What causes victim mentality
Victim Mentality: Causes, Symptoms, and More
Written by WebMD Editorial Contributors
Medically Reviewed by Dan Brennan, MD on February 03, 2022
In this Article
- What Does a Victim Mentality Mean?
- Why Be a Victim?
- Signs You Have a Victimhood Mindset
- How to Stop Being the Victim
We all have our ups and downs in life. Bad things might happen to you or people you know on a daily basis. But there are some people who claim it is never their fault. They argue that they have no control over the tough situations and problems they encounter. It is simply always happening to them.
Victimhood can become a part of a person's identity, but it is a learned behavior and can be changed. It often evolves as a defense mechanism to cope with adverse life events.
People who constantly blame other people or situations for the events in their lives have a victim mentality.
What Does a Victim Mentality Mean?
"It’s not my fault. " Someone who acts from a place of victimhood claims things that happen to them are the fault of someone or something other than themselves. It might be the fault of their partner, family, co-worker, friend, or "the way the world is." They ferquently complain about the bad things that happen in their lives. They are reluctant to take personal responsibility, asserting that the circumstances aren’t in their control.
It’s not a martyr complex. Victim mentality can sometimes be confused with a martyr complex. They are two similar behaviors, but there are some differences. Victims take things personally. Even if a comment or statement wasn’t directed at them, they will still absorb it as if it was. "What did I do to deserve this?" is a common question for them.
On the other hand, a person with a martyr complex will often go out of their way to take on extra tasks for other people, even if they don’t want to. They sacrifice themselves for others yet often feel resentful after the fact.
Unhealthy coping mechanisms. People who have a victim mentality have often suffered through trauma or hard times, but haven’t developed a healthier way to cope. As a result, they develop a negative view of life, where they feel that they don't have any control over what happens to them. Because they don’t think anything is their fault, they have little or no sense of responsibility for their lives. It just happens to them.
If someone tries to help or offer solutions, they’re often prepared with a list of reasons why that will not work. People who try to help are often left frustrated and confused.
Why Be a Victim?
Why do people behave this way? There are some benefits to adapting a victimhood mindset.
No accountability. Being accountable for your life means you’re in the driver’s seat. You take responsibility. That can be scary to someone who has a victim mentality. You would have to admit life isn’t just the result of the actions of others.
Taking responsibility bursts the protective bubble of victimhood.
Secondary gain. Some people’s problems continue because of the secondary benefits. Sympathy, attention, and access to medication or funds are common examples of secondary gain. Someone with a victim mentality might not even realize they are getting these benefits, and often feel truly distressed.
Satisfies unconscious needs. People with a victim mentality, especially when it comes from past trauma, unconsciously seek validation and help from others. They play the “poor me” card consistently. This can generate sympathy and help from others.
Avoid taking risks. Projecting blame on others is a key part of the victim mentality. It’s a way to avoid being truly vulnerable and taking risks.
Signs You Have a Victimhood Mindset
It’s normal to be unsatisfied in some parts of your life. But it’s important to look at the bigger picture. If you notice similar patterns across different areas of your life, you might have a victim mentality.
The first step to solving a problem is to identify and acknowledge it. Look for these signs in yourself to see if you might have adopted a victim mentality:
- You blame others for the way your life is
- You truly think life is against you
- You have trouble coping with problems in your life and feel powerless against them
- You feel stuck in life and approach things with a negative attitude
- You feel attacked when someone tries to offer helpful feedback
- Feeling bad for yourself gives you relief or pleasure
- You attract people who blame others and complain about their life
- It’s difficult for you to examine yourself and make changes
How to Stop Being the Victim
Victim mentality is learned behavior.
In other words, it’s not something you’re born with. It's something you learn in a social environment. It could be learned from family members or the result of trauma. However, you have the power to overcome it.
Take the first steps in the following ways.
Take responsibility. You are the only one who controls your actions. You might not be able to control others, but you control how you react to them. You control who you spend your time with, and where. Realize your potential and get in the driver’s seat of your life.
Self-care and compassion. Victim mentalities are subconsciously adopted as a way to cope, often from past trauma. Be compassionate to yourself in your recovery. Practice self-care and self-love. Journaling can be a helpful tool to work through your feelings.
Start saying no. You can say no to something you don’t want to do. It’s okay. Even if other people feel you are letting them down, take care of your energy and prioritize yourself.
