What is your biggest insecurity quiz

Can We Guess Your Biggest Insecurity?

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If you think you're the only one who has one or more insecurities, then you better think again! Even the most handsome men in the world have that one thing they're unhappy with. It could be something physical, a personality trait or something that's just in their heads. Regardless of what that thing is, it sadly exists. We want to take some negativity out of your insecurity by turning it into a quiz where we will attempt to guess what yours is.

Is your insecurity your body? Do you think that your butt is too big or that your arms are too flabby? Is your insecurity your smile? Were you in an accident as a kid and now your teeth don't look as good as you think it could? Are you insecure about your intelligence? Do other people make you feel bad for not knowing certain things (this one is an easy fix)? Or do you think that your eyes are too far apart and that your nose is too thin?

If you want us to guess what your biggest insecurity is, get started on this quiz. And who knows, maybe by the end, you may realize that your vulnerability is silly and that you should be confident no matter what. You know why? Because absolutely no one is perfect!

How confident are you in the way that you look?

20% - 40% confident

40% - 60% confident

60% - 80% confident

80% -100% confident

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Do you believe in your capabilities?

Rarely

Sometimes

Most times

All the time

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How easily are you embarrassed?

Too easily

Not easily

Somewhat easily

Very easily

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Do you find yourself looking over your shoulder a lot?

Sometimes

Frequently

All the time

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Have you ever struggled with your weight?

I still do

I used to

Not really

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Would you say that you're a shy person?

No, I'm not

Not really

I can be

Extremely shy

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Have you ever bullied someone?

I'm not sure

A few times

More than a few times

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Do people take advantage of you?

Rarely

Not really

Sometimes

All the time

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How much do you care about the way others see you?

I only care about how I see myself

I care a little

I care a lot

Way too much

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Do you ask people for their opinions a lot?

All the time

Sometimes

Not often

Rarely

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If you hear someone laughing behind you, what's the first thing you think?

They're laughing at me

That something really funny must've happened

That they better not be laughing at me

That I want to hear the joke

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How would you react if someone insulted you?

I try not to cry

I stick up for myself

I insult them back

I ignore them

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In your opinion, could you use a little help with your body?

I need a lot of help

A little help would be good

I just need to be more disciplined

I love my body

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What's your best body part?

My stomach

My chest

My arms

My back

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And what do you cover up the most?

My butt

My legs

My arms

My stomach

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You're invited to a pool party. Are you going to go?

Probably not

I want to

Of course I'll go

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Let's say you'r going. What are you wearing?

I'm going fully dressed in jeans

Some shorts and a top/shirt

A swimsuit but with a cover up

Swimwear of course

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And what are you going to do when you get there?

Try to make new friends

Eat and drink

Jump into the pool

Stand in a corner all alone

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How important are your looks to you?

Incredibly important

Pretty important

Somewhat important

Not very important

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What's your favorite facial feature?

My lips

My eyes

My eyebrows

My smile

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Have you ever had a personality disorder?

No, never

No, but I thought I did

Yes, I have

More than one

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How do people describe you (negatively)?

Emotional

Standoffish

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But what would you say is the best thing about you?

My intelligence

My drive

My charm

My body

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What mood are in you right now?

I'm really happy

I'm excited

I'm okay. ..just okay

Not the happiest

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Are you very quiet?

Not at all

Not really

Most times, yes

Yes, I am

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Do you have many friends?

I have a few

I have many friends

More than a few

No, I don't

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Do you ever second-guess yourself?

Rarely

Sometimes

Most times

All the time

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Do you let people know when something is bothering you?

My family, yes

Only my friends

Only if it's really bad

No, I don't

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Are you happy with your life?

It could be better

I'm really happy with it

Most times, I am

I'm not

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Would you say that you're in denial?

Even if I was, I'd still say no

A little bit

Yes, I am

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Can We Guess What You're Insecure About?

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Everyone has their insecurities, and often the people who shout the loudest about how certain they are turn out to be the ones trembling inside. Let us help you identify your worst insecurity, so you can start to conquer it!

What's the first thought in your head in the morning?

Not to look in the mirror

Can I go without lunch today?

Empty bed, sigh

I hate my job.

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And late at night?

