Why do some women scream during sex

Why some make so much noise during sex

'Fifty Shades of Grey' (2015) —

"Fifty Shades of Grey" came out around Valentine's Day in 2015, a perfect time for a film whose sex scenes had some blushing red. It isn't the first movie with risque scenes that had moviegoers titillated.

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'Last Tango in Paris' (1972) —

Graphic sex scenes between Marlon Brando and Maria Schneider in "Last Tango in Paris" shocked the world at the time and initially earned the film an X rating as well as two Academy Award nominations.


'Don't Look Now' (1973) —

The graphic sex scenes between Donald Sutherland and Julie Christie in "Don't Look Now" resulted in an X rating at first and have fans still wondering, did they or didn't they?

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'Nine 1/2 Weeks' (1986) —

"Nine 1/2 Weeks," starring Mickey Rourke and Kim Basinger, wasn't a huge commercial success, and critics didn't love it -- except maybe Roger Ebert -- but it had couples acting out that food scene.

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'The Unbearable Lightness of Being' (1988) —

Daniel Day-Lewis and Lena Olin had some sexy scenes in "The Unbearable Lightness of Being."

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'Basic Instinct' (1992) —

Gay activists protested "Basic Instinct," starring Michael Douglas and Sharon Stone, as they felt that the portrayal of her bisexual character was offensive.

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'The Lover' (1992) —

Jane March and Tony Leung Ka Fai star as a young girl and her older lover in "The Lover."

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'Mulholland Drive' (1996) —

Naomi Watts, left, and Laura Harring got hot and heavy in "Mulholland Drive."

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'Bound' (1996) —

Gina Gershon, left, and Jennifer Tilly play lovers in "Bound."

Gramercy Pictures

'Love Jones' (1997) —

"Love Jones" is the story of a poet and photographer -- Nia Long and Larenz Tate -- trying to figure out if they'd found lasting love, and it's filled with scenes of their lustful explorations. Their initial sleepover, set to the tune of Maxwell's "Sumthin' Sumthin'," is one that'll threaten to set fire to your TV.

New Line Cinema

'Wild Things' (1998) —

Matt Dillon and Denise Richards helped steam things up in the erotic thriller "Wild Things," which included a menage a trois scene with Neve Campbell.


'Eyes Wide Shut' (1999) —

Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman were still married when they co-starred in "Eyes Wide Shut," in which iconic director Stanley Kubrick pushed the envelope. Years later, there is still talk about hidden messages.

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'Cruel Intentions' (1999) —

The cast of "Cruel Intentions" had chemistry all the way around, but the heat between the once-married Reese Witherspoon and Ryan Phillippe was palpable.

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'Monster's Ball' (2001) —

Halle Berry and Billy Bob Thornton dealt with some heavy emotional issues in "Monster's Ball" while engaging in passion.

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'Y Tu Mama Tambien' (2001) —

Gael Garcia Bernal, Diego Luna and Maribel Verdu form a passionate trio in "Y Tu Mama Tambien."


'Secretary' (2002) —

"Secretary," starring Maggie Gyllenhaal and James Spader, explores the relationship between a submissive secretary and her boss.

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'The Brown Bunny' (2003) —

The controversy surrounding a fellatio scene in "The Brown Bunny," starring Vincent Gallo and Chloe Sevigny, reportedly caused the actress some trouble.

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'The Notebook' (2004) —

"The Notebook" has become the gold standard for romantic movies, but one scene in particular will have viewers pausing to rewind. When Ryan Gosling's Noah and Rachel McAdams' Allie Calhoun reunite, not even pouring rain can dampen the sensual scene that follows.

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'Brokeback Mountain' (2005) —

Heath Ledger, left, and Jake Gyllenhaal share a cowboy love that dare not speak its name in "Brokeback Mountain."

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'A History of Violence' (2005) —

Viggo Mortensen and Maria Bello are a loving couple who face danger in "A History of Violence." But they also don't mind spicing it up with costumes and role play.

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'Black Snake Moan' (2006) —

If there's any reason to see "Black Snake Moan," it's to see just how well Christina Ricci and Justin Timberlake work together in their love scenes.


