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35 Songs About Unrequited Love We Can All Relate To

Unfortunately, the people you fall in love with don’t always fall in love with you.

And, even if they do have feelings for you, the timing could be wrong, the circumstances could be wrong, and there could be more going against you than there is going for you.

It can be hard to let go and to move on even when you know that’s the best thing you can do.

Music has gotten a lot of people through a lot of situations like these.

So, let’s explore 35 songs about unrequited love we can all relate to.


“You Belong With Me” by Taylor Swift

Song year: 2008

We don’t plan who we fall for.

Taylor Swift’s “You Belong With Me” is a song about falling for a close friend.

Knowing Swift, this song could be autobiographical.

The trouble, at least as she sees it, is that:

“…she wears short skirts/I wear T-shirts/She's cheer captain/And I'm on the bleachers/Dreaming about the day when you wake up/And find that what you're looking for has been here the whole time.”

Friendship is a great starting point for a relationship, but sadly these types of situations have a way of not working out.

“Everything You Want” by Vertical Horizon

Song year: 1999

Unrequited love can leave you feeling angry.

There’s a part of you that wants to convince your crush of your goodness.

But many times, no amount of coaxing and persuading will make a difference:

“He's everything you want/He's everything you need/He's everything inside of you/That you wish you could be/He says all the right things/At exactly the right time/But he means nothing to you/And you don't know why.

Sometimes, people don’t fall for the people that are right for them and instead fall for the people that will end up hurting them and teach them lessons.

Beneath the shiny veneer of this upbeat pop song lurks a great deal of frustration.

“To Be With You” by Mr. Big

Song year: 1991

It’s easy to forget that this cheery sounding acoustic ballad from the early 90s via hard rock supergroup Mr. Big is indeed a song about unrequited love.

It’s not clear whether things turned out well for the protagonist in the song, either.

In many ways, it was Mr. Big’s answer to Extreme’s “More Than Words” only a year earlier.

At the time, it was important for hard rock/hair metal bands to show their sensitive side, as it gave them access to a new fan base.

Singer Eric Martin later explained that this song is a page from his own book, noting there was a girl he fell for in high school.

She had a lot of guy problems, and Martin got an earful.

Martin ended up liking her and wanted to be her knight in shining armor, but things never quite worked out that way.

“Love Stinks” by The J. Geils Band

Song year: 1980

It doesn’t get any funnier, direct or more absurd than this song:

“You love her/But she loves him/And he loves somebody else/You just can't win.”

Who hasn’t been through something like that?

When love has got you down, it’s better to put this song on and air your grievances.

“All To Myself” by Marianas Trench

Song year: 2009

Here’s another catchy pop punk number you may not have identified as a song about unrequited love.

But it’s clear that the narrator is want for someone he doesn’t have.

He’s so in his own head that he’s starting to hear things no one has even said:

“Did you say please just follow me/I thought you wanted me/'Cause I want you all to myself/I can try and suck it up/I just can't suck it up/Make me feel like someone else.”

He’s also down on himself for his lack of self-confidence in going up to ask for what he wants.

For me, the awkwardness of Jr. high and high school come to mind.

“Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic” by The Police

Song year: 1981

When it comes to “Every Little Thing She Does Is Magic”, people often remember the catchy choruses and forget what the verse or essence of the song is.

When the narrator says, “every little thing she does is magic”, he’s from the outside looking in, wanting to make a move but unable to do so.

Like “Every Breath You Take”, there’s an element of creepiness to this song.

Still, we can all relate to admiring someone special from afar.

“Jessie’s Girl” by Rick Springfield

Song year: 1981

A simple song about falling for your friend’s girl.

People are sometimes surprised by who people fall for.

But we tend not to fall for those who aren’t in our world.

We fall for those we regularly interact with, and for better or for worse, that ends up being friends, coworkers, community members and so on.

At one point or another, every man has wanted “Jessie’s Girl”, unless of course, he was with her.

“Layla” by Derek And The Dominoes

Song year: 1970

One of the most passionate songs ever written about unrequited love.

As the story goes, guitarist Eric Clapton ended up falling for Beatle George Harrison’s wife Pattie Boyd, who was also a neighbor.

It seems scandalous by today’s standards, but Clapton says this kind of thing happened all the time in the 60s/70s.

So, Clapton ended up pursuing her.

Here’s his plea to Boyd in “Layla”, one of classic rock’s most important songs:

“Please don't say we'll never find a way/And tell me all my love's in vain.”

