Controlling behavior causes

7 Signs To Look For

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What Is Controlling Behavior?

Everyone wants a measure of control over their own lives. But controlling people also want to have a say in the lives of others.

When you’re on the receiving end of controlling behavior, it can make you feel embarrassed, angry, or inferior. In severe cases -- which can sometimes include a pattern of behavior called coercive control -- you might face threats, intimidation, or abuse.

Find out how to spot the signs that someone is trying to control you. Then, you can learn practical ways to take charge of your life.

Signs of Controlling Behavior

Some of the signs are:

They insist on having things their way

Controlling people often insist everyone do things their way, even when it comes to small issues that are a matter of personal choice. Your partner might insist you change clothes if you’re wearing something they don’t like. They may refuse to back down even after you make it clear you disagree with them.

They refuse to accept blame

No one likes to admit they made a mistake, but people who are controlling seem incapable of admitting fault. Even when their actions are clearly the issue, they'll find some way to blame you for what went wrong. It may be as petty as accusing you of distracting them when they made a mistake.

They need to be the center of attention

If you have a victory, no matter how small, you can count on the controlling person in your life to try to upstage you. They want to be in the limelight regardless of the circumstances.

They’re unpredictable

They will keep you uncertain about what they will do next. They may swing between telling you how great you are and sulking because you don’t do what they want. The goal is to keep you guessing and focused on them.

They lie

Controlling people want to control your reality. Truth is the bedrock of reality. They will try to deny your reality by lying about their behavior or yours. They may insist you’re the crazy one when you try to contradict them.

They want to be in charge of finances

If you’re married or living with a controlling person, they probably want to handle all of the money. They may claim that they’re better at it than you are or that you spend too much. They want to control access to money as a way of controlling what you do.

They dictate where you can go

One of the most intrusive ways someone may try to control you is by controlling your movements. They may want to know where you are all the time. Whether it’s by threats, intimidation, or pouting, they try to isolate you from other, supportive people in your life.

What Is Coercive Control?

It’s a pattern of abusive controlling behavior that can turn violent. Another name for it is intimate terrorism.

Coercive control is when someone -- usually an intimate partner like a date or a current or former spouse -- tries to dominate your life. They may intimidate you, keep you isolated, threaten you with violence, or terrorize you with actual violence.

The controlling person might limit your freedom and independence by:

Keeping you away from family, friends, and other supportive people -- or making you feel guilty when you spend time with loved ones
Putting financial, social, and emotional barriers in your way that make it hard to get out of the relationship
Making you fear for your safety, or the safety of loved ones or other people you know

They might also:

Deprive you of sleep and other basic needs
Stalk you and keep a close eye on where you go, who you see, and who you talk with
Question you a lot
Embarrass you
Gaslight you, or make you question your own beliefs

Coercive control can fill you with fear even if your partner isn’t physically violent with you -- and the terror and trauma could last after your relationship ends.

Causes of Controlling Behavior

Several things can drive controlling behavior.

The most common are anxiety disorders and personality disorders. People with anxiety disorders feel a need to control everything around them in order to feel at peace. They may not trust anyone else to handle things the way they will.

Controlling behaviors can also be a symptom of several personality disorders, such as histrionic p ersonality, borderline personality, and narcissistic personality. These disorders can only be diagnosed by a licensed health care professional.

Dealing With Mild Controlling Behavior

Sometimes controlling behavior is simply an annoying trait, but it may cross the line into abusive behavior. Once you determine the severity of the behavior, you can decide how to handle it.

If the controlling behavior is mild, it can help to discuss it with the offender. You can tell them how their behavior makes you feel, using “I” statements to avoid sounding like you're blaming them. A sentence that begins with, “I feel,” will likely be better received than one that starts with, “You always.” You will probably also need to set clear boundaries to see a change.