'Shortbus' (2006) —

Raphael Barker and Sook-Yin Lee star in "Shortbus," about a female sex therapist and a group of sexually adventurous New Yorkers.


'The Reader' (2008) —

Kate Winslet and David Kross played out the heat between a younger man and an older woman in "The Reader. "

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'Blue Valentine' (2010) —

Ryan Gosling and Michelle Williams did such excellent work portraying sometimes-volatile lovers in "Blue Valentine" that the Motion Picture Association of America initially tried to give the movie an NC-17 rating.

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'Black Swan' (2010) —

Mila Kunis reportedly banned her father from watching her sex scene with Natalie Portman in "Black Swan."

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'Blue is the Warmest Color' (2013) —

Adele Exarchopoulos, left, and Lea Seydoux star in "Blue is the Warmest Color," which drew lots of attention upon its release because of its graphic sex scenes, including one that is more than six minutes long.

Quat'sous Films

'The Wolf of Wall Street' (2013) —

Margot Robbie and Leonardo DiCaprio could make pretty much anything look amazing, including enjoying one another on top of a pile of money. Turns out that steamy scene wasn't as fun for the actress: "If anyone is ever planning on having sex on top of a pile of cash: don't," Robbie said in an interview with The Daily Beast.

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'Nymphomaniac' (2014) —

From its title to its promotional posters -- close-ups of actors such as Shia LaBeouf, left, making passionate grimaces -- "Nymphomaniac" sold us on its sex appeal. The movie, directed by Lars von Trier, was split into two parts and released in spring 2014.

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Editor’s Note: This story was originally published on CNN.com in 2012.

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Many women do make noise during sex but not necessarily while having an orgasm

66% moan to speed up their partner's climax, 87% to boost his self-esteem

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All you have to do is watch nearly any depiction of female orgasm on screen to get an idea of how a woman is “supposed” to react during sex.

From “When Harry Met Sally” to “Sex and the City” to your basic porn film, women in the throes of passion aren’t just shouting their ecstasy from the rooftops, they’re moaning with pleasure. Loudly.

But is this just cinematic license, or is there really something to noisy sex?

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Experts wondered the same thing. In 2011, Gayle Brewer of the University of Central Lancashire and Colin Hendrie of the University of Leeds published their research on the topic – technically known as “copulatory vocalization” – in the Archives of Sexual Behavior. In the study, they asked 71 sexually active heterosexual women between ages 18 and 48 for more details about vocalization during sex.

The researchers found that many of the women did make noise but not necessarily while they were having an orgasm. Instead, 66% said that they moaned to speed up their partner’s climax, and 87% stated that they vocalized during sex to boost his self-esteem.

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“While female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation,” the researchers wrote. Women also reported making noise to relieve boredom, fatigue and pain/discomfort during sex.

So is female vocalization during sex just a performance for a guy’s benefit? (After all, Meg Ryan’s over-the-top moans were meant to prove a point to “Harry” that men are easily duped by a fake orgasm.)

“There isn’t a lot of research in this area,” said Kristen Mark, a sexuality researcher at Indiana University, “but we’re bombarded with images through mainstream media that tell us moaning is associated with orgasm and sexual pleasure. So it would be a fairly wise faking strategy to moan since men already tend to associate moaning with orgasm.”

Of course, there’s nothing smart about faking it.

“If you’re faking an orgasm, you are signaling to your partner that he is doing everything right, when in fact he isn’t,” sex educator and author Patty Brisben said. “Use moaning as a way of signaling that you are excited and things really are feeling good, not as a way to hide that they aren’t.”

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Fake or not, women aren’t the only primates who vocalize during sex. Research in the animal kingdom reveals that female baboons, for example, have a variety of copulation calls, which appear to relate to their fertility: The vocalizations tend to become more complex when the females are closer to ovulation and vary when a female is mating with a higher-ranked male baboon. Female macaque monkeys give a shout to help trigger their mates’ orgasm, too.

Performances and primatologists aside, vocalizing during sex can actually be a great tool to help women get what they want in bed. As I discussed in my column on the topic of talking about sex, it isn’t always easy to translate sexual thought into action, so a little strategic moaning can definitely help get the point across.

