Questions to ask someone about themself
100 Getting to Know You Questions
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Working with a group of new people and need some conversation starters? Break the ice and get to know people better by selecting several of these get-to-know-you questions.
- Who is your hero?
- If you could live anywhere, where would it be?
- What is your biggest fear?
- What is your favorite family vacation?
- What would you change about yourself if you could?
- What really makes you angry?
- What motivates you to work hard?
- What is your favorite thing about your career?
- What is your biggest complaint about your job?
- What is your proudest accomplishment?
- What is your child's proudest accomplishment?
- What is your favorite book to read?
- What makes you laugh the most?
- What was the last movie you went to? What did you think?
- What did you want to be when you were small?
- What does your child want to be when he/she grows up?
- If you could choose to do anything for a day, what would it be?
- What is your favorite game or sport to watch and play?
- Would you rather ride a bike, ride a horse, or drive a car?
- What would you sing at Karaoke night?
- What two radio stations do you listen to in the car the most?
- Which would you rather do: wash dishes, mow the lawn, clean the bathroom, or vacuum the house?
- If you could hire someone to help you, would it be with cleaning, cooking, or yard work?
- If you could only eat one meal for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Who is your favorite author?
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26. Have you ever had a nickname? What is it?
27. Do you like or dislike surprises? Why or why not?
28. In the evening, would you rather play a game, visit a relative, watch a movie, or read?
29. Would you rather vacation in Hawaii or Alaska, and why?
30. Would you rather win the lottery or work at the perfect job? And why?
31. Who would you want to be stranded with on a deserted island?
32. If money was no object, what would you do all day?
33. If you could go back in time, what year would you travel to?
34. How would your friends describe you?
35. What are your hobbies?
36. What is the best gift you have been given?
37. What is the worst gift you have received?
38. Aside from necessities, what one thing could you not go a day without?
39. List two pet peeves.
40. Where do you see yourself in five years?
41. How many pairs of shoes do you own?
42. If you were a super-hero, what powers would you have?
43.
What would you do if you won the lottery?
44. What form of public transportation do you prefer? (air, boat, train, bus, car, etc.)
45. What's your favorite zoo animal?
46. If you could go back in time to change one thing, what would it be?
47. If you could share a meal with any 4 individuals, living or dead, who would they be?
48. How many pillows do you sleep with?
49. What's the longest you've gone without sleep (and why)?
50. What's the tallest building you've been to the top in?
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51. Would you rather trade intelligence for looks or looks for intelligence?
52. How often do you buy clothes?
53. Have you ever had a secret admirer?
54. What's your favorite holiday?
55. What's the most daring thing you've ever done?
56. What was the last thing you recorded on TV?
57. What was the last book you read?
58.
What's your favorite type of foreign food?
59. Are you a clean or messy person?
60. Who would you want to play you in a movie of your life?
61. How long does it take you to get ready in the morning?
62. What kitchen appliance do you use every day?
63. What's your favorite fast food chain?
64. What's your favorite family recipe?
65. Do you love or hate rollercoasters?
66. What's your favorite family tradition?
67. What is your favorite childhood memory?
68. What's your favorite movie?
69. How old were you when you learned Santa wasn't real? How did you find out?
70. Is your glass half full or half empty?
71. What's the craziest thing you’ve done in the name of love?
72. What three items would you take with you on a deserted island?
73. What was your favorite subject in school?
74. What's the most unusual thing you've ever eaten?
75. Do you collect anything?
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76. Is there anything you wished would come back into fashion?
77. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
78. Which of the five senses would you say is your strongest?
79. Have you ever had a surprise party? (that was an actual surprise)
80. Are you related or distantly related to anyone famous?
81. What do you do to keep fit?
82. Does your family have a “motto” – spoken or unspoken?
83. If you were ruler of your own country what would be the first law you would introduce?
84. Who was your favorite teacher in school and why?
85. What three things do you think of the most each day?
86. If you had a warning label, what would yours say?
87. What song would you say best sums you up?
88. What celebrity would you like to meet at Starbucks for a cup of coffee?
89. Who was your first crush?
90. What's the most interesting thing you can see out of your office or kitchen window?
91.
On a scale of 1-10 how funny would you say you are?
92. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
93. What was your first job?
94. If you could join any past or current music group which would you want to join?
95. How many languages do you speak?
96. What is your favorite family holiday tradition?
97. Who is the most intelligent person you know?
98. If you had to describe yourself as an animal, which one would it be?
99. What is one thing you will never do again?
100. Who knows you the best?
If you really want to get to know someone, questions (not all at once, of course!) are like keys that can open many doors. Get to know someone better today!
Janis Meredith writes Jbmthinks, a blog on sports parenting and youth sports. After being a coach's wife for 29 years and a sports parent for 21, she sees issues from both sides of the bench.
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Table of Contents
- Questions to Ask People You Just Met
- Questions to Ask People to Get to Know Them
- Random Questions to Ask People
- Deep Questions to Ask People
- Weird Questions to Ask People
- Funny Questions to Ask People
- Questions to Ask a Group of People
- Yes or No Questions to Ask People
- Key Takeaways: Ask More Questions to Fuel Interesting Conversation
Research shows that asking questions increases likability.
Why? Because talking about oneself activates the same regions of the brain as food, drugs, and sex!
Dale Carnegie said, “to be interesting, be interested.” When you express interest in other people, they can experience the dopamine rush of talking about themselves while simultaneously bonding with you through self-disclosure.
If you want to be more likable, form deeper social bonds, and have better conversations, here are 450 fun questions to ask to get to know somebody.
Questions to Ask People You Just Met
One of the keys to making an excellent first impression is catching someone’s attention with something new. Instead of the boring “what do you do?” and “where are you from?”, try one of these more versatile conversation starters.
- What is your current passion project?
- Do you have any hobbies?
- How do you like to spend your free time?
- What kind of music are you into?
- Do you have any pets?
- What’s your claim to fame?
- Who is one of your favorite celebrity role models?
- What is your dream job?
- How did you find out about [current place/event]?
- If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you go?
- What skill would you like to master?
- What do you like to learn about?
- What has been the highlight of this past week?
- What has been the highlight of your year?
- Have you read any intriguing books lately?
- What’s your current favorite TV show/movie?
- Do you have any nicknames?
- What is your favorite place you’ve traveled to?
- Where did you grow up?
- How long have you lived in [city]?
- What is your favorite food?
- What is your favorite sport?
- Where is your favorite restaurant around here?
- How do you take your coffee or tea?
- If you could be any type of dog, what breed would you be and why?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to learn?
- What is your biggest regret?
- If you could trade places with anyone for a week, who would it be?
- What fictional character do you most relate to?
- What do you daydream about?
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Questions to Ask People to Get to Know Them
When you want to learn more about acquaintances or work colleagues, try a few of these questions to know more about their interests and values.
- What is your proudest accomplishment?
- What is your astrological sign?
- What motivates you to work hard?
- If money were no object, how would you spend your time?
- Who is your favorite author?
- What is your biggest pet peeve?
- Where do you see yourself in five years?
- Do you collect anything?
- Do you see the glass as half-full or half-empty?
- What is your favorite movie of all time?
- What was your favorite subject in school?
- What is one thing you will never do again?
- Did you play any sports growing up?
- What is the weirdest hobby you’ve tried?
- What is your favorite ice cream flavor?
- What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t tried yet?
- Do you enjoy your alone time?
- Would you consider yourself an introvert or an extrovert?
- What qualities do you look for in a friend?
- What’s your favorite way to spend time with your family?
- What is the most relaxing part of your day?
- Do you have any siblings?
- Are you the youngest, middle, or oldest child?
- What was your favorite age of childhood?
- What is the best concert you’ve ever been to?
- What is your favorite way to unwind?
- What causes are you passionate about?
- What are you most excited about right now?
- Have you ever had a surprise party?
- Which of your five senses would you say is the strongest?
- If you had a warning label, what would yours say?
- Are you related to anyone famous?
- Does your family have a “motto”?
- What is your mantra?
- Do you believe in the power of manifestation?
- What is one thing you tried that you’ll never do again?
- What was your first job?
- What is the most exciting thing you can see out your kitchen window?
- What would your dream house look like?
- What is the most spontaneous thing you’ve ever done?
- What is the most helpful thing you own?
- If your younger self could meet you as an adult, what would they be most impressed by?
- What is at the top of your bucket list?
- If you had one month to live, what would you do?
- Are you a cat or a dog person?
- What do you think is the most essential professional skill?
- What do you think is the most essential life skill?
