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272 Deep Questions to Ask: A Guy, Girl, Friend, or Anyone

272 Deep Questions to Ask: A Guy, Girl, Friend, or Anyone

By Tchiki Davis, MA, PhD

Want to get to know someone better? One way is to ask them deep questions. So here are some deep questions you can ask different people—people like your partner, friends, or whoever.

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Maybe you're trying to get to know someone better. Maybe you're trying to make conversations  more interesting. Or maybe, you just want to improve your communication skills by asking deep questions. In this article, we'll give you a bunch of questions to ask the different people in your life. We'll cover deep questions that you can ask a guy, a girl, your girlfriend, boyfriend or long-term partner, your friends, your best friend, and yourself.

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What Are Deep Questions and Why Do They Matter?

Communication may just be the backbone of healthy relationships. But communication is more than just a tool we use to explore ourselves. It can also be used to build closer bonds with others. One way we can do this is by asking deep questions—questions that lead others to self-disclose to us. This is how we get to know who the other person is for real.

In perhaps one of the best-known studies on relationships, Art Aron showed that when two people asked each other increasingly deep questions over a 45-minute period, they felt closer than two people who had just engaged in chit-chat (Aron et al., 1997). Further research suggests that when others self-disclose personal information, we like them more (Sprecher, Treger, & Wondra, 2013). This may partially explain why deep questions increase closeness.

Deep Questions to Ask Someone

To start increasing closeness (or just get to know someone), here are the questions you can ask anyone from Dr. Aron's study (Aron et al., 1997). They increase in intensity from the beginning to the end.

Set I

  1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
  7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

  1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
  2. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  4. What do you value most in a friendship?
  5. What is your most treasured memory?
  6. What is your most terrible memory?
  7. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
  8. What does friendship mean to you?
  9. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  10. Share something you consider to be a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
  11. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  12. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


  1. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…” 
  2. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
  3. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.
  4. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  5. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
  6. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  7. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].
  8. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  9. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
  10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
  11. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
  12. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

More Deep Questions to Ask Anyone

In addition to Aron's 36 questions for closeness, here are some more questions you can ask anyone.

  1. If you could have three wishes, what would they be?
  2. Who was your favorite cartoon character when you were a kid?
  3. What does spirituality mean to you?
  4. Do you believe in giving people second chances, and why?
  5. How would you describe your first crush?
  6. What are your favorite hobbies?
  7. What is your star sign? And do you believe in astrology?
  8. What do you want people to remember about you after you’re gone?
  9. What was the most important lesson you’ve learned from a past relationship?
  10. What are some of your favorite books?
  11. Have you ever had an epiphany? If so what was it like for you?
  12. What what the most intense experience you've had in your life?
  13. When you dream big, what would you do with your life?
  14. Are you a morning or a night person?
  15. Do you think anyone has the capacity to cheat or do you think only cheaters cheat?
  16. Have you ever shoplifted anything?
  17. Have you ever told a lie that you regretted?
  18. Have you ever done something you regretted?
  19. Do you ever make excuses for your bad behavior? (e. g., I punched him because he was a jerk.)
  20. What do you think of A.I. (Artificial Intelligence)? Scary or amazing?
  21. What do you think of Elon Musk?
  22. What do you think of Steve Jobs? Hero or Villain?
  23. What do you think the solution is to climate change?
  24. Do you think psychics are actually psychic?
  25. What is your favorite workout?
  26. How do you think you'd be different if you were raised in a different family?
  27. What is the most important lesson you've learned this year?
  28. What is your dream vacation?
  29. What superpowers did you wish you had when you were a kid?
  30. What did you want to be when you grew up?
  31. Are you a mountain or a beach person?
  32. What is your spirit animal?
  33. Are you very close to anyone in your family? Why?
  34. What are your top three strengths?
  35. What are your top three positive qualities?
  36. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
  37. What are your passions in life?
  38. Have you ever had your heart broken? What did it feel like to you?
  39. What type of music energizes you?
  40. Are you still friends with anyone from high school?
  41. What was your favorite subject or class in high school?
  42. What was the most memorable experience from your childhood?
  43. How do you relax when you're stressed out?
  44. What is a skill that you want to build?
  45. If you could change one decision you made when you were younger what would it be and why?
  46. If you could change one thing about your childhood what would it be and why?
  47. Do you know how to play any musical instruments?
  48. Who or what inspires you?
  49. What is your place in the whole world?
  50. Who is your doppelganger?
  51. Have you ever been camping? Did you like it?
  52. What is one accomplishment that you're proud of?
  53. What three non-electric or non-automatic items would you take on a deserted island?
  54. If “hello” were to be replaced by another word as a greeting, what word would that be?
  55. When you see your family, what do you do together?
  56. What is your Achilles heel (your weak spot)?
  57. What is your favorite (least favorite) emotion?
  58. What do you think makes a meaningful life?
  59. Is there anything from the 1980s that you wish would come back?
  60. Do you believe in good and evil?
  61. What do you think prevents people from manifesting their dreams?
  62. Do you get déjà vu? What does it feel like for you?
  63. What makes you feel nostalgic?
  64. What would you do if you found out you had a year to live?
  65. If you redesigned society, what would you change?
  66. What would be a perfect day for you?
  67. What impresses you?
  68. If you had to eat only one meal for the rest of your life what would it be?
  69. What's your least favorite food?
  70. What's one thing I don't already know about you?

