Narcissistic womanizer traits


How I Overcame My Obsession For Dating Womanizers

I was a fool for players, womanizers, and narcissists. I couldn't get enough of their charm, swagger, and self-confidence. When I was the focus of a modern-day Don Draper, I felt smarter, funnier, and more attractive. I didn't know that their kind of attention was destructive.

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I had to learn the painful way that no matter how spectacular these types of men are, and how fantastic being with them feels, they will ultimately break your heart and kill your spirit.

They can't help it—it's what they're wired to do. They're born liars and cheaters. The saddest thing of all is that they lack empathy which makes it easier for them to hurt other people in the process of getting what they want. And what they want is to feel better about their own emotionally lacking lives without ever having to change.

Whatever you want to call them, the differences are small; a narcissist isn't necessarily a player or a womanizer, but womanizers and players are almost always narcissists. Both players and womanizers have sex with a lot of women—only a player doesn't pretend he's monogamous.

He's proud that he's not leading anyone on, and yet he still feels the need to lie. All of them mess with your head even if they aren't messing with your body, and none of them will take responsibility for their actions.

Don't hate the player, womanizer, or narcissist. Hate how scarily good they are at their game.

I had my first experience with a player when I was in 6th grade. Marc, our class' womanizer (or 'girl-izer' since we were still pre-teens) finally set his sights on me at a graduation dance held on our school's playground. This was after he had gone through all the other girls in our class.

I had been crushing on him forever but didn't want to be just a number on his get-with-list, even if he wrote it in a #2 pencil. Dancing on the asphalt in the glare of the afternoon sun was weird enough, but when Marc admitted that he liked me best, I panicked and ran away from him as fast as I could.

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If only at that time I had placed a restraining order on myself, forcing me to stay 100 yards away from any and all user losers. 

I would have saved myself a lot of pain and frustration. But no, it would take me years to finally get played out.

In high school, I almost slept with an older neighbor who ended up being a predator. When he shared with me visuals of all the underage girls he had been with, I was naturally creeped out. I didn't want to be on his long list of conquests, nor did I want to be the victim of statutory rape. I didn't know much, but I could tell that not only was he a womanizer, but he was also a narcissist and sociopath as well.

You'd think I would have continued to run in the opposite direction of all players/womanizers/narcissists but no. My first sexual encounter was with an actor and a notorious manwh*re.  After the deed, he went into a detailed account of every woman that he had slept with. Not the kindest way to make it a night I'd never forget.

A few years later, still in college, I was friends with another major player. I didn't sleep with him, I just watched as he used—students, faculty, visiting theater professionals—anyone who could help his career. He confided in me making me feel like an accomplice to his shady behavior. I didn't just know where he hid the bodies, I handed him the shovel.

I thought I had learned my lesson and was more careful, looking for all the signs of a womanizer before getting involved with another one. Then I met the man who would be the most damaging to me.

Did he have a reputation for using women? No. Did he move fast? Well kind of, but that was just because when you know it, you know it, and we both knew it.

Was he super romantic? Yes, but that was more than okay with me. Did he seem too good to be true? Sure, but sometimes you have to take a chance in love. I didn't realize that one of his greatest skills was his ability to lie and pretend to be who any woman might want him to be.

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I will spare you the gory details, but like so many other women, I thought I had met a wonderful good-looking man who seemed to return my affection. We weren't together long when he dumped me. I found out post-break-up, that he had been sleeping with hundreds (yep not exaggerating for shock value) of women. He had used me to feel better about himself. Once he did, he didn't need me any longer.

The worst part was that I ignored some very obvious clues. I had caught him in lies but was able to convince myself that everybody lies on occasion. When he would confuse me with someone else, I thought he just had memory issues, which wasn't the case. He couldn't keep track of all the women he was doing. We didn't have a real relationship, he just enjoyed having me affirm his supposed greatness.

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If you are keeping track, I've been involved with a grade school player, an old dirt predator/womanizer/sociopath, a womanizer/narcissist, another womanizer/narcissist, and lastly a pathological womanizer/narcissist. Can I pick them or what?

How did I end the cycle of getting played, used, and emotionally abused?

I focused all the love and infatuation that I had for the users on myself. Men, like the ones I dated, tend to prey on people with shaky self-images and those who feel lonely or vulnerable. I got in touch with my authentic self and learned to love who I was inside and out. I didn't require anyone else to make me feel special. I made my needs a priority and looked for a partner who would honor them.

No one can play you if you absolutely refuse to get played.

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Christine Schoenwald is a writer, performer, and astrology lover. She's had articles in The Los Angeles Times, Salon, and Woman's Day.

