How do i know if my therapist likes me
12 warning signs your therapist is attracted to you
Therapy is an intense and personal experience.
It necessarily involves disclosing vulnerable facts about yourself and your life to your therapist.
One result of this can be a growing attraction for you from your therapist that can cross the line into becoming outright flirting or a sexual or romantic relationship.
Here’s how to tell if that’s what’s going on between you and your therapist.
12 warning signs your therapist is attracted to you
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If you’re going to therapy then your goal is to get help for problems you are having in your emotional situation and your life.
Having a therapist who’s attracted to you can be awkward and uncomfortable or in rare cases it might even be something you’re open to.
Here’s how to know if your therapist is into you and what to do if he or she is.
1) They’re focused on your dating and sex life
Sex and dating are important, and they are also key subjects in many types of therapy.
If Sigmund Freud had been 100% wrong nobody would pay attention to his theories on sexual development and stigma.
The truth is that sex does matter, and things like sexual shame, desire and sublimated longing are very much real.
But that doesn’t mean that everything is sexual.
Like Freud said, “sometimes a cigar is just a cigar.”
Accordingly, there is reason to be a little bit suspicious if your therapist is always returning back to sex as a topic of discussion.
Sometimes they’re not just willing to talk about awkward or personal subjects, they’re solely focused on them because they want to get between your legs.
If it starts to seem like the sexual topics are going overboard then be aware because you could be on to something.
2) They ask flirtatious questions
Next up in the top warning signs your therapist is attracted to you is that they ask flirtatious questions.
What does it mean for something to be “flirtatious” exactly?
It basically means that they joke or ask questions which relate to your personal life in ways that make you either vaguely uncomfortable or turned on.
What’s the dividing line?
Let’s be honest here:
The dividing line is whether or not you’re attracted to your therapist.
If you are then their flirtatious comments and questions may be something you’re into and don’t mind.
If you’re not into them then it can basically ruin your therapy and make you hesitant about returning for future sessions.
Flirting is something that tends to happen now and again. It’s really not the end of the world and it can even be fun.
But if your therapist is making a concerted effort to get in your dress or pants and you’re not into it, it can be awkward to say the least.
Plus it removes the barrier of neutrality and objectivity that your therapist is supposed to have regarding your counseling.
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4) They hint at their own romantic situation
Does your therapist talk about his or her romantic situation?
An indication that they may be after more than just helping you out is that they talk about being single, being unsatisfied in their relationship or even talk about considering breaking up.
Therapists are people too, of course, and they have problems like all the rest of us.
But your sessions should principally be about you, not about your therapist injecting their personal issues into your time.
And if this is happening a lot then it’s not only a breach of good professional practice, it’s also an indicator that they’re probably angling for a piece of your ass.
5) They try to initiate and increase physical contact
One of the other warning signs your therapist is attracted to you is that they try to push the physical boundary.
They touch you, caress you, let their hand linger on yours and even go in for a hug that lasts just a little too long.
And they know it.
Like I said, therapists are people too. That means they have physical and emotional desires.
Just because you’re their patient and they shouldn’t be crossing any lines with you doesn’t mean they won’t.
After all, look how humanity started according to the Bible:
The forbidden fruit must have tasted pretty damn good.
Or at least it must have looked pretty amazing to have tempted Eve to that extent.
If that apple was so ravishingly sexy, then just extend the metaphor outwards.
Just because you’re his or her patient doesn’t mean you’re not sexy, captivating and fabulous.
And it doesn’t mean your therapist isn’t going to put the moves on you.
6) They dress up just for you
How is your therapist’s style game?
Do you notice that they seem to be looking absolutely great every time you see them?
Now maybe they just have a very advanced sense of style and personal hygiene.
But more likely they are trying to be at their absolute best every time you come around.
If you can see a pattern of your therapist looking like they just spent an hour getting themselves dolled up, let me tell you:
They probably did.
And they probably want to take you on a moonlit cruise in Venice and disrobe you and ravish you.
If that’s not something you find very appealing you should be aware that they seem to be very into you in any case.
7) They try to undermine your past relationships
How does your therapist behave about your current or past relationships?
