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The Best Brené Brown Quotes On Vulnerability, Love, And Belonging

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When I signed on to write a collection of Brené Brown quotes, I thought okay, cool, I’ll find a few quotes, I’ll do a little pretty quote-y Pinterest surfing, and this will be fun and easy. And while it was fun, and relatively easy, the thing I didn’t expect was the way Brené Brown quotes would bubble up through my subconscious, informing the conversations I had and the ways I looked at situations. Suddenly, I was holding forth about why my wife and I need to make time for ourselves even though we have a toddler and it’s hard because NO ONE BELONGS HERE MORE THAN US BRENÉ BROWN SAID! There are worse occupational hazards, I assure you. And I have to say, bolstering my courage and my heart work and my mothering and wifing with some good ol’ Brené Brown wisdom has only helped me. So join me:  here are a floppity-jillion Brené Brown quotes, culled from her books and her TED Talks, for you to enjoy. Let’s bolster up and get in the arena!

TEDx houston:  the power of vulnerability

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ted:  listening to shame (2012)

“Vulnerability is not weakness. I define vulnerability as emotional risk, exposure, uncertainty. It fuels our daily lives.”


“Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity, and change.”


“To create is to make something that has never existed before. There’s nothing more vulnerable than that.”


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“[…] I did not learn about vulnerability and courage and creativity and innovation from studying vulnerability. I learned about these things from studying shame.”


“The ability to hold something we’ve done or failed to do up against who we want to be is incredibly adaptive. It’s uncomfortable but it’s adaptive.”


“If you want to make a difference, the next time you see someone being cruel to another human being, take it personally. Take it personally because it is personal!”


“Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor—the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant ‘To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.’ Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences—good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as ‘ordinary courage.'”


“Nothing silences us more effectively than shame.”


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“Shame is the intensely painful feeling or experience of believing we are flawed and therefore unworthy of acceptance and belonging.”


“Trying to escape media influences in today’s culture is as feasible as trying to protect ourselves from air pollution by not breathing.


“That impostor or phony feeling at work or school rarely has anything to do with our abilities but has more to do with that fearful voice inside of us that scolds and asks, ‘Who do you think you are?'”


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“Courage gives us a voice and compassion gives us an ear. Without both, there is no opportunity for empathy and connection.”


“Laughter is evidence that the chokehold of shame has been loosened. Knowing laughter is the moment we feel proof that our shame has been transformed. Like empathy, it strips shame to the bone, robs it of its power, and forces it from the closet.”

“The culture of shame is driven by fear, blame, and disconnection, and it is often a powerful incubator for issues like perfectionism, stereotyping, gossiping, and addiction.”


“Judging has become such a part of our thinking patterns that we are rarely even aware of why and how we do it. It takes a great deal of conscious thinking or mindfulness to even bring the habit of judging into our awareness.


“Shame and self-esteem are very different issues. We feel shame. We think self-esteem.”

“The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.”


“Understanding the difference between healthy striving and perfectionism is critical to laying down the shield and picking up your life. Research shows that perfectionism hampers success. In fact, it’s often the path to depression, anxiety, addiction, and life paralysis.”


“Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.”


“To love someone fiercely, to believe in something with your whole heart, to celebrate a fleeting moment in time, to fully engage in a life that doesn’t come with guarantees—these are risks that involve vulnerability and often pain. But I’m learning that recognizing and leaning into the discomfort of vulnerability teaches us how to live with joy, gratitude, and grace.


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“Healthy striving is self-focused:  ‘How can I improve?’ Perfectionism is other-focused:  ‘What will they think?'”


“If we share our shame story with the wrong person, they can easily become one more piece of flying debris in an already dangerous storm.”


“Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives.”


“Worthiness doesn’t have prerequisites.”


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“Until we can receive with an open heart, we’re never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly or unknowingly attach judgment to giving help.”


