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8 Signs you’re being used for sex – SheKnows

You guys hang out, get intimate and then…he leaves. Is his post-sex disappearing act because he’s channeling Criss Angel or is he just using you for sex? Read into these 8 signs to find out if he’s just in it for the sex.

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We’ve all been there: Sleeping with a seemingly great guy whose motives we can’t seem to figure out. Maybe he’s giving mixed signals or no signals at all. Either way, something in us makes us wonder if he’s in it just for sex. Well your first clue, should be your trusty gut, but maybe your gut isn’t so trusty because it is wrapped up in insecurity. In that case, here are eight more clues that may help you solve the mystery of whether your lover is interested in you as more than just a bedmate.

WARNING: The truth of these clues may sting, but better to know where you stand, than to lay down for too long with the wrong guy, right?

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Weekday lovers

If your guy seems to always be MIA during the weekends, this is a clear sign that he is reserving weekends for someone else on his literal to-do list, or keeping his options open to meet other women. “When a girl is just a girl I’m into for sex, I’ll never ask her out on a weekend. Weekends are strictly reserved for A-listers and new opportunities.” – Mike, 27, Chicago

2. Sporadic contact

A guy who is really into you will communicate regularly. A guy who is in it to sex it, calls, texts, emails and pops-over only when he is feeling frisky and knows that you will indulge his desires. If the sight of your man’s name on your caller ID surprises you, chances are, this is a sex only situation.

3. Invitation to nowhere

He never invites you to go out with him – his friend’s birthday party, his work happy hour, not even a lackluster dinner and a movie. Bottom line: “Dates” are always cozy nights in. Why? Because that is the easiest place to, you guessed it… have sex.

4. Time’s up!

You spend just enough time together for a little foreplay, sex and maybe a nap. Unless there’s time and desire for a round two, a sex-only motivated man will bolt like a thief in the night before you even have time to turn over on his side.

5. Late-night lovers

A sure in-it-for-the-sex-only sign is when your man only reaches out to you after hours, also known as a “booty-call”, when the day is done and quite possibly last call has been shouted. Although he coos for you sweetly on the other end of the phone, perhaps begging for your hot body, just know that you might be on a long list of lovelies, any of one of whom can satisfy his sexual cravings for the evening.

6. Tangoless texts

The sex-only guy is remorseless when it comes to leaving your texts unresponded to for hours – even days – and sometimes doesn’t respond at all… unless of course you are reaching out to setup a boudoir appointment. And in that case if his RSVP his positive, his reply back is immediate. Same goes for phone calls, emails, Facebook messages, tweets or any other form of communication.

7. Sexy speak

You two speak one language: Sex. And that’s it. If you think hard about it, you may know everything about how he likes “it” but you have no clue where his parents live, what he wanted to be when he grew up, the food that makes him gag, and if he has a middle name. There’s lots of moaning and groaning, but no chatter about work, family, friends, problems, triumphs, etc. Sam, 31, of New York says, “A woman who presents herself as a sexual showpiece will be treated that way. Come to the table at the very beginning with more than just the ability to blow me away in the bedroom. Blow away my mind too and that way I’ll consider you relationship worthy. You don’t have to play like a virgin, you just need to offer more than T&A.”

8. Listen from the beginning

He told you straight up that he doesn’t want a girlfriend, doesn’t have time for a girlfriend, can’t deal with a girlfriend… and just wants to have casual fun. It is up to you if you want to listen… but remember, most guys don’t want to deliver news that women don’t want to hear unless they really mean it. Justin, 24 from Oakland says, “Know who you are and be in charge of what you want from the beginning. If you leave it up to me, then I’m probably going to go for what is easiest… and that’s never a relationship.”

Do long-term, no-strings sex arrangements ever work? | Relationships

It is 30 years since the release of When Harry Met Sally. Nora Ephron and Rob Reiner’s genre-defining romcom had so many hilarious, timeless lines, from: “How long do I have to lie here and hold her before I can get up and go home?” to: “When I get a new book, I read the last page first. That way, if I die before I finish I know how it comes out. That, my friend, is a dark side.” But one line that does seem to have aged is arguably the most famous, and the premise of the whole film: “Men and women can’t be friends because the sex part always gets in the way. ” It is not just the heteronormativity that feels outdated; three decades on, speaking to some of the Harrys and Sallys of the millennial generation, the question now is less can they just be friends, and more, can they just have sex?