In a rare turn of events, Clapton and Boyd ended up together in real life – great for them.

It’s a little sad for Harrison, though.

“I Can’t Make You Love Me” by Bonnie Raitt

Song year: 1991

A heart-wrenching song about the agonies of unrequited love.

These lines are simply heartbreaking:

“'Cause I can't make you love me if you don't/You can't make your heart feel something it won't/Here in the dark, in these final hours/I will lay down my heart and I'll feel the power/But you won't, no you won't/'Cause I can't make you love me, if you don't.”

Reportedly, the inspiration for this song came from a man who got drunk and shot at his girlfriend's car.

When asked what he had learned, he said that he learned he couldn’t make his girl love him.

So, while this song may not be autobiographical, it’s still powerful.

“Crush” by Mandy Moore

Song year: 2001

We’ve all had crushes.

Unfortunately, there’s a reason why they call it a “crush” – you’re crushed when it doesn’t work out.

In this song, Mandy Moore sings about someone that everyone loves and reveals her own feelings for him:

“Ooh, I got a crush on you/I hope you feel the way that I do/I get a rush/When I'm with you/Ooh, I've got a crush on you/A crush on you.”

A simple, cute song about a crush.

“Call Me Maybe” by Carly Rae Jepsen

Song year: 2001

This might seem like an odd pick, but when you think about it, at no point does the protagonist say:

“We’re together now and everything’s great.”

She’s fascinated by a guy she comes across and essentially calls it love at first sight (typically a red flag, as attraction is not indicative of a connection, matching interests or a suitable personality type).

Yet, if you read the lyrics closely, you can see that he hasn’t said anything about being into her yet:

“You took your time with the call/I took no time with the fall/You gave me nothing at all/But still you're in my way.”

It’s easy to fall in love with the idea of love before anything has materialized.

“Teardrops On My Guitar” by Taylor Swift

Song year: 2006

Everybody knows Taylor Swift breakup songs are a dime a dozen.

We could almost say the same for her catalog of unrequited love songs (I’m being a little facetious here).

Music, of course, is often a healing agent, something this song hints at:

“He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar/The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star/He's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I do.

If you keep dreaming about someone and can’t get them out of your head, this song is for you.

“Shiver” by Coldplay

Song year: 2000

If your love has gone unanswered, then surely you can relate to the sentiment expressed in Coldplay’s “Shiver”, a song about feeling invisible.

Takes these lines for instance:

“I'll always be waiting for you/So you know how much I need you/But you never even see me, do you.”

People don’t know how much we care – especially if we’ve never shared our feeling with them.

Of course, that’s the scary part.

“Damn Good Friends” by Elle Varner

Song year: 2012

As I mentioned earlier, sometimes you can fall for a friend.

As the friendship deepens, you begin to fear losing that friendship.

“What would happen if we got into a relationship? Would we eventually break up?”

Those thoughts can’t help but cross your mind.

To me, that’s what “Damn Good Friends” by Elle Varner is all about:

“I long for you/It kills me to pretend/I’m not in love when I so am/But you don’t understand/That we’re such/Damn good friends.”

Fear can hold you back.

“(Can’t Live Without Your) Love And Affection” by Nelson

Song year: 1990

When you love someone and they don’t love you back, you might end up feeling rejected.

But sometimes you just don’t want to give up on something good.

This song is about the latter.

If you’ve ever felt like you couldn’t live without someone’s love and affection in your life, put on this song to ease your pain.

“Put You In A Song” by Keith Urban

Song year: 2010

No hidden messages in this Keith Urban tune.

There’s a girl he loves, and he imagines whisking her away in a car and writing a song about her.

In that sense, “Put You In A Song” might be a tad self-referential:

“Well here you come again and you're lookin' so fine/You don't notice me but it's alright/I'm just a guy who wishes that I could be your man someday/Yeah a picture paints a thousand words it's true/But it's still not enough for how I feel about you/I wanna put you in a melody, I gotta set you to a groove.

Who of us can say we haven’t felt that way about someone special?

“Bad Religion” by Frank Ocean

Song year: 2012

A song where the term “unrequited love” is right in the lyrics.

It’s clear the narrator is in anguish.

These lines specifically seem to refer to self-harm:

“To me, it's nothin' but a one-man cult/And cyanide in my styrofoam cup.”

Unrequited love can drive you crazy and this song is in touch with those emotions.

