Am i too hard on myself quiz

Test: Why are you so hard on yourself?

Question 1/10

When things go wrong, you often wonder:

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A Why life has to be so hard
B Why you never quite get things right
C How you will cope
D How everyone else is coping

Question 2/10

Which of these benefits of self-compassion most appeals to you?

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A Being more in tune with your own needs
B Feeling more at peace with past hurts
C Changing a critical inner narrative
D Smoothing out the emotional ups and downs

Question 3/10

Which of these is your most common cause of stress?

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A Feeling overwhelmed
B Feeling like you’re not in control
C Feeling criticised
D Feeling disapproved of

Question 4/10

What do you wish you had more of?

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A Assertiveness
B Willpower
C Confidence
D Resilience

Question 5/10

At the moment, self-compassion is:

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A Allowing yourself a good cry
B Encouraging yourself to try harder
C Not putting pressure on yourself
D Not something you really think about

Question 6/10

If you miss your regular yoga class, it is probably because:

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A You lost your confidence about going
B You couldn’t find the motivation to go
C You got caught up helping someone else
D The friend you arranged to go with let you down

Question 7/10

You most need the support of a good friend when:

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A You’ve lost sight of what to prioritise
B You feel lost and a bit lonely
C You’ve forgotten what you’re good at
D You can’t stop thinking about what might go wrong

Question 8/10

Part of you worries that being kind to yourself:

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A Dissolves self-discipline
B Is self-indulgent
C Doesn’t really change anything
D Gets you nowhere

Question 9/10

You’re happiest when you feel:

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A Loved and appreciated
B On the right track
C Calm and in control
D Part of a community

Question 10/10

Life would be easier if you were better at:

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A Letting go of the need to achieve
B Pushing yourself out of your comfort zone
C Allowing others to help you
D Getting things into perspective

Are You the Best Version of Yourself?

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Can you honestly say that you're trying to be the best version of yourself that you know you can be? Every human on the planet makes mistakes, but it's how you learn from them that helps you rise into being your best self. If you've been questioning your existence and wondering if you're doing a good job lately, you've come to the right place! Once you answer the questions in this quiz, we'll let you know if you're living up to your truest potential.

Being your best version is a deeply personal thing. Every human has a different idea about what it takes to be their best, but there are a few basics that will measure how you're doing. As you go through these questions, you'll be presented with a few morally-based scenarios and asked about the way you see yourself. After you've answered enough of them, it will be easy to see if you're living up to your own expectations — or not! How well do you think you'll do?

Being your best version means that you'll have to tell the truth or respond as tactfully as you can. Will your answers prove that you're giving your all, or will they reveal that you're still a work in progress? If you're ready to measure your progress, let's go find out!

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When you make a simple mistake, are you hard on yourself?

Everyone makes mistakes!

Mistakes are nothing more than learning experiences.

Ugh. I hate messing up.

I never make mistakes.

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Which part of your current life would you give two thumbs up?

Career

Interpersonal relationships

Health

Social life

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Do you set small goals, or do you tackle the big stuff first?

I always set huge goals.

I set a series of small goals that lead up to a big goal.

I only set goals if I really, really want something.

I rarely ever set goals.

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Do you tend to put the needs of others before your own needs?

I'm trying to get better at thinking of myself first.

I'm good to others, but I also make myself a priority.

I always put my family first.

No matter what, my needs come first.

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Would you say that it's right or wrong to taste test the grapes while you're shopping?

There are worse things you can do in a grocery store.

It's stealing!

There's nothing wrong with a taste test.

The free samples are enough for me.

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What do you do to soothe yourself when your stress levels are through the roof?

Naps are great for that.

I always get in an extra workout.

I treat myself to something small.

The best medicine is having a long conversation with a friend.

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Would you open a piece of mail that was mistakenly delivered to you?

No, but I might throw it away.

That's illegal! Who does that?

I do it at work all the time.

If it looks interesting, I would.

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How often do you let people know that you appreciate them?

I could stand to do that more often.

I tell them every chance I get.

It happens more often around the holidays.

I wait until they tell me first.

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Which of these traits do you consider one of your weakest?

Courage

Sense of adventure

Agreeableness

Willpower

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When someone asks your opinion, do you say what you're really thinking?

