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12 Tips for Letting Go of the Past

One thing that connects us as human beings is our ability to feel pain. Whether that pain is physical or emotional, we all have experiences of being hurt. What separates us though, is how we deal with that pain.

Experts have found that when emotional pain prevents you from healing from a situation, it’s a sign that we aren’t moving forward in a growth-oriented way.

One of the best ways to heal from hurts is to learn lessons from the situation and use those to focus on growth and forward momentum. If we get stuck in thinking about what “should have been,” we can become immobilized in painful feelings and memories.

If you’re trying to move forward from a painful experience, but you’re not sure how to get started, here are 12 tips to help you let go.

1. Create a positive mantra to counter the painful thoughts

How you talk to yourself can either move you forward or keep you stuck. Often, having a mantra that you tell yourself in times of emotional pain can help you reframe your thoughts.

For example, says clinical psychologist Carla Manly, PhD, instead of getting stuck in, “I can’t believe this happened to me!” try a positive mantra such as, “I am fortunate to be able to find a new path in life — one that is good for me.”

2. Create physical distance

It’s not uncommon to hear someone say that you should distance yourself from the person or situation that is causing you to be upset.

According to clinical psychologist Ramani Durvasula, PhD, that’s not such a bad idea. “Creating physical or psychological distance between ourselves and the person or situation can help with letting go for the simple reason that we are not having to think about it, process it, or being reminded of it as much,” she explains.

3. Do your own work

Focusing on yourself is important. You have to make the choice to address the hurt that you’ve experienced. When you think about a person who caused you pain, bring yourself back to the present. Then, focus on something that you’re grateful for.

4. Practice mindfulness

The more we can bring our focus to the present moment, says Lisa Olivera, a licensed marriage and family therapist, the less impact our past or future has on us.

“When we start practicing being present, our hurts have less control over us, and we have more freedom to choose how we want to respond to our lives,” she adds.

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5. Be gentle with yourself

If your first response to not being able to let go of a painful situation is to criticize yourself, it’s time to show yourself some kindness and compassion.

Olivera says this looks like treating ourselves like we would treat a friend, offering ourselves self-compassion, and avoiding comparisons between our journey and those of others.

“Hurt is inevitable, and we may not be able to able to avoid pain; however, we can choose to treat ourselves kindly and lovingly when it comes,” Olivera explains.

6. Allow the negative emotions to flow

If you’re fear of feeling negative emotions is causing you to avoid them, don’t worry, you’re not alone. In fact, Durvasula says that many times, people are afraid of feelings such as grief, anger, disappointment, or sadness.

Rather than feeling them, people just try to shut them out, which can disrupt the process of letting go. “These negative emotions are like riptides,” explains Durvasula. “Let them flow out of you… It may require mental health intervention, but fighting them can leave you stuck,” she adds.

7. Accept that the other person may not apologize

Waiting for an apology from the person who hurt you will slow down the process of letting go. If you’re experiencing hurt and pain, it’s important you take care of your own healing, which may mean accepting that the person who hurt you isn’t going to apologize.

8. Engage in self-care

When we are hurting, it often feels like there is nothing but hurt. Olivera says practicing self-care can look like setting boundaries, saying no, doing the things that bring us joy and comfort, and listening to our own needs first.

“The more we can implement self-care into our daily lives, the more empowered we are. From that space, our hurts don’t feel as overwhelming,” she adds.

9. Surround yourself with people who fill you up

This simple yet powerful tip can help carry you through a lot of hurt.

We can’t do life alone, and we can’t expect ourselves to get through our hurts alone, either, explains Manly. “Allowing ourselves to lean on loved ones and their support is such a wonderful way of not only limiting isolation but of reminding us of the good that is in our lives.”

10. Give yourself permission to talk about it

When you’re dealing with painful feelings or a situation that hurt you, it’s important to give yourself permission to talk about it.

Durvasula says sometimes people can’t let go because they feel they aren’t allowed to talk about it. “This may be because the people around them no longer want to hear about it or [the person is] embarrassed or ashamed to keep talking about it,” she explains.

But talking it out is important. That’s why Durvasula recommends finding a friend or therapist who is patient and accepting as well as willing to be your sounding board.