Deep Questions to Ask a Girl

You can ask girls and guys many of the same deep questions (as listed above), but I thought it might be helpful to also provide some additional deep questions you might want to ask a girl or guy. So here are some extra questions you might want to ask a girl.

  1. Do you want to have a baby? Why? (Or why did you have a baby?)
  2. Have you ever been “mansplained,” and if so, what did you do about it?
  3. How do you feel about the #MeToo movement?
  4. Have you ever asked a guy out on a date?
  5. How do you feel about the idea that some people think the female organism is a myth?
  6. If you could choose, would you have chosen to be born a girl or guy?
  7. What do you think it means to be a woman?
  8. What's your favorite thing about being a woman?
  9. What's your least favorite thing about being a woman?
  10. How do you feel about how females are depicted in movies and TV?

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Deep Questions to Ask a Guy

Here are some extra questions you might want to ask a guy:

  1. Do you ever feel pressure to be the provider in your family or relationship?
  2. What do you think about expressing your emotions? 
  3. How do you think about women?
  4. How do you feel about being responsible for pushing a relationship forward (e. g., asking a girl on a date or to marry you?)
  5. What do you think of society's idea of what a man should be?
  6. What do you think the challenges are of being a man in the modern world?
  7. How do you build friendships with other guys?
  8. What is your definition of being a man?
  9. What's your favorite thing about being a man?
  10. What's your least favorite thing about being a man?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Partner (Boyfriend or Girlfriend)

When you're getting to know your relationship partner, there may be a number of questions to ask that can help you get closer to them and also understand them better. These questions may also help you determine whether they are a good fit for you in the long term.

  1. What do you look for in a relationship?
  2. What personal qualities do you love?
  3. Do you believe in marriage? If so, what age do you think is the best for marriage?
  4. Do you believe in soul mates?
  5. What is your love language?
  6. What is your idea of a perfect date?
  7. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?
  8. How do you describe commitment? How do you describe freedom?
  9. Do you want to have kids?
  10. How do you imagine your life in 10 years? 20 years? 50 years?
  11. If you had all the money you needed, what would you do with your life?
  12. Where would you put yourself on the workaholic to relaxaholic spectrum?
  13. How do you react when you're upset?
  14. If you had a partner who gained a lot of weight, would you stay with them?
  15. What do you think leads people to cheat in relationships?
  16. If you were having relationship troubles, would you ever go see a relationship counselor?
  17. What's one time when you had to compromise? How did that feel to you?
  18. What would be the perfect amount of time each day that you'd spend with your partner?
  19. What’s a deal-breaker for you in a relationship?
  20. What is a healthy relationship to you?

A Few More Deep Questions Lists for Girls and Guys

Here are a few other good lists of deep questions to get to know your romantic partner better:

Deep Questions to Ask Friends

Maybe you're looking to get to know your friends better. Here are some questions that can help:

  1. If you could magically change one thing in your life, what would it be?
  2. What do you think of mindfulness?
  3. Do you think we’d be better off without social media?
  4. What do you think it means to be healthy?
  5. What do you love the most in life?
  6. Do you vote?
  7. Do you believe in karma? 
  8. What do you think about freedom of speech?
  9. Do you think there is an afterlife of any kind?
  10. What do you think about veganism?
  11. What do you think about the current younger generation?
  12. Do you think bullies see themselves as bullies?
  13. Do you tend to trust people?
  14. Do you feel like men and women are equal?
  15. Do you think people can change?
  16. What's your favorite activity to do with friends?
  17. What's one thing you believe in that's kinda weird?
  18. Where is your favorite place to go eat?
  19. What was one of your funniest moments?
  20. If I asked you, "Who are you?" How would you answer?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Best Friend

Sometimes there are those personal questions that you're just not comfortable asking anyone but your best friend. Here are a few of these extra-deep questions you might want to only ask your best closest friends:

  1. What do you like about me?
  2. What are my best qualities?
  3. What are my worst qualities?
  4. What aspects of myself do I need to work on to be a better friend?
  5. What makes you feel comfortable around me?
  6. What do you think it is about us that made us such good friends?
  7. Do you have any secrets that you need to get off your chest? If so, I promise to hold them with you.
  8. Do you think we'll still be friends when we die?
  9. What do you think your life would be like without me?
  10. What's one thing you'd like to do together that we haven't yet done?

