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This quiz is designed to help give you some idea about whether or not you may be a psychopath or sociopath, or have psychopathic tendencies. This quiz is not meant to diagnose psychopathy or tell you definitively whether or not you’re a psychopath. But it will give you a pretty good idea, based upon the research. For each item, indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. Take your time and answer truthfully for the most accurate results.

This online screening is not a diagnostic tool. Only a trained medical professional, like a doctor or mental health professional, can help you determine the next best steps for you.

A person suffering from psychopathy is something that mental health professionals might typically diagnose as antisocial personality disorder. Someone with this kind of personality disorder typically experiences four (4) or more of the following symptoms: failure to conform to social norms; deceitfulness; impulsivity; irritability and aggressiveness; a reckless disregard for other people’s safety; consistent irresponsibility; and a lack of remorse.

Learn more: Symptoms of Antisocial Personality Disorder

Many people confuse psychopathy with sociopathy. These are pop psychology terms whose meaning are not well-defined by researchers, but you can understand the differences between a psychopath and a sociopath here.

Learn more: Why Do People Become Psychopaths?

Treatment of Antisocial Personality Disorder

While psychopathy doesn’t completely align with antisocial personality disorder, the two are similar enough to suggest treatment options might also be similar. You can learn more about the treatment options here.

Ready to start therapy? Our Find a Therapist resource may help.

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Differences Between a Psychopath & Sociopath?

Perceptions Aside: Differences Between a Psychopath & Sociopath?

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You may have heard the words “sociopath” and “psychopath” used to describe a person living with antisocial personality disorder. Here’s what they really mean.

Society has sensationalized words like “sociopath” and “psychopath.” Many folks wrongly conjure up images of irritational, temperamental individuals or coldhearted people with no emotion. Thanks to portrayals in books and movies, many folks have skewed views about what the difference actually is and what it means to live with such a mental health condition.

There are nuanced differences between the two terms, and in learning them, you might get a clearer understanding of what antisocial personality disorder — the actual clinical condition — actually is.

The difference between a psychopath and sociopath is often unclear, since both are more pop culture terms for antisocial personality disorder (ASPD) than actual clinical terms.

In general, psychopathic behaviors often otherwise appear typical except the person might use charm and charisma to manipulate others. On the other hand, a person with sociopathic behaviors may be more erratic and more likely to get angry, which can cause them to have disruptions to their daily lives.

When people say	Stereotypes they’re typically presuming
Sociopath	hot-tempered, lack of empathy, devoid of guilt or shame, ambivalent to consequences, manipulative
Psychopath	cold-blooded, violent, devoid of morals, incapable of love, calculating

It can be hard to tell the difference between sociopathic behavior and psychopathic behavior. If you’re concerned that you or a loved one may be showing signs of it but you aren’t sure, you can try this quiz to see if you or your loved one shows signs of psychopathic behavior.

Mentalhealth.gov says antisocial personality disorder is a mental health condition where a person shows a pattern of manipulating or violating other people’s rights. A person living with antisocial personality disorder may or may not have a history of criminal behavior.

Symptoms may include:

breaking the law repeatedly
leveraging the ability to act witty and charming
manipulating other people’s emotions and using flattery
problems with substance misuse, relationships, or work
no regard for the safety of self and others
frequent arrogance or anger
often stealing, lying, and fighting — with justifications for their actions
not showing remorse or guilt for their actions

Brain differences

Growing evidence suggests that certain differences in the structure of a person’s brain may be reliable landmarks for antisocial personality disorder.

In a 2017 study, researchers found notable differences in the structures of white matter in the brains of people with antisocial personality disorder.

White matter is brain tissue made of nerve fibers that connect nerve cells and help brain regions communicate. People with ASPD were shown to have differences in white matter connected to regions that impact consequential and impulsive behaviors.

In 2020, researchers published a report in The Lancet Psychiatry detailing how people living with antisocial personality disorder have noted differences in their conduct over decades and showing MRI evidence of brain structure commonalities.