“Can’t Fight This Feeling” by REO Speedwagon

Song year: 1984

The first verse says it all:

“I can't fight this feeling any longer/And yet I'm still afraid to let it flow/What started out as friendship has grown stronger/I only wish I had the strength to let it show.

As I’ve already noted, friendship can quickly evolve into feelings of love, regardless of your original intent.

We’re not sure how the story ends in this song but it certainly stands as a classic ballad about unanswered love.

“Closer Than You Might Believe” by Alanis Morrisette

Song year: 1995

A song about unrequited love by Alanis?

Hard to believe, but it’s true.

And, she says it better than a lot of other songs do:

“So if the love that you're chasing after/Is in the heart to be found in the out of reach/Well, if you break it all down/Take a good look around, you'd see/That it's closer than you might believe.”

Sometimes we just wish the person we’re in love with would stop to look around.

To us, it can appear as though they’re chasing problems – especially when we feel like we would be right for them.

Great tune.

“Two Out Of Three Ain’t Bad” by Meat Loaf

Song year: 1978

While the first verse alludes to unrequited love, this is just as much a song about love lost, as indicated by these lines:

“I remember how she left me on a stormy night/She kissed me and got out of our bed/And though I pleaded and begged her not to walk out that door/She packed her bags and turned right away.”

So, although the love took shape, ultimately, it didn’t last.

But there are still plenty of great lyrics that will resonate with anybody experiencing the agony of one-sided love, including these:

“There’s only one girl I’ll ever love/And that was so many years ago/And though I know I’ll never get her out of my heart/She never loved me back.

“Why Don’t You Love Me” by Beyoncé

Song year: 2010

No matter how good you are to someone, there are times when they don’t recognize the sacrifices you make and the things you do for them.

As backwards as it is, sometimes that’s the problem – the fact that we shower them with too much attention.

It certainly doesn’t help your situation though, because it can leave you feeling resentful.

Beyoncé offers up these simple questions many can relate to:

“Why don’t you love me?/Tell me, baby, why don’t you love me/When I make me so damn easy to love?/And why don’t you need me?/Tell me, baby, why don’t you need me/When I make me so damn easy to need?”

“Why Can’t This Be Love” by Van Halen

Song year: 1986

When “Why Can’t This Be Love” was released as the first single from Van Halen’s 1986 album 5150, the fans must have been caught off guard.

Not only did it feature the then new lead vocalist Sammy Hagar, it also put keyboard, rather than the guitar, at the heart of the rhythm section.

While the lyrical content is somewhat ambiguous, the repeated line “why can’t this be love” has us thinking it’s about unreturned love.

We don’t know exactly what situation the narrator is dealing with, but it has him saying:

“It’s got what it takes/So tell me why can’t this be love?/Straight from the heart/Oh, tell me why can’t this be love?”

So, while it’s a bit vague, there could be some unreciprocated feelings going on.

“Creep” by Radiohead

Song year: 1992

I would say this is as much a song about being a creep as it is a song about unrequited love.

How can you know it’s unreciprocated if you don’t even ask?

Of course, getting up the nerve to ask is the hardest part.

But if you’ve ever admired anyone from afar, surely this song will resonate with you.

“You’re Beautiful” by James Blunt

Song year: 2005

There’s a good chance you never thought of “You’re Beautiful” as a song about unrequited love before.

So, if you’re reading this now, you’ll probably never look at it the same way again, because honestly, it’s kind of creepy.

Have a look at the first verse if you don’t believe me:

“My life is brilliant/My love is pure/I saw an angel/Of that I’m sure/She smiled at me on the subway/She was with another man/But I don’t lose no sleep on that/’Cause I’ve got a plan.”

Of course, that “plan” is never revealed in this song, and in the end, the protagonist admits “I will never be with you.”

Editor's note: This is one of my favorite songs about unrequited love.

“Just My Imagination” by The Temptations

Song year: 1971

A simple ballad about imagining yourself with that special someone.

My favorite lines are these:

“To have a girl like her is truly a dream come true/Out of all the fellows in the world she belongs to me/But it was just my imagination/Runnin’ away with me.

Enjoy the slow groove of “Just My Imagination.”

“Hello” by Lionel Richie

Song year: 1984

This unforgettable classic certainly seems to fit the bill when it comes to unrequited love.

Reportedly, in his younger years, Richie used to be too shy to talk to the beautiful women that walked past him.

So, the song was borne out of this simple phrase:

“Hello, is it me you’re looking for?”