“Women are learning to take responsibility for their own sexual needs and wants in the bedroom,” Brisben explained. “We need to take this one step further and give ourselves permission to become teachers. Use vocalization to teach your partner what feels good. It can help you say, ‘stop, go, yes, more please,’ without sounding like a traffic cop.”


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And when it comes to noise, “partner benefit isn’t the only piece of the puzzle,” Mark said. “Perhaps making noise turns some women on and helps them experience pleasure.”

Brisben concurred: “I think there are many women who need to be vocal to help themselves achieve orgasm. It helps move them and their orgasm along. There are certainly phases. As a woman gets into it, she may become extremely vocal and then move into a period of quiet as she is on the verge.

So do what feels right to you. Any other benefits are just a great bonus. And when it comes to “copulatory vocalization,” perhaps men should take a lesson from the ladies.

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    • “Women understand that moaning is a turn-on for guys, and many women ultimately enjoy it because they’ve made an effort to push a little beyond what comes naturally,” said Logan Levkoff, a sex educator and author of a guide for men entitled “How To Get Your Wife to Have Sex With You.”

      “But sexual self-esteem is a two-way street, and, for their part during sex, guys should aim for more than a single grunt at the end. It’s not about faking or doing something you don’t want to, but more about being sexually present and in sync with each other.”

      So let’s all make some noise.

      Why People Scream and Moan During Sex

      “Moan or screamer? Well, neither . . . probably more of a moaner . . . I think I have a more guttural grunt when I orgasm . . . but fairly quiet until that point.” —A married woman

      “I believe that screams are not genuine. I expect men to express their pleasure only in a few moans. —A married woman

      Many people associate moaning and screaming with pain. Why, then, should people make these noises while experiencing sexual pleasure? Are we not embarrassed to have such sounds coming out of our mouths?

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      Moans, screams, and noise

      “When I have feelings inside of me, they need to get out—making noise is a great way to do that.” —A woman

      “I am a restrained woman, and so was my ex-husband—thus, we had complete silence in bed. Now with my new partner, I moan in a low voice, while my partner moans very loudly. I am a bit embarrassed to moan loudly.” —A divorced woman

      The link between such noises and pain is longstanding: According to the Oxford English Dictionary, a moan is “a long, low sound made by a person expressing physical or mental suffering or sexual pleasure”; and to scream is “to make a loud high cry because you are hurt, frightened, or excited.”

      These definitions correspond with the characterization of noise as a loud or unpleasant sound that causes a disturbance. Can such sounds be part of enjoyable sex?

      How can pain generate sexual pleasure?

      “If I'm screaming, it's because my SO and I are having particularly rough and painful (in the good way) sex.” —A woman

      Let’s first tackle the conceptual puzzle of how negative experiences, such as moans and screams, can be part of—and even enhance—positive sexual pleasure. Two phenomena are most relevant here: the feasibility of emotional ambivalence and the mechanism of arousal transfer.

      In my book, The Arc of Love (2019), I emphasize the ambivalent nature of emotions in general and love in particular. Such ambivalence, which refers to experiencing negative and positive emotions at the same time, is common due to the partial nature of emotions. Emotions are partial in two senses: (a) They are focused on a narrow target, such as one person or very few people, and (b) they express a personal and interested perspective. Accordingly, each (partial) perspective may be appropriate, while no single perspective expresses an overriding emotional perspective. Thus, a widow attending the wedding of her daughter feels joy, but also sadness that her late husband, the father of the bride, is not present. Similarly, a sexual experience can involve both pleasure and suffering expressed in moaning.

      In arousal transfer, arousal in one situation generates arousal in another. Thus, makeup sex takes place after an unpleasant, heated fight with a partner has created a gulf between the two and threatened the existence of the relationship; makeup sex reestablishes their bond in a very tangible manner. The high arousal state associated with the fight is transferred to a high arousal state during the makeup sex. Likewise, when one partner acts wildly, and even sadistically, the arousal underlying his anger can be transferred into sexual arousal. A subtler manner of increasing sexual arousal is teasing, which involves a gentle and humorous argument (simulating a “fight”) that increases sexual arousal.

      The arousal transfer can also arise from positive emotions, such as enjoying a good dinner together and then experiencing intense sexual arousal.

      Is noise a sexual turn on?

