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17 Signs You Have A Bad Attitude And How To Change It
Do you have a bad attitude? I mean, how can you tell, really?
One person’s bad attitude is another’s comic relief, right?
Turns out, not so much.
You’re just getting a reputation for being one of those people with attitude. And it’s never a compliment. At some point, even your friends stop pretending you’re funny.
So, you want to know, what is a bad attitude? And if you have one, where did it come from? And what can you do to change it?
What’s in this post:
What Does It Mean to Have a Bad Attitude?
This day has been on your case from the moment you got up this morning.
And for some reason, other people have been acting as if you are the problem.
You’re the one having an attitude that makes everything and everyone in your life an antagonist.
Maybe you’re asking yourself, “Why do I have a bad attitude?” And, at first, habit steers you toward blame. Someone or something else has given this day a bad start.
You were just minding your own business when, for no reason, the universe flicked you in the head. Back up a bit more, though, and you can probably point to one of the following as the reason why your attitude is so negative.
- You’re working through something, and you just can’t with people right now.
- You pride yourself on your grumpiness; it’s just who you are.
- You’re a glass-half-empty (or just empty) person, and you’re okay with that.
- You think people today are too sensitive, and it’s your job to toughen them up.
- You woke up with your usual mindset, which can be roughly translated as “Ugh!”
The good news, once you know why your attitude is making your life harder, you can exchange it for one that makes it easier and more enjoyable.
But first, you need to be honest with yourself about where that attitude came from.
There are reasons behind your attitudes, including the ones that make life harder.
And those reasons serve as telltale signs you need to take a moment and examine your thinking.
Once you identify the signs of a bad attitude, you can take steps to improve it.
1. You’re (always) comparing yourself to others.
If you’re always comparing yourself to others, you’re bound to end up with a negative attitude, at least whenever you feel inferior to the other person.
What you can do: When you hear of someone else’s success or good fortune, be as happy and grateful for them as you would be for yourself. Make it a habit to see everyone’s wins as a win for you, too.
2. You expect other people to operate according to your schedule.
You’ve got things to do and places to go. How dare anyone make you late for something! If you react harshly, it’s only because you take your duties seriously.
What you can do — Remember that while you have an idea of how long it should take to do something, other people are dealing with things you can’t see. It’s easier to be patient when you choose instead to think of how grateful you are for what they do.
3. Everyone irritates you.
You’re always looking for a fight, and it doesn’t take much for you to get mouthy or abrasive. You’re rude to anyone who doesn’t meet your high standards.
What you can do — Get to know yourself. And get to know other people. Your own attitude is what keeps you in a hair-trigger state, and that’s no way to live. You’re choosing to feel irritated; no one can make you feel that way unless you let them.
4. You expect deference from people whose jobs are less prestigious than yours.
Somewhere along the way, you started looking down at people who work low-income jobs or who never earned a college degree. Whatever your background, it’s never too late to educate yourself and learn how to see people as they are.
What you can do — Find a volunteer opportunity that involves serving people, either in foodservice, cleaning, or something else. It’s not the fault of essential workers that society doesn’t value the hard work they do.
5. You expect others to respectyou before you show them respect.
Not only that, but you don’t feel respected unless other people do as you ask. If the other person doesn’t obey or indulge you, you see no reason to treat them like human beings.
What you can do — Practice being the first to show respect and appreciation. Don’t worry if others don’t return the favor. Act as if you see the good in everyone, and you will.
6. You’re always in a hurry.
I mean, who isn’t, right? So much to do! The nerve of some people slowing you down when all you’re trying to do is check everything off on your to-do list.
What you can do — Slow down and learn to appreciate what’s around you. Learn to appreciate the people in your life and all that they do. Most, if not all the people you meet, are doing their best. And a kind word of thanks goes a long way.
7. Your expectations have never met reality.
You base your expectations on what you want — and on the assumption that, if only others were as competent and hard-working as you, they’d have no trouble meeting those expectations.
What you can do — Get better acquainted with other people’s reality. Its defiance of your expectations doesn’t have to lead to disappointment. Adjust your expectations to allow for the unexpected variables that go with being human.
8. You misinterpret everything others do and say.
No one can do right by you. And every little thing they do is setting you off. You’re so busy thinking, “Why are people so annoying?” you’re oblivious to your effect on others.
What you can do — Remember you’re not a mind-reader. And it doesn’t cost you a thing to flip your default interpretation to a positive one. It doesn’t mean you have to assume everyone has good intentions. Just don’t be quick to think everyone hates you.
