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30 Forgiveness Quotes That'll Help You Move On
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“It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive.”
By Monica Chon and Riane Capalad
What comes to your mind when you say the words “I forgive you”? Does it feel like a healing moment, or does it just feel like it's the right thing to do? In a TEDx talk event, screenwriter, writer, and public speaker Sarah Montana bravely shared her tragic experience of losing her family to gun violence; the trigger was pulled by her brother's friend. Her exact words were "Forgiveness is designed to set you free. When you say, "I forgive you," what you're really saying is 'I know what you did is not okay, but I recognize that you are more than that. I don't want to hold us captive to this thing anymore.
I can heal myself, and I don't need anything from you.'"
When recently reflecting on the subject of forgiveness, Oprah offered her own words of wisdom. "Forgiveness is giving up the hope that what would have, could have, should have happened, in fact…it did not happen. It's accepting the reality of what did happen, and moving on,"
Tired of letting anger from past mistakes, hurtful breakups, toxic family relationships, or lies occupy space in your heart and mind? There's an extraordinary healing power in taking the steps to forgive someone, or even yourself.
Oprah shared in one of her weekly intention videos: "This truth has been fundamental in allowing me to live my best life. It was transformative. You have to come to the realization that what might have been is not what is." So whichever phase you're at on this journey of healing and moving on, these forgiveness quotes from leaders like Gandhi and Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. may inspire you to move forward instead of reliving the past.
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“We must develop and maintain the capacity to forgive. He who is devoid of the power to forgive is devoid of the power to love," Martin Luther King Jr. wrote in A Gift of Love.
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"Never does the human soul appear so strong as when it forgoes revenge," the poet once wrote.
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The author and civil rights activist said in the December 2000 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, "It’s one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself, to forgive. Forgive everybody."
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"Surely it is much more generous to forgive and remember, than to forgive and forget," she wrote in An Essay on the Noble Science of Self-Justification.
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"True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience,'" Oprah once said.
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The leader of India's nonviolent independence movement wrote in 1931 in his weekly paper Young India, "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.
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"To err is human; to forgive, divine," wrote the 18th-century English poet in An Essay on Criticism.
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The prolific actor, writer, and producer said in a 2010 interview with The Telegraph,"It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you."
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In a message celebrating the 2002 World Day of Peace, Pope John Paul II said, "Forgiveness is above all a personal choice, a decision of the heart to go against natural instinct to pay back evil with evil."
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In her 2013 novel The Storyteller, the best-selling author wrote, "Forgiving isn’t something you do for someone else. It's something you do for yourself. It's saying, 'You’re not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.' It’s saying, 'You don't get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future.'"
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In the lyrics of his song "Just the Two of Us," the actor, rapper, and Fresh Prince of Bel-Air star writes,"Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad.
Let God deal with the things they do, because hate in your heart will consume you too."
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"Take forgiveness slowly. Don't blame yourself for being slow. Peace will come," said the Japanese American artist and peace activist in a Tweet.
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In her novel Evermore, Noël wrote:"Forgiveness is healing...especially forgiving yourself."
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"Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It means, rather, that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship. Forgiveness is a catalyst creating the atmosphere necessary for a fresh start and a new beginning," Martin Luther King Jr. said in a sermon published in A Gift of Love.
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The American television personality known for his beloved children's show said in the book Wisdom from the World According to Mr. Rogers, "Forgiveness is a strange thing. It can sometimes be easier to forgive our enemies than our friends.
It can be hardest of all to forgive people we love."
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In the December 2000 issue of O, The Oprah Magazine, the late poet said, "You can't forgive without loving. And I don't mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, 'I forgive. I'm finished with it.'"
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The South African Anglican cleric and Nobel Peace Prize laureate said in a 2010 interview with The Forgiveness Project, "Forgiveness is not weak. It takes courage to face and overcome powerful emotions."
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"Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them," wrote the martial artist in his book Striking Thoughts: Bruce Lee's Wisdom for Daily Living.
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The former president of South Africa and Nobel Peace Prize recipient wrote in his autobiography Long Walk To Freedom, "As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn’t leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I’d still be in prison.
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In her song "Under the Water," the American singer-songwriter sang,"Forgiveness is the needle that knows how to mend."
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"Let’s shake free this gravity of judgment / And fly high on the wings of forgiveness," sings the four-time Grammy winner in her song "Wings of Forgiveness."
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The former Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star wrote in a 2014 blog post for Bravo,"I believe forgiveness is the best form of love in any relationship. It takes a strong person to say they’re sorry and an even stronger person to forgive."
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Boese wrote in 1967's, The Weekly Digest: "Forgiveness does not change the past but it does enlarge the future."