      “From beginning to end, I love the sexy voice exchange that whispers and purrs with heavy sighs of intensity and the sweet moaning of pleasure.” —A married woman

      “Moaning is a way of reassuring your lover that he or she is pleasing you. You use all of your senses to have sex, and your audial senses should not be ignored! It’s important to make noises of pleasure so your partner isn’t put off thinking the wrong thing by silence.” —Trina

      Moans and screams are types of noise; moans are low noises, whereas screams are loud ones. Noise, which is unwanted sound judged to be unpleasant, loud, or disruptive to hearing, has been described as the price we pay for getting what we want. Moans and screams seem to be types of noise, expressing pain and suffering. Is such noise essential for pleasurable sexual experiences, or is it a price we have to pay for getting sexual satisfaction?

      A major benefit of sexual noises is that—if genuine—they demonstrate that the partner is not indifferent; in this sense, any noise is better than complete silence.

      Consider the following views of women and men concerning whether sexual noise is a turn on for them (cited in Reddit, e.g., here and here).

      “For someone who watches porn on mute, I appreciate a little noise in my own bed so long as it is natural and not forced. I also appreciate feedback and moderate dirty talk.” —A woman

      “I like my partner to be silent. How else can they fully focus on doing a good job? ;-)” —A woman

      “My favorite noise that a woman makes in bed is a sudden declaration of "YES!!" As if her team just won a goal.” —A man

      “I don't really care much if they're vocal or not. Even if they were vocal, I wouldn't hear it, because I'm probably the most vocal person during sex.” —A woman

      “I prefer my partner to be mostly quiet. Noise interrupts my headspace. I loathe talking, especially dirty talk. I need to focus in order to have an orgasm. The occasional moan or sigh is fine.” —A woman

      “I'm weirded out by people who don't make any noise during sex. I need some indication that you like what we're doing, c'mon.” —A woman

      “I like a moderate amount of noise, also laughter is the best.” —A woman

      “I don't mind a little noise, but if it turns into full-blown screaming, I don't think I would respond positively to that.” —A man

      “I need noise, I need to hear moans, I need to know I'm doing the right things.” —A woman

      “I'm not turned on by screaming, at all. It's distracting and unnecessary. Noise itself is fine, but I would doubt that anyone has such a strong orgasm that they're screaming.” —A man

      “LOVE when my partner moans! I love a guy that makes noise in bed. Silence is strange.” —A woman

      “Enough noise to get the mood just right. If he sounds like a buffalo, he gots to go.” —A woman

      “Every little involuntary noise she makes when we have sex is solid gold. The more noise the better.” —A man

      Most respondents consider the noise of moans and screams to be valuable communication. It seems that for most people, moderate noise is bliss, while complete silence is toxic. When it comes to sex, silence is far from golden.

      Are moans and screams genuine?

      “I'm dating a half-Japanese model. All good, as you'd expect. Except she hardly does more than sigh when she comes. Is it cultural, or am I, in fact, missing the mark?” —Anonymous man, cited in GQ magazine

      We have seen that moderate moans and screams are quite beneficial for enhancing sexual satisfaction. However, are most moans and screams genuine? Apparently not.

      Gayle Brewer and Colin Hendrie in their study of why women make noises during sex found that 66 percent of the respondents moan just to speed up their partner’s orgasm, while 87 percent moan to pretend they are reaching their peak. Brewer and Hendrie show a dissociation of the timing of women experiencing orgasm and making copulatory vocalizations, indicating that these vocalizations are at least partly under control, thus providing women with an opportunity to manipulate male behavior to their advantage. The study also shows that women moan whenever they are getting bored, tired, or uncomfortable during sex, just so the man gets turned on and climaxes faster. Thus, while female orgasms were most commonly experienced during foreplay, copulatory vocalizations were reported to be made most often before and simultaneously with male ejaculation (Brewer & Hendrie, 2011).

      The following are a few examples of perspectives on the genuineness of moans and screams in sex (cited in Reddit).