Educate yourself. Read books about the victim mentality and how it affects your life. Consider seeking therapy. The more you educate yourself on the topic, the more likely you are to stay on track with your recovery and avoid going back to your old way of thinking.
Victim Mentality: Signs, Causes, and What to Do
A victim mentality is where you often feel like a victim, even when the evidence says otherwise. Signs include frequently blaming others and having trouble accepting personal responsibility.
We all have days when we feel like the world is against us.
Maybe you try to connect with others, but they don’t seem to understand the extent of your pain — or when making positive changes, you might self-sabotage or give up quickly.
This is natural from time to time. But if this sounds like your situation most (or all) of the time, you may be living with feelings of victimhood.
A victim mentality can make it feel like life is unfair. You may even feel there’s nothing you can do to change your circumstances — but that isn’t true. There’s always something you can do. We asked two experts how to cope.
A victim mentality is when a person feels like a victim across situations, even when the evidence suggests otherwise.
They may feel they have no control over what happens to them.
This outlook can impact many areas of your life — like relationships, work, and health.
Victim mindsets can develop as a coping mechanism for previous traumatic experiences, says Dr. Julie Landry, PsyD, a clinical psychologist in San Antonio, Texas.
It may feel like you have little control or impact over external factors in your life. She explains that it commonly stems from:
- experiencing multiple situations where you lack control
- ongoing emotional pain that leads to learned helplessness
- betrayal by someone closest to you
People with alcohol use disorder or substance use disorder may find that a victim mentality keeps them in the spiral of addiction. They may feel helpless to change their circumstances, asking for support from others while feeling unable to support themselves.
A victim mentality can manifest in many ways, says Landry. It can involve feeling like the world is out to get you or having difficulty taking personal responsibility for what happens in your life.
The signs of a victim mentality include:
Behavioral signs
- often placing blame on external factors or other people when things go wrong
- having trouble taking personal responsibility or seeing how you may have contributed to a situation
- being overly critical of yourself or others
- self-sabotage
- associating only with people who think like you
Mental (cognitive) signs
- seeing the world as unfair or unsafe
- cognitive distortions, like catastrophizing
- harmful thinking patterns or pessimism
- ruminating over past wrongs and hurts
- thoughts of self-harm or suicide
Relationship signs
- difficulty with intimacy and trust
- emotional unavailability
- limited empathy for others
- mistrust of authority figures
- keeping score in relationships
- trouble accepting constructive criticism
Emotional signs
- anxiety
- depression
- feeling unseen
- guilt or shame
- low self-esteem
- resentment of others
- social isolation
A victim mentality can affect your life in many ways, from stopping you from applying yourself at work to disrupting your relationship dynamics.
You might also have trouble maintaining healthy lifestyle habits.
It’s hard to say if victim mentality is a symptom or a personality trait, as more research is still needed.
One 2020 study suggests that the victim mentality may be a personality trait, dubbed the “Tendency for Interpersonal Victimhood (TIV).” In this case, it spans multiple types of relationships and includes four patterns:
- a desire for recognition as a victim
- feelings of moral superiority
- limited empathy for others
- frequent rumination
A sense of victimhood may also be a symptom of another mental health condition, including:
- borderline personality disorder (BPD)
- major depressive disorder (MDD)
- narcissistic personality disorder (NPD)
- post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
- complex post-traumatic stress disorder (CPTSD)
To determine the root cause of your feelings, you may find it helpful to work with a therapist familiar with trauma.
If you’re ready to change how you feel, many strategies can support you.
Consider professional support
You don’t have to go through this alone. Therapy can help you process past trauma and increase your emotional intelligence, says Landry. “It can help you learn to choose to either leave a situation or accept it, and take responsibility for what you can control in life and how you react,” she says.
A therapist may also work with you on goal-setting and developing self-efficacy, so you feel more in charge of your life. To complement your work in therapy, consider journaling to process emotions and cultivating a gratitude practice, she adds.
Try to practice self-compassion
Take a moment to appreciate yourself for everything you’ve been through, says Katie Ziskind, a licensed marriage and family therapist in Niantic, Connecticut.
“Experiencing abuse can lead to shame, guilt, anxiety, depression, and low self-esteem,” she explains. “It’s really common for victims to think that they are the reason why someone has abused them, so counseling can help you build positive self-talk to remove any self-blame.
