How to tell if u like someone

How Do You Know If You Love Someone? Platonic or Romantic

Ask anyone if love is complicated, and there’s a good chance they’ll probably say, “yes,” or “sometimes” at the very least.

Part of love’s complications stem from the fact that it can be challenging when the person you love doesn’t feel the same way — or when they do, but your relationship fails to take off.

Love can also complicate life because it takes different forms, and you might not immediately recognize which type of love you’re feeling.

Deciphering your feelings and trying to identify exactly which type of love you feel — while tight in its grip — might not be the easiest task, but we’re here to help.

Keep reading to learn more about how to tell these related, but still uniquely different, experiences apart.

Love doesn’t always look the same.

Sometimes, it progresses through specific stages.

The first flicker of love, when you fall head over heels for someone, often seems more like infatuation, complete with plenty of excitement and nervousness.

And if it’s mutual? The euphoric bliss many people experience can keep you and your partner completely wrapped up in each other. Over time, that just-fell-in-love feeling often transforms into something less charged, but more stable and lasting.

Higher-than-usual levels of hormones, like dopamine and norepinephrine, drive the intensity of these early feelings. Eventually, these surging feelings often settle into a deeper affection with the help of oxytocin, a hormone that plays a role in attachment.

But feelings of love don’t always follow a linear path.

What does being in love mean?

Maybe you fall for someone you just met, but you eventually realize the first blush of love has tinted your view. Once the first intensity fades, your feelings begin to wither without taking root.

You can also develop romantic love without experiencing euphoric, heart-pounding excitement. Someone who falls for their best friend, for example, might notice their long-standing platonic love become more romantic and sexually charged almost overnight.

And, of course, the love you feel for friends, or platonic love, can still run pretty deep — even though it doesn’t involve any romantic or sexual attraction.

People often talk about love as if everyone experiences it in the same way, but life experiences and relationship history can alter the course of “typical” romantic attraction.

If you’ve experienced relationship abuse or betrayal, you might feel cautious about letting your guard down again. This could temper the feelings of euphoria and impulsivity that often accompany the first stages of love.

In short, while there’s no single way to fall in love, you’ll probably notice a few key physical and emotional signs:

Your thoughts return to them regularly

Maybe you frequently think back to your last interaction or plan your next meeting. You want to tell them about your experiences every day: the great, the awful, and the ordinary.

If they’re having a hard time, you may worry about their difficulties and brainstorm ways to help.

When spending time with family and friends, you might talk about them a lot and imagine how much your loved ones will like them, too.

You feel safe with them

Trust is generally a key component of love. If you’ve experienced relationship trauma or heartbreak before, you might assign particular importance to this sense of emotional safety.

When you see them, you might notice your tension relaxes, in much the same way as it does when you return home after a long day.

It’s normal to want to protect yourself from pain. Feeling safe enough with someone to trust them with your personal weaknesses or vulnerabilities often suggests developing love.

Life feels more exciting

The rush of hormones associated with love can make everything seem more exciting, particularly when you know you’ll see them soon. Time might seem to fly by when you’re together and crawl like a turtle after they leave.

You might even notice renewed energy and interest in the mundane things you do every day. Folding laundry? Taking a walk? So much more fun when you’re in love (especially when they’re nearby).

You want to spend a lot of time together

Loving someone often means wanting to spend plenty of time with them, so you might find yourself craving their company more than ever before.

You might leave their company feeling somewhat unsatisfied, as if the time you spent together wasn’t enough.

You may not care much about what you do together, simply that you are together.

Another key sign? Your interest in spending time with them doesn’t depend on their mood or energy level. Even when they feel sad, cranky, or frustrated with life, you still want to show up and offer support.

You feel a little jealous of other people in their life

Jealousy is an emotion like any other. Generally speaking, it’s what you do with jealousy that matters. Talking about your feelings never hurts, but you might want to skip the digital snooping and social media stakeouts.

When you love someone, you might fixate on the other people they spend time with and wonder about their relationship with each other, or worry about potential threats to your love, such as an attractive co-worker they mention regularly or an old flame who’s still part of their life.

Generally speaking, these worries tend to fade as trust develops.