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The New York Times bestselling author wrote in Stories for a Teen's Heart,"Never forget the nine most important words of any family: I love you. You are beautiful. Please forgive me."
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The late American poet known for “Stopping By the Woods on a Snowy Evening” wrote in his poem “The Star-splitter,” "If one by one we counted people out / For the least sin, it wouldn’t take us long / To get so we had no one left to live with.
/ For to be social is to be forgiving."
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Gigi Hadid posted, ""Love deeper. Speak sweeter. Give forgiveness." in a 2014 Twitter post.
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"Listen, people can do unforgivable things, but you have to let it go and say, 'Look, we're all human beings. We make mistakes.'" Jennifer Aniston said in a 2014 interview with TooFab.
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Author John Green wrote, "The only way out of the labyrinth of suffering is to forgive" in his book Looking for Alaska.
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In an interview with Steve Harvey, American actress and director Christine Lakin said, "When someone wrongs you, you don't forgive them for them, you forgive them for you."
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"Forgiveness is designed to set you free. When you say, "I forgive you," what you're really saying is 'I know what you did is not okay, but I recognize that you are more than that. I don't want to hold us captive to this thing anymore. I can heal myself, and I don't need anything from you,'" screenwriter, writer, and public speaker Sarah Montana bravely shared her experience in her Tedx Talks speech.
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Monica Chon Monica Chon is the former editorial fellow at Oprah Daily, previously OprahMag.com.
Riane Capalad Riane Capalad is the Editorial Intern at Oprah Daily, where she covers a little bit of everything from culture to achieving your healthiest self.
51 Forgiveness Quotes to Help You Let Go and Move On
Forgiveness is clearly a voluntary action. After someone hurts us, forgiveness is something we choose to do when we’re ready to move on, or when the love in our hearts speaks louder than temporary hate.
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In a world where being out for revenge seems to be more at hand, and appears to bring greater satisfaction, they say it takes courage and strength to do it. “An eye for an eye” is a reaction to being hurt, physically or emotionally. The need for retaliation poisons our minds, and it takes hard work to finally be able to say “I forgive you.
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Forgiveness is about letting go of the past, understanding, and then moving on. It’s about taking care of your own mental health and setting yourself free. Selfish? Maybe, but it’s the kind that does good to others too.
“Forgiveness says you are given another chance to make a new beginning.”
— Desmond Tutu
“There is no love without forgiveness, and there is no forgiveness without love.”
— Bryant H. McGill
“Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.” – Martin Luther King Jr.
“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on the heel that has crushed it.”
— Mark Twain
“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.”
— Jonathan Lockwood Huie
“Anger makes you smaller, while forgiveness forces you to grow beyond what you are.” – Cherie Carter-Scott
“Forgiving isn’t something you do for someone else.
It’s something you do for yourself. It’s saying ‘You’re not important enough to have a stranglehold on me.’ It’s saying, ‘You don’t get to trap me in the past. I am worthy of a future’.”
— Jodi Picoult
“To forgive is to set a prisoner free and discover that the prisoner was you.” – Lewis B. Smedes
“The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.”
— Mahatma Gandhi
“The stupid neither forgive nor forget; the naive forgive and forget; the wise forgive but do not forget.”
— Thomas Szasz
“Mistakes are always forgivable, if one has the courage to admit them.”
— Bruce Lee
“Always forgive your enemies – nothing annoys them so much.” – Oscar Wilde
“All major religious traditions carry basically the same message; that is love, compassion and forgiveness the important thing is they should be part of our daily lives.
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— Dalai Lama
“I think the first step is to understand that forgiveness does not exonerate the perpetrator. Forgiveness liberates the victim. It’s a gift you give yourself.”
— T.D. Jakes
“Forgive, forget. Bear with the faults of others as you would have them bear with yours.” – Phillips Brooks
“Life is too short. I forgive and forget. I have not time to get mad or hate.”
— Debasish Mridha
“Forgiveness is a funny thing. It warms the heart and cools the sting.”
— William Arthur Ward
“You can’t forgive without loving. And I don’t mean sentimentality. I don’t mean mush. I mean having enough courage to stand up and say, ‘I forgive. I’m finished with it’.”
— Maya Angelou
“True forgiveness is when you can say, ‘Thank you for that experience’.” – Oprah Winfrey
“I have always found that mercy bears richer fruits than strict justice.
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— Abraham Lincoln
“Forgiveness does not mean ignoring what has been done or putting a false label on an evil act. It means, rather, that the evil act no longer remains as a barrier to the relationship. Forgiveness is a catalyst creating the atmosphere necessary for a fresh start and a new beginning.”
