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When we cry bitterly and loudly like this (preferably in front of someone who really listens and sympathizes), we get rid of the weight of pain that weighed down on us, conventional behavior, habitual way of thinking, childhood traumas - everything that interferes with our vision, obscures the picture of the real world; does not allow us to look at it with our true eyes, to act in full force, to realize the gigantic potential inherent in each of us.

June 11, 2020

It is especially difficult for weak mothers to show or experience feelings of intimacy: they often confuse weakness and manifestation of feelings, while the manifestation of feelings - including heavy ones - just indicates the presence of strength and gives strength .

June 4, 2020

What is the power that allows this kind of transformation? This is the same power by which wizards change their appearance: they just decide within themselves how they will look, and, accordingly, they look. They "take into their hands" the gaze that defines the essence.

April 8, 2019

Since I experienced and understood this process, as soon as I smell even a faint smell of anxiety, I immediately begin to look for its source: the stench of what forbidden feeling I killed and buried I smelled? Decayed and disgusting as this corpse may be, it must be discovered and removed to fresh air.

December 17, 2016

Sometimes our depression is our only “emergency exit” from a jumble of forced responsibilities (often seemingly taken on voluntarily) and images that do not match our personal needs or even contradict our inner being. Essence, which we hardly guess, entering the world of "female maturity".

September 14, 2019

The pomegranate seed, an ancient symbol of fertility, prosperity and marriage, is used as a metaphor, as a poetic image, alluding to the voluntary merging of Persephone with the spirit of the underworld; on the union between the higher and the lower, between light and shadow, between consciousness and subconsciousness.

April 13, 2018

We are able to treat depression as an inevitable process that the soul resorts to when it finds itself in an intolerable situation.

March 12, 2018

I am now ready to speak and thank the abyss that made me who I am today.

February 24, 2021

It is important that we recognize the evolutionary need for the escape from reality, the abandonment of being, that accompanies depression; but being in its dark deep labyrinths, so that they remember that in fact the tunnel leading to the surface exists and at the end of it there is light and air.

July 25, 2020

I view depression as a sort of benevolent regression, as a refuge within whose walls one can take refuge, like a snail hiding in a shell. And there, in the depths of temporary non-existence, let go of the reins of the chariot of life in order to allow the very spiritual crack that served as the entrance gate for depression to heal. Well, as for the loss of control, it remains to hope for an internal property called intuition, which, like a faithful horse, will not let our soul go astray and will find the way home we have lost.

July 25, 2020

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Five stages of grief.

The Rise and Fall of Kübler-Ross

Lucy Burns
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July 11, 2020

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Denial. Anger. Finding a compromise. Despair. Adoption. Many people know the theory according to which grief, when receiving unbearable information for a person, goes through these steps. The scope of its application is wide: from hospices to boards of directors of companies.

A recent interview with a psychologist in English on the Internet proves that the perception of the current quarantine is subject to the same rules. But do we all experience the same?

When Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross began working in American hospitals in 1958, she was struck by the lack of methods of psychological care for dying patients.

A method that can predict your death

"Everything was impersonal, the attention was paid exclusively to the technical side of things," she told the BBC at 1983 year. “Terminally ill patients were left to their own devices, no one talked to them.”

She started a seminar with Colorado State University medical students based on her conversations with cancer patients about what they thought and felt.

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Photo caption,

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross talks to a woman with leukemia in Chicago, 1969. Seminar participants observe through a special mirror glass

Despite the misunderstanding and resistance of a number of colleagues, soon there was nowhere for an apple to fall at the Kübler-Ross seminars.

In 1969 she published a book, On Death and Dying, in which she quoted typical statements from her patients, and then moved on to discuss how to help doomed people pass from life as free of fear and pain as possible.

Kübler-Ross described in detail the five emotional states that a person goes through after being diagnosed with a terminal diagnosis:

Denial: "No, that can't be true"
Anger: "Why me? Why? It's not fair!!!"
Bargaining: "There must be a way to save myself, or at least improve my situation! I'll think of something, I'll behave correctly and do whatever is necessary!"
Depression: "There is no way out, everything is indifferent"
Acceptance: "Well, we must somehow live with this and prepare for the last journey"

difficult situation.

A separate chapter of the book is devoted to each of the stages. In addition to the five main ones, the author identified intermediate states - the first shock, preliminary grief, hope - from 10 to 13 types in total.

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Elisabeth Kübler-Ross died in 2004. Her son, Ken Ross, says she never insisted that every person must go through these five stages in sequence.

"It was a flexible framework, not a panacea for dealing with grief. If people wanted to use other theories and models, the mother did not object. She wanted to start a discussion of the topic first," he says.

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The book "On Death and Dying" became a bestseller, and Elisabeth Kübler-Ross was soon inundated with letters from patients and doctors from all over the world.

"The phone kept ringing, and the postman started visiting us twice a day," recalls Ken Ross.

The notorious five steps took on a life of their own. Following the doctors, patients and their relatives learned about them. They were mentioned by the characters of the series "Star Trek" and "Sesame Street". They were parodied in cartoons, they gave food for creativity to the mass of musicians and artists and gave rise to many successful memes.

Literally thousands of scientific papers have been written that have applied the theory of the five steps to a wide variety of people and situations, from career-incompatible athletes to the worries of Apple fans about the release of the 5th iPhone.

