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Daniel and Sara have a 9-year-old son, Eric, and they've just moved to a new home not knowing the neighbours call it "the house of the voices". Eric is the first one to notice the odd noises... Read allDaniel and Sara have a 9-year-old son, Eric, and they've just moved to a new home not knowing the neighbours call it "the house of the voices".
Eric is the first one to notice the odd noises behind each door.Daniel and Sara have a 9-year-old son, Eric, and they've just moved to a new home not knowing the neighbours call it "the house of the voices". Eric is the first one to notice the odd noises behind each door.
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Pros: The story and the screenplay was good, never let me skip any scene. Jump scares are decent and were plotted where its needed. Unpredictable climax and the twist. Cast performances were good. Sound and cinematography was good, enjoyable with home theatre.
Cons: Not much but I felt some slowness in-between the movie.
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Reasons You Don't Listen I Psych Central
Listening is a part of our waking hours, but sometimes it’s easy to tune out. Understanding why you’re not listening well and how to improve your listening skills can open your ears to hear more.
Every day we hear words coming out of people’s mouths. However, listening to those words is different than just hearing them.
According to the Oxford English dictionary, the word “hear” is defined as “perceive with the ear the sound made by (someone or something),” whereas the word “listen” is defined as “make an effort to hear something; be alert and ready to hear something.
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“Listening is hard work,” Michael P Nichols, PhD, professor of psychological sciences and author of “The Lost Art of Listening,” says. “It takes concentration and effort and self-restraint.”
While it’s not necessary to listen with concentrated attention all the time – such as during casual conversations – Nichols says that listening is important when talking with people you care about or when someone is talking about something they care about.
“Then you need to listen with effort,” Nichols says. “When someone is talking about something important to them, or they are moved by strong feelings, they need to be listened to more carefully.”
Understanding why people don’t listen can help improve your listening skills. Here are few to consider.
You have the urge to tell your story
When someone is talking, Nichols says, instead of listening, we want to talk about what’s on our mind.
“We frequently interrupt to tell a similar story or say something about our own experience,” Nichols states.
“It’s a natural impulse, but it needs to be restrained if someone is talking, and they need to be listened to.”
You want to give advice
When someone is sharing something that is upsetting or if the person talking is unhappy, it can be uncomfortable to listen to them. In hopes of getting the person to feel better, so you don’t have to feel uncomfortable, you might be inclined to tell them how to solve their unhappiness or tell them not to feel upset.
“We know that it’s not OK to say something like, ‘Well, if your dog died, why don’t you go out and get a new one?’ but we get around to that eventually,” says Nichols.
You just want everything to be OK
Because it’s unpleasant to be around someone frustrated or upset, especially if you care about the person, Nichols says you might tend to want to make their pain or frustration go away rather than sit with them in their pain.
For example, if someone tells you they lost a job or were diagnosed with an illness, rather than listening to the details of their situation, he says people tend to say things like, “You’ll get through this” or “Things will look up.
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You react emotionally
If you are being criticized, emotions are triggered, and it is natural to get defensive and not listen to what the person is saying.
This can also happen if a person is talking about something you don’t agree with.
“For instance, if I tell you, I wouldn’t get vaccinated because it’s a government hoax, this might make you upset, and you might fire back right away without listening to my entire reasoning,” states Nichols. “It might be better if you hear me out and then acknowledge what I’m saying before saying your opinion.”
You’re bored
Even if someone is talking about something that feels important to them, it might not be interesting or important to you. Feeling bored can make it harder to tap into your listening skills.
Nichols adds, “One of the reasons people get bored is that they listen without interest and passively. So, if someone is talking to you, ask questions and get involved in the conversation.”
You’re distracted
Distractions – internal or external – are sometimes hard to ignore.
How many of us will turn our heads when we hear a loud noise? If you’re watching an action film with lots of explosions and car chases, it’s pretty hard to carry on a conversation at the same time.
Loud noises aren’t the only distractions, either. Sometimes instead of listening, we might find our minds wandering to things we need to do later.