It took a while for Richie to finish the song, but in the end it was worth it.

And, I’m sure Riche isn’t the only person that’s experienced similar torture.

“Stacy’s Mom” by Fountains Of Wayne

Song year: 2003

This is quite possibly one of the best pop songs of the early 2000s.

Fountains of Wayne are brilliant in their ability to write unforgettable melodic hooks and complex, intelligent lyrics.

Message wise, this, perhaps, is one of the more direct songs they’ve got.

The basic premise is that a young boy is in love with his friend’s mom.

Beyond that, there’s no evidence to support unrequited love, but yes, there’s a good chance it won’t work out too well for Stacy’s friend.

“You Sent Me Flying” by Amy Winehouse

Song year: 2003

Unfortunately, sometimes your crush knows that you’re crushing on them, and to add insult to injury, they string you along and manipulate you.

It’s one thing if your love goes unanswered – which can be painful enough.

Quite another if the other person uses that to their advantage.

This is the painful picture “You Sent Me Flying” by the late Amy Winehouse paints.

These lines are heartbreaking:

“And now I feel so small discovering you knew/How much more torture would you have put me through?/You probably saw me laughing at all your jokes/Or how I did not mind when you stole all my smokes, yeah.”

“Sitting, Waiting, Wishing” by Jack Johnson

Song year: 2004

Have you ever felt like you’d do anything for the person you’ve fallen for?

Have you been built up only to be let down?

Then this song is your unrequited anthem.

“Keep building it up/But then you’re shooting me down/But I’m already down/Just wait a minute.”

“If” by Janet Jackson

Song year: 1993

If you’ve ever fantasized about someone you couldn’t have, then you’ve captured the essence of Janet Jackson’s “If.”

You’ve thought about it and you know you could be good for that person, but it’s just not happening.

It’s what can be painful about one-sided love.

“Surrender” by Billy Talent

Song year: 2007

There’s no question Billy Talent has ushered forth their own brand of melodrama with their music, but when it’s as expertly executed as it is in this song, how can you find fault with it?

If you’ve experienced unanswered love, I’m sure you can relate to these lines:

“Even though I know what I’m looking for/She’s got a brick wall behind her door/I’d travel time and confess to her/But I’m afraid she’d shoot the messenger.

“Excuse Me Mr.” by No Doubt

Song year: 1996

Why do we fall for the unavailable?

I don’t have the answers.

But it could be because they’ve got something going for them.

There are plenty of great lines in this upbeat song, but these are probably my favorite:

“For most love comes for free/They don’t pay the high cost/Of mental custody I’ll pay bail for a guarantee/Please make space for me in the time yet to be.”


“Leading Me On” by Harem Scarem

Song year: 2005

This is by far my favorite song about heartbreak and unrequited love.

It’s full of raw emotion, energy and even anger.

This is a great segment of lyrics to peruse:

“Talk is cheap/Flowing from the weak/You lie and deceive/But only when you speak.”

Nobody likes to be led on and for better or for worse, it can go on for a long time.

If someone has been leading you on, this is your tune.

“Teenage Dirtbag” by Wheatus

Song year: 2000

Probably not the first song that comes to mind when you try to brainstorm songs about one-sided love.

If you know the song, then you probably know the lyrics already.

The theme of “teenage dirtbag” comes out so strongly that sometimes it’s easy to overlook the dormant themes of unreciprocated love:

“But she doesn’t know who I am/And she doesn’t give a damn about me.

What sets this song apart, however, is that things turn out well for the protagonist, because the girl he likes is a “teenage dirtbag” too.

“Beyond Repair” by Harem Scarem

Song year: 2008

Another expertly written song about unrequited love via the Toronto melodic rock band Harem Scarem.

As with “Leading Me On”, it’s full of raw emotion.

The chorus says it all:

“But your silence/Is saying everything/You’re made of stone/And sinking beyond repair.”

Nobody likes to be toyed with.

Nobody wants to lose their precious time to a relationship that's going nowhere.

You can hear and feel all these emotions in the interludes between the lyrics.

The Best Unrequited Love Songs, Final Thoughts

In my experience, there’s nothing especially fun about unrequited love.

I have a song called “Your Eyes Give It Away” that’s essentially about this very topic.

Whether there’s someone you love or someone that loves you, it can be hard to find completion in the situation.

But that’s the most important thing – that you find completion.

You can’t necessarily help the other person understand what’s important to them.