These are probably going to be a topic of discussion in your sessions, which is natural.
However if they try to undermine your relationships it can be a sign that they want you for themselves.
This is especially the case if you have an ex you are still in love with and want to get back together with.
However, your therapist puts water on the fire saying that it would never happen or will “damage” you and so on.
I won’t lie:
Getting an ex back is far from a sure thing.
But if it wasn’t possible nobody would bother trying. It’s definitely possible.
But it has to be done in the right way.
You can’t “talk your ex” back into being with you or force him or her to fall back in love with you.
Instead, you have to actually change how your ex feels about you through an indirect way that still leaves the ultimate choice up to him or her.
It’s something that relationship psychologist James Bauer explains in this excellent short video.
This includes specific texts you can send and a roadmap for winning back your ex’s heart.
If you have a therapist who’s into you and wants to talk down to you about your love life, don’t let them. Get your ex back instead.
Watch his excellent free video here.
8) They play off your fears of being alone
Being alone can be difficult. Even though it has many rewards and the more introverted of us might be into it, the thought of being alone for a long period or having no option except to be alone can be daunting.
One of the warning signs your therapist is attracted to you is that they play off this fear.
If you’re single, they talk about the potential psychological dangers of being single for two long, or the detrimental health effects of being single.
At the same time, they admit that online dating is quite hit and miss and that modern dating is a real headache.
What options are left? You’re looking at them: your therapist.
You see the game your therapist has played here. He or she has demonized being single, admitted that many of the solutions to it don’t work and then left only themselves or people like them as the potential solution.
After all, they understand you, right? Why shouldn’t they also be the one undressing you one day in the future?
(I can think of a number of reasons why not, starting with ethical and legal considerations).
9) They initiate phone or text contact outside of work
Having your therapist’s number is normal, obviously. But it’s usually their office number or at least their work-dedicated line.
In some cases they may give you their personal number or use only one number in any case as a sole practitioner.
In my opinion that’s still fine and perfectly professional.
However, where it crosses the line is if they try to get a lot closer via text or calling in ways that are not directly related to your therapist-client relationship.
Examples would include sending flirtatious texts, photos that are of a more personal nature, inquiring inappropriately into your personal business or sending you sexual or suggestive memes and jokes.
This could often start out more innocently with a couple of jokes that seem harmless but lead down a sexual path…
Or it could involve sharing a few photos of what you’re up to and having that escalate into a more flirtatious exchange later on or some days later…
10) They frequently compliment your appearance and style
Are you looking good? Hopefully.
Either way, if your therapist is into you beyond the professional level, you’ll note that they often comment on your hot appearance or style.
As a master of words they aren’t likely to be too classless about it and will make it sound tasteful and respectful, at least the first few times.
But as their appreciation of your appearance becomes more and more obvious you’ll get the strong vibe that this therapist wants to butter your bread, so to speak.
And you might not be wrong.
They may even say somethings like:
“Well, you certainly must get a lot of male attention looking like that, I must say. Wow! Let’s talk about how you feel in a sexual sense of being an object of desire for men.”
Or:
“You’re just such a handsome and… well-built young man, I can see how women might be distracted by you or treat you as more of an object of…desire. I know it makes you feel undervalued, but I think that we also need to explore how your sexuality is part of a cycle of empowerment for you.
”
“Well-built,” “explore,” :desire,” “distracted?” I think you’re getting the picture here.
If the therapist was playing a game of Scrabble the board would practically be rated X by now.
Additional signs to look out for:
- Your therapist making intense and sensual eye contact with you as much as possible, including subtle winks
- Your therapist licking his or her lips or biting them as they eye you up
- Your therapist staring at your cleavage, behind, chest, lips or figure in a lustful or obviously desirous way
- Your therapist letting their touch linger when touching you in any way such as a hug, handshake, back pat or reassuring gesture of some kind
11) They suggest that you meet up outside of a therapeutic context
If you already are in fairly steady contact with your therapist, another aspect to watch out for is meeting outside of a work context.
It could start as a drink just to get together, particularly if you have had loneliness or social issues as part of what you’re doing therapy for.
