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SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Also visit the online treatment locator.

SAMHSA’s National Helpline, 1-800-662-HELP (4357) (also known as the Treatment Referral Routing Service), or TTY: 1-800-487-4889 is a confidential, free, 24-hour-a-day, 365-day-a-year, information service, in English and Spanish, for individuals and family members facing mental and/or substance use disorders. This service provides referrals to local treatment facilities, support groups, and community-based organizations.

Also visit the online treatment locator, or send your zip code via text message: 435748 (HELP4U) to find help near you. Read more about the HELP4U text messaging service.

The service is open 24/7, 365 days a year.

English and Spanish are available if you select the option to speak with a national representative. Currently, the 435748 (HELP4U) text messaging service is only available in English.

In 2020, the Helpline received 833,598 calls. This is a 27 percent increase from 2019, when the Helpline received a total of 656,953 calls for the year.

The referral service is free of charge. If you have no insurance or are underinsured, we will refer you to your state office, which is responsible for state-funded treatment programs. In addition, we can often refer you to facilities that charge on a sliding fee scale or accept Medicare or Medicaid. If you have health insurance, you are encouraged to contact your insurer for a list of participating health care providers and facilities.

The service is confidential. We will not ask you for any personal information. We may ask for your zip code or other pertinent geographic information in order to track calls being routed to other offices or to accurately identify the local resources appropriate to your needs.

No, we do not provide counseling. Trained information specialists answer calls, transfer callers to state services or other appropriate intake centers in their states, and connect them with local assistance and support.

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Alcohol, Tobacco, and Other Drugs

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Misusing alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs can have both immediate and long-term health effects.

The misuse and abuse of alcohol, tobacco, illicit drugs, and prescription medications affect the health and well-being of millions of Americans. NSDUH estimates allow researchers, clinicians, policymakers, and the general public to better understand and improve the nation’s behavioral health. These reports and detailed tables present estimates from the 2021 National Survey on Drug Use and Health (NSDUH).

Alcohol

Data:

Among the 133.1 million current alcohol users aged 12 or older in 2021, 60.0 million people (or 45.1%) were past month binge drinkers. The percentage of people who were past month binge drinkers was highest among young adults aged 18 to 25 (29.2% or 9.8 million people), followed by adults aged 26 or older (22.4% or 49.3 million people), then by adolescents aged 12 to 17 (3.8% or 995,000 people). (2021 NSDUH)
Among people aged 12 to 20 in 2021, 15.1% (or 5.9 million people) were past month alcohol users. Estimates of binge alcohol use and heavy alcohol use in the past month among underage people were 8.3% (or 3.2 million people) and 1.6% (or 613,000 people), respectively. (2021 NSDUH)

In 2020, 50.0% of people aged 12 or older (or 138.5 million people) used alcohol in the past month (i.e., current alcohol users) (2020 NSDUH)
Among the 138.5 million people who were current alcohol users, 61.6 million people (or 44.4%) were classified as binge drinkers and 17.7 million people (28.8% of current binge drinkers and 12.8% of current alcohol users) were classified as heavy drinkers (2020 NSDUH)
The percentage of people who were past month binge alcohol users was highest among young adults aged 18 to 25 (31. 4%) compared with 22.9% of adults aged 26 or older and 4.1% of adolescents aged 12 to 17 (2020 NSDUH)
Excessive alcohol use can increase a person’s risk of stroke, liver cirrhosis, alcoholic hepatitis, cancer, and other serious health conditions
Excessive alcohol use can also lead to risk-taking behavior, including driving while impaired. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention reports that 29 people in the United States die in motor vehicle crashes that involve an alcohol-impaired driver daily

Programs/Initiatives:

STOP Underage Drinking interagency portal - Interagency Coordinating Committee on the Prevention of Underage Drinking
Interagency Coordinating Committee on the Prevention of Underage Drinking
Talk. They Hear You.
Underage Drinking: Myths vs. Facts
Talking with your College-Bound Young Adult About Alcohol

Relevant links:

National Association of State Alcohol and Drug Abuse Directors
Department of Transportation Office of Drug & Alcohol Policy & Compliance
Alcohol Policy Information Systems Database (APIS)
National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism

Tobacco

Data:

In 2020, 20. 7% of people aged 12 or older (or 57.3 million people) used nicotine products (i.e., used tobacco products or vaped nicotine) in the past month (2020 NSDUH)
Among past month users of nicotine products, nearly two thirds of adolescents aged 12 to 17 (63.1%) vaped nicotine but did not use tobacco products. In contrast, 88.9% of past month nicotine product users aged 26 or older used only tobacco products (2020 NSDUH)
Tobacco use is the leading cause of preventable death, often leading to lung cancer, respiratory disorders, heart disease, stroke, and other serious illnesses. The CDC reports that cigarette smoking causes more than 480,000 deaths each year in the United States
The CDC’s Office on Smoking and Health reports that more than 16 million Americans are living with a disease caused by smoking cigarettes

Electronic cigarette (e-cigarette) use data:

In 2021, 13.2 million people aged 12 or older (or 4.7%) used an e-cigarette or other vaping device to vape nicotine in the past month. The percentage of people who vaped nicotine was highest among young adults aged 18 to 25 (14.1% or 4.7 million people), followed by adolescents aged 12 to 17 (5.2% or 1.4 million people), then by adults aged 26 or older (3.2% or 7.1 million people).
Among people aged 12 to 20 in 2021, 11.0% (or 4.3 million people) used tobacco products or used an e-cigarette or other vaping device to vape nicotine in the past month. Among people in this age group, 8.1% (or 3.1 million people) vaped nicotine, 5.4% (or 2.1 million people) used tobacco products, and 3.4% (or 1.3 million people) smoked cigarettes in the past month. (2021 NSDUH)
Data from the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s 2020 National Youth Tobacco Survey. Among both middle and high school students, current use of e-cigarettes declined from 2019 to 2020, reversing previous trends and returning current e-cigarette use to levels similar to those observed in 2018
E-cigarettes are not safe for youth, young adults, or pregnant women, especially because they contain nicotine and other chemicals

Resources:

Tips for Teens: Tobacco
Tips for Teens: E-cigarettes
Implementing Tobacco Cessation Programs in Substance Use Disorder Treatment Settings
Synar Amendment Program

Links:

Truth Initiative
FDA Center for Tobacco Products
CDC Office on Smoking and Health
National Institute on Drug Abuse: Tobacco, Nicotine, and E-Cigarettes
National Institute on Drug Abuse: E-Cigarettes

Opioids

Data:

Among people aged 12 or older in 2021, 3. 3% (or 9.2 million people) misused opioids (heroin or prescription pain relievers) in the past year. Among the 9.2 million people who misused opioids in the past year, 8.7 million people misused prescription pain relievers compared with 1.1 million people who used heroin. These numbers include 574,000 people who both misused prescription pain relievers and used heroin in the past year. (2021 NSDUH)
Among people aged 12 or older in 2020, 3.4% (or 9.5 million people) misused opioids in the past year. Among the 9.5 million people who misused opioids in the past year, 9.3 million people misused prescription pain relievers and 902,000 people used heroin (2020 NSDUH)
According to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention’s Understanding the Epidemic, an average of 128 Americans die every day from an opioid overdose

Resources:

Medication-Assisted Treatment
Opioid Overdose Prevention Toolkit
TIP 63: Medications for Opioid Use Disorder
Use of Medication-Assisted Treatment for Opioid Use Disorder in Criminal Justice Settings
Opioid Use Disorder and Pregnancy
Clinical Guidance for Treating Pregnant and Parenting Women With Opioid Use Disorder and Their Infants
The Facts about Buprenorphine for Treatment of Opioid Addiction
Pregnancy Planning for Women Being Treated for Opioid Use Disorder

Tips for Teens: Opioids
Rural Opioid Technical Assistance Grants
Tribal Opioid Response Grants
Provider’s Clinical Support System - Medication Assisted Treatment Grant Program

Links:

National Institute on Drug Abuse: Opioids
National Institute on Drug Abuse: Heroin
HHS Prevent Opioid Abuse
Community Anti-Drug Coalitions of America
Addiction Technology Transfer Center (ATTC) Network
Prevention Technology Transfer Center (PTTC) Network

Marijuana

Data:

In 2021, marijuana was the most commonly used illicit drug, with 18. 7% of people aged 12 or older (or 52.5 million people) using it in the past year. The percentage was highest among young adults aged 18 to 25 (35.4% or 11.8 million people), followed by adults aged 26 or older (17.2% or 37.9 million people), then by adolescents aged 12 to 17 (10.5% or 2.7 million people).
The percentage of people who used marijuana in the past year was highest among young adults aged 18 to 25 (34.5%) compared with 16.3% of adults aged 26 or older and 10.1% of adolescents aged 12 to 17 (2020 NSDUH)
Marijuana can impair judgment and distort perception in the short term and can lead to memory impairment in the long term
Marijuana can have significant health effects on youth and pregnant women.