For Rachel, a bisexual woman in her early 30s, the answer is an enthusiastic yes, yes, yes! For about five years, she has gone through periods of regularly having sex with a friend she met at university, “with the agreement that we wouldn’t develop a deeper relationship,” she says. “We didn’t contact each other frequently in between dates or ask for the sort of emotional support you’d get from a partner. I cared about him, but I wasn’t dependent on his affection and I didn’t feel responsible for him beyond how you’d feel about a friend. And we’d have really good sex.”

Rachel always felt she knew exactly where they stood, because they talked about the nature of their relationship, discussing the limits of what they expected from each other. “When you are in an arrangement like this, you have to talk about things rather than make assumptions, and I really enjoyed how honest we were both able to be. I found it incredibly freeing that he didn’t ask anything from me.”

As someone who has never had this sort of relationship, I found it difficult at first to get my head around it – not because I felt judgmental, but because I felt admiring. I think you have to be quite emotionally mature to be able to accept something for what it is, without trying to turn it into something more, or denigrate it for not being something it is not.

“Relationships like this,” says Rachel, “where you are enjoying sex for what it is without making it represent something deeper, ask you to think about how sex usually functions in society.” She describes how, if you have sex with someone and get into a relationship with them, you are turning something that started off as a fun encounter into something that completely changes your life. You might end up spending most of your time with this person, making decisions about your life based on their input, using them as your main source of emotional support. “People assume that’s the natural trajectory, and sometimes that’s great – but sometimes it’s nice to just have sex with someone you like without those assumptions and expectations,” she says.

I ask her if there are any downsides: “Probably not.”

It may sound too good to be true, but for psychosexual therapist Kate Moyle, it does not have to be. “If both parties are really busy in their jobs, their social lives and family lives, and don’t have the available emotional space for a relationship, why isn’t this the perfect solution?” she asks. “You get to have sex with the same person, which can typically be quite satisfactory because you get to know each other and each other’s bodies, and there isn’t the emotional dependency and stress of dealing with someone’s feelings. You don’t lose your independence.”

She believes this kind of less demanding relationship is on the rise because of the lifestyles of young people. “We are a generation who seem to work such long hours, with the complete dissolving of nine-to-five because of technology. ”

That is part of the appeal of sex-only relationships for Laura, in her late 20s, who began seeing her then-colleague Mark four years ago. “I have a busy life, a demanding job, and this situation works for me,” she says. “I don’t even know how I would go about getting into a relationship with someone right now, the time and energy you have to devote to that. It’s convenient to be able to say to someone at 11pm, ‘Are you around?’ You can’t really do that in a normal dating situation.”

Mark says: “It’s a bit like a relationship-lite. We usually see each other once a fortnight maximum, and the vibe is always quite intimate – even though it is understood that it will never be any more than what it is.” He adds: “At times, when I’ve felt unsure or anxious or worried or sad or lonely, it’s been incredibly comforting. And then at other times it’s just been really good fun – we do get on really well, and we have amazing sex.”

For Laura, “It’s always a bit more exciting, because you don’t fall into the same repetitive boring patterns of being in a relationship. You never get past that honeymoon period.” It also means she can avoid dating apps. “I don’t like modern dating – I don’t like sacrificing an evening to meet someone I’ll probably know instantly isn’t someone that I have any connection with, and then have a drink and be polite or whatever, for an allotted amount of time, before I can leave.”

But for Laura – unlike for Rachel – there is a downside. “There is something weirdly arrested about the whole situation. If you can never get past a certain point of closeness because you’ve imposed rules – verbally or non-verbally – on how close you can get, then there are going to be times where you feel that barrier.” You start wondering, she says, why don’t I know about all of your life? Why don’t you know my friends? It is not that this kind of relationship is better or worse than more traditional monogamous relationships, “but the nature of the thing is that it has its own limitations,” she says. “It’s also not something you can explain to friends and family. I’m seeing someone and it’s been going on a really long time but we’re not together – you can’t explain that to your mum, can you?” She laughs.

