What do extroverts think of introverts
Thoughts Extroverts Have About Introverts You May Have Never Imagined - Pick the Brain | Motivation and Self ImprovementPick the Brain
Posted on July 24, 2018 by lisasmith | CATEGORIES: career, communication, confidence, creativity, success, time management
Extroversion and Introversion are considered to be the core aspects of people’s personalities. Renowned psychologist Carl Jung coined the terms ‘extroverts’ and ‘introverts’ for the first time in his work ‘Psychologische Typen’ in 1920. He distinguished between the two categories based on their emotional response to various stimuli. More recently, this theory has been further refined. Extroversion and Introversion are now associated with the functioning of a chemical named ‘dopamine’ which plays a crucial role in the human brain circuit which controls reward, learning, and response to novelty.
Over the course of years, people believe in the popular myth that extroverts have a better social acceptance over introverts. Because of a sharp difference between the two categories of people and the varied interactions between them, extroverts have developed certain thoughts and assumptions about introverts which can be well challenged!
Below are 8 listed thoughts which extroverts have about introverts you may have never imagined:
It is easy to identify an introvert
Anyone who talks less and prefers to hear more and indulges in limited social interactions is perceived to be an introvert. However, being shy and reserved does not equal to introversion. It rather implies the act of directing one’s attention towards or receiving gratification from one’s own interests, thoughts, and feelings. It is the state of being concerned with your own preoccupation primarily. There could be numerous shy extroverts and outgoing introverts. An introvert can be identified only by frequent interactions.
Introverts are a minority
Extroverts generally like to believe that the world possesses more of their kind of people rather than the other type.
A rough estimate states that one third to half of the people in the world are introverts. Although the influential culture of the western countries prefers extroversion, as they seem to be the go-getters, many countries such as the ones in the Middle East, Africa, and South America relate introversion with perseverance and intelligence.
Every shy person is an introvert and vice versa
Extroverts often confuse introversion with timidity and reticence. Introverts are often not apprehensive about speaking to people. All they need is a reason to interact. They generally like to avoid public activities and complications. They hate small talk and love to get to the point quickly. They have a close knit of friends with whom they are most comfortable. It’s just that they do not see a reason to beat around the bush with social pleasantries.
Introverts prefer to stay in isolation
Since extroverts prefer to be amongst people and the popular belief states that introverts abhor company, the general assumption is that introverts prefer solitude.
Because of this, introverts are also perceived to be depressive and believed to possess negative personalities. However, the truth is that introverts gain their momentum by being alone just like extroverts, who gain their energy from social interaction. Introverts do not treat solitude as loneliness, but a window for them to spend some time thinking and analyzing. Extroverts, on the other hand, perceive solitude with loneliness and depression.
Introverts are not good orators
Introverts are often assumed to suffer from stage fright. They are perceived to be the ones who shy away from speaking in front of the audience. However, it is not that they cannot speak but it’s just that they ‘do not feel the need to speak.’ Given a chance, they can be better and more influential orators than extroverts. They can be persuasive visionaries who can lead from the front. Example of famous introverts who were great orators is as Mahatma Gandhi, Abraham Lincoln, Albert Einstein, Bill Gates and Eleanor Roosevelt.
Introverts are not fun to be with
Extroverts assume that their outgoing nature is because of their will to venture out and meet new people and take pleasure in company and conversation. Introverts, on the other hand, prefer to remain within themselves and therefore choose to remain aloof. They are not adventure seekers and prefer to hang out in the calm and serene environment. Parties and social gatherings sometimes drain their enthusiasm. However, this does not imply that introverts are not fun to be with. They can make the excellent company and can strike deep meaningful conversations. They prefer quality over quantity. They tend to have fewer friends with whom they can be themselves.
Introverts are weird
Introverts are individualists who like to do their own thing their own way. They do not follow the crowd and base their decisions upon their personal contemplation and understanding.
They pay close attention to their emotions and thoughts. They are generally the ones who do not find it necessary to appease by following the clichéd rules. They don’t make decisions based on popularity or trends. They are comfortable in their skin and do not worry about putting up a show for anyone. They prefer to be valued for what they bring to the table as an individual rather than how well they fit into a group. They take pride in being different.
Introverts prefer the company of introverts to extroverts
Introverts often enjoy the company of extroverts more than extroverts think. They are often good listeners and pose as a complete contrast to the extroverts. They are often quiet and pay a lot of attention to details without judging too much. Although they have fewer friends, they are totally trustworthy, secret keepers and can become the best of friends. They prefer people, not a crowd! However, even they feel the need to speak to someone.
