Questions to ask friends deep

75 Best Questions to Ask Friends: Fun, Deep and Personal


Think you know everything about them? These fun Qs will show you otherwise.

By Sarah Fielding

One of the joys of friendship is that you continually learn more about each other. A good friendship involves growth, and part of that comes from actively choosing to stay curious about your friend. 

With that in mind, it’s important to know what questions to ask your friends to deepen your bond. For Saba Harouni Lurie, ATR-BC, a licensed marriage and family therapist and founder of Take Root Therapy, it’s all about being intentional with your Qs. “When we ask these questions, we prompt our friends to share about themselves and to be vulnerable. When we show vulnerability and offer care when another is vulnerable, we cultivate trust and strengthen our relationships,” she tells TODAY. com.

Antonia Hall, MA, a psychologist, relationship expert and author of "The Happy Human Playbook: A Practical Guide to Healing Body, Mind and Emotions With Joy and Pleasure," opts for questions that show another — perhaps a new — side of your friend. Some thought-starters: Ask what they’re grateful for or what life growing up was like for them. 

The key here is not to interrogate your friend, but to open up a space to appreciate one another for who you are and want to be.

“There is no such thing as knowing everything about a person, so ongoing connection building between friends helps to nurture and grow the relationship, especially through natural and unnatural life transitions," Leanne Leonard, a licensed marriage and family therapist at Mindpath Health, tells

While you may be inclined to get to know your friend at the present moment, find ways to look ahead to the future. In fact, Dr. Cynthia Shaw, a licensed clinical psychologist and owner of Authentically Living Psychological Services, suggests asking questions that hone in on your friend’s hopes and dreams.

We asked the aforementioned experts to share their best questions to ask friends, and compiled a list of our favorites below. Dedicate an entire night to this list, start with a few funny standouts or slowly chip away at the deeper questions when there's a lull in conversation. As a result, you'll see each other in a whole new light.

Deep questions to ask friends

  • If you had a whole day where you could do anything you wanted, what would you do?
  • What are you most proud of about yourself?
  • What is your greatest accomplishment?
  • What are you still hoping to accomplish?
  • What do you want people to know about you?
  • What do you need more of in your life?
  • What do you need less of in your life?
  • What do you feel has been your greatest “win” so far in your life?
  • What three words describe what you’re most grateful for?
  • Would you rather people perceive you as being kind, smart or attractive?
  • How do you like to receive care?
  • How do you cope when things get hard?
  • What do you really care about?
  • What really frustrates you?
  • What keeps you up at night?
  • Who sticks out as being an early positive influence in your life?
  • Who is most important to you now? 
  • How did you feel about where you grew up? 
  • Was it a supportive environment?
  • Who are you most like in your family?
  • Who in your family do you struggle with?
  • Is there a time when you did something that seems so out of character that most people wouldn’t believe it? 
  • What is the most trouble you’ve ever been in?
  • Looking back on your life, who or what makes you instantly light up?
  • If you could leave a “mark on the world” that preceded you, what would it be?
  • What would you like to accomplish in life? 
  • What makes your life feel purposeful? 
  • What values are most important to you? 
  • If one wish of yours could come true, what would it be?
  • If you could travel anywhere, where would you go?
  • If you could meet anyone in the world, alive or deceased, who would it be?
  • What brings you joy?
  • What is the best piece of advice you've ever been given?

Fun (sometimes funny) questions to ask friends

  • What movie or show do you keep rewatching? 
  • What makes you choose it? (See question above. )
  • What was your favorite game as a child?
  • Which book or movie impacted you most growing up?
  • What’s your favorite childhood memory?
  • What is your favorite memory?
  • What is on your bucket list?
  • What are two places you want to go before you die?
  • What does your ideal friend weekend look like?
  • What is the most exciting adventure you have been on?
  • Where is the most awe-inspiring place you’ve ever visited?
  • If you weren’t in your current profession, what would you be doing?

Hard questions to ask friends

  • What is your worst memory?
  • What fears do you experience? 
  • What do you find most challenging in your life right now?
  • What is something that not many people know about you? 
  • What prevents you from sharing that part of yourself?
  • How do you know when you can trust someone? 
  • What event has had a large impact on your life?
  • If you lost a loved one, do you think you would come to me for support?
  • If you lost your job, would you come to me for help?
  • Have you ever stopped talking to a friend?
  • Why did you stop talking to them? (See question above. )
  • Has a friend ever stopped talking to you?
  • What led to that happening? (See question above.)