I always sugarcoat things.

If they asked, I'll say exactly what I think.

No, that wouldn't be good for anyone.

I tend to say what I think without being asked.

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What do you think others think of you when they first meet you?

I think they see me as being a little shy.

I'm sure they see how friendly I am.

You would have to ask them.

I don't care what they think.

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Are you more likely to follow your intuition or your sense of logic?

When I make a decision, I try to rely on both.

I'm extremely logical.

My intuition has never failed me.

I tend to do what feels right.

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Using a percentage, how often do you eat healthy meals?

I eat healthy about 75% of the time.

95% of most meals are healthy.

I would say about 50%.

My life is crazy, so I'll go with 35%.

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If you found a wallet on the sidewalk, what's the first thing you would do?

I would turn it into the nearest store.

I would look inside and see if I can find any contact information.

Knowing me, I would ignore it. Someone else will do something about it.

I'm going to see how much cash is inside.

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How do you try to give back to your community?

I attend public meetings.

I volunteer.

I'm kind to everyone.

I don't cause any trouble.

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Would anyone say you're the kind of person who holds a grudge?

I have in the past, but I've realized that it's not healthy.

I let things go fairly easily.

I'm still mad at someone for something that happened in third grade.

I only hold grudges when it comes to my ex.

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Are you drinking enough water and getting enough sunlight?

I'm probably not getting enough of either.

I always make sure to get enough water, but I could stand to spend more time outside.

I don't drink as much water as I should.

Do you think I'm a houseplant?

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Would you say that you're a skilled communicator?

I could say what I think a little more often.

Communication is one of my best skills.

I'm better at communicating at work than I am in my relationships.

You'll never be able to guess what I'm thinking.

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What kind of reaction would you have to being cut off in traffic?

Meh ... I have more important things to worry about.

I usually just let them in.

It would infuriate me, but I would stay calm.

There would be a few loud words.

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Which of these things always makes you feel good about yourself?

Saving a little money

Helping out a friend

Keeping a promise

Doing a good job

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In your opinion, what could the world use these days?

We could be kinder to one another.

I think we need a little more understanding.

I'm voting for common sense.

If we could all be honest with each other, that would be great.

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What always makes you feel a sense of gratitude?

Having a warm place to sleep

Hearing that I'm doing something right

Knowing that my loved ones are good people

Always having food to eat

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If we asked your neighbor to describe you, what word would they use?

Thoughtful

Polite

Mysterious

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Do you think you're putting your best talents to good use?

I'm doing my best.

No one wants to hear me yodel, but I'm doing great other than that.

I could be using my talents more.

I wish I could use them for something more meaningful.

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Are you guilty of putting things off when you know they need to be done?

My life is so crazy, it's inevitable sometimes.

I never procrastinate.

I think everyone is guilty of that.

I could stand to be more on top of things.

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When you're angry about something, what are you like?

Proactive

Vengeful

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What's the last thing you think about when you go to sleep at night?

I think about the things I need to do tomorrow.

I count my blessings.

I usually think about something I did 10 years ago.

I always wonder if I've remembered to lock the door.

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Can you say that you're doing anything to reduce your carbon footprint?

I take the recycling to the curb every week.

I try to live as efficiently as possible.

I turn off the water when I brush my teeth.

I have more immediate things to be concerned with.

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Would you agree or disagree to being called a mindful person?

I could use a little help in that area.

I would totally agree.

I don't disagree, but my friends might.

I somewhat disagree.

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Do you think that you spend enough time laughing?

I'm lucky to spend plenty of time laughing.

I wish I could spend all my time laughing.

I laugh at myself a lot.

I would settle for smiling more.

FINISH QUIZ

You Got:

"Who are you really"

Look carefully at the picture and choose without hesitation the one you like best. Under the corresponding number below, read the description of your character.

1. You love everything new: discovering new places, constantly getting new impressions. You love new acquaintances, but you are used to the fact that they happen by themselves - for this you do not make any effort. You are always ready to help. However, you are not ready to share all your thoughts and ideas with others. You hate routine and are ready to change at least something in order to get a new situation. Office work drains you.

