Best myers briggs matches
What the Myers-Briggs Test Says
Do you know your personality type and who you’re most compatible with? The Myers-Briggs test aims to help you find out.
It’s natural to wonder if some types of personalities are more compatible with yours, or if other factors have more relevance when trying to find a match. This is a question that experts may not have an exact answer to just yet.
Your personality is a distinctive combination of thoughts, emotions, and experiences that make you who you are. It’s unique and complex and may not fit into a rigid mold of traits. It can also change and adapt to circumstances.
For decades, experts have tried to classify the possible different types of personalities in an attempt to better understand why everyone is so different and yet so similar in some aspects.
The Myers-Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) is one of the tools developed to identify personality types. It isn’t evidence-based, and its validity is often questioned.
The MBTI is a self-reported questionnaire developed by the mother-daughter duo of Isabel Myers and Katharine Cook Briggs, and it’s based on the personality theory by Carl Jung.
The questionnaire asks you to indicate your preferences in different areas of life. It’s designed to measure:
- how you relate to the world around you
- where you draw your energy from
- what your innate behaviors are
Based on these answers, the Myers-Briggs test assigns 1 of 16 categories. Each of these is identified by a four-letter system indicating your dominant traits based on these scales:
- extroversion versus introversion
- sensing versus intuiting
- thinking versus feeling
- judging versus perceiving
Since categories are based on your own report about your interests, preferences, and tendencies, the MBTI could help you determine what other personality types have similar interests or preferences and may be compatible with you.
But, much like personality, romantic compatibility isn’t an exact science.
In fact, some people believe that opposites attract when it comes to personality traits, but 2019 research actually suggests otherwise.
Romantic compatibility may depend on a lot of factors and circumstances, and this is just one of many ways to look at it.
The Myers-Briggs personality test isn’t validated by research, and many experts suggest it as a fun personal exercise rather than an exact scientific method to determine personality type or compatibility.
Based on the answers to your self-report, the Myers-Briggs test indicates where you stand on four personality scales.
Extroversion vs. introversion (E/I)
This personality scale is about where a person draws their energy from.
Extroverts get recharged and energized from being around other people. They’re typically outgoing and action-oriented, and they can feel mentally and emotionally drained if they spend too much time on their own.
Introverts draw their energy from alone time and tend to prefer meaningful social interactions with fewer people instead of large groups. They can get fatigued and stressed if they don’t get enough time by themselves.
Sensing vs. intuiting (S/N)
This category involves the way you gather relevant information in your life.
If you lean toward sensing, you pay more attention to the tangible information you receive from your five senses. You are more likely focused on facts and concrete data that you can measure.
If, on the other hand, you rely on intuition, you’re more focused on:
- abstract concepts
- gut feelings
- contemplating all possibilities
- exploring underlying principles
Thinking vs. feeling (T/F)
This category refers to how you make decisions based on the information you gathered.
If you’re closer to the thinking side of the scale, you may prefer to make rational, logic-driven decisions that you feel are objective.
If, instead, you lean toward the feeling side of the scale, you may make decisions based on emotional and human aspects at the moment of deciding.
Judging vs. perceiving (J/P)
This scale is about how you operate on a daily basis.
If you lean toward the judging side, you may prefer structure, order, and planning in everything you do.
If you’re more of a perceiving person, you may be more flexible, adaptable, and spontaneous in your actions.
The 16 personalities
When you take the Myers-Briggs test, you’ll end up with a four-letter tag assigned to your personality. This result depends on where you fall on each of the above-mentioned personality scales. So, each letter comes from one of the scales indicating the side you lean toward.
- I: Introvert
- E: Extrovert
- N: Intuiting
- S: Sensing
- T: Thinking
- F: Feeling
- J: Judging
- P: Perceiving
The 16 Myers-Briggs personality types are:
- ISTJ — The Inspector
- ISTP — The Crafter
- ISFJ — The Protector
- ISFP — The Artist
- INFP — The Mediator
- INFJ — The Advocate
- INTP — The Thinker
- INTJ — The Architect
- ESTJ — The Director
- ESTP — The Persuader
- ESFP — The Performer
- ESFJ — The Caregiver
- ENFP — The Champion
- ENFJ — The Giver
- ENTP — The Debater
- ENTJ — The Commander
Some experts have tried to identify compatible personality types based on the Myers-Briggs test.
However, no exhaustive research has been conducted to validate the scales or establish a degree of compatibility. This is one of the reasons why the MBTI is typically seen as a way to entertain yourself rather than get accurate answers about your personality type.
In their book “Just Your Type: Create the Relationship You’ve Always Wanted Using the Secrets of Personality Type,” Barbara Barron and Paul D. Tieger say they’ve found that many personality types are more satisfied when they’re paired with similar partners.