Personal questions about your friendship

  • What about our friendship is important to you?
  • What do you value most in a friendship?
  • In what ways do you feel supported in the friendship? 
  • In which ways do you not? (See question above.)
  • In what ways do you feel trust within our friendship?
  • What is your favorite trait in me?
  • What’s your favorite part of our friendship?
  • What do you most look forward to doing with me?
  • What is your least favorite trait in me?
  • What do you dread doing with me?
  • What is one piece of advice you would give to me if you knew I wouldn’t get offended? 
  • What would you do if your partner didn't like me?
  • What would you do if your parents didn't like me?
  • Is there anything I can do to show my appreciation for your friendship that I do not already do?
  • Have you ever kept a secret from me? 
  • What made it difficult to share? (See question above. )
  • If we could only do one thing together before we die, what would it be?

Sarah Fielding

Sarah Fielding, MS, is an acclaimed journalist focusing on mental health, gender rights, and social issues. She's also the co-founder of Empire Coven, a space for highlighting trailblazing women across New York. She has written for The Washington Post, The New York Times, Insider, Verywell, The Guardian and more. 

272 Deep Questions to Ask: A Guy, Girl, Friend, or Anyone

272 Deep Questions to Ask: A Guy, Girl, Friend, or Anyone

By Tchiki Davis, MA, PhD

Want to get to know someone better? One way is to ask them deep questions. So here are some deep questions you can ask different people—people like your partner, friends, or whoever.

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Maybe you're trying to get to know someone better. Maybe you're trying to make conversations  more interesting. Or maybe, you just want to improve your communication skills by asking deep questions. In this article, we'll give you a bunch of questions to ask the different people in your life. We'll cover deep questions that you can ask a guy, a girl, your girlfriend, boyfriend or long-term partner, your friends, your best friend, and yourself.

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What Are Deep Questions and Why Do They Matter?

Communication may just be the backbone of healthy relationships. But communication is more than just a tool we use to explore ourselves. It can also be used to build closer bonds with others. One way we can do this is by asking deep questions—questions that lead others to self-disclose to us. This is how we get to know who the other person is for real.

In perhaps one of the best-known studies on relationships, Art Aron showed that when two people asked each other increasingly deep questions over a 45-minute period, they felt closer than two people who had just engaged in chit-chat (Aron et al., 1997). Further research suggests that when others self-disclose personal information, we like them more (Sprecher, Treger, & Wondra, 2013). This may partially explain why deep questions increase closeness.

Deep Questions to Ask Someone

To start increasing closeness (or just get to know someone), here are the questions you can ask anyone from Dr. Aron's study (Aron et al., 1997). They increase in intensity from the beginning to the end.

Set I

  1. Given the choice of anyone in the world, whom would you want as a dinner guest?
  2. Would you like to be famous? In what way?
  3. Before making a telephone call, do you ever rehearse what you are going to say? Why?
  4. What would constitute a “perfect” day for you?
  5. When did you last sing to yourself? To someone else?
  6. If you were able to live to the age of 90 and retain either the mind or body of a 30-year-old for the last 60 years of your life, which would you want?
  7. Do you have a secret hunch about how you will die?
  8. Name three things you and your partner appear to have in common.
  9. For what in your life do you feel most grateful?
  10. If you could change anything about the way you were raised, what would it be?
  11. Take four minutes and tell your partner your life story in as much detail as possible.
  12. If you could wake up tomorrow having gained any one quality or ability, what would it be?

Set II

  1. If a crystal ball could tell you the truth about yourself, your life, the future, or anything else, what would you want to know?
  2. Is there something that you’ve dreamed of doing for a long time? Why haven’t you done it?
  3. What is the greatest accomplishment of your life?
  4. What do you value most in a friendship?
  5. What is your most treasured memory?
  6. What is your most terrible memory?
  7. If you knew that in one year you would die suddenly, would you change anything about the way you are now living? Why?
  8. What does friendship mean to you?
  9. What roles do love and affection play in your life?
  10. Share something you consider to be a positive characteristic of your partner. Share a total of five items.
  11. How close and warm is your family? Do you feel your childhood was happier than most other people’s?
  12. How do you feel about your relationship with your mother?