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Deep Questions to Ask Yourself

Last but not least, you may want to ask yourself some deep questions to better get to know yourself. By asking ourselves deep questions we can uncover thoughts and beliefs we didn't even realize we had. So check out these questions you can use to get to know yourself better.

  1. Do you respect yourself?
  2. Are you confident? Why or why not?
  3. Do you like who you are?
  4. How do you express your emotions?
  5. What makes you happy?
  6. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  7. ​Do you forgive those who have hurt you? How?
  8. Do you think you're brave? Why or why not?
  9. How do you engage in self-care?
  10. Do you try to grow and improve your abilities?
  11. Are you proud of yourself?
  12. Do you know what you want in life?
  13. In what ways do you think positively? negatively?
  14. What's your personal mission statement?
  15. Do you believe you can manifest your dreams?
  16. What are your long-term goals?
  17. What are you thankful for?
  18. Do you love yourself?
  19. what are your core values?
  20. Do you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in the middle?
  21. What motivates you?
  22. How do you respond to rejection?
  23. Do you ever feel shame or guilt? What causes it?
  24. Do you suppress or express your emotions? Why and how?
  25. Are you generally present in the moment or do you spend a lot of time in your head?
  26. Do you have a healthy relationship with your smartphone?
  27. What makes you feel vulnerable?
  28. What are your good habits and bad habits?
  29. What is your true calling?
  30. What makes you feel empowered? Disempowered?
  31. What anti-stress strategies help you most?
  32. Do you ever have FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)?
  33. Do you have any trust issues?
  34. Do you have an easy or hard time letting go of the past?
  35. How do you self-soothe when you're upset?
  36. Do you tend to have a scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset?
  37. What's your communication style?
  38. Do you practice random acts of kindness?
  39. What is your best life?
  40. What makes you jealous or envious?
  41. Have you ever faked happiness?
  42. How secure or insecure do you tend to be in relationships?
  43. Do you tend to be an optimist or a pessimist?
  44. How positive are you about your body?
  45. Have you ever cheated emotionally?
  46. What are your highest aspirations?
  47. What negative thoughts do you have? How might you shift them to be more positive?
  48. What makes you laugh?
  49. How many hugs do you need each day?
  50. What brings you the most joy?

More Articles to Help You Improve Your Social Connections

Here are some more articles that may help you build the skills that support healthy relationships and social bonds.

  • What is Love? Definition, Signs & Types
  • Is Your Smartphone Hurting Your Relationships?
  • ​Healthy Relationships: Definition, Characteristics, and Tips​
  • ​Rapport: Definition & How to Build It
  • Self-Disclosure: Definition, Examples, & Tips

Final Thoughts on Deep Questions to Ask

Asking deep questions can be a great way to learn more about others, increase closeness between you, and have more interesting conversations. Hopefully, these lists of deep questions gave you a good place to start.

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  • Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and social psychology bulletin23(4), 363-377.
  • Sprecher, S., Treger, S. , & Wondra, J. D. (2013). Effects of self-disclosure role on liking, closeness, and other impressions in get-acquainted interactions. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships30(4), 497-514.​

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110 Deep Questions To Ask Your Friends

There are some friends you have known for a lifetime and others you have just met. Some may be considered close to you as a family; they feel like your brother, sister, or cousin. Others you see potential in – maybe with these friendships, you need time to nurture and grow..

In life, friendships are important. They are the people with whom you choose to surround yourself. When it comes to family, you get what you are born into. You may or may not get along with your family, and for many people, being with family can be more a source of stress than an exciting thing. Friends are people who have similar interests as you; you could have met them through school, work, or doing your favorite hobby. Some friends you met when you are young, and then you grow into different people and lose touch, which is a normal part of life. The friendships that you keep helps ease the stress of other aspects of life. Friends can get you through a day of work and a lot of other stressful periods in life. They can help you get through a future and previous relationship: the start, the middle, and the end. And while friends are great to backboard against for ideas and life advice, if you need someone to talk to about your relationships, you can also seek professional help.

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When it comes to any relationship, the connection and bond grow with time. There is always that desire to get to know each other better or look for ways to bond more. Relationships of any kind go through different growth phases, whether it’s a friend or romantic partner. The people involved will not get to know everything about one another in one day.