— Martin Luther King Jr.
“Children begin by loving their parents; after a time they judge them; rarely, if ever, do they forgive them.”
— Oscar Wilde
“It’s not an easy journey, to get to a place where you forgive people. But it is such a powerful place, because it frees you.”
— Tyler Perry
“Before we can forgive one another, we have to understand one another.” – Emma Goldman
“Without forgiveness life is governed by an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.”
— Roberto Assagioli
“When you hold resentment toward another, you are bound to that person or condition by an emotional link that is stronger than steel.
Forgiveness is the only way to dissolve that link and get free.”
— Katherine Ponder
“Throughout life people will make you mad, disrespect you and treat you bad. Let God deal with the things they do, ’cause hate in your heart will consume you, too.”
— Will Smith
“Forgiveness is the remission of sins. For it is by this that what has been lost, and was found, is saved from being lost again.”
— Saint Augustine
“Forgotten is forgiven.” – F. Scott Fitzgerald
“The remedy for life’s broken pieces is not classes, workshops or books. Don’t try to heal the broken pieces. Just forgive.”
— Iyanla Vanzant
“Forgiveness is the giving and so the receiving of life. the latter may be an impulse of a moment of heat; whereas the former is a cold and deliberate choice of the heart.”
— George MacDonald
“How unhappy is he who cannot forgive himself.
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— Publilius Syrus
“Acceptance and tolerance and forgiveness, those are life-altering lessons.” – Jessica Lange
“If there are occasions when my grape turned into a raisin and my joy bell lost its resonance, please forgive me. Charge it to my head and not to my heart.”
— Jesse Jackson
“To understand somebody else as a human being, I think, is about as close to real forgiveness as one can get.”
— David Small
“For me, forgiveness and compassion are always linked: how do we hold people accountable for wrongdoing and yet at the same time remain in touch with their humanity enough to believe in their capacity to be transformed?”
— bell hooks
“The lesson is that you can still make mistakes and be forgiven.” – Robert Downey Jr.
“It is easier to forgive an enemy than to forgive a friend.”
— William Blake
“We think that forgiveness is weakness, but it’s absolutely not; it takes a very strong person to forgive.
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— T.D. Jakes
“As we know, forgiveness of oneself is the hardest of all the forgivenesses.”
— Joan Baez
“Selfishness must always be forgiven you know, because there is no hope of a cure.” – Jane Austen
“I learned a long time ago that some people would rather die than forgive. It’s a strange truth, but forgiveness is a painful and difficult process. It’s not something that happens overnight. It’s an evolution of the heart.”
— Sue Monk Kidd
“Forgiveness is not to give the other person peace. Forgiveness is for you. Take that opportunity.”
— Mackenzie Phillips
“Forgiveness means letting go of the past.” – Gerald Jampolsky
“It’s toughest to forgive ourselves. So it’s probably best to start with other people. It’s almost like peeling an onion. Layer by layer, forgiving others, you really do get to the point where you can forgive yourself.
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— Patty Duke
“I like second chances. I’ve given people second chances. You have fall-outs with friends, and forgiveness is a great thing to have. It’s not easy to forgive. I definitely don’t forget, but I do forgive.”
— Odette Annable
“Without forgiveness, there’s no future.” – Desmond Tutu
“Just knowing you don’t have the answers is a recipe for humility, openness, acceptance, forgiveness, and an eagerness to learn – and those are all good things.”
— Dick Van Dyke
“Without forgiveness life is governed by… an endless cycle of resentment and retaliation.”
— Roberto Assagioli
“Reconciliation and forgiveness can actually help all of us move on in a healthier, happier way.”
— Chesa Boudin
“Thankfully, forgiveness, and the healing it brings in its wake, has nothing to do with ‘deserve.'”
— Eric Metaxas
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Sayings of great and successful people about forgiveness - Success Constructor
Sayings, quotes and aphorisms about forgiveness
"Forgive your enemies, but do not forget their names.
" Kennedy D.
“If there is anything unforgivable in the world, it is the inability to forgive.” Azhar E.
“Don't think about what your forgiveness means to your adversaries, those who offended you in the past. Enjoy what forgiveness gives you. Learn to forgive, and it will become easier for you to go to your dreams, not burdened by the baggage of the past. nine0008 Vuychich N.
“Who takes revenge sometimes regrets what he did; he who forgives never regrets it." Dumas A.
“From a young age, learn to forgive the shortcomings of your neighbor and never forgive your own.” Suvorov A.
“If you happen to get angry with anyone, be angry with yourself at the same time, if only because you managed to get angry with another.” Gogol N.