I wish I hadn't eaten that.

I wonder if there's any money in my other pants.

It's cold in here.

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What do you envy about your luckiest friend's life?

She's so beautiful.

She's so wealthy.

His boo loves him so much.

He's so smart.

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What mistake do you dwell on most?

Not taking better care of myself.

Not choosing my parents more wisely!

Letting the one that got away, get away.

Not studying hard.

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If you could have a wish, what would you wish for?

Beauty

True love

Genius

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If you were given $10m, what would you change first?

I'd see a surgeon.

I would move house.

I would hire a matchmaker.

I would get a tutor.

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Do you worry about dying alone?

Not really

Yes, I might end up in a home that won't let my boo join me.

All the time

I don't think so.

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Do you know how much is in your bank account?

Roughly, yes

To the dime

No idea

Yes, not a lot!

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How much effort do you make getting ready every day?

Almost none

As much as I can, to look respectable.

Maybe an hour

Half an hour

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How many dating apps are on your phone right now?

None, I'm not ready to date.

None, I can't be wasting time and money on that.

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Are you embarrassed by your resume?

Not really

A little

A lot, yes

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Do you ever feel like everyone else is more put-together than you are?

Not really

Yes, and I know why.

Sometimes

All the time

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Do you ever just not mend broken things you own because it's too stressful?

Not really

All the time

Sometimes

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Do you have good health insurance?

It's quite good.

No, it's terrible.

It's pretty decent but if I married, it would be better.

I have none.

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Do you ruminate a lot?

Constantly

I don't have time, but when I'm not busy I do.

I try not to.

I am very busy, so no.

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Do you ever worry that you're not lovable?

Not really

All the time

Only from time to time

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Do you picture a comfy old age?

I guess.

I can't think that far ahead, I'm just trying to survive.

No, it'll be lonely.

No, I'm legit scared.

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Do you plan to attend your next high school reunion?

Only if I drop 20lbs

I can't afford to.

No, they'd laugh at me.

No, I haven't achieved enough.

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Do you ever look in the mirror and think, "You know, that person is all right"?

I don't have time for indulgence like that.

Only if I have a hot date.

Once in a while, actually yes.

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Do you worry that you are becoming jaded?

I have been jaded for ages.

I was born jaded.

All the time

More pessimistic than jaded

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If you could magically take back one big mistake, what would it be?

All the junk food

I'd mostly want to take back my parents' mistakes, as I was dealt a really bad hand.

Dumping good dates for trivial reasons

Not studying hard

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If you could acquire one new habit, what would it be?

Diet and exercise

Being incredibly good at fixing things

Not being too clingy

Reading really fast and remembering all of it

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If you could acquire one new skill to expert level overnight, what would it be?

Being super confident

Coding

Being a people person

An MBA

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If you could make one person in your life just shut the heck up, who would it be?

The voice of my grandma in my head

Wider society, to be honest

My extended family

My boss

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Which holiday do you dread the most?

Thanksgiving

Christmas

Valentine's Day

Honestly, most of them

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Which holiday do you like the most?

Halloween

Labor Day

Easter

Memorial Day

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If you got a free plane ticket anywhere, where would you go?

Norway

The Caribbean

Boston

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Where is your dream house?

Iceland

Manhattan

Cambridge, MA

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In the sentence "my life would be so much better if I could just X", what is X?

Lose weight

Get a better job

Find love

Go to school

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Are you good at accepting the things you cannot change?

I have to be sometimes.

I try but it's really hard.

I am still determined to change them.

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Test for self-doubt and the reasons for it

Are you tired of constant self-doubt? Do you want to develop determination, the ability to present yourself correctly, willpower and character? If you are ready to improve your life, increase your chances of success, you will first have to work on your weaknesses. Complexes become a serious obstacle on the way to goals. Therefore, for those who are tired of self-doubt, the test below will help start this struggle. He will identify the root cause of the problems and tell you in which direction to move on.

1. You are criticized unreasonably. In what case will you definitely protect yourself and answer the offender?

If my answer is more funny/threatening/smarter than the opponent's words.

If the witnesses of the conflict are on my side.

If I have already had a successful experience of such disputes.

If I have an irrefutable argument in a dispute in favor of my being right.

