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Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz

mbg Spirituality & Relationships Writer By Sarah Regan

mbg Spirituality & Relationships Writer

Sarah Regan is a Spirituality & Relationships Writer, and a registered yoga instructor. She received her bachelor's in broadcasting and mass communication from SUNY Oswego, and lives in Buffalo, New York.

Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz

Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz

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Test How Well You Know Your Partner With This 55-Question Couples Quiz

May 18, 2021

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How well do you know your partner, and how well do they know you? The longer you're dating, the more you'll learn about each other—but let's be honest. How often do we really pause and ask our partners those deep, important questions?

This 55-question quiz will put your knowledge of each other to the test. Simply grab a piece of paper each (or open up your Notes app), write down your answers, and when you're done, share your answers with each other. For example, you'll each write down what you think each other's favorite movie is. At the end, you'll each say what you thought the other's answer would be, and then you can find out if you got it right or wrong. Mark the ones you get correct to come up with a final tally.

Once you've asked and answered all the questions and got your final tally ready, you can calculate your score and read about what your results mean for you as a couple below.

Warm-up questions:

  1. What's their favorite movie?
  2. What food would they never get sick of?
  3. What color do they never wear?
  4. What's their go-to drink?
  5. Would they rather go out on Friday night or stay in?
  6. What's their favorite book?

Questions about the past:

  1. Who was their best friend growing up?
  2. As a kid, what did they want to be when they grew up?
  3. What was their favorite subject in school?
  4. Did they have any part-time jobs as a teen?
  5. Did they have a good high school experience?
  6. Did they have a good relationship with their family as a kid?
  7. What's their favorite place that they've traveled to?
  8. What's their biggest regret?
  9. What do they miss about their childhood?
  10. Do they have "someone that got away"?
  11. What's the most spiritual experience they've ever had?

Questions about the future:

  1. What is the most important factor in their future?
  2. What's the No. 1 thing on their bucket list?
  3. Where do they want to live in the future?
  4. What's their next career move?
  5. Do they want kids?
  6. Do they ever want to move back to their hometown or never go back?
  7. Would they ever be open to a long-distance relationship?
  8. What is a big goal they have in their five-year plan?
  9. How do they feel about marriage?
  10. What's their biggest fear for the future?

Questions about sex:

  1. What is their biggest turn-on?
  2. What is their biggest turnoff?
  3. What's their biggest fantasy, kink, or fetish?
  4. What is their favorite position?
  5. Are they into quickies, or do they prefer to take their time?
  6. Where is their favorite place to have sex?
  7. How do they like to be teased?
  8. Do they like to use sex toys?
  9. Do they watch porn?

Questions about values:

  1. Which social cause do they most care about?
  2. What quality do they value most in others?
  3. What are their political views?
  4. How important is money to them?
  5. What's a more worthy investment to them: experiences or objects?
  6. What are their thoughts on open relationships?
  7. How are they working on self-growth and self-improvement?
  8. What influences their decisions the most?
  9. What's a nonnegotiable for them in relationships?

Questions about communication:

  1. How do they like to give love?
  2. How do they like to receive love?
  3. Are they more passive or confrontational?
  4. How do they like to be apologized to?
  5. Do they respond quickly or need time to process in an argument?
  6. Are they more logical or emotional?
  7. Are they more introverted or extroverted?
  8. Do they prefer structure or going with the flow?
  9. What is their preferred form of communication (that's not in-person)?
  10. What do they like most about you?

What the results say about you as a couple.

Here's an idea of what the results might mean about your relationship:

  • 30 or fewer correct: Hey, don't worry. Odds are you haven't been together that long or just haven't prioritized some of these bigger conversational topics. You definitely have room to get to know each other better—and that's exciting! Time to start digging in.
  • 30 to 40 correct: You know plenty about your partner, but there's still more to find out as your connection deepens.
  • 40 to 55 correct: You know your partner like the back of your hand, and that's great! You've probably been together for a while, or you just really prioritize conversation and curiosity with each other.

As licensed marriage and family therapist and sex therapist Holly Richmond, Ph. D., LMFT, CST, tells mbg, you're usually going to do better on this quiz the longer you've been together. Don't fret if you didn't do as well as you may have liked to—this just means you can make getting to know each other better a bigger priority.

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According to therapist and relationship expert Ken Page, LCSW, quizzes like this are fun, of course, but having a daily practice of checking in with each other is "a really wonderful thing to do." He recommends finding time for each other every day and thinking of a thoughtful question or two that can help you both root in your connectedness—whether something from this list or something you come up with on your own.

Page is also a fan of the 36 questions to fall in love, developed in the 1990s by psychologists Arthur Aron, Ph. D.; Elaine Aron, Ph.D.; and other researchers. This set of questions has been found, on many an occasion, to cultivate intimacy and connection between strangers—so it certainly couldn't hurt to cover those questions, Page says.