“One of the greatest barriers to connection is the cultural importance we place on ‘going it alone. ’ Somehow we’ve come to equate success with not needing anyone. Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we’re very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves. It’s as if we’ve divided the world into ‘those who offer help’ and ‘those who need help.’ The truth is that we are both.”


“The universe is not short on wake-up calls. We’re just quick to hit the snooze button.”


“Cruelty is easy, cheap, and rampant.”


“Courage is like—it’s a habitus, a habit, a virtue:  You get it by courageous acts. It’s like you learn to swim by swimming. You learn to courage by couraging.”


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“Yes, I am imperfect and vulnerable and sometimes afraid, but that doesn’t change the truth that I am also brave and worthy of love and belonging.”


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“If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”


“What we know matters, but who we are matters more.


“Numb the dark, and you numb the light.”


“Even to me, the issue of ‘stay small, sweet, quiet, and modest’ sounds like an outdated problem, but the truth is that women still run into those demands whenever we find and use our voices.”


“Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.”


“Wholeheartedness. There are many tenets of Wholeheartedness, but at its very core is vulnerability and worthiness; facing uncertainty, exposure, and emotional risks, and knowing that I am enough.”


“Nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it’s a waste of time to evaluate my worthiness by weighing the reaction of the people in the stands.”


“Hope is a function of struggle.”


“I believe that owning our worthiness is the act of acknowledging that we are sacred. Perhaps embracing vulnerability and overcoming numbing is ultimately about the care and feeding of our spirits.”


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“We are born makers. We move what we’re learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands.”


“I want to be in the arena. I want to be brave with my life. And when we make the choice to dare greatly, we sign up to get our asses kicked. We can choose courage or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.”


“Vulnerability is not winning or losing; it’s having the courage to show up and be seen when we have no control over the outcome. Vulnerability is not weakness; it’s our greatest measure of courage.”


“People who wade into discomfort and vulnerability and tell the truth about their stories are the real badasses.”


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“The irony is that we attempt to disown our difficult stories to appear more whole or more acceptable, but our wholeness—even our wholeheartedness—actually depends on the integration of all of our experiences, including the falls.”


“The most dangerous stories we make up are the narratives that diminish our inherent worthiness. We must reclaim the truth about our lovability, divinity, and creativity.”


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“We can’t rise strong when we’re on the run.”


“Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; it’s choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.”


“Connection doesn’t exist without giving and receiving. We need to give, and we need to need.”


“Regret is a tough but fair teacher. To live without regret is to believe you have nothing to learn, no amends to make, no opportunity to be braver with your life.”


“We can’t be brave in the big world without at least one small safe space to work through our fears and falls.”


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“Our call to courage is to protect our wild heart against constant evaluation, especially our own. No one belongs here more than you.”


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“True belonging is the spiritual practice of believing in and belonging to yourself so deeply that you can share your most authentic self with the world and find sacredness in both being a part of something and standing alone in the wilderness. True belonging doesn’t require you to change who you are; it requires you to be who you are.”


“There is a line. It’s etched from dignity. And raging, fearful people from the right and left are crossing it at unprecedented rates every single day. We must never tolerate dehumanization—the primary instrument of violence that has been used in every genocide recorded throughout history.”


“Never underestimate the power of being seen.”


“But what we know now is that when we deny our emotion, it owns us. When we own our emotion, we can rebuild and find our way through the pain.”


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50 Brené Brown Quotes on Vulnerability, Courage, and Motivation for 2022

Let these wise words from speaker and best-selling author Brené Brown guide you through life's toughest moments.

If you’ve never heard of Brené Brown, you’re missing out on some powerful motivation. She’s not only a five-time New York Times best-selling author, but she’s also an amazing public speaker whose TED Talk has garnered over 50 million views online. As if that isn’t impressive enough, she’s also a research professor who has spent the past few decades studying empathy, vulnerability, shame, and courage. During her career, she’s become known for her powerful and uplifting way with words, which is why we’ve rounded up 50 of our favorite Brené Brown quotes, which cover everything from leadership quotes and Monday motivation quotes to confidence quotes and quotes about change. No matter what sort of inspiration you need, these Brené Brown quotes are just the ticket.