If someone intercedes for me first.

2. What word do you most associate with uncertainty?

Defeat.

Criticism.

Negative.

Imperfection.

Loneliness.

3. Why don't you tell others about some of your thoughts or ideas?

Their thoughts/ideas could be better.

They may not like my thoughts.

There was a negative experience, I do not trust.

My ideas are not good enough.

My words will not be taken seriously.

4. There is a competition for the best picture in the city. You have an exhibit that can be put up for competition. What will motivate you to take part in the event?

Confidence that I will win a prize.

Praise from those who have already seen this picture.

Confidence in justice and tact of judges.

The perfect picture.

Only if my friends register me.

5. Which job interview are you definitely not going to?

Where there will be many applicants.

Where the strict tenant will be.

To work, where I didn't succeed before.

For an interview in an unknown format (questionnaire, communication with HR or something else), where it will not be possible to plan everything in advance.

Where it is not allowed to come with friends for moral support.

6. Why might you feel embarrassed when talking to strangers?

They may be smarter/cultural/richer than me. It's depressing.

I'm afraid they won't like me, or they'll run into criticism.

I have met not very nice people and I am afraid that this will happen again.

I'm afraid that I won't look my best, I won't be able to express all my advantages, I'll forget some of the rules of etiquette, etc.

I'll have to get to know them one on one.

7. Imagine that you are in a karaoke bar where strangers ask you to sing. You refuse. Why?

I can't sing the best.

I had a similar case (not sure with karaoke) and it was a failure.

I won't sing perfectly/stretch a note/pronounce words.

I will have to do this alone, without the support of someone I know well.

8. You participated in the competition and won first place in it. Why do you think you won?

The other participants were even less experienced than me.

I managed to please the judges or fans.

There were no negative thoughts about the competition and my chances of winning.

I completed the tasks of the competition as correctly as possible.

Other people helped me.

9. What is your biggest weakness?

Inability to lose.

Weakness.

Pessimism.

The habit of getting hung up on trifles or procrastination.

Lack of independence.

10. Why might you not like your appearance?

She is worse than the others.

Someone may not like her.

There were negative reviews about her.

It is far from ideal.

It does not provide any benefits.

11. You had an argument with a postal worker, but you have to go to the same branch to pick up a parcel. What are your thoughts on this?

I don't want to go there because I can't win an argument with that worker.

I don't want to go, because the worker will start criticizing me and dishonoring me in front of other people.

Almost all postal workers are so terrible.

Carefully consider all possible lines of dialogue with that worker before going for the package.

Ask a friend to pick up the package for me.

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Self-doubt: where does it come from and can it be overcome 001

Public speaking as a sophisticated form of torture, a stalled career, a sense of anxiety about the present and timidity before the new - all these are consequences of self-doubt. We talk about the reasons and ways to overcome it

What is self-doubt

Self-doubt is a subjective feeling of doubt in one's abilities and potential for success in various areas of life. By and large, self-doubt is the fear of being yourself, which grows out of doubts about your competence.

Self-doubt goes hand in hand with low self-esteem, but there is a difference between the two. Uncertainty manifests itself pointwise and refers to how confident a person is in their qualifications in various areas of life: work, personal relationships, and so on. Self-esteem is a complex concept, a global opinion about oneself as a person. Personal insecurity, if a person experiences it regularly, strikes blow after blow to self-esteem, and in the end can greatly shake it.

Also, self-doubt is often confused with introversion . An introvert is a personality type proposed by the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung to characterize people who direct life energy inwards. They prefer to think apart from the outside world, with immersion in the inner. But introversion is not necessarily a marker, much less a synonym for insecurity. The German psychiatrist Karl Leonhard saw strength in this individualism. According to his interpretation, the introvert has its own clear values, is not afraid to oppose itself to the environment, unlike the extrovert, whom Leonhard calls a conformist, susceptible to outside influence.

Another phenomenon sometimes confused with self-doubt is social phobia . Social phobia is included in the International Classification of Diseases and is an anxiety disorder. Affected people are afraid of attention from other people, public spaces and large companies - sometimes to the point of panic attacks, and therefore avoid social situations. Social phobia is a medical diagnosis that can be treated.