Resources:

Know the Risks of Marijuana
Marijuana and Pregnancy
Tips for Teens: Marijuana

Relevant links:

National Institute on Drug Abuse: Marijuana
Addiction Technology Transfer Centers on Marijuana
CDC Marijuana and Public Health

Emerging Trends in Substance Misuse:

Methamphetamine—In 2019, NSDUH data show that approximately 2 million people used methamphetamine in the past year. Approximately 1 million people had a methamphetamine use disorder, which was higher than the percentage in 2016, but similar to the percentages in 2015 and 2018. The National Institute on Drug Abuse Data shows that overdose death rates involving methamphetamine have quadrupled from 2011 to 2017. Frequent meth use is associated with mood disturbances, hallucinations, and paranoia.
Cocaine—In 2019, NSDUH data show an estimated 5.5 million people aged 12 or older were past users of cocaine, including about 778,000 users of crack. The CDC reports that overdose deaths involving have increased by one-third from 2016 to 2017. In the short term, cocaine use can result in increased blood pressure, restlessness, and irritability. In the long term, severe medical complications of cocaine use include heart attacks, seizures, and abdominal pain.
Kratom—In 2019, NSDUH data show that about 825,000 people had used Kratom in the past month. Kratom is a tropical plant that grows naturally in Southeast Asia with leaves that can have psychotropic effects by affecting opioid brain receptors. It is currently unregulated and has risk of abuse and dependence. The National Institute on Drug Abuse reports that health effects of Kratom can include nausea, itching, seizures, and hallucinations.

Resources:

Tips for Teens: Methamphetamine
Tips for Teens: Cocaine
National Institute on Drug Abuse

More SAMHSA publications on substance use prevention and treatment.

Last Updated: 01/05/2023

What to do if you are sad - 10 ways to cheer you up

If you are just sad, then you are very lucky. This is not a joke, the world is full of people who are sick, hungry, cold and ill. It takes money, time, and the efforts of other people to get them back to normal, and all you have to do is look at the cats. Returning the mood to normal can be difficult only for those who have serious reasons to be sad, or for those who do not know what to do. For everyone else, if you are sad and want to cry, just take a little time to use one of our tips.

Boredom and sadness are moods of the mind, that is, objectively they do not exist in nature outside of your head. It is like the color of the glass you are looking through: change the glass and the world will change colors.

Our tips are great because they can be used by anyone in almost any environment. They will not work only if your boredom and sadness are atypical and are the result of a more serious problem than a bad day. If you are not sad, then read it anyway: boredom is not terrible for those who know what to do with it.

Movies

As Captain Obvious would say, comedies cheer you up. But the comedy still needs to be chosen, and this is where the inexperienced consumer begins to have difficulties. The concept of "comedy" is so loose these days, and the number of films available is so immense that you can't point your finger and get into a good movie, don't even try. You can use the ratings and study reviews of film critics on the net, but it's even more boring than doing nothing.

To avoid all the charms of choice, focus on the actor/director and focus on the classics. For example, Jim Carrey, a man with incredible charisma, in whose filmography there is not a single unfunny movie. Or Rowan Atkins, the famous "Mr. Bean", the man who made the whole world laugh without saying a word.

Books

Some people think that reading books is boring. People, are you serious? It's boring to spin an endless VKontakte feed, reading other people's statuses of the same content, cut, by the way, from book phrases. And books are a whole world in which you can live when reality lacks variety. The disadvantage of school literature lessons is that because of them, children perceive reading as work, but in fact it is great entertainment.

If you don't know what to read when you're sad and lonely, look for movies that you like. Many of them were based on books, and the genres in literature and cinema are similar.

And it is not at all necessary to read Dostoevsky. If you like horror, fantasy or action, Lem, Strugatsky, Cruz, Glukhovsky will suit you. For lovers of fantasy, The Lord of the Rings and Tolkien's The Hobbit is an absolute must read. Those who like reading heavier will appreciate Pelevin. For those who like it easier and "poppier" there are as many as 8 parts of "Harry Potter".