11. Give yourself permission to forgive

Since waiting for the other person to apologize can stall the process of letting go, you may have to work on your own forgiveness.

Forgiveness is vital to the healing process because it allows you to let go of anger, guilt, shame, sadness, or any other feeling you may be experiencing and move on.

12. Seek professional help

If you’re struggling to let go of a painful experience, you may benefit from talking to a professional. Sometimes it’s difficult to implement these tips on your own, and you need an experienced professional to help guide you through the process.

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To let go of past hurts, you need to make the conscious decision to take control of the situation. However, this can take time and practice. Be kind to yourself as your practice refocusing how you see the situation, and celebrate the small victories you have.

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9 tips for moving on from the past – for good Posted by:
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Why do we hold on to the past? Why is it so difficult to let go of experiences that have caused us pain and suffering?

Many of us get stuck in the past because of our need for certainty. Certainty is one of the Six Human Needs and is fundamentally about survival. We need to feel certain that we can avoid pain and, ideally, find some comfort in our lives. Letting go of the past also means stepping into the unknown. It means having the courage to let go of what is familiar – even if it’s negative – and being vulnerable enough to embrace and learn from what’s ahead.

The other reason it’s so difficult to learn how to let go of the past has to do with the way we link emotion to information. Consider, for example, a woman who has a feminine core. If her partner does something that causes her emotional pain, she may tend to bring it up over and over again throughout the relationship. Her partner feels like it’s impossible to win because no matter how much he does to amend the situation, she continues to punish him for his previous transgressions.

But there is a very real reason why she can’t figure out how to let go of the past.

Think back to the tragic day of 9/11. Chances are you can probably picture who you were with and what you were doing when you heard about the terrorist attack. Can you say the same for August 11, 2001? Your memory is likely blurry when it comes to those details. Few people can remember what was happening a month before the attacks. This is because we do not retain information that does not have feelings attached to it. 

Information with emotion makes an indelible impression. A person with a highly feminine core will attach emotion to anything that impacts them in a significant way, especially if it causes them pain or suffering – and it makes letting go of the past more difficult for them.

Compare that to someone with a masculine core. A highly masculine person does care and feel things deeply, but masculine energy is about breaking through and letting go while feminine energy is about filling up and gathering. When there is still emotion tied to a memory, moving on from the past becomes increasingly difficult for those who are biologically predisposed to gather.

What is this all costing us? How do we loosen our grip so we can move forward in a healthier, happier way? 

As Tony says, “We’re not experiencing life at all – we’re experiencing our mind. ” Watch the video below and read on to learn how to forget the past and start living a life full of more joy and freedom.

1. Turn letting go of the past into a “must”

The first step is to acknowledge what is holding you back and think about why you must move on. What exactly are you holding on to – a failed relationship? A slight from a friend or family member that you just can’t get over? Do you need to forgive someone – either in person or in your own heart – so that you can let go of anger and step into a more peaceful state?

Once you have identified what’s holding you back, ask yourself: “What are the reasons that I absolutely must move beyond this?” How will your life change when you learn how to move on from the past? How will it change the trajectory of your relationships and help you stay connected with your partner? And how will you feel in this new chapter of your life?

This is one of the most important parts of the process because it will help you stay committed to letting go of the past. Gaining a clear sense of purpose is essential to establishing any goal. Your purpose will serve as your emotional drive when you feel like giving up. You will inevitably face setbacks and challenges, but if you have a strong enough reason and a purpose that drives you, you will stay focused and dedicated.

2. Identify your emotional habits

Identifying your emotional habits is one of the most challenging parts of letting go of the past because it requires deep introspection. How do you live your life? What are your limiting beliefs? Where do you live emotionally?

When you grow accustomed to certain emotions, even negative ones, you don’t notice how they affect you on a daily basis. You don’t realize that you’re stuck in a negative emotional loop – you believe you’re reacting as anyone would to any given situation. But our unique emotional habits can have a profound influence on the way we look at life, the way we act and how good we are at moving on from the past. So why settle for a life where we empower the negative emotions and disempower the positive?

Identifying your emotional habits starts the shift toward a more positive experience. Your emotions are like a muscle: You can train yourself to feel frustrated, sad, stressed or even depressed after a challenging situation arises. Or you can train yourself to feel passionate, joyful and strong, even when something bad happens in your life. When you take charge of your emotions, you can learn how to let go of the past in a way that makes you feel lighter and freer instead of fearful.