While someone is talking, you might be occupied thinking about what you’re going to cook for dinner or what time the pharmacy or dry cleaner closes.
To focus on the person when they’re talking, it’s important to get rid of both internal and external distractions.
You think you know what people are thinking
While people tend to think they communicate better with close friends than with strangers, an older study found that sociologists believe that closeness can lead to closeness-communication bias – an overestimation of how you communicate.
As a result, sociologists suggest that people actively pay attention to strangers’ perspectives because they don’t know them well.
However, when it comes to a friend, they rely more on their own perspective or assume that they always understand what they are saying because they know the person.
“If you are close to someone, you think you know what they’re going to say, so you tend to interrupt and say, ‘Yeah, I know what you mean,’ or you don’t hear them out,” says Nichols.
If you’re looking to improve how you listen, the following tips can be helpful.
Realize it takes effort
Understanding that listening, not just hearing, takes hard work is the first step to becoming a better listener, says Nichols.
“When someone is talking about something important, [consider] making an effort to understand not only what they are saying, but what they are trying to express,” he encourages.
Empathize with the person
When someone is talking, try to acknowledge what the person is saying with a brief empathic comment.
“Often punctuated with an exclamation point like, ‘Oh man!’ or ‘Gee, that’s a shame!’” says Nichols.
Invite more conversation
A good listener will ask questions that encourage the person to expand on what they are sharing.
“Questions designed not to be a detective, but rather to invite the person to say more,” says Nichols.
Phrases like, “Tell me more about that,” or “How did that happen?” can keep the conversation going.
Acknowledge you are listening
Repeating back what you think the person is saying can let them know you’re making the effort to understand them.
“People often acknowledge with a brief statement that says, ‘I know exactly what you mean,’ which suggests you’re really saying, ‘I got it. Let’s move on,’” states Nichols.
He suggests using phrases that show you are trying to understand but want to make sure you do, like, “OK, so you’re saying we shouldn’t get a vaccine. Do I have that right?” or “Is it the way he talked to you that upset you?”
Don’t overdo body language
While many people think direct eye contact, nodding, and making sounds like ‘ooh’ and ‘aah’ show someone you are listening to them, Nichols warns that overdoing this can look insincere.
“All those are motivated by the desire to look like you’re a good listener, but if you do listen well, maybe you nod and make eye contact, but making a point of it is saying, ‘Look at me; I’m a good listener,” he suggests.
Try not to multitask
While the urge to multitask is always there, consider putting activities like scrolling on your phone, cleaning the dishes, and others on hold when someone is talking with you.
“If you care about someone, pay attention to them and what they are saying,” says Nichols.
However, when it comes to technology and communication, such as texts and emails from family and friends, he adds that failing to respond can come across as not listening.
“Try to answer and acknowledge tasks. [Consider] responding no matter what they said. It makes people feel understood,” Nichols says.
Practice mindful listening
Practicing mindfulness helps you stay present. This practice isn’t useful only for meditation and lowering stress.
It can also help you become a more active listener.
If you tend to zone out when listening, practicing mindful listening will help you learn to focus on what the person is saying without distractions.
Before you start your conversation, remove all distractions such as phones, electronic devices, or computers. If you’re watching a movie, turn it off and turn your attention to the person who’s talking. Take the time while you’re silencing or shutting off your electronics to practice some deep breathing techniques to help prepare yourself to listen.
When you train your mind to become more focused in the moment, you will learn to listen more effectively.
Listening is hard work and takes effort, however, there are ways you can learn to become a better listener.
What to do if a child does not obey his parents
Even the most obedient and exemplary child can “buck up” from time to time and refuse to listen to his parents and do what they say. But frequent disobedience, ignoring requests and comments, screams and tantrums - this is an occasion to think about the reasons for such behavior.
Is it gaps in upbringing, a protracted reaction to stress, a personality crisis, or an attempt to attract attention? In our article, we will talk about why children do not obey, and how to behave to parents in order to correct the situation, maintaining a close and trusting relationship with the child.