This in itself already crosses the ethical doctor-patient barrier, but it’s something that certain less orthodox therapists might decide to do, at least in the context of a group get together or event.
However if it goes beyond this and basically becomes a situation of you meeting your therapist or being invited out in some kind of dry run for dating, you can be sure they’re into you as more than just a patient.
12) They strongly resist you changing therapists
If you talk about potentially switching therapists or ending your therapy, how does your therapist react?
If they are a professional who has only your mental and emotional wellbeing in mind then they will question you about why you are making this decision and the progress you have made in their view, along with what remains to be worked on.
They will focus on what’s best for you, not for them.
If they are interested in you in a romantic or sexual way, however, they are likely to become quite vexed about your decision to stop therapy or change therapists.
They may even, unfortunately, take it somewhat personally in the way that a person might behave when facing romantic rejection or humiliation.
“Why are you leaving me?” “I just don’t know why you’d do this to me at this point,” with a hint of hurt in his or her voice is not really the kind of drama most of us would hope to have when changing therapists.
It’s the kind of question you might expect when breaking up with a romantic partner you’ve been dating, not when parting ways with a professional who you’ve been interacting with as part of their job.
If they’re taking it very personally and try hard to convince you to stay, you can make a safe bet this armchair analyst is interested in more than just your beautiful mind.
Closing the door on controversy
The therapist-client relationship is sacred, similar to the attorney-client relationship or doctor-patient link.
A romantic or sexual relationship interrupts the intended neutrality of the process and is also potentially unwelcome and upsetting.
However if you find that many of the signs above are true and you are quite sure your therapist is into you, you must consider whether you feel the same and are interested in becoming involved with them, too.
If so, it is best to sever the professional relationship as soon as possible and finding yourself another therapist, in order to make the beginning of an intimate relationship with your current therapist appropriate and fully ethical.
If you’re not quite sure where you stand or what you feel, I once again recommend getting in touch with the love coaches at Relationship Hero.
They can help you unravel what’s going on and differentiate therapy from romance and the potential for real relationships from temporary attraction.
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5 Signs Your Therapist is Attracted to You
Relationships between clients and therapists are undoubtedly unique. Although therapy is often thought of as a service, the developed therapeutic relationship goes far beyond this concept.
Clients are provided with a safe space and unconditional compassion by therapists, where they feel comfortable disclosing their emotions and sharing personal issues.
An intimate relationship [1] like this creates the perfect setting for feelings of attraction.
Clients are often attracted to their therapists, but many don’t consider that the same could happen to the therapist.
“Therapist sexually attracted to client”: good or bad?– is a widely debated topic. The classical psychotherapists [2] believed that this attraction blocks the therapist’s understanding of the patient. However, modern therapists believe that this provides an insight into how the patient affects other people and can help in the therapeutic process.
Therapist-client relationships are incredibly intense, and social norms don’t always apply. In any other relationship, actions such as paying attention or showing empathy can be perceived as romantic interest; however, this is very much the therapist’s job.
So, to answer the question, “Is my therapist attracted to me?”– the context of their actions is crucial.
The actions may include a shift in boundaries, such as allowing sessions to go overtime or taking your calls between sessions, or if they appear to seek out opportunities to touch you deliberately.
What do Countertransference and Transference mean?
Transference occurs when the client’s feelings for someone else are redirected to the therapist. In contrast, countertransference occurs when the therapist projects his or her feelings and personal experiences onto the client.
Transference [3] is when the client becomes fixated on the therapist. More often than not, this fixation is sexual. It involves more than just acknowledging the client’s attractiveness to the therapist and can lead to inappropriate behaviour on the client’s part that violates therapeutic boundaries. Transference is considered an essential step in psychoanalysis.
Countertransference [4] occurs when the therapist reacts to the client and may occur as a result of the client’s transference.
Therapists often have thoughts and feelings based on their own unexpressed psychological needs and conflicts that are revealed when their clients share some characteristics with someone from a formative relationship in their lives.
Therapist-client relationships can be negatively affected by countertransference, and progress can be blocked. Transference and countertransference are essential topics that the therapist should inform the client about.