In particular, these pairings had romantic satisfaction rates over 70%:
- SJ: sensing and judging
- NF: intuiting and feeling
Barron and Tieger also found that compatibility increases when two partners are both feelers, even if they’re different in other aspects. This may be because feelers tend to spend a lot of energy on their relationships and often value open communication.
Specifically, based on Barron and Tieger’s research, these categories would be the most compatible:
- ISTJ, ESTJ, ISFJ, and ESFJ
- INFP, ENFP, INFJ, and ENFJ
Other research also shows that, based on similar interests and patterns of behaviors, these are some of the most highly compatible matches:
- ENFJ and INFP
- ENTJ and INFP
- INFJ and ENFP
- INTJ and ENFP
- ENTP and INFJ
- ISFP and ENFJ
- ENTP and INTJ
- INTP and ENTJ
- ESTJ and ISFP
- ESFJ and ISFP
- ISTJ and ESFP
- ISFJ and ESFP
- ESTJ and ISTP
- ESFJ and ISTP
Can you make it work with an ‘incompatible’ partner?
The Myers-Briggs personality indicator test is just one of many possible ways to look at personality traits.
The test can be a fun and informative way to get to know yourself and your partner better, but it should be taken with a grain of salt.
Many complex parts are involved in human interaction, particularly romantic relationships. And since you can actively work on making romantic connections last, as long as there’s love and willingness, you could make it work with any partner, incompatible or not.
The Myers-Briggs type indicator isn’t a validated tool to evaluate your personality type or romantic compatibility with someone else. However, it may be a fun way to question yourself and your partner in a way that fuels deep conversation about your interests and values.
The MBTI uses four scales to categorize a person’s personality based on their decision making behavior, preferences, and worldviews. It includes 16 personality types.
Some people use the test to evaluate romantic compatibility. In general, those who tend to lean on feelings seem to be more compatible with each other, even if they score differently on other scales.
But romantic compatibility is as complex as individual personality, so it’s difficult to calculate it as a mathematical formula. Still, taking the Myers-Briggs test can be a fun way to learn more about you and your partner’s interests and priorities.
Guide to MBTI Compatibility in Dating and Relationships
The Ultimate Guide to MBTI Compatibility in Dating and Relationships
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Intro to MBTI and Relationships
I first officially discovered personality psychology about twelve years ago. I say officially because I do have some vague memories of taking a career test in high school that was likely based on the Myers-Briggs® (MBTI) instrument, but who really pays attention to tests when you are 16?
The Myers-Briggs assessment is one of many options in the world of personality profiles and testing. It is arguably the most popular, and in my opinion, it is the best place to start when it comes to studying personality types and especially relationship compatibility among different types.
I say this because the results provide insight into all aspects of our lives, whereas other tests are often focused on just career.
The Myers-Briggs instrument is based on the idea that people are quite different from one another. These differences go deeper than emotions, moods, or environment, and speak to how we’re actually wired to behave.
And, as it turns out, most people end up being wired in 1 of 16 ways (hence, there are 16 personalities), based on four groups of characteristics. This doesn’t mean we can’t build certain traits or change our behavior. Rather, knowing your personality type is an opportunity to learn which traits come most naturally to you and which areas you may find challenging or need to invest time in developing.
Your MBTI personality type provides a platform to understand yourself and create a plan for personal growth based on your unique personality strengths and weaknesses.
It is also an opportunity to understand the people around you and get to the root of many conflicts.
In fact, you may find that understanding the different MBTI personality types and how others relate to you is the most valuable aspect of the Myers-Briggs instrument.
For this reason, MBTI provides an invaluable insight into our relationships and dating and the level of our compatibility with other MBTI personality types.
Why MBTI Compatibility Matters for Relationships
Have you ever had a relationship that started off amazingly well, but it turned out to be a disaster due to “irreconcilable differences”?
It’s a catchphrase you often hear when a celebrity couple breaks up or gets divorced. What exactly ARE these irreconcilable differences?
I’m sure we can split hairs here and list any number of little annoying things our exes did that drove us crazy, or situations when it seemed we were having two completely different conversations.
We’re talking about underlying personality compatibility here.
How do you and your (potential) partner get energized? What drains the life out of them?
If you love partying and you couldn’t think of anything that raises your energy so much and your partner’s naturally wired to love spending time in low-key environments most of the time, that could be a sign of personality incompatibility…
Although, if you love to party with just your guys or gals, a partner who prefers to stay home could be just what you’re looking for.
Are you a bit more relaxed, go with the flow, or heck, let’s say it – disorganized? A person you initially think is the love of your life may not be able to tolerate too much spontaneity and operate without a plan set well in advance…so will it work?
