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Published: March 23, 2022 Updated: July 26, 2022
Published: 03/23/2022 Updated: 07/26/2022
Masturbation addiction is a complex condition in which someone develops a psychological, emotional, and physiological dependence on self-gratification. It is a chronic and progressive condition where people continue to masturbate despite personal and social consequences. Though chronic masturbation is treatable, many individuals are reluctant to seek treatment due to social stigma and personal shame.1,2
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What Is Masturbation Addiction?
Masturbation addiction happens when someone can no longer suppress their urges to masturbate and, consequently, compulsively engage in the behavior. Using the term “masturbation addiction” is controversial, as there is not significant enough research to support it being a standalone diagnosable condition.3 Many professionals refer to it as “compulsive masturbation,” which may occur as a symptom of other diagnosable disorders.3 Unfortunately, research is limited due to social stigma and personal shame.
Although masturbation is a healthy practice in moderation, excessive masturbation may bring with it many negative consequences.4 In either case, healthy or unhealthy, it is considered a relatively taboo topic often due to familial, societal, or religious shame associated with masturbation.2 One large survey revealed that 78% of adults masturbate.5 Regardless, the stigma has led toward those struggling with the condition to experience internalized messages of shame and sin surrounding masturbation.2
What Is Considered Excessive Masturbation?
Masturbation is considered to be a problem when it starts to mirror other forms of behavioral addictions.
Signs of a masturbation problem might include:3
- Masturbating takes up a lot of your time and energy
- Your home, work, or personal life is suffering because of masturbation
- You might be late to meetings, cancel events, or leave social appointments early to masturbate
- You masturbate in public or in uncomfortable places because you can’t wait to get home
- You masturbate even when you don’t feel aroused, sexual, or “horny”
- When you feel negative emotions—such as anger, anxiety, stress, or sadness—your go-to response is to masturbate for comfort
- You feel guilty, distressed, or upset after masturbating
- You masturbate even if you don’t want to
- You find it difficult to stop thinking about masturbation
- When not masturbating, you experience craving or withdrawal symptoms
Note that what is considered “normal masturbation” does vary by person, and daily masturbation does not by itself indicate a problem. 1
Is Chronic Masturbation Bad for You?
Masturbation is a natural behavior, and in moderation can even have positive mental and physical health effects. However, overdoing it can be bad for you.
Excessive masturbation side effects might include:
- Low self-esteem
- Low sexual satisfaction with partners
- Inhibits other healthy coping mechanisms
- Interferes with interpersonal connections
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Chronic Masturbation Symptoms
Because masturbation addiction is not a formally recognized diagnosable disorder, it is important to note that the term “symptoms” in this case more so refers to a classifying set of criteria for said condition. Symptoms will vary in number and intensity depending on the individual and severity of the addiction. Generally, the more severe the addiction, the more severe the symptoms. Such symptoms do impact the individual among all domains including physical, cognitive, emotional, and social.
Common symptoms of masturbation addiction include:1
- Loss of sensitivity
- Lack of impulse control
- Shame about masturbation
- Guilt about masturbation
- Overstimulation from excess masturbation
- Sexual dysfunction
If any of these symptoms are experienced, it is important to take pause and speak to someone.
Causes of Masturbation Addiction
Like its symptoms, causes and triggers of masturbation addiction will vary by individual. Again, these may be impacted by personal predispositions and social influences.8 The more causes and triggers that are present in someone’s life, the greater the potential susceptibility. With an awareness of these risk factors, more proactive measures may be taken to prevent a problem.
Here are several causes and risk factors for compulsive sexual behavior:8
- An imbalance of natural brain chemicals
- Changes in brain pathways
- Conditions that affect the brain
- Ease of access to sexual content
- Alcohol or drug abuse problems
- Another mental health condition
- Family conflicts or family members with problems such as addiction
- A history of physical or sexual abuse
Note that these causes and risk factors need not be initially present for someone to develop masturbation addiction. The addiction may begin out of an intense enjoyment of self-gratification that progressively leads toward changes in brain pathways, an imbalance of brain chemicals, and other problems and conditions.
How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction
With a proper recovery and maintenance process, it’s possible to stop compulsive masturbating. Though there is no cure—and again, you must remain consistent and intentional—the rewards of recovery may lead toward a fulfilling, successful life without the constant associated urges and behaviors.
Here are five tips for stopping compulsive masturbating:
1. Identify & Remove Your Triggers
If there are specific times, or situations, which trigger masturbation compulsions, figuring out what those are is a good first step. If you can identify your triggers, you can plan ahead to learn how to cope with the trigger or find ways to avoid it altogether.
2. Join a Support Group
Having a support system of other people going through the same situation can be very helpful. Groups like Sexual Compulsives Anonymous offer validation and there are many others who could benefit from your validation as well.
