How to know if your gf is cheating

How to tell if your girlfriend is cheating: 20 signs most men miss

Afraid your girlfriend is cheating on you?

It’s a terrible feeling, but you’re not alone.

In this article, I’m going to share with you 19 sure signs that your girlfriend is likely cheating on you.

In fact, if you suspect your girlfriend is cheating, then you’ll be able to finally get to the truth after you read this post.

I hope for your sake you’re proven wrong.

We have a lot to cover so let’s get started.

1. She seems distracted.

Your once attentive girlfriend barely seems to look you in the eye these days. You find yourself repeating things to her because she’s not listening.

It’s hard for her to stay in the conversation and she is always looking over your shoulder.

If she’s cheating on you, you’ll find that she has disconnected from your relationship in many ways.

According to family therapist David Klow, “if your partner’s actions start changing, then it might be a sign of infidelity. ”

This is not to protect you, but to keep her from feeling guilty when she finally breaks things off with you: if she’s pushed you away already, it will be easier for her to say goodbye.

Or, if she decides she doesn’t have the guts to leave, pushing you away makes it easier for you to call things off. She’s pushing you away for a reason.

2. She is dressing differently.

If your girlfriend suddenly cares about her appearance again after years of just bumming around in a t-shirt and jeans, lazing on the couch with her hair in a messy bun, and not putting much effort into a night out, something is definitely wrong.

Is she wearing a brand new wardrobe? She could be trying to impress someone.

According to Dr. Phillips in Bustle, you may also want to have a look for a change in their grooming habits:

“If your partner comes home and jumps right into a long shower, they may be washing away any evidence of cheating.”

Sure, it might be that she is finding her confidence in herself again – or for the first time ever – but there might be a different reason for the change.

If you suspect it’s because she is seeing someone else and wants to look good for them, you may be right.

Change begets change and if she is running around on you, she might put a lot of effort into her appearance so she can be attractive to her new man.

3. A gifted advisor confirms it

The signs above and below in this article will give you a good idea of whether or not your girlfriend is cheating on you.

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4. She’s getting bored.

Women getting bored in a relationship is much more common than you probably think.

Would she rather sit on the sofa and re-watch Shawshank Redemption than go somewhere with you?

Are you having completely silent dinners?

Stopped talking about your days?

These are all signs she’s getting bored with you and could be looking for some excitement with another guy.

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5. She doesn’t invite you out with her friends.

One sign that your girlfriend might be cheating on you is if she is suddenly spending more time with friends, but leaving you at home.

If she isn’t inviting you out or is insisting that you stay home and watch the game, you might be right to be concerned.

According to Robert Weiss Ph.D., her friends be may be uncomfortable around you because they know what’s going on:

“The cheater’s friends often know about the infidelity right from the start, and your own friends are likely to find out long before you do. This knowledge typically causes these individuals to feel uncomfortable around you.”

She’s not giving you all the details about the get-together either: not sure who will be there, not sure what time she’ll be home, not sure what the plan is.

These are all signs that she is trying to play innocent and hide her affair.

If you insist on going, she’ll get mad. It’s easier for her to keep you away from what’s really going on.

6. She has started to talk about the future in a different way.

If she used to talk about the future and use the word, “we”, but now talks about things she wants to do alone, that’s not good.

Even if she tells you that she didn’t mean to be selfish about her plans, be wary that she may just be covering her tracks.

According to clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula in Oprah Magazine, “A major commitment makes it more difficult to pull out of a relationship quickly.”

If she isn’t including you in her plans, there’s a good reason for that.

Part of the trouble with suspecting that someone is cheating on you is that your partner may be very good at explaining away why things are the way they are.

If you aren’t vigilant with your relationship, it may just walk right out the door without you.

7. She pays a lot of attention to her phone.

Sure, everyone pays a lot of attention to their phones these days, but if she is choosing to scroll through social media or respond to text messages instead of talking to you, you would be right to question her motives.

According to counselor and therapist, Dr. Tracey Phillips, hiding things from you on their phone may be a sign of cheating:

“They could be trying to avoid receiving any questionable calls or texts in your presence.”

It could be that she doesn’t even realize she is doing it, but if she is having an affair, you can bet that she will get defensive and insulted by the assumption that she is doing anything other than updating her latest selfie pic.

Psychologist Weiss explains the possible scenarios in Psychology Today:

“Cheaters tend to use their phones and computers more frequently than before and to guard them as if their lives depend on it.

If your partner’s phone and laptop never required a password before, and now they do, that’s not a good sign. Your partner suddenly starts deleting texts and clearing their browser history on a daily basis, that’s not a good sign.

If your partner never relinquishes possession of their phone, even taking it into the bathroom when they shower, that’s not a good sign.

8. She’s not interested in getting physical anymore.

A roll in the sheets used to be a regular occurrence in your relationship, but lately, you feel like it’s getting more difficult to get her interested in sex. This can be a sign of infidelity.

Sex expert Robert Weiss explains why:

“Both decreased and increased levels of sexual activity in your relationship can be a sign of infidelity. Less sex occurs because your partner is focused on someone else; more sex occurs because they are trying to cover that up.”