Things go wrong, in Moyle’s experience, when people change, or when they do not stick to the boundaries they have established at the start. “Difficulties tend to come up when one partner meets somebody new, or if they decide to end it. There is a sense of a relationship even if they want it not to be a relationship, because we have a form of a relationship with anyone we are regularly connecting with.”

This is what Mary found. She is a mother of three in her early 40s who divorced five years ago, and she has been having regular sex with a male friend. But it is now proving more complex than she had hoped. She has developed feelings of attachment for him, and he for her. This might sound like a Harry Met Sally happy ending, but, as she explains, it is not. “We weren’t supposed to. It’s complicated because he wants to spend more time with me, and I don’t want the same – I don’t want a relationship, as I am concentrating on my girls. It has been draining, as it’s getting in the way of our friendship. I think you have to lay down rules at the beginning and stick to them – or someone will get hurt.”

There is a name for two people having regular sex with each other on the understanding that it will not grow into a loving, committed relationship – in fact there are several names. “Friends with benefits” is one, “non-relationships” another. But, for the people I spoke to, none of these terms accurately encapsulates what is going on. For Emily Witt, the author of Future Sex, a book about contemporary sexuality, the name is important. “If you don’t have a name for what you’re doing, if you don’t have the words to describe your own reality, it increases your sense of alienation,” she says.

The best term she has found is “erotic friendship”, and, she says, erotic friendships have value. “In popular culture maybe they’re seen as cheap or disposable or a waste of time, but I think they’re places where you can learn a lot. You get to learn somebody’s sexual quirks and the diversity of what turns people on and what they want, you practise communicating your own desires and don’t just assume the person can intuit them. That experience really is worthwhile.”

Yet, Moyle says, these kinds of relationships have traditionally been stigmatised: people such as Rachel, Mary, Mark and Laura are depicted as people who don’t want to or can’t commit, people who want it all. “I guess it doesn’t fit with the historically expected monogamous model, therefore it’s considered ‘other’,” she says. “But we don’t have to conform to the traditional heteronormative model of man meets woman, they get engaged, married, have kids.”

This rings true for Rachel. “We still hold on to this idea of romantic love as a kind of happy ending for women,” she says. “If I’m sleeping with my friend whom I care about and who is kind to me, and I’m not in love with him, or making plans around our bond, I don’t think anybody’s being shortchanged – it just feels like a way to have fun together and enjoy closeness and human connection. ” That idea of romantic love is what provides the happy ending of When Harry Met Sally, but, as Witt says, “that Hollywood thing, where any close friendship between people who might be sexually attracted to each other ends up in true love – that’s just not how it is”.

Perhaps if there were less stigma, and we knew more stories like Rachel’s, more single people would find themselves saying the film’s other most famous line: “I’ll have what she’s having.”

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Sex Dating Guide: Personal Experiences and Best Apps

During the pandemic, singles in big cities are faced with a choice: a law-abiding romantic Zoom dinner plus Wirth for dessert, or rebellious real-life dates and sex without commitment. Let's leave aside the lucky ones who managed to find their love and maintain relationships in 2020. Yulia Ershova tells how she was looking for a suitable dating app, shares the rules of sexting and studies her own and others' personal experiences.

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Although the topic of sex outside of monogamous heterosexual relationships is taboo in Russia, a thaw is gradually taking shape. According to my observations, online dating over the past five years has ceased to be the lot of geeks and “terry introverts”, and on Friday evening a resident of the metropolis has a counterpart for half an hour and a couple of dozen swipes.

According to a 2019 survey, 55% of Russians are not against sex on the first date. Moreover, the rating of the most liberated cities was headed by St. Petersburg. But the spread between men and women who are loyal in this matter is huge: 94% versus 14%. At the same time, among American women who use Tinder, 33% are looking for sex, not relationships.

Although sex dating and promiscuity in Russia is not very approved by society, it is foolish to deny the existence of these phenomena. In the end, both real communication in accordance with all the rules, and virtual acquaintances can bring us both pleasure and disappointment. If you set aside prejudices and act in accordance with your desires, then the likelihood of having a great time with a new person increases. nine0003

My experience

I have long held conservative views and did not give myself the freedom to explore my own sexuality. There were many dates in my life, but there were no long-term romances.

