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SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Also visit the online treatment locator.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.

Also visit the online treatment locator, or send your zip code via text message: 435748 (HELP4U) to find help near you. Read more about the HELP4U text messaging service.

The service is open 24/7, 365 days a year.

English and Spanish are available if you select the option to speak with a national representative. Currently, the 435748 (HELP4U) text messaging service is only available in English.

In 2020, the Helpline received 833,598 calls. This is a 27 percent increase from 2019, when the Helpline received a total of 656,953 calls for the year.

The referral service is free of charge. If you have no insurance or are underinsured, we will refer you to your state office, which is responsible for state-funded treatment programs. In addition, we can often refer you to facilities that charge on a sliding fee scale or accept Medicare or Medicaid. If you have health insurance, you are encouraged to contact your insurer for a list of participating health care providers and facilities.

The service is confidential. We will not ask you for any personal information. We may ask for your zip code or other pertinent geographic information in order to track calls being routed to other offices or to accurately identify the local resources appropriate to your needs.

No, we do not provide counseling. Trained information specialists answer calls, transfer callers to state services or other appropriate intake centers in their states, and connect them with local assistance and support.

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Last Updated: 08/30/2022

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Poster City: How to deal with unrequited love: advice from scientists –

Answer the question "Who am I?"

Researchers believe that The first step is to decide who you are without a loved one. That before, among other things, to the question "Who am I?" could answer precisely from the position of being in a relationship: “I am Igor’s girlfriend”, “I am a husband Katy. Even with unrequited love, when there is no relationship with the object of sighing, this feeling can also become part of the personality: “I am a designer, I play the violin and I love Grisha,” and if I don’t love Grisha, then I’m no longer me. However, it is important how you can quickly decide who you are when there is no a loved one and feelings for him are forbidden. The primary task at the same time is not to get involved in self-digging and self-flagellation. “I wonder why we do this (scold ourselves) when our self-esteem and so hurt? says psychologist Guy Winch. "Why do we want to harm her even more?" After all, we would did not deliberately make the physical wound even deeper. If you cut your hand, you would didn’t think: “Oh, the idea: I’ll take a knife and see how much deeper I can make this wound." nine0005

To bring yourself into a normal psychological state, you can talk aloud to yourself, write down your thoughts or go to a psychotherapist.

Be reserved in social networks

Even simple logic, not to mention research, suggests that if you constantly check the pages of your lover/beloved in social networks, then recovery after a breakup will take longer. Of course, the ideal option is to block the page or block access to it using a special browser extension. If this is not possible, then you should not start a competition "who is happier after a breakup." Photos and posts whose sole purpose is to say “I feel so good without you” will definitely not fulfill their function. Winning this war in social networks will not work: science has already explained this fact. nine0003

Deal with pain

Comedian Tim Minchin has a rather cynical but accurate song that begins with the words "You've grown into me like a tumor." Further, the whole painful process is described very colorfully - and the comparison of physical ailment with love turns out to be almost perfect. And although we are talking about emotional attachment here, the reference to pain is very fair. Studies show that separation is perceived by the brain as physical pain. And in one of the studies on a small sample, it was shown that paracetamol helps to alleviate the condition. However, it is, of course, necessary to take it, observing all precautions. nine0003

Go in for sports

Unrequited love is a known risk factor for the development of true depression. In addition, at first, some symptoms of such a disorder are evident. Therefore, with unrequited love, as with depression, it is worth playing sports: training improves mood and distracts.

If you have suicidal thoughts in the background of depression, be sure to contact a psychotherapist who has a medical degree (if necessary, he can prescribe medication for you) or call the hotline in an emergency. nine0003

Plan an action

Anthropologist Helen Fisher and neuroscientist Lucy L. Brown have been studying love for years. And they even made a list of rules - how to behave if unrequited love happened to you. Among other things, they advise to fill the day with business, so that there is no time to stare into the void, not to call, not to write to a loved one, not to seek a meeting with him and put away things that remind of him. “Alcoholics who stop drinking do not leave a bottle of vodka on the table,” the scientists write. They also suggest focusing on what's going right in your life and doing other good things. nine0005