Is it true that opposites attract?
These are the things that MBTI compatibility analysis may provide some insight into.
It primarily helps us figure out our own personality and how we function best in our dating and relationships. It also helps us navigate the dating pool more smoothly, gauge our relationship compatibility, and therefore, avoid pain and potentially years wasted with an incompatible partner.
I have made a Simplified MBTI Compatibility Chart which you can check out and download. (Alternatively click HERE)
Finding Your Perfect MBTI Personality Match
There are a few important things to consider when it comes to finding your perfect MBTI personality match for dating and relationship.
Personality analysis and profiling is an art, as well as a science.
In other words, since people are so diverse, the descriptions and results aren’t always black and white. Some people have a strong preference for one mode or the other, but others are closer to the middle. It’s natural for all of us occasionally to feel or demonstrate traits of the other personality types.
Sure, you want a partner who complements your strengths and weaknesses, but most of us also want someone who understands us – someone with whom we can express our opinions and ideas and be understood.
So nothing can beat personal experience and you shouldn’t be quick to discard any MBTI type’s potential for dating you just because, in theory, you’re not very compatible.
It’s a big-picture theory and should be taken with a grain of salt when deciding which personality types are compatible.
After all, the point is for us to develop and grow in our relationships, so whatever type you find your partner to be, show up and be the best possible you can be for them – and expect the same.
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If you want to find out what MBTI is compatible with you, download this simplified Myers Briggs Compatibility Chart.
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Best MBTI Type Matches
What follows is the list of best matches for all the 16 personality types according to the Myers-Briggs personality system.
- INFP + ENFJ
- INFP + ENTJ
- ENFP + INFJ
- ENFP + INTJ
- INFJ + ENTP
- ENFJ + ISFP
- INTJ + ENTP
- ENTJ + ENTP
- INTP + ENTJ
- INTP + ESTJ
- ISFP + ESFJ
- ISFP + ESTJ
- ESFP + ISFJ
- ESFP + ISTJ
- ISTP + ESFJ
- ISTP + ESTJ
- ESTP + ISFJ
- ESTP + ISTJ
This is just a quick reference of ideal personality matches, but this doesn’t mean that you can’t have a better and very successful relationship with many other MBTI types.
To find out what personality is probably NOT going to be a very good match for you, download this MBTI Personality Type Compatibility Chart.
Good Matches For Your Specific MBTI Type (Idealist Types)
Since the original creation of the 16 personality types, psychologists have recognized four distinct groups, each containing four types.
The four types within each group have distinct traits in common based on sharing two of the four traits.
The four types are:
- The Artisans (The SPs)
- The Guardians (The SJs)
- The Idealists (The NFs)
- The Rationals (The NTs)
According to surveys, NF (idealist) types find the greatest relationship satisfaction dating other NFs.
This is likely because Idealists share a common way of thinking and feeling about the world.
Don’t take these suggestions as limits to who you can be with. Ultimately, the two individuals, and their desire to grow and work to create an incredible relationship, will be the biggest determination of their success together.
With that said, one incompatibility I’ve noticed time and time again is between Intuitives (N) and Sensors (S). I think this is because these two groups have fundamentally different ways of interacting with the world and often have trouble understanding one another.
In my own experience in romantic relationships, friendships, and business partnerships, I (a strong Intuitive – ENFP), have always run into trouble with strong Sensors.
Beyond that caveat, it’s all up in the air.
Generally, for organization sake, I would suggest that P’s match with a J. The P will benefit from the J’s structure and organization, and the J will benefit from the P’s creativity and spontaneity.
The research Marioles, N., et. al. (1996) Attraction, satisfaction, and psychological types of couples. Journal of Psychological Type, Vol 36. offers some more insights on this:
“The two competing hypotheses, that opposites at tract, and that like attracts like, were examined separately for men and women.
With two exceptions, ESTJ men married to INFP women and ESTP men married to INFJ women, there is little evidence that opposites attract or marry.
There was also a trend for ISTJ men to marry ENFP women.
For both women and men, 9 of the 16 possible pairings of opposite types were not found.
On the other hand, the attraction ratios suggest that “like types” do tend to be attracted to and marry each other, especially among intuitive and feeling types.
For men, the types most overrepresented in being married to like types were INFPs, ENFJs, and INTPs. For women, the most overrepresented combinations were ENFJs and INFJs.
Although we cannot make too much of the probability of any particular type pairing, the overall pattern or trend suggests that like attracts like, particularly on the S-N and T-F scales.”
The ENFP Personality in Dating and Relationships
The ENFP or so-called Campaigner personality tend to be fun, loving, exciting, and loyal partners.
They are generally disinterested in the day-to-day maintenance of their relationship or home and are more focused on moments of passion and their creative inspirations.