And when extroverts and introverts, sparks fly!
It might not be easy to spot an introvert. While the general ones are quiet and reserved, this is not the ideal manner to distinguish them. Introverts may be difficult to be understood and sometimes one might wonder if everything is ok with them. They gain fulfillment by seeking with themselves. They are more perseverant. They simply need to be understood and be accepted the way they are without constantly trying to change them.
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Do Introverts and Extroverts See Reality Differently?
By Susan Cain
“Are Extroverts Ruining Psychologists’ Surveys?”
So read the LiveScience headline of an article describing research findings suggesting that extroverts answer survey questions with more extreme responses than introverts do.
It doesn’t matter what type of question it is. Whether asked to rate how much they liked a photo of a nature scene or how disgusted they’d be upon finding a caterpillar in their salad, the results were the same—extroverts reported more intense reactions than introverts did.
This raises the question: do extroverts actually experience life in extremes or are they just more inclined to declarative statements? If the answer is the latter, then extroverts’ instinct for hyperbole can interfere with “scientists’ efforts to paint an objective view of the world,” writes LiveScience reporter Rachael Rettner.
According to one scientist I spoke to while researching my book, however, the answer may be the former, at least when it comes to positive emotions like joy and delight. Extroverts are known for “up-regulating” these feelings—for accentuating the positive—says Rick Howard, University of Nottingham psychology professor, while introverts are more likely to simply take their emotions as they find them.
Let’s put aside the value judgments that inevitably flow from such observations (are extroverts more optimistic, i.e., “good”? are they simplistic, i.e., “bad”?).
Instead, let’s ask what it means for our personal relationships if introverts and extroverts tend to experience very different realities.
Donna McMillan, the St. Olaf College psychologist who conducted the study and considers herself an extrovert, recalls the time she and her husband made bruschetta to bring to a party:
“I said something outlandish like ‘I think this is the best bruschetta in the world!’ My husband, who tends to be more introverted, responded, ‘It is good.'”
“I’m not sure, but I think we might equally like the bruschetta,” McMillan told LiveScience. “But I’m not sure.”
In other words, if two people look at the same event and one feels X about it while the other feels X plus 1, or X plus 10, then it’s harder for them to enjoy a sense of mutual experience.
There’s also the potential for misunderstanding. If I say the bruschetta is “the best thing ever” and you say “yeah, it’s good,” I’ll feel deflated. But if you feel that you have to pretend it’s the best thing ever when you don’t really think it is, you’ll feel like you have to be inauthentic around me.
This is yet another example of why we need to truly understand other people’s cognitive and emotional maps—so we don’t take our differences personally.
This also explains a phenomenon I noticed when conducting interviews for my book: introverts tend to fear extroverts thinking them too serious, while extroverts worry that introverts think they are “too much” or “too silly.”
What do you think about this research? Have you noticed these patterns in your own life?
*This post previously appeared on Susan Cain’s former blog, The Power of Introverts.
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5 myths about introverts and extroverts
Man among people
The erroneous opinion has stuck primarily because we do not fully understand the difference between introversion and extroversion.
Well, it's time to debunk persistent myths.
Myth 1. Introverts replenish their energy supply by immersing themselves in thoughts, sensations and emotions, extroverts draw strength from any social interaction.
Actual Both those and others enjoy communication, but much depends on its intensity and duration.
Many people think that introverts are naturally loners. Meanwhile, they are among people no less than extroverts. They also enjoy engaging conversations in good company. Both feel uplifted by associating with those who share their thoughts and feelings.
Another common misconception is to describe extroverts as more talkative and assertive conversationalists. This is partly true. However, researchers believe that regardless of personality type, people feel energized when they are comfortable with each other. Watch introverts and see that they literally glow when they are in their element.
What's the difference? Introverts get tired of long, noisy parties and crowded events faster.
They need to periodically withdraw into themselves in order to recharge. For the same reason, extroverts seek thrills, such as skydiving.
Myth 2. Extroverts are better leaders than introverts.
Actual Both of them are able to show leadership abilities.
According to some studies, most leaders consider themselves extroverts. A significant proportion of company owners and directors take into account the tendency to introversion or introversion when selecting candidates for key positions. Almost everyone sees extraversion as a leadership advantage. Is it really?
Leadership includes the ability to delegate responsibilities to subordinates, active interaction with people and frequent public speaking. Not at all like the preferences of introverts, is it? Therefore, most people believe that extroverts become successful leaders due to their sociability.