The following quotes aren’t just good for self-motivation; they’re also great for sharing with others. And during such trying and unexpected times as these past few years, we could all benefit from some uplifting quotes and life-changing quotes. While sharing a quote may not seem like much, it might be just what the people in your life need to hear in order to start their day off on the right foot.

Ready to be inspired? Check out dozens of amazing Brené Brown quotes below.

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1. “We are born makers. We move what we’re learning from our heads to our hearts through our hands.”

2. “Want to be happy? Stop trying to be perfect.”

3. “In a society that says, ‘Put yourself last,’ self-love and self-acceptance are revolutionary.”

4. “Dig deep—get deliberate, inspired, and going.”

5. “But true belonging is not something we negotiate or accomplish with others.… It’s a personal commitment that we carry in our hearts.”

6. “To me, a leader is someone who holds her- or himself accountable for finding potential in people and processes.”

7. “The opposite of belonging is fitting in.”

8. “When we are willing to risk venturing into the wilderness, and even becoming our own wilderness, we feel the deepest connection to our true self and to what matters the most.

9. “True belonging never asks us to change who we are. True belonging requires us to be who we are.”

10. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.”

11. “What we know matters, but who we are matters more.”

12. Worthiness doesn’t have prerequisites.”

13. “Let go of who you think you’re supposed to be; embrace who you are.”

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14. “You may not have signed up for a hero’s journey, but the second you fell down, got your butt kicked, suffered a disappointment, screwed up, or felt your heart break, it started. It doesn’t matter whether we are ready for an emotional adventure—hurt happens. And it happens to every single one of us. Without exception. The only decision we get to make is what role we’ll play in our own lives: Do we want to write the story, or do we want to hand that power over to someone else? Choosing to write our own story means getting uncomfortable; it’s choosing courage over comfort.”

15. “The dark does not destroy the light; it defines it. It’s our fear of the dark that casts our joy into the shadows.”

16. “I don’t have to chase extraordinary moments to find happiness—it’s right in front of me if I’m paying attention and practicing gratitude.”

17. “If we are brave enough often enough, we will fall. These are the physics of vulnerability.”

18. “A crisis highlights all of our fault lines. We can pretend that we have nothing to learn, or we can take this opportunity to own the truth and make a better future for ourselves and others.”

19. “Talk to yourself like you would to someone you love.”

20. “There is no innovation and creativity without failure. Period.”

21. “The middle is messy, but it is also where the magic happens.

22. “Connecting the dots of our lives, especially the ones we would rather erase or skip over, requires equal parts self-love and curiosity.”

23. “Grace means that all of your mistakes now serve a purpose instead of serving shame.”

24. “If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.”

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25. “Talk about your failures without apologizing.”

26. “The truth is that falling hurts. The dare is to keep being brave and feel your way back up.”

27. “There will be times when standing alone feels too hard, too scary, and we’ll doubt our ability to make our way through the uncertainty. Someone, somewhere, will say, ‘Don’t do it. You don’t have what it takes to survive the wilderness.’ This is when you reach deep into your wild heart and remind yourself, ‘I am the wilderness. '”

28. “We can choose courage, or we can choose comfort, but we can’t have both. Not at the same time.”

29. “I now see that owning our story and loving ourselves through that process is the bravest thing that we will ever do.”

30. “Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.”

31. “When we combine the courage to make clear what works for us and what doesn’t with the compassion to assume people are doing their best, our lives change.”

32. “Sometimes the bravest and most important thing you can do is just show up.”

33. “You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story and hustle for your worthiness.”

34. “Courage is contagious. A critical mass of brave leaders is the foundation of an intentionally courageous culture. Every time we are brave with our lives, we make the people around us a little braver and our organizations bolder and stronger.”

35. “Brave leaders are never silent around hard things.

36. “We desperately need more leaders who are committed to courageous, wholehearted leadership and who are self-aware enough to lead from their hearts, rather than unevolved leaders who lead from hurt and fear.”