Music

Download an application like "Yandex.Music" and "Spotify", they allow you to set the mood in the settings, and the playlist will be generated automatically. It became sad in my heart for no reason - ask the program to select driving music for you, put on your headphones and enjoy. If you still have to search for music manually, I can advise the following:

Flo Rida. It looks like an ordinary "black" RnB, but it is very different in color from all the representatives of the genre that have stuck in the teeth. The music of this rapper is incredibly life-affirming, it can be used for running or in a rocking chair, as a first-class energy drink;
Scooter. Need no introduction, super energetic music familiar from the 90s;
Kylie Minogue. One of the few, in my opinion, modern pop icons who really understands what mood and atmosphere are. At Kylie you can find a lot of different music, and it is almost always a sea of positive and a major life-affirming position. Just don’t download the top Google search results on demand, look for little-known things, for example, the “Golden” album.

Dream

The most positive activity, which has only one drawback - you will be distracted by what is happening around. Therefore, in order to dream anywhere and at any time, it is good to have some kind of anchor - a point of contact with the dream, thinking about which you can simply "jump" into the state and develop it in any direction. This is what people who practice the visualization method for the fulfillment of desires do.

Get yourself some special object to “dream”, it could be a picture, a photograph, a video on your phone, maybe a short poem. Anything, if only to take you to the country of good fantasies quickly and efficiently.

Make up stories

Creative activities are great for killing time, and they also stimulate the activity of the central nervous system, develop intelligence and memory. This is a game of imagination, you do not just come up with everything that comes to mind, but you do it within the limits of what is possible, like a screenwriter. This practice is used by theater actors to train their imagination, and they do it everywhere, especially in crowded places, when you can calmly observe others. You see an interesting type in public transport, you try to notice the details of his mood, you come up with a biography for him. What is he doing, where is he coming from, what happened to him an hour ago, what will happen in an hour, etc. Try it, it's very entertaining.

Go in for sports

Recent studies have shown that there is a relationship between some types of physical activity and feelings of joy. For example, running stimulates the release of the hormone of joy into the bloodstream and causes a condition known as "runner's euphoria". It is nature's little reward for doing a practice that is beneficial to survival and health. And if you run in the fresh air in a beautiful area, if you choose the most picturesque time of the day for this, then you can experience meditative happiness and completely renounce all earthly problems. Running is a great substitute for cycling or a skateboard.

Sing

If you're alone at home, karaoke is a great remedy for the blues. The main thing is to choose energetic songs with a bright mood, then what is embedded in them will be transmitted to you. Usually a few minutes in the company of good songs is enough to dispel the sadness and make you want to dance. If you are in the company of the same sad guys, wrap up a karaoke club for an hour or two, just don't get carried away, otherwise you won't want to leave.

Draw

We have already talked about the impact of creative activities, everything said is true for drawing. But what exactly to draw depends on why you are sad. If the reason for this is the tension caused by a specific cause, the process of overcoming this cause should be drawn. This practice is offered to their patients by art therapists, specialists in the field of eliminating psychological problems with the help of creativity. You draw what you want to do, the process of sublimation starts, that is, the substitution of a real action with a creative analogue, and it becomes easier for you. If you just have nothing to do, then draw anything. If you don’t know how to draw, open a photo editor and edit pictures.

Go shopping

Shopaholics get addicted to shopping malls for a reason, often they are not even interested in the things they buy. It's all about the selection process, the setting, the interaction with the shop assistants, the excitement you get when looking at the shop windows. All this is available to you in any major market. It's nice to be there, there are a lot of people who are glad to see you, there is always something interesting there. If some kind of thematic fair or exhibition is held on this day, then consider it great luck, because unique, not ordinary goods are available to you.

Rearrange the furniture in your home

This is the easiest way to create a new feeling in a familiar place. Even if you just turn the bed 180 degrees (so that you sleep with your feet in the opposite direction), and you will lie down and get up from it with a completely new feeling. And if you rearrange all the furniture, your own apartment will become a subject for study and a source of new experience. In addition, this is an occasion to show your hidden design talents to the maximum, to experiment with the usual. If you haven’t done repairs for a long time, then fresh ideas will definitely arise in the process and an incentive will appear.