  1. Make three true “we” statements each. For instance, “We are both in this room feeling…” 
  2. Complete this sentence: “I wish I had someone with whom I could share…”
  3. If you were going to become a close friend with your partner, please share what would be important for them to know.
  4. Tell your partner what you like about them; be very honest this time, saying things that you might not say to someone you’ve just met.
  5. Share with your partner an embarrassing moment in your life.
  6. When did you last cry in front of another person? By yourself?
  7. Tell your partner something that you like about them [already].
  8. What, if anything, is too serious to be joked about?
  9. If you were to die this evening with no opportunity to communicate with anyone, what would you most regret not having told someone? Why haven’t you told them yet?
  10. Your house, containing everything you own, catches fire. After saving your loved ones and pets, you have time to safely make a final dash to save any one item. What would it be? Why?
  11. Of all the people in your family, whose death would you find most disturbing? Why?
  12. Share a personal problem and ask your partner’s advice on how they might handle it. Also, ask your partner to reflect back to you how you seem to be feeling about the problem you have chosen.

More Deep Questions to Ask Anyone

In addition to Aron's 36 questions for closeness, here are some more questions you can ask anyone.

  1. If you could have three wishes, what would they be?
  2. Who was your favorite cartoon character when you were a kid?
  3. What does spirituality mean to you?
  4. Do you believe in giving people second chances, and why?
  5. How would you describe your first crush?
  6. What are your favorite hobbies?
  7. What is your star sign? And do you believe in astrology?
  8. What do you want people to remember about you after you’re gone?
  9. What was the most important lesson you’ve learned from a past relationship?
  10. What are some of your favorite books?
  11. Have you ever had an epiphany? If so what was it like for you?
  12. What what the most intense experience you've had in your life?
  13. When you dream big, what would you do with your life?
  14. Are you a morning or a night person?
  15. Do you think anyone has the capacity to cheat or do you think only cheaters cheat?
  16. Have you ever shoplifted anything?
  17. Have you ever told a lie that you regretted?
  18. Have you ever done something you regretted?
  19. Do you ever make excuses for your bad behavior? (e. g., I punched him because he was a jerk.)
  20. What do you think of A.I. (Artificial Intelligence)? Scary or amazing?
  21. What do you think of Elon Musk?
  22. What do you think of Steve Jobs? Hero or Villain?
  23. What do you think the solution is to climate change?
  24. Do you think psychics are actually psychic?
  25. What is your favorite workout?
  26. How do you think you'd be different if you were raised in a different family?
  27. What is the most important lesson you've learned this year?
  28. What is your dream vacation?
  29. What superpowers did you wish you had when you were a kid?
  30. What did you want to be when you grew up?
  31. Are you a mountain or a beach person?
  32. What is your spirit animal?
  33. Are you very close to anyone in your family? Why?
  34. What are your top three strengths?
  35. What are your top three positive qualities?
  36. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?
  37. What are your passions in life?
  38. Have you ever had your heart broken? What did it feel like to you?
  39. What type of music energizes you?
  40. Are you still friends with anyone from high school?
  41. What was your favorite subject or class in high school?
  42. What was the most memorable experience from your childhood?
  43. How do you relax when you're stressed out?
  44. What is a skill that you want to build?
  45. If you could change one decision you made when you were younger what would it be and why?
  46. If you could change one thing about your childhood what would it be and why?
  47. Do you know how to play any musical instruments?
  48. Who or what inspires you?
  49. What is your place in the whole world?
  50. Who is your doppelganger?
  51. Have you ever been camping? Did you like it?
  52. What is one accomplishment that you're proud of?
  53. What three non-electric or non-automatic items would you take on a deserted island?
  54. If “hello” were to be replaced by another word as a greeting, what word would that be?
  55. When you see your family, what do you do together?
  56. What is your Achilles heel (your weak spot)?
  57. What is your favorite (least favorite) emotion?
  58. What do you think makes a meaningful life?
  59. Is there anything from the 1980s that you wish would come back?
  60. Do you believe in good and evil?
  61. What do you think prevents people from manifesting their dreams?
  62. Do you get déjà vu? What does it feel like for you?
  63. What makes you feel nostalgic?
  64. What would you do if you found out you had a year to live?
  65. If you redesigned society, what would you change?
  66. What would be a perfect day for you?
  67. What impresses you?
  68. If you had to eat only one meal for the rest of your life what would it be?
  69. What's your least favorite food?
  70. What's one thing I don't already know about you?

Deep Questions to Ask a Girl

You can ask girls and guys many of the same deep questions (as listed above), but I thought it might be helpful to also provide some additional deep questions you might want to ask a girl or guy. So here are some extra questions you might want to ask a girl.