- What job would you be terrible at?
- What was the worst job you ever had?
- Are you an early bird or a night owl?
- Do you like to read or listen to audiobooks?
- What do you look forward to every day?
- Do you have any daily or weekly rituals?
- Do you think self-care is important?
- If you could look into a crystal ball to see the future, would you want to do it?
- Where do you see yourself living when you retire?
- What’s the most beautiful place you’ve ever seen in person?
- Do you prefer a beach or mountain vacation?
- What is your favorite thing about your career?
- What is your favorite season?
- Where is your favorite coffee shop?
- What is one brand that you identify with?
- If you could start a charity, what would it be?
- What is the best part of your day?
- Do you like cities or rural areas better?
- If you could re-live any decade of your life, which one would you re-do?
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Random Questions to Ask People
People naturally remember things that are out of the ordinary. Novelty triggers the brain to release dopamine. Use this to your advantage by asking random or unexpected questions to spark unusual conversation.
- If you could be any animal, what would you be and why?
- Do you eat or drink soup?
- How many pairs of shoes do you own?
- What is the best gift you have ever received?
- If you were a superhero, what powers would you want to have?
- What is your favorite animal?
- What’s your favorite family recipe?
- Do you like rollercoasters?
- Who would play you in a movie about your life?
- What song reminds you of high school?
- What is the weirdest thing you’ve ever eaten?
- If you could meet up with any celebrity for coffee, who would you choose?
- If you were the ruler of your own country, what would be the first law you’d put into place?
- Have you ever eaten a bug?
- How would you survive a zombie apocalypse?
- What’s your favorite ice cream topping?
- What is your favorite holiday?
- If you could be any tree, what kind would you be and why?
- Do you have a favorite type of exercise?
- Would you instead cook at home or order in?
- Which phone app do you use the most?
- Have you ever disliked something and then changed your mind?
- What is your most prized possession?
- Have you ever had a celebrity crush?
- Are you an organ donor on your driver’s license?
- Do you believe in ghosts? Why or why not?
- Are you good at solving puzzles?
- Do you think you can be friends with your colleagues?
- Do you sing in the shower?
- How many hours early do you show up at the airport before a flight?
- If you had a yacht, what would you name it?
- Can you say your ABCs backwards?
- Are you double jointed?
- Do you step on the cracks in the sidewalk or step over them?
- Do you ever dance like nobody is watching?
- What is the first thing you do in the morning?
- What is the last thing you do at night?
- What is the most unusual place you’ve ever slept in?
- What would be the title of your memoir?
- If you had unlimited money to start a business, what would it be?
- If you had the opportunity to be immortal, would you take it?
- Which famous historical person would you want to spend the day with?
- What is your favorite article of clothing?
- Do you think good people can do bad things?
- Do you think bad people can do good things?
- What is the first step you take to achieve a goal?
- Have you ever been in a food fight?
- Do you like cheese or butter more?
- What rules do you mean to break?
- How many times a day do you brush your hair?
- Have you ever ridden a horse? Did you like it?
- How would you react if an alligator arrived at your door?
- What do you do when nobody is watching?
- Do you count your missed calls?
- How often do you say “thank you” or “I’m sorry” in a day?
- Are you good at remembering things on the spot?
- What is your quirkiest hidden quality?
- Which outfit in your closet have you worn more than any other?
- When was the last time you screamed at somebody?
- What’s your favorite road trip you’ve ever taken?
- Do you own a pair of cowboy boots?
- If you could have eyes in the back of your head, would you?
- Have you ever forgotten your wallet while paying for something?
- If you only had 5 minutes in a grocery store, what would you buy?
- If you got stranded on a desert island with only 3 items, what would they be?
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Deep Questions to Ask People
Self-disclosure is a vital part of forming close social bonds.
However, it requires building trust through time and conversation. Dive into more profound questions once you feel more comfortable around somebody.
- Who knows you best?
- Where do you see yourself in 10 years?
- What makes you feel unstoppable?
- What is your biggest fear?
- Who is the smartest person you know?
- What is your favorite family holiday tradition?
- What is the essential quality in a romantic relationship?
- How long was your longest committed relationship?
- If you could go back and change one thing about your past, what would it be?
- Which is more important – beauty, power, or money?
- What’s your biggest fear?
- What makes you feel unstoppable?
- What is your biggest regret?