Examples of Countertransference
Countertransference occurs in a variety of ways, including:
- Sharing Too Much Information: The therapist may start sharing extremely personal information in too much detail. This “opening up” may not be beneficial to the client’s treatment.
- Parent and Child: The therapists’ childhood experiences, or their experiences with their children, can get projected onto the clients. By challenging the client, the therapist starts to make the client feel worse than when they started.
- “You are Special”: The therapist mentions that one client is unique and different from the others. Romantic feelings can develop, and a desire to start a sexual relationship may be generated.
Mutual Attraction in Therapy: What a Therapist Should Not Do?
An expert therapist will construct an environment where certain lines are inviolable, and 100% of the attention is devoted to your treatment.
However, the lines may become blurry during the course of treatment.
With transference, a vital part of the healing process, and countertransference as a byproduct, mutual attraction is a strong possibility in therapy.
The focus of therapy is on the clients’ emotional experiences and inner turmoil. When a therapist admits to having feelings for a patient, the patient begins to imagine the two as a romantic couple. The focus of the experience shifts to external circumstances.
As a result, the very aim of therapy is sacrificed.
If the patient wants to talk about their own attraction, the therapist should recognize this and gently lead them back to the source of the draw and how it got started. With this acknowledgment from both ends, the client can understand their motivation, and once again, also the focus is returned to them.
What makes you think, “I think my therapist is attracted to me.”? It is often suggested that clients experiencing transference may feel this way regardless of countertransference taking place.
The following list provides some signs your therapist is attracted to you:
- Changes in Therapeutic Sessions: Extending the sessions unnecessarily, reducing the fee for your benefit.
- Behavioural Changes: Dressing a certain way, moving closer to you during sessions, and seeking to touch you more frequently. Aspects of your life are also avoided for fear of upsetting you, hampering your recovery.
They ask to meet with you outside of therapy without reason.
- Sympathy instead of Empathy: The therapist starts to share the clients’ feelings (sympathize) rather than understanding (empathize). The sympathy may be highly exaggerated.
- Personal Disclosure: Therapists often begin to disclose information about themselves to clients. It is common for them to cry.
- Judgment: They make evaluations of your life and the people in it, regardless of your opinions. They start giving clients advice instead of letting them come to their conclusions.
How to Deal with Countertransference in Therapy?
For a client experiencing countertransference from the therapist, it is essential to have open communication.
- Discuss: Feel free to talk to the therapist about your feelings.
- Explain: If their actions and behaviour make you uncomfortable, you have to let your therapist know. Considering that therapeutic interactions are unique and every relationship is novel, it is possible that they simply do not have a good sense of how best to interact with you yet.
- Transparency: It is crucial that you are honest with your therapist and find out if you can still work together or if maybe he can help you find another therapist. As difficult as it can be to be open and honest, it is the best thing you can do for your well-being and that of your therapists.
Openly discussing “romantic” countertransference can be very effective. If your therapist assertively expressed and enforced firm boundaries while exploring these dynamics, imagine how helpful your sessions would be.
How to Deal with Countertransference as a Therapist?
Countertransference can be managed most effectively through awareness.
- Acknowledge: Therapists can prevent damage by recognizing countertransference as soon as it starts happening. When dealing with clients, you must be mindful of your feelings. Is the client’s information critical to you? Whenever you are dealing with a client, stay neutral and mindful of your reactions.
- Personal Life: A therapist whose personal life is hectic or stressed can easily give in to countertransference. To work with clients effectively, therapists must practice self-care and have a positive mindset. Make sure that you and your client are aware of each other’s true intentions.
- Consult: If you find yourself exhibiting defensiveness or reactivity towards your client’s situation, contact your peers in the mental health field. They can help you effectively deal with countertransference.
- Refer to Others: The therapist should always prioritise the patient.
Clients with whom they are having difficulties avoiding or managing countertransference should be referred to another therapist.
To assume that a therapist will never have a countertransference reaction is unrealistic. It’s additionally helpful for therapists to identify the client’s issues and differentiate between their triggers and those of their clients.
References
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6 fake signs that a guy likes you
Sometimes people show signs of attention, but it is not clear whether they like us romantically or just friendly sympathy. Or maybe even a wake-up call. We figured out where the green light really is, and where is the signal that nothing will work out.