      “Screams are totally awesome, assuming it's natural. Otherwise, it's just fake porn BS.” —A man

      “Fake screaming is not fun. Real screaming, where you can hear their most basic, instinctual passion, can be hot." —A man

      “I'm not performing or thinking about the noises I make, it just happens.” —A woman

      “I feel like screaming does not sound genuine. That is why it is a turnoff.” —A man

      “It's hot if I can tell it's genuine, and not too loud. —A man

      People agree concerning the destructive value of faking. Nevertheless, in the above study, 87 percent of women admit that they moan in order to pretend they reach their peak. How can we make sense of this puzzle?

      One explanation may be that it is difficult to distinguish between faked and genuine moans—it is somewhat easier in the case of extreme screams (and moans). If we combine this idea with the greater value of noise over silence in the sexual sphere, it seems that faking (moderate) moans can be quite beneficial. Moreover, such moans and screams not only increase the excitement of the partner; they can also increase that of the moaner/screamer. In this sense, they are valuable self-fulfilling prophecies.

      Concluding remarks

      “I love to vocalize my feelings in the language of love that builds incredible confidence in my lover, praising his touch and performance, while simultaneously heightening my own excitement. And for those out-of-this-world exhilarating emotions that are so intense, I may curse using descriptions only a sailor would use!!!” —A married woman

      In profound love, actions speak louder than words, and “well done” is by far better than “well said. ” Unlike sex, in profound love, where the heart leads the way, screams, and less so moans, are of lesser weight. Noise is beneficial for sex. Being silent may make your partner wonder whether you enjoy the sex. Although noise is for many people helpful in sex, it is not the case that the more noise you make, the better sex you will have. The right balance is vital here. Too much noise may make your partner question your sincerity; and there are many people who just cannot stand screaming—in bed or anywhere else.

      Sounds of sex: why do people moan, scream and growl in bed

      July 28, 2019 Likbez Sex

      Scientists have long listened to what happens in our bedrooms. And here are some surprising conclusions.

      In the language of science, the sounds that humans and other mammals make during sexual intercourse are called female copulative vocalizations. There is no male version of the term, since in nature, males are mainly engaged in procreation in silence. nine0003

      In human society, audio accompaniment to sex is also more often created by girls. But men are not always silent like partisans. Let's figure out what prompts both of them to break the silence in bed and in any other place where passion has overtaken.

      An ancient survival instinct speaks in us

      Let's return to mammals, or rather, to our relatives, monkeys. Biologists have found that female primates make sounds not at all from pleasure.

      Their cries are part of a strategy aimed at the survival of offspring. nine0003

      The female chimpanzees, who are genetically closest to humans, are the champions of female sexual tricks. They only scream if they are lucky enough to seduce the alpha male. And with low-ranking partners they copulate silently. Chimpanzees behave quietly even when stronger and more respected rivals in the flock roam nearby.

      What bonuses do females get from such a strategy? The first is to protect future offspring by advertising to other males a relationship with a tough guy and declaring him the father of their children. The second is to spur male competition and attract new fans. Not the fact that alpha will be able to get pregnant. Enlisting the support of the strongest, they can then quietly conceive from someone simpler. The third - protect themselves from the aggression of other females. After all, competition for a status man among chimpanzees is strong, as in humans. nine0003

      Similar, although less complex, behavior is seen in other polygamous primates, such as macaques and baboons. In a word, sheer calculation and no passion.

      This is how women increase a man's self-esteem and bring his orgasm closer

      Contrary to popular opinion among young men, a girl's cry in bed is in most cases not an instinctive reaction to an unforgettable vaginal orgasm, but a kind of manipulation (which makes us related to chimpanzees).

      More than 90% of men admit that they are turned on by the moans of their partner in bed.

      And women, according to surveys, are happy to try: 87% of them shout louder to please their beloved and increase his self-esteem. However, this performance does not exclude its own pleasure.

      The second common reason for a woman's cry is the desire to bring a man's orgasm closer. 66% of girls admitted that at times they use moaning as a means to speed up the process. The reasons are different: boredom, discomfort, fatigue, pain, the need to sleep before a morning meeting, or thoughts of a hungry cat waiting at home. But do not offend the good guy with the phrase: “Come on, hurry up!” nine0003

      We follow the movies

      Perhaps women would be quieter, and men would not perceive screams as confirmation of their high skill in bed, if not for the movie. Directors use groans in the frame to make sex scenes brighter, to emphasize the moment of orgasm. The same sound technique is used in the production of porn films.