- Do you think people are mostly good or mostly evil? Why?
- Where do you go when you need fresh inspiration?
- What’s your philosophy on life?
- Do you like diving into the deep end or easing your way into the water? (literally or figuratively)?
- What life-changing events have you experienced?
- What’s one thing you would change about yourself?
- Have you ever had a moment of deja vu?
- What legacy do you want to leave on Earth once you’re gone?
- What gives you hope?
- Have you ever had your heart broken?
- Have you ever broken someone’s heart?
- What was your most embarrassing moment?
- If you could time travel, would you go to the past or the future?
- What words of wisdom would you pass down to your younger self?
- What’s your go-to guilty pleasure?
- How do you show kindness to others?
- Have you heard of “love languages”? What is your main one?
- What is your definition of success?
- What is a relationship dealbreaker for you?
- How would you title this chapter of your life?
- If you only had one month left to live, how would you spend it?
- What is the best advice someone has ever given you?
- What makes you feel alive?
- Do you typically follow your heart or your head?
- What are you most grateful for in your life?
- Do you have a best friend?
- How do you overcome personal setbacks?
- Is it easy for you to accept help when you need it?
- Do you think dreams have hidden meanings? Why or why not?
- Do you believe in reincarnation?
- How do you define beauty?
- Do you think brains or looks are more attractive?
- What do you think happens after death?
- What is your most irrational fear?
- Do you believe in second chances?
- If you could snap your fingers and make the world a better place, what would you do?
- What you rather someone be honest and hurt your feelings or lie to protect them?
- How can someone lose your trust?
- What personality traits are you most proud of?
Pro Tip: Science proves that an equal amount of give-and-take makes people feel comfortable disclosing deeper details about their lives.
If you want to keep deep conversations flowing seamlessly, remember to use the power of body language to demonstrate your openness to listen.
Research shows that questions accompanied by gestures result in faster responses. You can signal to the other person that you have finished talking and are interested in what they say. Try using an open or extended palm (as if pointing) or nodding while listening to maintain an equal exchange.
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Weird Questions to Ask People
Let’s face it: weirdness can be fun and exciting if you want to show your quirky side and surprise people with some unusual questions.
- If you could play one song every time you walked into a room, what would it be?
- Why is sandwich meat round when bread is square?
- Who is the fifth person on your missed calls?
- If animals could talk, which species would be the nicest?
- What’s your most hated form of transportation?
- Have you ever dreamed of going to another planet?
- Which superpower would you never want to have?
- What do you think about when you’re on the toilet?
- How do birds pee?
- Do you think someone could live forever?
- How many pairs of pants do you own?
- What is the highest number you’ve ever counted?
- Do you ever lower the music volume when you’re looking for an address?
- What question do people ask you that you dislike?
- If a bald person works in a restaurant, do you think they still need to wear a hairnet?
- What is your favorite sleeping position?
- What have you forgotten today?
- Do you think you would be friends with a clone of yourself?
- When did time begin?
- Did you ever eat Play-Doh as a kid?
- What is the weirdest text message you’ve ever gotten?
- If you had a date with someone in this room right now, who would be the most uncomfortable person to go with?
- Do you think you’re a good kisser?
- What’s your favorite body part?
- Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
- If you could wake up tomorrow with one physical change, what would it be?
- When was the last time you sang to yourself?
- Is a hotdog a sandwich?
- What part of a kid’s movie completely scarred you for life?
- What kind of secret society would you start?
- What is the weirdest smell you’ve ever smelled?
- What is invisible but you wish people could see?
- Which body part do you wish you could detach and why?
- What is the weirdest thing a guest has done at your house?
- What would it take to gross you out on a date completely?
- If life were a video game, what would be your favorite cheat code?
- What’s the worst name for an amusement park?
- If police arrested you with no explanation, what would your friends and family assume you had done?
- If you were a mad scientist, what experiment would you run?
- If you could own any mythical creature (unicorn, phoenix, etc.
), which one would you want? - What you rather have, a dirty house or a dirty car?
- How many times do you think you lie in a day?
- Have you ever tried to eat an ant or a worm?
- Who is your partner in crime?
- Would you talk to a random person in a movie theater?
- Which is creepier – walking up on someone unexpectedly behind or staring at them through binoculars?
- Do you check yourself out in the windows when you pass?
- How many times do you change clothes in a day?