3. Consider Reducing Any Stigmas You Feel About Masturbation
If you feel shame and guilt from these compulsions, it can help to remember that the behavior is natural and nothing to be ashamed of. It’s important to think about where these fears and insecurities come from and learn to heal from them in order for your relationship with sexual activities to be healthier.
4. Be Present in Your Personal Relationships
It’s important to continue trying to prioritize your friends, family, and partner if you have one. By planning fun activities or having quality time together, it gives you something else to do and provides a good way to lessen the compulsions.
5. Engage in Activities You Enjoy, Like Sports or Gaming
Taking time to participate in games or sports, or anything that gets your mind and body engaged, is a good way to get your mind off of masturbation. It’s important to find other things that can be fulfilling, keeping you engaged with activities and people you enjoy.
Masturbation Addiction Treatment
Treatment for masturbation addiction extends beyond just masturbation practices to get to the core of the problem.2 The more comprehensive the treatment, the better. Depending on severity of the condition and personal preference, treatment may entail any one or combination of outpatient therapy, intensive outpatient (IOP), residential treatment, and/or support groups.
Chronic Masturbation Therapy
It is important to address all underlying factors for treatment to be effective. If other mental health concerns are present, those should be addressed as well. Sometimes, a celibacy contract in which one refrains from masturbation and other sexual activity is a start to help abstain from the unwanted behavior entirely.2
Common topics that may come up during therapy for compulsive masturbation might include:3
- Someone’s feelings and behavior around masturbation
- Whether they engage in other sexually compulsive behaviors
- Problems caused by their masturbation habits
- Past traumas
- Current stressors or anxiety triggers
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) addresses thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors, and can be very effective for treating behavioral compulsions. For example, a common maladaptive belief is, “I am an undesirable sexual partner.” The problematic corresponding thought may then be, “Because others do not find me desirable, I must sexually gratify myself for pleasure. It’s all I’ll ever get.” The behavior then ensues. By reframing how one sees oneself and engaging in various behavioral experiments, beliefs, and thoughts, the behaviors may ultimately change.
At this time there is not a specific medication prescribed for masturbation addiction.3 It is important to note, however, that other conditions that require medication (e.g. major depressive disorder, alcoholism, substance use disorders, psychotic disorders, schizophrenia, bipolar, etc.) may have led to or have been developed alongside an excessive masturbation habit. In such cases, it is important that patients explore these factors with a prescribing physician and take any medications as prescribed.
Talk to your doctor or a psychiatrist if you have mental health concerns that you believe may be helped by medication
How to Get Help for Masturbation Addiction
Unfortunately, with masturbation addiction not being a formally recognized disorder, it may take some time finding a specialist. Further, it may not be covered by insurance, meaning that cost will come out of pocket. These considerations might require some additional research.
You can use an online therapist directory to conduct a search for providers assisting with “compulsive masturbation” or other addictive disorders. Another option is to visit the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists’ referral directory. This organization works with a variety of sexual disorders including masturbation addiction/compulsive masturbation.
How to Get Help for a Loved One
When helping a loved one it is always important to be as informed about the disorder as possible while remaining as supportive as possible. Part of this means shedding judgment, which may ultimately shame your loved one. As research has indicated, most people masturbate or have at one point in their lives.5 The act itself is normal. It is also important to consider the underlying factors contributing toward this condition becoming an addiction.
It is likely that your loved one is struggling in other areas of life. By showing support and being actively engaged in the recovery process, the likelihood of one recovering is increased. Helping a loved one requires much more than telling the other to “just stop” and setting boundaries; it requires being there in a supportive role.
For young children and adolescents, it is important to decipher between what is considered “normal” versus atypical sexual behavior. Again, sexuality is a fundamental aspect of the human experience, even at a young age. The following warning signs are specific to problematic sexual behavior in general but may be an indicator of potential masturbation addiction as well.
Typical and atypical behaviors by age group are as follows:
Typical: Feeling comfortable naked, touching one’s own or other children or adult’s genitals, watching other adults get undressed
Atypical: Masturbating compulsively or to the point of causing self-injury, pretending to have sexual activity, forcing other children to engage in sexual activity, and excessively touching the genitals of others7
Typical: Wanting privacy in the bathroom, masturbating in private, becoming curious about sexuality
Atypical: Engaging in sexual behavior with significantly younger children or animals and entering the rooms of other sleeping children to engage in touch or sexual activity7
Typical: Using sexual language, desiring romantic relationships, masturbating in private
Atypical: Compulsive masturbation, forcing others into sexual activity, exchanging money or goods for said activities, or producing and disseminating sexual images of oneself
Typical: Viewing materials for sexual arousal, discussing sex with friends, engaging in sexual activity with others close in age
Atypical: Being preoccupied with sexually aggressive material or illegal pornography, engaging in acts with significantly younger children, and forcing others into sexual activity7
For adults and seniors, problematic masturbation may be a continuation from childhood and/or adolescence or become a new problem. For this age group it may entail expression of a secret sexual fantasy, fulfillment of desired needs that are unfulfilled by one’s sexual partner, loneliness, boredom, a coping mechanism, et cetera.2 Regardless of age, the consequences of said addiction are similar but within the context of individual and societal expectations for that age group.