9. You’re stuck in all-or-nothing (or black and white) thinking.
Either someone is 100% on board with what you want to do, or they’re against you. There is no in-between. And no one has either the will or the ability to be the kind of “friend” you want.
What you can do — A good friend will have your back but will also tell you when they disagree. Learn to appreciate the people in your life who care enough about you to be honest.
10. You’re fixated on conflicts with people you care about.
You don’t have room or time to deal with people when your mind is stuck thinking about a conflict with someone you care about. Your mind builds that conflict into something catastrophic and all-consuming.
What you can do — Instead of dwelling on the negative aspects of a conflict, focus on what you love about the other person, what you’re grateful for, and how you can show it.
11. You’re carrying a grudge against someone.
It’s a righteous grudge, you keep telling yourself. You’re convinced that letting go of that grudge would let the other person win. But the only person your grudge is hurting is you.
What you can do — Decide to forgive this person, not for their sake, but for yours. And, as hard as it may be, go the extra mile and make a list of things you’re grateful for or that you admire about this person.
12. You’re expecting bad things to happen to you.
You’re doomed. Nothing ever goes the way you want it to. So, why wouldn’t you have a bad attitude? Your whole life is a cruel joke, and everyone else sees it when they look at you. So, you scowl back.
What you can do — Your attitude is exactly why it seems the universe is against you. You’ve decided to believe that, so that’s exactly how you feel. Instead, choose to believe that the universe wants you to be happy and have a life you love.
13. You’ve gotten used to seeing yourself as unlikable.
You don’t expect people to like you, so you don’t give them any reason to. If you don’t like yourself, you won’t expect others to, either.
What you can do — Focus on cultivating authentic self-respect and self-love. And work on building self-confidence. The better you feel about yourself, the less likely you are to “cut to the chase” and do or say something you know will alienate other people.
14. Deep down, you honestly believe you’re superior to others.
Maybe you can do something few others can. Or perhaps you’ve been encouraged to see yourself as superior. Whatever the reason, your arrogance hasn’t done you any favors — especially when it comes to relationships.
What you can do — Get better acquainted with others and learn how amazing they are. Get out of your head and practice gratitude for the beauty and brilliance you see outside of it.
15.A recent disappointment has you discouraged.
It’s hard to think about anything or anyone else when you’re fixated on a disappointing experience. Whatever you expected to happen didn’t. So, what have you learned?
What you can do — Give yourself some time to reassess the situation and see that it doesn’t diminish your value. You are stronger than your disappointments.
16. A recent tragedy has you feeling indifferent to everyone and everything else.
You’re in pain, and it’s hard to see past that. All it takes is one thoughtless act, and you vent your grief and frustration as complaints and insults. It seems that’s all you have the energy for.
What you can do — The best way to start the healing process is to think, not only of what you love about this person but of what you can do and enjoy now. Think about what you love, and make more room in your life for that.
17. People have been calling you out for your attitude.
The biggest clue that your attitude is not serving you or anyone else is when people around you are calling you out for it. They’ve had enough, and they’re not afraid to tell you you’re being a jerk. However carefully they might do this, you feel attacked.
What you can do — If your attitude is putting people off, they’re doing you a favor by pointing that out. It’s on you to change your attitude by changing your thinking.
How Do You Fix a Bad Attitude?
Now that you’ve looked through these 17 signs of a bad attitude, let’s sum up the best ways to exchange that attitude for a better one:
- Start each day by making a list of ten things you’re grateful for.
- When you’re angry with someone, write ten things you admire about them.
- When it’s tempting to think you’re having a bad day, think of ten reasons it’s a good one.
- Practice mindfulness meditation every day to be fully present and grateful for the good in your life.
- Think about what you love and spend time imagining, in vivid detail, what you want.
In other words, the more positive your thinking, the better you feel, and your feelings are powerful. Adopt even one of these habits today, and it will change your life.
Ready to turn your bad attitude around?
Now that you have an answer to the question, “Why do I have a bad attitude?” what will you do today to improve it and to build a life you love?
The quality of your life is up to you, after all, and no one else. What you do with your time, energy, and other resources will depend on how you choose to think and feel.
Choose carefully. Make every moment an opportunity to give love with your thoughts. You’ll be amazed at the difference that makes.
12 signs of an unhealthy and painful relationship
March 2, 2017 Relationship
An unhealthy relationship in a couple is sometimes difficult to recognize, since the damage is not immediately evident. However, they are slowly poisoning life. There are several ways to distinguish healthy relationships from destructive ones.