You feel compassion for them

When you’re in love with someone, you’ll start to develop strong compassion for them. The powerful urge to be connected to this person brings new aspects to your relationship, such as emotional or physical intimacy, passion, and a desire to know everything about them, and be known by them in return.

You may also find yourself wanting to take care of or be cared for by your partner.

Platonic love involves deep affection, but no romantic or sexual attraction. It’s absolutely possible for people of any gender to maintain a friendship without sexual tension or attraction.

When you love someone platonically, you might notice some basic signs of love.

You might also:

  • have similar interests, values, and goals
  • discuss emotions and relationships you have with others
  • support each other through difficulties
  • enjoy spending time together

Embracing platonic love successfully requires you to set any romantic feelings aside. Loving platonically doesn’t mean simply waiting and hoping the person will fall in love with you someday.

Good friendship behaviors can help you maintain platonic love. For example:

  • Communicate. Everyone has different communication needs, but you can maintain your closeness by calling or texting. When you do talk, try to spend at least as much time listening as you do sharing your own thoughts.
  • Set boundaries. Some platonic friends may be perfectly fine spending the night at your place, hanging out at all hours, or discussing the sexual details of your other relationships. Others may reserve these activities for romantic partners. Talking through boundaries can help you avoid any miscommunication.
  • Spend time together. Stay connected, even when you can’t physically see each other, by planning online chats, video game sessions, or virtual movie nights.
  • Offer emotional support. Love and friendship can make it easier to weather life’s challenges. Show your love by checking in with a friend or asking, “What can I do to help?”

Loving someone romantically usually involves a desire for a many-faceted connection.

You value their personality and want their friendship. You might lust after them a little (though you can experience romantic love without ever desiring a physical relationship).

Maybe you find their looks appealing, but you mostly want to spend a lot of time with them because you value them as a whole person and want to develop a lasting emotional connection.

Try these tips to cultivate and maintain romantic love:

  • Practice open communication. Relationships require open honesty to thrive. Sharing feelings, setting healthy boundaries, and discussing relationship goals early on increase your chances of a lasting relationship.
  • Avoid getting swept away by lust. In the early days of love, you might dedicate a lot of time to thinking (and talking) about what you’ve already done between the sheets (or anywhere else) and fantasizing about future encounters. This is absolutely normal. Just make sure you’re working toward an emotional connection, too.
  • Learn and grow together. If you want to make your love last, it’s essential to really get to know each other. This might mean discussing dreams and goals, sharing challenges and successes, and trying new things. You maintain your own identities, but you also develop a shared third unit: the relationship itself.

Romantic and platonic love are two different things, but many people consider them equally valuable.

Humans need connections to survive, generally speaking. Some people go through life without ever experiencing romantic or sexual attraction, and that’s OK. You can absolutely get the love you need from relationships with family and friends.

Others thrive with both friends and romantic partners in their lives. Perhaps you can’t imagine life without romance and pursue relationships in the hopes of finding the right partner or partners.

Your friends, however, remain part of your life even as partners come and go (often supporting you through breakups).

In short, platonic love might not fulfill the same needs as romantic love for everyone, but it’s equally valuable and equally worth pursuing.

Friendship isn’t a silver medal or a consolation prize. In fact, some types of platonic love may prove more stable and secure than romantic love.

If you’re experiencing confusing new feelings, you might have some uncertainty about how to handle them.

Falling for a friend, for example, can feel pretty terrifying. You think you could have a fantastic romance, but what if you end up losing the friendship instead?

Even when you love someone you know less well, you might wonder what your feelings mean. Do you truly want to develop a relationship? Simply get closer? Or are your feelings just lust-driven?

Asking yourself the following questions can yield some insight:

  • Which types of connections do I find most appealing? Emotional, physical, or a combination of both, for example.
  • Can I see myself sharing my life with this person?
  • Do I want to experience different types of intimacy with them? Or do I just want more of what we already have?
  • Is a general desire for physical intimacy complicating my platonic love for them?
  • Do I actually desire romantic love, or is it something I’m pursuing because people think I should?

A sudden change in attraction or existing feelings for someone can pull the rug out from under you.