Relationships have their ups and downs, but if you feel like she is pulling away from you and not wanting to be intimate, there’s a reason.

Body language expert Patti Wood, says:

“What you’re generally looking for is a shift from normal behavior. So, if they used to kiss you all the time and suddenly that behavior disappears it’s a shift from the baseline.”

It’s a good idea to talk to her about your concerns with physical intimacy and ask her what’s going on.

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9. She’s too busy for you.

If she’s got a full plate and no room for you to spend any time together, but you used to spend all the time together, something is wrong.

According to relationship and betrayal trauma-focused life coach, Karina Wallace:

“They may play it off as just a preference but if you have been together a long time and this is not normal then its something to pay attention to…It alone is not saying they are cheating, but it can be a good indicator if there are a few things changing concurrently.”

She may even be too busy to talk with you properly.

People who might be cheating “tend to engage in sins of omission,” psychologist Ramani Durvasula says. “They operate on a ‘need to know’ basis, which is not healthy for a relationship.”

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10. She doesn’t make time for you anymore.

What was once an intimate and fun relationship is suddenly so cold you need a sweater.

If your girlfriend isn’t looking to spend time with you or asking you about your schedule, it might be because she is filling her days up with the company of others.

According to Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW in Psychology Today:

“Flat tires, dead batteries, traffic jams, spending extra time at the gym, and similar excuses for being late or absent altogether might also signal infidelity.”

When you ask for some of her time, she may get angry and call you needy. Of course, it’s just her defenses to keep you at bay.

Also, according to Ramani Durvasula, Ph.D. in Oprah Magazine, if they stop sharing about their day or their whereabouts, something may be up:

“The most interesting aspects of their day may relate to their new flirtation…This can be more devastating than sexual infidelity as it implies the intimacy of day-to-day life is now being shared with someone new.”

While she doesn’t want to be with you, she also doesn’t want to hurt you and so that comes out all wrong and leaves the two of you feeling even further apart.

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11. She won’t accept your marriage proposal.

You love her. You thought she loved you. You proposed and it was a hard no on her end.

While you may be shocked by her response and certainly feel rejected, there may be bigger reasons for that.

According to Everyday Health, if a person had doubts about moving in or getting married, it could be a sign of cheating.

Maria Bustillos, author of Act Like a Gentlemen, Think Like a Woman, says someone who is not invested in the relationship, may always be looking for an exit, making them more likely to not commit.

If she’s cheating, she doesn’t see the point of getting married. Why she doesn’t just break things off with you is another issue altogether.

You may have to consider the point of carrying on in the relationship if you want to be married and she doesn’t.

And anyway, perhaps you don’t want to marry her if she’s been cheating.

According to therapist Kurt Smith in Huffington Post:

“While I disagree with the saying, ‘Once a cheater, always a cheater,’ there are always some significant mindset and behavior changes necessary to prevent this behavior from repeating…These new changes should be proven before getting married. ”

12. She is talking about “her” future.

When you talk about the future, you notice that her use of the word “we” is inexplicably missing.

She may laugh about it and say that she means the two of you, but people who are in love include one another in their plans.

According to Yvonne Filler, who runs The Affair Clinic in London:

“A couple we’ve been seeing for a few months explained the affair was suspected when the man kept making excuses not to discuss future plans.

“His wife found he wouldn’t commit to the big things like the loft conversion but also wouldn’t pay upfront for holidays.”

In fact, it’s one of the easiest ways for you to tell that someone loves you before they say it: if they include you in their future plans.

13. You’ve caught her telling lies.

It might be hard to trust her anyway if you have already caught her telling you lies about who she is with, or where she has been.

“The human body is amazing in its capacity for discerning the truth in others,” certified coach, Shirley Arteaga says.

“There are usually signs of a cheating partner, and if you trust your gut, you will be able to learn the answer quickly.”

For whatever reason, women try to hide these mistakes instead of just owning them. Although, men do the same.

People don’t want to be exposed as liars and sometimes it’s just more comfortable to continue the ruse.

14. She doesn’t tell you where she’s going.

She’s all dolled up and ready to hit the town, but you have no idea who she is going with and she just brushes it off with a short answer like “just a few friends.”

It’s not that you need to know her every move, but it is common to ask questions and have an interest in what your girlfriend is doing.

Psychologist Paul Coleman, PsyD, says to Prevention that “someone who must ‘work late’ all of a sudden at times that go beyond a reasonable explanation may be cheating.”

If she used to tell you but now she is keeping you in the dark, she may be cheating on you.

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16. She gets mad when you ask questions.

If you have gotten to the point of frustration and feel like you need to talk to her about what is going on, she’ll be angry when you start asking questions if she is cheating on you.

Caleb Backe, Health and Wellness Expert for Maple Holistics, tells Bustle, that unexplained mood swings could be a sign of cheating.

Or, if she is even thinking about it, she’ll lash out at you and somehow make it your fault that you would even ask those questions.

According to Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW in Psychology Today, she may be pushing the blame onto you:

“Cheaters tend to rationalize their behavior (in their own minds). One way they do this is to push the blame onto you.

