How to block negative energy from others


How to Protect Yourself from Others Negative Energy

How to Protect Yourself from Others Negative Energy
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Medically reviewed by Scientific Advisory Board — By Dr. Sharie Stines, LPCC on March 25, 2020

Since I so frequently write about narcissistic abuse, I know a common problem victims have is knowing how to cope with someones silent treatments, stone walling, brooding, pouting, outrage, judgementalism, negative implications, or other adverse energetic expressions.

Have you ever noticed how some people just enter a room and you can feel their energy? While some people have calming, soothing energy, others cause us to feel anxious and on edge.

This article addresses this problem. In a nutshell, what you will be doing is setting boundaries. The following list suggests some of the boundaries you can set in order to protect yourself and preserve your sanity.

  1. Keep your own power. One of the problems that happens when you are around a person with negative energy is that you can easily give that person permission to steal your joy, or otherwise impact your own state of mind in a negative way. Make the decision to hold on to yourself and your power and refuse to let the negative person own you.
  2. Stay positive. Think positive. Be hopeful. Be grateful. Make a decision to find the good in your life and dont allow another persons miserableness to define you or your day in any way. Imagine yourself as the separate person you are and remind yourself that you are only responsible for your life, not anyone elses.
  3. Ignore the perpetrator. This takes a concerted effort, as do all the suggestions in this article. Before you walk in to the situation with the person with negative energy, make the decision ahead of time that you will simply ignore him/her. Once you have made this decision it becomes easy. When you start falling prey to assuming you can have a conversation with the person remind yourself that you have already decided to ignore them.
  4. Give the silent treatment. This is similar to ignoring, yet a little more active than that. Usually it is considered rude to ignore other people by giving them the silent treatment. However, in light of coping with a difficult person, studies have shown that giving someone the silent treatment can be an easier way to interact with a difficult person than having an actual conversation. “It may be used as a way to offset feelings of fatigue or depletion associated with the expectation of an unpleasant interaction.” (The Body ODD, 2013)”Findings suggest that the silent treatment may be used as a strategy for conserving mental resources that would otherwise be exhausted by interacting with someone who is inherently aversive to be around.” (The Body ODD, 2013).
  5. Move to a different space. Because it is so often easy to absorb another persons energy, I find it helpful to remove myself from the negative persons energy field. If you are having difficulties remaining objective and non-affected by the offending person, simply move away from their atmosphere. Maybe you are an empath and you tend to absorb other peoples emotions rather easily. Its good for you to realize this and protect yourself using any means necessary.
  6. Look away from the person. It is much easier to stay in your own space and protect yourself from negative people by pretending theyre not there. Its easier to do this by not looking at the person. Remind yourself to look away if you catch yourself noticing that person.
  7. Use Imagery. Imagine yourself surrounded by a protective shield. Picture yourself with an aura of positive energy surrounding you and emanating outwards from you. Use your imagination to picture how you want to feel when youre in the presence of a person who tends to drain the positivity right out of you.This process of imagery works because it is a form of practice. As with the concept of practice makes perfect, practicing in your mind how you want to see yourself, changes the way your mind thinks.
  8. Give the negative energy back.If you find yourself absorbing the negativity despite your best efforts use imagery as well to visualize yourself removing the negativity from yourself and placing it back on the other person where it belongs. To do this, stop and think for a minute how you feel and where you feel the negative emotions. Once you establish this imagery, picture yourself letting the negativity flow out of and off of you. See it being released into the atmosphere and flowing back to the source.

The bottom line is, your life is your responsibility. Once you can concretely come to that conclusion you can realize that you have choices and personal power to decide how others will affect you. If you dont like the way you feel around certain people then it is 100 percent up to you to take care of yourself when youre around them. The way they are may trigger you for some reason. Whether they are intentionally antagonizing you or not, it is your responsibility to take care of your own emotional needs.

Reference:

The Body Odd. (FEB 27 2013). How to deal with jerks: Give em the silent treatment. By: NBC News. Retrieved from: https://www.nbcnews.com/healthmain/how-deal-jerks-give-em-silent-treatment-1C8580863

Last medically reviewed on March 25, 2020

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01/8​5 powerful tips to get rid of the negative energy attached to you

Tell us if this sounds familiar to you. You have finally gotten a piece of much-awaited good news and you immediately share it across all your WhatsApp groups and social media handles. Whether it is getting a coveted new job or a loved one finally recovering from an illness--it doesn't matter what the news is, it just makes you immensely happy. However, suddenly the good news doesn’t seem to make sense anymore or things might have taken a turn for the worse. It makes you remember the ‘Kala Teeka’ your mother used to put on your forehead or behind your ears to avoid negative energies.