The partner of an ENFP can expect surprises ranging from luxurious gifts and vacations to periods of frugality.
ENFPs are generally drawn to novelty.
An immature ENFP may find themselves bouncing from one short relationship to another without ever developing anything real. A developed ENFP will learn to fulfill their need for novelty and excitement through other mediums, such as vacations or sports, as well as by learning to discover deeper levels of themselves and their partner.
ENFPs often match well with other idealist types – INFJs, ENFJs, INFPs, and possibly other ENFPs.
Yet according to Jung, the ideal partner for an ENFP is an INTJ. The two have very complementary personalities and are perhaps most likely to also be successful in a business partnership or in creating a wonderfully functional home.
ENFP Tips and Tricks for Dating
Tips for Dating as an ENFP
- Stop trying to please people and learn to value your own needs as well. Don’t adjust your actions or opinions to gain approval or conform to groups. This behavior may help your dating life in the short term, but in the long run it will sabotage your ability to find a mate you’re truly compatible with.
- Avoid dating Sensors. In the short term they will be drawn to your creativity, spontaneity, and all round fun attitude, but you will never be able to communicate with one another on a higher level.
- ENFPs can be overly enthusiastic. In the early stages of a relationship, avoid making gushy or smothering comments during the moments you just happen to feel something strong. You may turn some partners off and you may give other partners unrealistic expectations about how strongly you feel for them.
- ENFPs have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation. You will benefit from developing your ability to handle conflict.
The only way to do this is with baby steps, one awkward conversation at a time. - You may set very high expectations for yourself and your partner. Just remember: Everyone is human, and no partner or relationship will be perfect. Don’t be too hard on your partner or yourself.
- If you’re after a “perfect” relationship, take time to check in with your partner on this. Does he or she share your same high expectations and willingness to work on the relationship? If so, is their vision of a “perfect” relationship the same as yours? Communication around your goals and desires is essential to avoid conflict and disappointment.
- Take time to study successful relationships. ENFPs tend to buy into the idea of fairy tale romance and the existence of a perfect relationship. While romantic, this isn’t always the most realistic view. Long term relationships often take work, compromise, and personal development to succeed. On a positive note, this belief encourages some ENFPs to work hard at creating a great relationship.
On a negative note, some ENFPs may be too quick to jump ship when challenges arise. This stems from the fairy tale idea that “if we are perfect for each other then we wouldn’t have any problems or challenges.”
Tips for Dating an ENFP
- ENFPs are affectionate, lively, caring, and fun partners. Although they love novelty and can “date around,” their desire to be authentic means if they commit to a relationship they mean it and will be loving and loyal. If you learn to work with their weaknesses, you may find yourself in a very happy and fulfilling relationship.
- If you find yourself dating an immature ENFP, be prepared for a fun and laughter-filled relationship… and not much else.
- ENFPs are highly intuitive and will see through most lies and artificial (i.e., fake) behavior. If you’re dishonest or inauthentic they will know and you’ll lose their respect.
- In some areas ENFPs are excellent communicators, but they dislike conflict, criticism, and confrontation.
This means they are uncomfortable and often unpracticed with certain kinds of discussions. As their partner, you need to be aware of this and may need to be the one to initiate uncomfortable or difficult conversations. They may initially be hesitant to put their emotions on the table, but you can encourage them by using an open and non-judgmental tone. - ENFPs are fun, spontaneous, and adventurous. Fighting this instinct will only cause you problems. Your best option is to embrace and enjoy it. Remember, being playful or funny is not a sign of immaturity. The ability to balance serious pursuits with a childlike playfulness is a sign of wisdom.
- ENFPs are not organized, keen on schedules, or otherwise interested in repetitive or mundane work. If you want to build a life with an ENFP, you must accept this and accept them. Develop systems, hire help, or take responsibility for the details of your life together.
- It’s important to remember that we don’t choose our personality traits.
Yes, ENFPs can develop their Te and become better organized, but it will never be as easy for them as it is for many other types. Because of this, it is not wise to judge their effort or desire by their results. - ENFPs can be overly enthusiastic, so when they express their feelings for you always take it with a grain of salt. Judge them more by their actions than their words. This is especially important in the early stages of a relationship.
The INFP Personality in Dating and Relationships
The INFP, also known as the Mediator, initially appear to be calm and laid back partners. Inside, this isn’t really the case. INFPs experience the world and their relationships with intense emotions.
Once they give their heart to someone, INFPs are intensely loyal, committed, and loving. In fact, INFPs are capable of the deepest levels of love, loyalty, and caring, but they won’t give their heart to just anyone.
Because they experience emotions so intensely, and are generally very sensitive, the INFP personality begins their relationships closed off and reserved.
