Sorrow of life
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Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes. Don't resist them - that only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality. Let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.
Worry never robs tomorrow of its sorrow, it only saps today of its joy.
Each day holds a surprise. But only if we expect it can we see, hear, or feel it when it comes to us. Let's not be afraid to receive each day's surprise, whether it comes to us as sorrow or as joy It will open a new place in our hearts, a place where we can welcome new friends and celebrate more fully our shared humanity.
Make the most of your regrets; never smother your sorrow, but tend and cherish it till it comes to have a separate and integral interest. To regret deeply is to live afresh.
Henry David Thoreau
There is no greater sorrow than to recall happiness in times of misery.
Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow, that I shall say good night till it be morrow.
Poetry comes from the highest happiness or the deepest sorrow.
A. P. J. Abdul Kalam
The only way to take sorrow out of death is to take love out of life.
Russell M. Nelson
Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow. It empties today of its strength.
Corrie Ten Boom
We should feel sorrow, but not sink under its oppression.
The garden of love is green without limit and yields many fruits other than sorrow or joy. Love is beyond either condition: without spring, without autumn, it is always fresh.
If we could read the secret history of our enemies we should find in each man's life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.
Henry Wadsworth Longfellow
Sorrow can be alleviated by good sleep, a bath and a glass of wine.
Sorrow is knowledge, those that know the most must mourn the deepest, the tree of knowledge is not the tree of life.
The secret source of humor is not joy but sorrow; there is no humor in Heaven.
There is no despair so absolute as that which comes with the first moments of our first great sorrow, when we have not yet known what it is to have suffered and be healed, to have despaired and have recovered hope.
A sorrow's crown of sorrow is remembering happier times.
Alfred Lord Tennyson
It is only in sorrow bad weather masters us; in joy we face the storm and defy it.
Every life has a measure of sorrow, and sometimes this is what awakens us.
If future generations are to remember us more with gratitude than sorrow, we must achieve more than just the miracles of technology. We must also leave them a glimpse of the world as it was created, not just as it looked when we got through with it.
Lyndon B. Johnson
I like living. I have sometimes been wildly, despairingly, acutely miserable, racked with sorrow, but through it all I still know quite certainly that just to be alive is a grand thing.
Since our society equates happiness with youth, we often assume that sorrow, quiet desperation, and hopelessness go hand in hand with getting older. They don't. Emotional pain or numbness are symptoms of living the wrong life, not a long life.
In this world of sin and sorrow there is always something to be thankful for; as for me, I rejoice that I am not a Republican.
H. L. Mencken
My sorrow, when she's here with me, thinks these dark days of autumn rain are beautiful as days can be; she loves the bare, the withered tree; she walks the sodden pasture lane.
When you are joyous, look deep into your heart and you shall find it is only that which has given you sorrow that is giving you joy. When you are sorrowful look again in your heart, and you shall see that in truth you are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Truly, it is in darkness that one finds the light, so when we are in sorrow, then this light is nearest of all to us.
Nobody understands another's sorrow, and nobody another's joy.
There are no words to express my sorrow and regret for the pain I have caused others by words and actions. To the people I have hurt, I am truly sorry.
The rose and the thorn, and sorrow and gladness are linked together.
He who is overly attached to his family members experiences fear and sorrow, for the root of all grief is attachment. Thus one should discard attachment to be happy.
Can I see another's woe, and not be in sorrow too? Can I see another's grief, and not seek for kind relief?
Life has never been easy. Nor is it meant to be. It is a matter of being joyous in the face of sorrow.
It is foolish to tear one's hair in grief, as though sorrow would be made less by baldness.
Marcus Tullius Cicero
The keenest sorrow is to recognize ourselves as the sole cause of all our adversities.
Here bring your wounded hearts, here tell your anguish; Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal.
The foolish man conceives the idea of 'self.' The wise man sees there is no ground on which to build the idea of 'self;' thus, he has a right conception of the world and well concludes that all compounds amassed by sorrow will be dissolved again, but the truth will remain.
Sorrow is a fruit. God does not make it grow on limbs too weak to bear it.
Only by joy and sorrow does a person know anything about themselves and their destiny. They learn what to do and what to avoid.
Johann Wolfgang von Goethe
For the poison of hatred seated near the heart doubles the burden for the one who suffers the disease; he is burdened with his own sorrow, and groans on seeing another's happiness.
A propensity to hope and joy is real riches; one to fear and sorrow real poverty.
Mankind is like dogs, not gods - as long as you don't get mad they'll bite you - but stay mad and you'll never be bitten. Dogs don't respect humility and sorrow.
Sorrow is so easy to express and yet so hard to tell.
If my art has nothing to do with people's pain and sorrow, what is 'art' for?