Not sure about the best way forward? You have a few options:

Talk about it

You can’t pursue any type of relationship until they know how you feel. If you’re already friends, think back to how your friendship developed. You probably bonded over shared interests and one (or both) of you expressed the desire to spend more time together. Romantic relationships often develop similarly.

Preparing to share your feelings often involves some preparation for potential rejection. If you don’t feel comfortable telling them in person, try a letter, but avoid email or text.

Once you feel ready, ask if they can set aside some time to talk instead of suddenly dropping it into casual conversation. Choose a time when the two of you have some privacy.

Don’t forget to offer them space to sort through their own feelings, especially if you already have a platonic relationship. It may take time for them to evaluate and come to terms with their own feelings.

Consider other factors

Before you confess your love, take a careful look at the situation. You can’t help who you fall for, but you can help how you choose to handle your feelings:

  • Do they already have a partner? If so, you may want to hold off on sharing your love.
  • Are they a good friend’s ex? Proceed with caution — particularly if the breakup hurt your friend or the relationship ended badly.
  • Has your friendship given you insight into bad behaviors? Maybe they lie to partners, ghost dates, or see multiple partners without openly discussing non-monogamy. People can change, yes, and it’s tempting to believe your friendship and love will inspire that change. Just be sure to consider potential outcomes for your friendship if this doesn’t happen the way you envision.

Let it lie

Perhaps you decide you’d rather cherish your friendship than take a chance on anything more. That’s entirely your choice. Remember: platonic love offers many of the same benefits as romantic love, and one isn’t necessarily better than the other.

Just allow yourself the time and space to fully address your feelings and come to terms with them. Accepting them completely can make it easier to let them go. Try spending a little less time with that person for now, or avoid hanging out one-on-one.

If you feel lonely or in need of physical intimacy, dating others may offer a way to create new connections and ease feelings of longing.

What if your feelings are unrequited?

It’s natural to hope the person you love returns your feelings, but romance doesn’t always play out as planned. Recognizing love sometimes requires you to accept that it may not flourish as you wish.

“If you love someone, let them go,” really does emphasize one key component of love. True, compassionate love means wanting those you love to find happiness and contentment, even when those needs conflict with what you want for yourself.

Resist the temptation to press your case by showing them what a great partner you’d make, since this will likely only damage your existing relationship.

Instead, show respect by honoring their feelings and giving them any space they ask for. Make it clear you intend to go forward by maintaining your platonic friendship. This can help ease any awkwardness that might come up.

Attraction and affection can change and grow over time, and people feel and show love in many ways.

Any type of emotional commitment can fulfill the human need for connection, provided you make the effort to sustain it.

Crystal Raypole has previously worked as a writer and editor for GoodTherapy. Her fields of interest include Asian languages and literature, Japanese translation, cooking, natural sciences, sex positivity, and mental health. In particular, she’s committed to helping decrease stigma around mental health issues.

30 Signs You’d Feel Right Now

Sometimes, your own emotions can get so twisted that it’s hard even for you to decode them. Here’s how to know if you like someone.

I know it sounds strange to say that even YOU don’t know how you feel. When it comes to understanding how to tell if we like someone, we all think that we’ll know the second we start liking someone. But the truth is that we can be completely ignorant to the fact that we’ve developed feelings for someone else.

You can probably tell pretty quickly when you like someone. You get butterflies around them, you constantly check your appearance, you make sure you smell nice, and you get all nervous in front of them. These are all pretty typical signs you have a crush. But what about the signs you dismiss for something else? Could your everyday actions toward someone really mean you like them more than you initially thought? Understanding how to tell if you like someone doesn’t need to be tricky!

I think this happens the most when it’s with people we’ve known for a long time. I recently found myself won over by my best friend who has been JUST a friend of mine for a few years. I was struck hard with the realization that I actually liked the guy!

I have fallen victim to the evil clutches of these little known signs meaning I like someone. Before I connected with my current boyfriend, I didn’t realize how long I even liked him! We were friends for a long time before and it took FOREVER *well, it felt like it at least* to tell.