The behavior we call bad can have many causes. Each child is an individual, he has his own special character, habits and reactions. However, some general patterns can be identified that explain why children behave contrary to generally accepted norms.
Age crises
The child grows, matures, from unconditional submission to the authority of parents comes to the realization of himself as a separate person. There is a critical attitude to the requirements of adults, attempts to shift the boundaries of what is permitted. In such critical periods, it is important for parents to understand that this phenomenon is temporary, to try to help the child survive a difficult time.
At the same time, one should not rely only on the attitude “this is age-related, it will outgrow”, it is important to continue the educational process and not ignore the problems that arise.
Crisis of three years. One of the most difficult periods of a child's life, when the baby is separated from the mother, a stormy surge of independence and the desire to establish oneself in the world as a separate being with its own desires, likes and dislikes. The kid really wants to do everything himself, but he does not always succeed, besides, parents do not allow everything for objective reasons, the understanding of which is not yet available to the child. The reactions of the child in such situations are usually stormy, with screams and tears, often with hysteria, stamping their feet and trying to fight, he becomes stubborn and angry. Parents during a crisis should be calm and cool, not succumb to children's provocations and clearly outline the boundaries of what is permitted.
At the same time, it is imperative to show the child that he is loved, listened to and accepted as a person.
Crisis of seven years. Seven years is the moment of transition from preschool to the beginning of schooling. This is a big change for a child, he can experience serious stress, parting with his usual way of life, from games to full-fledged learning. On the one hand, a newly-made student feels like a completely grown-up and longs for an appropriate relationship, on the other hand, it is difficult for him to reorganize, to come from the carelessness of the preschool period to greater responsibility and organization. Children in a time of crisis may grimace more, try to imitate adults in behavior and reasoning, painfully perceive criticism, be rude and argue on any occasion. It is important for adults to gradually reduce the level of guardianship and control, allowing the child to make decisions and make mistakes. Be interested in his life and feelings, respect his opinion, support him.
Along with new responsibilities, give your child more freedom.
Teen crisis. The very "transitional age" that scares a lot of parents. A teenager is not yet an adult, but is no longer a baby, unquestioningly obeying his parents and obeying the rules. Your child learns to be a person, show character, argue, be rude and constantly test their parents for strength. This is a period of self-identification and assertion of one's individuality and one's special place in the world. Therefore, parents need, on the one hand, to accept the inevitable maturation and the already practically formed character of their child, on the other hand, not to lose their authority, to determine the boundaries of behavior that should not be crossed. A teenage protest can be very violent, but if the family has a trusting and warm relationship, there is respect and support, then you can always negotiate with your children.
Why children do not obey
In addition to age-related crises, there are many reasons why a child can behave badly and disobey parents.
Here are the most common ones:
- Physical condition. If a child is hungry, tired, hurts and uncomfortable, this can provoke whims, stubbornness and disobedience. Very young children are sometimes even unable to understand for themselves what is wrong in their feelings, but even a schoolboy can snap or refuse to fulfill a request if, for example, he has a headache.
- Resentment. The child wanted to show or tell something very important to him, but was he brushed aside? Or did they not believe his version in a conflict situation and were unfairly punished? Even a joke spoken out of place or a careless phrase can cause a rather strong reaction, and an offended child will not want to obey those who caused him negative emotions.
- Lack of attention and love. It often happens that children who do not feel loved, important and meaningful to their parents, try to attract attention by any means. The child behaves defiantly, his whole behavior says "notice me, I'm here.
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– Family conflicts. When the atmosphere at home is tense, there are constant quarrels and showdowns, the child, by his behavior, will try to remind his parents that they have forgotten about him, plunging into conflict with his head. Some children even feel guilty about parenting problems, and this feeling can also result in pranks and unsightly acts.
