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What Happens if You Masturbate Too Much?

Looking back on the pandemic, when social distancing and stay-at-home orders took IRL sex off the table, you might have started masturbating more than you ever have before. (What else was there to do?) While there are clear benefits to masturbation—you’re not going to get a sexually transmitted infection (STI) or accidentally impregnate your partner—you may now be wondering if you're in the habit of masturbating “too much.”

After all, excessive masturbation doesn’t have the best connotation. When we think of guys who masturbate every day, we think of pubescent boys hiding out in their locked rooms, attempting to break their daily “high record.” We don’t think of successful, grown men in loving relationships.

The truth, however, is there’s really no such “thing” as excessive masturbation. "Some people masturbate more than others," according to the International Society for Sexual Medicine. "There is no 'normal' frequency. Some do it daily, some weekly, and some rarely. Some never do." While 27 percent of 30-to-39-year-old men masturbate once a week to a few times a month, that number varies quite a bit by age, according to a 2009 survey of 2,500 American men.

“However often you masturbate, it’s not a problem until it starts affecting your life in negative ways,” says Dan Drake, MFT, LPCC, a certified sex addiction therapist and clinical counselor.

But that doesn't mean that it can't pose a problem, particularly if it interferes with your everyday life.

So when does a harmless masturbation habit turn into an issue? Here are the physical and psychological signs that you may need to give your boner a bit of a breather.

1) You hurt yourself.

Some guys masturbate so often that they actually hurt themselves, says Tobias Köhler, M.D., a urologist at Southern Illinois University. These injuries could be mild (e.g., skin chafing) or a more serious condition like Peyronie’s disease, or scar tissue buildup in the shaft of your penis that can result from using too much pressure while stroking, Köhler explains.

This may sound obvious, but if you’re masturbating so often that you're hurting yourself, you need to cut back, he warns.

2) Your job suffers.

If you can’t complete a work task because you can’t stop thinking about masturbating, that’s when it becomes an issue. If you’re consistently watching porn at work or are you’re late to a meeting because you were masturbating in the bathroom, then you likely have a problem.

3) Your friendships suffer.

Do you cancel on friends because you'd rather stay home and masturbate? Are they getting annoyed by your constant flakiness? Then your masturbation habits could potentially be an issue.

We want to be clear: There's nothing wrong with reserving a night to get down with yourself. That's all well and good, and in fact, feel free to mark that in the calendar now! The cause for concern is when your need to jerk off has a clear negative effect on your relationships.

4) Your sex life suffers.

Some guys who masturbate a lot use one specific type of stimuli—say, certain categories of porn coupled with specific hand movements. When it comes time for them to actually have sex, they find that they can’t recreate the same type of excitement, Dr. Köhler explains.

Basically, if you watch the same porn or use the same hand motions every time you masturbate, it teaches your brain and body to get off that way and that way alone. If you're having sex with a real-life partner, this could cause serious problems, both in terms of keeping it up and getting erect in the first place. “If that happens, you have a problem that needs to be addressed,” says Köhler.

5) You always think about masturbation.

You wake up wanting to masturbate. At lunch, your mind wanders to your favorite porn scene. Your commute home is almost unbearable, because you just want to sit on the couch with a beer and PornHub.

If any of this sounds familiar, and you often find yourself distracted by thoughts of when or how you’re going to yank it next, that’s a strong indication you have a problem, Drake says.

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If you realize you have a masturbation problem, what should you do about it?

“There’s nothing unhealthy or problematic with masturbating,” Drake says. “But if it becomes detrimental to your life, then you need to treat it like you would any other harmful habit.” That means doing one of two things: a) cutting yourself off cold turkey, at least for the time being; and b) adopting more of a “harm reduction” approach by setting limits for yourself—for example, making a rule to only masturbate at night.

Considering you probably don't want to give up solo orgasms for the rest of your life—masturbation is, after all, an integral part of any healthy sex life—you'll probably want to opt for the latter approach. Set rules for yourself and see if you can adhere to them. If you can't, and you find yourself slipping back into harmful old habits, consider seeing a therapist, as there might be a deeper psychological issue at play.

Bottom line? Indulging in a little self-love every now and then is fine. It's only when it gets in the way of your actual life—or your actual sex life—that it becomes a problem. But if it’s not negatively interfering with anything, then go ahead and masturbate to your heart’s content!