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For Further Reading
- American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors, and Therapists
- SexAddictHelp. com: Recommended reading on sex addiction
- SexAddiction.com: A website with information, articles, resources, and treatments for sex addiction
- Smart Recovery: Support group
- Sex Addicts Anonymous: Support group
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Originally Published: September 15, 2020
Original Author: Matthew Glowiak, PhD, LCPC
Original Reviewer: Trishanna Sookdeo, MD, MPH, FAAFP
Updated: March 23, 2022
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Reviewer: No Change
Primary Changes: Updated for readability and clarity; Reviewed and added relevant resources; Added “Is Chronic Masturbation Bad for You?” and revised “How to Stop a Masturbation Addiction” to add more specific tips. New material written by Silvi Saxena, MBA, MSW, LSW, CCTP, OSW-C and reviewed by Dena Westphalen, PharmD.
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Is ‘Masturbation Addiction’ Possible? 9 Things to Consider
The term “masturbation addiction” is used to refer to a tendency to excessively or compulsively masturbate.
Here, we’ll explore the difference between compulsion and addiction, and review how to:
- recognize habits that may be considered problematic
- reduce or eliminate unwanted behavior
- know when to talk to a mental health professional
There’s some debate around whether you can truly be “addicted” to masturbation.
Although there’s been a push to medically recognize masturbation addiction, some say it should be recognized as a compulsion, not an addiction.
There’s no clinical diagnosis for masturbation addiction. It’s not recognized as addictive by the American Psychological Association (APA).
Masturbation addiction also isn’t recognized as a mental health condition by the recent edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which sets the criteria for diagnosing mental health conditions.
Because the APA doesn’t consider masturbation to be truly addictive, people often refer to “compulsive masturbation” instead of a “masturbation addiction.”
Similarly, some don’t consider sex addiction a clinical addiction.
Instead, sex addiction, masturbation addiction, and porn addiction are usually referred to as:
- compulsive sexual behavior
- hypersexuality disorder
- out of control sexual behavior (OCSB)
Frequently masturbating doesn’t mean you have a problem or addiction.
Generally speaking, there’s only cause for concern if you feel your behavior has become excessive or obsessive.
The following scenarios, for example, may be signs of a masturbation compulsion:
- Masturbating takes up a lot of your time and energy.
- Your home, work, or personal life is suffering because of masturbation.
- You might be late to meetings, cancel events, or leave social appointments early to masturbate.
- You masturbate in public or in uncomfortable places because you can’t wait to get home.
- You masturbate even when you don’t feel aroused, sexual, or “horny.”
- When you feel negative emotions — such as anger, anxiety, stress, or sadness — your go-to response is to masturbate for comfort.
- You feel guilty, distressed, or upset after masturbating.
- You masturbate even if you don’t want to.
- You find it difficult to stop thinking about masturbation.
If you want to stop masturbating — or if you want to masturbate less — you may find it helpful to talk to a therapist.
Masturbation has a number of health benefits. It can help you de-stress and lift your mood.
If you’re under a lot of stress, or if you have a mood disorder, you might use masturbation to relax and feel better.
This isn’t wrong in itself, but you might become obsessed with chasing the high of an orgasm. This could lead to masturbation that becomes problematic for you.
Compulsive sexual behaviors might also be neurological, as Mayo Clinic points out. An imbalance of natural brain chemicals and neurological diseases like Parkinson’s might lead to compulsive sexual behavior. However, more research is needed.
Other research in animals suggests behavioral addictions might alter the brain’s neural pathways similarly to substance use disorders. This may lead you to want to do that behavior more often, like masturbate.
Some people do find that they’re able to stop compulsively masturbating on their own.
However, other people may stop without support and professional help.
If you’re struggling to stop masturbating, you may find it helpful to see a sex therapist, ideally one who specializes in treating out of control sexual behavior.
Joining a support group for sex addiction or hypersexual behaviors might also help.
A doctor or other healthcare provider may recommend one or more of the following treatments.
Talk therapy can be a great way to figure out whether masturbation is having a negative impact on your life and, if so, how to address it.