How To Get To Know Someone

Often, you meet strangers and somehow want to get to know them. For this reason, you must read tips to help you talk to strangers. Also, one of the most powerful and surest ways to get to know someone is by asking intentional questions., such as getting to know you questions. One way to help yourself connect easily and effectively with other people is by asking the right questions. This can change your life and also help you to know how to harness each relationship. Asking deep questions can be very instrumental in enhancing your existing relationships to grow and build new ones. Also, knowing which deep questions to ask is more like a secret weapon, especially in social situations. You can choose to memorize some of your favorites or have a list of deep questions to ask on your phone, and you pull them out whenever the need arises. That way, you will rarely be at a loss for words in your relationships or any gathering you find yourself.

However, it is important to consider the person(s) you are having the conversation with, your gut feeling, the mood or tone of the conversation, and the goal. This way, you will know which questions to use per time and not ask the wrong questions to throw people off-guard or turn them off. Read on to learn more about deep questions to ask a guy or girl to get to know them better. You can learn more about this skill in online therapy.

Close Friendships: Is There Anything Left To Ask?

Even in the closest of friendships, there are always still new things to discover about one another and become a better friend. Whether you feel as if you know your friends as well as you know yourself, or it is a fresher friendship, there are likely still many deep personal questions to ask each other.

In most cases, building effective communication and bonds between friends depend on finding the right questions to ask. You may think you already know so much about your closest friends, but you would be surprised at how much deeper you can still go and the many things you can still learn about one another that you don’t already know- from the serious to the silly things. If you are spending quality time together at dinner, on vacation, or just hanging out, you can ask your friends deep questions that will help you find out about each other. Here is a list of 117 deep questions to ask your friends.

117 Deep Questions To Ask Your Friends:

  1. What makes you feel unstoppable?
  2. How do you see me?
  3. What emotion do you experience the most?
  4. If you could do anything for the rest of your life in the entire world today, what would that be?
  5. Do you think you’re brave?
  6. What makes you feel super loved?
  7. Do you think people fall in love because the right person has arrived, or because the timing is right (regardless of whom the person is that they fall in love with)?
  8. What do you want people to feel when they’re around you?
  9. What is one dream you’ve never said out loud?
  10. What bad habits do you lie the most about?
  11. If you had to change your name, then which one would be new?
  12. What makes you feel most alive?
  13. When do you feel you’re most vulnerable?
  14. What do you think makes me smile?
  15. Is it easy for you to show yourself love or speak kindly to yourself?
  16. What annoys you the most about people in three words?
  17. What scares you the most?
  18. What is more important to you in a dream job – status, power, or money?
  19. Is there anything you see inside of yourself you’re not sure of?
  20. What is that one embarrassing moment you have not told anyone yet?
  21. What is the nickname that your friends have given you? What does it mean?
  22. Are you more afraid of death or not living?
  23. Where would you like to be in 5 years?
  24. Do you want kids? If so, would you prefer having a baby without a partner or a partner without a baby?
  25. What was the biggest mistake that impacted you the most in your life?
  26. What type of relationship did/do you have with your parents?
  27. Would you be with someone who doesn’t have the same personal beliefs as you?
  28. How would your best friends describe you?
  29. Do you usually follow your heart, head, or a gut feeling?
  30. Do you prefer dating just one person and see where it goes or dating multiple people until you decide?
  31. How would you rank the following in importance: family, career, love life?
  32. What are the qualities you’re looking for in someone you want to grow old with?
  33. What are you most grateful for in your life?
  34. If you could change anything about your past, what would it be?
  35. Where do you think you will be ten years from now?
  36. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself today, and why?
  37. Where do you go when you need some inspiration?
  38. Who is the first person you call when you’re in trouble?
  39. What is the most memorable experience that you’ve done with someone?
  40. Would you put your family or your friends first if you had to choose one?
  41. Why did your last romantic relationship end and what did this relationship teach you about emotional compatibility?
  42. Who was your favorite cartoon character when you were a kid?
  43. What is the best advice you’ve ever been given?
  44. If you could marry anyone in the world, who would it be and why?
  45. If a crystal ball told you that you only had one year to live, what would you change in your life?
  46. What is your greatest fear?
  47. Do you think confessions make a relationship stronger?
  48. Did you ever judge someone for the dark secrets they told you?
  49. What has been the best phase in your life thus far?
  50. If you could choose one superpower, what would it be and why?
  51. What is your favorite childhood memory about a favorite teacher?
  52. What would you do if your parents raised concerns about your partner?
  53. Are you still in touch with your childhood friends?
  54. What do you do when you’re angry?
  55. What is your biggest regret in life so far?
  56. What was your favorite romantic moment, and why?
  57. What are your beliefs on God?
  58. Do you believe in soul mates from a past life?
  59. How long does it take you to trust someone?
  60. If you had to move to a deserted island without your friends and family, would you do it?
  61. What are some things that you wished people knew about you?
  62. Do you believe that life after death is possible?
  63. If you got into an argument with your best friend over your lover when they aren’t around, would you stand up for your lover?
  64. What’s your philosophy in life?
  65. What’s the one thing you would like to change about yourself?
  66. Are you religious or spiritual?
  67. If you were given three things to make you happy, what would these be?
  68. Would you ever take back someone who cheated?
  69. What was the most important lesson of your life?
  70. What was the greatest struggle of your life?
  71. Is what you’re doing now what you always wanted to do growing up?
  72. What are your favorite songs, books, or movies of all time, and why did they speak to you so much?
  73. What makes you feel accomplished?
  74. What is a relationship deal-breaker for you?
  75. Are you more into looks or brains?
  76. Do you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
  77. Which parent are you closer to, and why?
  78. What lies do you most often tell yourself?
  79. Would you relocate for love?
  80. Have you ever written in a journal?
  81. What legacy do you want people to remember about you after you’re gone?
  82. Do you think the present is better than 50 years ago? Why?
  83. What advice would you give to the current younger generation?
  84. What’s the most extreme example of poverty you have seen?
  85. What do a lot of parents do that screws up their kids?
  86. What kind of parent do you think you will be?
  87. What life-changing event have you experienced?
  88. Who is that one person you can talk to about just anything?
  89. What is the weirdest thing you have ever eaten?
  90. Do you usually stay friends with your exes?
  91. How do you feel about your password with your partner?
  92. Is there such a thing as being ready for marriage?
  93. Have you ever lost someone close to you?
  94. What is your idea of a perfect date?
  95. If you are in a bad mood, do you prefer to be left alone or have someone to cheer you up?
  96. Which fictional character do you most relate to and why>
  97. What’s the ideal weekend for you?
  98. What do you think of having good friends of the opposite sex?
  99. When was the last time you broke someone’s heart?
  100. What are you most thankful for?
  101. Do you believe in second chances, and if so, why?
  102. How would you describe your first crush?
  103. What’s a guilty pleasure that people always misunderstand about you?
  104. Would you rather take a trip to the beach, the mountains, or an amusement park?
  105. What is something you have learned from your previous relationships?
  106. Do you judge a book by its cover?
  107. Are you more of a morning or night person?
  108. What is the craziest thing you've ever done?
  109. Are you confrontational?
  110. What are your thoughts on online dating or tinder?
  111. What’s on your bucket list this year?
  112. When have you felt your biggest adrenaline rush?
  113. What is the craziest thing you’ve ever done, and would you do it again?
  114. If you could do anything knowing you would not fail, what would you do?
  115. If a genie granted you three wishes right now, what would you wish for?
  116. What’s your biggest regret in life?
  117. What do you think about when you’re by yourself?