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When sad and lonely. How to cope with sadness and loneliness

I'm lonely... I'm so lonely... Sad, boring, painful... LONELY... I live in a city where there are hundreds of thousands, millions of people, and at the same time I'm like like in a vacuum, I'm alone. How is this possible? Why? For what? And most importantly - what to do to get rid of this unpleasant feeling of one's own loneliness.

"I feel very lonely" - if this thought comes to mind, then something in life needs to be changed. Man is a social being and only in society, among other people, can he be truly happy. It does not matter the number of people who will be surrounded - one true friend or a hundred acquaintances - the main thing is that there should be communication, contact with the outside world not only at work, but at the behest of the heart and soul. If it is not there, this is unbearable suffering for any mentally normal person.

Is loneliness a disease of the inhabitants of modern cities?

You can find many questions about loneliness on the Internet. Along with dating sites, many projects and forums are being created for those who suffer from loneliness. And although people are trying to meet each other, to support each other, there is still an increase in people who feel their loneliness very, very sharply.

I am a person without friends. I am very lonely. I don't even have close friends. You have no idea how difficult it is to meet every day alone, to know that no one will call and ask how you are doing. The people I interact with are work colleagues. How hard it is to live knowing that no one in the world will support you, touch you, and that all I can do is go to the movies alone, ride transport alone, go somewhere alone. Bored, sad and lonely. It hurts unbearably. Every day to think that no one needs you, that there is no friend, girlfriend, there is no one for miles around. It hurts, it hurts terribly. It hurts to such an extent that you begin to communicate and stay with people as far from you as your soul goes to your heels, and you don’t know how to get out of this hole. Loneliness is pain. The one that no one feels or sees is real. Problems at work, in the family - nothing compares to this feeling of loneliness. Every day I do not want to fall asleep because tomorrow is the same gray worthless day in complete despair and loneliness.

A person who is lonely understands that this is a negative state that brings suffering. Naturally, he wants to get rid of loneliness, like a disease. Recover and be like everyone else, normal people: make friends, communicate, enjoy life and share this joy with others. That's just how to do it? All attempts to go outside do not work, relationships do not stick. Finding a loved one fails, making friends also fails. The situation is aggravated with age, the older a person becomes, the more difficult it is for him to find someone: the same age already have their families, their downed companies, into which it is very, very difficult for a new person to fit in.

Not so long ago he was writhing with a heart attack, as you know, he remained alive... then it seemed that the end was probably here (only the word was completely different in my head)... it was not scary and not insulting to die, it was insulting that there is nothing to remember, no fun and joyful moments with anyone nearby, nothing, and no one is near because I am such a lonely or worthless person, but because it so happened in life that all life happens and passes you by ...

In the end, loneliness becomes such an unbearable burden that a person sometimes even thinks about suicide. "I'm lonely" - it's really scary to understand. This burden, like a stone, crushes, suffocates, angers, irritates. In general, it causes the whole range of negative sensations that only a person has.

If you are lonely, the reason is always in the subconscious. It is very easy to find friends, acquaintances, loved ones. The main thing is to understand yourself and understand what to do with yourself.

Let's try to figure out from the point of view of Yuri Burlan's system-vector psychology why some people, unlike others, fall into the trap of loneliness and can even hang there for a long time, literally until the end of their lives. And most importantly, how to get out of this state.

Because absolutely everyone can get out of this state, without exception.

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Ways to deal with loneliness

Loneliness can be useful for a short period of time, do not feel sorry for yourself, it only aggravates the situation, but try to use it for your own good in order to improve and develop.

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What is loneliness

There are two types of causes of loneliness: subjective and objective. Subjective reasons depend on you and are in the manner of behavior. By changing a fraction of the installations imposed by fate, you will achieve a lot. Objective reasons are easier to eliminate, because they are easier to see, state, understand, and think about.

Manual

Stop looking for the perfect! Firstly, a 100% coincidence of the characters of two people is not a guarantee of the durability of a marriage. And judging by the latest statements by psychologists, this is not a reason to start a family, because it is more effective to spend a vacation with such a person than to raise children.

Always keep a balance between your self-confidence and the pomposity of a turkey. Should I look like that big scary bird? In reality, many brave heroes run away from the courtyard at the sound of her voice. Have you ever watched it?

