more empathetic, as they say, experience is the best teacher. Stephanie Thoma, said career coach,

“Losing a job that I relied on and identified early in my career has given me more compassion and empathy for those who are out of work. I have experienced the depression, anxiety and insecurity that can come with losing a job. This experience gives my work, helping people come to their senses, much more resonance and meaning.
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However, we can also develop our empathy by learning from the experiences of those around us. In addition, there are various practices/activities that can help develop our empathy.

Empathy Training

Empathy, though it's a difficult skill to learn like anything else. It is well known that the learning process in children is faster than in adults. Therefore, it is important that children learn this skill while they are still young. It is critical that educators recognize that lack of empathy is a skill flaw, not a character problem.

According to Ross Green, "Children succeed when they can. " Therefore, this means that a person who lacks empathy can improve and become more empathic if properly trained. However, there are several ways to teach, emphasize and demonstrate empathy skills. That is, these skills can be learned.

It is also worth noting that some students will struggle with these skills more than others. Therefore, learning this skill will be a slow but constant process.

Empathy activities for children in the USA

#1. Replenishment of the vocabulary of emotions.

Here the tutor can give some examples of words that express emotions. Together they discuss the meaning of the words, associating them with empathy. In addition, the children will then give more examples and write them down.

№ 2. Identification and development of emotions.

It should be as much fun as possible. First, the tutor calls the students one by one and asks them to demonstrate different emotions. The rest of the students will now try to identify the expressed emotions. Thus, it will help students to understand and interpret facial gestures, thereby developing their empathy skills. Children should also try to identify signs of lack of empathy through play or drama.

#3. Practice active listening.

The teacher reads the text aloud to the students. Students listen carefully and summarize what they hear. In addition, students can also be asked questions in between reading exercises. This will increase their ability to listen, hence improve their empathic skills.

No. 4. Making a paper collage

This is especially important for shy students who cannot express themselves in front of the class. Students are given cards from which they will make a paper collage. After that, they will match images showing various facial gestures with the corresponding emotion shown. They should be able to identify the signs of empathy shown on the cards.

Creating Empathic Adults

However, the way adults develop empathy may differ from the way children develop empathy. It is not easy to develop, but with constant efforts we can achieve it.

#1. Building friendships

Empathy dissolves when we see the world from the perspective of "us and them" . However, it is restored when it returns to 'you and me' . In other words, enemies eventually become friends when we try to view the intentions of their actions as friendly.

No. 2. Being curious

It allows us to know someone's intentions or feelings, thereby understanding them and their way of life. We can achieve this by following people on social media with experiences other than you.
We can also go beyond small talk like "how are you" and ask about people's daily lives.

#3. Listen carefully

By removing your phone and other distractions, you can listen and notice facial expressions and gestures. So, these facial expressions and gestures go a long way when trying to understand someone.

No. 4. Reading books

This is another great way to learn about different lifestyles and cultures. This will help us understand people more easily.

It promotes positive interaction between people. This is necessary because this is where their thoughts and beliefs will be built. The result is an improved understanding of people's perceptions and actions.

No. 6. Participation in volunteer work in less privileged communities.

It helps the person to be more empathetic. This allows us to explore the privileges we have over others. Thus, it helps us make more informed decisions and develop our emotional response.

In conclusion, empathy is very important in our society and its importance cannot be overestimated. Compassion may come naturally to you. This means that the response to it may be part of our biological structure. However, we should improve this skill as much as possible, as it adds more value to relationships.

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