In addition to that, Richmond suggests simply getting curious with each other on a regular basis. "Sit down at least once a week, where you have each other's undivided attention, with eye contact, and you aren't distracted." Ask each other questions, have genuine curiosity for each other, and just enjoy the process of getting to know each other. (Here are some conversation starters for couples to get you started.)

Whether you aced this quiz or there's still more to learn, the bottom line is, it's important to understand who we're with. When we take time to consciously learn about our partner, not only do we see them more and more as they truly are, but we give them the gift of being seen and understood.

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How Well Do You Know Me Questions: 25 Questions For Couples

"How well do you know me" questions are a great way to gauge the closeness of a couple or learn new things about your partner that you have never discovered before. These questions can be a fun way to test your partner to see how wise they are toward your quirks, preferences, and habits. Whether you are just getting to know someone you're interested in or have been married for decades, there's always something new to learn about the other person.

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"How well do you know me" questions can give each person in the relationship a sense of how attentive they are towards their significant other. If you're wondering whether or not a relationship is headed anywhere or headed in the right direction, this can be a great place to start (online therapy can also help). No one wants to waste their time on something that is stagnant or doesn't have potential. On the other hand, maybe you are in a long-term relationship and are curious about how much your partner knows about you. You may be finding it difficult to find the right place to start. These questions are a great way to start that conversation with your partner in a fun and light-hearted manner.

Regardless of if you're in a new or long-term relationship, "how well do you know me" questions are a great way to get to know someone better, whether or not you've known them for a long time or just a short while. Even if you've known your partner since childhood and think you know everything about each other, there's always more to learn. Your questions could take them by surprise and teach you both things about the other you didn't know before. Part of building intimacy with another person is being open about your thoughts and feelings and never stopping asking good questions. The whole point of asking these questions is to try and build an understanding of where the other person is coming from and, more importantly, why they're coming from that perspective.

Does Not Knowing My Significant Other Spell Doom for the Relationship?

Those new to a relationship, and even those who have been together for years, may not always be aware of some of the deeper aspects of their partner's personality. Some wants, needs, and desires may go completely under the radar or may show up so sporadically that you miss or forget about them. When this happens, it can create an unhealthy distance in the relationship. One or both people may start to feel unknown, unloved, or like they aren't being seen for who they are. Partners in this position will often wonder, am I a bad partner?

Not knowing everything about your significant other does not mean your relationship is destined to fail. There are plenty of other people out there who do not know everything about their partner or may slip up sometimes. It simply means you just need to take some more time to learn and absorb that information.

Remember, too, that you don't have to tell your partner everything and that they probably won't tell you everything either. Every individual has boundaries, a mind of their own, and the ability to withhold or share what they wish to. Although it's likely that the closer you get and the longer you know one another, the more you'll come to find out about them, there will always be something you don't know about them. It would simply be impossible to know everything about another person, though you can come close.

"How well do you know me" questions can be a light-hearted and fun way to learn more about your partner, no matter what stage you are in the relationship. If you have been together for a long time and feel as though you and your partner know a lot about each other already, maybe start with harder and more personal questions to make it more of a challenge or turn it into your next date night idea. 

25 "How Well Do You Know Me" Questions for Couples

Questions:

  1. What is my full name?
  2. When is my birthday?
  3. What am I insecure about?
  4. What is my favorite food?
  5. What food do I hate?
  6. What is my biggest pet peeve?
  7. What's my favorite TV show?
  8. What's something that always cheers me up when I'm sad?
  9. What did we do for our first date?
  10. What is my biggest fear?
  11. If I could travel anywhere, where would I go?
  12. What are my long-term goals?
  13. What are my main career goals?
  14. What three things do I like most about you?
  15. What is my favorite song or artist?
  16. What are my talents?
  17. What's my favorite smell?
  18. What are my parents' names?
  19. What are my favorite pastimes?
  20. What is one of my best childhood memories?
  21. Am I a dog or a cat person?
  22. Do I have any allergies?
  23. If I could bring a famous person back to life, who would it be?
  24. What is something that I would never admit to anyone else?
  25. If I could be any animal, what would it be?

By answering these questions about each other, you and your partner will have a better idea of whether there is a high amount of intimacy and knowledge in the relationship. If they answer many questions correctly, that may mean they pay close attention to your needs, habits, preferences, feelings, and the things you say regularly. That's a good thing! These questions can also help you two connect on a deeper level as a couple and with yourself.

These questions can also just be a starting point to a larger conversation. Perhaps you have been in a relationship with your partner for a while, or even just got engaged, but are still unsure of where they stand on certain issues or values that are important to you. Maybe you feel as though you missed the right time to ask some more personal questions or that you don't know each other on a deeper level. Set a game night with your partner where you both ask "how well do you know me" questions or use them on your next date. These questions can be a light and fun way to get the conversation started on a more serious topic, especially if you struggle as a couple to talk about the harder things of life.