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5 Signs Youre Dating A Cheating Narcissist

Have you ever encountered a dating partner who swept you off your feet, courted you persistently and made over-the-top declarations about the way they felt about you only to discover they had a girlfriend or boyfriend all along? How about the ex who kept checking in with you over text while in bed with their spouse? Or the shady significant other who always seemed to disappear for days, only to return with excuses about their whereabouts?

You may have come across a narcissistic or sociopathic personality type. Narcissists and sociopaths are notorious for engaging in both emotional and physical infidelity. Not only are narcissists players and pick-up artists in the dating world, they are also serial cheaters in relationships.

In fact, a wealth of research suggests that narcissism is positively correlated with having extramarital affairs and more sexually permissive attitudes towards infidelity, even when there is satisfaction in the present relationship (Foster, Shrira, & Campbell, 2006;Hunyady, Josephs, & Jost, 2008; Mcnulty & Widman, 2014).

The difference between your garden-variety cheater and the narcissist is that the narcissist isnt searching for just cheap thrills; they are searching for power and control beyond what is fathomable to normal empathic beings. Due to their stunning lack of empathy, penchant for exploitation and thirst for validation and narcissistic supply (sources of admiration, praise, sex, and any other resources they desire), narcissists create harems or fan clubs of admirers, ex-lovers and potential mates which they can feed off of all while maintaining a long-term relationship with a primary partner. They have an insatiable need for validation and attention. When combined with their sense of sexual entitlement, this makes them dangerous predators who place their partners at high risk for emotional and physical repercussions.

Their ability to gaslight their victims into believing in them, their capacity to dupe multiple victims, to manipulate and manufacture fabrications long-term is what makes them such stellar performers. Frankly, the numerous ways they convincingly present a false mask and warp reality are astounding and can create massive cognitive dissonance in their victims. This duplicity allows them to dupe not only their partners but also society as a whole into believing that they are the charming, upright, moral and honest people they pretend to be.

Here are five signs you may be dating or involved in a relationship with a cheating narcissist.

Beware of the grandstanding narcissist who deals in contradictions and hypocrisy. Grandstanding is a habit of the covert narcissist someone who boldly declares how honest and trustworthy they are repeatedly, yet fails to follow through with their words time and time again.

When someone constantly talks about how much they believe in integrity and honesty, that can be a red flag in itself. Ask yourself: why would someone who is truly decent and honest have to reaffirm these qualities to those around him or her? Those with authentic integrity do not have to always talk about the fact that they possess this quality they live their integrity through their actions more than their words.

If someone appears too good to be true, chances are, they probably are. Narcissists are often wolves in sheeps clothing. They project a different image of themselves to the world which contradicts who they really are within. They often speak in absolutes, claiming that they would never lie to you or cheat on you. They overemphasize their trustworthiness because they know their character is hollow.

While people who are not narcissists can do this as well, narcissists who are serial cheaters will often volunteer information early on about how they were cheated on. This is to depict themselves as the victims of infidelity when they were frequently the perpetrator of it in their past relationships.

Watch out for anyone who appears to display the red flags of cheating all while claiming they themselves were the victims of cheating. This is projection and gaslighting to keep you off-balance and keep you doubting your own instincts about their character.

If youre in the early stages of exclusively dating a narcissist, you might notice that he or she tends to disappear often without a word or cancels plans last minute (or makes plans with you last minute). You might mistake this for mere flakiness, when in reality, it could be a sign that they are knee-deep in other dates or in hot pursuit of new victims.

Its common for narcissists to continue dating others evenif youve both agreed to be exclusive. Narcissists have a high degree of entitlement, so they feel entitled to the rush that new supply grants them as well as sex or any other resources offered by their other harem members.

“Another common trait of the chronic narcissist is his or her pattern of not following through on agreements and obligations. This can range from the relatively mild, such as flaking out on appointments and tasks, to the highly serious, such as abandoning major responsibilities and relationships (commitments). Being self-centered and conceited, the narcissist will generally meet his or her obligations only when they suit his self-interest. Chronic narcissists do not relate, they use. They talk a good talk, but often fail to back it up.” – Preston Ni, 8 Common Narcissist Lies

Be wary of someone who constantly cancels on you or rarely responds with consistency. There is no such thing as reliability, punctuality or honesty with a narcissist they will place their multiple romantic prospects on rotation to suit their needs at whim and they will be indifferent to the pain or inconvenience they cause their partners when they suddenly pull out of plans on the day of or when they stand you up.

In long-term abusive relationships where stonewalling is common, cheating narcissists often use periods where theyre giving you the silent treatment to pursue their other targets. Thats why youll find that the narcissist asks you for a break or might even manufacture arguments out of thin air its simply an excuse to leave the relationship temporarily at bay while they explore their other options.

Narcissists and sociopaths use social media as a way to create love triangles among their targets. It gives them a sense of validation and power knowing that they have so many admirers who are willing to bend over backwards and give them the praise and attention they constantly need.