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How to Jerk Off - 13 Ways Men Masturbate

Most people with a penis learn to masturbate as quickly and quietly as possible. After all, when you're a testosterone-loaded adolescent, you have to content with the very real risk of your parents or siblings walking in and disturbing your, ah, personal time.

And there isn’t just a fear of getting caught jerking off—there’s also a lot of shame surrounding sexual pleasure when people are younger, says Dr. Uchenna “UC” Ossai, Pelvic PT, certified sexuality counselor and founder of YouSeeLogic, an online sexual education platform. “Few people were told that masturbating is natural and an excellent way to learn more about your sexual pleasure,” she says.

Those secretive, fast-and-furious masturbation habits can spill into adulthood, Shamyra Howard, sexologist and Men's Health advisory panel member, says in Men's Health Best. Sex. Ever. "Many guys are masturbating the same way they did when they were teens—all rushed," she says. "You need to change things up. If you're right-handed, use your left hand; involve sex toys; or try masturbating on your stomach. Also, don't focus only on your genitals. You have a whole body. Get your nipples, perineum, and anus involved."

The options might sound a little overwhelming. If you're sitting there thinking, I'll just go back to my old ways, thanks—WAIT! According to Howard, exploring new ways to masturbate can help benefit your sex life on the whole.

"As long as you're switching things up when you masturbate, you get an opportunity to explore and try different things with your body and to learn what you like," she says. "You can learn how you like your penis touched, which things turn you on, and which angles lead to more pleasure."

Try these 13 masturbation tips and techniques the next time you feel like getting down with yourself, and get ready to feel good—really good.

1) Change the position you masturbate in.

You’ve likely masturbated in the same position now for years, so try switching it up. “If you are a stander, try laying on your back. If you like to sit, stand up,” Dr. UC. says. “Changing positioning can improve your pelvic floor muscle resting tone, which can help improve the blood flow to your penis.” So changing up your masturbation positions won’t only feel good for the novelty, but it may also increase the strength of your erections.

2) Masturbate after you work out.

Do you ever feel really horny after working out? Well, there’s a reason for that. You release hormones while working out, including adrenaline and dopamine a.k.a. the so-called "feel-good" chemical. Dr. UC adds that it’s excellent to masturbate after working out “because your endorphins are quite high, blood flow is great, and your pelvic floor muscles are completely relaxed.”

3) Stimulate the taint (perineum).

"The perineum is the area between the penis and the anus. It's full of nerve endings and very sensitive, so providing some vibration to it can often feel really good," says LELO Sexpert and NYU professor of Human Sexuality Dr. Zhana Vrangalova.

Try pressing a vibrating sex toy to your perineum while stroking your penis with your other hand. Vrangalova recommends either the LELO Lily 2 or the LELO Smart Wand. It's "sure to provide a different kind of orgasm," she says. There are also prostate massagers on the market that stimulate your perineum.

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4) Use a Fleshlight (or another masturbation sleeve).

Sex toys aren't just for people with a vulva. For penis-owners, Emily Morse, a sex expert and host of the popular podcast Sex with Emily, recommends the Fleshlight, the popular handheld column that you slip over your junk to simulate the feel of real vaginal or anal sex. (You can even buy an accessory to free up both your hands.)

When you're done having fun, make sure you clean your Fleshlight properly!

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5) Use a vibrator for your penis.

Vibrators have traditionally been marketed to people with a vulva, which makes sense, given that most need some form of external clitoral stimulation in order to climax during penetrative sex. But recent years have seen an increase in vibrating sex toys designed for dicks, because honestly, those vibrations can feel really damn good on penises, too! One 2012 study found that 44% of heterosexual men had enjoyed the experience of using a vibrator at some point in their life, so don't be shy about trying some of these toys.

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6) Incorporate anal play.

"A lot of men, especially those who identify as straight, regularly miss out on a huge source of pleasure: their butts," Vrangalova says. "Butts (of all genders) have a huge number of nerve endings and stimulating them can feel really good. If you have a prostate that you can (indirectly) reach this way, that anal stimulation can be literally mind-blowing. "

So how do you bring a little butt play into your next masturbation session? Vrangalova recommends using your hand or a prostate massage toy.

She recommends the LOKI Wave, which "has a nice long handle you can hold with one hand while you stroke with the other, and the wave motion of the internal vibrating part hits the prostate just right."

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7) Put a cock ring on it.