An extrovert is able to get the most out of passive workers.An introvert has no equal in working with active people
Nevertheless, introverts who are trusted with leadership roles also achieve success. They cope with responsible positions because they value initiative, take into account different opinions, listen carefully to subordinates and constantly improve working methods.
Extroverts are appointed to leadership positions for a reason. Especially in industries targeted at a wide audience - for example, in show business. They really manage to stir up uninitiated workers who are waiting for instructions from above. They have enough enthusiasm and perseverance to kindle the desire to realize their potential in the most inert personalities.
Personalities of both types can be excellent leaders - the question is only in a team. An extrovert leader is able to squeeze the maximum benefit out of passive employees. An introvert boss has no equal in working with active people. Accordingly, in order to choose the right boss, it is necessary to observe the behavior of employees.
Myth 3. Extroverts are great speakers.
Actual Oratory is a gift that is not directly related to the type of personality.
It has long been a stereotype that introverts are terribly afraid of public speaking. For some reason, we are convinced that they are extremely shy and get lost in front of a large audience. Extroverts, on the other hand, are born great speakers.
However, most people are unaware that the fear of public speaking has nothing to do with personality type. Fear is caused by completely different reasons - for example, the hostility of the hall, poor preparation and lack of confidence. The likelihood that an introvert will give a brilliant speech is the same as in the case of an extrovert.
Everyone, regardless of personality, must master the set of skills necessary to perform the job
Public speaking is a gift or talent that does not depend on character.
To speak successfully, you need to collect your thoughts and calm down, and this is within the power of anyone who is sure that his information is valuable to the audience.
In certain professional areas, such as sales or service, extraversion/introversion criteria are also taken into account. These positions are most often hired by extroverts. However, employers forget that the duties of an employee include not only contacts with customers.
There is zero correlation between sales performance and extraversion. Every person, regardless of personality, must master the set of skills needed to get the job done. An introvert can be just as good a salesperson as an extrovert.
Myth 4. Introverts are more intelligent and creative, and generally more gifted than extroverts.
Actual Both those and others can show amazing mental and creative abilities.
As already mentioned, they "bloom" in different conditions. It is generally accepted that the former are inspired by a lively environment, while the latter want to be left alone.
Introverts don't really like to participate in noisy group discussions. Many of them admit that they think better in solitude and silence. After an individual brainstorm, they are happy to share their ideas with the team. Does this mean that introversion necessarily indicates a high level of intelligence and creativity?
Smart extroverts differ from smart introverts only in the way they think. Extroverts thrive best in a dynamic environment
Of course not. Mental and creative abilities are not related to personality type. Quite different factors play a role here: genetics, environment, education and talent. Many extroverts are as intelligent and creative as introverts. So the ratio is the same.
Smart extroverts differ from smart introverts only in the way they think. Extroverts thrive best in a dynamic environment. That is why they are great in group discussions. They literally absorb all the ideas expressed, instantly process incoming data and issue ready-made conclusions to colleagues.
To do the same, introverts require complete focus and peace.
It is safe to say that both types of personality are found among great thinkers. The whole difference is in how they work with information and generate ideas.
Myth 5. Introverts have a difficult character, while extroverts radiate a continuous positive.
Actual Introverts have many wonderful qualities, but not everyone is able to see them.
Poor introverts are labeled as gloomy, depressed, unsociable, hermits, misanthropes. The image is rather gloomy.
First of all, this delusion is based on the fact that they love solitude and draw energy from it. Similar conclusions are also related to the fact that extroverts, who replenish their life resource through active communication, become uncomfortable if they spend less time among people.
Indeed, extroverts cannot be alone for a long time and begin to mope. And because they are sad and bad, they transfer their own experiences to introverts and think that they feel the same way.
Thus, it turns out that introverts are completely unhappy, but this is not true.
Many people think that there are more extroverts in the world. But no: introverts make up about half of humanity
Most extroverts do not realize that a quiet, secluded place is good for an introvert. They are quite happy people who are not at all alien to entertainment. Introverts are not averse to having fun, they love parties, adventures and jokes, they just do it in their own way.
On the other hand, we are accustomed to perceive extroverts as lively and fun-loving. It seems to us that depressive moods are not about them. Therefore, we often hear: “He (she) is such an open and cheerful person. Where did depression come from?!” The fact is that the need for extroverts to be around people for a long time is mistakenly interpreted as immunity to depression.
Very few realize that depression can hit anyone, regardless of personality.
And similarly, the level of happiness is not measured by extraversion or introversion. We often determine that someone is happy or unhappy based on our own experience and character.