This suspicious behavior on social media can manifest in a variety of ways. Narcissists are known to be on dating apps even while committed and can also engage in obvious flirting both online and offline. Their shady behavior can range from their nefarious possession of dating apps to more innocuous online activity. You might notice that the narcissist posts strangely provocative or flirtatious comments on the photos of other attractive men or women.

Perhaps they refuse to put up a relationship status with you or they do, but they continue to openly hit on others or add suspicious new friends who seem to be far more than just friends. They may also follow a large volume of sexually explicit accounts. If someone youre dating exclusively (or even just flirting with) appears to already be in numerous relationships on social media all while claiming youre the only one, its time to reevaluate.

If they already have a relationship status listed with someone even while claiming they are no longer with them, it’s wise to notto take the narcissist at his or her word. Either verify with the other person that the relationship really is over like the narcissist claims or detach from the narcissist completely.

You might even be in a situation with a narcissist who has no social media accounts. This could be a way for them to protect themselves after all, if none of their other partners know that the narcissist is in a relationship, its far harder to be caught in this digital age.

This is quite an obvious sign, but its one that isnt often spoken about. If you see strange occurrences of victims that the narcissist has dated in the past calling them out publicly or going out of their way to warn you about them, take a step back. Its common that if a narcissist has a wide pool of victims, at least a couple of them will attempt to speak the truth about what they experienced.

The narcissist will claim these people who are speaking out about them are crazy liars or stalkers. In their smear campaigns, theyll bemoan how their past victims were obsessed with them or that they just couldnt let go. Its easy to depict past victims of narcissists as unhinged and the narcissist knows this. They will preemptively strike by telling lies about victims so that by the time these people reach out to warn you or tell their side of the story, youll already be more inclined to believe the narcissist.

The truth is that the person in question is warning you for a good reason they probably have experienced the infidelity themselves and want to prevent heartache for present and future victims. Dont be so quick to assume that every past lover who comes out of the woodwork simply has a vendetta. Survivors of narcissists are not obsessed they are often traumatized and looking for answers.

Narcissists and sociopaths are masters of pathological lying. They gain a sense of duping delight from being able to pull the wool over the eyes of their many romantic prospects. Sometimes, they lie to protect themselves and to prevent themselves from being caught cheating. They may lie about where they were the night before or tell elaborate tales about who the “friend” they were seen with really was.

However, other times, they may lie even when they have no reason to do so at all. For them, its about power and being able to control a persons perception gives them a thrill and sadistic sense of superiority and pleasure.

When it comes to infidelity, a narcissist or sociopath has no qualms lying to your face all while emphasizing how much they value honesty and transparency. They may have a primary girlfriend or boyfriend, even a spouse who they have (at least on the surface) committed to. Perhaps they even post romantic pictures with their significant partner and praise them on social media. However, they will not think twice about cheating on and gaslighting those same partners.

They also have no moral code that would prevent them from doing the unthinkable – no time limits or boundaries on when, where or how they’ll cheat or even who they’ll cheat with. They could be on a romantic vacation in Italy with you, all while swiping on Tinder and sending explicit videos to strangers. Or, if youre not their primary partner, they could be spending the weekends with their girlfriend all while taking you out on weeknights. You would never know, unless you began investigating.

As they do this, the risk of getting caught only adds to the thrill. They enjoy manipulating. They enjoy the sex, the resources, the endless supply of admiration coming their way. But most of all? They enjoy being able to get away with it.

If you notice these red flags, know that this person is unlikely to change. The way they have mistreated you was not personal they do this to all their victims and are loyal to no one, not even their primary partner.

It was not your fault that you were targeted by this predatory personality. However, what you do next with the knowledge you have is important. The earlier you detach from this toxic personality, the better chance you have of healing and of moving forward onto the loyal relationship you truly deserve.

References

Foster, J. D., Shrira, I., & Campbell, W. K. (2006). Theoretical models of narcissism, sexuality, and relationship commitment. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, 23(3), 367-386. doi:10.1177/0265407506064204

Hunyady, O. , Josephs, L., & Jost, J. T. (2008). Priming the Primal Scene: Betrayal Trauma, Narcissism, and Attitudes Toward Sexual Infidelity. Self and Identity, 7(3), 278-294. doi:10.1080/15298860701620227

Mcnulty, J. K., & Widman, L. (2014). Sexual Narcissism and Infidelity in Early Marriage. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 43(7), 1315-1325. doi:10.1007/s10508-014-0282-6

Ni, P. (2014, August 14). 8 Common Narcissist Lies. Retrieved August 26, 2018, from https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/communication-success/201608/8-common-narcissist-lies

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How to identify a womanizer? - IVONA.UA

They are well brought up. They have animal magnetism. They get the most luxurious women, and the rest of the men envy them. They are womanizers, and every woman has experienced this phenomenon at least once in her life. Many platitudes have already been said about them, they adapt and disguise themselves beautifully, and they are sometimes very difficult to determine until you become a victim of their charm. Men prompted by what signs a womanizer can be identified. It is about these distinctive features will tell Ivona .