People who experience self-doubt tend to think that they have got a rare unfortunate ticket to this state. This is not so: everyone experiences this feeling in different life situations. It's natural to doubt yourself when you start a new endeavor or in a highly competitive environment. But sometimes insecurity becomes chronic and reduces the quality of life. According to Yulia Anpilogova, a psychologist and psychotherapist, a member of the All-Russian Professional Psychotherapeutic League, self-doubt, as a main or accompanying problem, is present in almost all appeals to a psychologist: “People who are capable of reflection or self-reflection are people of a certain order of organization of the psyche, who are in doubt. To doubt oneself for such a person is one of the steps, one of the forms of doubt.

Signs of self-doubt

Every person who has experienced self-doubt has experienced the accompanying emotions, thoughts and bodily reactions.

External (bodily) signs

Rapid heartbeat, redness or pallor of the face, uneven breathing when talking.
Confused speech, a person chatters and loses the thread of the narrative, jerky movements - a conversational sprint, just to finish the speech faster.
Stooping, hunched figure, unconscious desire to take up less space and be less visible.
The phrases “I suppose”, “it seems to me” - the person seems to be apologizing for being in his place.

Internal (mental, behavioral)

Comparison of oneself with others - in a person who is not confident in himself, it almost always turns out to be not in his favor.
The inability to say "no" - it is easier for a person to agree to work that is a burden to him than to refuse.
Downplaying one's merits, inability to accept compliments.
Shifting responsibility for one's life to circumstances or other people.
Avoidance of initiative and responsibility.
Arrogance, which serves as a defense mechanism - it helps to reject others before they could reject the person.
Perfectionism - sometimes insecurity is well disguised, but still gives itself away in the eternal pursuit of unattainable perfection and hypercontrol.

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How self-doubt arises

The very first environment in a person's life, family and school, has a great influence. Among the causes rooted in childhood are:

Parental strategies : emotional deprivation from parents, prohibitions and restrictions, excessive criticism or overprotection.
Copying stereotypes of behavior that a child observes around him: according to the theory of the American psychologist Albert Bandura, parents' self-doubt is often inherited.
School bullying : peers are quite tough in their assessments and judgments.
Learned helplessness : psychologist Martin Seligman believed that weak skills in controlling the outside world may arise due to insufficient development of the “action-consequence” link, which is often observed in children from orphanages.

But uncertainty can develop at any age. According to clinical psychologist and psychotherapist Yulia Khvorova, when people grow up, they come across various microgroups, and sometimes in a group relevant to a person, they face criticism. An authority may also appear that seems to a person more successful - this can also lay down self-doubt. The danger zone here is excessive parental approval in childhood: it plays a disservice when confronted with the real world.

Yulia Anpilogova adds that our “I” is most vulnerable in moments of crisis: “An earthquake happened, the walls fell down, and what was our support disappears, and the new one is not yet built. In this period of timelessness, it is difficult to be sure of anything. We are reborn many times in a lifetime, we go through this cycle of destruction-resurrection in a new quality. And this restoration is always accompanied by uncertainty, because what is being built is still very fragile.”

How self-doubt affects life

Block for career ambitions

Insecure people do not ask for a pay rise, do not express their ideas, even innovative and breakthrough ones, for fear of being misunderstood or rejected. They do not take the financial risks associated with investments, depriving themselves of the opportunity to earn more. They are also afraid to change unloved jobs and to undergo interviews. All this further fuels the uncertainty.

In career terms, self-doubt in some cases turns into impostor syndrome, when a person, having nevertheless taken a step forward and achieved success, stumbles upon a new fear. Here he no longer thinks that he will not be able to reach some goal. Now, having achieved it, he begins to consider his success as an accident and does not recognize his personal contribution to it. He is overcome by the fear of not holding on and not justifying new hopes. Psychologists believe that the mechanisms of formation of these two phenomena are similar.