[Read: Are you more than friends or just friends? Here’s how to tell for sure]

Your mind can play tricks on your feelings

Another factor that can inhibit you from truly realizing your feelings can be your very own brain! A lot of people get it in their head that they can’t possibly have feelings for this person because of certain reasons.

I was convinced for the longest time that I couldn’t like my best friend because he was JUST my friend and I couldn’t cross that line. This made me blind to the fact that I was displaying the most obvious signs that I was totally into him. Even my roommate could tell, yet I had no idea myself.

Liking someone as more than a friend usually indicates a big emotional change in the way we act around them. However, sometimes you might like someone but those obvious signs are absent.

Maybe you’ve known them for a while, or even if your feelings aren’t as strong for them, it’s still there. If you’re curious how to tell if you like someone in your life, these unlikely signs uncover your hidden—even from you—secret.

[Read: 18 signs a friend likes you romantically even if’er hiding it very well]

How to know if you like someone by revealing your hidden feelings

Although it’s a strange concept that we might be able to like someone without even realizing it, there are ways to uncover how you truly feel. There are so many different signs that literally scream, “HEY DUMMY! YOU LIKE THAT PERSON!”

In order to take off the blinders and find out how you really feel about someone, you have to be willing to be truly honest with yourself. If you’re displaying any of these signs, it could mean that you like someone and don’t even know it.

1. You talk to them… all the time

I mean, if you wake up in the morning and either have a text from them or send one to them within an hour of getting up, then you definitely have a thing for them. Who else do you care about enough to roll over, groggy-eyed, and send a good morning text? [Read: 20 unmistakable signs your friend is crushing on you]


Just about everything reminds you of them… and you tell them

If you’re someone who finds yourself tagging this other person in funny memes and pictures on the internet that seem to remind you of them, then you could like them.

If you’re being reminded of this person by every little thing you see, it’s because you’re actively thinking about them during those times. AKA, you’re thinking about them a LOT. And when you’re thinking about someone that much, it only means one thing…

3. You answer their texts and calls right away

If you let everyone else’s messages sit in your inbox unanswered for hours—sometimes even days—but you answer theirs within minutes of receiving it, then you like them. If what they have to say is more important than anyone else, then they mean something more to you. It’s as simple as that. [Read: 20 flirty ways to text your crush to get them interested]

4. You answer their DMS and Snapchats before anyone else’s

Back when I was just friends with my current boyfriend, I let his messages and snaps sit for a while if I was busy. It could be hours before I got to them. But when I started answering them right away, before responding to other snaps and messages I received earlier than his, I started realizing that something was up. If this is you, you probably like them.

5. You always laugh at their jokes

Now, this could simply be because they’re genuinely a funny person, but if you’re laughing at their jokes when no one else seems to be, it’s probably because you like them. Science has proven that we find those for whom we have intimate feelings to be funnier than other people perceive them to be. [Read: How to be funny and make people love your company]

6. You get butterflies before you see them

If this happens and you still can’t tell if you like someone, then there’s something wrong with you, because this 100% means that you have a crush on them.

Butterflies are your body’s reaction to the release of adrenaline that happens when you get nervous. And being nervous around someone clearly means that you like them!


You dress a little nicer when you know they’ll be there

Sometimes, people don’t really notice this one because it can be subtle. But if you know you’re going to be around them and you take a little extra care in getting ready, then you’ve probably got a thing for that person. You only really care about your appearance when you’re going to be around someone you want to impress. [Read: 13 physical attraction tips to look way hotter!]

8. You fidget when you’re talking to them

And by fidget, I mean you pull at your clothes and hair in order to make sure it looks good for them. We also tend to fidget a lot when we’re nervous, which is another surefire sign that you like someone.

9. You tease them a lot

I don’t think any of us quite outgrow our childhood habits in this sense. We still tend to tease those whom we care about because it usually makes them smile… as long as it’s fun teasing, that is. [Read: 15 obvious flirting signs between a guy and a girl]


They know all the important details about you

We don’t open up to just anyone and share our secrets with them. We shell out our insecurities and personal details to people whom we care about and deeply trust. That kind of trust can only be fostered when you like someone intimately.