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1. Everything at once but too fast. All because he is not interested in a relationship. He knows the right words, he knows when to say them to get what he wants. From dating, the womanizer goes straight to flirting, or even to unambiguous proposals. Of course, there may be some charm in such courtship, but the interlocutor's excessive assertiveness should immediately alert you. nine0005

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2. He is a loner

He does not need your words of encouragement or sympathy, he does not let you into his personal life (does not introduce you to friends, talks little about himself, etc. ), but does not climb into yours either? Perhaps before you is a typical representative of lone wolves. They may hunt in packs, but each goes to his lair alone.

3. He is a narcissist

Every person should have a drop of healthy self-admiration. However, if on a date with a man you feel like a third extra between the interlocutor and his stories about yourself, then you may not just be a womanizer, but a narcissistic womanizer. He can talk about himself for hours, flex his muscles and smile mysteriously, turning to you with an exceptionally photogenic side of his face. So he tries to “show the product face“. nine0005

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4. He showers compliments

Every girl will be pleased to hear a compliment when it is sincere and appropriate. However, it is certainly alarming when a man begins to speak to you exclusively in epithets. Such a bust with praise can mean that either your interlocutor is terribly worried and does not fit anything else, or you have a womanizer in front of you who is trying to cajole you and lull your vigilance with sweet speeches. nine0005

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5. He doesn’t make plans that they are against the meeting, but because they themselves do not know with whom and in whose bed they will end up by the end of the evening. They, as a rule, live one day and use only what this particular moment offers them.

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6. He is forgetful

Although this is not quite the right wording, you can't forget what you don't know. Womanizers, as a rule, are not very attentive to what you tell them, and they can easily confuse one of their partners with another. By the way, this is why they rarely call their girlfriends by their first names, preferring formal, non-binding nicknames.

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How to recognize womanizer psychology. A man is a womanizer, you will recognize him from a thousand

A woman who has been offended by a womanizer gains experience in relations with them. She will stop relying on them, will behave more carefully. But, she will still be drawn to eloquent, beautifully caring men. She will believe that next time the gallant womanizer will not deceive her. She will again believe his beautiful words, gestures, again believe his persuasion. nine0069 By deeds, by the manner of behaving, one can determine the character of a man. Closely, watching him for the first minutes of the conversation, an attentive, experienced female eye to determine what he is like.

Signs of a womanizer

  • When meeting a woman, he is too confident.
  • Repeats learned phrases that can be said to any girl in any situation.
  • Quickly and easily, saving time, evaluates himself on the positive side.
  • He dresses fashionably, tries to look like a successful rich and generous man. At the first meeting, hurry up to continue communication. At the same time, he talks to other girls, examines their slender legs, giving them hints that he is free. nine0075
  • Immoderately flatters the girl, trying to make her embarrassed. No need to take his immoderate flattery for gallantry.
  • Appoints dates in the late afternoon, freeing up daytime for work. So the womanizer protects love relationships with the prose of life.
  • He often visits places where many girls and young women can be found. In nightclubs, on pleasure walks, at weddings.
  • Having won one victory, the womanizer immediately loses interest in it. He is interested in new prey. Such a man is guided by his animal instincts, not his mind. He is never interested in the details of his lady's personal life and does not tell anything about himself. nine0075
  • A womanizer from the first meeting will make a woman unambiguous hints of intimacy. He invites them to drive to his apartment, drink a cup of coffee. Having received a refusal, he will not remind himself of himself for a couple of weeks, and then repeat the offer again. Bored and afraid of losing such a gallant man, most often, a woman agrees to intimacy.

The man continues dating, not out of a desire to get to know the woman better. He wants to quickly share a common bed with her. The womanizer does not seek to start a relationship, he simply lowers them to the level of sex. A woman suffers that after a love relationship, a man still considers himself free. The womanizer quickly ceases to be interested in his partner and begins to look for a replacement for her. For him, the process of courtship is important. A woman in love with him is no longer prey for a womanizer. nine0005

Two opposites of a womanizer

  1. A man wants to enjoy making love with different women. He quickly leaves his partner for a new acquaintance. Such men are popularly called libertines.
  2. Leaves a woman as soon as a serious relationship begins between them. He is afraid of emotional addiction

Why doesn't he want to stop before he gets a bad reputation?
Because a womanizer strives to fall in love with a woman faster. With each victory over a woman, he gets more and more used to such relationships, which are difficult for him to break. nine0005

How to defeat them?