  1. Do you want to have a baby? Why? (Or why did you have a baby?)
  2. Have you ever been “mansplained,” and if so, what did you do about it?
  3. How do you feel about the #MeToo movement?
  4. Have you ever asked a guy out on a date?
  5. How do you feel about the idea that some people think the female organism is a myth?
  6. If you could choose, would you have chosen to be born a girl or guy?
  7. What do you think it means to be a woman?
  8. What's your favorite thing about being a woman?
  9. What's your least favorite thing about being a woman?
  10. How do you feel about how females are depicted in movies and TV?

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Deep Questions to Ask a Guy

Here are some extra questions you might want to ask a guy:

  1. Do you ever feel pressure to be the provider in your family or relationship?
  2. What do you think about expressing your emotions? 
  3. How do you think about women?
  4. How do you feel about being responsible for pushing a relationship forward (e. g., asking a girl on a date or to marry you?)
  5. What do you think of society's idea of what a man should be?
  6. What do you think the challenges are of being a man in the modern world?
  7. How do you build friendships with other guys?
  8. What is your definition of being a man?
  9. What's your favorite thing about being a man?
  10. What's your least favorite thing about being a man?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Partner (Boyfriend or Girlfriend)

When you're getting to know your relationship partner, there may be a number of questions to ask that can help you get closer to them and also understand them better. These questions may also help you determine whether they are a good fit for you in the long term.

  1. What do you look for in a relationship?
  2. What personal qualities do you love?
  3. Do you believe in marriage? If so, what age do you think is the best for marriage?
  4. Do you believe in soul mates?
  5. What is your love language?
  6. What is your idea of a perfect date?
  7. What is your idea of a perfect vacation?
  8. How do you describe commitment? How do you describe freedom?
  9. Do you want to have kids?
  10. How do you imagine your life in 10 years? 20 years? 50 years?
  11. If you had all the money you needed, what would you do with your life?
  12. Where would you put yourself on the workaholic to relaxaholic spectrum?
  13. How do you react when you're upset?
  14. If you had a partner who gained a lot of weight, would you stay with them?
  15. What do you think leads people to cheat in relationships?
  16. If you were having relationship troubles, would you ever go see a relationship counselor?
  17. What's one time when you had to compromise? How did that feel to you?
  18. What would be the perfect amount of time each day that you'd spend with your partner?
  19. What’s a deal-breaker for you in a relationship?
  20. What is a healthy relationship to you?

A Few More Deep Questions Lists for Girls and Guys

Here are a few other good lists of deep questions to get to know your romantic partner better:

Deep Questions to Ask Friends

Maybe you're looking to get to know your friends better. Here are some questions that can help:

  1. If you could magically change one thing in your life, what would it be?
  2. What do you think of mindfulness?
  3. Do you think we’d be better off without social media?
  4. What do you think it means to be healthy?
  5. What do you love the most in life?
  6. Do you vote?
  7. Do you believe in karma? 
  8. What do you think about freedom of speech?
  9. Do you think there is an afterlife of any kind?
  10. What do you think about veganism?
  11. What do you think about the current younger generation?
  12. Do you think bullies see themselves as bullies?
  13. Do you tend to trust people?
  14. Do you feel like men and women are equal?
  15. Do you think people can change?
  16. What's your favorite activity to do with friends?
  17. What's one thing you believe in that's kinda weird?
  18. Where is your favorite place to go eat?
  19. What was one of your funniest moments?
  20. If I asked you, "Who are you?" How would you answer?

Deep Questions to Ask Your Best Friend

Sometimes there are those personal questions that you're just not comfortable asking anyone but your best friend. Here are a few of these extra-deep questions you might want to only ask your best closest friends:

  1. What do you like about me?
  2. What are my best qualities?
  3. What are my worst qualities?
  4. What aspects of myself do I need to work on to be a better friend?
  5. What makes you feel comfortable around me?
  6. What do you think it is about us that made us such good friends?
  7. Do you have any secrets that you need to get off your chest? If so, I promise to hold them with you.
  8. Do you think we'll still be friends when we die?
  9. What do you think your life would be like without me?
  10. What's one thing you'd like to do together that we haven't yet done?

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Deep Questions to Ask Yourself

Last but not least, you may want to ask yourself some deep questions to better get to know yourself. By asking ourselves deep questions we can uncover thoughts and beliefs we didn't even realize we had. So check out these questions you can use to get to know yourself better.