But it is possible to become clear on your feelings.

So, whatever situation you’re facing right now, remember that you don’t need to live with these feelings forever.

If you want cheering up and inspiration for finding the one, you should check out our list of best love songs here.

As you'll see, there's hope yet.

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16 Possible Reasons Why People Don't Like You

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The little voice in your head wonders, “Why don’t people like me?”

Fact: not everybody will like you all of the time!

That’s just human nature.

We’re all different in so many ways: from the way we were raised to the way we choose to dress and from our hobbies to our chosen field of work.

It’s unsurprising, then, that some people just don’t gel.

Maybe sometimes you’re left with a feeling that you could have done or said something differently, but, trust me, it’s not always about you!

That’s an important point to remember, because no matter what efforts you make to adapt your behavior, there will always be people who take exception to you personally.

That said, if you genuinely feel that fewer people like you than dislike you (and that bothers you), then perhaps a bit of time spent delving into the potential reasons why would be time well spent.

Are You Too Busy To Take Stock?

Once we reach adulthood and leave the bothersome traumas of our teens far behind, many of us have a tendency to skate through the busyness of life without taking a step back to consider how we come across to others.

We are who we are.

So, when things don’t go right in personal or business relationships and we find ourselves without friends or allies, it’s only natural to believe that it’s ‘them’ who has the problem.

But what if there are certain things about our own demeanor or behavior which is in some way off-putting or even actively offensive?

Perhaps there really are some barriers that prevent people from liking you.

16 Reasons Why Some People Might Not Like You

What can it be that causes you to be less popular than most?

Why do you miss out on invitations and frequently feel like a Billy-No-Mates?

Or do you feel that your career is suffering because you’re alienating superiors and co-workers alike?

Let’s take a look at some possible factors.

With a bit of healthy self-reflection, one or two of these may resonate with you and give you some clues as to how you might modify your behavior and gain more friends.

1. You Talk Too Much

Having a wide-ranging conversation is one of life’s great pleasures, but it is most definitely a two-way street.

If one person dominates the conversation and fails to give others the chance to express their own opinions, it will cause frustration and resentment for the listener.

Being forced to listen to one person sounding off about themselves, their feelings, their relationships, and their problems is not a conversation…

…it’s a therapy session, and people pay good money for that!

There’s quite a complex set of unwritten rules about how conversation works that are learned mostly by trial and error as we grow up.  

The best conversationalist is actually a really good listener!

Remember that and make sure you ask sincere questions about what’s going on in the lives of people you talk to.

And listen attentively to their response!

Do this and you won’t go far wrong.

2. You Like To Show Off

No one likes a bragger!

If your life is perfect and you’re so darn smart or rich or successful, there’s never any excuse for ramming your supposed superiority down the throats of other mere mortals.

The reality is that most people find life a pretty hard slog…

…so it’s hardly surprising that they’re less than impressed, or even openly hostile, toward anyone who makes a habit of stressing their many accomplishments or flaunting their new car or photos of their exotic vacations.

It’s not that they’re jealous, but their own lives are diminished somehow when compared to your charmed existence.

Social media has made it easier than ever to show off. You can share your successes with your ‘friends’ at the click of a button and let them all know how wonderful your life is.

Perhaps you don’t even see this as bragging.

Trust me: it is.

You’ll gain people’s respect if you resist the urge to highlight your successes and focus more on the achievements of others.

3. You Dodge The Blame

We all make mistakes. Of course, we do.

The age-old aphorism ‘to err is human’ neatly sums it up.

And when we make a mistake, the best way to move on from it is to face up to it, apologize, and hopefully learn from the unfortunate experience.

But someone who consistently fails to admit when they are wrong and, worse still, will argue till they’re blue in the face that it was someone else who made the error, is going to lose friends fast.

Don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy fessing up and apologizing, and there are sometimes unpleasant consequences.

That said, it’s always the right course of action.

Whereas shifting the blame onto some innocent party and seeing them take the flak is unacceptable.

4. You Bully Or Intimidate Others

Whether at home or at work, one of the quickest ways to lose friends and lose all respect is to fall into the trap of flexing your metaphorical muscles and picking on others who behave differently or have opinions that are at odds with your own.

Being a bully is all about feeding a person’s own insecurities and is actually a demonstration of weakness rather than strength.

That’s the reason bullies almost always form cliques who act jointly in intimidating or deriding those who don’t fit in.

Being part of such a group of like-minded people bolsters their self-esteem.