The findings could potentially help with further understanding of the disorder as well as more aptly diagnosing the condition.

You may have heard a lot of different theories about how antisocial personality disorder works and presents in others. You might find some of these myths and facts about antisocial personality disorder surprising.

Myth: Are they always violent?

Fact: People living with antisocial personality disorder are not always violent. They also may not break the law.

Unfortunately, some common symptoms of the disorder can cause a person to have trouble keeping a job or maintaining long-term relationships.

Myth: Do they have a conscience?

Fact: The Merriam-Webster dictionary defines conscience as:

sensitive regard for fairness or justice
conformity to what one considers to be correct, right, or morally good
the sense or consciousness of the moral goodness or blameworthiness of one’s own conduct, intentions, or character together with a feeling of obligation to do right or be good

It would be a blanket assertion to say people with antisocial personality disorder “don’t have a conscience.” No two people present any mental disorder in the exact way or with all of the accepted symptoms. Experiences and manifestations are across a spectrum of severity, frequency, and opportunity.

What we do know is that an older study from 2006 noted up to 51% of people living with the disorder feel no remorse for their actions. More recent information states that the disorder is classified as acting in a socially irresponsible way with no remorse.

Not everyone who’s dealing with antisocial personality disorder will consciously go out of their way to cause harm to others. In fact, people living with the condition can often develop coping skills and learn more about empathy when working with a compassionate therapist.

Myth: Can you tell from childhood who might grow up to be a sociopath or psychopath?

Fact: No one knows precisely who will develop antisocial personality disorder, though there are some clues scientists are looking into.

Researchers haven’t identified the exact reasons why some people develop antisocial personality disorder. However, they do suspect that both environmental and genetic factors may play a role.

Also of interest, children diagnosed with conduct disorder have a high likelihood of developing antisocial personality disorder as an adult. Research shows that children living with conduct disorder who have “limited prosocial emotions” particularly have a higher chance for developing antisocial personality disorder as an adult.

Myth: If avoiding blame and grandeur are part of antisocial personality disorder, nobody would ever agree they need help, right?

Fact: People living with antisocial personality disorder often have difficulty when it comes to relationships. This can affect their ability to maintain employment, have a happy romantic relationship, or strong familial relationships.

If you or a person you’re close to are living with antisocial personality disorder, you or they may not recognize the contributing factors worsening their lived experience. American Addiction Centers notes that people living with a personality disorder often blame others for their issues but will most often seek help for related issues, such as:

substance misuse
legal issues
relationship struggles
problems at work

Chris Ulmer is a former special needs instructor whose passion project interviewing kids with disabilities and neurodiverse people blossomed into a YouTube platform with more than 2 billion views. Here’s his conversation with a young man who manages antisocial personality disorder.

Pop culture often uses the terms sociopath and psychopath interchangeably to describe someone who actually has antisocial personal disorder. There are many myths about people with antisocial personality disorder.

If you or someone you’re close to is living with antisocial personality disorder, a compassionate therapist can help you or them develop coping skills and empathy.

Last medically reviewed on July 24, 2021

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The Hare Psychopathy Scorecard (PCL-R) is one of the most well-known questionnaires used to determine the level of psychopathy. Usually, it is used to detect psychopathic or antisocial tendencies in a person. Psychopaths ruthlessly manipulate others using charisma, deceit, and cruelty to achieve their goals. This test relies on the Hare Psychopathy Scorecard, but also uses factor analyses.

Do you or someone you know have psychopathy traits? For each following statement, indicate how much it concerns you or the person you have chosen.

Question 1 of 20

There were times when this person was cruel to others.

Doesn't apply. Partially concerned / don't know. Concerns.