For additional ideas, try searching online for “deep questions to ask your friends. ” There are various websites that offer examples of conversation starters with your girlfriend or boyfriend.

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Whether you’re having drinks with the guys or a dinner date with your girls, these questions are sure to make any friend hang out interesting. Deep conversations can be intense, but the good thing about them is that they can be incredibly rewarding. While you are discovering quite a lot of new things about the other person, you would discover that you can also discover many new things about yourself. This is because diving into deep questions can give us a better perspective. They help us to understand people and why they act the way they do.

These questions could lead to other interesting questions to fall in love with, and hopefully a deep, insightful, and bonding conversation for you and your friends. Through the course of these discussions, you can form deep connections that you would not get from light-hearted chats. This doesn’t mean the small talks are not needed either; it means that there should be time and place for these big talks. Deep questions help you genuinely understand one another deeply and reflectively; you will all discover or better understand each other’s personal interests, your thought patterns, your drive, and other fun facts that you previously may not have known. This way, you move your friendship beyond the shallow level. Your knowledge of one another becomes broadened.

20 Deep Questions to Ask Your Best Friend and Strengthen Your Bonds / My Life

Best friends are closer than anyone, but there is always something to learn. Here are the best deep questions to ask your best friend.

One of the best ways to continue to develop your connection and friendship with your best friend is with a list of the best deep questions to ask your best friend.

I don't know about you, but my best friend and I tell everything. We've known each other for over 10 years, but we still have a lot to learn. There is no end to the bond between best friends.

Why you should ask your best friend deep questions

This may seem obvious. Deep questions bring people together. Sharing personal feelings, experiences, and fear builds your trust and helps you understand each other better.

If you have a best friend to whom you never ask deep questions, this does not mean that the friendship is doomed to failure, but it can become a plateau and remain on the surface.