- Excessive severity. Too many prohibitions and punishments lead to the most natural outcome for the child - to rebellion against restrictions. The child is trying to feel at least a little freedom, to do something out of spite. This “struggle for independence” is especially stormy if most of the prohibitions are not justified or explained in any way.
– Permissiveness. Reverse side of the medal. You should not both prohibit the child absolutely everything, and choose the absence of any restrictions. Some "don'ts" must exist in the family in order to avoid spoilage and debauchery. Allowing something does not mean indulging in everything, and forbidding does not mean becoming a tyrant and despot.
- Inconsistency in the actions of adults. If parents cannot agree on what is allowed and what is not, make different, conflicting demands and claims to the child, his confusion and throwing between two fires can cause disobedience and behavioral problems. Even more unpleasant consequences will cause punishment by one of the parents for those actions that the other allowed and approved.
- Jealousy. Quite often, older children in the family where the newborn appears begin to behave badly. If the child was not ready for such changes in life or feels deprived of parental love and attention because of a new family member, he may stop obeying, being capricious and demanding more attention to himself.
Let's talk about typical examples of bad behavior in children. Unwillingness to obey parents and fulfill their requests or demands can look different, and parents need to understand how to respond and what to do in each situation.
Dangerous behavior
Probably almost every parent at some point faces the fact that a child commits dangerous actions that can lead to unpleasant, and even tragic consequences.
Children grab sharp objects, suddenly stop in the middle of the road, climb onto the top shelf of a closet, and so on. This happens because a small child cannot yet fully understand what danger and pain are, build logical connections. Cursing is pointless - from the point of view of the child, he does not do anything wrong. Behavior associated with a threat to the life and health of a child is an area in which strict limits and unconditional obedience are needed.
What to do?
- Choose a signal word that will indicate a categorical ban and an immediate cessation of all activities. This, for example, can be the word "dangerous" or "stop". It’s better not to use “no” - the child hears this prohibition quite often, for emergency situations you need a special sign. The signal word should evoke a reflex response, leaving no time for reflection.
- Show how the violation of the prohibition and the negative consequences of this violation are related. Detailed, age-appropriate explanations and the ability to easily experience what disobedience leads to.
Children should not be allowed to play with knives and matches, once lightly pricked on a needle, they will perfectly understand what happens if they ignore the danger signal. - Be calm, even cool. The child exposes himself to danger unconsciously or tries to cause fear and sympathy of adults, do not give free rein to emotions and fear. By showing how much you fear for the child, you may unwittingly frighten and disorientate him or encourage him to continue risky behavior. And on the contrary, your calmness will save both yours and children's nerves and health.
Children protest
Protest behavior is typical for children of all ages, but it is especially pronounced at 3-4 years old, when the child's immediate reactions to requests or prohibitions are expressed by screaming, hysteria, loud indignant refusals. The child, as it were, is trying to prove to adults that he is already completely independent, understands everything better, and what his parents ask for, for example, to brush his teeth or get dressed, is something not worth attention.
What to do?
- Again, it's best to calm down first. If the child is just too nervous and gushing with emotions, it will be easier for a parent who thinks soberly and judiciously to figure it out. Having witnessed a tantrum, do not be nervous and do not wind yourself up - sometimes it is generally better not to pay attention to tears and screams, only making sure that the child does not hurt himself until the hysterical attack is over.
- Think about whether it is important for you to emerge victorious. If the point is, what color of trousers to go to kindergarten, yellow or red, let the child choose for himself - in the end, these are his clothes and personal taste.
- Even if a child is on the verge of a mistake, it is not always useful to forcibly protect him from it, causing a rebellious mood. Let the child do something wrong, get his own bumps and gain useful experience. Do not read moralizing after the child has made the wrong decision - he already understood who is right, it is better to support him and talk about how to avoid such mistakes in the future and whether it is better to listen to adults sometimes.
Disturbing behavior
The child has not yet learned or ignores the rules of behavior in public places. He runs, crashes into other people, talks loudly, kicks the backs of the seats of people sitting in front in transport, and much more. Most often this happens if the parents did not fully foresee what could happen, and the preparation of the child for the fact that other rules and frameworks apply outside the home was not very successful.