“Often, their internal justifications for cheating leak out, and they behave judgmentally toward you and your relationship. If it suddenly seems like nothing you do is right, or that things that used to not bother your partner suddenly do, or as if you’re getting pushed away, that could be a strong indication of cheating. ”

People who are lying and trying to hide the truth will go to great lengths to keep themselves and their integrity safe. It’s not personal. It’s about their inability to face the truth.

17. She’s on edge all the time.

Even if you are just hanging out, she seems cranky or nervous.

She might be having major feelings of guilt about her actions and she will project those feelings onto and try to make you feel bad for the way you are.

According to Lillian Glass, Ph.D. in Oprah Magazine, you can tell if your partner is hiding something if “they are rocking back and forth” when they are chatting with you.

This shows a sign of nervousness.

It’s a defense mechanism that many people employ to protect themselves and the other person.

Despite cheating on you, she still cares enough to try to protect you from what is really going on.

18. She’s finding new hobbies and interests

You know what happens when someone falls in love. They start to become interested in what their new partner is interested in and they try their best to learn about it.

Well, if your girlfriend is suddenly becoming fascinated with all these new hobbies and interests that she never cared about before, then it might be a sign that she has found a new lover on the side.

New, romantic partners almost always open different parts of someone’s personality.

Dr. Caroline Madden, a licensed marriage therapist, says as much herself.

“Part of falling in love with someone is learning what they like…It becomes fascinating and interesting because they find their new lover fascinating and interesting.”

So if your partner has taken up a new hobby, or become obsessed with a new TV show, this might be one subtle sign that they’ve met someone new.

19. She’s avoiding contact

Is she going to bed early or later to avoid talking with you?

Is she not nearly as responsive as she used to be when you’re chatting to her on messenger?

There’s really no reason for her to avoid being around you except that it makes her feel uncomfortable or guilty.

Psychologist Ramani Durvasula says that people who might be cheating “tend to engage in signs of omission”.

“They operate on a “need to know” basis, which is not healthy for a relationship”.

Truth be told, people only avoid contact when they are hiding something, especially in a committed relationship.

So if you suspect that she’s avoiding you, then you might want to bite the bullet and ask why.

20. She’s easily annoyed and angry with you

This is going to sound weird, but cheaters sometimes rationalize their behavior in their own minds and believe that they’re doing nothing wrong.

She might do this by putting the blame on you.

For example, she might tell herself that it’s okay to cheat on you because you haven’t been paying her enough attention lately.

Or perhaps she’ll tell herself that you’ve been mean to her, which had forced her hand to find someone else and cheat on you.

How can you notice if she might be doing this?

The main sign to look out for is if she gets angry at you for even minor inconveniences.

Why?

Because she’s embedded in her mind that you’re treating her badly, so she’ll automatically think that your neutral behaviors are actually an attack on her.

This allows her to rationalize her behavior.

And anyway, if she is acting really short with you or is easily annoyed with you, then you might want to talk to her about that anyway.

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In Conclusion

In going through the above signs, it’s important to recognize that “your significant other could display all…these signs and still not be cheating”, according to Robert Weiss Ph.D., MSW in Psychology Today.

“It might not be cheating, but there is almost certainly something that you and your significant other to talk about.”

You’ve caught your girlfriend cheating: Here’s what you can do moving forward

If you suspect that your girlfriend is almost certainly cheating on you after reading the signs above, it doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the relationship.

Before you make any rash decision or action, you need to let your instinctive emotions pass.

Those feelings like anger, betrayal, and frustration won’t do you any good.

Give yourself time and space to feel what you need to feel without making real decisions.

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You don’t want to live in regret because you acted too quickly.

Here’s how what you can do to get over being cheated on and move forward:

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You’re feeling upset, betrayed, and let down. You can’t help but question your self-worth.

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The problem is, the more you try to deny these feelings, the longer they’re going to stick around.

It’s not until you accept how you’re feeling that you’ll be able to move on from those feelings.

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2. Don’t blame yourself

You don’t need to ask yourself, “Wasn’t I enough?”

What your girlfriend did had nothing to do with you and you shouldn’t feel responsible for their actions.

The fact is, blaming yourself or someone else is wasted energy. You don’t want to play the victim, either. All that will do is give yourself permission to wallow in self-pity.

3. Ask yourself, what do you truly want?

Will you break up with her? Or are you going to continue to give the relationship a shot?

Only you can answer these questions. As I said above, you don’t want to make this decision when you’re angry and upset.

The fact is, it’s going to be different for everyone.

Do you have concrete ties like a house or kids?

If you do, then it might be worth it to continue the relationship.

You need to weigh up the pros and cons and figure out whether you can trust her.

Some couples successfully move on from infidelity and create a better, stronger relationship. Other couples don’t.