- What music video can you watch over and over again without getting bored?
- What’s the weirdest thing you secretly do daily?
- What’s worse – no hair or no teeth?
- What’s the most disgusting food you’ve ever eaten?
- If someone looked through your internet search history, what would be the weirdest inquiry they’d find?
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Funny Questions to Ask People
Laughter is scientifically proven to bring people together.
If you’re looking for some less serious conversation, these questions can reveal someone’s silly side.
- What’s your favorite corny joke?
- Have you ever waved at someone thinking you know them, only to realize they are the wrong person?
- What’s the best Wi-Fi network name you’ve seen?
- What is a song you pretend you don’t like because it’s embarrassing that you love it?
- What is something that everyone looks stupid doing?
- What’s your dumbest dance move?
- Have you ever tried to look cool in front of someone and failed?
- What’s the strangest thing you’ve seen someone do in public?
- When was the last time you had a big fail moment?
- If you could live anywhere in the world but had to stay naked all the time, where would you choose?
- What voice accent impersonations can you do (British, Australian, country, etc.)?
- Have you ever tripped or fallen in front of a vast crowd?
- If you could have one useless superpower, what would it be?
- Which sport would be funniest if it had mandatory alcohol?
- What’s the silliest way you’ve accidentally injured yourself?
- What’s the most awkward first date you’ve ever been on?
- What’s your favorite white elephant gift?
- What is something trendy now that people will be embarrassed about in 5 years?
- Where is the worst smelling place you’ve ever been?
- What is the most useless talent you have?
- If you got banned from the library, what would be the reason behind it?
- Do you think penguins have knees?
- Why is it called lipstick if it doesn’t stick your lips together?
- What would be the worst bio for a dating app?
- Why is it called “taking a dump”? Shouldn’t it be called “leaving a dump?”
- What is the most embarrassing thing you’ve ever said on a date?
- How do you want to die?
- If you could be any comedian or celebrity, who would you be?
- What’s the craziest thing you’ve ever done on a night out?
- What is the goofiest or weirdest thing you did as a kid?
- What is the strangest purchase you’ve ever made?
- What would people call the sitcom of our friendship?
- What is your most obnoxious laugh?
- What is the funniest nickname that somebody has given you?
- What’s a rule that you make everyone follow in your house?
- Is it weird for an adult to sleep with a stuffed animal?
- What was the last thing you searched on Google?
- If you could do karaoke with any famous person for a day, who would it be?
- What do you do when you pull up next to someone at a stoplight and see them jamming out to music?
- Do you pick your nose?
- What is the most ridiculous outfit you’ve ever worn?
- What is the funniest Halloween costume you’ve ever seen?
- If you had to change your name, what would you change it to?
- What would you do with 15 minutes of fame?
- What conspiracy theory do you think might be true?
- If you could charge a million dollars for a service, what would it be?
- What’s the most ridiculous lie someone has ever told you to your face?
- If you could make a TV show about your best friend’s life, what would you call it?
- Can you describe the craziest person you’ve ever met?
- Have you ever eaten food on the ground?
- What is your favorite slang?
- If you had to wear a swimsuit or a business suit for the rest of your life, which one would you choose?
- If you had to choose between your eyebrows or eyelashes, which would you keep?
- What is worse during a kiss? Sneezing or burping?
- Have you ever farted in a yoga class?
- What’s the easiest way to make you laugh?
- Are you ticklish?
- If you publicly trip and fall, do you laugh it off or just keep walking?
- Can you touch your nose with your tongue?
- Which fairy tales do you find the most outrageous?
- How would you describe your face if you could only use vegetables for reference?
- What one normal thing becomes weird if you do it more than once?
- What is the most awkward question someone has ever asked you?
- How many animal sounds can you make?
- What is the most annoying song you’ve ever heard?
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Questions to Ask a Group of People
Conversational group dynamics are unique from one-on-one conversations because they require more open questions that give multiple people the opportunity to answer.
When asking group questions, don’t forget to make eye contact with everyone you are addressing to demonstrate that they are welcome in the conversation.
- How did you all meet?
- What does each of you do for a living?
- What is your favorite thing on the menu?
- Where does each of you come from?
- Who is the friendliest of this group?
- Who is the most likely to protect everyone in a zombie apocalypse?
- If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, what would it be?
- Where is your happy place?