This is an effective defense mechanism to save themselves from heartbreak. They must feel a lot of trust before they will let their guard down and open themselves up to another person.
Because INFPs can get lost in their own heads, and often have trouble “objectively” viewing a situation, they are well matched with more logical and stable types, such as ENTJs. This provides them with a “rock” and an anchor to help bring them back to reality when needed.
It also means their partner is unlikely to be pulled into their emotional struggles and will be comfortable dealing with any difficult situations (confrontation, negotiation, etc.) on behalf of the couple.
I’ve mentioned NF (Idealist) types find the greatest relationship satisfaction dating NFs. However, we should always remember there is no be all and end all. The information on personality type compatibility is either based on theory or surveys, neither of which will ever provide a universal rule.
According to Jung, the ideal partner for an INFP is an ENTJ.
The two have complementary personalities and are perhaps most likely to be successful in a business partnership or in creating a home…but this doesn’t mean they will find true love together.
Another well-complemented type for the INFP personality are the ENFJ.
INFP Tips and Tricks for Dating
Tips For Dating as an INFP
- Make a strong effort to express your feelings. Your “default” way of dating may be quite different from what your partner is used to, so make an effort to explain how you feel and why you behave the way you do.
- Avoid dating those with low emotional intelligence. You are very sensitive to criticism and conflict and need someone who can understand you and create a harmonious relationship.
- INFPs have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation. You will benefit from developing your ability to handle conflict. The only way to do this is with baby steps, one awkward conversation at a time.
- You may have a tendency to idealize people, or get lost in your own imagination.
Just remember that everyone is human, and no partner or relationship will be perfect, so don’t be too hard on your partner, or yourself.
Tips For Dating an INFP
- If you find yourself dating an immature INFP, be prepared for disagreements around “reality,” as they may skew the facts to fit their own view of the world. This can be especially challenging since conflict or arguments around these “facts” will likely upset them.
- The INFP personality type is highly intuitive and will see through most BS. If you’re not honest and authentic, they will notice and you’ll lose their respect.
- INFPs have trouble expressing their feelings. Try and help them along by providing opportunities to casually discuss feelings or situations without judgment. Show them you care and that you’re genuinely interested in their happiness.
- INFPs have good communication skills but they also have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation. As their partner, you need to be aware of this and may need to initiate any difficult conversations and encourage the INFP to open up and share how they really feel.
During these conversations, go out of your way to be especially gentle and help them through. - Once they open up to you, INFPs can be very fun, spontaneous, and adventurous. Embrace this form of expression and enjoy the adventures that follow.
- INFPs are not organized, keen on schedules, or otherwise interested in repetitive or mundane work. If you want to build a life with an INFP, you must accept this and accept them. Develop systems, hire help, or take responsibility for the details of your life together.
The ENFJ Personality in Dating and Relationships
People are a priority for most ENFJs. They strive to create close and authentic relationships.
ENFJs, also known as the Protagonist personality, tend to be happy, loyal, and supportive partners. They are genuinely interested in people and the success of the people they care about.
Within their romantic relationships, ENFJs are warm, loving and affectionate, and they desire the same from their partners, although they often have trouble asking for it directly.
Aside from other NF types, many say INTPs and ISFPs are very compatible with ENFJs. The two have very complementary personalities and are perhaps most likely to be successful in a business partnership or in creating a home.
ENFJ Tips and Tricks for Dating
Tips for Dating as an ENFJ
- Stop trying to please people and learn to value your own needs as well. You may have a tendency to make everyone around you like you by adjusting your opinions to match theirs or conforming in other ways. This behaviour may help your dating life in the short term, but in the long run it will sabotage your ability to find a mate you’re truly compatible with.
- ENFJs, especially males, can be overly enthusiastic. In the early stages of a relationship avoid making gushy or smothering comments in the moment when you just happen to feel something strong. You may turn some partners off and you may give other partners unrealistic expectations about how strongly you feel for them.
- ENFJs have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism and confrontation. You will benefit from developing your ability to handle conflict. The only way to do this is baby steps, one awkward conversation at a time.
- ENFJs are excellent partners and lovers. Value yourself and what you bring to the table. Take time to access those you date and determine if they can match your standards of loyalty or affection.
Tips for Dating an ENFJ
- ENFJs are highly intuitive and will see through most BS. If you’re not honest and authentic they will notice and you’ll lose their respect.
- ENFJs have good communication skills but they also have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism and confrontation. As their partner, you need to be aware of this and may need to initiate any difficult conversations and encourage the ENFJ to open up and share how they really feel.
- ENFJs are affectionate and warm with their actions and their words. If you want to keep your partner happy, be sure you reciprocate in kind and lay on the love with your words and actions.