Relationship expert Amy Anderson offers some great advice if you’ve been cheated on:

“Always follow what your heart tells you…Do a weekend alone of soul-searching away from distractions and everyone’s opinions…Remember your core value system and try to get centered with a very clear head so you can derive the right answer you need for you…If you are happy staying with your partner who cheated, then that is what works for you… If you know you will always be suspicious or can’t move on from what really happened, you have your answer. ”

Here are some questions you can ask yourself if your partner has cheated on you:

1) Do they care that they’ve hurt you? Do they even understand they’ve hurt you? And do they truly regret what they did?
2) Do you know the full extent of their cheating? Have they actually been honest with you about it?
3) Will you be able to move on? Or will the fact they’ve cheated always be in the back of our mind? Will you be able to trust them again?
4) Is it worth saving the relationship? Or is it better to move on?

5. Talk with your partner

If you want to continue the relationship, then it’s important to have a discussion about the fact that your girlfriend has cheated on you.

If you ignore it and continue with the relationship, then it’s negative energy that will fester in the background. In the long run, your relationship won’t be better off.

You need to be honest about it now and get it all out in the open.

Before you go through with this discussion, of course, you need absolute proof.

So make sure she has actually cheated on you and you’re certain of it.

When you start a discussion about what happened, make sure you figure out what outcome you’d like.

For example, do you want to stay together? Do you want to learn how truly remorseful she is before you decide?

No matter what outcome you’re looking for, talking about your partner’s infidelity is necessary if you are to fix the relationship or if you want to end it with some closure.

“People cheat for different reasons. They may love their partners at the time. Sex addiction, personal insecurity, and payback are just some of the reasons both men and women have extramarital affairs. None of them are good, but understanding why can help,” psychotherapist Barton Goldsmith told Psychology Today.

It’s going to be tough to confront your partner but it’s something you need to talk about if you are to move on with your relationship.

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25 Signs of a Cheating Girlfriend to Look Out For

Often a relationship seems perfect on paper, but deep down, you have a feeling something isn’t right.

Maybe your girlfriend is acting differently, and you’re starting to feel suspicious.

You should be confident your partner is faithful to you, but something’s up.

Without mutual trust, a relationship is not worth pursuing.

Infidelity is not always easy to spot at first, but the truth always comes out.

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What are the initial signs she’s stepping out? Circumstances and situations vary. Plus, we humans are champs at misinterpreting other people’s emotions and actions because we view life through lenses clouded by experience, lack of experience, and pre-programmed assumptions. In a way, the subconscious is the brain’s Achilles’ Heel.

But sometimes, your gut knows what’s what. And it’s particularly good at detecting infidelity.

Which raises the question: What are the first signs of cheating? Let’s dive in.

Gut Instinct: It’s worth a second mention: your gut has a pretty solid radar regarding infidelity. It senses when something is off — when the air you share is slightly sour.
Body Language: Does your partner’s body language feel closed lately? That cringe when you touched them on the shoulder that one time, the way they sit further away from you on the couch now, it all starts adding up when someone’s stepping out.
Soul Space: Does your heart feel a little less full? Are you sometimes overwhelmed by an infinite sense of hollowness when in your partner’s presence? It’s a soul signal that something is dying; when a partner cheats, it’s a symptom of the relationship’s demise.

It can be heartbreaking to find out that the girlfriend you trusted doesn’t truly value you.

That said, if you’re suspicious, don’t pretend nothing’s happening. Watch out for the following signs she may be cheating.

1. She wants more alone time

It’s normal and healthy to spend time apart in a relationship, but if you notice your girlfriend suddenly needs more alone time than usual, it could be cause for concern.

A cheating girlfriend is likely using this time as an opportunity to visit or chat with her lover, especially if she also stops responding to your calls.

2. She hides her phone from you

If you notice a passcode on your girlfriend’s phone when she’s never had one before, this might be a sign she is hiding an affair.

She used to be an open book, but now, she turns off her screen and doesn’t text while you’re around. Maybe your girlfriend takes her phone with her everywhere, even to the bathroom.

Another common sign your girlfriend is cheating is if she suddenly becomes quiet on her social profiles. You notice she stops posting about your relationship or removes photos you took together, and you’re not sure why.

This is her way of doing damage-control to try and prevent you and her affair partner from finding out about each other.

4. She often seems distracted

A more subtle sign of your girlfriend cheating is if she often seems like she’s in another world whenever you’re hanging out together.

Instead of showing genuine interest in your day, she stays glued to her phone and doesn’t seem to be paying attention to a word coming out of your mouth.

5. She becomes less caring toward you

A loyal girlfriend is affectionate and attentive to your needs. It’s a bad sign if you find that your partner seems emotionally withdrawn and cold towards you.

Because of her affair, she has little energy left for you, and you’ll notice a shift in her once caring demeanor.

6. She frequently accuses you of cheating

Does your girlfriend accuse you of cheating seemingly at random? She could just be insecure, but don’t ignore the possibility that she might be the unfaithful one.

Many cheaters subconsciously feel guilty about their infidelity, and accusing their partner is one way it surfaces. Because they know they are capable of cheating, they believe you’re doing the same to them.

7. She seems very unhappy in your relationship

You used to have a fulfilling partnership, but now your girlfriend constantly seems unhappy about the relationship. Her eyes don’t light up like they used to, and you’re not sure what went wrong.

If nothing in your relationship has changed to warrant her new attitude, it could be that she is seeing someone else and has a “grass is greener” mentality.