A cock ring—also known as a penis ring—is a band and that goes around the base of your penis (and sometimes your testicles, too), trapping blood flow in your shaft and thereby strengthening your erection. Cock rings often come up in conversations about how to last longer during partnered sex, but there's no reason not to reap their rock-hard benefits during solo sex. Speaking of benefits: In addition to stronger erections, some guys anecdotally say that cock rings give them stronger orgasms.

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8) Switch up your grip and speed of stroking.

    Ever heard of the "death grip"? If you find yourself having a hard time reaching orgasm during sex with a partner, it might be because you're squeezing your penis too hard and stroking too fast during masturbation.

    "This amount of grip pressure and stroke speed cannot typically be reached with a partner, hence their orgasmic difficulties," Vrangalova says. "To prevent this from happening, make sure you switch up the grip and stroking speed, so you're used to ejaculating in different ways."

    9) Try edging.

    The 5-minute speed jerk is fine for most days. But if you have a little extra time, “edging”—also called the stop-and-start method—can help you achieve more intense orgasms, Morse promises.

    Work yourself right up to the edge of ejaculation and then take a short break—just enough time for your erection to soften a bit. Then start the process over again. Do this three or four times before you orgasm, and you’ll experience more profound, powerful ejaculations, Morse says.

    10) Switch hands.

    You’ve probably tried incorporating your non-dominant hand into your solo act. You may have even attempted the mythical “Stranger”—sitting on your hand until it falls asleep, and then using it to simulate the sensation of someone else doing the dirty work. But Morse advises using your opposite hand in more creative ways.

    Turn your hand so it slides down your penis forefinger-first, and twist it as you stroke. You could also try holding your penis against your stomach with one hand while rapidly sliding a few fingers up and down the underside of your shaft. Like switching positions during sex, mixing in unfamiliar hand maneuvers can break up the tedium, Morse says.

    11) Bring your balls into the mix.

    There are nearly as many sex-specific nerve endings in your testicles as there are in your penis. Don’t neglect them, Morse urges.

    While individual preferences and sensitivities play a big role in what you’ll enjoy, a lot of men discover an untapped source of stimulation—and more intense orgasms—by pulling down on their testicles rhythmically before ejaculation.

    Some guys learn to ignore their penis entirely as they approach the big O, Morse says.

    12) Masturbate with a partner.

    Masturbation entails sexually pleasuring yourself, but it does not mean you have to do it alone in a room with the door locked. Masturbation side-by-side with a partner can be an intimate experience—not to mention an easy, sexy option for when you're both too tired to do anything fancy. "Sex is so much more than penetration," Howard says. "Sex is any type of emotional, spiritual, physical, or erotic connection, and that includes mutual masturbation."

    Plus, watching how your partner touches their own body can be a great way to learn exactly what they like in bed, and vice versa.

    13) Focus on the pleasure—not the orgasm.

    We know it sounds counterintuitive, but the less you obsess about climaxing, the more enjoyable your sexual experience is likely to be. In our race to have an orgasm, we often end up overlooking the most important aspect of a sexual experience: pleasure. If you have time on your hands, do what feels good—not what you think will get you over the finish line fastest.

    "Most people masturbate because they want that release, but allow yourself to focus on the moment of intimacy between you and yourself," Howard says.

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    What happens if you masturbate every day? Consequences of excessive masturbation

    Once upon a time, masturbation was considered a sin, and people involved in masturbation were equated with psychopaths. Today, manic dependence on self-satisfaction is extremely rare. The process of masturbation is now considered quite natural. Many experts recommend getting to know your body in order to learn how to be more relaxed in bed with a real person. One way or another, everyone is interested in whether it is normal to masturbate every day and whether this can lead to negative consequences. To understand this issue, it is worth considering all points of view.

    How often can you masturbate?

    As already mentioned, this process is not something forbidden. However, many are interested in what will happen if you masturbate every day. There are several theories on this issue. Some people assume that it is necessary to satisfy their desires exclusively in a natural way, that is, with another person. Other experts, on the contrary, argue that only masturbation is the safest and most effective way to get the necessary relaxation.

    To find out once and for all whether it is possible to masturbate every day, it is worth contacting scientists who deal with this issue in more detail. In their opinion, engage in self-satisfaction as many times as the body requires. Very often, a person begins to experience sexual arousal, but at the same time he does not have a relationship with a member of the opposite sex. In this situation, masturbation becomes the only way out. There is nothing shameful in this.