      Scientists have not yet bothered to investigate the relationship between erotic scenes and our behavior in the bedroom. But many experts have no doubt that the myth "the louder the cry, the brighter the orgasm" we owe it to strawberries in particular and pop culture in general. nine0003

      Sex is not an easy job

      We have dealt with women's moans and screams. Now we move on to panting, grunting, aham and sighs. According to Barry Komisaruk, author of The Science of Orgasm, the involuntary sounds that accompany sex are associated with physical exertion.

      It is mainly the man who has to strain. His body needs more oxygen, he begins to breathe more often. And interjections with vowels like "uh!", "ah" and "ahh!" contribute to increased ventilation of the lungs. nine0003

      Sounds help to communicate without extra energy

      So what happens: bedroom noises have nothing to do with passion and intimacy? Not certainly in that way. Anthropology professor at New York University, James Highem, argues that sounds are the simplest and most concise form of communication that a person can use.

      Passion does not tolerate complex formulations and boring instructions. It is much more natural to guide partners and communicate your pleasure through moans or noisy sighs. Such communication promotes mutual understanding, you feel each other better, and therefore sex turns out to be more emotional than in sepulchral silence. nine0003

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      What sounds do people make during sex: moaning, screaming, growling, grunting, shouting obscene expressions and bombastic phrases like "The gates are already opening!" Everyone's attitude to sounds is also different. Someone likes this talent, makes someone laugh, and someone sees insincerity in this. So to make noise or not to make noise in the process of intercourse?

      It is believed that women groan during sex. Male vocalization during sexual intercourse is more often associated with German porn films ("Ya-ya! Fantastic!") and is rather ironic. Men often do not allow themselves to lose control of their emotions. Whereas for a woman, the loss of control - which is what is read behind the sexual moans and screams - is a more natural process. Rapid breathing and groans during sex indicate a special, trance state. In some African tribes, deep breathing was used to go into a deep trance. At the same time, as scientists have found, blood pressure and carbon dioxide levels in the blood decrease, and sensitivity increases, as do sexual experiences. Changes occur in the brain, due to which control over behavior and emotions decreases, a person literally becomes like an animal. nine0003

      Do animals moan during sex?

      Speaking of animals. Female baboons begin to make more complex sounds as ovulation approaches. Also, their vocalizations change depending on the rank of the male they mate with. Isn't that what happens to women when they have sex with alpha or beta males? Often "human females" share that they do not always and not with any partner moan during sex or make other sounds. But female macaques use sounds to help their partners get an orgasm. nine0003

      Why do women moan during sex?

      The fact that women, like female macaques, influence men's pleasure with their cries and moans, is also confirmed by studies in the field of sex. True, often sounds are made not because of strong euphoria and loss of control over emotions, but as a means of manipulation. According to a study conducted by British scientists, out of 71 women aged 18 to 47 surveyed, 66% made noise during sex in order to speed up their partner's orgasm, and 87% thus sought to increase his self-esteem. Some women also reported vocalizing to relieve boredom, fatigue, or pain/discomfort during sex. nine0003

      Is this why the loud moans of women often seem feigned? If behind the wall someone moans loudly in the middle of the night, this demonstrativeness speaks to many about the desire to show off, to show: everything is fine with me, I have sex. However, men still prefer to believe their partners, considering the sounds during intercourse as signals of the strength of arousal and approaching orgasm. The same British scientists found that men misinterpret orgasms from their partners. Studies involving 85 couples aged 20 to 45 showed that women did not control or play during oral sex, while they faked orgasm more often during vaginal sex. Men, on the other hand, felt the opposite. nine0003

      Is it necessary to moan and scream during sex?

      So to shout or not to shout? Some women share that they would like to scream in bed, they are only shy, they are afraid that the neighbors will hear, children or parents are sleeping behind the wall, etc. Of course, often you have to make a discount on housing conditions. But if it is possible to retire to a place where you will not be heard, it is better not to limit yourself in expressing emotions. Sexologists also recommend using sounds not to mislead a partner, thereby hiding their low interest in the process, but rather as a way to educate a partner.

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