If your partner is isolating you from family and friends and using different tactics to wear you down so that it’s easier to give in than to argue with them, you may be in an abusive relationship. If this is the case, the National Domestic Violence Hotline recommends creating a safety plan to improve your situation while maintaining your safety.

Signs of Danger and How to Get Help

You may be in an abusive relationship if your partner isolates you from family and friends and uses different tactics to wear you down, so that it’s easier to give in than to argue with them.

Relationship violence can begin slowly, and it can be hard to spot. It can include physical or sexual violence, threats of either, emotional abuse, and stalking.

Some signs your relationship might become violent are:

Your partner makes you feel afraid or disrespected
Blames you for things that aren’t your fault, including how they treat you
Forces you to do things you don’t want to do
Keeps doing hurtful things to you after they’ve promised to change their ways

If someone forces or pressures you to be sexual with them when you don’t want to, that’s sexual violence.

Even if you’re not sure whether you’re in a violent controlling relationship, you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233). You can also chat online with someone who’s trained to help. The hotline and the chat are free, available around the clock, and you don’t have to share your name.

You can also set up a safety plan that helps you lower your chances of being hurt by your partner. To do this, you’ll answer some questions about yourself and your life. You can do it alone or ask a loved one or someone else you trust to help. The plan includes info about you and your life that could make you safer at home and other places you go each day.

If you’re in danger now, call 911 right away.

Signs, causes, and how to deal with them

People who are controlling try to assert power over others and control situations. In some cases, a person may adopt controlling behaviors out of anxiety because they worry that things will go wrong if they do not maintain control. In other cases, it may be to assert dominance, which is a form of abuse.

Everyone tries to control what happens in their life to a certain extent. However, when a person tries to control elements of someone else’s life, this can be damaging.

In this article, we describe the signs that a person is controlling and explain how control relates to abuse. We also look at the causes of controlling behavior and how to deal with it.

If someone tries to control situations or other people to an unhealthy extent, others may describe them as a controlling person.

They may try to control a situation by taking charge and doing everything themselves or control others through manipulation, coercion, threats, and intimidation.

People may come into contact with controlling individuals in many areas of life. These individuals can be:

partners
friends
family
bosses
coworkers
strangers
neighbors

These people may wish to control those close to them, such as their partner or family, or gain power and control over larger groups of people.

The National Domestic Violence Hotline defines abuse as behaviors that a person uses to maintain power and control over another individual. These behaviors may arise in intimate relationships but also appear in the workplace, family relationships, and friendships.

Controlling behaviors may occur in several forms of abuse, including:

Physical abuse: Any unwanted contact from someone who has the intention of causing another person injury is physical abuse.
Emotional and verbal abuse: This comes in the form of nonphysical behavior, such as insulting or threatening someone, constantly monitoring them, or trying to humiliate them.
Sexual abuse: Behaviors constitute sexual abuse if they pressure or force people into a sexual activity in which they do not want to engage.
Financial abuse: This occurs when someone attempts to control a person’s financial situation.
Digital abuse: This form of abuse uses technology, such as texting and social media, to harass or intimidate someone.
Stalking: Stalking happens when someone watches or follows a person constantly, making them feel unsafe.

Abusive behaviors that someone may use to exert control over an individual may include:

slapping, punching, kicking, biting, choking, scratching, or trying to smother a person, throwing objects at them, or pulling their hair
threatening to use weapons against them, such as knives, bats, or firearms
forcing them to use alcohol or drugs
preventing them from leaving the home or forcing them to go somewhere
calling them names, yelling or screaming at them, and criticizing them to break down their confidence
humiliating them in front of other people or using online communities to intimidate or embarrass them
acting in a possessive manner with a partner, not trusting them, and frequently accusing them of cheating
demanding to know how they spend their time, where they go, and who they have contact with
isolating them from seeing family and friends
blaming them for their abusive behaviors or telling them everything is their fault

manipulating or forcing them into having sex or performing sexual acts
giving them an allowance and monitoring their purchases
depositing paychecks to a bank account they cannot access
stopping them from going to work by taking away their mode of transport
stating who they can or cannot follow or speak with on social media
using social media or GPS technology to track their activities
pressuring them to send compromising or explicit messages, photos, or videos
constantly messaging them and making them feel as though they cannot be away from their phone
sending them unwanted messages, emails, texts, voicemails, and letters
showing up at their home or workplace uninvited

Abuse can manifest in many ways, and more than one type of abusive behavior often occurs in an abusive relationship.