37. “Integrity is choosing courage over comfort; choosing what is right over what is fun, fast, or easy; and choosing to practice our values rather than simply professing them.”

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38. “Everyone has a story or a struggle that will break your heart. And if we’re really paying attention, most people have a story that will bring us to our knees.”

39. “Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart. When we attach judgment to receiving help, we knowingly, or unknowingly, attach judgment to giving help.

40. “I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued; when they can give and receive without judgment; and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship.”

41. “Imperfections are not inadequacies; they are reminders that we’re all in this together.”

42. “Authenticity is the daily practice of letting go of who we think we’re supposed to be and embracing who we are.”

43. “Vulnerability is not weakness. And that myth is profoundly dangerous.”

44. “Staying vulnerable is a risk we have to take if we want to experience connection.”

45. “Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.”

46. “Vulnerability is the birthplace of love, belonging, joy, courage, empathy, and creativity. It is the source of hope, empathy, accountability, and authenticity. If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

47. “To see and to be seen. That is the truest nature of love.”

48. “Here’s what is truly at the heart of wholeheartedness: worthy now. Not if. Not when. We’re worthy of love and belonging now. Right this minute. As is.”

49. “True belonging is not passive.… It’s a practice that requires us to be vulnerable, get uncomfortable, and learn how to be present with people without sacrificing who we are.”

50. “You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.”

Remember: Love should come from within. Here are some self-love quotes that will make you feel like a million bucks.

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15 quotes by Professor Brene Brown on how to gain confidence

To love yourself means to find harmony with the world around you, do not confuse this feeling with selfishness. Only by benevolently treating ourselves, we will be able to let into our lives and sincerely love another person. How to stop criticizing yourself, comparing, devaluing and executing for the slightest mistake? The experience of University of Houston professor Brené Brown, best-selling author of "It's All Because of Me (But It's Not). The Truth About Perfectionism, Imperfection, and the Power of Vulnerability," will help. We bring to your attention 15 wise quotes of a scientist.

1. We cannot give wholeheartedly until we learn to receive in return. While we blame ourselves for needing help, we, without even realizing it, blame the people we help.

2. You can't just tell yourself to stop comparing yourself to others. Most of us need to constantly keep this rule in mind. Going astray is easy, because you always want to see what others are doing, whether they are behind us or, conversely, overtaken. Creativity, which is an expression of our exclusivity, helps to realize that we are not like anyone else and cannot be compared with anyone. This means that the concepts of “lag behind” and “overtake”, “better” and “worse” lose all meaning.

3. Perfectionism is the belief that by behaving perfectly, looking perfect, and living a perfect life, we can minimize the pain of shame, guilt, and judgment. This is a shield. A twenty-ton shield that we drag on ourselves, thinking that it can protect us. In fact, he does not allow us to take off. A healthy pursuit of self-improvement is self-focused – how can I become a better person? Perfectionism is directed at others - what will they think?

4. This is the essence of living in harmony with yourself - you are already worthy. No "if". No "when". You are worthy of love now. Right this minute. The way you are.

5. Don't ask what the world needs. Ask yourself what makes you alive. Then go and do it. The world needs living people.

6. It is dangerous to open one's soul towards the world. But I am sure that it is even more risky to hide yourself and your gifts from the world. The opinions we didn't express, the ideas we didn't share, the contributions we didn't make, it all stays with us. They torment us and eat us from the inside.

7. Being confident means being honest and open about who we are, that we feel what is going on in our lives (whether good or bad). The characters put their lives on the line. Daredevils put their own vulnerability at stake.

8. Learning to love yourself means learning to trust yourself, treat yourself with respect, kindness and tenderness. This is a daunting task, given how strict many of us are about ourselves. I realize that I am talking to myself in a way that I would never allow myself to talk to another person. How quickly we give ourselves verdicts like: “Oh my God, I'm so dumb!” or “Am I such an idiot?” Loving someone and calling them "stupid" or "idiots" are incompatible things. In the same way, this attitude towards ourselves negatively affects our ability to love ourselves.