More Ways To Use The How Well Do You Know Me Questions

While these questions seem straightforward, there are a few different ways you can use them. Listed below are some ideas to get you started. However, it is important to remember that you can be as creative as you want with this exercise because the whole point is to have fun and get to know the other person better:

  • Ask the questions exactly as they are: When you follow this strategy, you will be asking your significant other to answer the questions about you. This can be fun, almost like a game show if you've been together for a while. However, if you don't know each other very well, it can be frustrating to ask them this way.
  • Have a conversation about the questions: Instead of asking them "how well do you know me" questions, you can simply state your answers to each other. That way, no one has to guess or remember what the other person's answer is. You can both simply relax and talk about your answers together. Doing it this way leaves little room for error or possible arguments if someone doesn't answer correctly.
  • Answer the questions all at once: You can make a whole date night out of the "how well do you know me" questions. Go out to dinner and discuss your answers over your meal. You can have one person answer all the questions simultaneously, or you can simply answer them together. Note that vulnerability breeds vulnerability, and it may be hard for just one partner to take on the task of answering the questions on their own. That being said, if one partner struggles with being vulnerable, the other can sometimes take the lead and will naturally make the other less nervous about sharing what's on their mind.
  • Write your answers down: If you don't want to take the chance of impacting one another's answers by whoever responds first, you can both go through and write down your answers to the questions. Then, when you are finished, you can discuss your answers together. You both might be more willing, to be honest, and open about your answers if the other person's response does not impact them.

Choose one question at a time: Instead of going through the whole list in one sitting, you can use this as an ongoing exercise. Put a handful of questions into a jar or hat and draw them out once a day or on date nights. Place them on the kitchen table or in the family room, where they're easily accessible. When you're ready to discuss one of them, simply draw one out of the jar and start talking. 

Things to Keep in Mind When Asking Questions
  • Remember that everyone is different. It's okay if you're a dog person and they're a cat person. It doesn't mean you can't be happy together! It makes the relationship more exciting when there are lots of differences. That doesn't mean you shouldn't share the same goals and values (because those are important to have in common), but it does mean that your differences can be a catalyst to bring you closer to one another and spark interesting conversations.
  • Don't try to influence the other person's answers. Allow them to answer the "how well do you know me" questions on their own. You want to get to know them without any outside influences impacting their answers.
  • Don't interrupt. Sometimes it may be hard for your partner to answer the "how well do you know me" questions, especially if they are more personal. The goal of the questions is to allow you and your partner to get closer and learn more about each other, so make sure you give them the proper space and time to answer.
  • Remember that you might not know the person as well as you think you do. Don't get frustrated if they answer one or more of the questions you didn't expect. Some of these questions may be about things that you and your partner have never thought about or discussed. They can be a great start to open up a larger conversation between the two of you about important things such as values and your future together.
  • Ask questions. These questions can start entire conversations that allow you to go deeper. Even the simple question of 'what's my full name?' can go into a deeper discussion if you ask follow-up questions. You could ask things like, "Is there a story behind your name?" or, "Did you like your name growing up?" or, "Have you ever wanted to change your name and, if so, what did you want it to be?" In other words, the questions and answers should be the start of the conversation, not the end of it. Talk as long as you'd like between asking new ones.
  • Add new "how well do you know me" questionsIf you make it through this list of 25 questions, you can try making up new ones to ask each other, such as:
    • Would you rather be able to fly or read minds?
    • If you were on a deserted island, what three things would you want to have with you?
    • What's your favorite school memory?

Additional Tips to Improve Your Relationship

Relationships are hard work, and just getting to know each other won't be enough to help you get through difficult points. Along with these "how well do you know me" questions, it can be helpful to make other things a priority in the relationship. Consider the following tips:

Apply What You Learn to Show Appreciation

Knowledge is only power when it has been applied to what you have learned. Don't let your newfound knowledge of your partner go unused. Leverage their likes and needs to your advantage by setting update nights or making presents that show you care. Take what you learn from your "how well do you know me" questions and conversations and apply your knowledge to show that you're listening to their responses.

More serious conversations will likely come up when discussing these questions. This is a good thing and will allow you to apply what you learn even more. For example, if you learn that your partner grew up in a home where shouting and throwing items was the common response to conflict, you'll know that raising your voice isn't the way to go when you two get in a fight. If getting to know each other more isn't creating actual change in the relationship, consider that one or both of you is withholding too much information, not being vulnerable, or even being dishonest.

Accept That You May Not Always Have the Same Hobbies or Likes

Some people believe you have to enjoy the same things as your partner to be compatible. While you should have some things in common, not having things in common can keep a relationship going even more and allow you to explore things you didn't even know about. Accept (and embrace) that you and your partner are two different people. A relationship can thrive without you having the same personality. While you're answering each other's "how well do you know me" questions, remember that it's a good thing to be still learning about each other. If you find that there are some things you disagree on, understand that that's okay, too. As long as you share the same morals and values, don't sweat the small disagreements.