  1. Do you respect yourself?
  2. Are you confident? Why or why not?
  3. Do you like who you are?
  4. How do you express your emotions?
  5. What makes you happy?
  6. What are your strengths and weaknesses?
  7. ​Do you forgive those who have hurt you? How?
  8. Do you think you're brave? Why or why not?
  9. How do you engage in self-care?
  10. Do you try to grow and improve your abilities?
  11. Are you proud of yourself?
  12. Do you know what you want in life?
  13. In what ways do you think positively? negatively?
  14. What's your personal mission statement?
  15. Do you believe you can manifest your dreams?
  16. What are your long-term goals?
  17. What are you thankful for?
  18. Do you love yourself?
  19. what are your core values?
  20. Do you consider yourself an introvert, extrovert, or somewhere in the middle?
  21. What motivates you?
  22. How do you respond to rejection?
  23. Do you ever feel shame or guilt? What causes it?
  24. Do you suppress or express your emotions? Why and how?
  25. Are you generally present in the moment or do you spend a lot of time in your head?
  26. Do you have a healthy relationship with your smartphone?
  27. What makes you feel vulnerable?
  28. What are your good habits and bad habits?
  29. What is your true calling?
  30. What makes you feel empowered? Disempowered?
  31. What anti-stress strategies help you most?
  32. Do you ever have FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)?
  33. Do you have any trust issues?
  34. Do you have an easy or hard time letting go of the past?
  35. How do you self-soothe when you're upset?
  36. Do you tend to have a scarcity mindset or an abundance mindset?
  37. What's your communication style?
  38. Do you practice random acts of kindness?
  39. What is your best life?
  40. What makes you jealous or envious?
  41. Have you ever faked happiness?
  42. How secure or insecure do you tend to be in relationships?
  43. Do you tend to be an optimist or a pessimist?
  44. How positive are you about your body?
  45. Have you ever cheated emotionally?
  46. What are your highest aspirations?
  47. What negative thoughts do you have? How might you shift them to be more positive?
  48. What makes you laugh?
  49. How many hugs do you need each day?
  50. What brings you the most joy?

More Articles to Help You Improve Your Social Connections

Here are some more articles that may help you build the skills that support healthy relationships and social bonds.

  • What is Love? Definition, Signs & Types
  • Is Your Smartphone Hurting Your Relationships?
  • ​Healthy Relationships: Definition, Characteristics, and Tips​
  • ​Rapport: Definition & How to Build It
  • Self-Disclosure: Definition, Examples, & Tips

Final Thoughts on Deep Questions to Ask

Asking deep questions can be a great way to learn more about others, increase closeness between you, and have more interesting conversations. Hopefully, these lists of deep questions gave you a good place to start.

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  • Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E. N., Vallone, R. D., & Bator, R. J. (1997). The experimental generation of interpersonal closeness: A procedure and some preliminary findings. Personality and social psychology bulletin23(4), 363-377.
  • Sprecher, S., Treger, S. , & Wondra, J. D. (2013). Effects of self-disclosure role on liking, closeness, and other impressions in get-acquainted interactions. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships30(4), 497-514.​

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No matter how many years you know your friends, you can always learn something new about your best friend or girlfriend. Questions for friends are a good way to strengthen your friendship and test yourself on each other's knowledge.

Knowing what questions to ask your friends will help you stay close to everyone in your social circle. You will find that the answers to the questions you ask a married couple of friends reveal them to you in a new way. And questions for introspection will help your bosom friend or best friend look at themselves from the outside. nine0013

If you've been friends with someone for years and think you've heard all their stories, laughed at all their jokes, and understand their thoughts, there's still a lot more to come. Make sure of this by asking friends, for example, difficult psychological questions. And you will see how smart, talented, amazing people your friends are. This is the beauty of friendship - to see the best in friends.

Questions to ask friends

  • Interesting and funny. These are questions that you can ask your friends to cheer you up, have fun, or laugh. They can be asked to a Vkontakte pen-friend or a friend on Instagram. But if you want to get to know one of your friends even better, then you need a different list of questions. nine0006
  • Questions to get to know them better. The purpose of these questions is to look into the depths of the thoughts and behavior of their friends, who will be able to tell more about themselves.
  • The last list is personal questions to friends. These personal questions are not asked to those who have recently met, but they are asked to those whom you know well. With their help, you can find out what is in the heart of your friend / girlfriend. Find out his anxieties and experiences and how you can help them.