Trying to connect her fate with a womanizer, a woman will need to spend a lot of nerves to overcome his unreasonable fears. It is necessary to overcome his negative attitude towards the female sex. But, if she loves him, then she has a chance.
The following rules will help a woman marry a womanizer.

  • Do not rush things. Meetings should take place only at the request of the woman. When she wants, not when the womanizer agrees. A man, when he falls in love, is ready to meet daily and keep his partner until late at night. nine0069 Personal affection for a woman should outstrip the love yearning of a man. A woman needs to resist the onslaught of a man, promising a date in the near future.
  • No need to rush to make love. In normal men, intimacy determines the beginning of family life. For womanizers, it means the end of a love romantic relationship. The longer the bouquet-flower relationship lasts, the better. After all, womanizers have more respect for the woman who is the hardest to win. The difficulty of possessing a woman only increases his desire. But, then, having achieved his goal, he will appreciate his partner, and consider himself a hero. nine0075
  • A woman needs to defend her right, not to yield to her partner in anything. A womanizer does not respect complaisant women. They are pleased with the victory won with difficulty.
  • A woman with a strong character, having her own opinion and great demands is a worthy opponent on the love battlefield. A woman who knows exactly what she needs prolongs the womanizer's interest in her person. And of course, she earns his respect.

  • Do not allow yourself to be treated carelessly. The womanizer carefully looks at the subject of his passion. According to the reaction of his lady to his courtship and actions, he meticulously evaluates her. Therefore, in order for a woman to be appreciated, it is necessary to make great claims to a man. She must not allow vulgar anecdotes to be told in her presence, to be treated familiarly with her. She must be treated with respect. nine0075

Two ways to teach a womanizer lessons in respect for a woman?

  1. Act according to his rules. It’s not bad to get if, after intimacy, the woman herself will be the first to leave the man. She will not only stop calling him herself, but will not answer his calls. She will fully enjoy his discouraged appearance.
  2. Acting according to the second method, a woman can make an exemplary husband out of a womanizer. She needs to prove to him that all his fears are in vain. That love exists in the world, and family relationships may please him. A woman has to put a lot of effort, intelligence and patience, but the family is worth it. But, as a rule, womanizers are not fixable. They will walk after the wedding. They just restrain themselves if there are many beautiful women around. nine0075

Many women find themselves in relationships with womanizers, receiving as a gift a sad experience and fear for the rest of their lives, the fear that they may again fall into the clutches of a deceiver. To avoid re-injury, you need to learn to identify this type of men, i.e. womanizers. These womanizers have common behavioral traits with which they win girls over and then throw them away like garbage.

If at least a couple of the signs listed below suit your friend, run away from him as far and as quickly as possible. nine0005

How to identify a womanizer

Excessive charm.

Such men are usually very attractive and handsome, even irresistible. And every woman wants to think that she is the one to whom he shows sincere sympathy - not like everyone else. The womanizer is full of charm, which can make you feel embarrassed for such unflattering ideas about him. Believe me, such don Juans are not the best choice. Try to avoid this charm, for your own good. A real man does not like much attention, trying to behave more modestly. nine0005

Way of getting to know each other.

The simplest and most common sign of a womanizer is the way he meets women. Such males most often use phrases, such as: our night will be magical, baby. Also, such males love to humiliate everyone around them, and brag about their possessions.
Their clothing style is catchy, often diluted with jewelry.

The man said - the man forgot.

Probably every woman has come across a man whose words and actions diverge. A man who makes impossible promises talks about love and marriage, but in reality, he only dreams of one thing - to drag him into bed. And this is all because he is the most natural womanizer. In addition, if he devotes all his free time not only to you, perhaps he has another “victim”. Choose for yourself a man who can sacrifice his time for you and will not be lost all the time among his constant affairs. nine0005

Meeting time.

If your admirer wants to see you only late in the day, then he is probably a womanizer. If the rest of the day he does not appear, then he has only one thing in his head. A sincerely in love man will remember you all day, and not just closer to the night.

Excessive flow of compliments.

These guys have years of training behind them, they know the most sophisticated and beautiful compliments. This is a true womanizer and all his compliments are like words to the wind. There is one reliable statement: if a young man emphasizes your appearance more than 5 times in a conversation, he is most likely filming you. nine0005

Hello, bye.

This is one of the most brutal acts of a womanizer. He is immediately lost, after a night of love. Such males make girls fall in love with them, then use them and abandon them without leaving a trace. In this situation, you need to move forward. Do not stagnate on disappointment and tears - this will be the best solution.

With the help of new technologies, you can learn a lot about a person by viewing his page on a social network. If the page of your new acquaintance is strewn with photos with different girls at parties, and there are a large number of women among his acquaintances, then it is better to say goodbye to him. A real man will not live his days as if his life is a continuous party with his girlfriends. nine0005

Loneliness.