Around the age of 26, I decided: “For sex, falling in love is not at all necessary, a spark is enough.” So I began to choose partners that way. In addition, after moving to St. Petersburg, my social circle expanded slowly, and it was logical to look for guys online.

I used to use different applications. I usually met on Tinder, but the dates did not flow into the "with continuation" option. In February 2020, she downloaded Pure, a dating service for finding sexual partners, and managed to go on 50 sex dates. This platform hooked me: cool design, anonymity, a large sample of men, an inadequate contingent is filtered well. nine0003

One minus - a few months ago, the developers introduced a feature with ad dies, which reduced the mystery of the application "for the fulfillment of the most secret desires" to the level of a county newspaper with ads in the spirit of "MCH with ZHP and ChJ without VP is looking for Zh for MZHM" (translating : A young man with a living space and a sense of humor without bad habits is looking for a woman for a threesome). The alluring veil of vice instantly disappeared into hundreds of ads with rather strange humor, and the idea that cool people gathered in the application disappeared. nine0003

Another nice sex dating app is Feeld. This is an inclusive dating service for finding partners and couples. There are many people here who respect other people's boundaries, understand the meaning of the word "ethics", know what type of sexuality characterizes them more accurately. I found one cool partner in this application, but there was a puncture: the guy announced that he was in an open relationship a couple of months after we met. For me, this is unacceptable. About the presence of a girl, I would like to know goodbye and sex, and not eight weeks later. So there was no question of any FwB (friends with benefits, relationships without obligations). nine0003

I can confidently say that the best sex of 2020 I had with a partner from Pure. It was a great date, great sex, and after the fact a powerful hormonal cocktail in the blood. For several days I was in euphoria. But I did not want to continue the meetings, since it was quite clear that outside of the bed we were not particularly compatible.

The worst date happened when I was finishing my experiment. Initially, it was interesting: we walked, drank coffee, exchanged jokes and barbs. But the sex didn't work. The guy was very upset. He took my words that we were not suitable for each other as a personal insult, in retaliation he found fault with my appearance and put me out the door. It made me laugh. nine0003

Sometimes I felt like a social scientist doing empirical research on a representative sample of sexual partners. Men surprised me: for the most part they turned out to be empathic and sensitive, very caring lovers.

But I didn't want to stay with one partner for a long time, because I didn't let go of the idea that the next sex would be even cooler. Alas, in reality this is not always the case.

Sometimes partners stayed in my life for several months, but gradually the mutual interest faded away. One summer, I thought that the current connection could develop into something more. But in the conversation, the partner dotted the “e”: “We don’t have a relationship. Turn off your emotions." It became clear to me that our expectations diverge, it's time to wrap up. nine0003

Conclusions

I evaluate the experience of promiscuity positively: I have become more demanding, do not hesitate to discuss my desires, and during sex I now better understand what needs to be corrected so that the pleasure is maximum. Through sex dating, I was able to explore myself and my preferences, develop sensitivity and realize some fantasies. There was even a checklist for safe dating rules and a list of practices that interest me.

During the experiment, good sex turned out 10 times more than bad. The numbers are especially encouraging: the WomanLog app told me that over the past 12 months, the average number of sexual acts per month has risen from 0 to 4. 2, the same indicator for orgasms has reached 2.8. To me, it's an inspiring statistic. Two penny orgasms are better than none (I don't count solo orgasms here, of course). nine0003

5 Rules for Safe Sex Dating

1. Protected Sex Only

Remember to use barrier contraception and ask your new partner how long ago they were tested for HIV, hepatitis and STDs. In my experience, many calmly respond to this question and show a certificate, and having sex with someone who monitors their health is much calmer.

2. Special selfies for the questionnaire

Try not to use the same photos in the application and social networks. To prevent your personal data from falling into the hands of scammers and blackmailers, take a few selfies specifically for accounts in dating apps. nine0003

3. Nudes without the threat of blackmail

It is better to send erotic pictures without a face and unusual interior details. Not all people come to the app for their intended purpose. Some are looking for victims for cyberbullying or fraud.

All erotic content that you send during sexting, try to make it interesting for your partner, but completely uninteresting for wallet hunters.