8. She doesn’t want to spend time with you

If your girlfriend comes up with excuses to avoid hanging out or doesn’t seem excited to see you, don’t ignore that glaring sign of cheating.

As harsh as it sounds, she may feel bored. Often, cheating partners get caught up in the rush of their new romance and won’t dedicate as much time to your relationship.

9. She comes home late and won’t tell you her whereabouts

A girlfriend who is cheating might make it a habit to come home late from nights out with friends. When you ask why she’s late, she’ll be elusive and vague about where she was.

This is suspicious behavior that you shouldn’t ignore. If your girlfriend can’t be honest about her whereabouts, then it’s likely she’s hiding something you’ll want to get to the bottom of.

10. She often hangs out with friends you’ve never met

Hanging out with friends isn’t a red flag in and of itself, but if your girlfriend is frequently hanging out with a crowd you’ve never met, that might mean there’s something more going on.

Your partner should want to introduce you to their friends and acquaintances in a trustworthy relationship.

11. She drastically changes her appearance

Making drastic wardrobe and appearance changes can indicate your girlfriend is stepping out on you. Maybe she has started wearing more revealing clothing and makeup, unlike what she usually wears.

If that’s the case, have a conversation with her. Find out if she’s just experiencing newfound confidence or if perhaps there is another man involved.

12. She stops caring about resolving issues

When you argue, your girlfriend has stopped trying to develop solutions. She seems content to leave things the way they are and doesn’t care about resolving issues.

This behavior indicates she isn’t committed to you and might be looking elsewhere. A truly loyal partner will want to work things out with you and improve the relationship.

13. She avoids intimacy.

Don’t ignore physical signals your girlfriend is cheating. Maybe she has started to avoid intimacy with you. If this change comes out of the blue, ask yourself why.

It’s not uncommon for cheaters to get their needs fulfilled solely by their affair partners, leaving your relationship to suffer the consequences.

14. She changes the subject when you bring up a certain someone.

If you notice she gets cagey or acts strange when you bring up a particular individual, this is a red flag there is a deeper connection there.

Notice the next time you mention this person – does she change the subject or avoid the conversation entirely? If so, this is suspicious behavior that you shouldn’t overlook.

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She over-explains her actions.

Be wary of over-explaining, as it’s often a tactic used by cheaters to cover up their lies. If a story seems too elaborate, it’s likely made up entirely.

Honest girlfriends won’t feel the need to explain every little thing. They will be able to tell you about their day without feeling the need to spill minor details that have little relevance to their story.

16. She doesn’t keep her promises.

Promises made by cheating partners are often forgotten. This is because they have become so wrapped up in the life of their lover that they simply don’t have as much time to give to you.

If you start noticing a pattern where kk, continually breaks her promises, there is probably a deeper reason.

17. She asks you specific questions about your schedule.

Asking overly specific questions about your schedule and when you will be where is a common pointer that your girlfriend is cheating.

This is her way of keeping tabs on you so that she can avoid getting caught. By knowing your exact whereabouts at all times, she can avoid any run-ins that might reveal to you what she’s doing.

18. She randomly love bombs you.

Maybe your girlfriend has been emotionally distant lately, but some days she is overly affectionate and gives you lots of attention. Be wary of behavior that seems out of the blue.

This is a prime example of love bombing, a tactic often used by cheaters to throw you off the scent of their infidelity.

19. She flirts with others in front of you.

One of the most alarming signs of your girlfriend cheating is if she openly flirts with others in your presence, not seeming to care about hurting your feelings in the process.

This demonstrates that she doesn’t respect your relationship or care about preserving it. It’s a strong indication that she is already unfaithful or planning to cheat.

20. She avoids direct eye contact.

Avoiding direct eye contact is often a sign that someone is lying or attempting to steer clear of confrontation. She might do this because she’s afraid you’ll notice something is off.

Avoiding eye contact during intimate moments is a telltale sign of cheating. A girlfriend who is truthful should have no problem looking you in the eyes when she speaks to you.

21. She doesn’t invite you out anymore.

If your partner used to invite you places frequently, but you’ve noticed her invitations have become few and far between, don’t overlook that sign she’s cheating.

Maybe she stopped inviting you out so that she could bring her lover instead. Or, you have mutual friends, and she doesn’t want them spilling the beans about her disloyalty to you.

22. She gives vague explanations about her activities.

A cheating girlfriend will give vague explanations about where she has been and who she was with. She does this in an attempt not to raise your suspicions.

If she doesn’t have to make up an elaborate story, she won’t have to remember the details of her lies. It’s easier for her to make up a bare-bones story than a detailed one.

23. She picks fights with you more often

Occasional disagreements in a relationship are normal. But if the number of fights suddenly increases, it could be a sign that your girlfriend is cheating on you.

Notice whether she initiates most of your fights and whether they are over small things. She could be doubting your compatibility and comparing your qualities to her lover’s.

24. Her personality changes

You don’t even recognize this person in front of you anymore. Her personality has changed so much that she’s no longer the person you fell in love with.

People change as they grow, but it shouldn’t be so drastic that you feel you don’t even know them anymore. A complete 180 personality difference is a glaring sign of infidelity in a relationship.