Funny and interesting questions for friends

  1. Is borrowing money from a friend good or bad? Why yes or no?
  2. There is a saying: "To have a good friend, you must be a good friend yourself." What to do to become a good friend?
  3. Can a teacher be friends with his student? (We recommend reading interesting questions to teachers to interview them).
  4. Is it possible to have a best friend of the opposite sex without sexual relations?
  5. What do you do if a friend calls you but you suddenly forgot his/her name? nine0006
  6. Would you be able to continue being friends with the ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend you broke up with?
  7. Who is the most interesting person you have ever met?
  8. There is a saying, "to lose a friend, you need to start living with him in the same apartment." Do you agree? Why yes or no?
  9. Do you have a close group of friends? How do you usually like to relax? What do you like to do together?
  10. Do you think famous people are happier than ordinary people or not? Why? nine0006
  11. Total war between cats and dogs: who will win and why?
  12. Would you take part in a wife-carrying competition? (For more sports-related questions, read the sports questions and answers).
  13. If you were a kitchen appliance, what would you be and why?
  14. Do you hear voices too?
  15. What do you think is the biggest animal you can defeat with your bare hands?
  16. If you could never sleep or eat again, which would you choose? Why? nine0006
  17. Pluto is what planet in the solar system? (This question is tricky, to find out why, watch the quiz with questions and answers about space)
  18. Pencil, which color tastes better: white, black or colored?
  19. What did you do for the first time last time?
  20. What breakfast cereal has had the most impact on your life?

Questions to get to know your friends better

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  2. Did you have strange habits as a child?
  3. What does friendship mean to you?
  4. Can there be romantic feelings between friends of opposite sex?
  5. What is the most memorable event you had with your friends?
  6. Have you ever lied to your friends?
  7. What common interests unite your friendship?
  8. What separates friends from family?
  9. What is your favorite memory of your friends?
  10. Do you have any regrets in your relationships with your friends? What would you like to change if you could turn back time? nine0006
  11. Ever swore blood with friends?
  12. Why is friendship important to you? Do you still maintain friendships from the past?
  13. How to carry friendship through life?
  14. Is friendship the most important thing in life or not? Why yes or no?
  15. How often do you see your old friends?
  16. Did you make friends over the Internet? How often do you write to them? Have you ever met them in person?
  17. How are your friendships today different from childhood friendships? nine0006
  18. What do you do to keep your friendship strong?
  19. How do you make new friends?
  20. There is a proverb: "A friend is known in trouble. " Do you agree with this? What are you willing to do for a friend in need?
  21. What motivational quotes motivate you to do something? Can you quote them?
  22. Should parents be friends with their children? How to become them?
  23. What qualities do you value in friends? What makes someone special or best friend? nine0006
  24. What good can you say about the friends you have made in this country, city, area?
  25. What quality do you admire in people, and which one do you find most undesirable?

Personal questions for friends

  1. Has anyone ever been jealous of their best friend? Why?
  2. What do you fear most in friendship?
  3. What nicknames do you call your friends?
  4. What are you willing to do for your friends? nine0006
  5. If you were to switch roles with your boyfriend/girlfriend, would you develop romantic feelings for them?
  6. How do you usually like to spend your weekends and with whom? (Recommended to get some ideas of what to do for the weekend during the quarantine).
  7. In the pool, which liquid would you like to bathe with?
  8. Have you been friends with anyone since childhood? What good do you find in childhood friends?
  9. Where do you like to meet your friends most often? nine0006
  10. Are you friends with someone from a distance? How do you keep in touch with them?
  11. Do you make friends easily?
  12. How close are your relationships with your friends?
  13. Do you trust all your friends? Why?
  14. How important is forgiveness in human relationships?
  15. When is the best time to make new friends?
  16. What was your childhood best friend like? Are you still friends? What lessons have you learned from these relationships?
  17. What helps you get to know a person better? Can the right questions for friends help? nine0006
  18. What behavior of others hurts you the most? When you upset someone with your actions, what are you trying to do?
  19. Do you consider your qualities to be good or bad?
  20. How do you usually respond when friends ask about your business? (Read 155 options for how to answer the question “how are you?”.
  21. Do you think that a dysfunctional family life contributes to the deterioration of relations between friends?
  22. What is the difference between friendship and “kinship” (blood relatives)?
  23. Do you have different groups of friends who never meet each other? What do you think, if these groups are introduced to each other, they will be friends? Will you win or lose from such friendship?
  24. Are you in any way competitive with your friends?
  25. What do you prefer to drink with friends: coffee, tea or stronger drinks?