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02/8​Are you surrounded by negativity?

You don’t exactly need to be a monk to sense the subtle changes in vibrations in and around us. When you pay close attention, you can easily recognise and learn the symptoms that you are surrounded by negative energy and need to get rid of the same. Some of them are:

1. You feel fidgety and restless

2. You are not able to sleep properly

3.You feel down and out and anxious

4.Your thoughts and feelings spiral out of control

5. You tend to absorb others' negative thoughts quickly

6. You make impulsive decisions

7. You feel irritable after meeting certain people and your energy depletes

Your thoughts, the words you say, the people you interact with and even your home and office areas where you spend a lot of your time, are powerful concentrations of your energy. If you relate with any of the signs of negative energy in or around you as mentioned above, here are certain ways to get rid of the same:

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03/8​Identify get and rid of negative influences in your life

Do you feel drained of energy as soon as you meet a particular person or a go to a specific place? Since negativity is toxic to your entire system, it is also important to identify the cause and source of this negativity. However, we understand that it is not always easy to detach yourself from such people. So, take the first step and cut down on the time you spend with people who drain your energy. It is important to establish and maintain boundaries so that you don’t get pushed into situations you don’t wish to be a part of.

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04/8​Practice meditation and calming techniques​

One of the quickest ways to calm yourself down and get back to a state of relaxation is to practice meditation. Find a quiet place and close your eyes. Observe your thoughts as they pace through your head and do not label them as good or bad. Take deep relaxing breaths and feel the weight being lifted from your shoulders. If you are not one for meditation, you can also start walking or jogging to lift your spirits and drive the negative energy away. This is especially important when you don’t feel like doing anything at all and feel like you are getting sucked into a black hole of negativity.

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05/8​Clean your office and home and get rid of the clutter

This one is a no-brainer. Clean your tabletops, your closets and even your workstation to free up space and invite positivity your way. Make it a point to get rid of the clutter and do not hoard items that you no longer need.

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06/8​Put a pause on cribbing and whining

Make a mental note of the number of times you complain in a day. When you do so, you will realise a lot of times, the whining and cribbing were completely unnecessary. The more you whine about what is irritating you, the more you pay attention to what is upsetting you and then you complain some more. Focus on the solution instead of cribbing and complaining as it doesn't solve anything.

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07/8​Smudging and salt

You can also take the help of certain unconventional approaches to get rid of negative vibes. Pour salt into the four corners of your room and let it sit for 48 hours. It is believed that salt absorbs the negative energy present in the surroundings. After 48 hours, throw the salt away. You can also try smudging your room with a sage smudge stick for positivity. If you do not have sage smudge sticks, you can also use good quality incense stick for a similar effect.

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08/8​Stay close to nature

If you usually keep the windows closes, it is important to keep the windows open and let in sunlight and fresh air. You can also add more plants in and around your house for more vitality and positivity. Also, make it a point to remove dying or dead plants immediately.

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14 ways to protect yourself from negative energy

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Negative energy can be encountered anywhere. Everywhere there are people who constantly complain about life, have bad habits and just get on your nerves. The feelings they spread greatly influence your thoughts and actions, so protecting yourself from sources of negative energy is a must if you want to be a more relaxed and happy person.

Everyone can easily give in to negative feelings, and the only exception is people who have figured out how to deal with them quickly. These 14 ways will show you exactly how positive people get rid of negativity. You can easily and simply use these secrets in your life.

1. Look for happiness in your inner world

Positive people do not build their happiness on the basis of external stimuli. They understand that as soon as the pathogen disappears, the mood will immediately change, and not for the better. Instead, they are constantly looking for internal sources of positive energy and practicing mindfulness.

2. Stick to the rules of positive thinking

Thoughts influence your actions, so if you think negatively, you can hardly hope for a bright future. Don't give in to the excuses your brain makes up. Only through positive thoughts and finding the good side in any problem can you be sure that you are fully tuned only for success.