Signs of an unhealthy relationship
1. Your partner is constantly competing with you
For some inexplicable reason, your companion constantly compares himself to you and wants to show that he is better and cooler in everything. Often such a demonstration takes place in public, and every word you say becomes a hook for a fierce argument. Your partner uses every opportunity to assert themselves at your expense and devalue your achievements. nine0003
In a healthy relationship, both partners improve themselves and develop harmoniously. In an unhealthy relationship, you are perceived as a rival who must be defeated in any way in order to get the palm.
2. You feel as if all your energy has been sucked out of you.
Relationships affect our health and well-being. If you've been sleeping less, lost or gained weight, and are constantly feeling like a squeezed lemon, you may have an energy vampire near you. nine0003
Such people feed on the energy of other people and rejoice every time they take away other people's strength. In such relationships, you physically lack the resources, strength and desire to do something. Apathy covers you, and your own failure and depression come to the fore.
3. You are always to blame for all mortal sins
In an unhealthy relationship, the partner does not see the causes of problems and failures in his actions and is always inclined to transfer the blame to others, especially to you. You find yourself to blame for everything, including his mistakes and things beyond your control. nine0003
Your only task is to take the hit and not to piss off your partner, preventing his more frequent outbursts of anger. Sometimes you want to run away from it and stay away from your companion.
4. They constantly want to change and improve you
Do not forget that a mature and strong relationship is based on accepting a partner for who he is. In unhealthy relationships, you are compared to others, while you are openly told or politely hinted that you would do well to change something in yourself in order to become better. nine0003
Perhaps you should lose or gain weight, cut or grow your hair, change your image or throw away half of your wardrobe. You always lack something in order for your partner to be completely satisfied with you.
5. Partner speaks only about himself
Your companion is not able to sympathize and empathize with others. These people have problems with emotional intelligence and empathy. The partner is not able to put himself in the place of another person, and he does not set himself such a task, because he considers himself the center of the Universe. Does he talk about himself all the time? It seems that next to you is an exemplary narcissist. nine0003
Narcissists are so carried away and self-absorbed that they do not notice what is happening around them at all. As a rule, such people talk a lot about themselves and often interrupt others, do not ask any questions and, in principle, do not know how to listen. The needs, desires and feelings of such a person always turn out to be more important than yours, since in their picture of the world everything should revolve around their person.
6. All your actions are criticized
Everything you do or say is a priori bad. No matter how hard you try, your companion will always find a reason to find fault and criticize you and your thoughts. The cooked omelette will be too salty, and the dress too short. nine0003
You will always be wrong. There is no point in making excuses or proving the opposite — all the same, there will be new reasons for dissatisfaction. No evidence and arguments will help - such a person hears only himself.
7. Partner controls all your actions
Your companion is literally obsessed with the desire to subdue your whole life. He certainly needs to know where and with whom you are, what you eat and what you are wearing now. Even if you meet with pregnant girlfriends, they will definitely call you and offer to pick up early. nine0003
Sometimes such control can be mistaken for care, but in fact your partner felt like the master of your life. People who are in healthy and harmonious relationships understand that having their own life and hobbies outside of the relationship is normal and even beneficial for the couple.
8. You are jealous of everyone and everything
Sometimes jealousy is a pleasant feeling. We are all a little flattered that someone else likes us, and we are jealous (which means they love us). But the main thing in everything is the measure. Some people turn into real tyrants, try to completely subjugate their soulmate and perceive it as property. Sometimes it comes to public humiliation with a showdown. nine0003
The partner does not trust you, reads all your messages and makes scandals because of harmless Facebook conversations*. Jealous people see treason in everything and can easily lead to hysteria with their questions. Goofy, terrorizing jealousy inevitably destroys your self-esteem, you begin to fear the wrath of your partner.
9. Partner is constantly offended
Your life is not without drama, and all your actions offend your partner to tears: he pouts, leaves, clearly shows how badly you did, and demonstrates how much you hurt his feelings. After this, you feel like a bad person, a cruel monster, and your companion enjoys the scandal. nine0003
Any attempt to talk ends with a new insult and an accusation of misunderstanding and lack of emotional intelligence. It is possible that your partner is deliberately using this tactic to manipulate your guilt.
10. Partner has not learned to speak your love language
Often people misunderstand the needs of a partner. At first, there is nothing to worry about: you can make up for everything if you want. It is possible and necessary to learn to speak the same language of love. Problems arise if for a long time the partner has not understood what you like and what you really need in love, and not him. nine0003
Psychologists identify five love languages: words of encouragement, time, gifts, help, touch. We all need something different from each other. It is important to understand what language of love your companion speaks. Imagine that your love language is time. It is sad if the partner does not understand this and tries to atone for his absence in your life with gifts.