Many men who do not want a relationship are simply afraid of obligations and attachment to one and only. In this case, they use flirting when they meet only to satisfy their lustful desires. If a guy has not had a relationship for a long time and explains this by saying that he does not need a serious relationship, then he is a womanizer. A man must live with a woman for at least six months, and then as fate wills.

Flirt.

Of course, any man will stare at beauties, this is how nature works, but only if it is a fleeting wandering glance and nothing more. If your man, while in the company, pays more attention to other persons, you should be wary. A real man puts his woman first, no matter what beauties surround him.
It is also known that at the mention of intimate relationships with former mistresses, womanizers' eyes light up, while modest men prefer to close this topic. nine0005

These were the most common signs of a womanizer. You should not get carried away with such men, because at the end of your romance you will feel severe pain. But, the decision is always yours. And if you still decide to build a relationship with such a person, you should know how to fall in love with a womanizer .

How to make a womanizer fall in love with you

Don't rush your romance.

The first rule is that dates should take place only when the woman wants to. After all, males who are overcome by passion want to see a woman as often as possible and for as long as possible. nine0069 Rapid rapprochement is dangerous because excitement develops faster than attachment. A good way to handle pressure is to firmly say no today and move the date as gently as possible to another day.

Do not rush into intimate relationships.

Family-minded men consider sex to be the beginning of their family life. Womanizers, on the contrary, consider sex to be the end of the novel.
A small victory - to conquer an easily accessible girl, therefore, the later it comes to intimacy, the better. nine0005

Do not yield to him in anything.

Such Don Juan will not be to the taste of a woman with an accommodating character. Quite often, womanizers get bored because of their hot nature, therefore, having received a good and hard rebuff, they enjoy it.
The most interesting and worthy opponent in a romantic battle is a woman with a strong character, who has her own individual views on the world. And everyone knows that a lady who definitely knows her goals and knows how to control herself arouses great interest and admiration in men. nine0005

Don't let yourself be treated badly.

Womanizers show constant attention to a woman not only for the sake of courtship. At this time, he carefully studies the female reaction to his words and actions in order to determine for himself her assessment without spending extra effort.
Therefore, great demands must be made - there is no other choice. Stop any vulgar jokes and do not allow obscene attitude, uphold respect for yourself to the end.

If your attempts were unsuccessful, and the womanizer broke your heart, you can take revenge on him. Revenge, of course, is not the best option, but if after that it becomes easier for you, then there are 2 ways to take revenge on a womanizer:

  1. Get even with him the same way. Great revenge will come out if you manage to use this libertine for sex just as hard and mercilessly and quit abruptly. Moral satisfaction is guaranteed to you.
  2. This method is much more difficult. But its results can be excellent - a man can really change and become an exemplary family man. This can happen only when a man realizes his mistakes and understands that his behavior is incorrect. To do this, you need to convince him that love is not just words, and that finding a family will become for him the most precious wealth in his life. nine0069 Only a wise and understanding woman can do this, so please be patient. And believe me, the result is worth it.

Sadly, but very often in the life of almost every woman there are womanizers. Basically, these are well-groomed men who know a lot about seducing women. It is very difficult to interest them, and it is generally very difficult to fall in love with a womanizer. But we're not looking for easy ways, are we?

Psychologists say that the same methods should be used towards them. Naturally, you need to apply such methods that for ordinary men may seem inappropriate. nine0005

How to interest and fall in love with a womanizer - women's advice

If you think that something is wrong with you, since you have fallen in love with a womanizer, do not rush to look for "marriage" in yourself. Such a desire in women is caused by a prehistoric instinct, if they see that the male is very popular with other females, this means that he is, as it were, marked with a quality mark.

So it is, as a rule, many womanizers are very handsome men who are liked by almost everyone and conquer women in bulk just by entering the room. nine0005

Many girls dream of such a man, without thinking that having got such a copy, they will have to put up with the fact that every stranger passing by stares at their soul mate all their lives. If you're ready for this, read on.

The most important thing is to work on yourself. Create an image so that the womanizer can pay attention to you and become interested in you. A little mysterious, different from others. And he will immediately become interested in you;

Make him play by your rules to make a womanizer fall in love with you. Let him think that it is his person who is being given so much attention. After all, bastards are narcissists. Take all the power into your own hands. Let mutual friends introduce you. And keep moving on;

Move away from him a little. Pretend that he is indifferent to you, but at the same time sometimes flirt, smile. Intrigue will awaken great interest in him. He will begin to think - what kind of person is this, who seems to be paying attention to him, and at the same time, does not let him near her. This is where his pride starts to hurt. And plus the mystery. And men love to solve this kind of riddles. Everything should be in moderation; nine0005

Interest him with your mind, erudition, ability to support any topic;

You should not immediately agree to a date. Let a little work to achieve this;

Do not rush to immediately jump into his bed. As usual, after that, their interest in you will fall. He will put another plus sign, put you another number for himself and almost everything. Serious relationships such people do not give birth. It's not in their interest. To fall in love with such a man, do everything so that this does not happen as long as possible. Then it will be practically yours; nine0005

And finally. You must have high self-esteem, or at least show him that. Don't let him think you're as accessible as everyone else.

