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Why do you like to be sad? The day was gray and drizzling. On the train, many children's faces, swollen from crying, stuck to the windows. The crowd of women and men on the platform - well-dressed, would have resembled a funeral procession, if not for the hunted expression on their faces. Suddenly, a broken female voice sang a Jewish lullaby about a tree from whose branches birds flew. On the platform, they picked up the familiar words out of tune... A sharp horn drowned out all voices for a moment. The train never left the platform. Whistles blew, dogs barked.

Soldiers with shepherd dogs rushing from their leashes came out onto the platform and began to disperse the crowd. They opened the doors of the carriages and in German ordered the children to get out. Children rushed to their parents, joyful that there would be no separation. Soon the people left. The platform is empty. The cars from where the children were dropped off stood empty, with the doors open... The last, Ninth train - Kinderstransport - did not have time to send Jewish children to England. There were 250 children in it. From 5:20 in the morning Poland was already bombed. It was raining. The war has begun. Everyone who was on this platform that day among the departing children and seeing off adults will soon be sent to the Theresienstadt ghetto, near Prague. And from there - to Auschwitz. It is not known where this terrible rumor came from. In the crowd of the doomed, waiting for their turn in front of the iron doors of the Auschwitz gas chamber, it was passed from mouth to mouth (and parents passed it on to their children): when the gas hissed, they should sing. In this case, most of the air poisoned by gas enters the lungs - and death occurs faster ... One must sing in order to die... Perhaps this lullaby, unsung then on the platform on a rainy September day, was also sung...? When we look back at our lives, sometimes we see with amazement that what seemed to us not such an important matter turned out to be, perhaps, the main reason for our coming into this world and existence on earth. At 1909 in one of the rich, quiet areas of London, in a large, Victorian mansion with colored stained-glass windows, on a street lined with hundred-year-old elms, Nicholas Winton, the future Sir Nicholas, a Knight of the British Empire, was born. It was a world of Charleston, clown horns of rare cars, huge zeppelins hanging overhead like inflated whale shells, and shining anthracite chipped male cylinders, similar to the pipes of the Titanic, with an unexpected, impossible catastrophe from which the truly twentieth century would begin. .. Nicholas was born, as they say in England, "with a silver spoon in his mouth": his father is a successful banker, whose ancestors, of Jewish origin, came from Germany. Mother - the daughter of a wealthy industrialist from Nuremberg. At first, the family bore the surname Wertheim and German was still sometimes spoken at home, but during the First World War, even home conversations in German, by common decision, were put to an end, and "Wertheim" was notarized replaced by the anglicized "Winton", as was done then in Britain, many who bore German surnames (including the British royal family: Coburg-Gott was changed to "Windsor"). The Wintons never missed a Sunday service at the local Anglican church, were members of the prestigious Country Club, and in the ivy-covered London home of the Wintons, the life of a typical “upper-middle class” English family flowed measuredly: a well-articulated butler, dry-lipped maids in starched headdresses, white jumpers for cricket, the hollow clatter of Wimbledon tennis balls, the races at Ascot, the academic regatta at Henley, in the evenings the reflections of crystal chandeliers on glass-beaded dresses, cocktails and jazz. Having survived a terrible war, Britain, senselessly and mediocrely losing hundreds of thousands of lives, tried in entertainment and sports to quickly forget the nightmare of war, which, as always (and, as always, in vain!), was called "the last war on earth" ... Just at this time of the European “interwar”, Nicholas went to an expensive school for young men - Stowe, more like a country palace, with neoclassical porticoes and endless lawns of the most aristocratic shade of green. Nicholas was happy here: unlike other Victorian-style schools, a friendly atmosphere reigned in Stowe, he lived at home, and not in a boarding school, he was taught by excellent teachers, he made friends here for life, was enthusiastically engaged in fencing, equestrian sports, walked sailing on Whitestone Pond in Hampstead, then he became interested in aviation and downhill skiing ... Especially downhill skiing. His profession was also, in general, predetermined: his father soon sent his son to study banking in Germany and Switzerland. In general, nothing foreshadowed what happened next ... And then 19 happened33, when in Germany, weakened, humiliated by the Treaty of Versailles, a certain politician of Austrian origin named Hitler came to power in a completely legal way, this name meant little to anyone ... The new chancellor brought the Germans something much more important than just economic stability: he rallied the nation, returned national pride to Germany (it can be difficult to distinguish it from Nazism, the line between them is so unsteady and one easily turns into the second!) ... However, it’s not enough just to declare your people heroic: heroism and the doctrine of one’s own superiority, as gluttonous Moloch, require constant confirmation, constant replenishment. Therefore, a people that has accepted the doctrine of its exclusivity and superiority like air needs enemies. Before moving on to external enemies, they usually begin with internal enemies. Jews were traditionally the best fit for this role - for the most part, they were so integrated into German society that they did not immediately understand what was happening. First, Jewish bankers and financiers were accused of being enemies of Germany, then everyone with even a drop of Jewish blood flowed in their veins was subject to detection and segregation... At 19In 33, Winton worked in one of the banks in Berlin and saw marching columns with torches, swastikas and even photographed them and admitted that these processions had amazing energy, and nothing, nothing made him either worried or wary. Europe quite shared this attitude. Yes, it is difficult to imagine a time when the swastika seemed just a strange geometric symbol, a curiosity and did not carry any special meaning. How blind are the contemporaries of events! ... How sighted their descendants are. When on November 19On the 38th, the night of Jewish pogroms, the Night of Broken Glass (as it is in English, in other languages ​​it is for some reason too poetically called "crystal"), Europe still did not suspect, did not see, but most likely - desperately did not want to suspect and see on what an inclined plane European history has already rolled towards a new war, gaining momentum more and more. In December 1938, Winton turned 29 years old. A career in the bank was developing successfully, this was helped by his fluency in German and French and his easy, friendly character. In his political leanings, he leaned towards pacifism and leftist ideas, but politics did not occupy his thoughts too much: life, love interests, amateur