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The Psychopathy Scorecard is widely used to detect signs of psychopathy. The questionnaire does not cover all possible types of psychopathy and is not intended for respondents who are trying to get around the system and go beyond human psychology. Contrary to popular belief, the psychopathy score sheet is not the only method for identifying signs of psychopathy. According to another theoretical source, which is used in such psychiatric manuals as the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, the results of the psychopathy scorecard are largely consistent with narcissistic, emotionally unstable and antisocial personality types. To learn more about these personality types, please take our Personality Disorder Quiz.

Although this test is designed to detect signs of psychopathy, it should not be confused with other similar tests developed by alternative organizations. However, all tests of this type are designed to determine the level of a person's psychopathy according to research in the Western world. The IDR-PCT © test is the property of IDR Labs International. The primary research belongs to criminal psychologist Robert D. Hare. The developers of this free test are graduates who have had experience with numerous personality tests and have also worked professionally with personality typology tests. The results of our online psychopathy test are provided "as is" and should not be construed as providing professional or certified advice of any kind. For more information about our online test, please see our Terms of Service.

Psychopath, how to identify a psychopath if a psychopath is nearby

CONTENTS of the ARTICLE answers the following questions: cruel people

Are psychopaths really smart

Does a psychopath understand that he is one

How to identify a psychopath using a test

If a psychopath is nearby - if a husband, wife, friend, child is a psychopath

Life with a psychopath

Who and how can one live with a psychopath, including in a family

What needs to be done to subdue a psychopath

Who can living with a psychopath normally and even happily

The main problem of life with a psychopath

About the recognition of his depravity by a psychopath

How a good life with a psychopath turns into a nightmare

Why it is easy to start a relationship with a psychopath

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Psychopath, who is it

There are two concepts under the term "psychopath":

1. Using it as a household.

We can call a person that when he has given free rein to his emotions and outwardly behaves not quite adequately.

2. Psychopath as a medical general concept.

It denotes a person with pathologies in the psyche, with various mental disorders of his personality. Mental pathology - psychopath, for short.

Precisely, as a general medical concept, in this article, it will be used.

Of course, one should not write down all of them as psychopaths.

We all go through life in such states that even without a psychotherapist we can say that something is “wrong” with the psyche.

BUT, in my opinion, a psychopath differs from an ordinary, adequate, normal person, precisely because his mental inadequacy is NOT a TEMPORARY state.

And there is his permanent property of both personality and psyche.

And the problem is that identifying a psychopath is not so easy.

You can easily connect your life with him, suffer long and hard, being in close relationship with him.

For example, to get him as a husband or wife, as a lover or mistress, as a friend. And it happens very easily.

What to expect from such a relationship?

And what can you expect, excuse me, from a relationship with a psycho?

External signs of a psychopath and psychopathy - how to recognize a psychopath

In order to recognize a psychopath in people around you, in principle, you need to know the signs of psychopathy.

As inquisitive people have noticed and psychologists and psychotherapists have confirmed, psychopaths are characterized by the following traits of character and behavior:

More about this: Psychopathy - a person with a lack of empathy (link to this article at the end)

- Emotional detachment, what is called in everyday life insensibility. Or, conversely, ostentatious emotionality, as they say: "feelings over the edge."

- Lack of guilt for what is happening. Even when a person is clearly involved in an immoral or criminal event.

In a relationship with a psychopath, everyone and everything is to blame, except for himself. Psychopaths have no or underdeveloped sense of duty and responsibility, including for themselves.

- Boorish, cruel, impudent behavior, especially in conditions of impunity. That is, the absence of elementary moral and ethical standards.

— Bad faith in relations with people and in the performance of work and duties.

A psychopath can easily betray a person, including a loved one. As if nothing had happened, it can make obvious or hidden meanness.

At work or in the performance of his duties, he thinks only about his own benefit and his own comfort. And not about the case, colleagues. And not even about their own children.

At the same time, as a rule, it is very well disguised - “encrypted”, putting on a mask of virtue.

- Psychopaths tend to fall into hysteria, scandal at the slightest pretext.

Meanwhile, they skillfully and for a long time can pretend to be “white and fluffy”.