Throw off the mask of feminism. The opinion of complete emancipation is outdated, it was refuted. There is much more testosterone in the flask under the letter "M" than in the flask under the letter "F". This means that at the molecular level you will never become more independent and familiar botanist.

Turn off the internet, turn around and leave the apartment. From the proposed list, select one place and visit it: a club, cinema, cafe, exhibition, circus, karaoke, theater, concert or city park. Ideally, invite someone over.

Be sure to show interest in a young person when making a new acquaintance. Attention! Thoroughly track the line where your obsession begins. There is a big difference between expressing one's opinion and imposing. Learn to recognize it.

When going to crowded places, plan your behavior. If you are afraid to do this in front of a mirror, then you have problems that are best corrected with a psychologist.

What is loneliness? In the first case, this is due to some external factors: work in secluded places, forced isolation from society (dangerous criminal or mentally unhealthy person). And in the second, it takes place in the soul of a person, despite constant contacts with other people, when there is no soul mate who is close in views and meaning in life.

The most difficult thing is the spiritual loneliness. It can occur for various reasons: parting with a loved one, death of loved ones, moving to another city/country. Sometimes a person is lonely since childhood because of a complex inner world that is not clear to his environment.

Women suffer from loneliness more often than men due to more strongly developed emotionality. But sometimes men are very difficult to experience this condition.

Ways to deal with loneliness

The main thing in the fight against is not to get hung up on this feeling. A short period of being with yourself is very useful, because with constant employment, sometimes there is not enough time to understand yourself, your feelings and sincere desires. But you should not lock yourself up, try to isolate yourself from society for a long time, otherwise it can develop into depression, from which it is very difficult to get out on your own without the help of specialists.

In no case should you seize or drink loneliness, it will not go anywhere, and the consequences can become very serious, and sometimes even difficult to cure (alcoholism). You should not get hooked on various depressants, they, of course, will help, but addiction may appear, and the reason will not go away by itself.

If loneliness arose due to parting with a loved one, then you should not blame yourself and invent different complexes for yourself. You should not delve into the past and remember good moments, this will only make the feeling of sorrow stronger, and loneliness will manifest itself even more. Give yourself some time to relax, take a break from everything - find a few positive moments in your state. After all, you have enough time to take care of yourself and do something that was impossible in a relationship. You need to feel yourself not as a lonely person, but as a free person who does not need to report to anyone for his actions.

After a few days of rest, it is worth going out into society and making the most of your day so that there is no time for sad thoughts. This is a good opportunity to make a career, gain new skills and knowledge, and take up your favorite hobby. Enjoy every day, and also try to communicate more with positive people who do not experience difficult days in their lives, they will help you tune in the right way. You can visit different entertainment places if you really want to, do not do it by force, otherwise it may backfire. And never regret the past, because the future depends only on you.

If you feel lonely because of the death of your loved ones, then the situation is slightly different, and only time will heal this feeling. You should not forget your loved ones, but you need to understand that you can no longer help and change something too. So take it for granted, but keep on living. And a busy day is also a good way to get rid of bad thoughts. When a person gets very tired during the day, then at night there is no time for worries. And over time, loneliness will become less acute, and communication with other people partially compensates for this.

I will never be with someone who treats me like garbage. Slavery is worse than loneliness.

The most disgusting thing is loneliness: and there are thousands of people around…

Even when you lose love for the next, thousandth time, and loneliness bites into you with vile tentacles, filling your nature with sadness, hope still glimmers inside.

What, you don't believe your eyes? Yes, that's how ugly I am! Drunk, with a cigarette in my mouth, tears will not stop running ... I want to be weak! Leave me alone! Alone with sadness…

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I hate it when a person shushushus you, musi pusi, and is all so affectionate on VKontakte, and then on the street once - and doesn’t even say hello!

Run away from those who do not appreciate you at all!

And again only contact breaks loneliness. Tea, sweets, music... and other attributes of sadness that won't help you at all right now.

I'm not a whiner. But sometimes in the soul it becomes so empty that loneliness covers with the head and sadness settles in the heart!

I smile but my soul plays notes of melancholy…

Loneliness can completely enslave. And even when a loving person appears, it doesn’t get any warmer!

there is emptiness in my heart, as if I am alone in the world…

My neighbors from above flooded my neighbors from below. Conclusion: Everyone is ignoring me!