- What’s your favorite thing to do to celebrate your birthday?
- What’s your favorite board game?
- What is your favorite thing about your hometown?
- What’s your idea of a perfect day?
- What is your favorite topic to ask people about?
- Why is pineapple on pizza so controversial?
- What would people call your superhero group?
- What is your favorite childhood memory?
- What is your favorite sports team?
- Do you like social media? Why or why not?
- What is the cringiest video you’ve seen lately?
- At a party, where are you most likely to be found?
- What is the best concert you’ve ever been to?
- Who are some of your favorite actors or actresses?
- Who do you know that is most likely to be famous?
- If you could go back to any time in history, what period would you choose?
- If you could live inside a movie or book, which would you choose?
- Do you hit the snooze button or wake up immediately?
- What is one of your secret talents?
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Yes or No Questions to Ask People
While open-ended questions are often the “bread-and-butter” of exciting conversations, yes/no questions can facilitate quicker sharing of opinions or stories with less pressure.
If one question flops, simply move on to the next!
- Do you believe in astrology?
- Before making a phone call, do you rehearse what you’re going to say?
- Do you check your horoscope?
- Do you believe in aliens?
- Do you have any phobias?
- Do you like designer brand clothes?
- Is Starbucks worth the money?
- Do you like Thai food?
- Do you believe you should do one thing every day that scares you?
- Do you have any secret talents?
- Have you ever broken the law?
- Have you ever broken a bone?
- Do you have your wisdom teeth?
- Do you believe in conspiracy theories?
- Have you ever had a lucid dream?
- Have you ever sung in front of a crowd?
- Are you afraid of heights?
- Have you ever fainted?
- Have you ever held a snake?
- Do you have any irrational fears?
- Are you claustrophobic?
- Have you ever had a near-death experience?
- Have you ever thrown up in public?
- Are you afraid of the dark?
- Do you like horror movies?
- Have you ever gotten lost in the wilderness?
- Have you ever had sleep paralysis?
- Do you use social media?
- Do you follow trends?
- Do you ever binge-watch Netflix?
- Have you ever met a celebrity?
- Do you regularly watch sports?
- Are you “extra”?
- Have you ever been a vegan or vegetarian?
- Do you respond to texts quickly?
- Do you have a YouTube channel?
- Are you into nice cars?
- Have you ever been on TV?
- Have you ever skippers school?
- Have you ever cheated on a test?
- Do you procrastinate?
- Can you be peer pressured?
- Have you ever been fired from a job?
- Can you write in cursive?
- Were you a rebellious kid?
- Were your parents strict?
- Did you ever sneak out of your house when growing up?
- Have you ever been in a fight?
- Do you think picking up lines works?
- Have you ever kept a journal?
- Do you have a best friend?
- Do you pay attention to the news?
- Have you ever gotten a speeding ticket?
- Do you live alone?
- Is it possible to stay friends with an ex?
- Are you into podcasts?
- Do you like going to the movies?
- Do you use your phone first thing in the morning?
- Do you regularly watch TV?
- Do you ever talk to yourself in your head?
- Do you sing in the shower?
- Have you ever had deja vu?
- Do you like chocolate?
- Do you own bitcoin?
- Do you like talking to strangers?
- Would you like to be famous?
- Do you like pina coladas?
- Do you faint easily?
- Have you ever held a monkey?
- Are you afraid of snakes?
- Do you call all dogs “puppies”?
- Have you ever worn underwear two days in a row?
- Do you ever talk to yourself?
- Do you talk to animals?
- Have you ever seen a UFO?
- Do you like chocolate milkshakes?
- Do you believe in Bigfoot?
- Do you know how to swim?
- Are you a good singer?
- Do you consider yourself a good dancer?
- Can you speak any other languages?
- Did you believe in Santa as a kid?
- Do you think PDA is annoying?
- Do you have any trophies or awards you’ve won?
- Can you play chess?
- Have you traveled internationally?
- If you could become a robot partly, would you try it out?
- Do you like to wear hats?
- Do you believe in love at first sight?
- Have you ever cut your hair?
- Were you a “cool kid” in high school?
- Do you know your personality type?
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30 questions to yourself - Lifehacker
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In order to get the right answers, you first need to be able to ask the right questions. Only the right question guides us and makes us look for the right answer, which can become exactly the key that will open the cherished doors.