Make Communication a Must

Many people will make communication a priority at first and then let it slip away over time. The reality is that communication is always necessary, and you must keep it open. There should be times when you feel comfortable discussing whatever is on your mind with your partner throughout the week. These should be uninterrupted moments of quality time spent together. Remember to prioritize communication even if your communication styles are different from one another. 

Respect Each Other's Boundaries

The newer your relationship is, the more you're still figuring out one another. If you ask a question and the other person feels uncomfortable, caught off guard, or doesn't want to answer that specific one, respect their wishes. They might divulge that information to you in the future but just aren't ready to at the moment. When you show respect for a person's decisions, you'll grow the trust in the relationship and often cause that person to appreciate you even more.

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Questions When Reaching Out To BetterHelp

Do you still feel like things are up in the air between you and your significant other? Are you struggling with vulnerability or intimacy? If you aren't sure if you're in a healthy relationship, online counseling services like BetterHelp are a great way to discuss those concerns. You'll be matched with an impartial counselor who can help you gain the insight you need moving forward.

Perhaps you learned during your "how well do you know me" conversations that you're not on the same page about how to split finances, or maybe you found out that one person wants to wait ten years before having kids, while the other only wants to wait a few years. Licensed therapists can take these disagreements and help you focus on healthy communication, compromise, and commitment (if both partners want the relationship to last).  

Couple counseling can often be overwhelming, but with this option, you and your partner can work around any scheduling or travel issues that would come up with traditional therapy. Every relationship has its problems, but you don't have to face them alone. Anyone can benefit from therapy, whether you're in a new relationship or have been in a committed marriage for years. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors from people experiencing similar issues.

Therapist Reviews

"Stephanie is a gem! She's very thoughtful, thorough, honest, insightful, and most of all helpful. This is coming from a person that never wanted to do counseling and just "knew" I didn't need it. She's been key in helping my wife and me find our better place. She made us grow as a couple and individually. Thanks, Steph!"

"Emily has been very helpful to me in my communication challenges with my partner. She took the time to understand in my past counseling and counselors what worked well and what didn't. She respected that input during our sessions. I appreciated it because we were able to get down to why I was using BetterHelp quickly, and she had an idea of what would work for me."

Additional "How Well Do You Know Me" Questions

If you would like to ask your partner more "how well do you know me" questions, here's a list to start with:

Questions

  1. What is your favorite restaurant to go to?
  2. What household chores do you hate the most?
  3. What type of music makes you happy?
  4. Who is your celebrity crush?
  5. What is your favorite childhood memory?
  6. Who is your favorite author?
  7. What's your favorite meal for me to make?
  8. What's your favorite outfit to wear during dates?
  9. Do you feel you're organized or messy?
  10. What would be the meal of the day each week if you could choose one?
  11. Which family member on my side annoys you the most?
  12. If you could ask me random "how well do you know me" questions, what would it be?
  13. What was your favorite subject in high school?
  14. Do you think you curse a lot?
  15. How do you feel about your parents?
  16. Do you want to go to your high school reunion?
  17. If you had a million dollars, what would be the first thing you would purchase?
  18. If you could play any instruments, what would you play?
  19. Would you go to your partner's school reunion?
  20. Would you rather stay at home or go out on a date?
  21. What is the one weakness in our marriage?
  22. What's the worst trouble present in our marriage?
  23. If your partner was sick, would you stay awake for 24 hours?
  24. Do you brush your teeth twice a day or once a day?
  25. What is your favorite social media?
  26. Is it something you could do for hours straight?
  27. If you could get a tattoo on any part of your body, where would you get one?
  28. Do you make sure to let the family know when you run late at work?
  29. How much stress do student loans put on you?
  30. What are your thoughts on open relationships?
  31. Would you like to be engaged and get married someday?
  32. Would you rather be poor but be close to family, or rich but far away?
  33. Who is your favorite pop culture personality?
  34. Do you have any fond memory of summers as a child?
  35. Have you been anywhere outside of the United States?
  36. If you could have sex with your celebrity crush, would you?
  37. What type of music do you like to listen to while having sex?
  38. What's the one issue with social media that you have?
  39. Which family member annoys you the most?
  40. What was your favorite subject as a child?
  41. Who is your favorite author?
  42. Do you have any questions about childhood that remain unresolved?
  43. Do we need to do more couple stuff, or are you happy with what we do?
  44. Where do you want to go on vacation?
  45. Do you love cats or dogs more?
  46. What position do I sleep in?
  47. Do you love simple or luxurious things?
  48. Do you love store-bought or homemade gifts?
  49. What was your favorite sexual experience?