Several underlying factors may drive controlling behavior, such as:

Anxiety: For some people, attempting to control certain situations is a way of coping with anxiety. Treating anxiety or the underlying condition causing it may improve their controlling behavior.
Personality disorders: Some personality disorders, such as borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD), may increase the chances of someone using controlling behavior.
Learned behavior: A person may have learned controlling behavior and other forms of abuse from other people. For example, they may have grown up in a family with domestic violence or intimate partner violence or learned from caregivers to try to exert power over their partner.

It is crucial to note that although mental health conditions and past trauma can contribute to controlling behavior, they can never justify abuse.

Strategies for dealing with controlling people depend on whether the behavior is abusive and whether it occurs at home or in the workplace.

If the behavior is not abusive, it may be best to begin by discussing it with the person. However, confronting a person with abusive behavior may flare up the situation and potentially be dangerous.

Communicate

A person can try communicating with a controlling person by:

using “I” statements, such as “I feel hurt,” to speak in a way that reduces feelings of blame
discussing ways to divide responsibilities or share control
offering alternative courses of action to replace the behavior, such as making plans together rather than the person making plans for them

If, after speaking calmly and openly with someone, they do not listen and continue the controlling behavior, a person may need to consider distancing themselves from the individual.

Set boundaries

It is impossible to influence how someone else behaves completely, but people can be clear about the treatment they expect and how they will respond if someone crosses the line.

A person needs to set boundaries, assertively share what they want with another individual, and say “no” when they are unwilling to do something. By setting boundaries, a person regains control and clarifies what they will and will not tolerate.

Choose a response

When someone is controlling, a person can respond in various ways to diffuse the situation. These include:

Ignoring them and walking away: If a person is trying to humiliate someone, quietly walking away will draw attention to their dysfunctional behavior rather than indulging them.
Creating a distraction or changing the subject: If a controlling person uses long, rehearsed speeches to wear a person down, interrupting them will make it more difficult for them to return to where they left off.
Asking them a question: If someone views a situation as only being able to go the way they want or the complete opposite, it can help to ask a question. A question can reinforce that there are more than two options available.
Counteracting with reason: If a parent uses the fact that they gave birth to someone as a way to control them, the person could ignore the attempt at guilt tripping and counteract with logic rather than emotion. They could remind the parent that people never have to do anything and have the right to choose.
Acknowledging their fear: If a controlling person is jealous about someone’s relationship with another friend, it may be helpful to respond directly to their fear of abandonment. Acknowledging their fear that the person will leave them for someone else and discussing the topic may prevent them from making envious comments in the future.

Create a safety plan

If someone feels unsafe due to a person’s controlling, abusive behavior, they should consider developing a safety plan. A safety plan can help them safely leave the situation and lower their risk of being hurt.

According to the Office on Women’s Health, a safety plan may involve:

identifying friends and family members to contact for help
identifying exit points and safe places to go
keeping an alternative prepaid cellphone nearby
memorizing the phone numbers of trusted family members, friends, or shelters
making a list of items or documents to take when leaving quickly
checking with a doctor about how to gain access to extra, medically necessary items for themselves or their children
getting information on the local family court in case they require a restraining order
collecting evidence of abuse or violence, if it is safe to do so

The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides an interactive guide to safety planning, and the Office on Women’s Health details what to include in a safety packing list.