No need to imagine that psychopaths are crazy or violent people

As a rule, they are quite intellectually developed. And therefore they can easily pretend to be normal - adequate people.

That is, the way they should be presented. And most importantly, how they want to be seen by those with whom they establish relationships in their own interests.

In other words, however strange it may seem, psychopaths are found not only among “ordinary people”.

But also among journalists, doctors, teachers, bosses, politicians, and many others.

Are psychopaths really smart?

In my opinion, human intelligence and rationality are still different concepts.

For by intelligence, mind, we understand the ability of the human brain to quickly and optimally - well, to carry out mental operations inherent in man.

And by the reasonableness of a person it is logical to understand his ability to live, namely, HUMANLY.

That is, to live according to the natural and social essences, human meanings, and not contrary to them.

Psychopathy, a priori, makes a person different from most adequate society around him.

Or, simply, from adequate people with whom he voluntarily or involuntarily enters into a relationship.

Does a psychopath understand that he is one
As a rule, a psychopath is smart enough to understand that his psychopathic manifestations harm him in establishing good relations with people.

Therefore, especially at the stage of establishing the relationship he needs, the psychopath is extremely cunning and resourceful in portraying himself as a good, normal person.

In other words, the intellectuality of a psychopath at this stage is manifested with might and main. He needs to completely remove even thoughts and suspicions about his psychopathy from his counterpart.

And when a person “falls into the net” of a psychopath, he will be bound by a relationship with him. This is where the psychopath drops the mask of normality and goodness.

And manifests its psychopathic properties without restraint or fear.

Is this reasonable, even in the interests of the psychopath himself?

Obviously: no. For destroying normal, good relations with other people, he harms not only them. But first of all, to yourself.

This is, in fact, another sign of psychopathy. But not so obvious, but mediated by the complex relationships of people, as such.

In my opinion, speaking in general, a psychopath, as such, is not an intelligent person or a little intelligent.

And the intelligence, the cleverness of a psychopath, faster, this is his erudition, resourcefulness. That is, adaptability to an adequate world and society, first of all.

Although, personally, I have never met really intellectually developed psychopaths in personal relationships.

Quite quickly it becomes clear that these are not distant, poorly educated, stupid people.

Despite all their attempts and show-offs in portraying themselves as someone significant and special.

BUT, be that as it may, it is always difficult to understand that psychopathy is also hidden under the stupidity of a person.

And we, people, after all, are quite loyal to the stupidity of others: we consider narrow-minded people harmless and even charming.

For example, we even love them as husbands and wives.

But when it turns out that a stupid person is also a psychopath, this is already terrible and terrible.

How to identify a psychopath using a test
It turns out that identifying a psychopath is not so difficult. If you know the criteria for personality psychopathy, which were compiled by psychoanalysts.

For example, I really liked the criteria in R. Hare's test.

Diagnosis of psychopathy based on R. Hare's checklist:

1. Well-suspended tongue and outward charm.

2. Great sense of self-importance.

3. Need for stimulation or tendency to be bored.

4. Pathological lie.

5. Deception and manipulation.

6. Lack of remorse or guilt.

7. Shallow feelings.

8. Callousness and lack of empathy. (Empathy is conscious empathy with the current emotional state of another person.)

9. Parasitic lifestyle.

10. Unrestrained behavior.

11. Promiscuity. (Promiscuity is a tendency to promiscuous, unrestricted sexual relations with many partners.)

12. Behavioral problems at an early age.

13. Lack of realistic long-term goals.

14. Impulsivity.

15. Irresponsibility.

16. Refusing to take responsibility for one's actions.

17. Many short-term "serious" relationships.

18. Was a “difficult teenager”.

19. Does not repent of committed offenses or crimes.

20. A wide range of offences.

Each of these items is evaluated in relation to this individual on a 2-point scale:

0 - if the statement is not applicable to him;

1 if partially;

2 - quite applicable to him.