Stephen Aitchison assumes he knows the secret ingredients of a good question. He created a list of 30 questions that, in his opinion, every person should ask themselves.
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I shortened the list of questions a bit. Initially, it consisted of 34 items. So if you are interested in the full version, check out the author's blog. I don't know why exactly 34, but Stephen leaves room for the creativity of his readers and suggests adding to the list he has compiled.
5 components of the right question
- He must strive for the result.
- It should be simple and clear.
- It should open up new possibilities.
- It should make you think.
- He must give impetus to action.
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1. What can I do today to achieve my goals?
2. What time of the day is the most productive?
3. What can I do today to pamper myself?
4. What are 5 things I can be grateful for in my life?
5. What can I do today to change someone's life? nine0003
6. What is my best personality trait?
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What do I really want to do with my life?
8. Do I really want these people (to list) in my life?
9. What can I do to save a small amount every day?
10. How much TV do I watch during the day?
11. Do I really need all these things? nine0003
12. When was the last time I read a good book?
13. When was the last time I said "No"?
14. Does it really matter what other people think of me?
15. What do I want to achieve this year?
16. What is the next “great goal” I want to achieve?
17. What can I do to feel happy?
18. When was the last time I violated my comfort zone?
19. What are my values in life?
20. What steps do I need to take today to make progress towards my goals?
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What would my ideal day look like, from the moment I wake up to the moment I go to bed?
22. What good habits would I like to develop?
23. How can I get rid of bad habits?
24. Who inspires me the most?
25. What qualities do people I admire have?
26. Are my dreams just dreams, or can I make them real?
27. What would happen if I let ______ go?
28. What do I really like about my job?
29. What would I do differently if I had the opportunity to live this moment again? nine0003
30. What will I do after I read these questions?
The questions are really simple and clear. And if you answer them really truthfully, you will be able to see the picture of your life from the outside. The procedure may not be very pleasant, as well as the picture that opens up to your eyes.
But it is precisely in order to change everything for the better that we ask ourselves the main questions.
What would you add to this list? What question and answer became a turning point in your life? nine0003
20 questions everyone should ask themselves at the end of the year
Irina Balmanji
These questions are a great way to clear your mind. They will help you better understand yourself, understand what is going wrong in your life, and find your way to a happy and meaningful existence in the new year and beyond.
1. What are my values in life?
Think about what is most important to you in life. For example, kindness, sincerity, peace of mind and responsiveness. Or, let's say, creativity, diligence and independence. Your values show what kind of person you want to be. It is on them that you should be guided in everything that you do. nine0003
This is a reliable compass that will help you stay on track. Check with him more often!
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What am I striving for? To answer this question, focus not on specific small goals (move to another city, advance your career, learn to draw), but what you generally want to experience and do in your life (inspire others, express yourself through creativity , get the most vivid impressions, explore the world deeper). nine0003
3. Under what conditions do I feel most productive and happy?
Someone is charged with energy from communication with others, and someone needs to be alone with their thoughts for a long time. Some people like to spend time at home, while others cannot live without business trips and travel. Some feel comfortable when there are clear instructions and control from above, while for others, creativity and the ability to make decisions on their own are important.
What is your ideal environment? In what atmosphere (at home and at work) do you feel cheerful, happy and able to move mountains, and in which, on the contrary, do you feel weak and irritated? Try not only to answer these questions, but also think about what and how you could change to improve the situation.
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4. What do I enjoy doing?
What are you willing to do at least every day? What activities fill you with joy and energy?
Perhaps you, like many other people, consider your hobbies to be something not very important, so you devote time to them on a leftover basis. But your life will become much more pleasant, meaningful and interesting if you start doing what you like every day.
Constantly improve in your favorite business - and you will achieve brilliant results. It is possible that one day you will even be able to make money on your hobby. nine0003
5. Am I going there?
Think about where you will be in five, ten, twenty years if you keep going in the same direction as now. What will you do? What success will you achieve? Will your dreams come true?
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Do you like these prospects? Inspire? If not, then it's time to reconsider the route.
6. Does the fear of uncertainty stop me?
Many hold on to a job they don't love, an unsatisfactory lifestyle, or an unhappy marriage because they fear dim prospects, uncertainty, and financial instability.