Certainly, at some point there will be an irresistible desire to do something forbidden. “And if you really want to, but you can’t, then you can.” Charles Duhigg, in his book The Power of Habit, describes how Starbucks employees learned to respond to aggressive customer behavior. For this, there was a simple algorithm of actions that had to be followed. This approach helped make the episode less traumatic for the Starbucks employee himself, as he was prepared for such a situation. The same scheme can be applied when, for example, you want to call your loved one: draw up an action plan in advance, and then at a critical moment you will not be discouraged - a well-thought-out scheme will not allow you to do what you should not do. By the way, if you usually try to call or write to your former / former intoxicated, you can download the Drunk Mode application (App Store, Google Play), which will save you from such an act. By the way, washing down unrequited love is of little use: alcohol increases the risk of developing depression. nine0003

Unrequited love is an excellent opportunity to look at your life in a new way and, perhaps, redirect it in a more constructive direction. The consolation, of course, is so-so: you don’t want to change anything, but you want to be with your loved one here and now. You can reassure yourself that over time the condition will improve: finally unrequited love will leave, according to Lucy L. Brown, in six months or, in the worst case, in a couple of years.

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What is love addiction? | Man and woman

In psychology, it is customary to divide addictions into chemical and non-chemical ones. The first type of addictions includes alcoholism, drug addiction and other hobbies popular among the people with various substances. And the trick of non-chemical addictions is that addictions develop without the help of any drugs. Their role can be taken, for example, by computer or gambling, or even by other people. nine0003

I would like to write about the last case in more detail. Dependence on a partner in a relationship is called a love or emotional addiction. A lot of people suffer from it, but for some reason it is not customary to treat this case.

What does love addiction look like?

This is a hunger, a thirst for a partner, so strong that such "love" is often called addictive. Indeed, a person suffering from such an addiction is very similar to a drug addict: nine0003

He is unable to control the behavior associated with the object of "love" and cannot soberly assess the situation. For example, if the head knows that now the partner does not need to call, and the soul requires a “dose”, then the head definitely remains the loser. The addict cannot help but call, write, and look at the phone every five minutes, hoping to get a message.

Everything related to the "beloved" overshadows any other needs of the addict. Up to the need for a respectful attitude ... It looks like this: as soon as he calls, everything else loses all meaning, plans immediately change in favor of the "beloved".

In case of a long absence of contact with a partner, a real withdrawal syndrome occurs (it is also a withdrawal syndrome), “withdrawal” begins. Without it, it's bad. So bad that life does not bring joy. All the thoughts of the addict are focused on the partner: why doesn’t he call, what can he be dissatisfied with, what does he think about, what does he do, what is he offended by . .. but does he cheat for an hour? nine0003

The addict doesn't care about the dangerous side effects of addiction. The love of another becomes a vital factor, so the addict is ready to pay any price for it, whether it be humility, neglect of one's own interests, self-sacrifice, one's own health or even life.

A person subjected to such “love” can recognize the fact that he has an addiction. But there are difficulties with a sense of control over the situation. That is, either he is sure of his own impotence, or he says that he can easily refuse the “drug”, although all the facts indicate the opposite. nine0003

Trying to help an addict is useless. He will either not hear you (which is fraught with accusations against you), or you will fall into the Rescuer-Victim-Pursuer triangle (which will only increase his dependence).

Who is at risk?

People who are prone to emotional dependence have some characteristic features. nine0003

1. They have a constant need for the approval of others. Or rather, not only and not so much in approval, but in attention. The words of others are very important for such people and sink into the soul for a long time, whether it be criticism or praise.

2. They feel bad being alone, it is difficult to cope with life on their own. They need the company of other people and sometimes so much that they are ready to endure everything, just to be with someone. nine0003

3. Such people have difficulty understanding their own desires and needs. Therefore, they tend to "absorb" and focus on strangers.

4. It is very difficult for them to believe that they are able to change something in their lives on their own. Often, this sense of powerlessness provokes them into over-adaptive behavior, that is, the desire to adapt to terrible conditions instead of getting out of them. nine0003

5. They can easily “sink” in another person, dissolve in him, but they are not capable of true intimacy and love. Precisely because their own personality disappears. These relationships are not like the interaction of two whole, separate and adult people. Rather, such a picture looks like a dependent and helpless baby, who is at the mercy of an all-powerful parent.

6. Most often these are people who did not form a quality attachment in childhood. That is, emotional dependence is an attempt to make up for another love that was not received in childhood. nine0003

How else can it be?

Emotional dependency is not necessarily related to a relationship partner. You can depend on your parents, and on idols, and even on friends. Here, as they say, there would be a need, but the object will be found.

It also happens that all the symptoms of love addiction are normal.

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