3. Believe in yourself

Never let negativity get too personal. There will be many more people in your life whose opinion you will have to ignore, because it will be better for your nervous system. There are always endless reasons to believe in yourself, even if you feel completely helpless and worthless. Such negative thoughts are only temporary obstacles and have absolutely nothing to do with reality.

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Shut off negative people as much as possible Your environment has a huge influence on you, no matter how independent you consider yourself. If you spend most of your time with positive people, you are more likely to become a happy and contented person soon. On the other hand, if you are in too close a relationship with those who complain and wail, it will be much harder for you to remove negative energy from your life.


5. Go in for sports

Physical education is directly related to the release of endorphins, which are responsible for good mood and self-awareness. Body workouts always pay off and have the pleasurable consequences of reducing stress and increasing happiness. On the other hand, if you ignore the needs of your body, it will lead to the fact that soon enough you will experience all the negative consequences of sedentary and unhealthy lifestyle.

6. Spend more time in nature

Being in nature clears the mind and relaxes the body. Positive people always dedicate part of their day to walks in the fresh air and enjoy the beauty of our planet with pleasure. This is the best option for rest and relaxation!

7. Avoid ill-advised spending

In today's world, discounts and sales are designed to actively compete for your attention, so it's easier than ever to spend money down the drain. Since unplanned purchases can instantly lift our spirits, we often forget that in the long run they are unhealthy habits that successful people avoid at all costs.

8. Accept your mistakes and failures

Positive and successful people see failure as the only sure way to learn and grow. Whenever their plans and hopes are dashed, they begin to forge a new path to victory instead of giving up. Even if failure makes you feel negative, you should understand that it will pass quickly. And to speed up this process, it is enough not to give up and continue to think positively.


9. Learn to be responsible

You need to learn to always take responsibility for what happens in your life. Whether it's success or failure, it's always the result of your actions and thoughts. Instead of blaming external factors and other people, focus on the things you can improve.

10. Learn to control your thoughts

The mind can easily get out of your control due to sudden negative thoughts. Happy people know that if they cannot control their thoughts, they will instantly lose control over their actions and behavior. For this reason, many practice mind control exercises such as meditation, prayer, and others.

11. Give Yourself A Well-Deserved Rest

Instead of trying to always be right and the best, you sometimes need to slow down to reflect on your goals and secondary ambitions, and just lighten the load. This will allow you to avoid burnout, which always causes the accumulation of negative energy.

12. Believe that there is always a solution

Everyone sometimes finds it hopelessly difficult. At such moments, many begin to doubt their ability to solve the current problem. The fact is that there is always a way to overcome an obstacle, and positive people never let go of this thought. Even if they reach the very bottom, they believe that it will definitely happen, so that in the future they will be able to reach the very top and become even stronger.

13. Learn to say "no"

The value of saying "yes" and "no" at the right time is truly priceless. Despite the common misconception that you should always say “yes!”, both of these words are extremely powerful and you control what happens in your life.

Successful people always focus on their priorities instead of pleasing others. That's why they know there are many things you don't have to say yes to.

14. Remember that you don't need everyone's approval

If you let other people's opinions control you, it will be very difficult for you to feel happy and confident. But many people are constantly afraid of not getting praise and being criticized. You should start thinking and acting in a completely opposite way right now.

Use disapproval as an indication of the authenticity and truth of your ideas. The fact is that there are not so many things in the world in which you should be interested in the opinions of others.

Do not forget these simple but very effective rules and read them at least once a month for prevention. Then there will definitely be no place for negative energy in your life!

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    7 ways to protect yourself from negativity

    October 19, 2016 Relationship

    It's hard to stay positive when you're surrounded by negative people. These tips will help you maintain your composure and peace of mind.

    Do you have any acquaintances or colleagues who are constantly dissatisfied with everything? They complain about life, about work, about friends and family members. They are not satisfied with the state of their health, the weather, the roads and Jared Leto's new hair color. You can list indefinitely.

    If you've ever talked to such a person, you've probably experienced first hand how difficult it is to maintain a positive attitude and not become discouraged after a conversation with him. But such people are not so rare. And it is not always possible to avoid interacting with them.

    To stop a negative person from draining your energy, try following these guidelines.

    1. Set boundaries and guard them

    It is very hard to deal with people who are stuck in their problems and are unable to focus on solving them. They want others around them to give them moral support 24 hours a day and share their pessimism. You do not interrupt their endless complaints because you are afraid to appear rude and callous. However, it is one thing to provide emotional support, and another thing to get stuck up to your neck in the swamp of their negativity.