Emotional and verbal abuse can sometimes escalate to physical abuse, so a person must know the warning signs that a situation could become threatening.

Signs that a relationship has become dangerous include the person:

displaying physically intimidating behaviors, such as punching walls, throwing objects, or breaking a person’s belongings
using weapons to intimidate
harming or threatening to harm pets or children
threatening self-harm, violence, or death to get what they want

Everyone has the right to feel safe. Anyone experiencing abuse should seek help to keep themselves and their loved ones safe.

Various helplines, support groups, counselors, therapists, and other resources are available to ensure that people can find safety and recover.

If you or someone you know is in immediate danger of domestic violence, call 911 or otherwise seek emergency help. Anyone who needs advice or support can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 via:

phone, at 800-799-7233
live chat, at thehotline.org
text, by texting LOVEIS to 22522

Many other resources are available, including helplines, in-person support, and temporary housing. People can find local resources and others classified by demographics, such as support specifically for People of Color, here:

The Office on Women’s Health
The National Coalition Against Domestic Violence

To a degree, everyone wants to control what happens to them. However, if a person needs to control every part of their routine, situation, or environment, they may have anxiety or a mental health condition.

When someone tries to control or manipulate others, this can be a form of abuse.

It may be possible for a controlling person to change their behavior over time with psychotherapy if a relationship is unhealthy and not abusive. However, if a relationship involves abuse, a person’s behavior could escalate to physical violence.

It is important for people living with a controlling or abusive person to create a safety plan to protect themselves. A safety plan can help them leave a threatening situation safely and be more independent once they have left.

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In family counseling, family members of an addict often ask the same question.

– Tell me how should I behave?

- I don't know. What do you have in mind? Conduct yourself so that what happens as a result?

- To stop drinking.

– There are no such forms of your behavior .

– How so? I came to find out...

There is an expression of disappointment on the face. I see that my client has come to learn how to control, restrain, stop the drinking of her loved one, and I consultant immediately declare that I do not know such forms of behavior. But I know otherwise.

A distinctive feature of the wives of alcoholics, as well as other codependents, is controlling behavior. The wives, mothers, sisters, fathers, husbands, brothers of addicts are the controlling loved ones. They believe they can control everything in the world. The more chaotic the situation at home, the greater the effort to control. They think they can control their loved one's drinking or "prohibit" drug use. They think they can control the perception of others through the impression they make. It seems to them that others see their family as they portray it.

Co-dependents are sure that they know better than anyone in the family how events should take place, how other family members should behave. Even at a consultation with a psychotherapist in the presence of other family members, the mother in an imperative form makes a remark to her 21-year-old son. "When they say goodbye, look into the eyes." Codependents are afraid to let loved ones be who they are by nature and to let events flow naturally, to let life take place.

Co-dependents use various means to control others - threats, persuasion, coercion, advice, emphasizing the helplessness of others. "My husband will be lost without me", "The son cannot understand the need for treatment, so I have to hide him in the hospital. "

Manipulation and guilt are often used as a means of controlling others.

Control is direct coercion, order, demand, saying: "Do as I tell you." Manipulation serves the same purposes, but the achievement of the goal occurs in cunning, subtle and more disguised ways. If I manipulate another person, then I will not honestly tell him: "I need this and that from you." I'm afraid to ask directly, he might say no. But I can hang a feeling of guilt on him, and then he will easily fulfill my will. I can put him in a position of no choice, I can use flattery, temptation. So I'm manipulating.

I once heard a 70-year-old mother say to her 43-year-old son: "When you object to me, my heart hurts." Who will object to her after that? Moreover, the heart disease is real, she suffered a heart attack. She manipulated her son. He no longer dared to protest.

To manipulate means to set traps, temptations, use cunning tricks in order to subjugate another person. If a wife goes for sexual rapprochement with her husband not for the sake of sex itself, but in order to achieve the desired behavior of her husband (“Be sober, and we will always have good sex”), then the wife manipulates through sex.