- Small gestures can go a long way. Surprise your partner with a single rose or a few sweet words on a card and you will fill their heart with joy for hours.
- ENFJs idealize relationships and their partners. They aren’t happy with “normal” and will strive to create an exceptional relationship. This is important for you to know for two reasons:
1) To be happy dating an ENFJ you will both need to invest time in growing as people and growing your relationship.
2) Sometimes you may need to remind your ENFJ partner that you, and they, are only human. This can help give them perspective over little fights, ups and downs in the relationship, or your (or their) screw-ups.
The INFJ Personality in Dating and Relationships
The INFJ type, also known as the Counselor or Advocate, will seek intense and powerful relationships full of romance and meaning. They demand a lot from their relationships but are willing to give a lot at the same time.
Within their romantic relationships, INFJs are warm and loving partners. INFJs tend to buy into the idea of fairy tale romance and the existence of a perfect relationship.
On a positive note, this belief encourages them to work hard at creating a great relationship. On a negative note, some INFJs may be too quick to jump ship when challenges arise.
This stems from the fairy tale ideal and the idea that “if we are perfect for each other then we wouldn’t have any problems or challenges.”
INFJs are loyal and desire a long-term, committed relationship. When they feel they have found the right person, they are ready and willing to invest themselves in creating the perfect relationship.
The best dating matches for an INFJ are the ENFP, INFP, ENFJ, and other INFJ folks.
According to relationship theory, the INFJ’s two most compatible matches for partnership in building a life (or business) are ENTPs and ENFPs.
INFJ Tips and Tricks for Dating
Tips for Dating as an INFJ
- INFJs have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation.
As an INFJ, you will benefit from developing your ability to handle conflict. The only way to do this is with baby steps, one awkward conversation at a time. - INFJs are excellent partners and loyal companions. Value yourself and what you bring to the table. Take time to access those you date and determine if they can match your standards of loyalty or affection.
- You may set very high expectations for yourself and your partner. Just remember: Everyone is human, and no partner or relationship will be perfect. Don’t be too hard on your partner or yourself.
- If you’re after a “perfect” relationship, take time to check in with your partner on this. Does he or she share your same high expectations and willingness to work on the relationship? If so, is their vision of a “perfect” relationship the same as yours? Communication around your goals and desires is essential to avoid conflict and disappointment.
- You may have trouble hitting the eject button on a bad relationship.
If your relationship isn’t meeting your needs, speak to someone you trust for an objective opinion. Your loyalty, caring, and desire to make things work could be blinding you to reality.
Tips for Dating an INFJ
- INFJs are affectionate, warm, and loving partners. They are also honest and loyal. If they commit to a relationship, they mean it. Be clear about your own intentions and desires as they relate to your relationship. Don’t string an INFJ along if you aren’t serious. If you are all in, make sure they know and feel the same way. I speak to this more in the last point.
- INFJs are highly intuitive and will see through most lies, BS, and false fronts. Be honest and authentic or you’ll lose their respect.
- Some INFJs struggle with organization, personal finances, and keeping a schedule. If you want to build a life with an INFJ, you must accept this and accept them. Develop systems, hire help, or take responsibility for the details of your life together.
- INFJs have good communication skills but they also have a strong dislike of conflict, criticism, and confrontation. As the partner, you need to be aware of this and may need to initiate difficult conversations and encourage the INFJ to open up and share how they really feel. One way to help people open up is to approach the conversation in a friendly and loving way, and to be clear that you will accept and love them no matter what they communicate.
- Because they throw themselves fully into relationships, people with the INFJ personality can be wary of showing their cards or putting their heart on the line too early. They will look for signs that you’re not serious or may leave town as a way to protect themselves from heartbreak. If you’re serious about the relationship, make sure they know it.
Final Words
The compatibility in this MBTI Compatibility Chart is based on relationship satisfaction surveys, as well as MBTI personality type compatibility.
Keep in mind, by its very name, this is meant to be a simplified Myers Briggs type compatibility chart for quick reference.
Every relationship is unique. A good match on this chart doesn’t necessarily mean a good match in real life, nor does a bad match mean an otherwise healthy relationship is doomed.
Do not rely solely on this MBTI relationship chart for making decisions on existing relationships, whether romantic or in the workplace. If you want to better understand a particular relationship, I strongly recommend reading deeper on each of the two types before jumping to any conclusion.
You can learn more about some of the MBTI types in the articles below, as well as throughout this website in general.
Who are you in the world of PLIO and Game of Thrones by Myers-Briggs (MBTI)?
