How do you cry
How To Make Yourself Cry
One of the best ways to release anxiety, frustration, or stress is to cry. Everyone needs to let it out once in a while, and there is definitely nothing wrong with that. In fact, it can actually be good for you. But there are times when you have a box of tissues and are ready to go, but the tears just won’t come. At these times, you may want to know how to make yourself cry because allowing yourself to do that is so important.
Crying can help you move through the stress cycle and release stress, says Olga Karasina, PsyD, of Midwest Counseling. “Not having any release when we are feeling strong emotions is akin to trying to keep a beach ball underwater, it is exhausting and eventually will come up and in a much more unpredictable and undesirable manner,” she adds.
Crying can also be a self-soothing mechanism and help free us up from emotions that we have bottled up and that are now taking up space and likely impacting us without any release, notes Karasina.
So, why do some people have trouble crying? Sometimes medical issues like dry eye syndrome, where an insufficient amount of tears are produced, and Sjögren's syndrome, an autoimmune disease characterized by dry eyes and mouth, can make it difficult for you to shed tears. Certain medications, especially antidepressants, antihistamines, birth control, and blood pressure drugs, can do the same. It may seem counterintuitive, but people with depression may not have the energy to cry even if they get the urge. You may also not be able to because you are avoiding it—you may want to escape from uncomfortable feelings and thoughts by suppressing them.
If you really need the release but can't seem to make it happen, here are a few tips from experts to get the waterworks going.
1.
Avoid BlinkingOne of the easiest ways to make yourself cry is by not blinking. “Your body’s natural instinct is to blink to produce moisture and prevent any debris and dirt from lingering and risk causing an infection,” says Lena Suarez-Angelino, LCSW, of Choosing Therapy.
“When you go against nature, your body will try to do everything in its power to recalibrate.”
Try staring at a blank wall for 20 to 30 seconds, or as long as you can stand. Your eyes will most likely start to burn and a tear or two will fall. If you do that *and* think about something that made you feel hurt or sad, then put on a sad song, you can most likely start crying.
2. Engage In Breathwork
“Breathwork elicits your parasympathetic nervous system and helps to bring you back into balance emotionally, mentally, physically, and spiritually,” notes Suarez-Angelino. “Many people report they have cried, along with other healing experiences, as a result of breathwork sessions.”
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If you’re new to this practice, try the techniques on a weekly basis and allow space for yourself to implement and process the healing that may come up during these sessions.
3. Go For A Walk
Walking on a daily basis is beneficial for various reasons, but heading outside, especially without any distractions, allows you to go inward and reflect. “Reflect on things you feel you have been ignoring or sweeping under the rug. Allow them to surface and tune into your feelings and thoughts about these situations,” says Suarez-Angelino.
4. Listen To Music
Music is a great way for people to tap into their emotions. Karasina recommends putting on a song of your choice and thinking about a time that brings up emotions for you personally.
She also recommends pairing this with another activity like spending time in nature or doing yoga in your favorite outdoor space where you feel comfortable and safe. This combo may help you connect with yourself and offer you the opportunity to fully embrace your feelings in the moment.
5.
Move Your BodyWorking out and getting your body moving can also help shuffle any stagnant energy throughout your body to facilitate an emotional release.
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“Certain poses in yoga are known to help heal trauma and process emotions, which often results in tears,” says Suarez-Angelino. “Sometimes a vigorous workout that involves hitting or punching, such as kickboxing or regular boxing can help get out some of the frustration you are experiencing, which helps break down the barrier and allow tears to flow.”
Depending on how often you exercise and the amount of pent-up emotions and tension you have, you may find yourself crying rather often initially and then less over time.
6. Read A Sad Story
Similar to listening to music, reading something sad can help bring on the tears.
“Some book titles are notorious for having people repeatedly cry time and time again, regardless of the number of times they have read them,” says Suarez-Angelino.
If you think you need some practice with this method, she recommends trying it once a month, or if you feel like you need to cry more often, once a week.
7. Take A Shower
Some people need privacy to have a good cry or don’t like the feeling of tears rolling down their cheeks. If that is the case for you, try taking a shower. “Try taking a shower and use your senses to muffle the outward sounds of crying while also being able to blend the water on your face with the tears streaming down,” says Suarez-Angelino.
However, she cautions not to take too much time trying to turn on the waterworks. “You could try this every time you are in the shower for no longer than about five minutes, so as to not waste any water,” she says.
8.
Talk To SomeoneIf you are having a hard time getting in touch with your emotions, Karasina recommends opening up and sharing your feelings with someone you trust like a family member, good friend, or partner. “A therapy session or good vulnerable talk with someone you trust can sometimes bring about feelings and allow us to have a good cry,” she adds.
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She even suggests looking into group therapy or an online support group, which may offer another space to feel safe and supported to share and have the experience of crying surrounded by people who can hold space for and support this expression.
9. Write It Out
If you are upset and want to cry it out, Suarez-Angelino recommends taking out some paper and pen and writing a letter to the person or situation that is upsetting you. “Sometimes being able to write down your feelings and thoughts helps your emotions rise to the surface and make themselves known,” she says.
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It is not intended to be mailed or shown to whoever is involved in the situation, but rather to allow for expression without judgment. “When you are graced with this space, the tears are more likely to come,” says Suarez-Angelino.