What to do
- All lectures and fights - then, at home, unacceptable behavior must be stopped. Remain calm, ask the child to stop several times, briefly and logically explain to him the reasons why this should not be done, for example, “Do not smear ice cream on the carpet, it will be dirty and sticky, and it will be unpleasant and difficult for the person who starts washing it” .
- Talk to your child before you go somewhere or go, what you can and cannot do there. Inspire him that being an adult is, among other things, behaving accordingly to the situation, without causing inconvenience to others.
- If a child is too naughty, sometimes it is worth taking him away. It’s better to let the movie go unwatched, or the bus trip will be delayed due to a transfer, it will even be useful for children to understand what disturbing behavior leads to.
Ignore
Sometimes you get the feeling that the child has announced a boycott. He behaves as if his parents do not exist, he does not listen to their requests and does not do what he is asked to do. This can happen for two reasons: the child is either so withdrawn into himself and preoccupied with his thoughts or fantasies that he simply does not hear and does not perceive what is being said to him; or it is another manifestation of protest, a demonstration of resentment or discontent. In the first case, ignoring may indicate that the child is gifted and thinks in several directions at the same time, or about possible problems with concentration or other problems. Demonstrative behavior shows that relations in the family, for some reason, have somewhat gone wrong.
What to do
- First of all, you need to establish contact with the child, get an answer from him. In case of thoughtfulness and absent-mindedness, this step and the repetition of the question or request will be enough to “turn on” the child’s reaction back. If such situations are repeated regularly, it probably makes sense to consult a neurologist and a psychologist.
- Look for an opportunity to involve the child in a conversation in order to find out in the process what are the reasons for not wanting to communicate, to answer parents. Show that you really care about what is happening, that you want to find an opportunity to help and support your children.
- Expression of protest in the form of ignoring is typical for older children - think about giving the child a little more independence, letting him know that his opinion in the family is taken into account and has weight.
Demanding immediately to give what they want
Young children can make a scene to get their parents to buy a toy or sweet they like.
The child screams, cries, falls into hysterics and demands that he be sure to give way. This phenomenon can be considered age-related, since as they grow older, such cases occur less and less until they stop altogether.
What to do
- The youngest children can usually be distracted by something bright and interesting, and when their attention shifts, the children themselves may not remember that a minute ago they tearfully begged for something.
- You can talk with older children and come to a compromise. Ask why the child wanted this thing so much, why he needs it. If it's an expensive toy, suggest less expensive alternatives, or arrange to buy it for your birthday or New Year's. Naturally, if you promised, then keep your word. Having lost the trust of a child, it is very difficult to win it back.
There may be many cases in your life when children will not obey you. And each time you will need to delve into and figure out why this happens, and what you can do both at the moment of bad behavior to stop it, and later - to prevent such situations from happening again.
Here are some more tips for parents of naughty children.
- Take control of your emotions. “Learn to dominate yourself,” wrote the classic, and he was absolutely right. You, as an adult, must control yourself in any situation. It does not know to be indifferent or not to express your feelings, but your task is not to succumb to momentary impulses, not to become a victim of childish manipulation or provocation. Calmness and kindness are your main tools for dealing with your child's behavior problems.
- Lead by example. It is difficult to force a child to do something if he sees that his parents do not follow the principles that they inspire him. Remember that children copy your behavior, and be a model for them of what you want to see in them. If a child sees that parents behave aggressively in society, forget about politeness, or simply react violently to some unpleasant situations, he will adopt this behavior, despite all the explanations and educational conversations.
- Be consistent. Do not give contradictory instructions so as not to confuse the child. If you promise something, keep it, and this applies to both rewards and punishments. A child will not obey a person who does not back up his words with actions.