Bullies may think that they do have friends, but the group is actually held together by fear of exclusion rather than any mutual love or respect.

Taking a step back and assessing your own friendship group and the way it functions might give you a few clues.

Is it a clique?

Does it thrive on intimidation and exclusion of others?

If so, I think you’ll work out for yourself what you need to do.

5. You Have Poor Personal Hygiene

Sorry to bring this down to the subject of bodily smells, but niffy armpits, stinky breath, or general un-cleanliness in our 21st century Western society won’t win you any friends.

In days gone by, when everyone smelled bad, this wouldn’t have been such an issue, but there’s little or no excuse now for anyone to leave home in grubby clothes without showering, brushing their teeth, and combing their hair.

Not to do so is just plain laziness.

It ultimately boils down to courtesy to others because, even if you can’t smell yourself, poor personal hygiene produces some pretty rank odors.

In crowded metropolitan areas, on public transport, or in the office, no one will want to sit near you, but in tight spaces they’ll be forced to and they won’t thank you for that.

It’ll affect your professional life, too. You may not get hired in the first place, but even if you jump that hurdle, your co-workers may reject you before they’ve even gotten close enough to learn your name!

If you feel you may have been slacking a little on the personal hygiene front, the good news is that it’s a simple fix and will turn things around quicker than you can change your shirt!


You Complain A Lot

It’s no secret that life can be a bit of a slog sometimes (or even a lot of the time).

There are some highlights which need to be celebrated along the way, but the reality for many of us is that there are probably more struggles than wins.

But that doesn’t mean it’s OK to bend the ear of anyone who’ll listen about all the crap you’re dealing with in your own life.

They’re probably pretty caught up in thinking about ways through the labyrinth of stresses in their own life anyway.

They won’t thank you for adding to their burden by sharing your own woes.

Generally speaking, people much prefer those who remain positive in the face of adversity.

The glass-half-full peddlers are likely to be way more popular than the glass-half-empty ones!

Why not try to resist the impulse to constantly complain?

People don’t want to hear your moaning and nor do they want to be friends with a bitter person.

Flip things around and take stock of the good stuff rather than focusing on the negatives.

As well as making you better company, a positive mental attitude will make you feel better too!

If you do need to rant (and we all do sometimes), do so with a friend and ask permission before you do.

And complain to one or two people only. Once you’ve gotten something off your chest, why get stuck on repeat and tell everyone else? It only serves to keep you mired in the negative.

7. You Gossip

On the face of it, sharing gossip would appear to be a great way of making sure you’re with the ‘in’ crowd.

If you know some juicy nugget about another person, being the one to divulge that information to others will possibly raise your popularity in the short term.

That’s because, even if we try not to listen, most of us just can’t help but want to hear of some drama being played out in the lives of our acquaintances.

Take note, though, that I said in the short term.

Why’s that?

Because spreading gossip will offend people and, sooner or later, you’ll be confronted about your bad habit.

This will be awkward and embarrassing for you, but, worse still, you’ll end up being excluded for gossiping or rumor-mongering.

Once you get a reputation as a gossip, few people will want to associate with you since they won’t trust you to keep anything they say secret.

Next time you have a ‘scoop’ about someone you know, do your level best to resist the urge to share it.

8. You Are Hypercritical

When your own standards of achievement are exceptionally high and you accept nothing but the best when it comes to your own performance, it’s very easy to put down others whose level of attainment falls below your lofty expectations.

That’s understandable. But being on the receiving end of unconstructive criticism isn’t the best motivator.

Whether in the boardroom, the locker room, or the bar, if you’re seen as someone who never gives praise or encouragement and is too ready with a harsh comment, then you’ll soon find your peer group deserting you.

You may see the criticism as positive and a way to help others achieve more, but, trust me, that’s not the way it feels when you’re on the receiving end of consistently negative appraisals.

Sure, by all means give constructive advice, framed carefully with positive overtones, but hypercritical put-downs will gain you no friends at all.

9. You’re Always Late

Some people always arrive late for appointments and don’t give a second thought to any inconvenience this may cause to others or how rude it is to keep them waiting.

Somehow these individuals just don’t get the fact that this comes across as thoughtless, at best, and arrogant, at worst.

It’s surprisingly easy to think that the rules don’t apply to you and that it’s okay to stroll in 10 minutes late.

It’s not!

Show courtesy to others by arriving on time and they’ll respect you for it.