If you are being blackmailed, be calm: “OK, my followers on social media will know that I am an adult sexually mature person who freely speaks about his sexual desires. This is normal, but blackmail is not, as Article 163 of the Criminal Code of the Russian Federation says. nine0003

4. Anonymity

Do not provide any personal data to partners until you are sure that an adequate real person is talking to you. It is better not to go to social networks and instant messengers before the meeting. I rarely followed this rule, but I was lucky with people.

5. Publicity policy

Find a dating algorithm that is comfortable for you. Ask important questions in correspondence, and make an appointment in a public place. If you decide to go on a sex date to visit or a hotel, then warn your friend or girlfriend that you have gone on a date with a stranger, indicate the address and agree to call at a specific time. You can also tell the hotelier that you have a meeting with a stranger and you want to protect yourself. Report the measures taken to the person you are meeting with. He might get scared and cancel the date, which is good. nine0003

Someone else's experience

Social stereotypes and statistics tell us that men are more comfortable with sex without commitment. To find out if this is true, we spoke with two guys about how they rate their experience.

Alexey, 27 years old. 50 sex dates

I have been using online dating and sex dating apps for two years. If you look, then each site has its pros and cons. For example, Tinder many choose to amuse their pride. Few people are ready for real meetings. nine0003

My favorite app was OkCupid. This site has the most meaningful mechanics, but relatively few people. Feeld and Bumble have the same problem - the audience is pleasant, but the sample of partners is small. I didn’t like it at all on Badoo - it opened and closed, not my contingent. Everything is more or less with the Pure application, but I consider the fact that only men pay for a subscription to be discrimination. Although there are an order of magnitude more men, so the measure is necessary.

I started going on sex dates because, after the end of a long relationship, my personal life was on pause and I wanted to have a more frivolous experience than I had accumulated. nine0003

Mixed impressions. For example, the creepiest date never happened. The lady in the correspondence showed strong mood swings: either she fawns, or is rude. I wanted to come by all means at half past five in the morning to cheat on someone. I was interested in the floor and the presence of a balcony. I suspected that she wanted to jump off him, I did not meet.

Another girl suggested a walk in the park in the middle of the night. The park was pretty deserted. There was a fear that I would be robbed, but I took the risk of taking a walk with the girl and everything worked out. nine0003

The third girl wanted to meet 'right now'. Half an hour later she arrived in a taxi, three minutes later we were already undressing, and a quarter of an hour later the stranger disappeared.

Unlike my previous experience, with partners from Pure, a significant proportion of dates took place in the ONS format (one night stand, meeting for one night. — Approx. ed.). In general, the experience turned out to be interesting, I don’t want to stop, as pleasant memories and acquaintances were made. I learned better what I like and what I don't. Tried something new. I hope I understand people better. nine0003

Roman, 22 years old, 10 sex dates

For the past year and a half, I have been using dating apps from time to time. There was little time for personal life, so he met online and went on sex dates.

I remember several meetings. Once I matched with a girl in Pure, she immediately asked where I live. She answered all questions clearly and directly during the interview. She said she would be at my place at 22:42. Arrived two minutes late, strongly apologized. I reassured her, tried to talk, but she was clearly in the mood for sex. In bed, the stone mask fell off her face, but there was no sex. I persuaded her to stay, just lie around, gave her a massage. nine0003

After a couple of days we resumed correspondence, the girl turned out to be very kind and sweet. Her behavior at the meeting turned out to be the result of a bad mood. Then we met again in a cafe. I think what she needed was not sex at all, and she got what she needed at that moment. The relationship did not start, but as a person I really liked her.

Had great sex with another partner from Pure. She is the most interesting person I have met there. She had to travel far. She came out to meet me on a bicycle, so that in which case she could escape, as she later explained. nine0003

She dragged me into bed rather quickly. In the process, she said that she had an open relationship with her boyfriend. That is, he leaves the apartment when she asks. It turned out that we have many common hobbies and value we converge. But we didn't see each other again.

At first, I advertised Pure to single friends. I also tried looking for girls on Tinder, but it also comes down to ONS. For a year and a half, I got an interesting experience, I realized that sex is just sex. You can negotiate about it with a complete stranger, just casually. I understood some things about myself and became more demanding of partners. nine0003

I don't want to use dating apps anymore, because now I realized that sex for the sake of sex is not very interesting for me. It became uncomfortable for me to just sleep and never see these people again.