A psychopath is one who scores 30 or more points in the sum of indicators.

If a psychopath is nearby - if a husband, wife, friend, child is a psychopath
What if you find out that you live with a psychopath?
Or with a person who is close to this state - "almost a psychopath."

And if you love him, and gave birth to children with him, and lived the best years of your life?
And are you not going to or can't part with him at all?

I don’t know about anyone, but I was “lucky” in my life - I met and still meet a lot of psychopaths.
Moreover, he had them both as wives and as friends.

So, I know the problem firsthand.

The main problem with a psychopath is his inability to love anyone but himself, the only one. Yes, plus, the same psychos as himself.

For a psychopath, based on his vision of relationships between people, is not able to understand: What is it like to love another person?

Except how to USE it to your advantage and for your needs. He does not see him, another person, application in his life.

And cannot treat him differently.

Life with a psychopath
In my opinion, one can live with a psychopath, and even happily. If to be the same as him, a psychopath.

That is, to profess and adhere to the same principles in life as he did.

If not, then, excuse me, your life with him will turn into an eternal hell of your struggle with his life principles. By which he lived, lives and will live.

For this, psychopathy, is not curable. Since, it is a state of personality and psyche.

And this, with modern methods and drugs of psychotherapy, can only be corrected, but not completely cured.

It can't be cured or redone - the brains can't be taken out, washed and put back in the best possible way.

And when we talk about brainwashing anyone, anyone.

That, this process means nothing more than sowing seeds on fertile soil.

That is, the introduction of ideas into the human mind. Who, by his personality traits, is already ready to perceive these ideas as his own.

In the case of a psychopath, a priori, this is impossible. It is impossible to introduce anything else into his consciousness by any means.

Different from what constitutes the essential properties of his personality and psyche.

At the same time, we must not forget that the personality of a psychopath is formed on the basis of the psyche, which has a hereditary predisposition to psychopathy.

And it was formed, as a psychopath, throughout the life of a psychopath, from birth.

That is, no matter how you twist it and try it, “you can’t change a psycho”, and you can’t fix it, and you can’t cure it.

As, in fact, it is impossible to remake a normal, healthy personality and human psyche.

Who and how can live with a psychopath, including in the family
When thinking about this issue, analyzing the experience and knowledge available, we can come to the following conclusions:

One of the essential properties of a psychopath is his lack of SELF-SUFFICIENCY.

And, moreover, strange as it may seem at first glance, INDEPENDENCE.

That is, a psychopath, due to his mental deviations, does not have a developed self-awareness. He simply cannot form it.

And he, therefore, always needs a patron-guide in life. Or a role model, how he should live - who he should be.

In other words, the psychopath does not have a more or less self-sufficient and autonomous "I" like a normal person. A associates it with someone like "We".

At the same time, of course, the psychopath believes and creates the appearance for others that he is independent and self-sufficient. Moreover, both in his behavior and in his actions, he supposedly has his own “I”.

And from here, and it is very important to understand: the psychopath WE CONTROL and subordinate. That is, maybe there is an object for manipulation by other people.

Who can become a manipulator for a psychopath - with whom can he unite his "I" into "We"?

And there are more than enough examples, and everyone sees and knows them in their lives and in relationships with psychopaths.

What needs to be done to subdue a psychopath
In order to subdue a psychopath and start controlling him, it is necessary to indulge him and his "fools" in every possible way.

This means, in fact, to have or only to portray such an attitude towards him as:

- love, respect, agreement with his opinion, understanding, friendliness, and the like.

Something like, if figuratively: you need to pet him, feed him and pet him, feed him further.

And the psychopath, like a dog, finds his master.

His "I" literally merges with the will and power over him of his patron.

From now on, he begins to perceive himself and associate his self-consciousness as "I" and "He", "She" or "They" - as "We".

And what do most people do when they recognize a psychopath in a person next to them?

That's right: they either begin to correct him or go to war with him, becoming his enemies.