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participate in a general conversation, even if you do not know everyone
chat with one, preferably acquaintances
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realistic and practical
prone to abstraction
(not sure about the answer)
soar in the clouds
get bogged down in a routine
(not sure about the answer)
principles than feelings
feelings rather than principles
(not sure about the answer)
convincing
touching
(not sure about the answer)
on time and according to plan
according to circumstances
(not sure about the answer)
impulsive, under the influence of the moment
careful weighing the pros and cons
(not sure about the answer)
linger longer, more and more animated
leave early feeling tired
(not sure about the answer)
thoughtful and businesslike
imaginative, creative
(not sure about the answer)
exists
feasible
(not sure about the answer)
rules than circumstances
circumstances than rules
(not sure about the answer)
someone who is pleasant to you, but not very useful
someone who will be helpful but not very pleasant
(not sure about the answer)
slowly and without a clear plan
sequentially according to plan
(not sure about the answer)
in advance
at the last moment
(not sure about the answer)
I try to be aware
be the last to know
(not sure about the answer)
in the usual way
differently
(not sure about the answer)
simplicity and clarity of presentation
meaning between lines and images
(not sure about the answer)
logic and consistency of judgments
harmonious human relations
(not sure about the answer)
on values
on logic
(not sure about the answer)
uncertainty
certainty
(not sure about the answer)
serious and determined
unpretentious and carefree
(not sure about the answer)
call immediately without thinking about your speech
plan what you'll say
(not sure about the answer)
speak for themselves
only illustrate patterns
(not sure about the answer)
annoying
intrigue
(not sure about the answer)
balanced and unruffled
responsive and sincere
(not sure about the answer)
unfair
ruthless
(not sure about the answer)
sequential selection
joke of the gods
(not sure about the answer)
bought what you want
you have the opportunity
(not sure about the answer)
quite ready
not ready
(not sure about the answer)
hard to argue
often controversial
(not sure about the answer)
stands firmly on its feet
full of ideas and thoughts
(not sure about the answer)
standards
intuition
(not sure about the answer)
hard than soft
soft than hard
(not sure about the answer)
consistently change and order the world around you
take advantage of the opportunities around you
(not sure about the answer)
true convictions
open to new ideas
(not sure about the answer)
inspire
tire
(not sure about the answer)
living here and now
distant from life
(not sure about the answer)
how others can be useful
how other people see the world
(not sure about the answer)
reach agreement on a problematic topic
comprehensively discuss the problematic topic
(not sure about the answer)
head
heart
(not sure about the answer)
under a contract with clearly defined terms and conditions
without clearly defined deadlines and preferably without contracts
(not sure about the answer)
result
process
(not sure about the answer)
with many, but not close
with few but close
(not sure about the answer)
data
patterns
(not sure about the answer)
production and distribution
engineering solutions and underlying discoveries
(not sure about the answer)
"You are a very intelligent person"
"You are a very sensitive person"
(not sure about the answer)
resilience and determination
loyalty to people and/or ideas
(not sure about the answer)
final and beyond doubt
preliminary and non-final
(not sure about the answer)
after decision
before decision
(not sure about the answer)
easily carry on long conversations
find it difficult to find topics for conversation
(not sure about the answer)
an experience
intuition
(not sure about the answer)
pragmatic
intricate
(not sure about the answer)
clear thinker and articulate
capable of passionate and deep feelings
(not sure about the answer)
fair and objective
responsive and friendly
(not sure about the answer)
"Even a bad plan is better than no plan.
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“It is foolish to make plans for a lifetime without being master even of tomorrow.”
(not sure about the answer)
prepare something ahead of time
act according to circumstances
(not sure about the answer)
immediately go open
hope someone else will open
(not sure about the answer)
strong sense of reality
vivid imagination
(not sure about the answer)
foundational, basic principles and theories
additional meanings, alternative theories, subtext
(not sure about the answer)
overindulgence
excessive earthiness
(not sure about the answer)
kind-hearted
sober-minded
(not sure about the answer)
orderly and planned
disordered and unplanned
(not sure about the answer)
no or very rarely
visit
(not sure about the answer)
fast approaching
show restraint
(not sure about the answer)
literally
figuratively
(not sure about the answer)
experience a sense of community with other people
use your contacts to your advantage
(not sure about the answer)
wisdom and clarity of thought
capacity for compassion
(not sure about the answer)
fair
benevolent
(not sure about the answer)
planned in advance
came unexpectedly
(not sure about the answer)
informed decisions rather than spontaneous ones
spontaneous action rather than thoughtful
(not sure about the answer)
Find yourself in the characters of the Game of Thrones.
MBTI personality typology - Offtop on vc.ru The Myers-Briggs type identifier is widely used in business, in particular, in a number of large Western companies. This has been confirmed by our clients. More than 2 million people complete the MBTI questionnaire each year.