9. We betray ourselves when, instead of acting sincerely, we try to appear cool and control the situation. We do so unconsciously. We say to ourselves: “God! How pathetic you look!" The Hopi Indians have a proverb: "When you see me dance, you hear my soul speak." I know how much courage it takes to open your soul to people, but life is too short to waste it on pretense. Don't try to be cool and unflappable when you can dance, sing and laugh.

10. If we want to live in harmony with ourselves and love from the bottom of our hearts, if we want to feel worthy of people, we cannot do without discussing the difficulties that confront us - especially feelings of shame, fear and vulnerability. Jung's followers often refer to shame as the swamp of the soul. I'm not suggesting that you climb into the swamp and set up camp there. I know from personal experience that the swamp of the soul must be visited, but I would not wish anyone to live there.

11. The irony is that we try to renounce difficult situations in our lives in order to appear more wholesome or more worthy, but our integrity and even sincerity depend on the ability to integrate all knowledge and any experience, including unsuccessful ones.

12. If you are determined to take the risk and love someone with all your heart, it is possible that your heart will be broken. If you want to try something new and innovative, you may fail. If you want to show care and enter into some kind of relationship, you may be disappointed. It doesn't matter if the pain is caused by a difficult breakup or something less significant, like a casual comment from a colleague or an argument with a relative. If we learn to go through these experiences and our difficult stories, we can write our own bold ending for them. As soon as we admit our mistakes and failures, we immediately cease to be hostages of stories told by someone else.

13. When faced with something difficult, something that requires a lot of time and effort from us, we immediately conclude: “Everything should be easier. It's not worth my effort." Or we say to ourselves: “This should be easier. It's so hard for me because I'm a failure." A purposeful and optimistic person says to himself: “It’s hard, of course, but I will succeed.”

14. We let love into our lives when we allow another to see and know our vulnerable and strong "I" and when we treat the spiritual connection that grows from this with trust, respect, kindness and tenderness. We do not just give and receive love, we bear it and cherish it. It is a feeling that can arise between two people only when it already exists within each of them - we can love others only on the condition that we love ourselves. Shame and guilt, disrespect, betrayal and emotional stinginess poison the soil in which love grows. Love can survive if these injuries are few and you don't refuse to acknowledge and heal them.

15. Courage, compassion and trust seem like aliens from an ideal world. But in fact, if you nurture these feelings in yourself every day, they will settle in you forever. It is our weaknesses that enable us to cultivate these amazing qualities in our hearts. We manifest them every day precisely because we humans are so beautiful in our imperfection. Courage, empathy, and trust are gifts to us—gifts of imperfection.

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Being natural is every day forgetting what others think and accepting ourselves the way we are.

August 6, 2017


This is the essence of living in harmony with yourself - you are already worthy. No "if". No "when". You are worthy of love now. Right this minute. The way you are.

April 12, 2018


Of course, knowing and understanding yourself is very important, but in order to live in harmony with yourself, it is even more important to love yourself.

February 15, 2019


Living in harmony with yourself means living life with awareness of your own value. It means cultivating courage and empathy and establishing trusting relationships with people. It means waking up in the morning thinking, “It doesn’t matter what I do or don’t do today. Whatever I do is enough,” and go to bed at night thinking, “Yes, I’m imperfect and vulnerable, sometimes I get scared, but that doesn’t change the fact that I’m brave and worthy of love.

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By trust, I mean the energy that exists between people when they feel that they are seen, heard and appreciated; when they can give and receive without judging or being condemned; when they draw vitality from relationships.

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Being spiritual means acknowledging that we are all inextricably linked by a power greater than humanity has, and that our closeness to each other and to that power is based on love and compassion. Developing spirituality in ourselves, we gain purpose, meaning and future.

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While we blame ourselves for needing help, we, without even realizing it, blame the people we help.

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Taking control of your life and loving yourself is the most courageous thing we can do.

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