Even if the manipulation achieves its goal, a close person does what the codependent spouse requires of him, then the relationship is still overshadowed by a bad feeling for both. You can manipulate objects, such as dolls. They are inanimate, and with them it is possible to do any tricks. People are alive, so they do not like to obey someone else's will, they perceive it as violence. People are resisting. For every action there is a reaction.

It is easy to recognize rude, conspicuous controlling behavior. An iron hand ruling from a self-captured throne. Tyrant. Dictator. Despot. A ruler with great power. In alcoholic families, a sober wife can be such a tyrant. She may not let a drunken husband into the house, she may beat him, deprive him of food or something else. Explicitly controlling behavior is also observed in the wife, when she drags her husband to a consultation, secretly pours medicine into his tea, drags him out of the hospital. Either seeks out bottles of liquor, pours liquor down the sink, kicks him out, or scolds his friends over the phone.

I recently spoke with the wife of an alcoholic who left our clinic a month ago. Naturally, I asked about his condition. The answer was in such a form that one can guess how much a wife controls her husband's behavior. She said:

- This month I have no complaints about my husband's behavior.

As if she QCD (technical control department) and checks the quality of the product. I will note in passing that she did not look happy, satisfied. The facial expression is firm. It seems to say on it: "Do not relax. Stay vigilant. My control is needed here."

Controlling behavior

Controlling behavior is a prominent feature of codependents. From rough pressure to an insinuatingly tender attitude towards loved ones in order to impose their will, their vision of the problem, their coercive tactics.

Softer forms of controlling behavior are more difficult to consider. Under the guise of tenderness, selfless care, affection and kindness, she does the same thing, deprives him of responsibility for his life, paralyzes his will. When I hear the story of a kind wife about how she takes care of her husband during a hangover, I pay attention to how much sweet molasses she pours. And he will give medicine, and brine, and whatever he wishes. I just want to insert: "Yes, with such care, I would drink myself!" All this is also controlling behavior of the wife.

Good at controlling other victim wives. Sighs, tears, statements about one's exorbitant suffering, about one's weakness and helplessness, the ability to arouse pity for oneself, and in others a feeling of guilt these are the transmission belts of control over others.

Wives of alcoholics can combine hard and soft control tactics. They think maybe something will work. Nothing works, but they all hope. Finally, they come for a consultation and raise the question: "How can I get him to be treated?"

The purpose of control is to force. To force other people to do what the codependents consider necessary and right. And not only to do, but even to make them think and feel the way it would be right according to the thoughts of codependents. By force to force life to unfold to the extent and at the time they appoint, the controlling people. Their vocation is not to allow anything to happen without their command or permission, to keep and not let it take its course. Stop the flow of life, remake people and arrange things the way they like. As the popular song sang: "If I came up with you, become the way I want." So who do you want to love a real person or your own notion?

Oh, I seem to think too much about my clients' problems. I read fiction and think about them. Today I took the historical novel by M. Aldanov "Origins". I am reading A. Chernyshev's preface to the novel. And I find words about the uselessness of controlling behavior not only in family life, but also in history. A. Chernyshev writes: "... at all times, attempts to change the world for the better through the use of force, to create a" new man "invariably failed, history never followed the path that they tried to direct it" (magazine "Friendship of Peoples". 1990, No. 8. P.76).

The husbands and children of controlling women do not live their own lives. They seem to be writing a dictation. Life under dictation. Real life is more like a composition than a dictation.

Here I have to give co-dependents the bad news: controlling behavior is self-defeating behavior. Even if you manage to get someone to do something, the price for this is great. Price destruction of relationships with a loved one. In this case, it turns out that codependents not only cannot control someone else's life, but they lose control over their own lives.