Questions for a friend

  1. Did your friend set you up?
  2. What qualities should people have for true friendship? (Recommended to read 94 quotes about friends that motivate you to value friendship even more).
  3. What do you value in friendship?
  4. How do you like to spend time with friends?
  5. Do you like your friend's girlfriend? What will you do if you do not approve of his choice?
  6. What movie or concert would you go to see with your friends?
  7. Ever hurt your friends? How strong? What will you do if you offend your friends?
  8. Do you consider yourself a friend for life or for a while? nine0006
  9. After hard work, would you agree to hang out with friends often? (Read funny statuses and quotes about work that will cheer you up).
  10. Quarreling with friends? Because of which?
  11. What is the best proof of your friendship?
  12. How many people do you consider your best friends?
  13. What qualities of your friends do you admire and what do you dislike in them?
  14. Is there friendship between generations? What are the advantages or disadvantages of such a friendship? nine0006
  15. Do you have friends much older or younger than your age?
  16. What do you usually do with your friends?
  17. Why do you love your best friend?
  18. What do you like about your best friend?
  19. Why do you need a friend?
  20. How has your best friend been a positive influence in your life?
  21. If your friend is offended by something in your behavior, should he talk about it or is it better for him to remain silent?
  22. How long have you known your best friend? Where did you meet and what do you have in common? nine0006
  23. Do you tell your best friend everything?
  24. Is it easy for you to make friends?
  25. Are you good friends with your family members or not? Why?

Read more interesting questions for guys to ask.

Questions for a friend

  1. What do you do if you find out that your friend's boyfriend is cheating on her?
  2. What do you and your best friends have in common?
  3. Fantasized about a relationship with your friend? nine0006
  4. What is your favorite pizza? (We recommend reading interesting facts about pizza from around the world).
  5. Is friendship between a man and a woman possible or not?
  6. Has a friend ever let you down?
  7. What can lead to the collapse of a strong friendship?
  8. Who are you friends with the most and for the longest time?
  9. Who can be called a real friend?
  10. What should real friends never do?
  11. Do you think true friendship exists or not? nine0006
  12. What do you like most about your best friends?
  13. Do you consider yourself a romantic person? How do you imagine a romantic life with your loved one?
  14. What do you do or are ready to do if a serious misunderstanding has happened or will happen between you and your girlfriend?
  15. What is the relationship between love and friendship?
  16. What kind of people do you get along with easily?
  17. What are friends for?
  18. What qualities help you to have good relations with others? nine0006
  19. What will you do if your friend (boyfriend), with whom you have been friends for a long time, invites you on a romantic date?
  20. Do you think it is possible to find true friendship through the Internet?
  21. What's the weirdest thing you've done in someone else's house?
  22. How can you sometimes relax with your friends, but not every day?
  23. What do you like to do when you don't feel like doing anything at all?
  24. What day would you like to relive over and over again? Why?
  25. What can you talk about with your friends for hours? nine0006

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Closing Thoughts on Questions for Friends

The time we spend with friends should be enriched with conversation and fun in a question and answer format. This helps not only to have fun, but also allows each person to tell a little more about themselves than others know.

An evening spent with questions and answers can strengthen our relationships with friends for years to come. People love to talk about themselves. Research shows that talking about yourself activates the same parts of the brain that food, drugs, and sex do! nine0013

It has been scientifically proven that self-disclosure (and encouraging other people to open up) makes you a more attractive person and helps you form deeper social bonds.

Therefore, never forget that talking about these topics is very important in relationships with friends. After all, the right questions for friends will lead to new, funny, surprising, deep and very personal conversations with your girlfriend or friend.

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Oksana is a positive thinker and independent writer. Likes to write inspiring articles about relationships with the opposite sex. She researches a lot of literature on self-improvement, family, relationships, health and other aspects of life. Therefore, I am happy to share my knowledge with my readers. You can write to her by mail: [email protected]

Questions for friends: strengthen friendship

📖 Contents:

  • Questions about relationships
  • Questions about you
  • Fun questions
  • “What would you prefer?” questions
  • Interesting questions
  • Deep questions

It's a fact that hours of talking help strengthen friendships. But if you don't know how to come up with conversation starters, don't worry.