The typology consists of 16 varieties of personalities, in which each type is indicated by a combination of four Latin letters corresponding to personality traits.
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The first letter stands for Extrovert (E) or Introvert (I)
The second letter stands for preference Feeling (S) or Intuition (N)
The third letter stands for Thinking (T) or Feeling (F) types
Fourth - Judging (J) or Perceiving (P) types
George Martin's fantasy epic Game of Thrones is filled to the brim with interesting and complex characters, and they include some great examples of personalities in the Myers Briggs Type Index (MBTI) to explore and analysis.
So let's take a look at how some of the big players actually play the game.
1. Cersei Lannister: Head - ESTJ
Cersei is a cold and unforgiving ESTJ.
She is a terrifying example of what anyone can achieve with the right people under them and a little bit of determination. Leaders are incredibly dedicated and strong-willed people, but it's hard for them to stop. ESTJs are always included in the process.
These are highly organized, purposeful, hardworking people who meet challenges with a smile. Cersei is a natural leader and understands how to control situations and people.
2. Petyr Baelish: Strategist - INTP
“Chaos is not a hole. Chaos is a ladder. Many who try to climb it fail and never try again. The fall breaks them. And some are given a chance to rise. They refuse, they cling to the kingdom, god or love. Illusions. Only the stairs are real. The rise is all there is." in chaotic situations, the rest of the world could collapse around him, and Petyr Baelish would stand in the epicenter, staring straight at the iron throne.
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3. Jamie Lannister: Entrepreneur - ESTP
Jamie Lannister is as restless as you can imagine. Plus it's not that safe.
ESTPs tend to be in a hurry and apologize for the consequences without asking permission first. Entrepreneurs are independent, personable, and phenomenal when it comes to thinking on their feet.
Jamie may have come a long way from being the guy who pushed Bran out the window, but he's still the same witty, intelligent thinker he's been since his time in the King's Guard.
4. Brianna from Tarth: Logist – ISTJ
ISTJs are serious people. They play by the rules and take their life debts seriously.
Brianna is no exception to this rule. She demands structure and spends most of her time picking up one mission after another. It's a little surprising that Lady Brianna has come this far, because she is one of the few truly open and honest people left alive.
ISTJs are reliable and known for establishing and maintaining order.
They are the perfect people to be by your side when you need to deliver a Lannister or find your daughter.
5. Tyrion Lannister: Wrangler - ENTP
ENTPs are rational thinkers who can formulate complex ideas with ease.
Tyrion is at his best when he has someone to think of, which makes him a great person to fill the role of Hand of the King (or Queen) of Westeros.
Arguers can be very intolerant when confronted with beliefs or opinions they find illogical or stupid.
Tyrion is a social person at heart, or as he might say, “I try to get to know as many people as possible. You never know who you might need."
6. Arya Stark: Adventurer - ISFP
Pretty much the first thing you learn about Arya is that she's an adventurer.
As an adventurer, Arya feels the call of the unknown more than any character in the series. She is guided by her feelings more than logic, as her motives throughout the series are to exact revenge on those who harmed her family.
ISFPs can be controlled by their emotions, but they are down-to-earth people with a sensitivity to the emotions of others. Just don't cross their path, because they will always remember. Is always.
7. Jon Snow: Guardian - ISFJ
For a guy who supposedly knows nothing, Jon Snow has certainly gone through some intense intrigue. It seems that even death cannot calm the White Wolf.
John is a classic guardian, altruistic, humble, patient and compassionate. John is the kind of guy who volunteers to go north and risk his life.
ISFJs see the value of hard work and enjoy it, especially when they know they are doing it to serve others. ISFJs tend to find it difficult to deal with abstractions.
John is definitely the kind of guy who needs a specific goal, like how to stop a dead horde of undead from destroying Westeros.
8. Daenerys Targaryen: Lawyer - INFJ
Daenerys of House Targaryen, Breaker of Chains and Mother of Dragons.
Whenever you need someone to free the city, the slaves, or Westeros from the threat of the evil Cersei.
The INFJ must have a reason to get together, which explains the meteoric rise of the Mother of Dragons in the series. Altruists and empathizers make them great leaders, even though they don't like to control others.
If she manages to survive until she takes the throne and escapes this terrible Targaryen madness, she will indeed be a pretty good ruler.
9. Tywin Lannister: Architect - INTJ
Sometimes, when looking at a fictional character and determining their personality type, it can be difficult to understand why a character does or says a certain thing and really get to the bottom of the character. This is not the case.
Tywin Lannister is an architect through and through. INTJs view the world as a series of chess matches. They are always attuned to their opponents, which usually means everyone they encounter.
Tywin's greatest weakness, which ultimately leads to his downfall, is his inability to connect emotionally with others.