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Consider shifting your self-identification
Research suggests that, in some cases, it can be difficult to overcome a victim mentality if there are incentives for staying in that role — for example, medical benefits, income, or another form of security.
You may find it helpful to change your language, says Ziskind. “Instead of calling yourself a victim, you can switch over to calling yourself a survivor of abuse which can be more empowering and help create emotional confidence for future relationships.”
Try to own your story
A 2021 study found that women who had experienced sexual violence were able to move from a victim role to a survivor mentality by:
- securing social support
- reclaiming their story
- letting go of a set timeline for healing
There are many ways to own your story, like writing an article to help other people in a similar situation, volunteering with a nonprofit, and creating art, among other ideas.
It can be frustrating if you know someone who displays signs of a victim mentality, especially if you love them and want to see them stand in their power.
In this case, you may find it helpful to:
- encourage them to seek professional support
- remind them how strong and capable they are
- set and maintain healthy boundaries
- limit interactions that feel draining
- resist the temptation to rescue others
- learn about how to prevent codependency
Working with a licensed professional may help you feel more empowered, particularly if your challenges stem from trauma or a mental health condition. You may find it useful to use Psych Central’s How to Find Mental Health Support resource.
Remember: you are strong. You got this.
What is the victim mentality?
For them, life is an endless series of misfortunes, and other people are mostly enemies. Such beliefs are called the victim mentality. We talk about what it is in the next issue of the guide to the psyche.
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What it is
The term "victim mentality" is widely used in popular psychology. They denote the tendency of a person to blame external circumstances and other people for their problems and concentrate only on the bad things that happen to them.
A person with a victim mentality does not take responsibility for his actions. He justifies them with unfavorable conditions, an unjust society, the cruelty of others, or simply chronic bad luck.
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An example of the mentality of the victim was found by American researchers among offenders - some of them are sure that they committed crimes not of their own choice, but because they grew up in a criminogenic environment and there was simply no way for them not to break the law.
People with a victim mentality usually also look fatalistically at the future: they are sure that they are destined for the rest of their lives only to get into trouble.
Therefore, it makes no sense to make efforts to make your life better. And if someone offers them ways to solve his problems, he will immediately find a lot of reasons why they won’t work.
People with a victim mentality are characterized by the following thoughts and attitudes:
- “Everything is against me!”;
- "What can I do if I'm not lucky all the time?";
- "We are not like that - life is like that";
- “Why do only bad things happen to me? What did I do to deserve this?";
- "My life is a continuous series of suffering";
- “Well, yes, I worked for half a day for free. Well, what options did I have - such are their rules";
- "No one cares about me";
- "I was made to do something wrong!";
- “Well, I'm a small person. What can I do?";
- "You ruined my whole life!"
Why it occurs
Because of a traumatic childhood experience.
For example, due to adult violence or peer bullying. Faced with this, the child often finds himself unable to defend himself. And if he is not given help in time, he may form a conviction that life is arranged in such a way that he can be hurt at any moment and for no apparent reason. And the child himself cannot fix it.
Such a belief system can be useful to a child at the moment: it helps to adapt to unbearable conditions, to minimize losses for his psyche. But it keeps him from forming healthier defensive strategies. For example, to believe that he can control his own life, make decisions, protect himself and punish offenders, try to improve his life, improve its quality.
Because of the ideas about the world received from parents. In the first years of his development, the child always unconsciously adopts the behavior patterns, basic beliefs, values and worldview of the parents. If one of them has a pronounced mentality of the victim, the child can learn it.
And keep it in adulthood.
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What is the danger
In some ways, the mentality of the victim can even be beneficial. It allows you not to go through the stress of making important decisions and just go with the flow. And the constant stories of their troubles and complaints, which people with a victim mentality are prone to, help them manipulate others for their own interests and get enough sympathy, attention and support from them.
But these pluses are unlikely to compensate for the problems that the mentality of the victim leads to. People who have them are easily succumbed to negative thoughts - and tend to exaggerate the dangers that threaten them. This heightens their anxiety. The attacks of which can alternate with periods of melancholy and bad mood. Because of which people with a victim mentality are prone to self-destructive behavior.
Another problem: the victim mentality usually forces a person to strive with all his might to maintain the status quo.
Since any change in his life, in his opinion, can lead to unpredictable - and possibly negative - consequences. This leads to self-sabotage. For example, a person does not move to a new, more interesting job, even if he is offered one. Or refuses a highly paid, but more responsible position. As a result, it is difficult for him to realize himself in life, he suffers from frustration and dissatisfaction with himself.