Through deep questions and answers to these questions, you can share much more with each other and create an unbreakable bond. Or strengthen the one you already have.

The best deep questions to ask your best friend

Deep questions can range from your five year plan to your biggest fear and beyond. And when your best friend is involved, there really is no limit.

Whether you're having a deep conversation or just casually asking some of these questions while you're frozen in yogurt, the answers and your questions are sure to bring you together.

#1 What does our friendship mean to you? This is a great place to start. You can dive deeper into what your relationship means and what you want it to mean. Do you have fun together, do you all share? Or are you practically family?

# 2 Are you afraid to die? While we probably think about it all the time, it's possible that you've never mentioned it to your best friend. Sharing your biggest fears may not make them dissipate, but it may make you feel better about taking it off your chest.

# 3 What do you think will happen when you die? The follow-up question to the last one is the one we're all considering. Is there heaven and hell? Are we just disappearing? Are we still connected to our bodies? Are we becoming ghosts? There's a lot to share here, and who better to discuss it with than your best friend?

# 4 Do you want to have children?? Another personal question that would be inappropriate to ask a lady on the street, but from your best friend, it tells you about the future and can open up a new side of your best friend. .

# 5 How is your relationship with your family? Again, you may see your best friend on a daily basis, but talking about the pros and cons of family dynamics is not easy, especially when things are going well. Discuss where things are. Are they tense? Is there anything you can do to help?

# 6 Did you really go through the last divorce?? We all tend to maintain a good front when we are hurt and fail. And even though we stop talking about it before we stop thinking about it, it can still be very painful. Make sure your friend knows that you are happy to give him the opportunity.

# 7 What is your biggest regret? Do you already know your friend's biggest regret? I don't. But it is something that can certainly open up another part of yourself. Think of your biggest regret, not talking to someone you love and trusting them by making it a little less heavy?

# 8 Who do you idealize the most?? Oprah? Michelle Obama? Chris Evans? Harriet Tubman? And why? The person you idealize says a lot about who you are and who you want to be.

# 9 What makes you angry? Trump? People don't recycle? Texting and driving? Your alarm clock? Your parents annoy you to marry and give grandchildren? Who knows, you probably share many of the same pet peeves.

# 10 If you could return anytime in your life, when would that be? I like this question, personally. Is your best friend going back to high school? Would they like to change things or just experience them again??

#11 Are you happy with where your life is right now?? This can indeed lead to worms, but it's important to recognize that if you're unhappy, you can do something about it. And if they're happy, celebrating it with the person you're closest to means a lot.

# 12 When was the last time you cried? And why? One of those deep questions to ask your best friend who can be quite sad is this one. Have they been crying recently because they had an argument with their partner? Did they cry when they saw the baby in the store?

# 13 Is there anything you could change about me? Do not ask this question if you are not ready to hear the answer or answer it yourself. But, if this person is really your best friend, they probably know a lot about you, even your flaws, and yet they chose you as their best friend. So the answer can't be too bad.

In fact, I know that my best friend would say that if she changed something about me, I would take a chance and become a better person so that I could experience things more fully. This is a damn good answer if you ask me.

# 14 Have you ever kept a secret from me? If so, why? I'm not trying to start a fight here, but you've probably already overcome any situation. Chances are they had a good reason for hiding something from you, or maybe they admitted they were wrong and would have done something different if they could.

Discussing what you may have hidden under the rug can strengthen your relationship.

# 15 If you knew that my partner cheated on me, would you tell me? And vice versa? This is something you should definitely discuss with your best friend. Personally, I always think honesty is the best policy, but it's important to know how your best friend understands the situation.

If something happens, would they want to hear from you or their partner? And will they feel comfortable telling you?

# 16 Do you believe in ghosts, psychics, etc.? I love this question. As someone who has been greatly intrigued by mediums and ghost sightings, this is always so much fun to talk about. And it's not just about scary stories, but also about your friend's beliefs.

Do they think their family members are looking after them? Do they think psychics are real? Or are they super skeptical about everything?

# 17 Are you afraid of getting old?? So many people are afraid of aging. Whether it's vanity, the aspect of health, or the fact that life is getting shorter. If you share this deep question with your best friend, you will travel into the future together.

# 18 Is there anything you fear you will never achieve? Afraid you'll never meet someone? Perhaps your friend is afraid of never traveling the world or being completely satisfied at work. Answering this question can cause these fears to become just fear and not reality..

# 19 Do you believe in God? Regardless of your religion or lack thereof, your belief system with your best friend can tell you what you may know about each other but never fully understood.

# 20 Is there anything you want to know about me? I would imagine that your best friend will ask you a lot of these questions, but they might want to know more. And by being an open book with your best friend, you should be able to answer whatever comes your way.