And, having done all these actions, you will definitely interest the womanizer. And maybe he will be your life partner. After all, even they once understand that they can be left alone.

How to imperceptibly fall in love with a womanizer once and for all

The first thing to do is to attract the attention of this young man. Try to build the situation in such a way that your mutual acquaintances introduce you to him, but prepare properly for this meeting, “arm yourself”, try to impress an interesting and mysterious woman, so that he, as they say, “bite on the live bait”. nine0005

Be sure to keep yourself somewhat aloof, and not show that you are interested in this guy, I will say right away that it is not easy at all and you need to have good acting skills and self-control, but these abilities are generally useful in life.

Try not to react too actively to his statements, humor. You will interest him and he will have a desire to impress you, because he does not know about your plans. Just don't be too distant or he might get tired and stop trying to win you over. nine0005

Keep him on his toes and occasionally give him an incentive to keep wooing you and eventually make him fall in love with you. You can allow him to meet with you some other way, believe me, he will be waiting for this meeting and will come to it already prepared.

Your next step is to interest him in your personal qualities, show him that you are a very interesting person with whom he is very interested in spending time, this will puzzle him and greatly reduce his ambition, which will certainly be in your favor. nine0005

Sexual relations are very important. Try to delay them as long as possible so that he dreams about it. Because if he easily gets you, then you will turn out to be another victory for a womanizer, and most likely your relationship will stop developing.

How to fix a womanizer?

Although every man considers himself an incorrigible womanizer in his heart, in fact, a womanizer belongs to a very special type of man, although quite common in our time.

How to fix a womanizer and is it possible to succeed in this difficult task? Falling in love with a womanizer is not an easy task. Be prepared for the fact that you will need all your will and iron endurance.

Alas, although womanizers are quite attractive, they know female psychology well, and every woman can feel like a queen, communicating with him, the key word here is “everyone”. The womanizer is not able to stop there, he will constantly strive to find a new goal and a new partner. That is his nature. nine0005

· It makes sense to beat a womanizer with his own weapon. In other words, if you are confident in your abilities, you can show him that you are also not born with a bast, and he can master your body, but in order to conquer your soul, he will have to sweat very, very much.

To make a womanizer fall in love with you, you can allow yourself a lot in bed, but as soon as morning comes, the bird must fly away and this night does not mean any rapprochement. Set a hard distance that he will have to overcome every time he wants to see you again. And of course - no phone calls or intimate conversations. nine0005

· The womanizer is not accustomed to such treatment, and he will constantly gnaw at the thought that he never managed to win you over. This will force him to attack again and again with the same result. If he is too persistent - play bewilderment, they say, we are adults, well, we enjoyed each other - what more? Everything was great - but that's it.

· Since the womanizer is used to dictating his own terms and being the master of the situation, such a reaction will completely confuse him. A woman who does not fit into the stack of his victories will be an unconquered peak for him, which he is obliged to win, if only out of self-esteem. Otherwise - what kind of a womanizer is he? nine0005

· So you can play with him for a while, and if you notice that the eternal waiting is starting to weigh him down, you can start another game. Show him that you like him, but you resist because you are not sure that he is your prince, whom you have been waiting for all your life. Then he will try to dispel these doubts in your soul.

· In fact, womanizers, despite all their victories, are full of internal complexes and self-doubt. And all their adventures are just a way to prove to himself that he is the best. If he really feels like this with you, it is possible that you will be able to fall in love with a womanizer. nine0005

“And I recognize a sweetheart by his walk”, and a potential traitor can be recognized by his face.

Men are different: white, black, red. But, seriously, people are all different, and men even more so. There are men, and there are womanizers. There is no woman who would like to see a traitor next to her.

Where do womanizers come from?

Who is usually called a "womanizer"? A man who cannot build a relationship with one woman, "peri kati field."

Scientists doctors believe that a womanizer is a disease! And they even gave it a medical name - intimophobia. nine0005

Where do womanizers come from? Nobody knows for sure. There are different opinions, some argue that this is inherent at the genetic level, others are simply sure that they become womanizers due to upbringing, others believe that it is from lack of confidence in their male abilities in order to prove to others, and to themselves, including what kind of “man” he is. ".