Who can live normally and even happily with a psychopath
Whoever sincerely or pretending to love him. Or, at least, treats him well: appreciates him, considers him smart, handsome, and so on, in that spirit.

That is, a psychopath needs someone or those who APPROVE him just the way he is.

And this can be parents or a parent, and a husband or wife, or children. Or friends, or colleagues, and so on.

At the same time, often, parents, husband, wife, child, and other people who have dealings with a psychopath are psychopaths themselves.

And therefore it is easy for them to love and encourage their child or partner in his psychopathy.

But, such a happy cohabitation of psychopaths is possible ONLY under one condition:

— when one psychopath SUBMITS to another, and the second guides him through his life.

In principle, anyone can become a manipulator of a psychopath.

It is enough and necessary to caress him, literally, in the direct and figurative meaning of this concept.

These can be: parents, husband, wife, child, boss, colleagues, friends, and the like. And even "a person from the side. "

The main problem of life with a psychopath
The only question and problem is what!? You can tame a psychopath. BUT where to get the strength and patience to endure his psychopathy, which is not going anywhere.

A will continue to manifest itself in his inadequate thoughts-words and behavior.

That is, how to “pat him on the head” when he “carries” inadequate and behaves inappropriately, like a psychopath?

This concerns, first of all, close relationships with a psychopath. Life with him is his NORMAL husband, wife, children, parents.

About the recognition by a psychopath of his depravity
Rarely, but it happens (I have observed) that a psychopath clearly sees his psychopathy. He sees, but does not recognize himself as sick, of course.

He is sometimes able to sincerely ask you for forgiveness for his behavior and attitude towards you.

WHAT'S THE GOOD? Here, just, the saying is appropriate: The humpbacked grave will fix it.

For, having repented and apologized, a psychopath remains a psychopath.

So, to your "guilt" before him, one more was added. The fact that he was forced to “humiliate” himself in front of you, once asking for an apology.

After all, you were and are for him, a psychopath, "Nothing and Nobody." Which becomes something and someone, only if it brings him pleasure.

A happy, in a relationship with a normal person, a psychopath is extremely rare. It is almost impossible or very, very difficult to please him.

This person annoys him by himself. For, he feels and sees in him the opposite of himself.

How a good life with a psychopath turns into a nightmare ). Life with a psychopath, if not good, happy, then quite tolerable.

- Further, as the negative accumulates from inadequate words and actions in communication with a psychopath, his partner begins to CRITICATE him.

Namely, this is what a psychopath cannot bear. For he can never and never admit that he is something bad - he is devoid of self-criticism.

- The psychopath's critic automatically becomes bad. And to replace him, "good people" are quickly found - those who "stroke" him on the head.

- Now allied with new patrons, becoming the object of his manipulation.

A psychopath literally attacks the one who dared to consider him bad - criticizes and accuses him of psychopathy.

Or, if a person does not understand that he is living with a psychopath, then he is simply dissatisfied and accuses him of his bad behavior.

— And that's it: previously beloved and good husband, wife, children, parents, friends, and so on, become enemies of the psychopath.

As those, in his ideas, who do not understand, do not love and criticize, “touch” the psychopath.

And his idols and favorites are those who manipulate the psychopath. "Understanding" him, "loving", "considering him normal and good."

Why is it easy to start a relationship with a psychopath?

The fact is that, unlike normal people, they have an increased ability to please people.

Especially when they seek to have some kind of relationship with them.

By the way, as a rule, women, men, psychopaths have increased sexuality.

They are, sexually, more than usual, attractive and more indefatigable in sexual affairs than normal people.

This is explained by the fact that their animal essence dominates over their spiritual human essence.

They literally charm people with their understanding, attractiveness, and so on.

This mechanism is similar to the mechanism of killer flowers.

A psychopath is able to seduce you into any relationship with him - from family, love-sexual, to friendship.

And then, slowly and persistently, it will start to “devour” you.
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