aviation and skiing continued to be much more exciting pursuits. And so, and, after Christmas, he decided to go skiing in Switzerland with friends. Their path lay through Prague. Prague was flooded with refugees. Thousands of people fled from Sudetenland, annexed by the Nazis, from Austria - families, mostly Jewish, who lost everything. They were temporarily housed in tents in hastily set up refugee camps, where conditions were terrible. The news brought new evidence that Hitler was not going to stop at the Anschluss of Austria and Germany's "return" of the Sudetenland. “Why fight? Because of "people in a distant land about whom we know next to nothing." (British Prime Minister Chamberlain on the Anschluss of Czechoslovakia) "If a country, choosing between war and shame, chooses shame, it gets both war and shame. " (Winston Churchill on the Munich Shame) History has judged. Churchill was right. Of course, even in a nightmare, no one then could have imagined what exactly was in store for the doomed ... In one of the refugee camps near Prague, where he wandered, bonfires smoked, deafening, children's crying rushed from everywhere, some toothless old man walked and asked everyone, if they saw his teeth: he dropped them somewhere in the snow, and an elderly violinist, sitting in the cold on her suitcase, in one dress, smiling blissfully, and driving everyone crazy (they shouted at her), played the same a passage from Beethoven's Concerto in D-minor again, and again, and again. Next to the violinist stood a child in a ski cap, about three years old. And listened. And he applauded after each passage, and the violinist, dreamily looking somewhere up, as if in the direction of non-existent "boxes", got up from her suitcase and bowed to him... The violinist had a large mole on her arm, like his mother's. The woman did not look like his mother at all - well-groomed, beautiful, confident. And this obsessively repeated music seemed familiar - this concert was sometimes played by the father, coming from the bank ... And Nicholas understood more and more every minute: to turn around and leave, and CANNOT forget. Nicholas Winton will save this boy in a ski cap. No one knows how Compassion comes to a person. How, at what moment did Nicholas Winton, a respectable London banker, who could just turn around and leave, and forget ... SUDDENLY became completely unbearable from what was happening to these people ...? Governments of Europe and America until the 19thOn the 39th, they hoped that all this was temporary, everything was not so terrible and would soon “dissolve” and that Hitler’s ambitions would be satisfied by the Sudetenland ... It became absolutely clear to Nicholas Winton himself that day in Prague that this was only the beginning, that something much more sinister was coming to Prague, that the Nazis would occupy the basically defenseless Czech capital - European governments would not intervene - and that Jewish pogroms, such as " Kristallnacht will begin here as well. Later, returning to his room at the magnificent Schroubeck Hotel on Wenceslas Square, Winton wrote to the bank management that he would not return to work after his vacation, he was staying in Prague - he had very important business here. An irritated response followed from the bank. Nicholas ignored him. Together with friend Michael Blake, who also postponed skiing in Switzerland, they set up a relief headquarters. Britain allowed only children under 16 years of age to be taken out of Prague, and only if the British families accepting these children contribute an amount of 50 pounds sterling (about one and a half thousand at the current exchange rate), guaranteeing the return of these children to their homeland in a year or two - in general, when in Europe everything will calm down with anti-Semitism ... Winton uses all of his rather extensive connections and those of his father to get visas and permits. Breaks through bureaucratic barriers that are stronger than anti-tank hedgehogs. If they did not have time with visas because of this, Nicholas simply forged them! When the Nazis occupied Prague, Winton's hotel room was no longer besieged by refugees, but by Prague parents, who begged to save their children from the Terezinstadt ghetto camp, near Prague, from where people were then put on trains, and they disappeared, by whole trains, leaving invariably to the east . .. Blake, Winton, then they were joined by Doreen Warriner, who at that time was lecturing at the University of Prague, working 24 hours a day. Together they coordinated all efforts - they found families in Britain who wished to adopt children, organized the transfer of money, and the issuance of visas. Winton's mother, Barbara, as well as acquaintances - Trevor Chadwick, Jeff Fels - helped them while in Britain. They published ads in newspapers, wrote to governments, organizations. Winton and his mother received arriving children at Liverpool Station, arranged them in their families, then Winton went to Prague for the next ... All spring and all summer 19On the 39th, they sent the children from Prague as best they could - by air, sea, land. Eight transports. The last one was on August 2, 1939, 68 children were evacuated in it. They did not manage to send the Ninth Train of Life on September 1, 1939. Almost all of them - both children and parents - will die in concentration camps. There were 250 children in it. From 5:20 in the morning Poland was already bombed. The borders of Europe are closed. The War has begun. At first, letters were sent to England from parents who remained in Prague to their children, in 1942 the last letters ceased ... I was lucky to receive such a correspondence between parents and one of the Czech Jewish girls placed in an English family. The correspondence was found in the attic, after her death at the age of 75 in London, in that leather suitcase with which at 19On the 38th, a girl named Hannah arrived in England... She became a chemist, worked in a biochemical laboratory and, being 70 years old, visited the suburbs of Prague, where 15 members of her family lived. She is the only one left alive... Every time I read the letters of her parents from Theresienstadt, and then the notes from Auschwitz, transmitted through the Red Cross, I have never been able to hold back my tears... Ordinary words become heartbreaking, and the more ordinary, the stronger: “Put on your hat, don’t catch a cold, Hanichka; if you have your period, keep yourself clean; respect foster parents; We love you very much; we are fine; we'll take you to Prague as soon as all this is over; we are fine; we are fine. .." In total, Nicholas Winton was saved from concentration camps 669children. Winton completely abandoned pacifism, did not return to the bank, and ended the war as an aviator in the British Royal Air Force. When Sir Winton (he died on July 1, 2015 at the age of 106) was asked if he was happy, he replied: no. Why? Because, he answered, he increasingly thinks and dreams about that last, Ninth Train, which never left the Prague platform, and about those children who did not have time to leave ... No one knows how Compassion comes to a person, how it begins in the soul. How does this realization of the impossibility come to a person - just turn around and leave? Unknown. “To save one is to save the world” (Talmud). The Ninth Train is now a dream for me too... Source: Carina Cockrell-Fehre