2. You love to be alone. It is important for you to analyze everything that is happening. You are the kind of person who always gets to the bottom of things. You always think before you speak. Friends know that you can be trusted. The most pleasant thing for you is traveling without companions with a minimum of luggage and a book.

SEE ALSO: Psychological test on the picture with houses "How do you look at the world"

3. You like to stand out from the crowd. You are annoyed by banality and narrow-mindedness. You are one of those who boldly expresses their ideas and views. You don’t really care about the opinions of others, because most of them are a gray mass for you. You are born to create new meanings. A man of creativity and fresh ideas.

4. You are a very unstable person. No one can ever predict your reaction and intention. You often keep your thoughts to yourself. You are either perceived and loved as you are, or not perceived at all. In fact, no one can ever understand what is going on in your soul. It is difficult for you to trust because you do not even trust yourself - your thoughts change more often than the weather.

SEE ALSO: Psychological test on the picture "What do you lack in life now"

5. You are a very emotional person. You have a violent reaction to any manifestation of reality. You are one of those who laugh out loud and cry bitterly. Tears are your best solace. Friends appreciate you for your directness and honesty.

6. You look back too often. Self-digging is about you. You don't like to trust people. However, you make decisions very quickly. You are one of those who will solve any problem and problem. You need to learn how to relax, fully, without unnecessary thoughts.

7. You are a very conscientious person. It is important for you to live in harmony with yourself and those around you. Friends consider you a kind and open person. You love helping others. You are often upset that the good does not return as you would like, but you cannot help but help. It is easy to offend you because you are a thin vulnerable person.

SEE ALSO : What is your personality like? (psychological test on the picture)

8. You are one of those who energize everything around you. You love the fast pace of life. Perseverance and drive are your trump cards at work. Long term projects are not for you. It is difficult for you to build relationships, although you are constantly the subject of desire for someone.

9. You are a born psychologist: you feel people well, the motives of their actions. You will always give the right weighted advice. People trust you, often turn to you even for a simple conversation. You need to learn to be kind to yourself. You will become stronger if you learn to love yourself.

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5 Signs You're Too Hard on Yourself

We can sometimes become our own most severe and ruthless critic - so severe that it stops us from moving forward and achieving our goals. How to understand that we are too strict with ourselves? There are 5 simple signs for this...

Author Kluber Reading 8 min. Views 4.6k. Posted by 05/25/2018

Haven't you taken on too much? Are you too strict and ruthless to yourself?

“Those parts of you that you deny with all your might and want to hide and destroy, sooner or later will completely subdue you. The best thing to do here is to look them in the face and try to defeat them, because they will remain a part of you one way or another ”- Janet Mock

Look at this quote. Think about it well. The modern world is so obsessed with the pursuit of the ideal and intolerance for mistakes that this often greatly underestimates our self-esteem. We do our best to strive for the ideal, not forgiving mistakes along the way, but we do not see the perversity of the logic that makes us do this. We can never achieve perfection without a single flaw - simply because all people make mistakes, and there is nothing to be done about it. Our mistakes are not in vain, we learn from them, and if we never made mistakes, we would not be able to learn many life lessons, or understand what should not be done in any case.

By their very nature, people are imperfect, so stop being too hard on yourself! This does not mean that you should go through life aimlessly - no, the goal and standards and moral principles that you set for yourself are very important, but if you constantly punish yourself for mistakes that you could not avoid in any way, you never reach them (or at least slow yourself down a lot). By treating yourself too harshly and intolerantly, you only bring additional stress to your life, and if you continue to see yourself only in a negative light, sooner or later it will end in a full-fledged nervous breakdown.

Below you will find a few key signs that show that you are being too hard on yourself. If you see these signs in yourself, you should try to change your thinking patterns to more positive ones - and you should start doing this right here and now.

So, here are 5 signs that clearly and unequivocally let you know that you are too ruthless with yourself:

1. You let your mistakes clip your wings

We are all far from perfect, and we all make mistakes. Moreover, mistakes are a normal and healthy part of our lives! Without mistakes, we would never know what success is. It is impossible to achieve any goal whatsoever by simply snapping the fingers of the left hand. This usually requires a lot of hard work, perseverance and self-confidence.