And finally. Many people think that there are more extroverts in the world. But no: introverts make up about half of humanity. They just sometimes act like extroverts, but not for long.
Text: Elena Anisimova Photo source: Getty Images
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Extroverts, introverts, ambiverts: who they are and how to work with them
people with different personalities.
In order for an HR specialist to effectively interact with employees, understand their motivation, know which work is comfortable for them and which is not, you need to be able to determine the personality type of specialists. There are three types of personality types: extroverts, introverts and ambiverts.
In our new article, you will learn what these types of people are and how to interact with them for productive work.
Extrovert: Distinctive Characteristics and Secrets of Interaction
Extroverts are the “lighters” of the company that are open to the world and directed towards people. They are very sociable and easily get along with people. As a rule, extroverts quickly get used to the new team and can carry on any conversations.
Extroverts are filled with energy if there are a lot of people around them. The book Cognitive, Affective, and Behavioral Neuroscience states that there are two types of extroverts:
- Active. Their key characteristics are assertiveness, success leadership, perseverance.
Active extroverts like to be the center of attention and very often occupy leadership positions. - Affiliative. Friendly, open and sincere guys. They easily find contact with new people and value their loved ones very much, because relationships mean a lot to them.
The main features of extroverts:
- like to be the center of attention;
- do not like routine and monotony, they prefer variety;
- know a lot of people and easily make contact with strangers;
- they are driven by interesting work tasks, they are happy to take on a variety of complex tasks, but only if they are interested;
- first they speak, then they think;
- they like to talk and tell about themselves more than to listen to the interlocutor and try to understand his problem.
How to work with extroverts and set them tasks: 4 tips from the Hurma team
1. When setting tasks, it is very important to give them time and the opportunity to reason and ask interesting questions.
Ask the extrovert for feedback on the task, let him tell you how he understood it, say deadlines and expected results.
2. Extrovert employees should be assigned to projects where they can learn something new for themselves. In addition, it is important to create a “competitive” environment for them, since it is these conditions that motivate them the most.
3. Give them the opportunity to be in the spotlight, be a mentor to someone, lead a discussion in which they can take the initiative and take action.
4. As a rule, extroverts have adequate self-esteem and are self-confident. But despite this, it is important to praise them and celebrate their achievements.
Introvert: distinctive characteristics and secrets of interaction
An introvert is the exact opposite of an extrovert. Such people focus more on their inner world than on the outside. Introverts are not very sociable, but at the same time, very pleasant interlocutors, if you talk with them on topics that interest them.
In addition, if you find an approach to them and make friends, you can learn a lot of interesting things, since these are people with a rich inner world.
They place the main emphasis on their own knowledge and experience, and not on the views of other people. An introvert likes to read, plan things, work more productively in a calm environment. You can recognize an introvert by the expressions: “I need to think”, “I need to analyze”, etc.
How to work with introverts and set tasks for them: tips from the Hurma team
1. Introverts think a lot and that is why they cannot always quickly answer the question. Give them time to think things over, formulate an answer, study more information. If introverts do not know something, they study the issue, delving into the details.
2. Be prepared to answer a large number of questions, because it is important for introverts to understand the manager's analytics, why the task needs to be done in this way, on what grounds this or that decision was made.
3. Introverts have one feature similar to extroverts - they also need praise and recognition of their merits. And in principle, praise is important to everyone, do not spare praise, well, really 🙂
4. When working with an introvert and setting a task, accurately calculate the time frame, explain step by step how and what needs to be done.
5. These are not the kind of people who need to be constantly monitored. If you want to work with an introvert, give him more freedom of action.
6. If you do not have time to communicate with them personally, use e-mail or corporate messengers.
Ambivert: distinctive characteristics and secrets of interaction
Ambivert is the golden mean between a calm introvert and a hyperactive extrovert.
Depending on the specific situation, they can behave both as introverts and as extroverts. If they are uncomfortable, they immerse themselves in themselves; if they like the surrounding conditions, ambiverts actively communicate with everyone.
These people value both social interaction and solitude, when they can be alone and think. Barry Smith, director of the Human Psychophysiology Laboratory at the University of Maryland, claims that 68% of people are ambiverts.
The main signs of ambiverts:
- quickly join a new team and do not experience discomfort when communicating with strangers;
- have empathy, understand and listen to the emotions of other people;
- they have a wider social circle than introverts;
- they establish deeper contact with people, unlike extroverts.
How to work with ambiverts and set them tasks: tips from the Hurma team
1. Ambiverts can work with both routine and interesting tasks.