We are afraid to take risks, even if everything finally got to us. But familiar, familiar and understandable is not always the best choice. nine0003
Uncertainty is not so terrible at all. Try to see it not as a risk and danger, but as an exciting opportunity. Deciding to change is like embarking on an exciting journey along an unfamiliar route, where many interesting discoveries await you.
7. Am I doing something to achieve my goals?
We can dream about something for years. Hope that one day everything will change and a completely different life will begin. But this will not happen if you sit back. “What exactly am I doing to get what I want?” is a great question to ask yourself from time to time. nine0003
8. How do I respond to failures?
Failure can make you weak, or it can make you stronger. And it only depends on how you treat them.
For some, every defeat is a stigma. "I'm probably just not smart enough", "I lack talent", "I have a terrible temper.
" Those who think in this way can be thrown off balance by any minor problem.
Others perceive mistakes and failures as an integral part of life experience. They ask themselves: “What lessons can I learn from this situation?”, “What can be done differently next time?”, “How can I use the information received as a basis for development?” nine0003
It is easy to guess which of these people is more successful in life. If you are inclined towards the first type of thinking, reconsider your attitudes.
9. What would I like to improve in myself?
Do you think you were born with unchanging character traits and abilities? Psychology professor Carol Dweck is convinced that this is not the case. According to her, almost any qualities and talents can be developed.
First you need to determine what exactly you want to improve in yourself (maybe you lack professional skills or, for example, the ability to control your anger), and then work long and hard on it. nine0003
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How much time am I wasting? Of course, we need rest and entertainment. You can afford to scroll through the feed on the social network, watch a series or go to a party with friends. But in everything you need to know the measure.
If you spend too much time on trifles and constantly put off important things until later (for example, spend all your evenings and weekends in front of the TV instead of learning English), this can prevent you from living and developing fully. nine0003
11. Who do I communicate with?
The people we associate with push us to do both useful things, such as self-improvement or regular exercise, and harmful things. If most of your friends constantly complain about their lives and do nothing to change it, then you will consider this the norm. If you are surrounded by only gossips, then you will begin to slander.
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Think about who surrounds you. Are these people helping you get better and achieve your goals, or are they holding you back? Remember: you have the right to choose who you communicate with.
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12. Who inspires me?
This question will help you better understand what you want to achieve in life.
- Think of three people you know that you admire. It can be your colleagues, classmates, friends, family members, teachers, neighbors. What are they doing? Why do you consider them special?
- Now think of three famous people you admire. For example, about political leaders, athletes or artists. For what merits do you consider them great? nine0014
13. What am I grateful for in life?
We would be much happier if we learned to notice the good things we already have. Make a list of things that make you feel grateful. Reread it every time the day is not going well or you are overwhelmed by negative thoughts.
14. In what mood do I usually wake up in the morning?
If you feel depressed, irritable or anxious almost every morning, something is going wrong. Analyze different areas of your life (work, family, leisure, health, personal growth, finances, and so on).
Which of them cause a feeling of dissatisfaction? What specifically can you do to change the situation for the better? nine0003
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15. How do I influence other people?
Do you inspire, stimulate, give joy? Or, on the contrary, do you evoke negative emotions in people? Be honest with yourself.
Often we push away friends, relatives, acquaintances with our behavior without even realizing it. But you can analyze the reactions of others and draw conclusions.
Think about it. By learning to understand how others perceive you, you will be able to build stronger and healthier relationships with people. nine0003
16. How long ago did I learn something new?
Sometimes we plunge headlong into the monotony of gray everyday life and forget how much there is interesting and unknown around us. Don't make this mistake.
Follow events, attend various seminars, lectures, master classes and conferences. Try to constantly discover new areas of knowledge for yourself (maybe some online course will hook you - take it).
At least once a week, look at what is happening in your professional topic. nine0003
Never stop learning. By acquiring new knowledge and skills, you train your brain, broaden your horizons, get more opportunities to change something in your life, and simply make your everyday life brighter.
17. When was the last time I read a book?
Books develop imagination, teach, inspire, allow you to escape from problems, help us improve. Read more! This is the best gift you can give yourself.
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18. Am I in control of my life or am I going with the flow?
Very few of us are in full control of our lives, make conscious decisions and play by our own rules.
We too often do what other people want us to do. Sometimes we blame the circumstances and do not believe that we are able to change something. And more often, we simply perform the usual rituals on the machine, without even noticing how our everyday lives fly by.