True success cannot be achieved without a certain level of risk. If you always stick to what is familiar and familiar to you, you will never go beyond your comfort zone, but only by stepping outside of it, you can fully realize that the world is huge and limitless, and you can achieve anything you want in it. . Too many people live bound hand and foot by self-imposed restrictions, understandably achieving only equally limited results. So... if you only notice your mistakes, without noticing how far you have come, despite all the steps back and marking time, you are too ruthless to yourself.

Remember, mistakes and failures are not things to be ashamed of. Just because you didn't hit the target this time doesn't mean you won't succeed next time. If you don't stop trying, sooner or later your efforts will bear fruit.

2. You think you're not good enough

In an article in Psychology Today, Andrea F. Polard, PhD, writes that we often lose our ability to feel empathy when it comes to ourselves. In other words, we constantly humiliate ourselves, downplaying our abilities and achievements, so much so that we would never allow anything like that to be said to a friend, or even an acquaintance. Yes, yes, often we ourselves become our own worst critics, not giving ourselves a drop of the indulgence that we readily bestow on others. Well, why, why is love for ourselves the hardest thing for us?!

However, looking around, you can guess why. As we mentioned at the beginning of this article, our society is awash in negative evaluations, both of ourselves and of others. Many well-known firms (yes, firms, entire industries!) would go bankrupt in less than a year if all of us could suddenly really love ourselves. Take the beauty industry, for example - it simply would not survive if its marketers could not convince people from all over the world that their appearance has a lot of flaws, and they cannot do without dozens of types of cosmetics, and even operations.

However, the fact that our world is full of negativity and feeds on it does not mean that you should constantly humiliate yourself and constantly put pressure on yourself because you are not good enough. Too many good people consider themselves unworthy and look for flaws in themselves just because the consumer society in which we all live makes money on our self-doubt. So become a rebel, love yourself in spite of everything!

3. You are constantly stressed

Stress has become a real scourge of the modern world, and its general level is increasing every year. Stress is not always unambiguously negative, in fact, in small amounts it even helps us achieve our goals and keep moving forward even when we feel like giving up. However, too much stress just kills us. Literally. When we start to get annoyed over every little thing, let alone really big problems, it does not help solve them at all. Moreover, it often only makes them worse.

Stress is often caused by excessive negative fixation on all kinds of shortcomings (whether real or imaginary). If you don’t notice your strengths and constantly think only about your shortcomings, you can forget about a good mood, and say “hello” to stress because of all the things that you think need to be changed. Be kind to yourself. Try to take on only one thing at a time - this is the real limit of any person, even if he convinced himself otherwise.

4. Your expectations are too unrealistic

Being too intolerant of ourselves, we begin to expect too much from ourselves, and when we fail to meet these completely unrealistic expectations, instead of recognizing their highness, we begin to hate ourselves for the fact that we did not succeed. This quickly pulls us into a spiral of negativity, leading only in one direction - down. Of course, we all let ourselves down from time to time, but if we feel disappointed in ourselves all the time, it will not lead to anything good, and will sink our self-esteem to the very bottom of the abyss.

Try to be more realistic. If you want to start your own business, don't expect to get everything done in just one month, and in two months you can recoup the costs and start making a profit. Set smaller but achievable goals for yourself, and break them down into small steps so you can truly succeed. If you're setting the bar too high for yourself and getting angry when you can't meet it, then you're most definitely being too hard on yourself.

5. You always want more

Of course, in most cases, the fact that you are not limited by what you have achieved and strive for more is very worthy, but if you, in pursuit of more, forget about everything that is good in your life, by focusing only on what you lack, you can seriously ruin your life. Achieving the next goal should bring at least temporary satisfaction, and you should not feel like you have achieved nothing at all. If you never feel satisfied with whatever you achieve, you are being too hard on yourself.

A few final thoughts

The fact that modern society is in an almost constant state of dissatisfaction with itself does not mean that you must follow its example. So if you understand that the above signs are quite applicable to you, try to look at yourself from the outside, and understand if you are too strict and ruthless with yourself. Believe me, once you get to the bottom of the problem and understand what you are doing to yourself, it will become much easier for you to show love and empathy for not only others, but also yourself - so much easier that over time it will become quite habitual.

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