25. You have a gut feeling something is off

If you have a gut feeling something is wrong, then it probably is. If you think your girlfriend is cheating, look for evidence or confront her directly.

Trust your intuition because it’s most likely correct.

How Do You React to a Cheating Girlfriend?

There isn’t always a right way to react when it comes to a cheating GF. No one deserves to be cheated on, and it’s heartbreaking to find out your relationship was a lie.

The following are a few ways to react to your cheating girlfriend:

Confront her on her behavior and see if she denies it or tries to explain it away.
Let her know that you find cheating unacceptable and you would like some space away from her to process things.
Make a decision: Can you forgive her for cheating? Or is it better that you go your separate ways?

Soberly Assess the Situation

Before you do anything, take a step back and look at the situation objectively. Consider the possibility that you may be anxious or paranoid and, therefore, recklessly flinging around baseless accusations.

This can be tricky because you may not think or see things clearly. Jealousy and suspicion distort perceptions. So, if possible, gather proof before confronting your girlfriend — even if it’s circumstantial.

It’s Time To Confront Her

If you’re sure she’s guilty, if your gut is shouting, then it’s probably time to confront her. But check your emotions first because even if she is cheating, you have zero right to be abusive — either emotionally or physically. Prepare yourself for the worst and hope for the best.

After you’ve broached the topic, think about the outcome. Did she have reasonable explanations? Or were they more far-fetched? Did she fess up? Her reaction will determine your next steps.

Make Your Views Clear

Whether she confesses or not, clarify your views on the matter. Is it a dealbreaker? A serious offense that comes with enormous consequences?

At this point, some people request a relationship break to evaluate the situation. It’s a time to “try on” separation and gauge the relationship’s salvageability.

Does the sting lessen with time to a point where your love for them is greater? Or does it feel like a weight has been lifted?

Define Your Limits and Decide

Your ultimate task is to make a decision. Can you forgive her for cheating or not? Is it time to part ways? Or is the relationship strong enough to fight for its survival?

Many factors will impact the choice, from family status to finances, and only you can weigh those things against the infraction. Just make sure you think long and hard about the decision. It’s okay to be angry and upset, but don’t be reckless or shortsighted in making your final edict.

Why Did My GF Cheat?

It’s difficult to comprehend how someone can claim they love you yet betray you in the worst way possible. You might feel like it’s your fault if your girlfriend cheated, but it isn’t.

None of these are valid reasons to cheat, but they may help you better understand your girlfriend’s actions:

She feels underappreciated or unvalued in your relationship.
She is trying to fulfill something that she thinks is missing from your relationship.
She doesn’t feel supported and therefore resorts to receiving outside support.

Can a Cheating GF Change?

After you’ve spent so much time with someone, you may not want to end the relationship, even for infidelity. Only you can decide if your girlfriend is truly regretful of her actions and willing to put in the work to heal your relationship.

A cheating girlfriend can change if:

She owns up to her actions and shows real remorse.
She agrees to individual or couples counseling to work through the issues that led her to cheat.
She is willing to do whatever it takes to rebuild trust in your relationship.

If you’re wondering how to tell if your girlfriend is cheating, these are some telltale signs to look out for.

Maybe you’ll find out that your suspicions were correct. In that case, you should confront her on her behavior and then decide whether or not to continue the relationship.

4 signs that a girl is cheating on you

If you recognize your beloved in more than two points, it's time to be wary: sadly, it seems that she has started an affair on the side.

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She has new friends

She spends most of the evenings of the week with Nadenkas, Irishkas and Olenkas who have come from nowhere. On the one hand, “I’ll be late, I’m meeting with Olenka, well, you remember, this is the one we met on Pilates” can be a banal lie. Not Olenka there, but some mustachioed horseradish Lev Venediktovich and a booked hotel room, which, of course, you are not supposed to know.

On the other hand, it really can be new friends. Because the old guard of classmates is not a fact that they will praise their friend for Lev Venediktovich and everything they do there on state-owned sheets. Especially if you and the girl have been together for a long time, her friends managed to come to terms with your candidacy and even began to sympathize with your couple. So, instead of giving the traitor the opportunity to savor the details of an unauthorized romance, they can easily condemn her, reason with her and spoil her mood with their high-minded “Are you completely crazy, mother ?! What kind of Lev, moreover, Venediktovich ?! March home!" But a woman needs to pour out everything that hurts somewhere. For this, new friends are needed, who, on the contrary, usually find it funny to hear about other people's love vicissitudes.

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It is logical that the traitor will begin to look at your absences with friends and business trips without judgment, as before, but calmly and even with joy. In the current situation, it even plays into her hands that you will find something to do without her. The husband is in business / classmates / football / new spinning - it means that she is free to do anything and with anyone.

She began to take care of herself maniacally

A blush, a sparkle in her eyes, a pile of new dresses - it's all obvious and simple, like naval pasta. For some reason, dresses are mentioned in every article about cheating. But it is much more significant when a girl suddenly begins to pay increased attention to what she has UNDER her dress. No, it's understandable that girls only take deep hair removal and buy vicious lace if they have a lover. But you must admit: the relationship of people who have been together for a long time is to some extent colored by everyday promiscuity. Being a wife or an experienced girlfriend, a girl can sometimes afford to be a la naturel: with prickly legs, peeling nail polish and chintz shorts with polka dots.