Your therapist might ask questions about:
- your feelings and behavior around masturbation
- whether you engage in other compulsive sexual behaviors, like partner sex and porn use
- problems caused by your compulsive masturbation
- past traumas
- your current stressors
This will help your therapist determine whether your behavior is considered compulsive.
They can also help you process your feelings, figure out the root cause of your compulsive behavior, and find a way to stop or reduce the behavior.
Remember that what you tell your therapist is entirely confidential. They’re not allowed to discuss your sessions with anybody else.
There are a number of different support groups for compulsive sexual behavior.
Your therapist or doctor might be able to recommend one, as could a local addiction center.
Many people prefer online support groups and forums, which you might also find helpful.
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous might be a good place to start looking for support groups.
There’s no medication for treating compulsive masturbation.
However, compulsive sexual behaviors are sometimes related to underlying mental health conditions, such as:
- bipolar disorder
- anxiety disorder
In these cases, prescription medication could help with compulsive behaviors.
Compulsive behaviors may worsen over time.
This could put a strain on your relationships — including your romantic and sexual relationships — as well as your mental health.
This, in turn, could lead to lower sexual satisfaction and self-esteem.
Remember that masturbation itself is a healthy, normal human behavior.
Nearly all people masturbate at some point in their lives. Regular or frequent masturbation isn’t necessarily a sign of a problem.
However, if their behavior is affecting their relationships, work, school, or mental health, it could be a sign of a larger issue.
Because of societal stigma around masturbation, your loved one might feel too shy or embarrassed to talk to you about it.
Start the conversation by emphasizing that you’re not judging them, and you aren’t trying to make them feel ashamed.
Suggest some practical solutions — like seeing a therapist or joining a support group — and offer to help them find a few local options.
This might help them feel like they have a solid plan in place.
No matter whether you call it an addiction or compulsion, it’s important to remember that the behavior is treatable.
A trained therapist can work with you or your loved one to overcome unwanted behaviors and improve your quality of life.
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How giving up masturbation helped me succeed
I was addicted to masturbation for over a decade and didn't even know it. But after failing in all three of my long-term relationships and nearly losing my mind, I had to look for an answer. I ended up finding it in my right hand.
Many people masturbate without ill effects. But for addictive people like me, it becomes a form of escape. I realized that I really have a problem when my friends called me for watching porn while we were hanging out in a hookah bar.
Despite being with my friends and despite the many real women around me, I was zombified over my iPhone while waiting for my next bathroom break. Ouch.
So I gave up cold turkey masturbation. And since then I have not regretted a single day.
Here are five ways I've gotten better by quitting the habit:
1. Quitting masturbation has increased my confidence
Of all the feelings that pop into my head after I've pleasured myself, I've never had confidence. It's because of the simplicity of the activity - masturbation didn't require me to go beyond myself, grow as a human being, or overcome any difficulties.
I masturbated to feel good. But no fleeting pleasure could make up for how it had drained my confidence.
When I stopped using masturbation as a crutch, I had to focus all my energy on self-confidence-building activities such as work, exercise, learning, and being helpful to others. It really made me feel good because I was doing well. And then my life really began.
2. Stopping masturbation turned my boredom into productivity
People don't plan to masturbate because we don't need it to thrive. I masturbated when I was bored or stressed. For me it was an outlet. But there are many ways to relieve stress and get rid of boredom, while improving your mind, character and skills.
When I gave up masturbation, I had to be creative, otherwise I would go crazy. So I started writing. And journaling. And reading and exercising and a thousand other things have really improved my life. I channeled all the energy I would normally spend drooling over porn into building my career and living a wonderful life.
I have learned to plan my time so that I don't feel the need to fill my life with the means to drain my confidence.
3. Not masturbating made me give up first
There is a universal truth that most people deliberately ignore: the more you give, the more you get. But when it comes to our practical lives, we tend to forget that the gift is to give.
In all the hours of masturbation - there were hundreds of them - I never thought how I could serve others or even help myself. One thing the act of masturbation gave me was a hole that could only be filled with more sexual satisfaction. But after I gave up this habit, I regained the strength to give before I received.
I should still be happy; I still needed to feel satisfied. I just found other and more useful ways to do it. I believed that I would be given exactly what I needed to be happy if I focused on giving first.
Then I started writing articles to help people succeed in relationships. Paying customers noticed me. And a year later, I had a full-fledged writing career that seemed to build itself. Shifting my focus from masturbation to action was a key moment in my major life change.
4. Stopping masturbation helped me work on a long-term strategy.
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5. Not masturbating helped me become more disciplined.
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It's all about discipline.
To achieve all the good things in life, you need discipline - for example, achieving your dream career, building a lasting relationship, or raising children. Holding ourselves back from instant gratification from quick self-pleasure is a challenge to reinforce our discipline and succeed.