11. Your biorhythms are too different
You still couldn't find a common language and agree on the best time to go to bed and what time to get up. Your partner lives while you sleep, and vice versa. As a result, you get upset and worried when your companion has been playing computer games all night, but slept through your only day off. nine0003
In a healthy relationship, it is possible to find a balance and change habits so that both feel comfortable. In an unhealthy relationship, this becomes a cause for mutual frustration.
12. You stopped having sex
It's hard to argue with human nature: physical intimacy and regular sexual life are a necessary attribute of a healthy and strong relationship.
If there is no intimacy in your relationship and tactile contact is reduced to a minimum, this indicates serious problems in the couple's life. nine0003
What to do if you see these signs in your relationship
At least this is a reason to think and sound the alarm. Recognizing a problem is the first step towards solving it. If you want your partner to behave differently, talk heart to heart with him and voice the problem. Communication is necessary to resolve conflicts in a relationship.
Remember that changing people without their initiative is "a pointless exercise." If a person wants to change himself and find a way out of the situation together, these relationships still have a chance. Otherwise, it is better to end the painful relationship and give yourself time to recover. nine0003
*Activities of Meta Platforms Inc. and its social networks Facebook and Instagram are prohibited in the territory of the Russian Federation.
21 signs that your relationship is going to hell
September 21, 2021 Relationship
No one promised that relationships are easy. But this does not mean that meeting or living with another person should resemble an endless hell.
Author of Lifehacker, athlete, CCM
Knowing when to quit and when to move on is the key to emotional survival. nine0003
Until we are 200% sure that the relationship is over, we continue to believe in it. This is understandable, because in a few years (or months) we become so attached to a person, we can say “grow into” him, that it is very painful to part. It is clear that you are trying to save the relationship: there is always hope that they will change for the better.
Not everyone has the courage to break up a relationship the moment it really ends. Here are 21 signs that "finita la comedy" if it has not yet arrived, then it is already very, very close. If at least four points out of all you say: “This is about us,” think about parting more seriously than usual. nine0003
You constantly resent your partner, but don't say anything. You think that this is how you save your relationship, but in fact you only delay that unpleasant moment when all the accumulated negativity breaks out and your relationship ends in a painful break.
Resentment does not go away, especially if the factors that cause it do not disappear. If it does not splash out, then it accumulates inside, and this causes stress and illness. And, of course, destroys relationships - slowly but surely. nine0003
If you and your partner have reached the point where you show mutual disrespect, it's time to shatter your illusions. There is nothing easier than to stop being attached to someone who shows you disrespect.
People can continue to live together without respect and awareness of the value of each other, which leads to absolute indifference about the needs and desires of a partner. Well, what kind of continuation can we talk about?
It doesn't matter what motives caused contempt, be it a failed career, a change in appearance or something else. Partners should support each other in any situation, because isn't this warmth we need so much under any circumstances, and especially during some personal problems. nine0003
If you start treating each other with contempt, you no longer get warmth from relationships and you live not with a friend who understands, but with a cold being who condemns you, why continue this?
I'm talking about that lie when you tell a person "I love you" without experiencing any feelings. You are afraid of hurting him, but you are not really protecting him, but only making it worse. The truth will come out: you cannot lie all your life and at the same time not spoil it for yourself and your partner. nine0003
Well, if you say to yourself: “We are happy, I am happy, everything is fine with us”, when you feel that everything has already ended for you, this is also an escape from reality.
- 7 signs by which you can catch a liar
If you do not trust your partner, then there are reasons for this. If they are so serious that trust cannot be restored, why stay with this person? All my life to check, worry and waste my nerves? nine0003
6. Swearing in public
Everything good you can say about your partner can be said in public. And all the bad things are better left for personal conversations. To scold a person in public means to achieve only a negative response or hidden resentment.
In addition, if you scold your partner in public or even just allow yourself unpleasant jokes about him, it means that dissatisfaction is growing inside, which has already begun to spill out.
If you often look for a way to be away from your partner and consciously try to avoid contact and intimacy, it's time to get rid of it.
You have already severed the emotional connection with your partner and thus gently let him know that it's over. Maybe it's better to do it right away, and not to produce suffering and doubts?