When you catch yourself falling into a negative emotional habit, work to cut off the thought and switch gears immediately. The more you condition yourself, the more wired those emotions become and the more you adapt to any situation thrown your way.

3. Condition your mind

The ultimate breakthroughs in life happen by learning strategies, developing an empowering story and ensuring you’re in the right state to move forward. To do this, you must condition your mind every single day.

If you don’t take the time to examine and change your habits, life starts to happen to you instead of for you. No matter how smart you are, how savvy you are or how inspired you are, if you don’t stand guard at the door of your mind, then you give tacit approval to what is disempowering, disenchanting and disillusioning. Instead of focusing on how to let go of the past, you’ll find yourself distracted by thoughts that keep you rooted in negative patterns.

Tell yourself empowering stories instead of limiting ones. Feed your mind with new knowledge and positivity. Surround yourself with people who make you better and put yourself in a peak state. Work on cultivating a thriving garden instead of a dry patch of weeds.

4. Create empowering rituals

Letting go of the past isn’t easy. Empowering rituals can help you cultivate that thriving garden. There’s a reason that the world’s most successful people all establish daily routines that include things like a healthy breakfast, meditation, exercise and learning new things. It’s the small rituals that you do every day that build momentum and lead to massive change.

Practicing gratitude is another habit that can help you live in the moment, instead of in the past. Start a gratitude journal or practice it during your morning meditation. Think about all that you have to be grateful for in your current life. Realize that everything that happened to you in the past is what made you the person you are now: a strong, powerful person who can bounce back from anything. When you love yourself and your life, it’s easier to let go of the past for good.

5. Shift your focus

So much pain in life is caused by thinking you can control the way other people feel and act. We think that our circumstances are the result of some mysterious force, when they are really the result of our own decisions. We have the ability to turn negatives into positives, setbacks into opportunities, failures into lessons. All we need to do is accept that the only thing we control in life is our own actions and decisions – and shift our focus away from other people and events outside our control.

You can’t take back an unhealthy relationship, but you can learn from it. You can’t go back in time and fix a bad childhood, but you can realize that, as Tony says, “Your past does not equal your future.” Every day is a chance to start over. From the minute you wake up, you make choices. Learning how to let go of the past means breaking the pattern and focusing on creating the life you deserve, not dwelling on the one you used to have.

6.

Teach yourself to be present

You must also shift your focus to be mindful of the present. Remember, the present is the only time that matters. The future only exists in your imagination – it isn’t real. The past only exists in your memory – and memories can be tainted with falsehoods. The only thing that is real is what is happening right now. And that’s why there’s nothing more powerful than the human soul rooted in the present moment, free from the past or the future.

You can teach yourself to be present. If you want more joy, more happiness, more fulfillment: Engage with your real life, not your phone screen. Stop giving in to the temptations of technology to transport you out of reality. Bring your attention to this moment right now and take stock of what is beautiful. The biggest key to how to forget the past is to stop living there.

7. Work on personal growth

There’s no better time to work on a personal growth plan than when you want to learn how to move on from the past.  Focusing on learning and improving is not only a distraction from negative thoughts – it’s also empowering. Take this time to figure out what it means to you. Do you want to develop your career? Create the healthy relationship you deserve?

Once you’ve identified the areas you want to work on, pinpoint the obstacles you may face and assemble the tools you need to succeed. As you gather these tools, consider working with a coach during your personal growth journey. 

8.

Surround yourself with positive people

What separates those who achieve their goals from those who don’t? It isn’t time or skills – it’s knowing how to use the law of attraction to get what they want. They know that what you focus on, you feel. The energy you put out into the world is what you get back. And who you surround yourself with is who you become.

Letting go of the past is much more difficult if you are around people who constantly remind you about it. When you put the theory of peer elevation to work in your life and surround yourself with positive people who are committed to growth and progress, you’ll find it much easier to move on. As Tony says, “The quality of a person’s life is most often a direct reflection of the expectations of their peer group.”

9.