Another thing is if she is in the middle of an affair. Here you have to be fully equipped around the clock. The life of an unfaithful woman is a complete challenge and impromptu. It is with their husbands that they end up in bed according to a predictable schedule, and they run away to their lovers early in the morning, at lunchtime, and instead of an evening Pilates workout. In short, draw conclusions if suddenly a girl began to behave as if she was working as a lingerie model, who without clothes must look better than in McQueen's most luxurious dress.

She speaks and behaves differently

One of the main symptoms of the presence of a new boyfriend in a woman's life and the fact that everything seems to be serious there is a sudden change in the profile of her interests. And the vocabulary, for no reason at all, replenished with new words. A rare girl can just sleep with a man, limiting herself to a mean “Hi. I have an hour and a half." She needs a lover, among other things, in order to talk. And in some cases - and mainly for this. Of course, a woman will inevitably absorb like a sponge everything that he screws into her in her free time from bed. In short, it’s worth straining if a girl suddenly starts talking about the fact that it’s better to catch crucian carp on pearl barley and in windy weather - although you are ready to swear that she used to be as far from the topic of fishing as Till Lindemann was from the Miss Universe title .

She is inseparable from her phone/tablet/computer

The girl probably would like to spend all her free time wrapping her legs around her lover's slender figure, but she cannot afford it for quite obvious reasons. Therefore, she will look for opportunities to maintain communication at least virtually - since there are social networks, instant messengers, zooms and other text messages. From now on, a smartphone and a computer will become her best friends. Whenever you look at her, she will probably stare at the screen, bursting into a Kustodiev blush every now and then, and to the reasonable question “Who is it there so late?” mumble something unintelligible about work or another Nadia, who was allegedly bitten by a raccoon.

Of course, she will do her best to protect her personal life from your sudden participation in it: password-protect your phone and computer, access social networks only from your tablet, hide devices in a closet, and lock the closet with a barn lock - despite the fact that before scattered them wherever they fell. So your quite harmless request to call from her phone or use her computer can easily bring the girl to a heart attack. She would rather eat them right in front of you, explaining her strange behavior by saying that she lacks iron in her body, than allow you to touch them.

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How to understand that a girl is cheating? 11 exact signs of a girl's infidelity

They say there is no such man who would not cheat. But for some reason, no one voices the fact that girls are not far behind in this either.

Several reasons can push young ladies to cheat, the most basic and common:

- relationship problems,

- material gain,

- loose lifestyle and addictions,

- illness (nymphomania),

- psychological or physical abuse.

Girls, in terms of hiding betrayals, are smarter than men. In this we are a little behind. But the signs that she is cheating will be given out in any case.

When suspicion settles in a person, it begins to destroy from within. Because of this uncertainty, quarrels and scandals soon arise in relationships, which can push a girl to cheat, even if she was faithful before.

Hardly anyone would like to wear horns. Men can recognize harbingers of infidelity by a number of symptoms.

Today we have to figure out how to understand that a girl is cheating on .

Excessive independence . Starting a relationship, a couple learns to live together, distributes duties and responsibilities. This is logical. The girl gladly accepts the help of a partner. Over time, a bond is formed between the lovers and a certain dependence on each other.

Since it is difficult to understand whether a girl is cheating on you in the early stages, but you can, first of all, you need to learn to notice the slightest changes in her behavior.

Look closely, has she become more independent? Does she really need your help? Perhaps she is preparing to break up with you or someone else is helping her in everything.

Excessive independence is the first symptom of adultery.

Discontent . Just as you torment yourself from the inside with suspicion, so the girl becomes irritable because of her secret and fear of exposure. She starts to strain absolutely everything that is connected with you.

Some psychologists believe that this is due to the fact that the girl wants to find at least something bad in you in order to justify her infidelity. Like it's not her fault, but you're so bad that you yourself pushed her into someone else's bed.

Quarrels from scratch have become more frequent - your suspicions may not be unfounded.

Probing the soil . How to understand that your girlfriend is cheating on you if she tries her best to hide it? The first wake-up call is that she actively begins to take an interest in what time you will come home from work, whether business trips are planned, whether you will accidentally be in some area at a certain time. Although from the outside it may seem that she is just attentive and caring, but on the other hand, she may find out this information so that you do not become an eyewitness to her betrayal and do not see her lover.

But again, if such an interest can be traced from the very beginning of your relationship, then it is quite possible that this is not a sign of betrayal, but a character trait.

Neglect of you . Once a sociable, cheerful and talkative girl began to neglect communication with you? It's time to ask the question - are there any objective reasons for this? Perhaps now she is going through hard times at work or in the family, her health has deteriorated, or she is facing some exciting event. If nothing like this happens, it's time to beware.

Try to ask her what is the reason for such a depressed mood. Maybe it has nothing to do with change.

Delays at work . When to cheat on a girl who works? Of course, after work. How can you justify your long absence? A lot of work. It's hard to check. Ideal crime.