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Myth: a person does not respond to messages because he is in love and wants to pique my interest
How it really is
In reality, you can be ignored for a variety of reasons: perhaps the person really decided to stir up your interest, or maybe he is busy, or something unforeseen happened.
Or he simply does not say directly that he is not interested in you, so as not to offend. Psychologist Martin Nemko argues that ignoring gives the second person a feeling of uncertainty and insecurity. You may not understand whether you are being rejected or not.
In such cases, Nemko advises politely but directly to ask what is the matter. This way you can clarify the situation.
Kristina Prokofieva
REPT-therapist, CBT-therapist, graduated from the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, 6 years of experience
It is important to consider your communication in a complex way. If you see the positives, have you noticed the negatives as well? If a guy ignores you, does he make up for it with other signs of attention? To interpret someone else's coldness as something exceptionally good is to idealize a person and plunge into fantasies about him.
But fantasies may not come true - and if they do, it may not be easy.
Myth: A person is either affectionate or cold because that's how strong relationships start
Reality relationships. In some cases, this can really revitalize the senses, especially if the roller coaster is associated with positive emotions. However, if the dramatization is closely intertwined with the negative, then it is more likely to result in a breakup.
University of Illinois researcher Brian Ogolsky found that couples in which an emotional rollercoaster regularly causes negative emotions in lovers break up twice as often as those in more stable relationships.
Kristina Prokofieva
REPT-therapist, CPT-therapist, graduated from the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, experience 6 years
Not everyone knows how to deal with their feelings, including sympathy.
Emotional swings can be inherent in a person with an anxious-avoidant attachment type.
Usually, the anxious-avoidant type of attachment is formed in childhood, when parents are inconsistent and unpredictable: sometimes they respond to the child's call, sometimes they don't, sometimes they allow something, sometimes they forbid it, sometimes they scold it, sometimes they ignore it. So anxiety and misunderstanding ripen in the child, what to expect from the most important object in the world: will it really be there when it hurts and is scary, or is it not?
A child with this type of attachment adapts to the unstable emotional state of his parents. And growing up, he arranges emotional swings in his relationships. Sometimes he gets closer, sometimes he moves away, because for him, intimacy and close relationships are about instability and duality.
Myth: control and prohibitions are always signs of care and sympathy
How it really is
According to psychologist Lisa Frontes, when a partner forbids you to leave the house without him, does not allow you to communicate with people he does not like, insisting that the girl dress more “modestly” is not a concern, but a manifestation of control.
Over time, a girl who gets into such a relationship may lose the feeling that she has the right to her own point of view.
The controlling partner can become a filter of the outside world. Those who are isolated face low self-esteem and hardly remember what they themselves once thought, felt and believed in something.
Lisa Frontes believes that a partner is controlling, not caring, if he:
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decides how you should spend your time;
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sets the rules in every little detail, for example, makes you clean according to the schedule that he came up with;
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lowers self-esteem, attributing negative qualities to you;
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makes you prove your love by breaking your personal boundaries. For example, it requires a password from the phone.
Myth: when I see people flirting with others to make them jealous
How it really is
Psychologist David Bass believes that flirting with others can really be a provocation. This is one of the manipulations, the purpose of which is to find out how much the partner needs the relationship and whether it is necessary to invest emotions in them. However, most often jealousy is caused when people are already in a relationship.
In this case, family therapist Laurie Gordon suggests identifying what makes you jealous and what upsets you about the person's behavior. Then you should talk to him, but not accusingly, but explaining exactly how you feel.
The conversation can be structured like this:
" I noticed, , that you were unusually friendly with that woman at the party.
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" I guess that means, , that you're upset about something."
« I'm wondering what is the matter and is there any subtext in this.
In this way, the person will not feel guilty, but at the same time will be able to answer your questions directly.
Kristina Prokofieva
REPT-therapist, CPT-therapist, graduated from the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, experience 6 years
People can flirt for different reasons. And not only to cause jealousy. Maybe the partner likes the process itself or likes another girl, and it’s not about you at all. But maybe he wants to tell you something, but doesn't know how.