Give back

Lastly, as you strive to understand how to let go of the past, find something you want to serve that is greater than yourself. Live for your family, for your community, for humanity. Motive does matter, so find motives that go beyond yourself.

No matter how broke you may be or how broken you feel, you have something to share with others – even if it’s something as common as a smile or a listening ear. When you finally realize that the secret to living is giving, your life will improve dramatically and you will be able to see how to move on from the past.

Your life matters – and if you align yourself with the truth that you’re here not just to “get” but to give, then other people will feel your authenticity and open up to you. Giving back reminds you what you’re made for. Focusing on the needs of others has a way of empowering you to do more than you thought possible.

You’ll feel the benefits immediately and you will become grounded in the moment. You become more productive and you find creative solutions to problems. You find strength when you’re exhausted and you’ll learn how to let go of the past and step forward into the future in a more loving, conscious and compassionate way.

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global history of Ukraine by Yaroslav Hrytsak — critical review of the book / HB


January 5, 20:05

Ukrainian journalists Iryna Kostenko and Iryna Khalupa read a new book by the famous Ukrainian historian and thinker Yaroslav Hrytsak Overcoming the past: the global history of Ukraine and shared with NV with a critical response to it. We publish its full text.

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"Overcome the past or hopelessly get lost in it?" - such a question arose before us after reading the historical essay by Professor Yaroslav Hrytsak Overcoming the Past: The Global History of Ukraine. The author presents his own version of history as “corresponding to new circumstances”, calls “doubt his intellectual homeland” and emphasizes that “he does not claim to be right anywhere” - this is on the one hand. And on the other hand, he provides many debatable conclusions as undeniable truths, arguing that the discussion on this score is “meaningless”.

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We do not agree with the latter and, using several examples (taking into account the format of a journalistic article), let us express a number of arguments.

1 Yaroslav Gritsak in his book claims that the thousand-year-old prince "Rus was neither Russian nor Ukrainian", and considers the discussion on the topic of whose national state Rus was "meaningless". In this regard, we recall that for centuries the main Moscow ideologeme has been the "myth that Kyiv was the cradle of" Russian civilization "(Norman Davies).

The imperial dogma about “common Russian history” and the elder brother from the cradle of three peoples did a good job of “amnesia of historical memory” (Lina Kostenko) and the formation of a slave mentality among Ukrainians. In 1904, Academician Grushevsky put an end to imperial pseudoscience. "Our greatest historian", in the words of Yaroslav Dashkevich, scientifically substantiated the evidence that the heirs of thousand-year-old Rus' are Ukraine and Ukrainians: there can be no "All-Russian" history, just as there is no "All-Russian" nationality ... We know that the Kievan state, right, culture was the formation of one nationality, Ukrainian-Russian, Vladimir-Moscow - the second, Great Russian!0004

With his scientific conclusions, Mykhailo Hrushevsky, based on the teachings of Aristotle, did the most good for the Ukrainian people: he substantiated their autochthonous origin.

And today, during the Russian aggression and large-scale information war in the name of the "historical unity of Russians and Ukrainians", the scientific conclusions of academician Hrushevsky are the basis of the state and invaluable ideological weapon.

So is the discussion on this topic really as “meaningless” as Professor Gritsak claims?

2 “In medieval Europe, monasteries and churches were the main centers of intellectual life. However, we do not see traces of the same activity in Orthodox Eastern Europe,” writes Yaroslav Hrytsak.

Mikhail Grushevsky believed that in the 11th century in Kyiv, under Hagia Sophia, there was a proto-academy - a scientific and intellectual center of Ukraine-Rus, similar to the academy of Charlemagne in Europe in the 9th century.

Doctor of History Mikhail Braichevsky also called the academy a group of well-trained scribes-writers and scientists at St. Sophia Cathedral, "engaged not only in translating from Greek and rewriting existing books, but also compiling new literary works ... The result of this activity was the creation of the first princely library in Rus' , which occupied the Mikhailovsky altar of St. Sophia Cathedral.

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Doctor of History Sergei Vysotsky compares the Kyiv writing school of the 10th-12th centuries. (location - Sofia, Pechersky Monastery) with Preslav - the world's first Slavic writing school:

literary tradition, the spread of literacy, the emergence of education, writers and original works, we can confidently call them the Kyiv writing school, like the Preslav writing school of the 10th century. Modern Ukrainian writing with its origin reaches the heyday of the Kyiv writing school of the 10th-12th centuries. and is one of the oldest graphic systems in Europe."