    At the same time, each person decides for himself whether he can masturbate every day or once a week. All people have different temperaments, and some do not show interest in sexual life at all. Others, on the contrary, cannot live without the satisfaction of their desires. This is what you should be guided by when deciding whether you can masturbate every day.

    By the way, scientists have proven that in some cases self-satisfaction has the same positive effect on the human body as making love with a member of the opposite sex. Moreover, it is much more harmful to abstain from masturbation. The fact is that a person experiencing sexual tension becomes very irritable. This leads to negative consequences.

    Is it harmful to masturbate?

    By and large, masturbation is almost a complete replacement for the sexual act itself. However, many myths have been created around self-satisfaction. There are several theories about what will happen if you masturbate every day. Some believe that from frequent self-gratification, thick hair can grow on the palms of the hands. Of course, such a theory is absurd, if only because in these places a person simply lacks hair follicles. It is easy to guess that it is impossible to go blind from onanism. There is absolutely no logic in this either.

    However, speaking about whether it is harmful to masturbate every day, you should pay attention to the fact that it is recommended to engage in self-satisfaction only when you really want to. It’s not worth torturing yourself and doing it on a schedule.

    Masturbation and going to the gynecologist

    Young boys and girls are interested not only in what happens if they masturbate every day, but also in the possibility of determining that a person likes to engage in self-pleasure. They are especially worried that the gynecologist will not guess about this during a standard examination.

    This question is very simple. A gynecologist can voice such a theory only according to his experience. Indeed, according to anonymous studies, it was possible to find out that 89% of all people like to “play pranks” in this way.

    It is impossible to determine whether a person is engaged in masturbation by external signs. This once again proves that there is nothing wrong with reasonable self-satisfaction. This does not deform the genitals, does not change their structure, etc.

    Isn't masturbation immoral?

    Some young people are feared from childhood about the harmful effects of self-gratification. Some even believe that the study of one's body is something between sin and killing a person.

    It must be understood that in the 21st century such actions are not immoral. If a person does not demonstrate his genitals to others in the park, but just wants to “let off steam”, being in his apartment all alone, then he has every right to do so.

    Masturbation can be considered a deviation only if a person prefers self-satisfaction, while having a real partner. When masturbation becomes a substitute for sex, it can affect the human psyche.

    Harmful to health

    Speaking about what happens if you masturbate every day, it is worth considering some aspects that can be attributed to harmful consequences.

    The mucous membranes of the genital organs are very sensitive, so if you engage in self-pleasure too often, this can lead to pain. Therefore, it is recommended to always use a lubricant (grease) during masturbation.

    Also, some experts have proven that the number of active spermatozoa is limited in men. If the representative of the stronger sex will violently get rid of them for a long time, then this may affect his reproductive function.

    Psychological harm

    What happens if you masturbate every day? This can lead to the fact that a person will completely stop seeing people as sexual partners. In medical practice, there were cases when husbands were so addicted to self-satisfaction that they stopped having sex with their wives.

    To cope with such a problem, you will have to start visiting a psychologist and a sex therapist.

    The benefits of masturbation

    Self-pleasure is useful for several reasons:

    • It is impossible to get pregnant or contract venereal diseases from masturbation.
    • Masturbation allows you to quickly relax.
    • The process of self-satisfaction allows a person to know his body. Thanks to this, he can get more pleasure from having sex.
    • If a person suffers from the fact that he cannot get an orgasm, masturbation is an excellent prevention.
    • After self-satisfaction, it is much easier to fall asleep.

    Harm of frequent masturbation

    Due to excessive self-satisfaction, a person may begin to suffer from:

    • Weakness. The process of self-satisfaction requires a lot of strength.
    • Dependencies.
    • Involuntary ejaculations. If you engage in masturbation too often, then this can lead to the fact that the genitals begin to "live their own lives."

    What can early onset of sexual activity through masturbation lead to?

    Having dealt with the question of what will happen if you masturbate every day, it is also worth considering the topic of too early onanism. The fact is that schoolchildren who begin to know their body do not feel the measure. They begin to masturbate too often. It's easy to determine. The boy or girl begins to suffer from fatigue, becomes more withdrawn and does not want to spend time with friends. At the same time, the student's speech may even change.

    In this case, it is necessary to have a conversation with the teenager and explain to him that diligence in this matter is unnecessary. It is worth trying to convey to him the idea of ​​​​the benefits and harms of onanism. However, you do not need to use "horror stories" for this. It is better to show the teenager a movie or take him to a consultation with a specialist.

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