Of course, there are always times when transport issues or other unavoidable problems make us late.

Just remember that other people’s time is valuable, too, and don’t make a habit of it!

10. You Like To Be In Control

Genuine friendship must involve an element of compromise. They get their way sometimes; you get your way at other times.

Only, that’s not how it is with you.

You like to control the situation to your own advantage or preference.

Dinner date with your friends? You know the perfect restaurant and won’t hear another word about it.

Casual drinks after work? You drag your colleagues to the newest, hippest bar in town when they were hoping for something more chilled.

Movie night or game night? You have such a strong opinion that no one else feels able to make a suggestion, so you get your own way.

It’s frustrating to socialize with you because everything has to be on your terms, which is why people don’t like you very much.

11. You Tell Others What They Should Do

You have an opinion on everyone else’s life, and they don’t have a choice whether they want to hear it.

Instead, you preach from your metaphorical pulpit telling others how they should live their life.

Sure, good friends will discuss one another’s problems or lives, but they do so from a place of respect where you might make suggestions, but you do so tactfully.

You, on the other hand, express your thoughts in such a forceful way that the other person feels condescended to, as if they can’t take responsibility for their own life.

The end result: no one really listens to what you have to say.

12. You Hold A Grudge

No matter how close the friendship, two people are unlikely to go through life without rubbing one another up the wrong way.

People do stupid things without thinking and they hurt those they care about.

But most people are eventually able to look beyond that hurt and let bygones be bygones.

Not you. Oh no.

You hold onto the wrong and you don’t let go.

Forgiveness isn’t in your vocabulary and you let your friendships degrade over silly little things.

And you wonder why people don’t like you or consider you a close friend.

13. You’re Closed Minded

Everyone has an opinion about everything – now more than ever.

Being open to those opinions and the ideas and thoughts of others is a sign of emotional maturity.

You, on the other hand, are unable to even consider the potential value or truth in a view that conflicts with your own.

What’s more, you are so self-righteous that you proceed to tell anyone with a dissenting opinion how wrong they are and how foolish they are to believe such a thing.

And because there are so many contentious issues out there, you can find something to argue about with almost anyone – and you do.

Unfortunately, most people don’t enjoy such aggressive debates, and so they avoid you altogether.

14. You’re A Drama Queen

Everyone has their own dramas in life. But some people have more and bigger dramas than others.

You? Well, your dramas are legendary.

Everything in your life is a drama. Everything is a problem or a fight or something that needs to be dealt with.

The problem with drama is that it requires a great emotional investment. And whilst you might be okay with that, most other people are not.

Being around someone whose life is defined by drama is exhausting.

It’s no surprise that people don’t like you.

15. You’re A Cheapskate

Money isn’t everything by any means. We all have different amounts of it at our disposal and it’s understandable that some people can’t spend as much as others.

But there is also the person who has plenty of money, and yet refuses to spend it on anything.

If you are such a person, it’s going to cause friction amongst you and others.

Perhaps you don’t want to chip in for a tip at the restaurant. Maybe you refuse to upgrade seats at the movies, even though the rest of your party wants to. Do you only agree to go somewhere if you can find a voucher for it?

Listen, there’s nothing wrong with being frugal. But when that frugality prevents others from doing something they would like to do, it becomes a problem.

People will begin to resent you if your tight purse strings stand in the way of their enjoyment all the time. They’ll just stop inviting you to things.

16. You’re A Snob

On the other end of the spectrum from the cheapskate is the snob.

Perhaps you only wear designer labels and look down on your friends for wearing more affordable clothes.

Maybe you belittle them for choosing a house red when you’re drinking a vintage bottle at five times the price.

Do you regale your colleagues with tales of your five-star all-inclusive scuba diving holiday in The Maldives over and over?

Snobs make other people feel bad. If you are a snob, you are probably pushing people away without realizing it.

To Sum It All Up…

It’s a fundamental trait of the human animal to want to be part of the crowd.

That ultimately comes down to the survival instinct where there’s safety in numbers. It’s way safer to be ‘in’ than ‘out,’ after all.

But if you want to have more friends and rise up in the popularity stakes so you can feel secure as a member of a ‘tribe,’ you need to learn to play by the rules.

The trick is to think about how you want to be treated by others and then relate to them using the same values.

The time-honored saying ‘do as you would be done by’ is very apt.

You can’t easily change your personality since much of it is hard-wired into your DNA, but you can change the way you behave.