There is no harm in patience, and no profit in lamentation. Death is easier to bear (than) that which precedes it, and more severe than that which comes after it. Remember the death of the Apostle of God, and your sorrow will be lessened.
I have lived eighty years of life and know nothing for it, but to be resigned and tell myself that flies are born to be eaten by spiders and man to be devoured by sorrow.
I have been in Sorrow's kitchen and licked out all the pots. Then I have stood on the peaky mountain wrapped in rainbows, with a harp and sword in my hands.
Zora Neale Hurston
In this sad world of ours, sorrow comes to all; and to the young, it comes with bitterest agony because it takes them unawares. I have had experience enough to know what I say.
I believe that there are many herbs and many trees that are worth much in Europe for dyes and for medicines; but I do not know, and this causes me great sorrow. Arriving at this cape, I found the smell of the trees and flowers so delicious that it seemed the pleasantest thing in the world.
Illusory joy is often worth more than genuine sorrow.
People who drink to drown their sorrow should be told that sorrow knows how to swim.
I write about the power of trying, because I want to be okay with failing. I write about generosity because I battle selfishness. I write about joy because I know sorrow. I write about faith because I almost lost mine, and I know what it is to be broken and in need of redemption. I write about gratitude because I am thankful - for all of it.
Patience is sorrow's salve.
The pleasure that is in sorrow is sweeter than the pleasure of pleasure itself.
Percy Bysshe Shelley
The human life is all one thing, like a blade tracing loops on the ice: a little kid, a twenty-three-year-old infantry sergeant, a middle-aged writer knowing guilt and sorrow.
Any mind that is capable of real sorrow is capable of good.
Harriet Beecher Stowe
When we tell the story of our own conversion, I would have it done with great sorrow, remembering what we used to be, and with great joy and gratitude, remembering how little we deserve these things.
There is no worse sorrow than remembering happiness in the day of sorrow.
Alfred de Musset
Since my earliest childhood a barb of sorrow has lodged in my heart. As long as it stays I am ironic if it is pulled out I shall die.
Suffering, failure, loneliness, sorrow, discouragement, and death will be part of your journey, but the Kingdom of God will conquer all these horrors. No evil can resist grace forever.
Seeing the world is the best education you can get. You see sorrow, and you also see great spirit and will to survive.
“Sorrow comes to all… Perfect reality is not possible, except with time. You cannot now realize that you will ever feel better and yet you are sure to be happy again.” – Abraham Lincoln
Sorrow is the opposite of happiness, yet both are part of human existence.
Like life and death and the changing of seasons, it should be familiar enough to recognize that things have a sequence. Sometimes that sequence is a time of birth or rebirth, a creative force that erases failure and negativity. Other times, however, there’s a clearly defined sense of decay, lack of progress, mistakes and endings.
The key to overcoming sorrow and sadness is to remember that you will get past it in time — even though you can’t possibly see how at the present.
An adage says that time heals all wounds. This includes the wounds and pain of sorrow. While you might think, and feel like you’re experiencing a broken heart, perhaps from the break-up of a relationship, the death of a loved one or the distancing of friends, this is but a temporary emotional distress.
It won’t last forever – not unless you become clinically depressed, in which case you need help from a medical professional, such as a psychiatrist, who can prescribe medications to ease depression, and begin psychotherapy to assist you in better coping with clinical depression.
Telling someone – even yourself – that you’ll get over this doesn’t really help the situation. And we’ve probably all been there, finding little comfort after pouring out our hearts to a friend, loved one, even a neighbor. For one thing, it does nothing to ease the pain. And that’s what you’re primarily interested in. You want a quick fix or an easy remedy to use to get past this dreadful feeling.
Sorry, it doesn’t work that way. The best that you can do is to acknowledge what you’re feeling, rather than trying so hard to bury it. By stuffing your emotions down, you’re setting yourself up for them to resurface later, perhaps in a more self-destructive and debilitating manner.
Symptoms of sorrow
It’s important to learn to recognize the symptoms of sorrow, some of which may be cloaked beneath other emotions.
Signs of sorrow include:
- A sense of emptiness
- Angry outbursts
Common depression symptoms, however, go beyond those of sadness or sorrow and can include:
- A depressed mood that doesn’t go away
- Loss of interest in pleasures or activities once enjoyed
- Significant weight loss, when not trying to lose weight or on a diet
- Inability to sleep, or sleeping excessively
- Loss of energy or fatigue
- Feeling worthless, or inappropriate or excessively guilty
- Problems with thinking and concentrating, difficulty making decisions
- Engaging in thoughts of suicide without having a plan, or making a specific plan to commit suicide, attempts at suicide
How to get on the healing path
What if you’re unable to get past your sorrow, or find that it inexplicably comes and goes, laying waste to your plans and creating havoc in your life? What most of us who are in the grip of sorrow fail to recognize is that there is no absolute timetable for healing. Everyone heals at their own pace. You simply must give yourself time to heal, however long that takes.