11. You pick up on their phrases

Have you noticed that you’re starting to sound more like them when you talk? This is something called mirroring, and we tend to subconsciously do it when we have feelings for someone.

12. You know details about their life

Do you know about all of their family, what their favorite anything is, and can basically co-write their biography? If this is the case, then you most definitely like them. Why else would you care about that kind of information? [Read: 13 weird, unique ways to build intimacy with your partner]

13. You take up new interests and aren’t sure why

If you find yourself picking up new hobbies, music interests, and more, and you’re not exactly sure why, they could be influenced by the person you like. If the person you like enjoys hockey, and you start watching more hockey games, it could be a sign you like them. [Read: 19 sure signs of falling in love to watch out for!]

14. You find yourself defending their decisions

This big sign gets overlooked all the time. If you talk to someone who bashes on your friend and you stick up for them, even when you’d normally disagree. You like them and don’t want anyone thinking of them poorly.

15. You mindlessly check your phone for seemingly no reason

Except the real reason, waiting for that special someone to send you a text. When you repeatedly check your phone and not sure why, you’re subconsciously waiting to see if you got a text from the person you probably like. [Read: 13 clean and flirty texting games to play with friends]

16. You notice their features more when you’re together

If you found yourself perplexed by the amount of freckles they have on their nose versus the rest of their body, you might be paying a bit more attention to their features than you realize.

By looking at them more intently, you’re basically memorizing their features so you have them stuck in your mind. This is something people do when they really like someone.

17. You talk about them a lot in normal conversation

Sure, it’s pretty normal for a person to gush about their new love interest, but if you find that you bring up their stories and experiences when you’re talking to people in normal conversation, it means you like them.

18. When watching a new show/movie/etc., you think about how they would like it

If you stumble across anything new and find that you immediately wonder if they would like it or not, it is a huge sign you like them. Thinking of their interests even when you’re busy with something reveals a lot about your feelings for them. [Read: How do you know when you love someone? 18 foolproof ways]

You dismiss this as wanting to check up on their life which could be true. However, if you specifically seek out their social media page to check their updates and find yourself staring and smiling at their pictures, it could be a sign that you like them.

20. Suddenly, you’re in a great mood when they text you

You can be in the worst mood in the entire world—a mood making Satan look like a saint—but the second you get a text from them, the bad mood fizzles out and you’re back to your happy self. This is a sign you’re into them.

21. You’ve been talking to them on a daily basis

When you like someone as a friend, you don’t talk to them every single day. But if you fall into the habit of texting someone every day and talking to them even for a little while, it shows you want to hear from them every day. A definite sign you like them. [Read: 17 clear signs you should be dating your friend already]

22. You spend more one on one time with them than before

Most friends tend to hang out in groups and not just one on one. That being said, if you find that the two of you hang out more regularly as just the two of you, and without other friends, it means you want their attention all for yourself.


They seem funnier to you than anyone else

It’s been proven you tend to laugh and think someone is funny when you like them, even if they’re not actually that funny. If you find they’re a lot funnier than they were before, it’s probably because you like them. Not because they’ve been studying up on their jokes. [Read: 12 types of humor and how it affects relationships]

24. You seek out their opinion on something first

When you like someone, their opinion becomes more powerful than almost anyone else’s. So if you find yourself in a predicament and look to them for advice before going to your best friend or even parents, this is an unlikely sign you like them.

25. You initiate everything first more often

When you’re the one waking up in the morning and texting them first, asking them to hang out first, and initiating relatively all of the contact, it’s a huge sign you like them. When you’re actively seeking out contact with someone, it’s because you value having them in your life. Meaning you want to make sure they stay in your life. This unlikely sign means you like them more than just a friend.
[Read: How to know if you really like someone: Hidden feelings revealed]

26. You have a nickname for them that only you know

For my now-boyfriend and me, I was the only person *other than his mother* who would actually call him by his full name. I never realized that this was actually a very revealing sign that I had feelings for him.