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The center of intellectual life at the Ukrainian cathedrals and monasteries of Ukraine-Rus and gave the result that University of London Professor Jonathan Gill notes in the History of Christianity:

“Priests and monks raised the Russian people to a higher level than the then Western Europe. Many were literate and could understand the liturgy and spiritual literature translated into Russian, unlike the laity of the West, for whom Latin remained mostly incomprehensible.

3 It is known that the written heritage of princely Ukraine-Rus was severely destroyed - first by the horde, later by the Moscow tsars and queens.

But even the surviving solitary sights are indisputable counterarguments to the statements of Yaroslav Gritsak like: “Aristotle in Rus' was known only from fragments and retellings. For the first time, they fully learned about him among the teachers of the Kiev-Mohyla Academy in the 17th century.

And what about the brilliant intellectual of the 11th century, “an outstanding representative of Russian neo-Platonism,” the first Ukrainian Metropolitan Hilarion? “An unsurpassed erudite, a perfect connoisseur of ancient philosophy,” writes Doctor of History Natalya Polonskaya-Vasilenko and calls his famous speech “The Sermon on Law and Grace” “an outstanding work, which had no equal in the then Greek Church ... The appearance of Hilarion at the dawn of Ukrainian culture testifies that the culture of Ukraine was much older, its roots were deeper than the time of official christening.

Another outstanding scribe and philosopher is Metropolitan Klimentiy Smolyatich of Kyiv (XII century). Only one text by this author has survived, but it is very eloquent. In a response letter to Presbyter Khoma to the reproach that Clement Smolyatich in his writings relies on Homer, Aristotle, Plato, the Kyiv Metropolitan explains that the Holy Letter should be understood symbolically. And for this you need to know ancient philosophy.

Doctor of History Mikhail Braichevsky believes that “the spread in Rus' of the ideas of ancient philosophers, including materialists (in particular Aristotle), is a well-known fact” and suggests that the works of authors like Klim Smolyatich have not reached the present time due to “ deliberate destruction of "heretical" texts.

4 In “History” by Yaroslav Gritsak we read: “The poverty of the Russian intellectual tradition is striking. We will not find Russian equivalents of Omar Khayyam, Abelard... The only thing that we can put side by side from Russian secular literature is the Word about Igor's Campaign. There are, however, serious grounds for suspecting that The Lay is not an original work, but a forgery of the 18th century. ”

That's interesting... While Moscow researchers tirelessly appropriate the famous poem and call its author "a brilliant and in fact the first Russian writer - the predecessor of Pushkin and Tolstoy", a Ukrainian professor replicates doubts about its authenticity.

Yes, there is a proportion of authors who attribute The Word to late writers, in particular to an 18th-century Czech philologist with a schizoid split personality... But there is a whole cohort of respected world-famous scientists who, in their fundamental works, substantiate the originality of the poem. So why single out the first, and not the second, in the context of the history of the famous work?

After all, “The Lay” is not just a separate unique monument: “The Tale of Igor’s Campaign shows that in those days retinue poetry was highly developed in Rus', an entire literary school, like those in the West... A work of this value cannot stand alone - all alone, separately, without the preliminary work of entire generations,” wrote Academician Serhiy Efremov in the history of Ukrainian writing.

5 Professor Gritsak mentions Nestor the Chronicler in the context of the absence of Homer and Plato in the Tale of Bygone Years.

So this is all you need to know about Nestor and his outstanding work? And the fact that the Caves chronicler in the XI century managed to show the history of our state against a wide background of world events and there are no equal chronicles of Nestor in medieval history (Mikhail Braichevsky), and that "our oldest chronicle is laid in verse" (Ivan Franko), and that the thousand-year-old " The Tale" was written in a "living spoken language" (Norman Davies), and that this living spoken language is "the direct ancestor of the modern Ukrainian language" (Academician Agatangel Krymsky) - is it really all now packaged into the concept of the "past" that we need to overcome?