Experts recommend that you be with supportive loved ones, family members and friends but don’t wallow in self-pity. It’s also wise to avoid drinking to excess to try to numb yourself. That will only bring about a hangover or some other potentially negative consequences.
Also, you must be good to yourself. What does this include? Do things that bring you some measure of peace, whether that’s getting more sleep, eating healthier foods, embarking on a hobby, going away for the weekend, joining a group or learning how to meditate. Good self-care will help you prepare your body and your mind as you begin your healing journey to overcome sadness.
Above all, remember that you deserve to be happy. While it may be tough to allow this thought to permeate your consciousness when you’re feeling blue, you owe it to yourself and your loved ones to repeat it over and over to yourself until you do believe it. Tell yourself, “I deserve to be happy.” And you will be happy again. It just takes time.
Sorrow makes us stronger | PSYCHOLOGIES
Of all the emotions, sadness is the most difficult to describe: it is not a sharp pain, not an outburst of rage, and not a fit of fear, which are easy to recognize. It is a lingering feeling that, in the words of Françoise Sagan, always "alienates from other people." Many of us treat sadness worse than, for example, aggression. To be aggressive is in some sense "more honorable" than to be sad - remember Harlequin and Pierrot. Sadness is often associated with impotence, weakness, is not approved by modern society and, it seems, prevents one from being successful, in demand, and happy.
When we are sad, we want solitude and silence, it is difficult for us to communicate. Sadness sets a special course of thought and, as Benedict Spinoza noted back in the 17th century, "weakens our ability to act." At such moments, active life stops, it is as if a curtain is lowered in front of us and the performance is stopped. And there is nothing left but to turn to yourself - to start reflecting. From the outside, a person seems ill, and he is advised to urgently do something. But is it necessary to hurry back to the bustle of life?
Life cannot take anything from us that we dare to love. Everything we love stays with us forever
“It’s sad that my relationship with a good person has deteriorated” or “it’s sad that the best ones leave first”... If we are sad, it means that something good has disappeared from our life, or so did not appear in it. We may not yet know what exactly, but thanks to sadness we ask ourselves this question: what do we lack for the fullness of existence, for happiness? We listen to ourselves, pay attention to our relationship with the world.
Sometimes resentment, dissatisfaction, anger are mixed with this feeling - this is a cocktail of "terrible mood". But often we also drink a pure drink of sadness, which can only be spoiled by the consciousness of our wrongness - then its taste becomes heavy, astringent, bitter. In sorrow without guilt, one feels a wonderful bouquet of bitter-salty notes ... combined with sweetness. The way it is. How many beautiful poems have been written in this state, and what music!
But sometimes life can be cruel and take away what is dear, the most precious... We can shut ourselves off and stop feeling, so as not to accidentally remember what we have lost, because it hurts unbearably. And then we will choose the path of depression. And we can open our hearts and live our loss - all the way, to the last drop: and self-pity, and resentment of the abandoned and abandoned creature, and loneliness, because no one can help in sadness.
This is not an easy path to healing. It is necessary to make a decision, one's own, deeply personal, in order to humbly go all the way. This requires patience, as well as the freedom to allow yourself to cry in order to wash and cleanse the wound. In addition, we will have to part with guilt: when, having forgiven ourselves, we can cry, we will feel that the wounded soul is as if wrapped in a warm blanket - it still hurts, but also . .. warm.
What if it's depression?
Lack of desires, a feeling of inner emptiness and own uselessness, severe fatigue, insomnia, suicidal thoughts... Often depression occurs as a reaction to a very bad life for a long time or as an emotional response to severe pain that a person cannot cope with.
Still, the main condition for depression is to leave yourself to your own will and not allow yourself to grieve about what is happening. Today, more and more Europeans refuse to take antidepressants in order not to drown out depression, but to hear her questions properly. Do I like my life? Why do I tolerate bad behavior for so long? Why live if I've lost the ones I love? The ability to experience sadness, despair, self-doubt really means that we are living people. Against all odds.
To mourn, to mourn should be comfortable, caring, gentle. Someone has to lull the crying soul - why not do this for your soul yourself? Make tea, cover yourself with a blanket and grieve as much as she, her soul, wants.
And it's amazing how soon everything changes from such a self-accepting attitude. Now with a smile it turns out to remember your loss. Now you can talk about it, look at the photos. Relationships become more perfect, because everything superficial leaves them. Now you can not only remember, but conduct a dialogue, feel the support of the one who left us.
And this deepest wisdom awakens such a strong desire to live that all grudges against life melt away. It turns out that she cannot and does not want to take away anything from what we dared to love. Everything we love stays with us forever.