From fun, easy, ice-melting first meeting questions to deep, emotional questions, we've got a huge list of questions for you and your friends to suit all tastes! nine0013

60 questions to help friends get to know each other better

How well do you know your friends? Make your conversations meaningful by asking meaningful questions.

Questions about relationships

Use these questions to tell your friends about past and current relationships.


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  • How old were you when you first kissed?

  • Who was the last person to break your heart?

  • What is the most repulsive thing about a potential partner?

  • Do you like to be left alone or comforted after a fight?

  • What traits must be present in your partner?

  • Would you choose intelligence despite someone's appearance? nine0013

  • How do you best connect with others?

  • Top 3 nos when it comes to relationships?

  • Do you regret your relationship decisions?

  • 5 things that make a relationship successful?

Questions about you

Get your friends to talk about you. This is the easiest way to truly get to know their innermost thoughts, values ​​and their personalities.

  • What do you like most about yourself?

  • Is there a person who inspires you?

  • Do you ever regret what you did in the past?

  • What makes you happiest? And the saddest?

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  • Do you have a fear of speaking in public?

  • What household chores do you secretly enjoy doing?

  • Do you have a family tradition that you promise to continue? nine0013

  • What hobbies are on your to-do list?

  • What are you a specialist/expert in?

  • What is your favorite scent?

  • Are you comfortable going to a restaurant alone?

  • Do you have a culinary specialty?

  • Do you have a collection that nobody knows about?

  • Do you have a hidden tattoo?

  • Are you free to express your opinion? nine0013

  • What is your favorite place in the world?

  • Do you have a dream car?

  • What is your earliest memory?

  • What are you most afraid of?

  • What do you miss when you think about your childhood?

Fun Questions

Use these fun questions if you need to break the ice a bit before asking more serious questions.

  • Which game application do you use the most? nine0006
  • Do you have a favorite superhero?
  • What conspiracy theories do you believe?
  • Are you in love with a movie villain?
  • What's the weirdest thing you've seen on the Internet?
  • What websites do you visit daily?
  • What is the dumbest thing you have ever agreed to do as a challenge?
  • Can you survive without social networks? If you only had one account, what platform would it be on?
  • Do you believe in the paranormal? nine0006
  • If a genie gave you 3 wishes, what would you wish for?

“Which would you prefer?” questions

“Which would you prefer” questions are not only easy to ask, but also easy to answer. These questions reveal what your friends really like and don't like.

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  • Coffee or tea?
  • Cookies or cakes?
  • Cinema at home or at the cinema?
  • A grand wedding or a quiet ceremony with a round-the-world honeymoon trip? nine0006
  • Book or listening to music?
  • Diet or exercise?
  • Rubber boots or flip flops?
  • Write your thoughts on paper or speak out loud?
  • Skip breakfast or dinner?
  • Put on your torn shirt or buy a new one?
  • Dancing alone or with other people?
  • Pinterest or Twitter?
  • Beer or cocktails?
  • Hiking or swimming?
  • Shark or zombie death?

Interesting questions

Want to know how your friend's brain works? These questions will give you clues.

  • Do you have a strange recurring dream?

  • If you could learn a language freely, which one would you choose?

  • What day will you never forget?

  • How close are you to your colleagues?

  • If you could have a dinosaur or dragon as a pet, which one would you choose? nine0013

  • Did I do something for you that you will never forget?

  • What was the last thing you did for the first time?

  • If you were given the right to erase one holiday, what would it be?

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  • Have you done anything from your wish list?

  • What was the most impressive event you attended?

Deep questions

It's hard to just blurt out questions about a friend's hopes and dreams, beliefs and opinions. Sometimes it takes the right time for this to get your friend ready to open up to you.

So, when should you start asking serious and deep questions? Are there any unspoken rules here? There are 3:

1. Nothing is forbidden

You can talk about anything from the most disgusting food you have ever eaten to the most unpleasant things you have ever done. If you and your friend have already bonded over boogers or what you'll be doing during a zombie apocalypse, then you can probably dig deeper and talk about serious topics. nine0013

2. You can cry, laugh or hiss at each other

If you or your friend let your emotions run wild without judging each other, this is also an ideal time to get to know each other better.

3. You kept each other's secrets for a long time.

There's a reason why some people consider socializing with friends to be free therapy.

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Sometimes serious questions can open closed wounds or bring back an injury. Also, sometimes it can highlight a person's trust issues.

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