And how can one not remember the wise Isocrates and his famous Panegyric: "... the same thing can be interpreted in different ways - big things can be made small, and negligible big. "

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Such disorientation in historical space is usually caused by the lack of a coordinate system, which our glorious historian Yaroslav Dashkevich called "national priority". This is of general importance always, everywhere, and especially today in Ukraine. “There would be no military conflict in Ukraine and loss of territories today,” historian Igor Girich is convinced, “if the national priority were dominant in the minds of citizens. And this is the great task of the activity of historians.”

It is noteworthy that Professor Yaroslav Hrytsak addresses his book “primarily for young people who were born after the fall of communism and who in the coming years will take power in Ukraine into their own hands.”

In this connection, I recalled the well-known maxim that "first you have to be a bad citizen in order to become a good slave later."

Is it possible to educate a good citizen on history without national priority?

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Overcome the past and open the door to the future

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Instead of remembering the past with resentment, do it with gratitude, because everything experienced, be it good or bad, gives us wisdom. Good things come into our lives only in those moments when we fully realize that we really deserve them.

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Getting past is not easy. Instead of forgetting about it, just closing the book, reading which brings us only tears and regrets, we, on the contrary, re-read these painful lines again and again.

Every action, every event experienced throughout our life cycle is a new experience. It remains in our memory and leaves its mark in the form of emotions and our personal growth. But we shouldn't get stuck in the past.

One should strive to understand, accept, and then overcome the past . As soon as we throw off this burden , our heart and mind will heal from its wounds, and we will feel free again. It's time to expect only good news from life!

We invite you to reflect on this interesting topic in our article.

How to overcome the past and heal the wounds left by it

The past makes us who we are, shapes us as a person. It is likely that you are now at a point in your life when, summing up, it becomes clear that the harm from the wounds and failures of the past outweighs the positive experience of overcoming them.

Losses, disappointments and setbacks, both emotional and professional, tend to be the memories that hurt us the most. And even worse - they do not allow us to move forward .

How to deal with this feeling? How to overcome the past? We propose to learn the main ways in this article.

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Do you want to overcome the past? Stop looking for the guilty, better be healed of resentment and hatred!

Forgiving is never easy . How can you forgive if this person behaved selfishly? How to forgive those who hurt us, knowing it perfectly well? Sometimes we come across these kinds of people who hurt us deeply, and we cherish that hurt for years.

It's okay to be angry. Anger, rage, and even disappointment... All of these feelings are natural reactions to hurt. It can even be useful to experience them for some time while our emotional healing lasts, where tears and loneliness help us to “splash out the negative” .

However, this state should never last longer than three months. After this time, you must accept what happened and forgive.

  • Remember! He who hates becomes, as a result, a prisoner of the person who once offended him. Hatred connects us, like an umbilical cord, with the offender, and this makes us even more vulnerable.
  • Forgiveness is a way to set yourself free to overcome the past and move forward.
  • Forgiveness should not be directed only at the other person. You must also forgive yourself . Why? Some people blame for making a mistake, for "wasting years of life and hope" on someone who does not deserve it.

Never blame yourself. Accept what happened and just take a deep breath and move on with your life. The inner sense of release you will feel while doing this will help heal the wounds.

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2. Beware of nostalgia and "savoring" suffering

You will be interested to know that the word "nostalgia" is of Greek origin. It consists of two words: "return home" and "suffering" . Therefore, we can say that succumbing to a sense of nostalgia, we resurrect yesterday's suffering and experience them again and again.

  • Living in nostalgia we can never overcome the past . This is a sure way to stay forever in yesterday, not seeing what is happening to us here and now.
  • Whether the moment you are nostalgic about was happy or sad, it should be clear to you that striving to live every day in that nostalgia is another way to become a “prisoner”.

We cloud our present and “feed” emotions that are no longer useful.

  • We should always look at our past with gratitude, because it is our life and our experiences. However, if we are able to understand this, then we should also thank and let him go.
  • We need nostalgia to remember what we were, to understand who we are now.

You may have had losses and disappointments in your past. But what really matters is today, where you you wake up a brave woman full of new hopes.

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How can we ensure that something good happens again in our lives? There is no magic in this, also you should not think that your train has long left and that you will not have a second try :

returned to our lives, it will take to change your BEHAVIOR .

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