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Difficulties also arise in relationships with others. A person with a victim mentality - due to the trauma experienced - often cannot fully trust other people. He is inclined, at the slightest opportunity, to accuse them of treating him unfairly. Which leads to conflicts.
In addition, a person with a victim mentality perceives any criticism as an attempt to hurt him. And therefore, it reacts extremely painfully - and often aggressively - to it.
What to do
Victim mentality is not an innate, but an acquired trait. To get rid of the victim mentality, you need to cultivate the belief in yourself that you can and have the right to control your life at least partially. And stop being afraid of responsibility.
The best way to do this is to contact a psychologist or psychotherapist. The specialist will teach you adaptive techniques that can replace the mentality of the victim. It will help to understand in detail the internal settings underlying it. And finally, he will talk about ways to reduce anxiety when making decisions.
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There are also several ways to work with your inner attitudes on your own. You can start with this:
- Every time you want to avoid making a decision, analyze the risks of different scenarios and try to separate your fears from the real facts.
This will help you realize how often your actions are influenced by emotions, and not by real, already existing problems. - Consider whether the belief that you can't control anything in life is true. Remember the times when you allowed yourself to make a choice and after that everything turned out well. It might be something minor. But even this will show you that you are able to take responsibility for your life and make your own choices.
- Allow yourself to say "no" to illegal demands, to violations of your rights, to requests that you do not want to comply with. Refuse to do things that are inconsistent with your values, ethical beliefs, and interests. And try to remind yourself more often that you have every right to all this.
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The root of resentment #1 - victim mentality
This article is one of the most important on the site.
Here we will not just analyze the life problems associated with resentment, but look at the foundation of resentment as such. This foundation is the victim mentality (abbreviated MF).
I plan to publish a few more articles on the subject of the victim mentality, as this is an incredibly important topic in the context of getting rid of resentment, and it will come up again and again.
Let's start with a definition for now.
What is the victim mentality?
Victim mentality is a pattern of perception and behavior in which a person systematically sees himself as a victim of negative actions on the part of other people or circumstances, and behaves in accordance with this pattern.
Most personal difficulties are connected in one way or another with the fact that people play the victim. These games can affect a variety of areas of life. For some it's finances, for some it's health and sports, for some it's all sorts of addictions and bad habits.
A feeling of resentment is nothing but a manifestation of MF in interpersonal relationships. If you are regularly offended or upset at all for any reason, then the most likely reason is that you think and behave like a victim.
Who is a victim?
A victim is a person who blames something or someone for the negativity in his life, but not himself.
Being a victim does not mean being a dull pessimist. MF in no way implies depression and constant scrolling thoughts about how poor and unhappy you are.
As a rule, the victim mentality manifests itself in specific practical aspects of life, for example, in relationships with loved ones. In the meantime, it may not show itself in all other areas and circumstances (although it indirectly affects them all).
Although it is difficult to live with him, it is possible, and this only contributes to the fact that few people pay due attention to working with him. This is exacerbated by the fact that the absence of a breast does not mean the absence of trouble - everyone has difficulties.
It's all about how you react to them.
For the development of breast life, it is necessary that, firstly, you react to difficulties as a victim, and secondly, these reactions should be systematic and manifest over a long period of time.
The fact that you have ever been the target of negativity does not mean that you are now a victim. If your wallet was stolen on the subway, it does not mean that you now have a victim mentality.
You are a victim if you respond appropriately to this incident, and you have always reacted in this way to such episodes.
And with each new potentially traumatic episode, reacting like a victim, you more and more fix the corresponding mentality in your subconscious, until it starts working automatically without your knowledge, thereby dictating all your further perception.
Ultimately, MF becomes so fixed and unshakable on a subconscious level that a person is no longer able to see that the negativity in his life is caused by himself, and not by some cruel and unjust world.
The victim sincerely sees the world as a cruel and unfair place, overflowing with people and circumstances that can hurt in one way or another.
And these traumas manifest themselves in each victim in their own way, and in many - as a well-known feeling of resentment.
How does a victim mentality lead to resentment?
MF and resentment are inextricably linked. Figuratively speaking, the victim mentality is the engine of resentment.
I have a question for you. How do you deal with hurt?