It is possible that right now her management decides who to promote and she just wants to win this career race. But then the girl will definitely not forget to mention it in a conversation with you.

Talk to her, support her, come to her office after the end of the working day and bring food. So you can show your concern and at the same time check the veracity of her words.

New acquaintances . She has new people in her life, and the girl spends a lot of time with them? She doesn't invite you to meet them? Take the initiative and offer to spend time with her new friends.

New acquaintances are always good. The more people you know, the more information and support you have. But if it comes to infidelity, and your chosen one avoids your meetings with her new friends, there is reason to worry.
One of two things here: either she is shy of you, or there is someone in this company whom you should not know and see. Both of these reasons will not lead to anything good for the relationship.

Detachment . What do not ask, but she does not want to tell how she is doing? In a relationship, heart-to-heart conversations are of great importance. During them, people become closer, open up to each other, show their trust. If someone does not want to make contact, as it was before, then there is a problem. Perhaps this is not related to cheating, but a clear detachment from your partner will sooner or later lead to it or to separation.

You will not be able to know how to understand that a girl has cheated and hides it until you learn to determine the objective reasons for this or that behavior of your chosen one.

Changes in sex . One way or another, any problems in relationships are projected onto intimate life. There must be a middle ground here. Since some girls may completely stop having sex with you, while others, on the contrary, will begin to surprise you with their new knowledge and frequency.

So don't be happy about the inexplicable surge of sexual energy in your girlfriend. Moreover, how could she learn new things? Maybe she has a good teacher and it's definitely not you.

These two extremes are indicators of adultery on the part of the girl.

Social dependency . Many sin that phones and computers have begun to take a lot of time in life, but no one is doing anything to change this.

As for cheating, girl must somehow communicate with her man on the side. Therefore, she will often look at the screen of the gadget. Any guy should immediately have the question “who is there in touch, who is more important than me?”

Of course, it is possible that this is a banal Internet addiction. Although in this case, you need to work on this problem. Almost all psychologists put this dependence on social networks on the same level as alcoholism and drug addiction. Only the destruction of the body and psyche is slower.

Isn't love when you don't need anyone else when you're around? Try to spend time outside the access zone with another world. If the girl cannot do this, determine whether it is a betrayal or an addiction, based on these tips.

Appearance . Girls become obsessed with their appearance when they want to please someone. Think about whether she has recently begun to devote a lot of time to makeup and styling, whether her wardrobe is replenished faster than it was before. Also, a sudden concern about the presence of flaws in the figure should also alert you.

Of course, it is possible that she simply decided to take care of her appearance, so this item cannot be considered independent. But when combined with other factors, it completes the picture.

Stealth . Think about where your girlfriend is now and what is she doing? Difficult to answer? Then think why don't you know? Does she rarely answer calls, does she hide her phone, or does she always keep it around? All social networks and gadgets on passwords unknown to you? Was it always like this or did this mystery appear suddenly? There should be no secrets between people in a relationship, unless, of course, these are strong and trusting feelings.

I'm not advocating to go through her phone and look for correspondence - these are already desperate actions. But there's nothing wrong with accidentally picking up her phone to make a call and check if the lock is on.

Also consider whether there are reasons for this? It is not uncommon for parents or people who live with small children to set a lock on the screen to avoid the consequences of little researchers studying the phone. The main features of are in another article.

If you have already learned how to understand if a girl has cheated on you and, moreover, these suspicions have been confirmed, the next step is awareness and decision making.

In no case do not get excited and attack her with your suspicions . Remember how many crimes were committed on the basis of jealousy and treason. Such behavior does not end well.

If you managed to record the fact of infidelity yourself, first retire to a quiet and peaceful place. Think carefully about whether you are ready to come to terms with your girlfriend's infidelity. Is your relationship worth turning a blind eye to and starting over?

It is clear that trust cannot be restored immediately, but there are couples who survived this and were able to start over.

If you are not completely sure of your suspicions, try talking to her. She can evade the conversation, but you have to insist on it. Remember restraint.

Ask her directly and openly if everything suits her in your relationship. Did you answer that everything is fine? Ask why her behavior has changed and give your reasons that made you understand that everything is not as smooth as it was before.

Some girls immediately confess when they see that their boyfriends are serious about this topic. Others are not recognized for anything. They also begin to turn the conversation to the shortcomings of their partner. This is called "psychological defense", it is not for nothing that they say that the best defense is an attack. Such a reaction certainly indicates treason or other significant secrets.

In any case, the next step is to solve the problem. Whether you break up or continue to build relationships is up to you. If the second option, then measures must be taken to preserve the couple, external irritants and culprits must be eliminated.

If you decide to forgive and start over, never remind her of the betrayal. If at the slightest skirmish this topic comes up, then it is not closed.

I hope now you have the basic information on how to understand that a girl cheated on you and what to do about it. Let your suspicions be unjustified and only proof that the girl is dear to you and you do not want to lose her.

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About the Author: Dmitry Svetlov

In 2012, after the third divorce, Dmitry began to actively study seduction. He went through all the trainings, read all the books and watched all the videos, until in 2016 he received the status of a PMES project PM.

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