By making up a nickname for them that only you seem to use, you’re separating yourself from the “competition.” You may not know you’re doing it, but this will give you some individualized contact with them. [Read: What you pet name says about your relationship]

27. You’re excited they have a nickname for you

Making unique nicknames for someone is what you do out of affection. They may have come up with a name as a joke. But they still use it and are the only one to use it. As corny as the nickname may be, your heart skips a beat every time they call you by that special name.

28. You see their opinion as the most important

If you go to this special person for their opinion and take what they have to say over that of a family member or another close friend, it’s because you like them and want to please them—subconsciously, of course.

29. You randomly end up on their social media page

I say “randomly” because it might seem that way to you at first. But the truth is that nothing is truly random. You’ve ended up on their page scrolling through their pictures for a reason.

And I bet that reason has a little something to do with the fact that you miss them. In fact, if you find that this happens a lot when you haven’t heard from them in a while, then you definitely dig them. [Read: How to tell if you’re in love – 15 clues you probably didn’t realize already]

30. You get annoyed when you see them with someone else

Jealousy is one of the biggest and most obvious signs that you like someone more than just as a friend. Some people try to deny that they’re jealous, and this can lead to their never realizing their true feelings. If you get annoyed and upset when this person is with someone else, then you’ve got to be honest with yourself and see that you have feelings for them. [Read: How to tell someone you like them and win them over]

It’s crazy how we sometimes can’t even tell ourselves if we have feelings for someone. But with these unlikely signs, you’ll be able to find out how to know if you like someone even when you’re not showing any of the “typical” signs. And it can also can reveal all of your hidden feelings about that special person too!

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How to tell a girl that you like her


When you think about it, you instantly feel elated, and butterflies flutter in your stomach? Subscribed to all her social networks, catch every word and can't look away when you meet? Boy, are you in love! There is only one catch - she does not even know about your feelings. AX will help you find the right words to get through to the girl's heart and not get stuck in the orbit of the friend zone.

Before you tell about your sympathy, establish contact

Let's start simple: do you know each other personally? To change the status of a secret admirer to “the very one”, at least you need to cross paths in reality. Ask mutual friends to introduce you. If you've found each other on a dating app, don't be afraid to take the first step and ask a girl out on a date.

Study in the same class, move in the same company or go to the same parties? Even better! It remains to find an excuse to spend some time alone. It is not necessary to immediately hint at romance. In a casual manner, write to her in direct and in a friendly way offer to go somewhere. nine0003

Prepare for the meeting in advance. Casually ask mutual friends, study posts and stories in her social networks. This will help you understand what is interesting to your chosen one, and which topics are better not to raise. It is important not to overdo it here. Act like a secret agent. A girl shouldn't think you're following her. Remember, stalking is dumb, and in many countries it is also illegal.

3 proven ways to communicate feelings

You had a great time. You shone with wit and made a great impression. But if you let the situation take its course, there is a risk of forever hanging in the friend zone. The time has come to dot the i's. nine0003

  • Ask a friend for help. It looks like cheating, but if at the sight of your beloved your knees tremble and the gift of speech disappears - why not? Quite a working way to test the waters and find out what the girl thinks about you. Besides, if she refuses, you don't have to blush and look for ways to retreat;

  • Write a message. Not the most ideal, but in every sense a convenient option. You will have time to think of the perfect phrase. You will definitely not be interrupted or distracted by anyone. If you're all on your nerves while waiting for an answer, she won't see it. But there is a minus - hugs and kisses will have to wait until the next meeting; nine0025
  • Tell it like it is. Perhaps she is secretly in love with you and has been waiting for the first step for a long time? Even if the girl needs time to think, a bold act will clearly play in your favor.

The most important thing is to make your feelings known, try to make it easier.

How to write about feelings in a message

Don't start a conversation with "I love you, let's meet" (not to mention more immodest sentences and pictures). Of course, if you don’t want to get a sharp “no” and end up on the black list. Overwhelming a girl with a million messages is also not a good idea. As well as rushing things with the phrases “zaya, don’t be silent.” Perhaps she has no time to enter the messenger, or she needs time to think over your words. nine0011

Ideally, if the conversation develops by itself. You move from one topic to another, exchange stickers and links. In order not to break the vibe, avoid pathos and declarations of eternal love. It would be more appropriate to say that you like her sense of humor / taste in music / outlook on life. In order not to seem superficial, instead of complimenting appearance, it is better to focus on character traits or successes. Attach a romantic track or a cute picture - you can make it clear how dear you are, not only in words. nine0003

How to confess your feelings in private

Don't screw yourself up. No vows of eternal love needed. Serenades, an orchestra or fireworks in the background are also clearly overkill. There is no need to prescribe a date script or memorize a long speech. In life, things rarely go according to plan. Even the simplest words will hit the target if they are spoken from the heart.