At best, you will say: “ I feel resentment “, but such people are in the minority. If you think this way, it means that you already have a sufficient level of awareness to at least perceive the feeling of resentment as a phenomenon or process that naturally arises in you.
More often you can hear: “ Vanya offended me”, “ I was offended ” or “ I was offended ”. In all these statements, there is a belief that resentment is something that one person inflicts on another.
The presence of this belief is a clear sign of a developed MF.
How exactly does a developed victim mentality provoke resentment? Consider three links between MF and resentment.
1. Shifting responsibility for your emotions onto other people
Here's the brutal truth about emotions.
You evoke all emotions in yourself, whether you realize it or not. If you are happy now, it is your doing. You're depressed - again you tried. If you feel offended, thank yourself.
If you don't have a victim mentality, then that's how you perceive your emotions.
But if you are a victim, then you will categorically disagree with these statements. You will say that someone made you happy, because of something you are now depressed, and someone offended you.
In other words, you are a victim of circumstances, be they good or bad. You are not responsible for the circumstances, and therefore - for your emotions, so you can not do anything with them.
Naturally, you have no choice but to continue to experience resentment further, every time someone supposedly hurts you.
Take as an example a friend who stopped responding to your messages.
If you have MF, it will provoke a whole stream of mental masturbation. You will think about what to write to him and whether to write at all. You will torment yourself with thoughts from the series “what happened that he suddenly does not write.” You will wonder why on earth you deserve such an attitude. " We are old friends, why does he suddenly take it and disappear, and clearly communicates with others.
Ultimately, this stream of thoughts leads to the feeling that a friend has wronged you.
Guilt will be a constant companion - you will blame yourself or a friend. And even if no one is to blame and these are just circumstances, you will still blame these very circumstances, which means you will let them dictate your emotional state.
Now let's look at the same situation from the position of a person whose perception of reality is not distorted by the mentality of the victim.
How does a person without a victim mentality think?
His mental flow will be much poorer. He will think that in principle, he cannot know exactly why a friend does not write. “ But I'll write him one message, and then, if he gets in touch, it's good, if not, it's okay. I'm going to go do something else or see someone else, and then we'll see .”
Resentment in such a person is simply not able to arise. If he sees that he is 100% responsible for his emotions, it would never occur to him to blame himself, a friend, or circumstances. Why should he launch a poorly controlled stream of negative emotions that he created in himself?
It would be the same as hitting yourself on the head with a hammer and being aware of “ Well, I'm hitting myself, right? Then why should I be upset? Well, it hurts, yes, but that's life! ”
No, this is idiocy, not life.
If a person sees that he is hitting himself on the head, he will throw the hammer aside and will never reach for it again for this purpose.
Only if he's under the illusion that someone else is hitting him on the head, he won't, right?
You might think that a person who doesn't get offended just doesn't have close connections and therefore doesn't care. He simply has no emotions, and therefore he is not hurt.
That's not the point at all. It's just that such a person's connections with people do not determine his emotional background.
For most people, the closer the connections with specific people, the more they shift the responsibility for their emotions to these close people.
But in our example, a person sees that he himself determines his emotions, and therefore the chain of mental masturbation that leads to resentment simply does not turn on automatically.
Theoretically, he could “turn it on” himself, but, of course, he will not consciously create a feeling of resentment in himself (that is, hit himself on the head with a hammer).
2. Feeling of insult due to unjustified expectations
A developed MF can manifest itself in the conviction that someone owes you something.
Friends should pay attention to you and be honest with you. Relatives should respect your wishes and not go against you. Your sexual partner should devote more time to you, because you do not have enough of this attention.
All this is a consequence of the fact that you do not bear 100% responsibility for your life. When someone does not live up to your expectations, instead of correcting or calibrating them, you are automatically offended.
Feelings of humiliation provoked by others are the result of the victim perceiving his well-being in relationships with people as a consequence of their actions or inactions. That is, if the victim is treated well and evokes, supposedly thereby, positive emotions, she feels good. If she is treated badly, then these people cause negative emotions, and the victim, accordingly, feels bad.
How does a person without breastfeeding perceive expectations?
If the victim mentality is discarded, a person begins to see that only he is the true creator of his emotions, both positive and negative.
Having realized the fact that all emotions are constructed by him, against the background of increased awareness, he receives, firstly, a more even emotional background and less sticking in emotions, and secondly, a more accurate mechanism for calibrating his expectations due to the lack of attempts shift the responsibility for your happiness to others.