10. Yawn
Another simple way to help get the tears flowing is by yawning. “Try yawning a few times in a row to wake up the tear ducts. This may be helpful to get your body to cry,” says Suarez-Angelino, but note that this method may not work for everyone.
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The good news is yawning does not cause any harm if you do it too much. However, forced yawning can quickly turn into actual yawning and you may start to feel fatigued or tired.
When trying to make yourself cry, the most important thing is to not feel any pressure to cry.
“Let go of the expectation that you need to have tears in order to feel. The moment you let go of the pressure of forcing yourself to have tears, you are able to take a breath and start to process your emotions,” says Suarez-Angelino.
Ashley Martens
Ashley Martens is a Wellness Writer based in Chicago, Illinois. With a digital marketing background and her knowledge of general nutrition and a lifelong passion for all things health and wellness, Ashley covers topics that can help people live happier and healthier lives.
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There are few things quite as cathartic as weeping. And it can be frustrating when you feel like you need to release some emotion, but you can’t seem to figure out how to make yourself cry.
There are a number of complex, underlying reasons that could be inhibiting your ability to cry: Perhaps you’re disconnected from your emotions, or you’ve been conditioned to view weeping as shameful, or you’re a man. (Yes, the stereotype that women tear up more than men is backed by science.) But weeping is one of the healthiest outward expressions of emotions. Studies have shown that crying naturally reduces stress and lowers your body’s manganese level, which is associated with anxiety and irritability.
Having one of those days that seems to call for a good cry? Below, the Cut staff shares tips that just might get the tears flowing.
If you ask someone for advice on how to make yourself cry, “listen to sad music” is an obvious answer — precisely because it’s usually pretty effective. Fire up your Spotify and put on an old breakup playlist, or perhaps Blue — and in particular, “River” — by Joni Mitchell. A few other song suggestions from Cut staffers: “You Had Time” by Ani DiFranco, “Putting the Dog to Sleep” by the Antlers, and “On the Nature of Daylight” by Max Richter. Orchestral music also lends itself well to repeat listening, so if you feel a big sob swelling inside of you, hit the repeat button and lie down.
Afterwards, you’ll likely find yourself in higher spirits than before: According to a study published in Scientific Reports, crying to depressing music actually produces a measurable sense of pleasure.
If music isn’t doing it for you, try recalling the films, televisions shows, or even commercials that have made you weep in the past. For one Cut writer, Boromir’s death in Lord of the Rings: The Fellowship of the Ring and the poem scene in 10 Things I Hate About You make her weepy. When another staffer is looking for something to “fuck her all the way up,” she rewatches the tragic scene in season one of Grey’s Anatomy, where Izzy’s love interest, Denny Duquette, suddenly dies and “Chasing Cars” by Snow Patrol slowly swells in the background.
I’ve been known to revisit Budweiser’s Clydesdales commercial with the lost puppy, which is an instant tearjerker.
If none of those speak to you, we’ve compiled a list of the 15 best sad movies on Netflix. There’s also always the first few minutes of Up.
Another way to make yourself cry is to reflect on past experiences in which you were memorably sad: breakups, deaths of loved ones, or times you felt betrayed or hurt by someone close to you. Or try imagining scenarios, hypothetical or otherwise, that would make you very, very sad. A few suggestions: How the world will look in 15 years if we continue to respond to our global climate catastrophe with zero urgency, or factory farming.
If recalling sad memories isn’t the right route for you, try putting yourself in a more positive headspace and think about what you’re grateful for. To get the tears rolling, one editor at the Cut thinks about how much her mother helps her care for her kids.
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published on Single "Why Are You Crying" https://www. youtube.com/watch?v=Fu_b7vnvk5w Premier: 11/30/2021 Music: Chikiss Lyrics: Boris Pokid'ko Sound/Mastering: Robin Hunt ... Why are you crying, you'll die anyway And you'll lose something along the way And if a moment - and the song does not sing And what do you have left to sing about? What to be silent about? You look like ice Salty tears frozen at random But won't a miracle come? And life is just an endless hell? But a dream is just a dream, and in the morning again The fields will be filled with young grass And maybe love will come to you You sing softly on the way to her Summer has just passed again Dreams will die in a sky-high coffin And only a ray of sun through the glass Showered with kisses fate And at the hour when you can't open your lips Silence will freeze in silence Lead will flicker behind the cloud And mercury shine in the sky blue But a dream is just a dream, and in the morning again The fields will be filled with young grass And maybe love will come to you You sing softly on the way to her And now your horse managed to end In vain death was afraid not to come And only a ray of sunshine on the window After all, you could find your love.
... Why are you crying, you will die anyway. And you will lose something along the way. And if one jiffy. And you can't sing this song? And what are you left to sing about? What is this silence about? You look like the ice from salty tears Frozen out of place. Well, really, a miracle won't come, And life is just endless hell? But a dream is just a dream. And again tomorrow the fields will be filled with new grass. And maybe love will come to you. Sing quietly along the road to her. Summer has just passed again. Dreams will die in a sky-high grave. And only a ray of sunshine Through the glass will shower fate with kisses. And at an hour when you can't unclench your lips, Silence will freeze in the sky And lead will gleam behind the cloud, And mercury will shine in the heavenly blue. But a dream is just a dream. And again tomorrow the fields will be filled with new grass. And maybe love will come to you. Sing quietly along the road to her. And now your round has managed to end. And death would not come in vain.