Trying to control events that are practically uncontrollable leads to depression. The inability to achieve the goal in matters of control is considered by codependents as their own defeat, as the loss of the meaning of life. Recurring defeat exacerbates depression. On such gray days it seems that the past is meaningless, the future is uncertain. Previously suppressed emotions of fear, mental pain are activated. Previously, controlling behavior was meant to mask pain.

Recovery from depression is achieved through states of peace, calmness towards oneself and others, trust, acceptance of oneself with all one's real feelings.

Control is a direct response to our fears, panic, helplessness, loss of trust. When things go wrong, we can stop trusting ourselves, God, the higher powers of the universe, the very process of life. Trust disappears, the control button turns on. If you manage to regain trust, then it can go away as unnecessary and the need to control.

It is known that codependents do not trust themselves, do not trust their feelings, their decisions, do not trust other people or try to trust people who are not trustworthy, lose faith in God and trust in Him.

Another outcome of the controlling behavior of codependents is the behavior caused by frustration (ie frustration), anger. Fearing to lose control over the situation, co-dependents themselves fall under the control of events or their loved ones who are addicted. For example, the mother of a drug addict quits her job to control her son's behavior. But drug addiction continues and practically controls the life of the mother, disposes of her time, profession, well-being, mental resources.

When we codependents try to take control of people and situations that are "none of our business," we ourselves become controlled. As long as we think and act in someone else's interests, we lose the ability to think and act in our own interests. Our addicted loved ones are great at controlling others. Everything is balanced here. Equal partners met in an alcoholic marriage.

Let's be attentive to ourselves. To take the path of controlling others means losing control of yourself. It means losing both the battle and the war. It means losing yourself, your life. Is this what we need? Are we afraid of defeat? No need. In victory a man shows what he can, in defeat what he is worth.

Ask co-dependent wives, mothers why they control. They will probably say that they do it with the best of intentions. They could say something like this about themselves.

• We control in the name of love.

• We want to help.

• Well, we know better what he needs.

• We are right and he is wrong.

• We think that this is the only way to act (ie control).

• It's scary to do nothing.

• We control because it hurts us to see him destroy himself.

Yes, if trouble comes, the first thing a person instinctively does is try to mobilize all his strength and overcome the difficulty by force. But addiction is a difficulty that cannot be overcome by force. I am writing this book in the hope that understanding the problem will help.

When I want to demonstrate to my wives the inefficiency, the futility of all their controlling efforts, I ask them to do the following.

- List all the things you have done so far to keep your loved one from drinking.

- Oh, I haven't tried anything yet. And in a good way she persuaded him, and cried, and begged. And then I did something bad. I shouted, insulted, called him "drunk", threatened that I would kill him and commit suicide.

- Now write down all these actions in a column and put a "+" sign against the action that helped you achieve your goal, and a "-" sign against vain efforts.

- Yes, what can I write. And so it is clear that some cons.

- Would you like to continue to practice useless behavior?

– What to do?

- I don't know. Maybe stop worrying about him and start taking care of yourself?

So, the behavior can be anything, but it reflects the wife's obsessive need to control her husband's life.

Control is the manipulation of people, circumstances, things in order to feel safe.

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Control is the minimization and suppression of feelings in order to feel safe.

Control is compensation for feelings of inadequacy.

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Controlling behavior

Softer forms of controlling behavior are more difficult to consider. Under the guise of tenderness, selfless care, affection and kindness, she does the same thing - deprives him of responsibility for his life, paralyzes his will. When I hear the story of a kind wife about how she takes care of her husband during a hangover, I pay attention to how much sweet molasses she pours. And he will give medicine, and brine, and whatever he wishes. I just want to insert: "Yes, with such care, I would drink myself!" All this is also controlling behavior of the wife.

Good at controlling other victim wives. Sighs, tears, statements about one's exorbitant suffering, about one's weakness and helplessness, the ability to arouse pity for oneself, and in others a sense of guilt - these are the drive belts of control over others.