8.Demanding evidence of love
“If you love me, you…” It is very tempting to manage a person's life in this way, and if you hear this phrase from time to time, then something has gone wrong. nine0003
The only person who can change his feelings is himself, and your actions have nothing to do with it.
Well, if you yourself say so, think about whether you really need this person, will he become loved if he does something? And is it possible to manipulate someone you really love?
9. Public humiliation
If your partner has humiliated you in public once, he will most likely do it again and again. And it does not matter that he drank a lot that evening or he was in a bad mood. nine0003
Public humiliation of a partner only speaks of deep self-hatred, and no matter how much love you give to this person, it will not fix the situation without his firm desire to change and work with his self-esteem. And this is difficult not only to correct, but even to admit.
- 10 Signs You're Dating a Psychopath
10. Obsession with another person
If your partner is obsessed with another person - whether he is friends with him or hopes for a closer relationship - sooner or later this will lead to a break.
Of course, this does not mean that partners should completely immerse themselves in each other and give all their energy to only one person, but obsession with someone else is fraught with suspicion, jealousy and resentment.
Yes, your partner is obviously missing something in your relationship if he is so attracted to another person, but you can hardly give him that. And certainly you should not change yourself for the sake of another person. nine0003
11. Obsession with pornography
There is nothing strange or wrong with partners watching porn together. Some kind of voyeurism helps to get turned on and find something new to try later in bed with a partner.
But if one of the partners is obsessed with pornography, complete satisfaction will always elude him: in pursuit of the Grail of multiple orgasms, he may end up on the path of sexual perversion.
So, if you are not satisfied with such scenarios, think about both the root cause of this obsession and the possible consequences. nine0003
12. Emotional infidelity
Some people believe that monogamy is the only possible relationship, for others it is difficult and almost impossible.
If you cheated for the sake of a variety of sexual experiences, the relationship can still be saved, but if there is an emotional attachment to the person with whom you had an intimate relationship, it is time to end the relationship.
The first question people ask when they find out about their partner's infidelity is: "Do you love him/her?" Because it is the emotional, and not the physical connection, that is the core of the relationship, and if it is gone, then you have nothing more to do here. nine0003
13. Inability to end the conflict
It begins as an endless struggle without reaching a consensus, which gradually develops into "as you wish", when the partners no longer care about the results of their struggle.
There is a rule: never go to bed offended by each other. And there is definitely something in it.
If none of the partners can pacify their pride and desire to always be the winner in the dispute, cannot agree to a truce without achieving their goal, these relations have no continuation. nine0003
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- 7 ways to properly resolve conflicts in relationships
If you unconsciously do things that harm your relationship, it is your psyche that tells you what you really need.
You can think whatever you want, but your actions speak of real desires better than all your assurances and hopes. nine0003
If your partner has an obsession with, for example, alcohol or substances, he/she is a shopaholic, gambler, workaholic, or obsessed with sex, you will always be in second or even fifth place and will not get the emotional connection that I would like to.
If you don't have an obsession with something, your partner's addiction can ruin not only his life, but yours as well. Not a very pleasant prospect.
16. Painful attachment to the former
If your partner is still more than close to a former lover or husband/wife, it destroys the relationship.
Former partners should be respected, especially if you have common children, but the first role is still assigned to the current partner. If this does not happen, it is easy to feel secondary and unnecessary, and this is a direct path to a breakup.
17. Threats and emotional blackmail
This is a clear sign of an unhealthy relationship. Emotional blackmail is often presented as intense love, but it is actually control. And control, in turn, is an abuse of feelings. You have to run as far away from it as you can see. nine0003
18. Constant comparisons and ratings
Does your partner compare you to those who look more attractive, earn more, are smarter and more interesting than you? This is one form of humiliation. If someone thinks that the grass is greener in someone else's yard, let him go there.
People are unique beings, although they are similar in many ways. You shouldn't compare yourself, let alone listen to it from your partner.
Why stay together if you don't care about each other? nine0003
20. Loss of attachment
There's nothing wrong with wanting a roommate, but if you want more from a relationship, don't stay with a partner who isn't your one and only. Don't just stay because it's convenient for you.
21. Physical abuse
There are no excuses, no explanations, circumstances and promises do not matter. You just have to leave.
In general, conflicts in relationships are a way to get rid of pain, but their causes may vary. It can be a way to open the boil of dissatisfaction and resentment that has arisen in a relationship in order to clean out the wound, remove what is in the way, and save the relationship. nine0003
But it also happens differently, when conflicts are a way to break off relationships, to tell the other person that they are over, that it is no longer worth tormenting each other.