Alexander Adabashyan, screenwriter, director, actor
“There is nothing destructive in sadness”
I rarely smile. Maybe because a heightened sense of humor does not allow me to react to what lies on the surface. But I am sure that sadness, being in its place, plays a positive role in the appropriate situation. It is possible, for example, to sway in a hammock surrounded by children and grandchildren, look at a family album, recall departed comrades with sadness and sadness - and there will be nothing destructive in this, on the contrary!
Pushkin used to say: "My sadness is bright, my sadness is full of you. " So, I didn't see anything negative in it. I completely trust his word. If sadness fills with thoughts about a loved one, then this feeling is bright. In general, the division of feelings and emotions into negative and positive is something from the old school curriculum.
When it was necessary to describe the characters in the lessons, a vertical line was drawn in the middle of the notebook and we wrote positive qualities on the left, and negative ones on the right. If we were talking about a modern character, then sadness would fall into the column of negative qualities, in contrast to optimism, which would stand opposite.
But a simple question: why was Onegin devoured by the blues, seemed sad, even deplorable? Because Byron and Childe Harold were in fashion. And it doesn’t matter that his sadness is an absolute game, that he needed to hide his frantic temperament: in those days, melancholy, hints of an early death, talk about the frailty of life were at a special price.
In general, sadness at a young age is often not a position, but a pose. But then everything changes... Once Sergey Dovlatov divided creative matter into three spheres. The third - dramatic, hard-won optimism - is the most interesting for him. And I completely agree with him on this.
Diana Arbenina, musician, poet, vocalist of the group "Night Snipers"
"My sadness is light"
Neither sadness nor sadness has ever been associated with depression for me. Rather, on the contrary, the ability to be sad seems to me a sign that a person can think, observe life. Which is not at all conducive to meaningless fun. Sadness... My sadness is always light, and there is a lot of smile in it. This is a tribute to the past years and their retrospective in my memory. That sort of thing doesn't happen very often, by the way.
The past is just the past! And I love this state too. Many often confuse sadness and sadness with despondency. I hate despondency, it is an extreme form of sadness. Invalid. It is she who must be driven in the neck and fought with her. How? Labor. Despondency is a sin. Sadness is the need of the living in us. Sadness is a luxury.
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Sadness - Psychologos
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Sadness has many faces. This is regret, grief, sadness, longing, despondency, pain, grief, grief, melancholy . .. - this is how one of the common negative basic emotions manifests itself, arising in the absence of satisfaction or the loss of something. Whatever sadness is, it is always the opposite of joy.
What is sadness at the level of brain physiology? Subjectively, this is experienced as a decrease in mood, but in reality it is not the absence of emotion, it is not suppression or inhibition of neuropsychic processes. The lower medial prefrontal cortex, which serves emotional intelligence, exhibits persistent arousal in people experiencing sadness or depression. That is, from the point of view of neurons, from the point of view of the material substrate of the psyche, what we perceive as depression and lack of mood is actually a very bright, strong, stable emotion, moreover, it tends to go into a self-sustaining cycle.
What is the meaning and inner benefit of sadness?
Classical psychoanalysis of sadness creates very complex semantic constructions: “What is the work done by sadness? , and reality suggests the demand to take away all the libido associated with this object. Against this, quite understandable resistance rises ... "
"Reality tells"? - or does a person interpret reality in a certain way? "Resistance rises" - rises by itself? - Or does a person begin to resist what does not suit him? - there are many questions to the concept of sadness, as outlined by Freud. If this is not physiology, but spiritual life, then in the free space of spiritual life nothing happens by itself: everything is done by someone, for some reason or for some reason ...
In the synton approach, sadness is understood in a different way, namely as an author's action, as a small murder of one's own vitality, petty mental self-mutilation. A child who did not like what his parents said to him may well drop his shoulders unhappily, make an unhappy face with an expression of suffering and go into the distance, barely dragging his feet and showing with his whole being how nasty parents destroyed his joy and deprived him of desire in this world. rejoice and live in general. .. This is a performance that is quite common and, as a rule, effective. Over time, it becomes just a bad habit of internal negativity.
Sadness is an expression of ingratitude towards life. Instead of thanking life for what it has given you, the mourner reproaches life for giving it too late or not for long. Listen to the song of the group "Leisya, song!": "Where have you been?" The man has finally found his love. He has joy - huge, colossal! Which he expresses in longing - but why does he have this joy only today, and not from yesterday?
He who knows how and loves to be happy will find happiness in everything. Here, for example, what to do if the Lake of Sorrows is in front of you, and it pulls you? The normal majority dives into it - and drowns. Reasonable people still remain on the shore and the Lake is observed as another natural object. And the most merry boldly dive into it and splash in sweet Sorrow, enjoying its transparency. And when the bathing time is over, they gratefully say goodbye to Sadness and calmly move on.