Let's go back to our example with the friend who chose to ignore you.
If you are a victim, you can, in addition to being offended, be offended by a friend because he did not live up to your expectations. You, without realizing it, once formed certain expectations regarding the behavior of your friend. One such expectation could be “ we are good friends, which means he will always respond to my messages in a timely manner “.
If you do not play the victim, you will immediately notice that your expectations were false, clarify them, discard or correct them, and you will not have any resentment.
3. Mindfulness suppression
In the same way that a virus suppresses the human immune system, MF suppresses awareness.
The victim does not perceive resentment as the fruit of his own thoughts, because he is simply not able to realize it. For her, resentment is a reaction to someone's actions. And if you try to convince the victim with arguments that she herself created a grudge in herself, you will not achieve anything - except, perhaps, another insult, and this time - at you.
In order not just to believe, but to see or, if you like, to feel that resentment is created by you and only you, a high level of awareness is required. So high that you begin to perceive reality and your relationships with people in a fundamentally different way.
But the victim will not seek to look at reality differently. The victim's low level of awareness not only makes it difficult to see reality as it is, but also discourages any desire to discard the previous perception.
It's one thing if a person suddenly realizes that what he believed in turned out to be a lie, and now he decides to discard it and find something else. Or, at the very least, he began to suspect that his perception was false. This indicates that awareness is beginning to grow.
Another thing is when a person is not even able, within the framework of his worldview, based on a low level of awareness, to see that this worldview itself is false.
Let me illustrate with an example.
Blindness or blindfold?
Imagine that you have a bandage over your eyes and you can't see anything. Before you even start trying to untie it, you need to realize that you even have a blindfold.
If this realization is not there, you will not begin to untie it. You will consider yourself blind, confident that nothing can be done about it, life has turned out that way.
And if you try to convince yourself that no, there is no blindness, it's just a piece of cloth in front of your eyes, you will, at best, pretend to believe.
The situation with resentment is similar, only it is greatly complicated by the fact that it is created by you, but without your awareness. It's like you blinded yourself and then forgot and/or chose not to think about it anymore.
If you are a victim, it will be very difficult for you to get rid of resentment because of the low level of awareness. You will continue to blame others instead of realizing that your current vision of reality is false and that you need to look inward and look for the source of resentment there.
How to get rid of the victim mentality?
MF is not just a character trait, like introversion or heightened emotionality. It is a fundamental part of your perception and it will not be easy to get rid of it. Even if your victim mentality manifests itself only in certain areas of life, such as relationships with people, in reality it permeates your entire life, which makes it very difficult to get rid of it.
In addition, MF functions and manifests itself without your knowledge, on a subconscious level, dictating a certain perception within which you react and act.
Therefore, in order to get rid of the mentality of the victim, it is necessary not only to catch its manifestations on a conscious level, but also to work on the subconscious level.
To get rid of the MF, you need to carefully and completely shovel your inner world and throw out of your subconsciousness all that formed it and continues to indulge it - your childhood traumas and resentments that you still have not let go of, your limiting beliefs, your inflated sense of self-importance, your ideas of justice and injustice, your expectations of other people, and much more.
For this work it is necessary to use your subconscious. If you work only on a conscious level, you simply will not get to such deep-seated things as, for example, the charge of resentment and trauma from deep childhood.
Besides, your inner limitations are closely intertwined with each other. For example, limiting beliefs are caused by certain traumatic episodes, and episodes are created by pre-existing beliefs.
Therefore, it is pointless to try to pull some separate emotions or beliefs out of your mind and try to work with them - you need to work through everything in a complex way.
You need a system that would allow you to work through your entire subconscious and eliminate from there everything that makes you perceive, think and react as a victim.
There is such a system, and it is called Turbo Gopher.
What is Turbo Gopher?
Turbo-gopher is a super-powerful system for clearing the mind of garbage:
- Your negative emotions - fears of anxiety, envy, jealousy, resentment, etc.,
- Limiting ideas and beliefs,
- Negative installations,
- Complexes
- Emotional trauma,
- Dependencies and
- Everything that prevents you from being happy and taking your life into your own hands.
Turbo Gopher works with the emotional charge of your internal problems. He defuses traumatic episodes of the past, eliminating them in an ecological way, rather than smoothing them out.