“Forgiveness coming from the heart turns an unhappy past into a happy future.” nine0008 Luule W.
“Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.” Bernard S.
"He who did not forgive the enemy did not experience one of the most refined pleasures of life." Lavater J.
“The ability to forgive is a great gift. Especially since it doesn't cost anything." Smith B.
“Forgiveness does not require you to trust the person you are forgiving. But if he confesses and repents, then a miracle will happen in your own soul that will allow you to reach out and begin to build a bridge of healing between you. And sometimes that road can lead you to the miracle of completely restored trust. Forgiveness is needed first of all by the forgiver, it frees you from what is eating you alive, what is killing your joy and ability to love fully and openly. nine0008 Young W.
"People who don't feel love for themselves usually don't know how to forgive."
“As soon as a person gets sick, he needs to look in his heart for someone to forgive.” Hay L.
“One of the secrets of a long and fruitful life is to grant forgiveness to all people every night before going to bed.
” Landers E.
“If you can't forgive people, you can't accept your wealth. If your soul is filled with hate, love cannot find a place in it. You must get rid of the negative feelings that devour you and do not give you rest. nine0008 Gage R.
"Poor words must be forgiven by all means." Dostoevsky F.
“Forgiving those who revile me, I can always put myself above them.” Napoleon B.
"Forgiveness from hopelessness is no better than a curse." Sinyavsky V.
“Forgiveness is a two-way road. Forgiving someone, we forgive ourselves at this moment.” Paulo Coelho
"I can't forget, but I can forgive." nine0008 Mandela N.
“If you want to be happy for a moment, take revenge; if you want to be happy all your life, forgive.” Schubert F.
“Farewell, they say when they are unable to forgive. » Ivanovich R.
«We must forgive each other if we do not want to live like savages. » Zola E.
“The ability to forgive saves us from anger, hatred and waste of spiritual strength.” Mor H.
“If you don't forgive a mistake, you make a mistake yourself. Forgiving meanness, you help to commit another. And stupidity does not require forgiveness at all. She, like the wind, does not depend on anything. It must be accepted as it is, and, defending itself from its harm, look for its benefit. nine0008 Yankovsky S.
“Life has taught me to forgive a lot, but even more to seek forgiveness.” Bismarck O.
“…If I accuse others of being responsible for my anger, irritation or envy, I thereby resist the opportunity given to me to learn the necessary lesson. And this lesson will be repeated in life, but only more insistently and painfully. In my opinion, the main meaning of this provision is very simple: bearing personal responsibility for what is happening inside me. Knowing myself and the underlying causes of my own negative reactions, I can literally nullify the mechanism of repeating cycles in my life.
By refusing to blame others for my lack of love and forgiveness in myself, I can greatly reduce or even eliminate all the suffering in my life.” nine0008 Sharma R.
"It's easier to forgive an enemy than a friend." Blake W.
“It hurts and it’s sad when your loved one leaves this world, you have not been forgiven during his life…” Semirdjyan T.
“I hate people who can’t forgive.” Nietzsche F.
“Vengefulness is the inability to forgive oneself other people's mistakes.” Omurov S.
“The ability to forgive is a property of the strong. The weak do not forgive." Gandhi M.
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“A stupid person does not forgive or forget anything; the naive forgives and forgets; A wise man forgives, but does not forget. Sas T.
"Beware of those whom you have forgiven: generosity will still be remembered to you. "
“The ability to forgive does not come immediately, but as you realize that no one cares about your offenses…” nine0008 Babayan O.
“It is not difficult to forgive a person, it is more difficult not to reciprocate him.”
"Forgive everyone - you will be glad to have free time." Bednova V.
“Understanding does not mean forgiving, it means judging by concepts…” Chernov V.
“Forgive your enemies – this is the best way to piss them off.” Wilde O.
"You must forgive those whom you cannot avenge." Davidovich A.
“A woman forgives everything, but she often reminds that she has forgiven. » Beauvoir S.
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Forgive me. Quotes about forgiveness. - HAPPINNES EXISTS! Philosophy. Wisdom. Books. — LJ
Sorry. Quotes about forgiveness.
We all sin against each other, but few are able to repent before another. And in order for the relationship to be resurrected, you need to come up and say: "I'm sorry." And if it is from the heart and they answer you from the heart, the evil will go away. nine0005
Priest Alexy Potokin
Forgiving and accepting forgiveness is a whole art. The art of forgiveness lies in the fact that stupid forgiveness multiplies sin. Late forgiveness kills, but wise and timely forgiveness inspires.
Priest Konstantin Kamyshanov
You do not forgive others in order to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.