If any of the things mentioned above chime with you, then setting about correcting that behavior will be the first step on the road to a better – and more popular – version of you.

Still not sure why people don’t like you? Talking to someone can really help you to address and fix this issue. It’s a great way to get your thoughts and your worries out of your head so you can work through them.

A therapist is often the best person you can talk to. Why? Because they are trained to help people in situations like yours. They can guide you and help you to identify specific behaviors that might be putting people off, or even address an unfounded belief that people don’t like you.

A good place to get professional help is the website BetterHelp.com – here, you’ll be able to connect with a therapist via phone, video, or instant message.

While you may try to work through this yourself, it may be a bigger issue than self-help can address. And if it is affecting your mental well-being, relationships, or life in general, it is a significant thing that needs to be resolved.

Too many people try to muddle through and do their best to overcome issues that they never really get to grips with. If it’s at all possible in your circumstances, therapy is 100% the best way forward.

Online therapy is actually a good option for many people. It’s more convenient than in-person therapy and is more affordable in a lot of cases. And you get access to the same level of qualified and experienced professional.

Click here if you’d like to learn more about the service BetterHelp.com provide and the process of getting started.

You’ve already taken the first step just by searching for and reading this article. The worst thing you can do right now is nothing. The best thing is to speak to a therapist. The next best thing is to implement everything you’ve learned in this article by yourself. The choice is yours.

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I don't want to be like you; don't want to be like you
How are you, how are you, how are you, how are you
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Always 4-20 fight, I don't need boilers
Palms to the sky - just not to become like you
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Fam your ho whistle for pac
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My brain needs chillout

Boom, boom, boom - my plastic is crying
25 - enlarged pack
No, I don't want to be like you, bye cel
No I do not want. I don't want to be like you until people

I don't want to be like you; don't want to be like you
I don't want to be like you; don't want to be like you
How are you how are you how are you how are you
I don't want to be like you; I don't want to be like you

I don't want to be like everyone else
You are stupid you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else

I don’t want to be like everyone else
You are stupid you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else

You are on the Internet; no, i'm not on the internet
Look for me on the streets if that's how you want to meet
Who is the father here, and who are the children here
Ask the streets about it, they will answer you quickly

I said it was me and he dropped the price
Yesterday I was driving this at the bottom, today my gang is flying up
All I care about is cash, snowman in my pocket
If you have something to keep, keep it so that they don’t take it away

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I see right through who is superfluous, shut up the fuck, be quiet
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I see right through who is superfluous, shut up the fuck, be quiet
Predatory cat who are you here, I smell my prey
Stop, stop, stop, slow down, you're fucking as you breathe

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I don't want to be like you; don't want to be like you
how are you how are you how are you how are you
I don't want to be like you; I don't want to be like you

I don't want to be like everyone else
You are stupid you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else

I don’t want to be like everyone else
You are stupid you are like everyone else
You lost because you are like everyone else
I wouldn't want to be like you — Alan Parsons project, the

I wouldn't want to be like you

If I had a mind to,
I wouldn't want to think like you.
And if I had time to
I wouldn't want to talk to you.

I don't care
What you do,
I wouldn't want to be like you.
I don't care
What you do,
I wouldn't want to be like you.

If I was high class
I wouldn't need a buck to pass.
And if I was a fall guy,
I wouldn't need no alibi...

I don't care
What you do,
I wouldn't want to be like you.
I don't care
What you do,
I wouldn't want to be like you.

Back on the bottom line,
Diggin' for a lousy dime.
If I hit a mother lode,
I'd cover anything that showed.

I don't care
What you do,
I wouldn't want to be like you.
I don't care
What you do...
I wouldn't wanna,
I wouldn't want to be like you.
I wouldn't want to be like you.

If I had a mind,
I wouldn't want to think like you.
And if I had time,
I wouldn't want to talk to you.

I don't care
What are you doing
I don't want to be like you.
I don't care
What are you doing
I don't want to be like you.

If I were high class,
I wouldn't need a dollar to get through.
And if I were the victim of a hoax,
I wouldn't need any alibi...

I don't care,
What are you doing,
I don't want to be like you.
I don't care
What are you doing
I don't want to be like you.

Returning to the bottom,
Work hard for lousy pennies.
If I found a gold mine,
I would hide all its manifestations.

I don't care
What are you doing
I don't want to be like you.
I don't care,
What are you doing...
I don't want to,
I don't want to be like you.
I don't want to be like you.

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