You yourself will feel the right moment. This can happen when you remember shared adventures. Or laugh uncontrollably at each other's jokes. Or find yourself in a stunningly romantic place. The main thing is to be on the same wavelength and behave at ease. Be brave and let your efforts be crowned with a happy ending in the spirit of classic rom-coms. AX believes in you! nine0003

What to do if you like a guy: how to understand what you want and confess your feelings feeling. Agree that there are never too many articles about love! Man is a social being: we tend to look for a kindred spirit, someone who will understand perfectly, with whom it will be comfortable and warm. At the same time, relationships are not an obligatory, not the main, but very pleasant part of life. nine0003

That's why we want so much to understand: are we doing everything right? Will we frighten the object of sighing with our temperament, habits, beliefs? Are we getting too close? Or is it high time for us to do what others went through a long time ago?

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Perhaps the most interesting and challenging part of a relationship - friendly, romantic, platonic - is that they are all unique and important. It’s nice to have a boyfriend, but it’s equally great to have true friends, mentors, and self-respect. Each person is free to build relationships the way he wants to, to satisfy his needs, and not the requirements of society. nine0003

In order for sympathy to grow into something pleasant and necessary, you need to work on relationships, and love and respect yourself.

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How do you know if a guy likes you or not?

You may feel embarrassed, blush, not know what to say. If you like a person, you want to smile, butterflies “flutter” in your soul, you “melt” from light compliments, you get goosebumps, and you have a lot of energy. You think he's the coolest thing in the world. And that's great. nine0003

And you dream about him, so that he invites you on a date, but he is silent. It makes you think: "Does he like me?".

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How do you know if a guy likes you?

  • See if he looks at you when he thinks you can't see. Is he trying to get close to you?

  • It is important to pay attention to his actions: how he talks to girls, whether he helps if you contact him, whether he shows interest in what you say, whether he is ready to change his plans for the sake of an important matter for you. nine0003

  • Sometimes guys are very modest and insecure. They need to be helped to show their interest: ask for help, compliment what he understands.

  • Despite strong emotions and desire to please, think about yourself first. Don't hide, don't ignore, don't be rude, be yourself. If you want to laugh - laugh, if you don't like something - say it directly, but gently. The more you try, the less effective the result.

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If your feelings are mutual, he will continue your communication himself. If not, accept it. A boyfriend is only one millionth part of your life. Understand that you are the queen of your freedom and never impose yourself. And even more so, do not beat off the guy from your friends! After all, a relationship of free reciprocity is much more pleasant.

Guys like girls who are natural and self-confident. They can joke or tease, but adore those who respect themselves. nine0003

  • Love yourself, stand up for your limits, do your favorite hobbies, never break your rules, don't let anything you don't like do, and you will definitely meet "your" person. Russian public figure, psychologist

    The feeling of sympathy for a person is a wonderful feeling. And with the sympathy that has arisen on your part, you need to get to know each other better, better understand each other's interests. nine0003

    How to start a conversation with a guy you like

    • Tell us something about yourself that is important to you, about your interests in life. Share YOUR hobbies;

    • Tell us about interesting life events that you consider important for you and interesting for another person. Ask the chosen one to tell some stories close to him;

    • At the first stage of acquaintance, there is no need to share the secret. It's not ethical or good for you, and it can also put the person you like in a difficult situation. nine0003

    You can tell by the young man's reactions whether he wants to develop a relationship. When in doubt, take the initiative. Suggest the next meeting yourself, combining it with some event that may be of interest to both you and the young man. At the next meeting or meetings you will be able to understand if there is a reciprocal interest in you.

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