- Praise your child more. It often happens that, scolding for misconduct, analyzing in detail children's missteps, parents forget to praise the child for his luck, for good deeds and deeds. It is not surprising that in order to receive at least some feedback from adults, the child begins to behave inappropriately. Praise using specifics: it’s better not just to say “You are so good!”, But to focus on what the child did: “I’m glad that you put your toys away yourself, now the room is in order, and I have more time to play with you ".
- Approach prohibitions wisely. There should be few categorical “no” in your life, and in all cases they should relate to the safety and health of children. Everything else should be discussed and explained.
A lot of prohibitions and restrictions at every step encourages the child to break them more often. Give the child arguments, tell why it should be so, and not otherwise. If possible, offer a compromise. This will significantly reduce the number of reasons for punishment. - Listen to your child. Let him talk about the situation from his point of view, find out what provoked bad behavior and disobedience. Calmly and reasonably explain why the child is wrong, and what should be done in the future.
- Communicate more. Show sincere interest in your child's hobbies, talk to him, spend more time together. If the child knows that you will always listen to him, take his problems seriously, he will not need to additionally attract attention with non-standard behavior.
Most importantly, take the child as a person, treat him with respect, consider his opinion. Try to keep the children's trust in you, and, in turn, do not be afraid to trust them yourself, provide more freedom as you grow up and let's make our own decisions.
Crises and conflicts are inevitable, but your task is to build healthy and even relationships so that the child knows that in any situation he can rely on you and share everything that worries him.
WHY DOESN'T MY CHILD OBEY YOU?
WHY DOESN'T THE CHILD OBEY YOU? | "Rinat Akhmetov Foundation"WHY DOESN'T THE CHILD OBEY YOU?
The problem of children's obedience is very topical for many mothers and fathers. Often you can hear from parents, teachers, educators: “He doesn’t listen to me”, “You are not obedient”, “Why don’t you listen to me?”. These and many other questions often worry the elders in the family.
What can a child's disobedience indicate? Sometimes by such behavior he wants to attract the attention of an adult, so that those around him notice him. It happens that in this way the child protests, defending his desires. Children are not always able to critically assess the situation, so their disobedience can threaten their safety. It is important that the family has prohibitions that the child must certainly comply with - everything related to his safety.
For a child to obey, he must trust you. Your requirements for the child must be uniform and stable. If you don't allow something, you don't always allow it. This means: if the child is not allowed to play on the tablet, then in any situation you will not allow him to do so. We often encounter the reverse situation. Parents allegedly forbid playing on a tablet, but when it is “beneficial” for them, they allow it. Thus, you disorientate the child. If there are systems of such alleged requirements, then this leads to the fact that the child does not understand what the adult wants from him and begins to ignore his requests and prohibitions. It is also necessary that the requirements of both parents to the child be the same. The child stops obeying when he understands that it can be done. That, one way or another, he will be able to achieve his goal. In other words, he had an experience where he was able to disobey you, but no punishment followed. It is not at all necessary that an authoritarian method of education be used in the family, not at all.
It is important that the relationship between the child and the adult is respectful, and the requirements for the younger one are adequate.
As you get older, it's important to start listening to your child. To have a dialog. After all, everything that is not related to security can be discussed, listened to the arguments of your children, sometimes compromise or give in. It is important to understand why the child ignores your requests. How he argues his actions, maybe there is a rational grain in his behavior that you did not pay attention to. Listen not only to yourself, but also to your children.
We offer you to take a test and find out the reasons why your child does not obey you. The test is addressed to parents, children from 6 to 11 years old.
- 1. Does your family have uniform requirements for a child?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 2.
Do you talk to him calmly, without shouting? - Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 3. Is there no physical punishment in your family?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 4. When you demand something from a child, do you do it yourself (for example, all family members eat only in the kitchen)?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 5. If a child does things in his own way, will you definitely find out how he justifies his actions?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 6.
Do you trust the child? - Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 7. Does your child trust you?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 8. Are you interested in the best interests of the child?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 9. Do you have time that you devote to the child, and only to him (joint play, reading books, etc.)?
- Yes
- Possibly
- No
- 10.