These are all good questions to ask, and while some of them may highlight the good or bad in the relationship, they're worth asking. Some of them are great questions to probe your partner's mind and get a good idea of what they're thinking. For example, consider the idea of open relationships; your partner may be curious about exploring the option, but you're not so sure how you feel about them. If you're both honest about your feelings, you can come to an understanding together. These questions are designed to enhance your relationship. You can pick a couple to get started with and go from there.

Questions Conclusion

Regardless of how long you've been in a relationship, learning more about your partner will help to strengthen your bond and keep the mystery going. Hopefully, this stronger bond will help you fall more deeply in love with your partner. Knowing someone better normally has that effect fairly naturally. A lasting, fulfilling relationship is possible with the right tools. Take the first step today and figure out what growth opportunities exist within your relationship.

Therapy is a personal experience, and not everyone will go into it seeking the same things. Still, you can get a lot out of online therapy, regardless of your specific goals. If you're still wondering if therapy is right for you and how much therapy costs, please contact us at [email protected]. BetterHelp specializes in online therapy to help address all types of mental health concerns. If you're interested in individual therapy, please reach out to [email protected].

If you need a crisis hotline or have questions about therapy, please see below:
  • RAINN (Rape, Abuse, and Incest National Network) - 1-800-656-4673
  • The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline - 1-800-273-8255
  • National Domestic Violence Hotline - 1-800-799-7233
  • NAMI Helpline (National Alliance on Mental Illness) - 1-800-950-6264

For more information or questions on mental health, please see:
  • SAMHSA (Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration) SAMHSA Facebook, SAMHSA Twitter
  • Mental Health America, MHA Twitter, MHA Facebook, MHA Instagram, MHA Pinterest
  • WebMD, WebMD Facebook, WebMD Twitter, WebMD Pinterest
  • NIMH (National Institute of Mental Health), NIMH Facebook, NIMH Twitter, NIMH YouTube
  • APA (American Psychiatric Association), APA Twitter, APA Facebook, APA LinkedIn, APA Instagram