Using this list of deep questions to ask your best friend can only strengthen your friendship and strengthen your bond. So go ahead and ask, the answers will speak.

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No matter how old you know your friend or friend, you can always learn something new about your friend. Questions for friends are a good way to strengthen your friendship and test yourself on each other's knowledge.

Knowing what questions to ask your friends will help you stay close to everyone in your social circle. You will find that the answers to the questions you ask a married couple of friends reveal them to you in a new way. And questions for introspection will help your bosom friend or best friend look at themselves from the outside.

If you've been friends with someone for years and think you've heard all their stories, laughed at all their jokes, and understand their thoughts, there's still a lot more to come. Make sure of this by asking friends, for example, difficult psychological questions. And you will see how smart, talented, amazing people your friends are. This is the beauty of friendship - to see the best in friends.

Questions to ask friends

  • Interesting and funny. These are questions that you can ask your friends to cheer you up, have fun, or laugh. They can be asked to a Vkontakte pen-friend or a friend on Instagram. But if you want to get to know one of your friends even better, then you need a different list of questions.
  • Questions to get to know them better. The purpose of these questions is to look into the depths of the thoughts and behavior of their friends, who will be able to tell more about themselves.
  • The last list is personal questions to friends. These personal questions are not asked to those who have recently met, but they are asked to those whom you know well. With their help, you can find out what is in the heart of your friend / girlfriend. Find out his anxieties and experiences and how you can help them.

Funny and interesting questions for friends

  1. Is borrowing money from a friend good or bad? Why yes or no?
  2. There is a saying: "To have a good friend, you must be a good friend yourself." What to do to become a good friend?
  3. Can a teacher be friends with his student? (We recommend reading interesting questions to teachers to interview them).
  4. Is it possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex without sexual relations?
  5. What do you do if a friend calls you but you suddenly forgot his/her name?
  6. Would you be able to continue being friends with the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend you broke up with?
  7. Who is the most interesting person you have ever met?
  8. There is a saying, "to lose a friend, you need to start living with him in the same apartment." Do you agree? Why yes or no?
  9. Do you have a close group of friends? How do you usually like to relax? What do you like to do together?
  10. Do you think famous people are happier than ordinary people or not? Why?
  11. Total war between cats and dogs: who will win and why?
  12. Would you take part in a wife-carrying competition? (For more sports-related questions, read the sports questions and answers).
  13. If you were a kitchen appliance, what would you be and why?
  14. Do you hear voices too?
  15. What do you think is the biggest animal you can defeat with your bare hands?
  16. If you could never sleep or eat again, which would you choose? Why?
  17. What is the funniest fact you know?
  18. Pencil, which color is better: white, black or colored?
  19. What did you do for the first time last time?
  20. What breakfast cereal has had the most impact on your life?

Questions to get to know your friends better

  1. What was the most interesting or cool thing that your friends gave you?
  2. Did you have strange habits as a child?
  3. What does friendship mean to you?
  4. Can there be romantic feelings between friends of opposite sex?
  5. What is the most memorable event you had with your friends?
  6. Have you ever lied to your friends?
  7. What common interests unite your friendship?
  8. What separates friends from family?
  9. What is your favorite memory of your friends?
  10. Do you have any regrets in your relationships with your friends? What would you like to change if you could turn back time?
  11. Ever swore blood with friends?
  12. Why is friendship important to you? Do you still maintain friendships from the past?
  13. How to carry friendship through life?
  14. Is friendship the most important thing in life or not? Why yes or no?
  15. How often do you see your old friends?
  16. Have you made friends over the Internet? How often do you write to them? Have you ever met them in person?
  17. How are your friendships today different from childhood friendships?
  18. What do you do to keep your friendship strong?
  19. How do you make new friends?
  20. There is a proverb: "A friend is known in trouble. " Do you agree with this? What are you willing to do for a friend in need?
  21. What motivational quotes motivate you to do something? Can you quote them?
  22. Should parents be friends with their children? How to become them?
  23. What qualities do you value in friends? What makes someone special or best friend?
  24. What good can you say about the friends you have made in this country, city, area?
  25. What quality do you admire in people, and which one do you find most undesirable?