It turned out that I prefer non-virtual acquaintances. Then there is the prospect of a relationship. Stupidly sex is a boring thing. It's cool for developing skills or gaining experience, maybe fulfilling yourself through the attention of people who want you. But you won't stay there forever. nine0003

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Where to meet in 2022

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Find a partner for one night or for life.

Online

Apps

The dating app segment is huge. But you should pay attention only to the popular ones: they have a lot of users, which means there are more options. They work on a similar principle: the algorithm suggests candidates who fit your needs and are nearby. You select those who you like, but you can start a conversation only if you have mutual sympathy. nine0003

Pros

  • You start chatting only with those who you like in appearance or self-presentation in the profile.
  • The candidates are close to you, so making an appointment is easy.
  • Relationships are established here for one night, and for many, and for years - it all depends on your goals. And here they find friends.
  • Potential partners of both sexes can be selected.
  • The phone is always at hand - you can use any free minute for dating and correspondence. nine0133

Cons

  • You choose a book by its cover, but anything can be hidden under it.
  • If you don't like anyone on the streets, don't be naive to think that the app only has gorgeous candidates and applicants. It's still the same people.
  • Be prepared to receive private photos of other people's genitals and obscene offers.
  • Some apps are only suitable for major cities.
  • There is a risk of catching the so-called dating burnout, which combines fatigue and application addiction. nine0133
1. Tinder

A popular and very simple dating app. The algorithm offers photos of people who match your needs and are close to you. You swipe them with your finger to the left if the candidate is so-so, and to the right if the person interests you. If the pair matched, you can start chatting, and then everything depends on you.

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2. Pure

The sex dating app is obviously designed to find intimate partners. Everything is done on the condition of relative anonymity: you do not need to specify your mail, phone number, or log in through social networks. Only an avatar and location are required.

For security, chats are stored for only a day, then they are automatically deleted. But the timer can be turned off by yourself. You cannot save information from correspondence, and if the interlocutor takes a screenshot, you will immediately receive a notification. nine0003

The main advantage of the application is that everyone knows what you are here for, so you can do without boring correspondence. Although some users on the sex dating app can bore you with conversations and then disappear. And your time will be wasted.

Irina Nim

Psychologist, sexologist, gestalt therapist.

Sex as the purpose of dating is a perfectly healthy desire. You have the right to simply want it and dispose of your body and desires at your own discretion. This also applies to the fact that you have every right to get up and refuse sex at any moment, even the most intimate one. nine0003

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Dating sites

Most dating sites have got mobile versions, and yet for many they are associated with desktop computers. There are also conceptual differences.

Applications with their mutual sympathy system are like a beach: you touch the water with your toes and then maybe go deeper. A dating site is like diving into the sea from a pier, because anyone can write to you. And it's not guaranteed that you'll like it. nine0003

It all starts with a questionnaire: you add a photo, tell about your interests, indicate who you are looking for, and go. Users say that on SZ (namely, this is the abbreviation for dating sites on the Internet) you have to wade through thousands of inadequate messages. But at the same time, some manage to find a couple here for a long-term relationship.

Irina Nim

Personally, I consider SZ the safest type of dating. Here you can practice and understand in the end that there are many people and there are those who will answer you yes. You can also experiment with ways to meet and see which suits you personally. nine0003

Pros

  • Large selection of candidates.
  • You can correspond for a long time before a date and get to know each other well.
  • Geography is not limited: look for a partner from anywhere.
  • There are search filters that can be used to filter out unsuitable candidates.

Cons

  • Websites are designed for commercial success, so you have to pay for additional functionality.
  • There is a risk of encountering scammers.

For a long time the largest and most famous sites were Badoo and Mamba. But the first one has not been working in Russia since April 2022. But Mamba is still with us - and not only her.

1. Mamba

This is a dating site with 15 years of history and a huge audience. Convenient search by a variety of parameters. Lots of positive user reviews.

Mamba.ru →

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2.
LovePlanet

Another site that appeared a long time ago. Therefore, the interface will return your 2009 to you. But due to the long time of existence, he is well known to many, so you can make a lot of acquaintances.