Girls are not so much interested in where they come from, but how to recognize them, so that later they do not have to sob and bite their elbows. And we must give them their due, they have learned to recognize them. What is most interesting, you can recognize a potential traitor by the face. nine0005

Scientists conducted research

Scientists, and among them there are many women, also puzzle over this problem. An interesting discovery was made by the luminaries of science from the University of Western Australia. Scientists conducted research by conducting a survey among men who are considered potential womanizers and traitors. The traitors frankly confessed their betrayals, and the experimenters photographed them. The photographs were shown to the women, and they unmistakably identified the womanizers. It's amazing, but the tendency to change can be read in the face! nine0005

Recognizing a womanizer by his face

Man a womanizer, you will recognize him out of a thousand just by looking at his face! His "viciousness" is written on his face!

Specialist in visual psychodiagnostics German Teplyakov, relying on many years of experience in observing appearance and behavior, advises girls to pay attention to the characteristic signs of a man who is prone to adultery.

Traitor Chin

The chin is a traitor to a man of a polygamous lifestyle. And what kind of chin does the traitor have? A dimple on the chin, or bifurcation, or a transverse wrinkle will give out a womanizer. nine0005

The jaw is an indicator of infidelity

A narrow jaw is usually an indicator of infidelity in both women and men.

Large mouth and heart-shaped lips

Loving person gives out a big mouth and lips "heart". Judge for yourself, because they seem to be made for kissing.

Turkish beard

Potential traitors very often "wear" a Turkish beard on their faces.

Nostrils give out bodily impulses nine0311

Man is a womanizer, can have any nose, both in shape and length. Sexual temperament and bodily impulses betray the nostrils. And what are they? Wide!

Eyebrows tell about a tendency to lie

Predisposition to change can be recognized by the eyebrows. Highly located eyebrows will tell about a tendency to lie, especially if they also have an arched shape.

Eyes and gaze

Men who gravitate toward infidelity have medium or large eyes, a fixed gaze, and also a sly one. It has been observed that the darker the iris, the stronger the temperament. nine0005

High level of sexuality

The high level of a man's sexuality can be judged by his deep voice and sharp mind.

By the way

By the way, it should be noted that all these signs only indicate a predisposition to betrayal, despite the fact that they are time-tested.

Facial expressions and gestures indicate

Moiseeva Alla Anatolyevna - a psychologist and polygraph examiner, a specialist in lie detection, claims that a womanizer can be identified by the manner of speaking and on the basis of gestures, as well as by facial expressions. Facial expressions and gestures testify to untruth. There is a whole and how to recognize it. It is worth paying attention to how a person speaks and what he draws with gestures. The discrepancy between the balance of words, gestures, voice timbre and facial expressions should arouse suspicion. nine0005

With a mask of indifference one does not talk about love, when a person loves his face glows, and all emotions speak of happiness. This is the simple truth.

Experts suggest

A womanizer man is usually handsome and can turn any girl's head. The real Don Juan! Perhaps there are lovers of "tearing their hair" in nature, or self-confident ladies who think that they will change the womanizer. But if you do not belong to these categories, experts suggest that this is why there is a candy-bouquet period when a traitor can be convicted of a lie. You have time: listen carefully, watch facial expressions and gestures, read facial features. nine0005

Even an old woman gets a hole in the hole

There is a proverb as old as the world: “a hole happens even for an old woman”. But it may happen that the owner of “vicious” facial features has learned iron moral principles since childhood, and now wants a strong family. A modest, with inexpressive eyes is ready to go "breaking bad."

Man is a womanizer, you will recognize him from a thousand. Think, decide, the choice is yours, and only you decide!

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Almost all women like womanizers. They are devilishly charismatic, experienced and attractive. Polygamy is considered by the people as a male feature that cannot be got rid of, but life shows that even the most inveterate womanizer is able to become an ideal husband and a wonderful father. First of all, it depends on the readiness of the man himself to create a family. nine0069


If a guy doesn't want to date a woman anymore, it's useless to keep him.

Also, the behavior of a man is strongly influenced by the world around him. Today it is fashionable to be a male, macho and Casanova - among men, this is one of the signs of success. In addition, the parents of a womanizer may be to blame for a polygamous attitude to life, who from childhood inspired him that he is the best and not every girl deserves him.

And, finally, the behavior of a womanizer can be directly related to his personal characteristics. Most often there are temperamental cynical men who perceive a woman as an object of conquest, but nothing more. nine0005

How to recognize a womanizer at an early stage

Having become acquainted with, you should pay attention to a number of specific signs that will give you his passion for women with a head. Firstly, they are sociable, energetic, socially active and often are the soul of any, even an unfamiliar company. Usually they like to dress very conspicuously, visit nightclubs and other places where you can meet a girl and conquer another fortress.


Pay attention to - catchy clothes, grooming and jewelry often serve to hunt for impressionable women. nine0069

Womanizers can speak beautifully and ornately, using various familiar and even slightly obscene phrases in their speech.


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