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  1. What is your ideal way to spend your holidays?
  2. What makes you dislike a person?
  3. Do you consider yourself a confident person? Why or why not?
  4. What are you most proud of?
  5. What would be your best version of yourself?
  6. What life experience did you miss?
  7. When are you really "you"?
  8. What musical instrument would you like to play?
  9. What is the best compliment you have received?
  10. How old would you like to be?
  11. Under what circumstances did you quarrel with some of your close friends?
  12. When did an ordinary event or accident completely change the course of your life?
  13. Are you satisfied/satisfied with those around you? Why, why not?
  14. If you could go to any country in the world for one month, where would you go?
  15. What is your favorite memory of someone who is no longer in your life?
  16. How superstitious/superstitious are you?
  17. What was a recurring theme in your life?
  18. What was your most inappropriate or embarrassing fart?
  19. What do you think happens after death?
  20. What are your top five rules for life?
  21. What is your favorite item in your / our house?
  22. What book or movie would you like to see for the first time?
  23. If you had a friend who spoke to you the way you talk to yourself, would you keep him as a friend?
  24. What little things do people do that get on your nerves?
  25. What gives meaning to your life?
  26. What would you like to say to people but can't?
  27. What traits do you find most attractive in people?
  28. What secret have you never told anyone?
  29. What small pleasures do you enjoy the most?
  30. Who is the most annoying person you know?
  31. What is your biggest mistake so far?
  32. What have you been struggling with all your life?
  33. What is the most significant change you would like to make in your life?
  34. What do you want from life?
  35. What calms you the most?
  36. What things do you find disgusting?
  37. What would your ideal life look like?
  38. If you were getting paid to follow your dreams, what would you do/do?
  39. What was your most embarrassing story about being sick?
  40. What friend have you not thought about for a long time?
  41. What is the craziest thing that has happened at your job?
  42. With whom do you behave well but secretly dislike?
  43. If money weren't an issue, how would you decorate your / our house without my help?
  44. How good are you at reading people?
  45. Do you see your future in a positive way?
  46. Who do you want to be like/be like or look up to most?
  47. What were the healthiest and unhealthiest periods of your life?
  48. What is the most severe emotional or mental pain you have experienced?
  49. What do you like most about where we live?
  50. What are you worried about?
  51. What did you screw up/fuck up and then try/attempt to hide?
  52. What is the scariest / creepiest place you have ever been?
  53. Do you think the world is getting better or worse? Why?
  54. How do you think society is changing? Will we change with him?
  55. The worst thing that people are proud of?
  56. What was the biggest betrayal you experienced?
  57. What would be the best present?
  58. What are you afraid of?
  59. What makes you feel super cool/cool?
  60. What would you like your obituary to say?
  61. What takes up too much space in your life?
  62. What is the saddest or most joyful realization that you have reached?
  63. What was the hardest lesson you had to learn?
  64. You would take $3 million if it meant the person you hate the most in the world would get 9million?
  65. What part of you as a person still needs a lot of work?
  66. What words of wisdom are stuck in your head?
  67. How well do you know yourself?
  68. What is your best flaw?
  69. How do you forgive?
  70. Tell me about the time you almost died.
  71. Are you ashamed of what you did in the past? If you feel comfortable talking about it, what was it?
  72. Do you prefer to live in the countryside, in the city or in the metropolis? Why?
  73. What are your fondest memories of a tree/trees?
  74. What are the most pleasant sensations for you?
  75. Are you satisfied with the chosen career path? Or would you like to choose another career?
  76. What is the most unethical thing you do regularly?
  77. What could be more difficult than it seems?
  78. What job do you think you were born for?
  79. What was the biggest financial mistake you made?
  80. What makes you lose faith in humanity when you think about it?
  81. What was the most painful thing you heard?
  1. What do you think are your biases?
  2. What internal struggle do you not tell anyone about?
  3. What luxury item do you sometimes indulge in?
  4. What do you like to do most when you have time?
  5. What is normal now, but in 100 years will be considered unethical and barbaric?
  6. When do you leave to be remembered?
  7. If there was an accident that left you unconscious in intensive care, how long would you like to be in intensive care?
  8. Do you believe in luck and bad luck? What about the things that bring good and bad luck?
  9. If you had a million dollars for charity, what kind of charity would you do?
  10. What are many people afraid of, but you are not?
  11. If you could open a business, what type of business would you open?
  12. The thing that makes a person automatically unattractive to you, even if they are physically attractive?
  13. What lies have you believed for an incredibly long time?
  14. What are the three most important turning points in your life?
  15. What animal are you most afraid of?
  16. What scandal happened in your area or city when you were growing up?
  17. How well do you think you would survive in prison?
  18. What is the most embarrassing social situation you have been in?
  19. What scares you every day?
  20. When was the last time you cried?
  21. What was the most peaceful, calm and pleasant night you had, after which you slept / slept?
  22. What is the most dangerous thrill-seeking thing you would like to do?
  23. What is your biggest regret?
  24. Is it better to trust people or not to trust? And why?
  25. What are your best and worst qualities?
  26. Who do you miss the most?
  27. What is the most difficult life lesson you have learned?
  28. What do you take for granted?
  29. Stressful situation you have ever been in? How did/did you deal with it?
  30. What is the most ambitious thing you have tried/tried to do?
  31. How often do you change your mind? Or how do you see the world?
  32. What was the biggest opportunity you were given?
  33. What should people enjoy more because it won't last long?
  34. What question do you want people to ask more often?
  35. What is the saddest thing in your life that no one knows about?
  36. What are you most sentimental about?
  37. Do people look down on you more often or, conversely, look up to you? Why is that?
  38. What question do you most want answered?
  39. What are the characteristics of a superficial person?
  40. What do you look forward to most during the day?
  41. If you could instantly acquire a talent or skill, what would you like to know how to do?
  42. When is your favorite time of day?
  43. What is the best and worst thing about the period of history we are living through?
  44. What is the most useful thing in your daily life?
  45. Strange thing that stresses you more than it should?
  46. When do you really feel in your element?
  47. How likely are you to believe a conspiracy theory?
  48. Tell us stories from your youth about alcohol?
  49. What is the best way to improve yourself?
  50. What was the most productive time in your life? And the least productive?
  51. What three words best describe you?
  52. How well do you work under pressure?
  53. What is your weakness?
  54. What are the two most important events in your life?
  55. What is bad for you and you know it, but still can't get rid of it?
  56. What is the biggest service you have done for someone?
  57. How does your current morning routine differ from your ideal morning routine?
  58. What brings you the most joy?
  59. What are you deliberately ignoring, even though you know you should/should solve it?
  60. What would you like to be better at?
  61. Is there anything you have done wrong for many years, only to find out later that you did it wrong?

Questions about their family and childhood

When you're looking for relationship questions, it's always important to ask questions about family and childhood. Knowing where your partner came from, you can understand what they are now -

  1. What did your parents do that made you incredibly embarrassed?
  2. What small, seemingly insignificant thing did your parents or someone else say when you were a child that you remember the whole time?
  3. What is the best or worst thing you have inherited from your parents?
  4. What made you realize that your parents were just people like everyone else?
  5. What habits have you had since childhood?
  6. What family vacation or vacation do you remember as a child?
  7. How traditional was your family?
  8. Children often look very much like their parents. How do you want to be different from your parents? And how do you want to be like them?
  9. What subjects did you like and hate most at school?
  10. What unusual game did you often play as a child?
  11. What movie seriously traumatized you as a child or as an adult?
  12. What irrational fears did you have as a child?
  13. Which toy played a significant role in your childhood?
  14. What are your earliest memories?