Loneliness is a certain absolute. The only one that exists. Everything else is a product of our imagination, an illusion.

Loneliness is when you hear how the clock is ticking? No! Loneliness is when it rains and there is no one to hug you..

The soul is suddenly empty. There is no fault in this. Feelings die just like that...

Don't be jealous of my loneliness. I don't understand this jealousy. Sometimes a person wants to be alone, alone…

Do you love freedom?! Free!

It is better to be unknown, but happy in love, than brilliant, but lonely

The night sky, sparkling stars, the moon illuminating the road, dreams, complete silence and short loneliness - this is all that made her happy ... But loneliness now interferes . ..

Life at the very top can be quite lonely, but it is a great place to express your opinion. Then we become like animals driven into a cage. We start throwing ourselves at the walls and howling at the moon

When the most beloved, dear person to you ... is very far from you ... and you miss him madly ... for me it is ... loneliness ...

Every morning she makes me hot sandwiches. I affectionately whisper to her, "I'm on my way, I'm on my way... Now." But she never understands me. Maybe because she's a microwave?

I am alone. Why do I need someone? I will be alone again. All efforts are fruitless. Thanks to all. All are free

Each creature has a pair. Where is my creature?!

Loneliness is when you are and when you seem to be gone.

What does loneliness mean? For me, this is when I go to the kitchen in the middle of the night to drink water, and there is no one to ask, “Where are you going?”

nothing screams louder than silence…

I am so alone at this hour that I want to die. I have nowhere to go, I destroyed my world, Only a candle cries for me at a cold dawn..

I am alone… in the whole world… I am so lonely among you… you unhappy people… who do not understand… all life… because life is a lie…

There are five of us… Me and four walls…

savoring the zest of life... I can't tell an annoying voice to tell you what to do...

Real fighters for their place under the sun have neither allies nor friends. They endure loneliness because they are strong in spirit

Loneliness is when you are surrounded by wonderful people, but they have someone closer than you

Parting does not always mean the end. Sometimes it's just the opening of a new page in life

When I'm alone... it seems to me that I'm completely alone... And when I'm with people... it doesn't seem to me... I know it for sure...

Loneliness is when there is a telephone in the house, but the alarm clock rings 🙁

- Why do you always wear headphones? “They are like an airbag between me and the rest of the world.

Loneliness is happiness because then we do not know lies, betrayal, fear of losing a loved one, we just live for ourselves (

I'm lonely, and you're lonely... But we won't take a single step to meet each other.

Beautiful girls are never alone, but often they are lonely…

Loneliness – in 4 corners you look for the fifth one.

Loneliness is when you reply to spam and add it to your contact list

Loneliness is when you know exactly who screwed up in the kitchen

Proud loneliness is a cheap excuse for uselessness

Deep loneliness is when you walk down the street in the evening, and you even have mosquitoes don't bite…

But she was happy, And she didn’t know tears at all… Through the pain and the cry: “I am strong!” She whispered: “I'm tired…”

When you're alone, you even have sex with yourself. Every lonely person can invent his own world, as God once did

I don’t feel my heart, I don’t feel my hand… I decided it myself, silence is my friend… I would rather sin… Loneliness is torment…

You are sitting on a chair with a straight back, and your soul lies next to you in a lump, tightly hugging your knees with your hands, like a wounded, but faithful dog

We are all, to some extent, doomed to loneliness. Every one of us will get it sometime...

I will marry a jar of coffee and I will always be cheerful and happy. my lover will be an mp3 player, the record holder for the number of melomanic orgasms brought to me

Loneliness is when there are a lot of people around, but you cannot fully cherish any one of them.

There are 100 contacts in the phone, but there is no one to call…. There are 500 friends in contact, but you don’t know who to write to ... And only real friends call and write first. They don't need a reason

When you are alone for ages, you become very picky about food and sex.

Only a candle at the cold dawn cries for me...

Life is too short - you shouldn't spend it pitying yourself in vain, sitting alone. There is a spark inside everyone, you just need to ignite it in order to warm yourself with life-giving warmth, wake up and dare to live on.

Only in loneliness can one see in oneself what society does not allow to see

The moon and the sun converged on my horizon. Day and night have changed places. I live, I breathe, but not with you….

Are you lonely? Do not miss the opportunity to enjoy the company of an intelligent person

How tired I am of hearing “I want you”, I want to hear “I want to be with you!”