Five reasons why we like to be sad and feel sorry for ourselves

Why do we tend to count and remember bad things?

Despite the joyful and positive life events, our brain reacts more tangibly to the negative and sad events of our life, keeping them in memory for a long time and experiencing them intensely. It has to do with the process of evolution.

Initially, people had to focus on the danger and the state of potential threat in order to prevent premature death. Negative phenomena and potential problems are already programmed into our mind and instincts, warning it of the consequences. nine0003

Trying not to think about the negative leads to thinking about it all the time

The human brain is not a mechanism that can be protected from negative thoughts with some other positive thought. Concentrating on getting rid of bad thoughts leads to even greater power of these very thoughts.

Psychologists call this phenomenon ironic thinking, which occurs when one cannot laugh.

It has also been found that people who constantly worry about something have much more brain work and all the energy is devoted to the analysis of a particular case, even if the goal is simply to stop thinking about it. nine0003

Grief is addictive

When we focus on unpleasant or negative events, we remind ourselves of how good things were in the past, thus experiencing a kind of sado-masochistic feeling. As a result, reward and pleasure centers are activated in the brain that produce dopamine, which creates a feeling of comfort.

It is important to note that those who have experienced certain types of pain, after a certain period of time, become resistant to the emotional trauma received. Human nature is such that it will look for more and more things to worry about. nine0003

People prefer to feel unhappy, but not insecure

During adolescence, risk centers are activated in the human brain, which usually require adrenaline, excitement and a sense of adventure. Over time, their activity decreases, giving way to self-control and confidence in today.

Thus, it is much more difficult for mature people to adapt to changes with age, as a sense of insecurity can contribute to depression and the development of self-pity. The negative consequences of experience encourage people to move forward after failure. nine0003

Happiness

The study showed that when imagining an unhappy person, people most often imagine an image of a person sitting motionless, looking at one point.

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