    In order not to fall into this swamp, set clear boundaries and keep a distance between yourself and the source of negativity.

    Just think, would you sit next to a person who smokes one cigarette after another all day and enjoy the smoke? Hardly. So step back and get some fresh air. In all senses.

    If in the near future you cannot protect yourself from the company of an annoyingly negative interlocutor, try to neutralize him by asking how he is going to solve the problem that he constantly complains about. Often this is enough for the interlocutor to close the topic or turn the conversation into a more constructive direction. At least for a while.

    2. Don't let the other person piss you off

    Emotional reaction shows that we cannot assess the situation objectively. Emotions can take over you for just a couple of seconds, or they can completely take control of your behavior. If a person who radiates negativity managed to anger or unbalance you, it means that you were unable to maintain a sober view of the situation.

    When you encounter negative behavior that offends you, don't return insult for insult. Maintain dignity and do not stoop to the level of your interlocutor. Try to see to the root.

    3. Offer to switch to lighter topics

    Some people get negative only about their painful topics. To you, these topics may seem rather innocuous. For example, if someone is dissatisfied with his job, he will mention it on any occasion, out of place and out of place, and constantly complain about it. If you try to insert your positive comment, you will be thrown out with an even greater dose of negativity.

    Do not try to change the interlocutor's attitude to a topic that is painful for him. Perhaps his problems with this topic are much deeper than they seem. The best way out is to suggest changing the subject to a lighter and more positive one. Share funny stories, good memories, anything that can distract your interlocutor from obsessive thoughts.

    4. Focus not on the problem, but on its solution

    What you focus on affects your emotional state. If you focus on the problems you are facing, you only increase the negative impact of stressors. If you are looking for a way to improve the current situation, then you feel satisfied, which causes positive emotions and helps to overcome anxiety.

    The same principle should be used when dealing with negative people. Just stop thinking about how annoying the other person is. Instead, ask yourself how you can influence this person's behavior so that it doesn't make you uncomfortable. This way you will stop worrying and be able to take control of the situation.

    5. Distract from the opinions of others

    Successful people tend to think internally. This means that according to the ideas of such people, their well-being depends only on themselves. Psychologists call this personality trait an internal locus of control. Negative people usually shift the responsibility for their lives to others and blame others for everything that happens to them or does not happen to them. They provide an example of an external locus of control.

    If your self-esteem and satisfaction depend on the opinions of other people, you cannot be happy without someone else's approval. When emotionally strong people are confident that they are doing something right, they don't let superficial judgments and snarky comments from others lead them astray.

    You are not as good as you are praised when you win. But not as bad as you are condemned when you lose. What matters is what you learn and how you use what you learn.

    6. Don't try to fix other people

    You can help some people by showing them an example. And for some you can't. Do not let energy vampires and manipulators disturb your inner balance. You cannot control what you cannot control.

    If there is something you don't like about the behavior of the person you love, and you hope that over time it will change, then it is better to leave these hopes. The likelihood that he will remain the same as he was is too great. If you really want to change something, be honest with your loved one and lay all your cards on the table. Let your significant other know how you feel and why you feel the way you do.

    However, in most cases you should not even try to change the other person. Accept him for who he is, or leave his life.

    It might sound harsh, but it's the best. When you try to change a person, in response, he often begins to resist and you get the opposite effect. But if you leave these attempts and just support this person, giving him the freedom to independently determine what he wants to be, gradually he can change himself. And change amazingly. Perhaps your attitude towards this person will change.

    7. Take care of yourself

    Do not forget about yourself simply because others do the same. If you are forced to work or live under the same roof with a source of constant negativity, make sure you have enough time to rest and restore internal resources.

    It is quite difficult to always maintain the correct unemotional perception of the situation. Negative people can keep you up at night wondering, “What am I doing wrong?”, “Am I really that bad that they talk to me like that?”, “Maybe I offended him in some way?”, "I can't believe she did this to me!" and so on.

    You can worry for weeks, months. Even for years. Unfortunately, sometimes this is the goal of a negative person. He seeks to piss you off and bring you down to his level of negative thinking. Therefore, take care of yourself so that in the future you can calmly repel the attacks of such emotional vampires.

    And finally…

    No matter how hard it is to admit it, but sometimes you yourself are the source of negativity.


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