The purpose of control is to force. To force other people to do what the codependents consider necessary and right. And not only to do, but even to make them think and feel the way it would be right according to the thoughts of codependents. By force to force life to unfold to the extent and at the time they appoint, the controlling people. Their vocation is not to allow something to happen without their command or permission, to keep and not let it take its course. Stop the flow of life, remake people and arrange things the way they like. As the popular song sang: "If I came up with you, become the way I want." So who do you want to love - a real person or your own notion?

The husbands and children of controlling women do not live their own lives. They seem to be writing a dictation. Life under dictation. Real life is more like a composition than a dictation.

Here I have to give codependents the bad news: controlling behavior is self-defeating behavior. Even if you manage to get someone to do something, the price for this is great. The price is the destruction of relationships with a loved one. In this case, it turns out that codependents not only cannot control someone else's life, but they lose control over their own lives.

Recovery from depression is achieved through states of peace, calmness towards oneself and others, trust, acceptance of oneself with all one's real feelings.

Let's be attentive to ourselves. To take the path of controlling others is to lose control of oneself. It means losing both the battle and the war. It means losing yourself, your life. Is this what we need? Are we afraid of defeat? No need. In victory, a person shows what he can, in defeat, what he is worth.

Ask co-dependent wives, mothers why they control. They will probably say that they do it with the best of intentions. They could say something like this about themselves.

• We control in the name of love.

• We want to help.

• Well, we know better what he needs.

• We are right and he is wrong.

• We think that this is the only way to act (ie control).

• It's scary to do nothing.

• We control because it hurts us to see him destroy himself.

When I want to demonstrate to my wives the inefficiency, the futility of all their controlling efforts, I ask them to do the following.

- List all the things you have done so far to keep your loved one from drinking.

- Now write down all these actions in a column and put a "+" sign against the action that helped you achieve your goal, and a "-" sign against vain efforts.

- Yes, what can I write. And so it is clear that some cons.

- Would you like to continue to practice useless behavior?

– What to do?

- I don't know. Maybe stop worrying about him and start taking care of yourself?

So, the behavior can be anything, but it reflects the wife's obsessive need to control her husband's life.

Control is the manipulation of people, circumstances, things in order to feel safe.

Control is the minimization and suppression of feelings in order to feel safe.

Control is compensation for feeling inadequate.

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BEHAVIOR UNDER STRESS The hysteroid does not tolerate stressful situations well. If the asthenic in difficult conditions stops complaining about his health and ejects powerful energy flows from his fragile body in order to support loved ones, then the hysteroid reverses

FAMILY BEHAVIOR

BEHAVIOR IN THE FAMILY ROLE OF THE SPOUSE. COMPATIBILITY IN MARRIAGE hysteria - hysteria. It is quite rare to find such a union of two incorrigible egocentrists. After all, each of them wants to find in his wife not only an enthusiastic spectator and admirer, but also a person who willingly0006

Behavior

Behavior The behavior of clients with PARD reflects their cognitive patterns. Passive-oppositional behaviors, such as procrastination and poor performance, are associated with cognitive structures that arise from resentment of the need to fulfill obligations (“Me

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Controlling behavior causes

7 Signs To Look For

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What Is Controlling Behavior?

Signs of Controlling Behavior

What Is Coercive Control?

Causes of Controlling Behavior

Dealing With Mild Controlling Behavior

Signs of Danger and How to Get Help

Signs, causes, and how to deal with them

Communicate

Set boundaries

Choose a response

Create a safety plan

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Controlling behavior

Controlling behavior. Addiction. Family disease

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BEHAVIOR

13. The concept of professional adaptation. Adaptive professional behavior. Maladaptive professional behavior

3.1. Overcoming behavior

STRESS BEHAVIOR

FAMILY BEHAVIOR

STRESS BEHAVIOR

FAMILY BEHAVIOR

SUICIDAL BEHAVIOR

STRESS BEHAVIOR

FAMILY BEHAVIOR

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