LovePlanet →

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3. [email protected]

The section still exists and still exists invites users to get acquainted. nine0003

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Social networks

There are three ways to meet in social networks:

  • in special groups;
  • browsing other people's profiles;
  • in thematic communities.

The last option is suitable for a long-term relationship, since, obviously, you already have common interests.

Pros

  • You can see a person's profile and learn a lot about him.
  • There is a possibility to meet someone who is not actively looking for dating and would not be available in applications and on NW. nine0133
  • The fact that a person is no longer free is obvious in social networks in most cases, and you will avoid disappointment.

Cons

  • No anonymity for you. Even if you have closed everything that can be closed from prying eyes, this does not guarantee anything.

In reality

Speed ​​dating

The traditional scenario: a woman sits at a table, and every few minutes a new man sits next to her. During this time, you need to have time to make the right impression, so that at the end the organizers will allow you to exchange contacts. nine0003

Pros

  • A lot of acquaintances and a minimum of time spent.

Cons

  • A few minutes may not be enough to feel sympathy.
  • Speed ​​dating has a bad reputation: it seems that they are resorted to by those who are completely desperate.

Meetings of interest

A common cause brings people together, especially if it requires teamwork. It can be, for example:

  • Mind games. It's only on TV that connoisseurs look like an elite club that you can't get into. In reality, "What? Where? When?" a fairly democratic game, and quizzes have completely moved to bars. nine0133
  • Bicycle parades. Everyone has bikes, common interests, and even a common enemy - people walking on bike paths. During the parade itself, you are unlikely to talk, but before and after it, conversations are tied up by themselves.
  • Dog playgrounds. Sociability of dog owners can only be envied. And their memory too, because they know all the furry inhabitants of the neighborhood by name. The main thing is to get a pet at the call of the heart, and not for the sake of finding a partner.
  • Concerts and fan meetings. If you love one artist, you already have a lot in common. And if the fandom brought you together, then this is completely serious. Together you will be the perfect Doctor and Rose, Iron Man and Pepper Potts, Sherlock Holmes and Dr. Watson - you never know what your preferences are. nine0133

Irina Nim

A positive attitude is important. A smile is regarded as an invitation to communication, approval. If they answer you, feel free to take a course towards rapprochement. Remember that trying is not torture, and failure is not a disaster. The first time is always scary even to smile. But the more often an experience is repeated, the more habitual it becomes.

Pros

  • Such acquaintances are the most natural, just like in the good old days.
  • You have an abyss of common interests, because usually people meet at such parties, having more than one common hobby. nine0133

Cons

  • To get acquainted by interests, you need to have them and be truly passionate.

Jobs

The bigger the company, the higher the chances of getting to know each other. In addition to our own office, there are employees of partner organizations, counterparties and other contractors, clients who should not be discounted either.

Irina Nim

Office romances are not uncommon, but companies are trying to deal with workplace relationships. Love interferes with work efficiency and career. And not everyone is ready to risk the latter for the sake of a fleeting affair. nine0003

But according to statistics, 41% of office workers had office romances. And 18% of them got married.

Pros

  • You know what a potential partner does and have a rough idea of ​​his or her income level. Of course, the main thing is that the person is good, but financial independence is an important factor.
  • Candidates are nearby - you don't need to make extra moves to find them.

Cons

  • Company policy may discourage flirting at work.
  • Some are not ready to work with a partner because they need a break from each other.

Do not contact colleagues who are already in a relationship. Most likely, the situation will quickly become ugly, and this may cost you your job and reputation.

Anywhere

Real dating is good because it can happen at any moment. Including the wrong one. You can meet in line at the dentist on duty or at the airline counter after losing your luggage. nine0003

Pros

  • You will have a great story to tell your friends and grandchildren.

Cons

  • There is a high probability that such a spontaneous acquaintance simply will not happen.

Irina Nim

My clients often complain that there is nowhere to meet. Including because it's just scary to get acquainted. Maniacs, perverts, greedy women, lustful men lie in wait everywhere. And suddenly they break their hearts again! The list of fears is endless. People want to know what will happen. And since it is impossible to know in advance, do what you need, and come what may! nine0003

Rational fears protect against rash acts. We need them. But they also fetter, fence us off from the world, this is our cage of unfreedom.

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