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Kübler-Ross's legacy has found its way into corporate governance: big companies from Boeing to IBM (including the BBC) have used her "change curve" to help employees at times of great business change.

And during the coronavirus pandemic, it applies, says psychologist David Kessler.

Kessler has worked with Elisabeth Kübler-Ross and co-authored her latest book, Grief and How We Grieve. His interview with the Harvard Business Review at the start of the pandemic garnered a lot of attention online as people everywhere searched for solutions to their emotional problems.

"And here, first comes denial: the virus is not terrible, nothing will happen to me. Then anger: who dares to deprive me of my usual life and force me to stay at home?! Then an attempt to find a compromise: okay, if after two weeks of social distancing it gets better, then why not? Followed by sadness: no one knows when it will end. And, finally, acceptance: the world is now like this, you have to somehow live with it, "describes David Kessler.

"As you can see, strength comes with acceptance. It gives you control: I can wash my hands, I can keep a safe distance, I can work from home," he says.

"It's a road map," says George Bonanno, professor of clinical psychology and head of the Loss, Trauma, and Emotion Laboratory at Columbia University. "When people are in pain, they want to know: How long will it last? What will happen to me? something to grab on to. And the five-step model gives them that opportunity."

"This chart is seductive," remarks Charles Corr, social psychologist and author of Death and Dying, Life and Being. "It offers an easy solution: sort everyone, and it takes no more than the fingers of one hand to label each one." .

George Bonanno sees this as a possible harm.

"People who don't fit exactly into these stages - and I've seen the majority of them - may decide that they're grieving the wrong way, so to speak," he explains.

According to him, over the years he has seen many cases when people themselves inspired that they must certainly experience this and that, or they were convinced of this by friends and relatives, but they did not feel it and decided, that they need a doctor.

Experimental evidence of the existence of the five stages of grief is not enough. The longest and most extensive bereavement interview was conducted in 2007.

According to him, the most common state at any time is acceptance, only a few go through the stage of denial, and the second most common emotion is longing.

However, according to David Kessler, while scientists debate the nuances and terms, people who experience grief continue to find meaning in the Kübler-Ross scheme.

"I meet people who tell me, 'I don't know what's wrong with me. Now I'm angry, and a minute later I'm sad. I must be crazy.” And I say, “It has names. These are called the stages of grief. ” The person says, “Oh, so there is a special stage called 'anger'? It's about me!" And feels more normal."

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"People need catchy statements. If Kübler-Ross hadn't called it stages and stated that there are exactly five of them, then she would probably be closer to the truth. But then she would not have attracted to attention," says Charles Corr.

He believes that talking about the five stages distracts from the main scientific legacy of Elisabeth Kübler-Ross.

"She wanted to take up the topic of death and dying in the broadest sense: how to help terminally ill people come to terms with their diagnosis, how to help those who care for them to support these patients and cope with their own emotions, how to help everyone live a full life, realizing that we are not eternal,” says Charles Corr.

"The terminally ill can teach us everything: not only how to die, but also how to live," said Elisabeth Kübler-Ross at 1983 year.

During the 1970s and 1980s she traveled the world giving lectures and giving workshops to thousands of people. She was a passionate supporter of the hospice idea pioneered by British nurse Cecily Saunders.

Kübler-Ross has established hospices in many countries, the first in the Netherlands in 1999. Time magazine named her one of the 100 most important thinkers of the 20th century.

Professor Kübler-Ross' scientific reputation was shaken after she became fascinated with theories about the afterlife and began experimenting with mediums.

One of them, a certain Jay Barham, practiced non-standard religious-erotic therapy, in particular, he persuaded women to have sex, assuring that a person close to them from the afterlife moved into him. In 1979, because of this, a loud scandal arose.

In the late 1980s, she tried to establish a hospice for children with AIDS in rural Virginia, but faced strong local opposition to the idea.

In 1995, her house caught fire under suspicious circumstances. The next day Kübler-Ross had her first stroke.

She spent the last nine years of her life with her son in Arizona, moving around in a wheelchair.

In her last interview with the famous TV presenter Oprah Winfrey, she said that at the thought of her own death she feels only anger.

"The public wanted the famed expert on death and death to be some kind of angelic personality and quickly get to the stage of acceptance," says Ken Ross. "But we all deal with grief and loss as best we can."

The theory of the five stages of grief is not widely taught in medical schools these days. It is more popular at corporate trainings under the name "Curve of Change".

Since then, there have been many theories about how to deal with your grief.

David Kessler, with the consent of Kübler-Ross' family, added a sixth stage to the five: the understanding that everything that is done makes sense.

"Understanding can come in a million different ways. Let's say I've become a better person after losing a loved one. Maybe my loved one passed away in a different way than it should have happened, and I can try to make the world a better place to this has not happened to others," says David Kessler.

Charles Corr recommends the "double process model". It was developed by Dutch researchers Margaret Stroebe and Nenk Schut and suggests that a person in grief is simultaneously experiencing a loss and preparing himself for new things and life challenges.

George Bonanno talks about four trajectories of grief. Some people have great stamina and do not fall into depression, or it is weakly expressed in them, others remain morally broken for many years, others recover relatively close, but then a second wave of grief rolls over them, and finally, the fourth becomes stronger from the loss.

Over time, one way or another, the vast majority of people get better.