The context is important here. If you're already in a romantic relationship, it's best to ask directly so as not to fuel this "game".
Also, communication with someone else, provided that you are already in a relationship, may be associated with a fear of getting close to a partner. A person is afraid that if he gets close, he may eventually be abandoned. This is typical for people with an anxious-avoidant type of attachment.
Myth: If a person is jealous for no reason, then he cares about me
How it really is
According to psychologist Stephanie Ortig and psychiatrist Francesco Bianchi-Demiceli, there are two types of jealousy: “normal” and “delusional”. "Normal" jealousy manifests itself when there is a real threat to the relationship, for example, another person shows signs of attention to a partner.
The "delusional" persists despite the absence of any real or even probable threat. At the heart of "delusional" jealousy may be the fear of being not only abandoned, but also humiliated.
The person probably likes you but doesn't know how to keep the relationship going. Psychological studies show that most often jealous people are people with an anxious type of attachment. Since they have a distrust of their partner, they are more likely to become jealous, including for no reason.
Myth: a person says that he is interested in me, but does not offer to start a relationship. He definitely likes me, he's just shy
Really
Psychologists Edward LeMay and Noah Wolf found that a person who feels sympathy for a friend can see romantic feelings where there are none.
People want to believe that their sympathy is mutual, although in reality it is not.
Their survey also showed that the behavior of people in love becomes more proactive. Over time, in some cases, this did lead to romantic relationships. However, it is worth remembering that this does not always happen, and sometimes interest can only be a manifestation of friendly sympathy.
Kristina Prokofieva
REPT-therapist, CBT-therapist, graduated from the Faculty of Psychology of Moscow State University, experience 6 years
When a person is faced with uncertainty, he begins to think. The psyche gives rise to possible scenarios to outline the near future, as if trying to control it. A person does not tolerate ambiguity, so he thinks out the details in order to protect himself.
But really it's better to just ask what exactly the guy means.
The phrase "I'm interested in you" can mean both friendly and romantic overtones. I think, in order to clarify the situation, you can ask in response to this: “What does this mean to you?” or “What do you put into it?” This will help you better understand the intentions of the other person.
How to understand that a man likes you
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more time together with the object of passion. A man will look for any reason to meet. Psychologist Andrei Zberovsky spoke about this in an interview with Evening Moscow.
According to the specialist, a man interested in a woman tries to spend as much time with her as possible, to help, care for and involuntarily touch her.
— A clear sign of sympathy on the part of a man is his willingness to spend as much time with a woman as possible.
If a man ranks time, says that he has only half an hour / hour left, then this is a sure sign that he is not interested in the girl. Also, the initiative of a man says a lot, - the psychologist explained.
The expert noted that a man will certainly have a desire to please a girl he likes and impress her. He will not spare money on the first date.
- For example, on a first date, a man will invite you to a nice place and will try to feed and drink whatever you want, and even more. He will offer dessert himself or another glass of champagne,” he said.
However, if a man does not like a girl, he will try to limit himself to a cup of coffee and try to get rid of her as soon as possible, the psychologist warned.
Zberovsky believes that with obvious sympathy, a man will look for a reason to shorten the distance and be as close to the lady as possible. And at any opportunity, he will try to touch the hair or take the hand.
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- If a man likes a girl, then he tries to inhale her scent, enter her personal space, will ask what perfume she has.
In addition, he will want to touch her, the expert is sure.
According to the psychologist, compliments are an integral part of playful communication and flirting. A man will say them to his beloved at every opportunity. In addition, the man will try to help the girl, solve her problems and make her laugh.
Non-verbal signs, gestures and facial expressions can also be used to guess a man's sympathy for a woman. However, all people are different, and it is impossible to focus on these manifestations in all cases, the expert believes.
- There is no one pattern here, because men can have different experiences with women and character traits. For example, a womanizer will look at her point-blank and will not be afraid to approach, and a shy person will look away and keep her distance. Also, a little excitement can indicate sympathy, for example, twisting the ring on your finger or nervously twisting the phone in your hands. Such fine motor skills are a sign of sympathy.