Forgiveness does not change the past, but frees the future. nine0005
If you suffer from the injustice of a bad person, forgive him, otherwise there will be two bad people.
Augustine Aurelius
The ability to forgive is a great gift.
Especially since it costs nothing.
The best reaction to enemy criticism is to smile and forget.
Vladimir Nabokov
BE ABLE TO FORGIVE
One must be able to forgive. Many people think that forgiveness is a sign of weakness. But the words "I forgive you" do not mean at all - "I am too soft a person, therefore I cannot be offended and you can continue to spoil my life, I will not say a single word to you", they mean - "I will not let the past spoil my future and present, so I forgive you and let go of all grievances.0005
There is magic in forgiveness… The magic of healing. Both in the forgiveness that you give, and in the one that you yourself receive.
The ability to forgive saves us from anger, hatred and waste of spiritual strength.
Everything begins with forgiveness.
If we keep a grudge in ourselves, this is a manifestation of pride. I don't take it as mine, I blame it on someone else. I do not understand that I am a Soul that has done some wrong things, and now these lessons are returning to me. nine0005
If a person has hurt you, do not respond in kind, do good. You are a different person. You are better. Remember.
One of the most useful life skills is the ability to quickly forget all the bad things: don't get hung up on troubles, don't live with resentment, don't revel in irritation, don't harbor anger... You shouldn't drag all sorts of rubbish into your soul.
If people are judging or criticizing you, remember that more often than not, at the very moment they are blaming you, they are thinking only of themselves. Don't get angry or resentful of them, just understand that it hurts people when they can't match what you're superior to. nine0005
The ability to forgive and ask for forgiveness is the foundation for a strong relationship.
It is important to learn to sincerely and wholeheartedly say "I'm sorry" to each other, instead of hurting each other with needles of reproaches and claims.
Resentment and resentment are like poison that you drink in the hope that others will be poisoned. Happiness begins with forgiveness.
Cassie Combden
As soon as a person gets sick, he needs to look in his Heart for someone to forgive. nine0005
Forgiveness is stronger than all victories.
One little boy, when asked what forgiveness is, gave a wonderful answer: "It is the fragrance that a flower gives when it is trampled on."
The most necessary science is the science of forgetting the unnecessary. Antisthenes.
Your ability to love others... and yourself... is directly proportional to your willingness to forgive others and yourself.
For example, instead of loving the parents you would like, try to learn to love the parents you have.
nine0203 In order to heal from past trauma, you will first have to get angry, mourn the losses, and finally forgive them all.
You will not be able to fully forgive anyone until you are willing to voluntarily give up the right to revenge and reparation... - forever.
You do not forgive others in order to heal them.
You forgive others to heal yourself.
Chuck Hillig
"You cannot defeat the enemy until you heal what you think is low in yourself." nine0295 I-Ching (Book of Changes)
Very often in other people we painfully perceive precisely those actions, reactions, feelings that we sin ourselves. And real, true forgiveness of another person begins with the ability to see one's own weaknesses and shortcomings.
Perhaps we need to learn to forgive ourselves before we can allow others to forgive us the wrong we have done them, or before we ourselves can (in our hearts or face to face) forgive them the wrong they have done to us.
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And if you forget, it will become easier.
Forgive me, and there will be a Holiday.
But you strive and you will succeed...
Do not be stingy and you will be rewarded!
And it will come back to you - you will be rewarded...
And you believe - and they will believe!
Start by yourself - it will start all around!
And you LOVE! And you will count!
The ability to ignore is even more valuable than the ability to forgive. For we are compelled to forgive what we have already attached importance to. nine0005
Today is Forgiveness Sunday.
Don't forget to ask for forgiveness from everyone you hurt during the year.
And also - do good deeds!
Forgiveness protects our heart
Sometimes we forgive the offender, sometimes we keep the bitter feeling in ourselves, sadness or thinking of a way to take revenge.
And how does this affect our cardiovascular system? First, the participants in the experiment had to recall the case when they were severely offended. They were asked to imagine that they were taking revenge on the offender, and in order to warm up the insult, to remember how they suffered, what pain they experienced. Then they were asked to forgive their offender, to try to find an explanation for his act, to admit that all people have their weaknesses ... Cardiograms and tomography readings left no doubt: negative emotions and resentment increase the heartbeat and increase blood pressure, and the manifestation of empathy immediately alleviates stress. So now it is scientifically proven: it is harmful to be offended. nine0005
Do you already know Ho'oponopono? This is a very simple spiritual practice with incredible results. The essence of the practice is that you open your heart and create a reality full of love and harmony with the words:
1. "I love you."
2. "Forgive me.