I know what loneliness is: A bitten piece of chocolate, a cup of strong coffee, music that already hurts my ears, an unbearable emptiness in the depths of my soul and tears in my eyes…

I’m not looking for anyone, I don’t regret anyone, I don’t love anyone , I don’t suffer, I don’t believe ... I don’t call anyone, I don’t forgive anyone, I don’t owe anyone - so I don’t promise ...

It is nice to experience loneliness when you are in love with someone, even if not mutually. It develops the imagination. Only in solitude can a person show his true nature.

People often remain lonely because instead of building bridges, they build walls.

loneliness is when only shampoo is watching you in the bath

loneliness is when you hear the clock ticking? …

Loneliness is when you go crazy, and you can't even tell anyone about it. ..

I'm so lonely at this hour that I want to die.

I have nowhere to go, I destroyed my world,

Much depends on us. Until we ourselves want to break out of our shell of loneliness, no one will help us with this

There are 100 contacts on the phone, but there is no one to call .... There are 500 friends in contact, but you don’t know who to write to.…

For some, loneliness is when they are unloved, someone is lonely because he has no friends, And I am lonely when you are not around…

In search of little green men, she ambushed herself in the bathroom, armed with a kitchen knife and a screwdriver. Loneliness disturbed the peace of mind. I think it's time to put on a straitjacket...

I'm lonely not because I have a bad temper. I am lonely because I think outside the box

I crawl under the covers, and loneliness quietly creeps up on me, presses against my back and strokes, strokes, strokes my arms, chest, neck ...

Love is when the heart beats faster, and separation - this is when every minute it seems that it is about to stop . ..

Loneliness is when they forgot to pick you up from the morgue…

I love the music of the rain, when my heart is lonely…

He held her tight and tried to feel that wondrous scent of perfume that emanated from her before. But I felt only the bitter smell of cigarettes, alcohol and loneliness...

We parted, but every minute I keep your image in my heart. I didn’t fall out of love, and for the life of me, I can’t believe this separation…

I sat and looked at the sky… there was one cloud… and I realized that it was me…

We are no longer links in the same chain, we are no longer part of the same whole, he will no longer wake me up in the morning with a kiss... Does anyone have a love pill?

Love is when the heart beats faster, and separation is when every minute it seems that it is about to stop...

Night. I sit and smoke and stare out the window. Sadly, there is no one to talk to, no one is waiting for my call. I look at the stars and think: “How many of us are so lonely in the world?”

I'm alone! Why do I need someone? I will be touchy again! All efforts are fruitless, thank you all! All FREE

I'm lonely. .and for some reason I like it...

Empty people gather in packs. Loneliness is like death for them. The rulers of the world look down on everyone and seek solitude. I don’t belong to either of them, and I take loneliness for granted

…don’t look that I’m Highness, save me from loneliness…

Sometimes I want to wrap myself in a warm blanket, get an old photo album and listen to the rain outside the window . Deal with loneliness! Go outside, run through the puddles and you will see a rainbow

Alone and alone are two completely different concepts. At a noisy party, you can also be lonely. And this is a state of mind

Loneliness is when you wake up from a call in the middle of the night, you are glad that suddenly someone is needed, but all your expectations are broken off by the phrase “Sorry, I just made a mistake (s) number”

Not all life is full of turbulent events, there are moments when you are left alone ... It becomes sad and lonely. What to do in such moments, how to cheer yourself up?

What to do when sad

When a person is sad, he needs to cheer up, but how to do it. .. The advice is actually very simple. But trust me, they are incredibly effective! Among them, everyone will find at least 1 effective way for him to cheer up.

Turn up some cheerful music or a song (must be rhythmic) louder. Force yourself to get up from the couch, spin in front of the mirror, sing along, dance. It is forbidden to turn on romantic and sad melodies when you are sad, as they will only aggravate the situation.
Decide that you need something to pamper and please yourself. For example, buy a chocolate bar or ice cream.
Set aside the number of money you don't mind and go shopping. You don't have to buy in bulk. Having bought some little thing for yourself, the mood will already rise! New clothes always have a positive effect on the mood and well-being of a person.
Remember your favorite business, hobby. You probably haven't done this in a long time. The taste for life will return, and you will relax and feel pleasure.
Find some friends, go to the cinema to see a comedy.
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