Questions about relationships

Here are some basic questions for couples that explore the topic of relationships. It is important to be open-minded when asking and answering these questions. This is not about telling your partner what they are doing wrong or what you want from them. It's about working together as a couple to eventually build a healthy relationship.

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  1. What do you consider exceptionally kind or caring about what I did?
  2. What new hobbies or activities would you like to try together as a couple?
  3. What is our greatest strength as a couple?
  4. What can we do to strengthen our relationship?
  5. Is there anything small we can do for each other every day to make our lives better?
  6. How much space / time alone should people be given when they are in a relationship with each other?
  7. What questions should partners ask each other before marriage?
  8. What do I do that makes you the happiest person?
  9. How important is it for people in relationships to maintain their own individuality?
  10. What makes our relationship better than others?
  11. How do you think our lives will look like in 10 years?
  12. What do you think will bring us together as a couple?
  13. What memories do you want to create together?
  14. What do you think is an essential part of a successful relationship?
  15. What is your favorite way to spend time together?
  16. What is your favorite present I gave you?
  17. Where do you want to live when we retire?
  18. In what areas do you think our personalities complement each other? (For example, one is too reckless and the other is too cautious, resulting in a balance).
  19. How well do you think we communicate?
  20. What adventure would you like to go on with me?
  21. What's the best relationship advice you've ever received?
  22. What do you really like about me?
  23. What do you think is the most difficult thing in a marriage/relationship?
  24. What can I do to help us as a couple?
  25. How do you see your role in our relationship?
  26. What can destroy our relationship that you cannot forgive?
  27. What makes us different from other couples?
  28. What do you think would be the best way to strengthen our relationship?
  29. What are your goals in our relationship?
  30. How realistic do you think couples are in movies and TV?
  31. What does a happy and healthy relationship look like?

Questions about sex

Sex is an important topic of conversation in any relationship. It is important to know what each of you considers a healthy and enjoyable sex life.

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  1. How do you think our sexual desires match?
  2. How important do you think sex is in our relationship?
  3. What are you interested in but didn't tell me?
  4. What do I do in bed that drives you crazy?
  5. What is your most adventurous thing that you did/done sexually?
  6. Other than orgasms, what's the best part of sex?
  7. What is the most embarrassing thing that has happened to you during sex?
  8. When am I the sexiest/sexiest for you?
  9. What would you like me to do in the bedroom to spice things up a bit?
  10. What's better than great sex?
  11. What do I do outside the bedroom that turns you on?

Questions about having children

A couple should be on the same wavelength when it comes to children. There can be a lot of fights and heartache in a relationship if one partner wants kids and the other doesn't, or if you both have very different parenting expectations.

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  1. Do you want to have kids eventually? How many children do you want? Why?
  2. What is the worst parenting mistake a couple can make?
  3. What is the best way to raise children?
  4. How do we know if we have done a good job as parents?
  5. Do you think it is more important for a couple with children to focus on the children or more on each other? Why?
  6. How do you think children will change/have changed our lives and relationships?

100 relationship questions for couples

Asking the right questions is important for both new romances and long-term relationships. We've put together 100 interesting relationship questions for you and your partner to share your thoughts, hopes, and dreams about your relationship, love, and sex life.

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What is important in answering these questions? 🤗

  • Honesty builds trust! Be honest with your partner when answering these questions.
  • Don't be afraid! If you and your partner are made for each other, you should be able to talk about everything. So don't be afraid to talk about your innermost thoughts.
  • Don't rush your partner! Maybe some questions will make your partner feel uncomfortable. Don't rush to answer all questions. Be patient, some things take time.
  • Do not judge! You may not understand every thought of your partner. This is completely normal. But try to be supportive, even if you have a different opinion.

Our collection of 100 interesting relationship questions 🥰

The following lists of questions are the perfect start for conversations with your significant other. We have compiled a lot of romantic and sexy questions to ask your girlfriend or boyfriend. Don't be afraid to dive into a deep conversation with your partner. Take the chance and get to know each other on a new level!

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20 questions before moving on to the next level 🤔

Maybe you've been thinking about moving in together lately, or you want to propose to your significant other, or you just want to feel ready to let your guard down in a new relationship. Then these questions are for you.

Here we have compiled 20 questions you should ask your partner before taking the next step.

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  • Where do you see yourself in 5 years?
  • Will you support me no matter what?
  • How much honesty do you need in a relationship?
  • How do you think you have changed over the past few years?
  • What do you think about children?
  • How do you see love?
  • How do you deal with difficult situations?
  • Do you believe in God?
  • What is cheating for you?
  • What do you think about your boyfriend/girlfriend relationship?
  • Do you feel that we make each other the best version of ourselves?
  • Have you ever cheated on someone?
  • Have you ever hit a person with whom you had a relationship?
  • What's on your wish list?
  • What do you think about marriage?
  • How did/did you deal with your feelings and emotions as a child?
  • What do you want from this relationship?
  • How would you describe your relationship with your family?
  • How did your last relationship end?
  • What is the length of your longest romantic relationship?