Personal questions for friends

  1. Ever been jealous of your best friend? Why?
  2. What do you fear most in friendship?
  3. What nicknames do you call your friends?
  4. What are you willing to do for your friends?
  5. If you were to switch roles with your boyfriend/girlfriend, would you develop romantic feelings for them?
  6. How do you usually like to spend your weekends and with whom? (Recommended to get some ideas of what to do for the weekend during the quarantine).
  7. In the pool, what liquid would you like to bathe with?
  8. Have you been friends with anyone since childhood? What good do you find in childhood friends?
  9. Where do you like to meet your friends most often?
  10. Are you friends with someone from a distance? How do you keep in touch with them?
  11. Do you make friends easily?
  12. How close are your relationships with your friends?
  13. Do you trust all your friends? Why?
  14. How important is forgiveness in human relationships?
  15. When is the best time to make new friends?
  16. What was your childhood best friend like? Are you still friends? What lessons have you learned from these relationships?
  17. What helps you get to know a person better? Can the right questions for friends help?
  18. What behavior of others hurts you the most? When you upset someone with your actions, what are you trying to do?
  19. Do you consider your qualities to be good or bad?
  20. How do you usually respond when friends ask about your business? (Read 155 options for how to answer the question “how are you?”.
  21. Do you think that a dysfunctional family life contributes to the deterioration of relations between friends?
  22. What is the difference between friendship and “kinship” (blood relatives)?
  23. you have different groups of friends who never meet each other?Do you think that if these groups are introduced to each other, they will be friends?Will you win or lose from such friendship?
  24. Do you compete with your friends in any way?
  25. What do you prefer to drink with friends: coffee, tea or stronger drinks?

Questions for a friend

  1. Did your friend set you up?
  2. What qualities should people have for true friendship? (We recommend reading 94 quotes about friends that motivate you to appreciate friendship even more).
  3. What do you value in friendship?
  4. How do you like to spend time with friends?
  5. Do you like your friend's girlfriend? What will you do if you do not approve of his choice?
  6. What movie or concert would you go to see with your friends?
  7. Ever hurt your friends? How strong? What will you do if you offend your friends?
  8. Do you consider yourself a friend for life or for a while?
  9. After hard work, would you agree to hang out with friends often? (Read funny statuses and quotes about work that will cheer you up).
  10. Quarreling with friends? Because of which?
  11. What is the best proof of your friendship?
  12. How many people do you consider your best friends?
  13. What qualities of your friends do you admire and what do you dislike in them?
  14. Is there friendship between generations? What are the advantages or disadvantages of such a friendship?
  15. Do you have friends much older or younger than your age?
  16. What do you usually do with your friends?
  17. Why do you love your best friend?
  18. What do you like about your best friend?
  19. Why do you need a friend?
  20. How has your best friend been a positive influence in your life?
  21. If your friend is offended by something in your behavior, should he talk about it or is it better for him to remain silent?
  22. How long have you known your best friend? Where did you meet and what do you have in common?
  23. Do you tell your best friend everything?
  24. Is it easy for you to make friends?
  25. Are you good friends with your family members or not? Why?

Read more interesting questions for guys to ask.

Questions for a friend

  1. What do you do if you find out that your friend's boyfriend is cheating on her?
  2. What do you and your best friends have in common?
  3. Fantasized about a relationship with your friend?
  4. What is your favorite pizza? (We recommend reading interesting facts about pizza from around the world).
  5. Is friendship between a man and a woman possible or not?
  6. Has a friend ever let you down?
  7. What can lead to the collapse of a strong friendship?
  8. With whom are you most and longest friends?
  9. Who can be called a real friend?
  10. What should real friends never do?
  11. Do you think true friendship exists or not?
  12. What do you like most about your best friends?
  13. Do you consider yourself a romantic person? How do you imagine a romantic life with your loved one?
  14. What do you do or are ready to do if a serious misunderstanding has happened or will happen between you and your girlfriend?
  15. What is the relationship between love and friendship?
  16. What kind of people do you get along with easily?
  17. What are friends for?
  18. What qualities help you to have good relationships with others?
  19. What will you do if your friend (boyfriend), with whom you have been friends for a long time, invites you on a romantic date?
  20. Do you think it is possible to find true friendship through the Internet?
  21. What's the weirdest thing you've done in someone else's house?
  22. How can you sometimes relax with your friends, but not every day?
  23. What do you like to do when you don't feel like doing anything at all?
  24. What day would you like to relive over and over again? Why?
  25. What can you talk about with your friends for hours?

We recommend reading more interesting questions to ask a girl.

Closing Thoughts on Questions for Friends

The time we spend with friends should be enriched with conversation and entertainment in a question and answer format. This helps not only to have fun, but also allows each person to tell a little more about themselves than others know.

An evening spent with questions and answers can strengthen our relationships with friends for years to come. People love to talk about themselves. Research shows that talking about yourself activates the same parts of the brain that food, drugs, and sex do!

It has been scientifically proven that self-disclosure (and encouraging other people to open up) makes you a more attractive person and helps you form deeper social bonds.

Therefore, never forget that talking about these topics is very important in relationships with friends. After all, the right questions for friends will lead to new, funny, surprising, deep and very personal conversations with your girlfriend or friend.

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