At the same time, it is a mistake to assume that self-doubt and, moreover, the impostor syndrome, are inherent only to “mere mortals”. Famous people also face them, and not only at the beginning of their journey. Natalie Portman, speaking in 2015 to Harvard students as an honorary graduate, told them that she did not realize her achievements: “12 years after my graduation, I must admit that I still do not feel my own worth. I have to remind myself that I'm here for a reason. Today I feel exactly the same as when I first started at Harvard at 19.99 year. Then it seemed to me that there was some kind of mistake - I'm not smart enough to be here, and every time I opened my mouth, I had to prove that I was not just a stupid actress. Sometimes insecurity and inexperience can cause you to strive for the standards and expectations imposed by other people. But you can use your lack of experience to forge your own path—one that is not dictated by others, but determined by you.”

American writer and Pulitzer Prize winner John Steinbeck wrote in his diary: “I am not a writer. I deceive myself and others." After finishing work on the novel "The Grapes of Wrath", which won him the award, he said: "Sometimes I think that I did something worthwhile, but when the work is finished, it turns into mediocrity."

Michelangelo and Leonardo Da Vinci doubted their abilities. The latter is credited with the phrase "Tell me, did I manage to do at least something?" Vincent van Gogh, according to contemporaries, suffered from permanent self-doubt, but once said: “If you hear a voice inside yourself telling you that you cannot draw, do it by any means, and the voice will be silent.”

Problems in personal relationships

Uncertainty in personal life is manifested in the fact that a person questions his ability to please someone. At the start of a new relationship, he may experience fear that the person next to him will “notice” his shortcomings and be disappointed. In the existing relationship, this is an infringement of one's needs, because it will be more convenient for someone, jealousy, and sometimes an endless shifting of one's anxieties and doubts to a partner.

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How to overcome self-doubt

According to Yulia Khvorova, self-doubt is a reversible process if you start working with it. Obsessive thoughts about one's own inadequacy must be compensated by new positive attitudes and thinking techniques. At the same time, getting rid of uncertainty does not go away in a couple of weeks - this is a long work. Khvorova suggests the following steps:

Formulate and write down your positive qualities and strengths, without touching on achievements . This is necessary for the formation of a person's understanding that he has something to love for, regardless of achievements.
Swap self-criticism for self-validation. When a person is not confident in himself, he is more sensitive to mistakes and failures, sometimes imaginary. Validation is normalization: you need to remind yourself that all people make mistakes, this is normal and appropriate. Self-criticism in this case is a useless thing that does not help in any way, only throws up a bunch of thoughts “why I am bad”, but not a single one about how to become better.
Replace the concept of “error” with the phrase “growth zone”: lack of experience or skill - this is not a reason to self-flagellate, because I discovered my growth zone and, therefore, I can work on it.
Don't be self-centered. Insecure people are often very egocentric in looking for reasons for failure. In fact, it does not happen that the whole situation goes to dust just because of one person. It is necessary to force thinking not to follow the trodden path of searching for the guilty one in oneself, but to look wider.
Experiment. People with self-doubt often avoid trying things out of fear they won't succeed. But when a person refuses to perform an action, he absolutely receives reinforcement for his insecurity, because he remains there. Trying is always 50/50. If it is successful, this may be the first sprout of confidence.
Write down achievements and praise yourself. This is an advanced level. Insecure people tend to underestimate their accomplishments. You should focus on the moments when something works out, and praise yourself, inspire yourself with the idea that this success is not an accident, but the result of the efforts made.
Give yourself time. Uncertainty did not appear in a day, a week or a month, it was formed and consolidated over the years. To fix a new way of thinking, you also need to painstakingly create a habit. It is important to be persistent in applying the described techniques regularly, and not expect quick results.
Don't focus on the bad. Don't think that if something doesn't work, nothing will work at all.
Pay attention to the body. The human brain directly correlates with the body: it sends signals to it and collects information from it. The more a person reflects and maintains an uncertain posture, the deeper one can get stuck in this state. It makes sense to go from the opposite and work on posture, self-presentation and voice. The sooner you can get out of the pose of uncertainty, the easier it will be to let go of this feeling. Acting, singing or dancing courses can help with this.

When to seek professional help

According to Khvorova, one should definitely seek professional help when self-doubt begins to affect a person's life and blocks his personal and professional development. Yulia Anpilogova also lists the loss of healthy criticism as a reason — when a person’s self-image is totally at odds with the opinion of the environment: “In this case, it’s worth admitting that maybe not you are right, but everyone around.

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