20 questions about your hopes and dreams 👑

Everyone has their own hopes and dreams. Some of them can be realistically realized in our future, some of them are just from the world of dreams and fantasy. Through these questions, you and your partner get to know each other on a deeper level by talking about your hopes and dreams.

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  • What animal would you like to ride at least once in your life?
  • If you had to change lives with someone, who would it be?
  • Can you choose any person in the world whom you would like to invite to dinner?
  • If you had an invisibility superpower, how would you use it?
  • What are the unfulfilled things in your life?
  • If you could see into the future, what would you like to see?
  • What do you think of the perfect honeymoon destination?
  • If you could design an ideal home for us, what would it look like?
  • What would you like to be really good at?
  • If you could be any animal, who would it be?
  • What geolocation do you see yourself in after retirement?
  • If you had to change your name, what name would you choose?
  • Is there anything you have long dreamed of doing? Why haven't you done this yet?
  • If you had a time machine, would you choose to go back in time or visit the future?
  • If you could move anywhere in the world, where would you go?
  • What are your life dreams and what do you want from the future?
  • What superpower would you most like to have?
  • What adventures would you like to experience before you die?
  • If you could be the richest person in the world, what would you do with your money?
  • If you could look like anyone else in the world, who would you choose and why?

20 questions about romance, love and sex life (18+) 👅

Time flies, you and your partner are struggling to find a balance between your full employment, personal life with friends and leisure activities, and perhaps even combine it with your family with children.

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It's no secret that our love and romantic life can suffer from stress at some point. You may feel like you have lost the passion you once had for your partner. If this sounds familiar, then these questions are for you. They are designed to spice up your sex life and rekindle the romance in your relationship.

  • What is your wildest fantasy?
  • What am I doing that turns you on the most?
  • How do you imagine the ideal romantic date?
  • What would you like to do more in bed?
  • What dirty fantasy do you have about me?
  • Are there times when you feel lonely/alone, neglected/reduced from attention, or as if I am emotionally unavailable/unavailable?
  • How would you like to spend a special date with each other?
  • Would you tell me that you have some secret fetishes?
  • What do you think it means to be good in bed?
  • Last time you saw me in your dirty dream? When it was?
  • What is your favorite part of my body?
  • What do you think about threesomes?
  • The best thing I can do for you in bed?
  • If you could ask me anything and I answered honestly, what would you ask?
  • Is there anything you won't do in bed?
  • How do you see a romantic getaway?
  • Are you satisfied with how much time we spend together and apart from each other?
  • What is your favorite time of the day for sex?
  • How/when do you feel most loved/most loved?
  • What sex position would you like to try?

20 questions about your relationship 🔥

These questions are about your relationship and nothing else. Maybe you're not sure about your relationship right now. You feel like your partner doesn't care, unlike you. With these questions, you can subtly test each other's knowledge of your relationship.

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These questions are great for starting a conversation about your past, present and future relationships.

  • What do you think makes me smile?
  • What do you remember most about our first kiss?
  • What is the most romantic thing I have ever done for you?
  • What do you like about me?
  • If you had one word to describe our relationship, what would it be?
  • What is your favorite similarity between us?
  • Do you think that I understand you and understand how you feel? Why do you think so?
  • What makes you the happiest person in our relationship?
  • What is your favorite memory of me at the moment?
  • What/what did you think about when you first met me?
  • What difference do you like between us?
  • How satisfied are you with the amount of non-sexual affection in our relationship?
  • Do you think of me when I'm not around?
  • What would you like to change about me?
  • Do you think I can be your best friend and lover/mistress at the same time?
  • Do you remember what we said to each other the very first time?
  • How long did you think our relationship would last when we first started dating?
  • What do you value most in our relationship?
  • If you had one word to describe our love, what would it be?
  • What about me made you fall in love?

20 “this or that” questions 🤩

Now we bring you a list of questions that work as a conversation starter and are perfect for a lazy Sunday afternoon for you and your significant other. You may already know the answers to your

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  • Chocolate or vanilla?0018
  • Ice cream or French fries?
  • Hero or villain?
  • Cookies or cake?
  • SMS or call?
  • Summer or winter?
  • Book or movie?
  • Coca-Cola or Pepsi?
  • Gold or silver?
  • Fruit or vegetables?
  • Ketchup or mustard?
  • Piercing or tattoos?
  • Sweet or salty?
  • Series or movies?
  • Pasta or pizza?
  • Family or friends?
  • Pop or indie?
  • Wine or beer?
  • Concert or play?
  • Cards or board games?

Conversation Starters

Whether you're at a party talking to someone you've just met or spending time with friends you haven't seen in a while, coming up with a good conversation starter that isn't just a boring conversation can be a challenge.


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